The Righteous Sahras - Sayed Ahmad Qazwini | Ramadan 2025 - Night 23

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[0:00]and of course your arguil.

[0:05]Now while statistics state that on average an American an average American

[0:16]spends 3 to four hours a week socializing and gatherings the numbers

[0:24]are significantly different very different when it comes to our community when

[0:29]it comes to Dearborn.

[0:29]Dearborn is in it a league of its own because according to

[0:35]Chad GPT I I don't know how reliable that is but according

[0:39]to Chad GPT an average person living in this area spends up

[0:47]to 15 hours a week in sahas these nightly sahas sometimes even

[0:53]20 hours and you find that sometimes some of these sahas one

[0:58]sah It can go for 3 or 4 hours by itself.

[1:03]And you can't really blame people in this area because what else

[1:07]is there to do in Dearbornne, right?

[1:09]In the area.

[1:10]I mean, the weather is terrible most of the year.

[1:12]There aren't too many tourist attractions, fun things to do outside of

[1:16]your basement and garage.

[1:19]So, the best thing is gather with your friends and have those

[1:23]sahas in your houses.

[1:24]And there isn't anything essentially wrong with these sahas.

[1:30]In fact, I enjoy them.

[1:31]I participate in them sometimes.

[1:33]And they can be sometimes a source of good, right?

[1:39]They can be a way in which we can strengthen our family

[1:43]ties if we have sahas where our family members are in the

[1:48]sahas.

[1:49]Or they can be a way in which we strengthen our community

[1:52]ties, brotherhood and sisterhood.

[1:55]This is something that's very good.

[1:56]Instead of living a life of a life of individualism, everyone is

[2:03]just minding their own business.

[2:04]No, we can live as a community with brotherhood and sisterhood.

[2:07]And these sahas are one of the best places to strengthen these

[2:13]relationships.

[2:14]So there's nothing essentially wrong with these sahas.

[2:18]The problem, the concern mainly rises from the amount of time that

[2:22]we spend and we're not really getting anything out of it.

[2:28]It's not helping our dunya and it's not helping our it's not

[2:32]helping us as Muslims, as a community to advance our interests here

[2:36]in the US.

[2:38]nor is it really helping my to advance my interest or to

[2:44]invest in my.

[2:43]So there's all this potential dozens of hours a month that we

[2:50]are spending together and there is really not too much that we

[2:53]are getting out of it.

[2:56]Is it really spiritually uplifting or do we come out feeling drained

[3:00]and regretful after that?

[3:01]So that's the main concern is all this potential that we can

[3:07]use but it's not really being used in the best way and

[3:10]then the other concern is think about what happens in these sahas

[3:13]all the times in which some of the limits of our religion

[3:19]may be exceeded Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala may be disobeyed for example

[3:24]all the gossiping and the backbiting and the inappropriate jokes that may

[3:29]happen in these sas.

[3:31]So tonight my dear brothers and sisters in my lecture in no

[3:34]way am I trying to tell you to stop these sahas.

[3:38]No, but rather I would like to recommend certain slight modifications to

[3:42]our sahas so that they can become more righteous so that they

[3:46]can become gatherings where we please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and at

[3:52]the same time we can enjoy each other's company because learning about

[3:57]your religion or serving Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala worshiping Allahawel doesn't have

[4:01]to be something boring it doesn't necessarily have to be in a

[4:08]formal setting where you come sit down in a lecture setting like

[4:11]now you have to listen you can't speak and the speaker speaks

[4:14]the whole time.

[4:16]No, these sahas my dear brothers and sisters we can make some

[4:20]certain slight modifications and through these modifications they can work in our

[4:26]interest in the interest of our we can please Allah subhanahu wa

[4:31]ta'ala at the same time we don't have to forfeit and we

[4:34]don't have to compromise too much when it comes to our fun

[4:39]and our entertainment so this is what I'd like to talk about

[4:42]tonight how to have an Islamic sah what can we do so

[4:46]that we don't take it too far and it becomes like a

[4:49]religious boring formal event and at the same time at the same

[4:53]time we can please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and we can benefit

[4:56]from all these hours that are not really giving us much productivity

[5:00]that are not really benefiting us.

[5:03]Now like I said brothers and sisters one of the main concerns

[5:07]with the sahas that I have witnessed and I've seen is all

[5:13]of the time the potential you see Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the

[5:17]greatest gift that he has given us in this life is the

[5:23]gift of time because with time you can do everything this is

[5:27]the greatest blessing of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala but allahel hasn't given

[5:32]us infinite time.

[5:35]He hasn't given us unlimited time.

[5:37]And that's why the Quran says Allah swears by time.

[5:44]We say that means we are swearing right by Allah subhana wa

[5:52]ta'ala.

[5:49]Allahel is swearing by means time.

[5:56]Allah says the human being is in a natural state of decline

[6:03]loss because every second brothers and sisters of our lives we are

[6:07]getting one step closer to our death.

[6:09]Just every time you breathe, there's a hadith from Im Ali where

[6:14]he says, "Every time you breathe, you inhale and exhale, you're one

[6:24]step closer to your death." So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala hasn't given

[6:29]us too much time.

[6:29]This time is at constant loss.

[6:34]The only person that is not at a loss, Allah subhana wa

[6:39]ta'ala says, is the one who can take that time and invest

[6:43]it and invest it in their dunya and more importantly invest it

[6:46]in your because no matter what you invest in your dunya from

[6:50]your time at the end of the day the dunya will end

[6:53]the dunya will end in 20 years, 30 years, 40 years.

