Night 4 - What is a High-Value Man? | Shaykh Azhar Nasser, Muharram 2023

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Muharram Majalis 1445/2023 Wessex Jamaat Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this program are those of the speakers and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views or position of Wessex Jamaat & Al Mahdi Centre, its affiliates, members, office bearers or Trustees. Donate now & support the majalis at: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=WZCEZ9L6DKBZ2 Guest Speaker: Shaykh Azhar Nasser, Tasneem Institute Venue: Al Mahdi Centre, Wessex Jamaat

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[0:00]foreign [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] Muhammad [Music] [Music] respected

[2:00]Elders brothers and sisters last night we spoke about the qualities and

[2:15]the attributes of a high quality woman and I'm sure the sisters

[2:25]have been anticipating this talk tonight I was going to do a

[2:28]part two but I thought there would be a revolution if I

[2:30]do a part two so let's speak tonight about what it means

[2:34]to be a high value man as I mentioned last night this

[2:39]is a pop culture term that refers to a set of traits

[2:48]and qualities that make a man desirable in the modern era this

[2:53]is the type of man that a company wants to hire this

[2:57]is the type of man in whose presence people want to be

[3:01]and this is the type of man who would be considered marriage

[3:05]material and the list goes on now the question is what does

[3:12]it mean to be a high value man from an Islamic perspective

[3:15]because if you look on social media you'll see many posts about

[3:20]you know this is what a high value man is and you

[3:21]have a list of traits a list of things that you should

[3:25]aspire to develop within yourself but the question for us as Muslims

[3:31]who want to attain nearness Allah who understand that there is a

[3:36]higher purpose to life we want to know what does Islam say

[3:39]about high quality men because unfortunately when you look at the literature

[3:44]that's available today when you look at social media and you want

[3:48]to understand what a high value man is usually it revolves around

[3:54]making yourself more marketable to women a high value man if you

[3:58]really look at what's available today it offers a very gynocentric worldview

[4:04]gynocentric means develop these qualities so you don't have to chase after

[4:09]women women will chase after you but Islam teaches the man that

[4:19]you should not have a gynocentric worldview you should have a god-centric

[4:24]worldview therefore the First Quality of a high value man just like

[4:33]we mentioned with respect to a woman is taqwa and Iman if

[4:38]you don't have a relationship with Allah if you are a faithless

[4:45]person if you are a Godless person if you live a life

[4:51]of rebelliousness a life of sin and you have no regard for

[4:56]the presence of Allah you are not a high value man we

[5:02]have a beautiful narration from a man by the name of paulus

[5:06]was a contemporary of Imam he says one day I was in

[5:24]Mecca and it was night time at that time night means there's

[5:29]it's really dark there's no electricity it's Pitch Black he says I

[5:34]entered into Masjid al-haram and I could hear a voice coming from

[5:38]near the cab a very beautiful voice supplicating to Allah [Music] o

[5:48]Allah the stars of your the stars of your Sky have set

[5:54]foreign and this person who's reciting the Dua he could just hear

[6:01]the voice oh Allah the stars of your Sky have set and

[6:04]the eyes of your creation have closed its eyes to sleep and

[6:12]the Kings have locked their Gates your gate is still open he

[6:23]says I was listening to this beautiful Dua and I was moved

[6:29]by it I was moved by the spirituality of this man who

[6:34]was reciting the Dua so I came I had a lantern with

[6:40]me and I came closer to see who this man is and

[6:42]he says lo and behold I saw that it was Imam he

[6:50]says I looked at him and I said this is how you

[6:54]speak to Allah with eyes filled with tears begging Allah for forgiveness

[6:58]you're begging him for his Mercy he says to him why are

[7:08]you praying in such a way why are you crying in your

[7:11]Dua you are the son of Ebby Abdullah Hussain your grandfather is

[7:18]your great grandfather is the prophet your great-grandmother is Lady Fatima your

[7:24]great great grandmother is say the Khadijah his understanding is you are

[7:33]a high-value man because of the family that you come from what

[7:40]does he saying he redefines what it means to be a high

[7:43]value man he says don't tell me about who my father is

[7:55]and who my grandfather is because a high value man is not

[8:00]about who your dad is it's not about who your grandfather is

[8:02]or what family you come from Imam said John says he says

[8:18]Allah has created Jannah for his obedient servant even if that person

[8:24]is an Ethiopian slave and Allah has created the Hellfire for his

[8:33]disobedient slave Allah has created the Hellfire for his disobedient slave even

