Overcoming Everyday Challenges | Sayed Saleh Qazwini | MYC

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[0:00]hobb allahu anhum wa radu sir with the Hara home Tahira para

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[0:18]la la a co-owner home alone and Bob respected brothers and sisters

[0:28]Salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh the human being is composed of two conflicting

[0:39]dimensions two powers that are constantly pulling you each one pulling towards

[0:49]its side there's two powers Alpo wa al apply Nia and wash

[0:55]away Nia the power of the intellect which is always at conflict

[1:04]with the power of desire so you have the intellect and the

[1:09]desire they're constantly struggling and conflicting with one another your intellect says

[1:16]one thing and your desire says something else and there's always the

[1:24]struggle between the two now we need both of them to survive

[1:27]of course one is more important than than the other and that

[1:31]is of course obviously the intellect however a loss of Hanna note

[1:40]Allah created us with the desires with the desire to eat and

[1:43]sleep and mate and rest and all of these desires that allah

[1:46]subhanaw taala has given us for the sake of our survival so

[1:52]that we live a better life so that we live a healthier

[1:57]life so that we live a happier life however some people they

[2:02]push aside their intellectual power and their desires overcome them and then

[2:08]they become just like the animal what's the difference between them and

[2:13]then in the and Allah gives us that example in the Quran

[2:15]Allah says in the Quran there are people that have that have

[2:20]the intellect but they don't think they have eyes but they don't

[2:23]see they have ears but they don't listen or like hell and

[2:28]I'm Bella home Avan they are like the animals no in fact

[2:31]they are worse than the animals because this is when an animal

[2:36]does something they do what they were born to do what they

[2:39]were created to do but the human being who has the akan

[2:44]who has the power of reason when they go against that and

[2:47]they do things that are worse than animals and they only worship

[2:52]their desires they become worse than the animals now the power of

[2:57]the intellect that Allah subhana WA Ta'ala has given us it is

[3:01]what made the human being the chosen creation out of the billions

[3:08]and billions of creation Allah subhana Allah out of all of the

[3:13]creation Allah chose the human being while a pet karana Bani Adam

[3:16]and we have dignified and honored the children of Adam what is

[3:25]it that made us so dignified is it our strength what is

[3:28]it that made us so dignified here we understand that it's due

[3:34]to the greatest gift that allah subhanaw taala has given us and

[3:38]that is the aachen that is the ability to make sound decisions

[3:41]in life to weigh between right and wrong and make a good

[3:49]decision and in fact it is the power of reason which is

[3:55]even greater than faith and greater than anything else that you might

[4:00]have because it's through a reason that you will reach allah subhanahu

[4:05]wa tada without reason even if you have reached god even if

[4:09]you have religiosity you display religiosity if it's not backed by reason

[4:14]then that's a flawed religiosity in a beautiful hadith by Amir al-mumineen

[4:21]idea by batalov alehissalaam he says that when allah subhanahu wata'ala first

[4:29]created Adam Gibran came to Adam the angel Gibran came to Adam

[4:34]and he tells him Oh Adam you have to choose one of

[4:40]three you either choose the intellect or you choose modesty Etha or

[4:48]you choose today on religiosity but you only can choose one and

[4:54]the other two will go away you can't choose more than one

[5:02]either intellect the power of reason or modesty that unfed that feeling

[5:06]where you want to cover yourself you want to protect yourself something

[5:10]that we all have or religiosity being a medallion adam alayhis-salam and

[5:17]the hadith according to amulet mumineen says that Adam chose the intellect

[5:23]he chose the Apple so Jibril being that he's a messenger he

[5:27]was ordered to do something he goes to the powers of religiosity

[5:35]and modesty and chastity and he tells them to go away because

[5:39]Adam chose Apple the intellect so they reply to Adam they tell

[5:45]him in now Oh Myrna and Natalia a knockin we were ordered

[5:51]to follow the intellect wherever the intellect goes we will follow it

[5:57]so through this hadith Amir al-mumineen he's teaching us that it's through

[6:02]your intellect that you become a religious person it's through your intellect

[6:07]that you will find God and it's through your intellect that you

[6:10]will become modest you might find people who are religious without intellect

[6:17]that religiosity is a flawed religiosity like the college they thought they

[6:22]were religious they went and they waged a war against immune minion

[6:25]or like Osama bin Laden he thinks he's religious but he's going

[6:30]against the religion or some people they think they're modest perhaps they're