[6:57]How many years do I want to live?

[7:00]So investing in your dunya is good but is it worth the

[7:02]return where I give all this time and in return I'm getting

[7:07]50 60 years versus for the when you invest time for your

[7:10]brothers and sisters the return is limitless.

[7:14]It's unlimited.

[7:17]It's eternal.

[7:16]It makes sense for me to invest my time into something that

[7:22]is giving me an eternal reward, an eternal return rather than something

[7:27]that's giving me a temporary return.

[7:30]This is something very logical.

[7:31]So this capital that Allah subhana wa ta'ala gave us which is

[7:38]time, we have to be very very cautious.

[7:41]We have to be very careful.

[7:43]We have to be very um careful not to waste the time

[7:46]that Allah subhana wa ta'ala has given us.

[7:48]There's a hadith from Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam where he says in

[7:53]the hadith the prophet says that when it comes to your life

[8:01]when it comes to your time you have to be stingy you

[8:04]have to be greedy.

[8:04]You know how sometimes we're very careful and cautious with our money

[8:07]not to waste money when we want to buy something.

[8:10]Is it worth it?

[8:13]Anything we want to buy, right?

[8:15]For most people, unless you're just a spender that spends too much,

[8:19]right?

[8:20]Most individuals when we want to buy something, we think about it.

[8:23]There's a price.

[8:25]Is it worth it or is it not worth it?

[8:29]Sometimes you may find that we even become stingy.

[8:31]Nah, I don't think this is worth it.

[8:34]I'll wait until it goes on a sale and then I'll buy

[8:36]it.

[8:36]Right?

[8:37]The prophet says that we should be more stingy with our time

[8:43]than we are with our money.

[8:44]Your money can be replaced, brothers and sisters.

[8:47]Even if you lost a million dollars, you can make all that

[8:49]money up.

[8:51]But the time that Allah has given you can never be replaced.

[8:54]If I waste a week of my life, a month of my

[9:00]life, a year of my life, that year will never come back,

[9:04]brothers and sisters.

[9:04]And thus the prophet says, if you want to be stingy about

[9:07]something, be stingy about your time, about your life.

[9:11]Because this is something that will never happen again.

[9:13]Have you seen any human being that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has

[9:19]brought them back to the past where they wasted let's say their

[9:22]youth and they regretted it and then Allah is like you know

[9:27]what I'm going to bring you back 20 years there may be

[9:29]some miracles we hear about that during the times of the prophets

[9:34]but for you and I once a day is lost it is

[9:38]lost for good so when it comes to our time it can

[9:41]never be replaced but your money it can be replaced So he

[9:46]says, "Be very wise when it comes to how you spend your

[9:48]time." You know, we have the expression sometimes killing time, right?

[9:53]You see some people, they're just playing one of those addictive games

[9:59]on their iPhones, on their smartphones, or they're just singing something or

[10:01]they're counting some whatever it may be.

[10:03]You ask them, "What are you doing?" I'm killing time.

[10:06]Have you ever seen someone killing money?

[10:10]Someone's bored at $100 bills.

[10:11]Yah rip them.

[10:12]You'll say you'll say this person is crazy.

[10:15]He doesn't value this money.

[10:16]Well, the prophet says that your time is more valuable than money.

[10:20]You cannot afford to kill any time because Allah subhana wa ta'ala

[10:24]hasn't given you unlimited time.

[10:25]And even though even though yes, the lifespan of the human being

[10:30]seems long, it's not long, brothers and sisters.

[10:31]It passes so fast.

[10:34]And even that lifespan, we all want to live 70 80 90

[10:36]years, right?

[10:37]Even that is not guaranteed.

[10:39]So the prophet says why would you waste the most valuable capital

[10:44]and gift from Allah subhana wa ta'ala time when first of all

[10:50]the average lifespan isn't that long and second of all even that

[10:54]lifespan is not guaranteed.

[10:55]There are many people that we know friends that die sooner that

[11:00]die in their youth in their 20s and their 30s and their

[11:02]40s.

[11:02]At the end of the day in this life brothers and sisters

[11:07]we may be called by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to leave at

[11:11]any moment.

[11:10]So when you see that life is so fragile and any second

[11:16]I can leave and any greatness that I can achieve is all

[11:19]done with the time that Allah subhana wa ta'ala has given me.

[11:25]Why would I kill any time?

[11:26]There's a hadith from where he speaks about wasting time.

[11:33]He says, he says that no in this dunya any minute, any

[11:47]hour of free time that you had that you did not use

[11:52]in a productive way, you did not use to invest in your

[11:55]know that on the day of judgment that you will be filled

[12:01]with regret.

[12:02]The day of judgment has many names my dear brothers and sisters

[12:07]but one of the names of the day of judgment is the

[12:12]day of regret.

[12:15]Why people will not only regret why did they sin?

[12:19]Why weren't they more religious?

[12:21]One of the major things that we will regret on the day

[12:27]of judgment is all the wasted time.

[12:30]Because remember Allah subhana wa ta'ala is going to give me by

[12:32]book of we talked about that a couple of days ago.

[12:37]Everything is written your good deeds your bad deeds and there's a

[12:41]third chapter or there's a third section the things that you did

[12:44]that were just a waste of time haram and halal.

[12:47]Now why are these written?

[12:48]Someone asked me this the other day.

[12:51]If you're doing something that's not haram that's not a good deed.

[12:55]Why does Allah write that?