[8:42]if he is from the tribe of the prophet what makes you

[8:48]high value is how obedient you are to Allah this is what

[8:52]Imam is highlighting we have another narration from the prophet where he

[9:00]says you know sometimes you look at what meaning you might think

[9:08]that this guy's a nobody he is not popular he's not a

[9:10]prominent person in the community the prophet says is more known in

[9:20]the heavens is as known in the heavens though he says is

[9:28]as known in the heavens as he knows his own family on

[9:34]Earth is known in the heavens and then then the prophet says

[9:45]a motorman to Allah is more dear to Allah than the Angels

[9:54]who are closest to him not just the Angels who are in

[10:00]closest proximity to him a Mormon has more honor this is what

[10:04]a high value man is a man who is obedient to Allah

[10:09]who's God conscious who's God fearing and this is why my dear

[10:14]brothers and sisters if you look at the Quran the Quran gives

[10:16]us examples of people who are not known at their time at

[10:22]their times they were unknown was a slave luqman was not a

[10:27]man of wealth he was not the best looking man in fact

[10:30]he was an unknown person during his time Allah reveals an entire

[10:37]Surah in the Quran after him he's a high value man because

[10:43]of his faith because of his takawa because of his Iman this

[10:46]is number one so I have 10 qualities that we're going to

[10:50]go to we'll try to go through them as quick as possible

[10:52]but these again this is not an exhaustive list but these are

[10:57]some of the what I believe are qualities that we really need

[10:59]to focus on in order to truly be high value men in

[11:05]the sight of Allah because as I said it doesn't matter what

[11:08]people think people can put you up on a pedestal if Allah

[11:13]has not elevated you you're not high value number two the second

[11:20]quality of a high value man is a high value man is

[11:26]truthful and trustworthy a man is only as good as his word

[11:31]if you want to be a high value man that means your

[11:36]words have to mean something when you make a promise you fulfill

[11:41]that promise Allah in the Quran when he speaks about real men

[11:48]from among the Believers there are men who are true to their

[11:55]promise to Allah first and foremost be a man of your word

[12:00]with God that's a promise you're making your words should not be

[12:11]meaningless a high value man honors his words he honors his promise

[12:18]to Allah and he honors his promises to his wife to his

[12:24]children do not be the type of person who over promises and

[12:29]under delivers that's not a high value man a high-value man is

[12:35]actually the one who promises and over delivers a high value man

[12:41]is someone like Abel father La Abbas that he would guard the

[12:50]women of the children do you think he was sleeping at night

[12:52]on the eve of Ashura he made a promise and he lived

[12:58]up to that promise he promised Imam Hussain that your family is

[13:04]safe with you and that's why he gave his arms because a

[13:08]man is only as good as his word so if your words

[13:13]don't mean anything you're not a you're not a real man you're

[13:15]not a man of high value and this applies to even our

[13:19]interactions with potential spouses if you're recording a young lady don't promise

[13:24]to marry her and fool her and trick her be a man

[13:29]of your word if you don't intend on marrying this girl say

[13:33]it don't hide don't be manipulative be a man of Truth be

[13:39]a man of Honor a man is only as good as his

[13:42]word we have nothing in this life except our words everything can

[13:45]be taken from you but at least hold on to those promises

[13:49]that you make this is number two number three is modesty don't

[13:58]think that Allah only requires the women to be modest is the

[14:06]quality of male or female in fact we have a narration from

[14:12]Imam Imam Assad he says Allah if you don't have modesty you

[14:29]don't have faith don't have Iman you can pray as much as

[14:32]you want you can be the best reciter of the Quran you

[14:36]can go to ziara every month if you don't have shame if

[14:42]you don't have Haya you don't have modesty you don't have faith

[14:46]we have to learn how to dress modestly and how to behave

[14:53]modestly some of us we don't behave modestly with sisters we don't

[14:59]we're too flirtatious we cross the line we cross the line and

[15:06]if you want a rule of thumb how should I conduct myself

[15:10]when I'm interacting with sisters it's actually very simple it's not rocket