[6:36]all covered up but they have the Apple they do not have

[6:42]the intellect so my dear brothers and sisters the greatest gift that

[6:47]allah subhanaw taala has given us is the power of reason and

[6:50]the intellect that's how we make sound decisions in life and that

[6:54]is how allah subhana wa ta'ala honors us and that is what

[7:01]makes the human being the chosen creation and it's through your intellect

[7:05]that you will reach god this is why the hadith says by

[7:08]allah who and beot leo Thira Dafa in allahu allah subhana wa

[7:16]ta'ala sends prophets and messengers not to invent a religion not to

[7:21]come and invent this concept in your mind all they do is

[7:26]they come and they bring out what's already in your intellect and

[7:30]they clear the picture imagine you're looking outside the window and the

[7:35]window is very dirty over time it gets dirtier and dirtier your

[7:39]perception is going to be flawed it's going to be different you

[7:46]won't be able to see so when someone comes and cleans the

[7:49]window then you're going to be able to see very clearly the

[7:55]prophets they didn't come and invent something outside the window all they

[7:59]did was they came and they cleaned the window of our mind

[8:02]so that we could see clearly and they brought out what's already

[8:07]within our mind so this is the power of the intellect but

[8:10]then we have another conflicting side another conflicting dimension and that is

[8:17]the desires in enough center a maratton Basu the desires they're constantly

[8:25]pushing you to obey them allah subhanaw taala as we mentioned gave

[8:30]us desires but these desires they're supposed to be led by the

[8:36]intellect but some people they allow the desires to lead them and

[8:43]and choose their destiny and the path that they choose to live

[8:47]their life on this person is going to be led by their

[8:51]desires and that is a harmful path that is a path that

[8:58]will lead a person towards destruction now another gift that allah subhanaw