[12:56]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala writes that so that you see on the

[13:01]day of judgment how many hours you had but you wasted you

[13:04]could have used to invest in your to seek nearness to Allah

[13:08]subhana wa ta'ala to receive a higher level in paradise you're just

[13:14]you're going to see thousands and thousands and thousands of pages all

[13:17]of that was a waste why why I will regret it brothers

[13:19]and sisters so when we know that even the actions and words

[13:26]that are not haram, that are no not good deeds, they're just

[13:29]a waste of time.

[13:31]Even those are recorded, we try to at least limit them.

[13:32]So when we are in these sahas, brothers and sisters, m many

[13:37]of the discussions that we have are really just a waste of

[13:40]time, right?

[13:41]And it's not haram.

[13:42]Remember, it's not haram anyway.

[13:43]At the end of the day, we need some time to relax.

[13:47]We need some time to talk about these things and to enjoy

[13:51]some of the halal things of life.

[13:53]But make sure that you keep it capped.

[13:56]You keep it limited.

[13:56]Two hours, three hours, four hours we're talking about a different types

[14:01]of cards.

[14:02]We're talking about a sports game.

[14:04]You see, sometimes there's a sports game and three hours, four hours

[14:07]you have these individuals, these commentators who come and they just speak

[14:12]about every single movement that these players made.

[14:16]Why?

[14:16]What's the point?

[14:16]So the players themselves, they're getting paid millions.

[14:20]What am I getting paid?

[14:21]I sit down, I get into fights.

[14:23]I've seen people fight such that they really want to punch each

[14:29]other because of a disagreement about a sports game.

[14:30]Not only is this a waste of time, but it can lead

[14:36]to also it can lead to sins.

[14:37]So we have to be careful in our Sahas brothers and sisters

[14:41]not just to go randomly and just start speaking anything.

[14:44]We can make these sahas much more productive and I'll give you

[14:50]a couple of suggestions in a few minutes.

[14:50]There's a hadith that's narrated from rasool Allah that on the day

[14:56]of judgment Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will show you every day every

[14:59]day will be represented by 24 boxes.

[15:02]So what does this exactly mean?

[15:04]Is it physical boxes?

[15:06]Is it similar to the book of our but every hour of

[15:12]your life it will be inside a box?

[15:15]You open one box.

[15:17]If you did something good, you recited Quran, you helped someone in

[15:22]the community, you sought knowledge, you sought for example to donate and

[15:27]help an Islamic cause, any good deed that you did, you will

[15:30]be greeted by something beautiful like a flower, let's say, right?

[15:33]A very nice smell.

[15:36]And then there's another box.

[15:37]You open it, you'll find something scare scary in that box.

[15:39]That is the boxes that will signalize or signify your sins.

[15:45]They represent your sins.

[15:46]And then the hadith says there's a third box.

[15:49]This box is empty.

[15:51]You open it.

[15:51]Empty.

[15:52]Empty.

[15:52]You ask what are these boxes?

[15:54]They tell you these are the hours that you did nothing.

[15:59]The hours that you did, for example, just watching TV.

[16:01]And we're saying everything is halal.

[16:03]Now, it's not haram.

[16:05]Just watching TV, just playing these addictive games, right?

[16:08]or engaging in these conversations that really have no benefit.

[16:12]Sleeping if we sleep too much, right?

[16:14]Whatever it may be, then you will see an empty box.

[16:19]And the hadith says that the regret that we will see just

[16:21]from finding all these empty boxes, it will really really upset us,

[16:28]brothers and sisters.

[16:28]We will really get angry.

[16:29]You start opening box after box after box.

[16:32]You're lucky if there's not haram.

[16:34]But even if there isn't haram empty boxes, you tell yourself why

[16:38]I wish I would have invested something in it.

[16:41]So this is number one, brothers and sisters.

[16:42]We have to realize that we have been given this capital.

[16:48]It's called time.

[16:48]It's very valuable.

[16:52]And every second it's getting less and less and less.

[16:54]We're not getting any younger.

[16:56]We're just getting older.

[16:58]So we have to spend these hours wisely.

[17:00]Now this is the first concern when it comes to these.

[17:03]The second concern with the Sahas is sometimes Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

[17:09]may be disobeyed in these Sahas and we may not be even

[17:13]aware of this.

[17:15]Now what are the common sins that are committed in Sahas brothers

[17:18]and sisters that we have to be careful of?

[17:22]There's a couple.

[17:21]Number one is backbiting.

[17:26]Backbiting is a very common sin that takes place in almost every

[17:30]sah.

[17:30]Sometimes we just forget unfortunately and we get carried away.

[17:34]What is backbiting?

[17:37]Backbiting is defined by our scholars as one of two things.

[17:40]Number one, the first example or type of backbiting is when you

[17:47]speak negatively about someone.

[17:48]When you speak negatively about someone behind their back, someone is not

[17:53]there in the Sah and we start to bash that person.

[17:58]We start to insult that person.

[18:00]We start to negatively speak about that person behind their back.

[18:04]This is haram.

[18:05]This is I spoke about this a few nights ago.

[18:09]Not only is it haram, brothers and sisters, to engage in it's

[18:13]haram to listen to.

[18:14]Remember we said one of the is when you see evil, do

[18:21]not be indifferent.

[18:21]Do not laugh.

[18:23]Someone is trying to put someone down, make fun of them behind

[18:26]their back.

[18:27]If I laugh, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will consider me like the

[18:31]one who did the because try it brothers and sisters.

[18:35]If you if you're in a s one day and you want

[18:39]to make fun of someone, right?

[18:40]So you pick on someone, you make fun of them.

[18:44]If nobody laughs, you're not going to enjoy it.