[15:15]science interact with that sister the way that you would want someone

[15:19]to interact with your daughter would this be acceptable if someone did

[15:23]this to your daughter it's very simple we don't need to complicate

[15:27]things we know that's why Allah even if you've never read ah

[15:32]Hadith or you've never read the Quran Allah is still going to

[15:35]hold you accountable on the day of judgment because you have a

[15:41]conscience you know when you're crossing the line if you look at

[15:44]the story of Musa in the Quran Allah tells us about his

[15:47]interaction with the daughters of shahib when he came to medium well

[15:55]he came to media and he was fleeing Egypt he saw a

[15:59]bunch of shepherds around the well done and then he saw two

[16:07]young ladies standing away from the crowd and this is one of

[16:10]the beautiful isharat one of the beautiful subtleties of the Quran the

[16:14]reason why those two girls are not mixing with the crowd is

[16:19]because they're the daughters of shribe it is indecent for a lady

[16:22]to mix and brush shoulders with men he sees these young ladies

[16:29]and what does he do what's why are you standing here he

[16:35]gets straight to the point this is what we need to learn

[16:39]from Musa there are some guys they sit around and they just

[16:41]talk they just like to chat with girls do you have something

[16:45]to say or you just want to waste time a high value

[16:51]man is very straightforward in his interactions he goes to these ladies

[16:58]their response is what we're not going to water our flock until

[17:05]the Shepherds dispersehran and our father is an elderly man notice the

[17:15]daughters of shaib they answer the question that they anticipate Musa is

[17:21]going to ask because this next question would have been don't you

[17:24]have any men in the family why are you doing this so

[17:26]before Musa even asks they answer they give that answer that we

[17:29]have an elderly father why to minimize unnecessary talk between the two

[17:37]genders does Musa flirt with them this very formal Musa is very

[17:44]formal in the way that he conducts himself with these ladies he

[17:47]Waters of their flock and he goes away he doesn't hang around

[17:52]he doesn't chit chat for the sake of chit chatting he goes

[17:55]and sits away from them this is what we need to develop

[18:00]in ourselves and when then when one of the daughters comes back

[18:04]when one of the ladies came back the daughters came back she

[18:10]was walking bashfully look at how respectful she doesn't say I would

[18:14]like to invite you to my house she says my father wishes

[18:18]to invite you to our house to compensate you for what you

[18:23]did for us Musa responds to the invitation as they're walking back

[18:27]look at this look at what it means to be a high

[18:30]value man she's walking in front of him he says please it

[18:34]would be better if you walk behind me because it's not appropriate

[18:39]for a man to look at the backside of a woman this

[18:41]is this is a high value man who has Haya who's decent

[18:48]there's a Hadith from Imam Assad we gave part of the Hadith

[19:03]yesterday for the Sisters about those women who are beautiful but their

[19:09]beauty causes them to fall into sin they Adorn themselves they put

[19:13]themselves out there and they commit Haram because of their beauty now

[19:18]the other part of the Hadith is about those men who are

[19:24]also handsome they're good looking and if you go on their social

[19:29]media they're always posting shirtless pictures of themselves and they're putting themselves

[19:33]out there and they're very immodest in their demeanor and their appearance

[19:38]very flirtatious they do not observe decency in their interactions there's a

[19:44]Hadith above them too a handsome man on the day of judgment

[19:52]will be brought forward a man who fell into sin because of

[20:01]how good looking he was the women were chasing him the girls

[20:04]were all over him holds them accountable so what does he say

[20:12]he'll say the same thing that the the girl said the lady

[20:13]said on the day of judgment you're the one who made me

[20:19]good looking it wasn't my fault they were the ones who were

[20:24]throwing themselves at me that I couldn't help it you you're the

[20:29]one who made me good looking so what is Allah going to

[20:32]say Allah is going to say bring you bring use of a

[20:39]Sadiq and when Yusuf the great prophet of God is brought forward

[20:48]who's better looking you or Yusuf he will say Yusuf is more

[20:57]attractive we made him handsome but he another he never allowed his

[21:05]good looks to take him towards sin my dear brothers when you

[21:15]look at the 50 requirements for male covering of course it's nothing

[21:19]like what is required of women the female covering is much more

[21:27]extensive than the male covering up the Sharia requires women to cover

[21:31]more than men why well we're different however I want to bring

[21:40]your attention to the following point just because something is technically Halal