[18:45]You try to make fun of someone, right?

[18:47]Oh, you see this fat guy today, what he did or this

[18:51]idiot or this whatever, right?

[18:52]Now, why am I encouraged to do it more and more?

[18:57]It's because the people in the gathering, they laugh.

[18:59]It's like they vindicate.

[19:00]Yes, we want more.

[19:02]The audience is telling me, but imagine if everyone just frowns at

[19:04]you once you do a once you do in the but you're

[19:08]not going to want to do it again, right?

[19:10]So, it is unfortunately the environment that sometimes encourages bad behavior.

[19:18]So, this is the first type or first example of backbiting.

[19:22]Second example of backbiting is not necessarily making fun of someone.

[19:26]And you may not necessarily have bad intentions.

[19:30]Listen carefully brothers and sisters.

[19:32]This is a type of backbiting that we may not be aware

[19:36]of.

[19:35]The second type of backbiting that our scholars speak about is when

[19:43]you expose someone's private matters.

[19:45]What does that mean?

[19:46]There are certain things in my life that are private.

[19:52]Not everyone knows, right?

[19:53]They happen in my house, between my family.

[19:56]I don't want the public to know about them.

[19:58]Even if it is something that I'm intentionally doing, I intentionally commit

[20:02]something that is haram.

[20:06]If I happen to know that someone is committing a sin in

[20:11]private or they have a private problem in their house, it is

[20:14]haram for me to go and tell someone about that.

[20:17]Haram.

[20:18]This is called I know this husband and wife, they have problems.

[20:23]I know they fought last week and they yelled at each other

[20:28]and they cursed at each other, right?

[20:31]But it happened in the house.

[20:32]I happen to be their neighbor or somehow I heard I go

[20:34]and I tell other people this is haram brothers and sisters exposing

[20:41]other people's flaws is haram.

[20:42]Allah subhana wa ta'ala is allahel is the one that wants to

[20:48]conceal.

[20:49]Yes, if someone goes in, you know during the day in the

[20:55]public and does something in front of everyone that's their fault.

[20:58]But usually when we commit sins, when we do c certain things

[21:01]that are wrong or sometimes it's not a sin, it's a problem

[21:05]that we have in our life, we don't want other people to

[21:07]know.

[21:08]And Allah subhana wa ta'ala doesn't want other people to know because

[21:12]if it's a sin and other people know, it will make it

[21:17]more difficult for me to repent, won't it?

[21:18]If I commit something that is haram brothers and sisters and then

[21:22]I am somehow caught then repenting now is much more difficult because

[21:27]Allah subhana t will forgive you.

[21:29]He'll forget but the people will not forget for 10 years for

[21:33]20 years for 30 years they will remember that you're the one

[21:35]that committed this act.

[21:36]If I happen to know that this family their son for example

[21:43]does drugs the fact that I go speak about it to someone

[21:45]this is haram.

[21:47]This is brothers and sisters even if what I'm saying is true

[21:50]some people when you tell them you know I don't want to

[21:53]hear I don't want to know they tell you I'm not lying

[21:54]wah this happened I know it happened if you are lying that

[22:00]makes it worse than that makes it that means you are falsely

[22:03]accusing the person so I know this person was doing this thing

[22:06]and you're not lying but I don't want to know it's none

[22:10]of my business that's why you know sometimes I do marriage counseling

[22:13]the husband and wife they come and a part of marriage counseling

[22:16]is that the wife has to speak about the husband and the

[22:21]husband speaks about the wife and it's it's it's just each one

[22:26]of them exposing the other.

[22:26]Usually I try to be clear with them in the beginning that

[22:29]do not give me any information that is not necessary for me

[22:34]to know.

[22:36]For example, your husband lies, right?

[22:40]Your husband lies to you or he's angry.

[22:45]Sometimes one example is enough and then I can address it.

[22:47]But other times you find that the wife wants to give me

[22:53]17 examples of how her husband is angry.

[22:55]I know dearos I don't need to know the details or that

[22:58]the wife for example is lazy and that she doesn't take care

[23:02]of the house.

[23:03]The other day this happened and the other I don't need to.

[23:05]This is this is haram.

[23:06]And you have no right to expose your husband and or your

[23:11]wife even if it's in front of the or there is no

[23:16]exception to if I am at the presence of a yes if

[23:21]it's for the intention of reconciliation it's okay but reconciliation only needs

[23:26]minimal information I don't need to know all that extra information so

[23:30]if you have certain problems with your husband with your wife and

[23:33]you go and tell your parent you go and tell your friends

[23:37]and you're not trying to solve the problem by exposing this is

[23:40]this is so this is something that is common brothers and sisters

[23:44]in our Sahas.

[23:47]Now we say gossip gossip usually is different than because we said

[23:53]is something that actually happened but it's a private thing you expose

[23:56]it.

[23:57]Gossip is at a much worse level.

[23:59]Gossip is when you start to tell and relay information that you're

[24:07]not even sure of.

[24:07]Allah, did you guys hear this person did this or that individual

[24:10]did that or said this?

[24:13]And I myself am not even sure.

[24:15]Now it becomes even more haram because number one not am I

[24:20]not am I only exposing the secrets of people not am I

[24:23]only just exposing the private matters of people and I'm not even

[24:28]sure it could be blasphemy it could be baseless so this bhan

[24:31]brothers and sisters is something that we have to be very careful

[24:34]if I did not hear it with my own ears or if

[24:39]I did not see it with my own eyes then do not

[24:43]relate anything that you hear about people, what people did, what people

[24:46]said.

[24:46]First of all, it's none of my business.

[24:50]Allah subhana wa ta'ala is not going to ask you about what

[24:52]other people did.

[24:54]Focus on yourself, your flaws.

[24:55]And number two, most of these reports, brothers and sisters, they're not

[25:00]true, especially if you see them on social media.

[25:03]And even if they are true, I have no right to tell

[25:05]it to other people because it's so this is number one.

[25:09]We have to be careful of backbiting.

[25:11]Number two, a second common haram that may happen is when we

[25:15]joke inappropriately or we joke and we take it too far.

[25:21]You see, joking having a sense of humor is fine.

[25:24]Nothing wrong with that.

[25:24]We have traditions that even would joke at times, right, with some

[25:28]of his companions.

[25:30]And there's a from where he says every M has dua should

[25:37]have dua.

[25:38]So the companion asked, "What do you mean dua?" He said, "Mizah,

[25:42]joke.

[25:43]It's good that a Muslim has a good sense of humor.

[25:44]A believer.

[25:46]Don't be grumpy, never tolerating jokes, always serious, right?

[25:49]That's boring.

[25:50]No one wants to befriend you.

[25:52]If you're always too serious, you'll be intimidating.

[25:56]So joking and what?

[25:57]Having a sense of humor is good.

[25:59]But make sure that you keep it measured.

[26:02]You don't exaggerate and do it too much because then it becomes

[26:07]what?

[26:08]it becomes toxic and it becomes negative.

[26:10]Now one problem brothers and sisters with joking that I have seen

[26:15]is sometimes I've seen this happen in multiple sahas someone picks on

[26:19]someone else that's present in the sah so this is not because

[26:24]is behind someone's back right they start making fun of them like

[26:27]they're eating right so the person instead of taking one hamburger he

[26:30]takes two or instead of taking one piece of sweet he takes

[26:35]two or three and another guy says me you know you didn't

[26:40]leave anything else.

[26:39]He says it as a joke or she says it as a

[26:43]joke.

[26:44]Everybody laughs.

[26:43]But you can tell when you look at the face of the

[26:46]person, deep down his heart, he was hurt.

[26:49]I've seen this many times.

[26:53]This is haram.

[26:53]Brothers and sisters, Allahawel will hold me accountable for all these words.

[26:57]Now, he's not going to say anything, right?

[27:00]Because if he complains, people are like, "Such a crybaby.

[27:02]It was just a joke.

[27:04]What's wrong with you?

[27:05]You can't tolerate a joke." So, not only have you what have

[27:07]you made fun of him?

[27:10]Not only have you insulted him, but you've put it under the

[27:12]excuse of a joke.

[27:14]Now, he can't say anything.

[27:15]If he says something, he's the evil one.

[27:17]Is there oppression larger, greater than this, you're you become a small

[27:21]is give give this person the weapons is, you'll do exactly what

[27:28]they're doing to the Palestinian people.

[27:30]No mercy.

[27:29]Absolutely.

[27:30]So when we joke brothers and sisters we have to be very

[27:36]very sensitive to the other person.

[27:38]Do not say a joke in which you're just trying to be

[27:40]you know funny make people laugh but it may if there's a

[27:46]small possibility that it may hurt the feelings of that person stay

[27:50]away from that joke.

[27:50]Don't say it.

[27:52]Someone comes late to the gathering to the sah someone has to

[27:55]leave early.

[27:56]Someone takes a phone call and you throw a joke right now.

[27:59]That person may laugh but his heart may be bleeding at times.

[28:03]And that's why the hadith of and this is mentioned in he

[28:16]says the can be defined in two sentences.

[28:22]Yours you're always putting extra pressure on your nefs.

[28:27]Try to contain your nefs.

[28:30]Try to block this tongue.

[28:31]Not everything that it wants to say it says it.

[28:35]No, this is not easy.

[28:36]It's difficult.

[28:39]Burden myself.

[28:42]And number two, so that other people are at ease.

[28:45]They are come they're relieved from me.

[28:47]Make sure that people feel safe around you.

[28:50]There are some people you know that when you go close to

[28:53]them, they're going to make fun of you.

[28:55]they're going to throw, you know, they're going to throw a jab

[28:58]at you.

[28:59]This is not a quality of a believer.

[29:00]A believer is someone where you feel close, you feel warmth, you

[29:04]feel that this person is nice, is not going to say even

[29:08]in a joking way.

[29:10]So this is number one, jokes that hurt someone's feelings.

[29:12]Number two, second type of joke that we have to be careful

[29:16]of.

[29:17]If it's a mixed gathering, men and women, they're not related.

[29:23]Related I mean brother, sister, father, son, mother, daughter, niece, uncle, the

[29:29]people that you're too, then we have to be very careful, brothers

[29:34]and sisters.

[29:33]Because there are traditions from the that tell us is when we

[29:44]joke when we joke with the opposite gender and it's inappropriate.

[29:48]It may you know cross the lines and fall into flirting.

[29:53]So we have to be very careful.

[29:55]Think about it.

[29:57]If it's a joke that I said it simply to please that

[29:59]person because they are a girl.

[30:03]If it was a guy, I wouldn't even look at it.

[30:05]But it's it's a girl now.

[30:07]I just want to please this individual, right?

[30:10]This is haram according to many traditions.

[30:13]And Allah subhana t will hold me accountable because this is flirting.

[30:15]Why am I trying to say this joke?

[30:17]Because I want to make them laugh.

[30:18]Why do I want to make them laugh?

[30:20]Allah because it's a female.