[21:44]it doesn't mean that you should do it so for example yes

[21:51]from perspective it's not how long for you to wear tank tops

[21:54]or shorts when you go outside but I think as brothers we

[22:02]have to hold ourselves to a higher level higher standard of modesty

[22:07]even Beyond with the Sharia I might require of us because sometimes

[22:12]when you look at a sister who's fully covered and then her

[22:15]husband is standing right next to her with his tank top and

[22:19]his shorts I think as brothers we have to make an effort

[22:24]to dress a little bit more modesty as an expression of solidarity

[22:29]with our sisters because it's very difficult to cover in this type

[22:36]of culture it's very difficult to wear hijab so maybe as men

[22:40]yes technically it's Halal for us to wear shorts but maybe let's

[22:44]be a little bit more modest to show our sisters that you

[22:50]know what we're in this together we both have a responsibility to

[22:56]bring back hayat to the culture so I'll keep my shorts for

[23:00]my wife I'll wear my tank tops around my wife but I'll

[23:03]be a little bit more conservative when I leave the house because

[23:07]I think that if you look at the men of yes it

[23:11]might technically be Halal for you to show a little bit more

[23:15]skin as a man but I think foreign they don't only want

[23:24]us to do the bare minimum I think they want us to

[23:30]excel in these virtues this is number three number four is that

[23:35]a high value man is a man who is generous generous and

[23:42]humble one of the worst qualities of a man is to be

[23:46]stingy so Brothers if you're ever with your wife or you want

[23:50]to take your family out don't be the coupon guy right now

[23:53]I'm not saying that you shouldn't be you know Frugal but be

[23:58]generous have a generous spirit there's a narration from Imam Assad where

[24:10]he speaks about Ibrahim the great prophet of Gods and his generous

[24:18]spirits Imam Assad that says was a type of man who always

[24:29]enjoyed hosting guests his door was always open he was a generous

[24:32]person he never wanted to break bread by himself even if he

[24:37]would go and find he would go out even to find a

[24:41]passing by stranger to join him for a meal one day the

[24:44]narration says that there was no one near his house to join

[24:50]him for a meal so he went out to go look for

[24:54]a guest to invite to his home the narration says that he

[25:01]comes back he's not able to find anyone imagine he actually leaves

[25:04]his house with the intention of searching for someone that he can

[25:08]invite to his house so they could be a guest in the

[25:12]house of Ibrahim the Hadith says he comes back he's not able

[25:15]to find anybody and he finds someone coming out of his house

[25:21]so the Hadith says that Ibrahim sees a strange man coming out

[25:26]of his house and he says with whose permission did you enter

[25:37]this house this is my house who gave your permission the man

[25:42]said I entered it with the permission of its real owner he

[25:47]asked again the man repeated I entered it with the permission of

[25:52]its real owner and Ibrahim realized that this is jibrail in human

[25:59]form the Hadith says that Ibrahim thanked Allah that Jabra Eid that

[26:06]he made an effort to go find the guess and Allah to

[26:10]be his guest says Ibrahim says what have you come for a

[26:25]Brahim says to Ibrahim that Allah has sent me to choose a

[26:33]person from among his servants to be his intimate friend to be

[26:40]his Khalil look at the humility of Ibrahim Ibrahim doesn't assume that

[26:46]it's him he is so humble that he says take me to

[26:50]Allah so I can be his servant a high value man is

[27:00]not narcissistic a high value man doesn't go around and say I'm

[27:03]a high value man a high value man is modest a high

[27:07]value man doesn't worship himself if you look at the the greatest

[27:13]man that Allah created if you want to see who is the

[27:18]greatest of men who has the most value among men it's rasulullah

[27:20]ever go around saying that I am a high value man I'm

[27:26]the best on the contrary the favorite title of rasulullah was Abdullah

[27:31]servant of God so a high value man is a man of

[27:40]humility a man of generosity speaking of generosity there's a narration from

[27:45]rasulullah he says the prophet says if a man goes to the

[28:08]marketplace and he purchases a gift for his family it doesn't need

[28:11]to be the most expensive thing in the world just a gift

[28:15]a token of appreciation an expression of love a man goes to

[28:20]the marketplace and purchases a gift for his family the prophet says

[28:29]Allah gives such a man the reward of someone who distributes food

[28:35]to a village of poor people just to go home and bring

[28:41]a gift to your family the prophet says and when you come

[28:50]to your family with that gift when you distribute the gifts begin

[28:56]with the women folk of your family give the first gifts to

[29:01]the women because it makes them feel loved it makes them feel

[29:04]appreciated it brings sukoon to them when they feel that you prioritize

[29:10]them you prioritize their feelings [Music] the prophet says verily any man

[29:17]who brings Joy to the women folk of his family your wife

[29:24]your daughter your sister your mother whoever it may be foreign it's

[29:33]as if you have done something so great in the eyes of

[29:38]Allah it's as though you have freed a slave from the progeny

[29:40]of Ismael a high value man has this generous spirit a high

[29:48]value man sees his family as the pathway to Allah that he

[29:53]knows that if I treat them well they will intercede for me

[29:56]on the day of judgment my wife will stand on the day

[30:01]of qiyama and say that this was an honorable man my children

[30:04]will pray for me that this was a generous man and a

[30:08]man of integrity be the type of man that when you pray

[30:15]in your house your family wants to pray behind you because they

[30:18]see you as a just man a man because one of the

[30:21]conditions of Imam is to be righteous so if you are a

[30:28]high value man your family should feel comfortable praying behind you because

[30:32]you have these Noble qualities number five a high value man is

[30:38]financially responsible in Islam Islam never places the burden of finances on