[30:21]Or if I'm a female, because it's a male.

[30:23]General jokes that don't really have to do with the gender or

[30:28]doesn't matter whether the person, the listener is male or female.

[30:30]I say you could be a little more relaxed but even there

[30:34]try to be careful because Allah subhanana wa ta'ala says be very

[30:37]very careful when it comes with dealing with the opposite gender even

[30:40]if your intentions may not be evil but who's there whispering the

[30:44]shaitan.

[30:45]And usually that's how the haram starts.

[30:48]We break the ice with a joke.

[30:50]That joke makes us feel much more comfortable with the opposite gender.

[30:55]And that will lead to step two and three and four until

[31:00]the haram comes.

[31:02]So if you rewind, what was the straw that broke the camel's

[31:06]back?

[31:06]It was that joke.

[31:07]So this is something that we have to be careful of brothers

[31:11]and sisters.

[31:10]So this is when it comes to haram backbiting and jokes and

[31:15]sahas.

[31:16]This is not too difficult.

[31:17]Stay away from that.

[31:17]And everything else can be considered as halal.

[31:22]Now how can we make our sahas more productive such that they

[31:30]become blessed by Allah subhana wa t'ala Allah blesses them and without

[31:34]making it too formal and boring I'll give you two tips here

[31:38]brothers and sisters and I'll end number one every sah that you

[31:43]have even if you want to spend it on sports well I'm

[31:46]gathering with my friends and we just want to talk about the

[31:50]game or we want to talk about I don't know work, we

[31:54]want to talk about the economy, anything even if it has nothing

[31:57]to do with Allah, nothing to do with religion, nothing to do

[32:00]with a we want to talk about politics, we want to talk

[32:04]about the economy, we want to talk about certain events that happen

[32:08]in our community.

[32:10]One of the best ways to add blessings to those saharas and

[32:13]it's very easy is start your sah with remembrance of allahel.

[32:19]There's a hadith from where he says, he says any or gathering

[32:45]that happens on earth, people are sitting in any type of gathering

[32:50]and they do not begin their majus or mention the name of

[32:53]Allah subhana wa tala.

[32:56]You see the prophet doesn't say the entire melus has to be

[32:59]about Allah and of Allah.

[33:02]He says no.

[33:03]If the majus is completely void of remembering Allah and completely void

[33:11]of then that majus will be a cursed majus a sah that

[33:17]you will regret on the day of jud.

[33:20]So the easy solution you want to sit for three hours and

[33:25]talk about all these all this waste of time.

[33:25]one slight modification that you can do and Allah may consider us

[33:32]on that sah as as long as there's no haram as a

[33:35]sah of start your sah with remembering Allah and the imams for

[33:40]example we have a weekly sah me and my friends right we're

[33:46]not scholars we don't know anything start your sah by reciting five

[33:50]verses of the Quran by reciting fat find the hadith online and

[33:56]read the hadith.

[33:59]That's it.

[34:01]A hadith about Im Ali, a story about Im Ali.

[34:03]Readith, let someone recite something as basic as this.

[34:09]2, three, four, five minutes.

[34:11]Begin your sah, brothers and sisters, by invoking the name of Allah.

[34:16]And even better, if you can, a couple of minutes, remember some

[34:21]of the ma of Im Hussein.

[34:23]We don't even know how to read it.

[34:25]There's no sheh here.

[34:27]There's no reciter.

[34:27]YouTube.

[34:28]Alhamdulillah.

[34:28]Everything a three minute a three minute two minute and mashallah.

[34:33]There's thousands of them now.

[34:35]And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala this threehour sah that we didn't really

[34:42]do anything.

[34:40]Allah will consider this as a gathering of worship.

[34:44]This is very easy brothers and sisters and we can all do

[34:47]it.

[34:48]So make this as a principle.

[34:52]Every Sah I go to we have to start it with some

[34:53]and means what?

[34:57]Just remembering of recite a couple of verses or remembering IM Hussein

[35:01]Alisam and his and then you can start your Sah.

[35:04]This is number one.

[35:04]Number two, but if we want to take it to a higher

[35:07]level, then one of the best brothers and sisters, one of the

[35:15]best suggestions is to make sure is to try to try to

[35:22]include at least one person in your Sah who has some knowledge

[35:25]in Islam.

[35:25]Now, even better, I would say a scholar.

[35:27]But having a scholar in every Sah obviously is not possible and

[35:33]maybe we don't want the scholar in every Sah right because it

[35:36]becomes too formal that's fine but at least someone from the community

[35:39]who's cool and at the same time he has more knowledge than

[35:45]the average person why the famous Lman that Allah subhana t speaks

[35:49]about the holy in the Quran he has a beautiful saying the

[35:55]imams they tell us this he tells his son my dear son

[35:57]choose Choose your gatherings wisely.

[36:00]Who the people are?

[36:03]He tells them make sure that in every gathering in every gathering

[36:07]there are people at least one person who has knowledge.

[36:14]It's not just a bunch of ignorant people.

[36:18]Why?

[36:19]He says because if you attend that majus that sah and there

[36:23]is at least one person who's knowledgeable has somewhat knowledge then you

[36:29]you're either knowledgeable or ignorant.

[36:31]Right?

[36:32]He says if you're knowledgeable you're going to enjoy conversating with another

[36:35]knowledgeable person.

[36:37]A scholar enjoys conversating with a scholar because they both get each

[36:43]other right on the same page.

[36:44]They've both studied.

[36:46]they have they have the similar background.