[30:48]a woman unfortunately we live we live in a world today where

[30:51]many women women they have to work out of necessity to provide

[30:56]for themselves because many men failed them in their lives they have

[30:59]to they have to defend for themselves if this was actually an

[31:05]Islamic government and we were actually implementing Islamic values a woman who

[31:08]does not have the male Guardian she would be assigned a stipend

[31:15]from betul Mal so she doesn't have to work but unfortunately when

[31:20]there are very few high-value men women have to pick up the

[31:28]slack they have to carry that financial burden we as men we

[31:32]have this responsibility and therefore from a young age you should start

[31:35]thinking about how are you going to provide for your future wife

[31:38]for your kids you need to think when you become valid instead

[31:44]of spending hours and hours on video games and wasting your time

[31:48]in shisha cafes you need to think deeply about this responsibility that

[31:53]you're going to take on in your life Allah in the Quran

[31:57]says men are the caretakers the maintainers the Guardians of women and

[32:05]what that means is you have a lot of responsibilities the reason

[32:09]why the man is the head of the household is because he

[32:13]has the most responsibility it's not just this blanket blank check that

[32:18]Allah gave you that you could just do whatever you want you

[32:21]have the most Authority in your family because you have the most

[32:25]responsibility in your family but unfortunately there are some they don't want

[32:31]to take any of the responsibility they want the perks of authority

[32:35]without shouldering the responsibility it doesn't work like that a high value

[32:42]man is a man who works hard who's not looking for handouts

[32:47]who's not looking for okay where's the application that I can fill

[32:49]out so I can get help from the government when you don't

[32:52]need it if you're able-bodied go and work don't take government Aid

[32:57]if you don't need government Aid this is Haram money you're taking

[33:01]someone else's share that might actually need it be a hard worker

[33:04]don't think that there's any job that's beneath you it's better to

[33:10]mop floors and earn a Halal living than to take handouts the

[33:18]prophet always emphasize The Importance of Being a hard worker there was

[33:22]a man who came to the prophet and the prophet greeted him

[33:26]the prophet shook his hand and the prophet felt blisters on the

[33:31]hands of this man the prophet asked him why are your hands

[33:37]torn up why are your hands covered in blisters he says I'm

[33:41]a Lumberjack I work with my hands to provide for my family

[33:45]do you know what the prophet does the Hadith says that the

[33:54]prophet took his hands and rasulullah kissed his hands imagine rasulullah kissing

[34:02]the hands of this man and you know what the prophet says

[34:06]foreign these hands will never touch the fire of hell if you

[34:17]spend your life providing for your family you are performing the greatest

[34:22]the greatest worship for a man is to do this this is

[34:27]how you provide Sakina to your family this is what gives you

[34:32]a sense of worth this is what makes you feel fulfilled now

[34:35]of course we have to keep in mind my dear brothers and

[34:40]sisters that yes risk is in the hands of Allah you might

[34:43]not be able to get rich Allah is not not going to

[34:48]hold you accountable if you're not rich if you don't make a

[34:51]lot of money but he will hold you accountable if you're lazy

[34:55]you don't need to be rich but you're not you're not allowed

[35:00]to be lazy a high value man takes this very seriously number

[35:07]six if Allah grants you wealth let's say you work hard and

[35:13]Allah grants you well a high value man does not flaunt his

[35:18]wealth in front of people today coaches go on social media there

[35:26]are people their entire lives are dedicated to what showing off what

[35:31]I have flaunting my wealth look at my supercars look at where

[35:34]I live look at my watch look at my shoes flaunting being

[35:38]ostentatious there's a quranic story about a man who used to flaunt

[35:47]his wealth and many of these people rarely will they say that

[35:51]this is from Allah's Grace they think that they're Geniuses that I

[36:00]I earned this because I'm a business Guru in the Quran this

[36:06]karun was one of the Israelites during the time of Musa Allah

[36:12]says he had so much wealth that it took a gang of

[36:30]men a group of men just to carry the keys to the

[36:36]storages of his wealth he was obscenely wealthy what did he do

[36:42]with his wealth did you say alhamdulillah let me use my wealth

[36:44]to uplift people because I think it's very cruel actually to flaunt

[36:50]your wealth in a day and age where children are dying of

[36:55]hunger if Allah gave you out if you're driving a Ferrari it's

[36:57]okay keep it in your garage drive it away you don't need

[37:01]to share it with the world that you have a Ferrari keep

[37:02]it to yourself the world doesn't need to know don't flaunt your

[37:10]wealth because there are single moms who are trying to pay their

[37:13]bills and you're flaunting your wealth acting like you're a big shot

[37:16]what does Allah say about karun ostentatious arrogant man he was all

[37:26]decked out his best horse which is which would be his best

[37:30]vehicle covered in jewels flaunting his wealth those who are Dunya inclined

[37:42]they looked at Power and they said oh we wish we had

[37:43]what he had isn't that what people do on social media they

[37:47]scroll wow I wish I had that house I wish I had

[37:52]that car but what does Allah say s we made the Earth

[38:01]swallow him and his home we took it all away because he

[38:07]thought that he was rich because of his own intelligence and instead

[38:11]of using his wealth to lift up others he was using his

[38:16]wealth to make people feel small a high value man does not

[38:19]flaunt his wealth a high value man is low-key if you have

[38:23]wealth enjoy your wealth but don't flaunt it number seven a high

[38:32]value man controls his emotions a high value man is not impulsive

[38:36]Unfortunately today people don't have self-control a high value man controls his

[38:47]anger doesn't lash out doesn't take out his anger and his frustration

[38:51]on the most vulnerable people his wife his poor wife and his

[38:55]kids when he's with other men he's a mouse when he when

[38:57]he when he's when he's with his wife and his children all

[39:01]of a sudden he's a lion to control your emotions control your

[39:06]anger so Allah will control his anger when you defy him control

[39:14]restrain yourself number eight a high value man sees himself as the

[39:26]spiritual and moral leader of his family and he takes that very

[39:33]seriously and in order to uplift your family and guard them from

[39:36]spiritual harm you have to have knowledge just as we spoke about

[39:40]the necessity of knowledge for our sisters I think that it is

[39:45]even more emphasized for the brothers because you're the head of the

[39:51]household and therefore in the same way that you seek Financial advice

[39:54]you need to speak seek spiritual advice a high value man seeks

[40:01]the presence of and spiritual mentors because he knows that he hasn't

[40:06]he has an obligation to take care of his family and part

[40:11]of taking care of your family is to guard them from the

[40:14]things that will destroy their spirituality he once said to his son

[40:24]or my son seek the company of the scholars foreign let your

[40:34]knees touch their knees be that close to Allama foreign just as

[40:52]he revives the Earth through rain sometimes you feel like your heart

[40:59]is dead you feel like a robot just working Monday through Friday

[41:02]seek out those spaces that will revive your hearts because your family

[41:09]feeds off of your energy if you are spiritually dead that's going

[41:12]to have a negative impact on your family you need to increase

[41:16]your spirituality so you can also Elevate the spirituality of your family

[41:21]number nine a high value man has good hygiene this is very

[41:29]important prioritizes self-care just as you want your wife to look beautiful

[41:33]you want your wife to look like a supermodel but you look

[41:37]like a homeless guy you have to have good hygiene you can't

[41:42]have rice in your beard and lettuce in your teeth and you

[41:47]don't put deodorant on your wife also wants to be married to

[41:49]someone who looks good who takes care of himself we have a

[41:54]Hadith that tell us that the prophet used to put so much

[41:59]emphasis on dental hygiene even children used to remember their encounters with

[42:06]the prophet when the prophet would smile they would remember the smile

[42:12]of rasulullah they would recall his beautiful smile and they say that

[42:18]his teeth were like perfectly arranged pearls this is the prophet rasulullah

[42:27]used to spend more on fragrances than on food we all know

[42:36]Hadith what does Imam al-hasan and Imam what do they say when

[42:38]they come to home to their mother father they say ya ummah

[42:43]in the edge or our mother they haven't seen the prophet they

[42:52]say we smell a very pleasant fragrance it is as if it

[42:59]is the fragrance of our grandfather rasulullah it's important for us to

[43:10]take care of our physical bodies your physical body is an Amana

[43:13]you need to exercise you need to eat healthy because if your

[43:18]physical health starts to deteriorate it will be difficult even for you

[43:24]to do Amman to engage in worship keep your bodies healthy stay

[43:31]hydrated eat healthy get enough sleep go for walks take care of

[43:38]yourself this is the Sunnah of the Muslim and finally number 10

[43:44]a high value man is selective when it comes to the women

[43:50]he chooses in his life he's selective about his spouse you're not

[43:56]a high value man if you throw yourself at any woman who

[44:00]gives you attention unfortunately we live in a time where there are

[44:05]some guys if the girl just says salaam to him he thinks

[44:09]that she's proposing to him I think that she's interested how do

[44:14]you believe me she's not interested she's just saying salaam she I

[44:17]don't even think she was saying salaam too she was saying Salam

[44:19]to the guy who's behind you the point is a high value

[44:26]man is not someone who just throws himself at any woman it

[44:31]doesn't matter a high value man has standards when in high value

[44:35]man wants to court a young lady he's not just looking at

[44:39]her physical Beauty because I tell you no matter how beautiful you

[44:43]are your beauty is going to faint your physical Beauty will fade

[44:46]even if you are married to a supermodel you're going to get

[44:51]used to her beauty you're gonna get used to it it's going

[44:52]to be ordinary to you give it a few years right now

[44:58]you're you're bewildered you're Enchanted by her beauty wait until you start