[36:49]So if you're a he says if you're a scholar you can

[36:51]conversate with that person right and then everyone will benefit you'll have

[36:56]a discussion where everyone can listen and benefit from and if you're

[37:00]ignorant then you will benefit from that person so you will leave

[37:06]from that sah and you have learned something if you're ignorant but

[37:09]he says if it is a sah where there's absolutely nobody there's

[37:15]nobody that has any knowledge Right?

[37:20]He says, "If you're knowledgeable, most of the time your knowledge will

[37:23]be wasted because whatever you say, say it.

[37:25]I don't know what the heck you're talking about.

[37:26]Say it.

[37:27]Can you dumb it down more and more and more and more

[37:30]and more?" So you feel like, "Oh my god, how low do

[37:33]I have to go?" Right?

[37:33]So let there be at least one person to assist you and

[37:36]help you in that s knowledge in Islam.

[37:39]That's if you are knowledgeable.

[37:41]And if you're ignorant, he says that gathering that sah of ignorant

[37:45]people will only increase your ignorance.

[37:48]I've seen some s brothers and sisters I attend the I go

[37:53]my attire says that I'm a scholar.

[37:55]Someone asks a question and some random person answers completely wrong answer.

[38:00]And that makes it difficult for me to reply now because I'm

[38:02]going to make that person look bad.

[38:04]Haram.

[38:04]I don't want to make that person look bad.

[38:07]Sometimes complete confidence is haram.

[38:09]It's not haram.

[38:10]Maybe who told you it's not haram?

[38:12]Why are you giving a fatwa all of a sudden?

[38:15]Right?

[38:16]So sometimes you go to these sas even though some religious aspects

[38:22]may be discussed you come out with more ignorance.

[38:25]So at least have one person who has somewhat so at least

[38:31]if he's not a scholar the hadith says says he's someone that

[38:37]knows where to get the knowledge from.

[38:40]And someone asks a question.

[38:41]Wait a minute.

[38:43]Let me look at the website of a sistani of a sallallah

[38:45]of a s yes this is the spirit.

[38:47]You don't have to be a knowledgeable person brothers and sisters to

[38:53]know the of the you just need internet.

[38:55]Sometimes I'm surprised someone asked me say I have a question Q&A

[38:59]session right or they send me a message they ask me a

[39:04]matter what is the opinion of the x on this matter?

[39:09]I don't remember.

[39:08]I go on Google Mer asks what is his opinion on blah

[39:14]blah blah I find the answer right there.

[39:16]Now obviously it has to be a trusted website not any random

[39:18]not Facebook or whatnot.

[39:21]No I find it subhan Allah right on his website.

[39:23]Sometimes I copy paste send it to that person.

[39:28]Thank you so much say you spend hours I spent maybe 10

[39:31]seconds.

[39:31]You can do it probably better than me.

[39:34]Use the internet.

[39:37]So sometimes you may not necessarily be a scholar yourself, but you

[39:41]know where to find knowledge.

[39:42]You know what are the trusted sites, the trusted people in order

[39:47]for you to gain that knowledge.

[39:51]So in these shat brothers and sisters he tells his son choose

[39:55]them wisely.

[39:56]Don't just go anywhere.

[39:56]Some people they will give you misinformation.

[39:59]So including someone who is somewhat educated even better a scholar in

[40:06]that sah it will make it much more beneficial and at the

[40:08]same time it doesn't have to be boring.

[40:09]Sometimes I go to a sah, right, and it's very formal.

[40:14]Ya Allah say Q&A.

[40:14]Who has a question?

[40:16]This is too formal.

[40:16]Other times, no.

[40:18]A discussion starts.

[40:19]Let's have a discussion.

[40:21]I want everyone to talk.

[40:21]What do you guys think about what's happening in the Middle East?

[40:24]Do you think this is connected to the arrival of Almi?

[40:27]All of a sudden, everybody's interested.

[40:30]They put their phones away and it becomes an Islamic religious discussion

[40:35]that is at the same time entertaining.

[40:37]Correct?

[40:38]Do you guys think that what's happening right now in the Middle

[40:41]East in Syri this is Sufyani and the Mahi could be close

[40:45]soon.

[40:46]What do you guys think about for example the state of Israel?

[40:49]Does the Quran speak about that?

[40:51]Has the Quran predicted their fault?

[40:53]And you can engage in a very fun and exciting topic.

[41:00]Other times I've had discussions where we talk for example now if

[41:04]this is an area of concern cryptocurrency.

[41:07]What does Islam think about cryptocurrency?

[41:09]And we start speaking about the different types of cryptos, which is

[41:13]halal, which is haram.

[41:15]And many of the brothers I see, they benefit.

[41:16]They start taking notes because this is what they do because they

[41:21]are investing in cryptocurrency, but they don't have that knowledge and guidance

[41:25]and it could be something that is very useful and at the

[41:28]same time it could be fun something else.

[41:30]Another example of a discussion that we can have at the same

[41:36]time that it is interesting.

[41:37]It is very beneficial.

[41:37]Who are we able to befriend?

[41:40]Brothers and sisters, here in this country, you will come across people

[41:45]who do not agree with you in your who do not agree

[41:50]with you in your moral beliefs and your ideology.

[41:53]Are you allowed to have them as friends or not?

[41:54]This is a very good discussion to have as long as there's

[42:00]someone educated so we don't come out with more ignorance.

[42:02]For example, an atheist.

[42:04]Am I allowed to have an atheist friend or no?

[42:07]This is a discussion that we should have.

[42:09]This is not necessarily a lecture.

[42:10]This should be a discussion.