[45:03]to have a few problems in your relationship s but you know

[45:09]what doesn't fade spirituality and subhanallah that beauty actually grows so a

[45:23]high value man is not just looking for a pretty face a

[45:27]high value man is looking for someone who's going to be the

[45:31]mother of his children that's a high value to be selective don't

[45:36]be desperate any woman who gives you attention you throw yourself and

[45:41]you sell your dean and your just for that woman have standards

[45:44]and the prophet gave us the standards physical attraction is important but

[45:50]make sure that there's Dean make sure that there's and I don't

[45:55]mean to someone who wears hijab and praise someone who truly wants

[45:58]to live a god-conscious life this is what it means to be

[46:04]a high value man there's more but these are some of the

[46:05]qualities that I think we need to develop as men alhamdulillah we

[46:12]the followers we have no shortage of high value men today you

[46:18]have youth who look at this person this you know social media

[46:23]personality and that social media personality as their Idols as Paragons of

[46:29]masculinity because they they don't know better they don't have the role

[46:33]models that we have we have the best role models we have

[46:40]Role Models like Imam al-hasan Imam these are the true men not

[46:47]some internet personality who's desperate for attention on this night we commemorate

[46:56]one of the high value men of the aloobits you might know

[47:08]him as the ambassador of Imam Hussain but before that he was

[47:14]raised in the house of Imam he was a high value man

[47:23]because he was under the care of the master of all men

[47:26]the man of all men the commander of the faithful he raised

[47:32]him as his own son and Imam Hussain yes they were cousins

[47:40]but they grew up together and they were like brothers was very

[47:47]difficult for Imam and Hussein to farewell Muslim he saw him as

[47:54]his own flesh and blood when Imam and Hussein was in Mecca

[47:57]and he was receiving thousands of letters from the people of kufa

[48:03]Imam and Hussein was a man of wisdom he knows that these

[48:06]people have a track record of betrayal they betrayed my father and

[48:10]my brother I have to verify their intentions and I need to

[48:16]send someone for this job for this important task of evaluating and

[48:20]assessing the hearts of the people so what is Imam and Hussein

[48:28]do he summons Muslim he calls upon him before he dispatches he

[48:38]writes a letter to the people of kufa that he sends with

[48:42]Muslim do you know what he says in the letter addressing the

[48:48]people of kufa he says o people of kufa bathroom I am

[48:55]sending to you my brother I'm sending to you my brother my

[49:06]cousin I am sending to you the trustworthy one from my family

[49:18]he farewells Imam Hussain and I think deep in their hearts they

[49:27]knew that this was the farewell was hugging Imam Hussain you could

[49:36]almost sense that they knew that the next time they will see

[49:41]each other is in Jannah Muslim he goes he goes to kufa

[49:47]he arrives there are throngs of people who receive him chanting slogans

[49:55]of support he meets with some of the senior leadership in kufa

[50:01]things are looking very positive foreign has sent his cousin to kufa

[50:12]and he's rallying people and they might start a rebellion yazid he

[50:17]realizes that something has to be done we have to crush this

[50:25]Rebellion he sends an executive order he says now you have to

[50:31]leave Basra and go and take control of the situation in kufa

[50:34]he goes he arrives in kufa and he begins arresting anyone who

[50:40]supports or gives Refuge to Muslims ten thousand people are executed thousands

[50:49]are thrown in prison the narrations say that when Muslim was leading

[50:58]for those of you who went for ziara you saw how big

[51:05]that Masjid was that Masjid was full of people praying behind Muslim

[51:11]he finishes half of the people have left there are only tens

[51:21]of people left he gets to the gates of the Masjid and

[51:23]he is now all alone in kufa it's very easy to say

[51:28]that you're with Imam Hussain but when push comes to Shah and

[51:33]it's a matter of life and death the mother comes to her

[51:35]son and takes him the wife comes to her husband and says

[51:40]come what am I going to do you're going to leave me

[51:45]as with orphans everyone abandons Muslims Muslim now is roaming all by

[51:53]himself through the Alleyways of kufa Muslim now wants to go back

[51:55]he wants to go back to Imam and Hussein but Muslim he

[52:01]grew up in Medina he's not familiar with kufa he's not familiar

[52:08]with the paths he knows that there's a bounty on his head

[52:12]he's walking in the alleyways he's tired he's thirsty and he sits

[52:22]down outside of the steps of a house a woman comes out

[52:29]and she says to him what do you need and he says

[52:37]he says Oh Lady I'm thirsty can you get me some water

[52:42]this woman her name was she was one of the women of

[52:46]kufa she goes back into her home she brings water can you

[52:51]imagine how difficult it was for Muslim to ask a woman for

[52:56]water a strange woman for water the daughter of she takes her

[53:00]mother to the side and she says o my mother who is

[53:06]this man she says I don't know she says to her mother

[53:10]that when you went inside to get water he started to cry

[53:13]she says the mother says I went though I goes to Muslim

[53:18]she says to him oh man I live by myself and I

[53:26]am uncomfortable having a strange man sit at my door she says

[53:30]to him why don't you go back to your family why don't

[53:35]you go to your wife why don't you go to your children

[53:40]your tribe he looks at her and he says Allah he says

[53:53]to her I do not have any family in this city I

[53:59]do not have any tribe in this city she says to him

[54:06]who are you why don't you have any family here he says

[54:11][Music] he says the people of kuffa have betrayed me I am

[54:21]the ambassador of ABBA Abdullah she says you are the ambassador of

[54:29]Imam Al Hussain she says come in come in come into my

[54:31]house she gives him Refuge she says is there anything that I

[54:37]can give you she gives him a small room in her house

[54:40]he says to her I just want you to give me a

[54:40]bowl of water so I can do will do and do my

[54:46]prayers he stays in that room praying thinking about what he should

[54:52]do next her son had heard that there's a bounty on a

[54:57]man by the name of Muslim he sees his mother behaving strangely

[55:01]straight away he discovers that Muslim is inside of his own home

[55:06]out of desire to get a reward from IBN Ziad he goes

[55:10]and tells IBN Ziad that the man that you're looking for is

[55:15]in my house IBN Ziad he dispatches 300 soldiers to capture Muslim

[55:22]they say to him he is only one man why are you

[55:30]sending 300.

[55:31]he says this is a man that was raised we need as

[55:37]many men as possible he comes out of the house he tries

[55:45]to fight against them but how much can a man resist against

[55:48]300.

[55:50]they eventually apprehend him they arrest him and they take him to

[55:54]the Palace of IBN ziyadh he is in shackles and in Chains

[56:00]they tie him in Rome he's standing in front of IBN Ziad

[56:02]and they say to him you must address your foreign they say

[56:18]to him that we're going to execute you for trying to start

[56:22]a rebellion Muslim he says listen do you allow me to give

[56:28]my final wasiya can I give you my final Testament they said

[56:31]go ahead but we are going to execute you he says number

[56:37]one I have a debt to repay I want you to sell

[56:39]my sword and my saddle to repay my debt they say we'll

[56:42]take care of this for you he says number two and this

[56:47]is very tragic that someone like Muslim has to ask this he

[56:52]says my second request is that you give me a proper Islamic

[56:57]burial I want you to give me an Islamic burial they say

[57:01]we're not going to give you an Islamic barrier you're not a

[57:06]Muslim you're an apostate you're a rebel you're a renegade he looks

[57:10]and he says I have one final request they say what is

[57:16]your final request he says I beg you please send word to

[57:22]Imam and her saying not to come to kufa they say we

[57:25]will only Grant your first request and we will deny your second

[57:28]then the Third he asked for some water the narrations say they

[57:35]give him a cup of water but his lip was wounded and

[57:37]there was a drop of blood that fell into that cup and

[57:41]he throws the water and Muslim in his heart he probably thought

[57:45]that it is destined for me to meet my Lord just like

[57:53]this they take him to the rooftop of the palace they take

[58:01]him to the Rooftop the executioners are preparing to slaughter him they

[58:09]sharpen their swords says before you cut off my head give me

[58:13]the opportunity to pray to my Lord they say we'll give you

[58:19]a few minutes he stands for he offers a final tour a

[58:26]prayer when he finishes his Salah the executioners say that it seems

[58:31]that you prolonged your Salah are you trying to prolong your life

[58:34]are you afraid of death he says I swear by Allah this

[58:40]was the briefest too prayer that I have offered as he stands

[58:45]they're about to cut off his head uh right before they cut

[58:52]off his head the last thing that came out of his mouth

[58:55]was what he turned towards Mecca and he said turn back do

[59:18]not come to kufa because the people of kufab betrayed us and

[59:24]they suffered that of Muslim they threw his body from the top

[59:30]of the palace they threw is that from the top of the

[59:34]palace they took the body of Muslim and they dragged his body

[59:41]through the city yet uh yeah who says yeah Hussein outside

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