[42:12]Let's say there is someone in my school, the nicest, sweetest person,

[42:15]very helpful, but he may be from the LGBTQXYZ community, right?

[42:21]Am I allowed to be friends with that person or no?

[42:26]We have to have we can't right away say some people right

[42:30]away right fatwa haram.

[42:30]No.

[42:30]Who told you haram habib?

[42:31]We have to have that discussion.

[42:33]Let's speak about the different scenarios.

[42:35]What are the red lines?

[42:37]What is considered haram?

[42:39]What is considered not haram?

[42:41]These are very important discussions that we can have.

[42:43]Other types of discussions some of the brothers sitting here, we've had

[42:48]with them before.

[42:48]Tomorrow I will be married if I'm not already married.

[42:52]Tomorrow I will have children if I don't already have children.

[42:54]Right?

[42:55]What do I do with my kids with all this liberalism?

[42:58]What do I do?

[43:02]How do I shield my kids from all of this immorality that's

[43:06]spreading in the communities?

[43:07]Because now it's become per pervasive even in our public schools.

[43:12]Instead of sitting and talking about the football and basketball game and

[43:17]cars and I don't know what people talk about in Sahas now

[43:20]let's talk about this what can we do so that we can

[43:26]shield our community our kids in the future from this liberal way

[43:30]public schools we don't like public schools because we know the agendas

[43:33]they're trying to shove down the throats of our kids all this

[43:40]nonsense this these liberal ideas public schools I don't like them private

[43:44]Islamic schools, people complain all the time.

[43:45]They're either too expensive, right?

[43:49]Or their academics aren't the best or some other complaints.

[43:51]Do I have a solution?

[43:52]Let's sit together as brothers and sisters in a community.

[43:57]Instead of wasting all that time, let's talk about what we can

[44:01]do to solutions that we can find in order for us to

[44:06]have a actual practical solution when my kids become five, six, seven,

[44:10]eight.

[44:11]Or else, brothers and sisters, this problem will never end.

[44:13]This problem of us being in between middle and public schools and

[44:17]private schools.

[44:18]Private schools too expensive.

[44:20]Public schools, we can't control anything.

[44:22]This will never end.

[44:23]But we have to start having those discussions.

[44:25]And the best setting to have those discussions is in these.

[44:29]Remember, it's not in the lectures, right?

[44:31]Because you need input, you need feedback, you need to hear from

[44:36]the audience, from other people.

[44:37]And this is not a a this is not a discussion that

[44:40]you can have during the lectures.

[44:44]Or another example is Islam and politics.

[44:45]We see right now we Muslims were a majority in the world.

[44:50]There are mashallah so many successful Muslims in America but we don't

[44:54]have any power.

[44:57]And we were duped brothers and sisters and fooled in the most

[45:01]pathetic way by the Republican party and Trump.

[45:05]They came.

[45:06]He came as if he's the hero, as if he has he's

[45:08]going to he's going to liberate Palestine.

[45:11]And Muslims fell for that bait.

[45:13]A lot of Muslims went and they voted for him.

[45:17]And now what is he doing?

[45:17]Now what is he doing?

[45:21]Now tens of people that I have seen that I have spoken

[45:24]to, they're so regretful.

[45:27]Why did I support this individual?

[45:28]That shows brothers and sisters that we Muslims do not have a

[45:33]very wellthought of strategy when it comes to what to do in

[45:41]politics.

[45:41]Yes, everyone is evil in politics.

[45:44]They're all but we have to have a strategy.

[45:45]That's how the Zionists are so powerful in this country.

[45:49]That's how even the arrogant Trump in front of the Zionist lobby,

[45:54]he becomes he becomes a slave.

[45:56]And I wish he hears this because he hates when someone talks

[45:59]about his pride.

[46:01]I wish his arrogance and pride he would show it in front

[46:04]of the Zionists, in front of Netanyahu.

[46:06]He sits in front of Netanyahu to in front of everyone.

[46:11]You're this arrogant dictator except but that shows that the Zionists have

[46:16]worked in such a strategic smart way that whoever goes to the

[46:20]White House will become their puppet.

[46:22]We have to start us Muslims.

[46:27]No, us Muslims, we have to start planting those seeds.

[46:28]But what do we do?

[46:31]We have to start from the basic levels, brothers and sisters.

[46:33]If we have individuals and people that are against participating even in

[46:38]local in local offic you know local elections tell you no let's

[46:42]completely leave the system.

[46:45]There's absolutely no hope that one day we can reach the higher

[46:48]systems we can reach we can reach the higher levels of office.

[46:51]So these are discussions that we have to have.

[46:53]Let's hear different sides.

[46:56]Let's hear different inputs.

[46:57]There's people from all sorts of spectrums.

[47:01]There's people that have for example um a they bring you a

[47:04]perspective from law.

[47:05]Others they may be health professionals.

[47:07]Other individuals they travel all over the world.

[47:09]Other individuals you find that they have friends from all sorts of

[47:12]communities.

[47:13]So the best place brothers and sisters that these discussions can be

[47:20]discussed, deliberated and the Muslims can actually come out with a strong

[47:27]and a wellthought of strategy is in these sahas.

[47:32]So these are some quick tips my dear brothers and sisters so

[47:34]that in the future we can have sahas we can enjoy each

[47:39]other and at the same time these sahas can be righteous sahas

[47:44]sahas that not only help our dunya they help our but please

[47:49]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala may Allah bless you all accept your we

[47:53]will see you tomorrow night Everyone rise.

[48:07]Let's do z of the imuhammed.

[48:23]We have [Music] [Music]

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