[9:04]taala has given us is he's given us the APPA and the

[9:07]desires but allah subhanaw taala because he has honored the human being

[9:11]allah subhanaw taala says i'm not going to force you to be

[9:18]on the right path I'm giving you the respect and the authority

[9:21]to make your own decisions in life you have to be your

[9:26]decision maker if a loss of a no tie lasts forcing me

[9:30]to pray and forcing me to fast and make enforcing me to

[9:33]be this and that person then what's the value of heaven and

[9:38]hell on the day of judgement and this is what scholars call

[9:42]between the the conflict between jabra and tough wheels as God predestiny

[9:48]everything that we do no there's no job because if God is

[9:54]forcing us to do everything no one who did good Allah forced

[9:57]this person and the one who did bad God forced this person

[10:01]then what's the value of jolting them accountable on the day of

[10:04]judgment someone could say if there are some Muslims that believe in

[10:08]this concept by the way so someone could say that imam hussain

[10:14]he it wasn't his choice god forced him to be good and

[10:20]he goes to heaven and god forced here's eat to be a

[10:22]bad person and he goes to hell but that goes against the

[10:26]justice of allah subhanaw taala allah says in the quran in Naha

[10:29]day na ho sabine a massacre on when makkah fora we have

[10:33]showed you the way we have sent you prophets and messengers to

[10:37]guide you and show you the way all that you have to

[10:44]do is choose either you are grateful you accept the message or

[10:49]you reject the message now here allah subhana wa ta'ala describes the

[10:54]believers when you are going through that conflict in life between your

[10:59]intellect and between your desires Allah subhana Allah says in the Quran

[11:04]Sebastian I bad Lavine is Tamir Oh Nicole Fayette Beruna Oksana and

[11:15]give glad tidings to my bad to my servants who listen to

[11:19]what is being said to them and they weigh the options Fayette

[11:23]meruna Oksana then they follow the best of option Phaeton una escena

[11:32]who are they hola aquel novena ha da Hammad la wanna come

[11:36]on and Bob those are the ones who Allah has guided and

[11:42]those are the ones who have the intellect on al Bob my

[11:49]dear brothers and sisters in our lives we face constant challenges we

[11:54]every day we have to make a decision in life from the

[11:57]moment you wake up you make a decision when the alarm clock

[12:03]is ringing in the morning what decision do you make do you

[12:06]hit the snooze button or do you get up for federal prayer

[12:13]that's the first decision and then after that what are you gonna

[12:18]have for breakfast what are you going to eat what are you

[12:21]going to do are you going to do Haram are you going

[12:22]to do halal are you going to be productive in this life

[12:25]or are you just going to be laying around the whole time

[12:27]playing on your xbox what are you gonna do you make the

[12:34]decision a loss of hanate Allah says I'm not forcing you to

[12:36]make a decision we sent you prophets we sent you messengers we

[12:42]showed you the way a hundred and twenty four thousand prophets and

[12:45]messengers were sent just to guide people just to show people the

[12:48]way not to force them to make a decision but just to

[12:52]show them the way it's up to you to accept but just

[12:59]keep in mind whatever decision you make in life that decision is

[13:03]going to define you and that decision is going to be held

[13:07]on with you and you're going to be held accountable for that

[13:11]decision Allah says in the Quran McCullough in Sanon l-jamaa Hopa era

[13:18]who fear on okay one Oakridge allahu yo meltia etiquette are daniel

[13:27]kahneman surah and every single in san every single human being Elsa

[13:31]McCullough and Shannon and Zanna Hoopa era who fear on Oprah every

[13:36]single person they're going to be tied in chains with their own

[13:44]actions whatever you did in this life that's stuck with you that's

[13:48]that's something that you made that decision that's going to define you

[13:52]ba era who fear on okay when you're a Jew who yo

[13:58]meltia etiqueta Banja Luka home insurer on the day of judgment there's

[14:01]going to be a Kitab there's going to be a book that's

[14:07]going to be open and in that book you will see everything

[14:08]that you did in this life every single thing that you did

[14:12]now of course another topic which requires its own lecture is Allah

[14:21]is all forgiving maybe people won't forget maybe if you have a

[14:26]bad credit score it will take you I don't know what seven

[14:28]years for the credit score to to go back to normal a

[14:32]loss of hano attala it takes one hour it takes one moment

[14:38]of repentance one moment of turning to allah with sincerity and allah

[14:44]subhanho wa taala will clear you of your past with allah it

[14:47]will be it will be erased but the only problem is that

[14:52]when we commit a sin when we lit when we make it

[14:56]a habit of committing a sin that sin will not let go

[14:59]of me God will forgive but that sin it will constantly come

[15:04]back to me it's like a it's like addiction allah subhanho wa

[15:09]taala if someone did something Haram for example something that's addictive and

[15:11]something that's how long Allah will tell you I'll forgive you if

[15:14]you're if you're truly and sincerely repented but there are repercussions as

[15:19]a result of what you did if you smoked a cigarette if

[15:23]you drink if you do drugs some of them are addictive now

[15:28]you say you know and you acknowledge that you won't do it

[15:30]and you're not gonna do it but those addictive agents are going

[15:37]to keep haunting you until you overcome them so it's going to

[15:40]be more difficult to overcome them vocal ensign and algebra who fear

[15:48]on okay wha no courage Allahu yo man TMNT kitab and yell

[15:52]command Shura etiquette are back Cafe been fck glioma la caja Seba

[15:57]you read your own book and you judge yourself you see your

[16:02]own actions on the day of judgment there's no secret files that

[16:05]are going to be brought against you everything that you see is

[16:08]going to be everything that you did and you know yourself better

[16:12]than anyone else allah subhanaw taala will bring you to judge for

[16:19]yourself or against yourself and then Allah says in the Quran many

[16:23]tada phenom ayah to deal enough say whoever chose the path of

[16:30]guidance this person did it for their own good when you make

[16:33]a good decision in life my dear brothers and sisters the first

[16:36]beneficiary the first person who will benefit from that good decision is

[16:45]who yourself so allah subhanaw taala on allah is telling you to

[16:50]pray and fast and and live a lifestyle where you don't fall

[16:53]in the haram where you don't do things that are wrong and

[16:57]immoral you're going to be the first person who benefits in this

[17:01]life and in the afterlife many tada venom is a deal in

[17:07]upset one on one laughing am I of a lolly huh and

[17:12]whoever takes the wrong path then they are going to hurt themselves

[17:15]we don't go and do you know typically normal people they won't

[17:20]go and do something that will bring them harm in this life

[17:26]no one goes and drinks poison but a lot of people they

[17:30]don't see the repercussions in the afterlife and they go and they

[17:36]harm their afterlife they only go after this life while rejecting and

[17:40]neglecting the afterlife anta Allah says in the Quran well at a

[17:45]zero a zero 10 wizard okra juan acuña mode verbena hatun abathur

[17:52]isola well access zero wasiatun was Raqqa don't judge someone for someone

[17:58]else's misdoings this means that God is not going to judge you

[18:02]for someone else's actions on the day of judgment Allah is just

[18:05]one acronym at the bean hatun abathur ah sulla and we will

[18:12]not punish anyone until we send them a Warner until we send

[18:15]them a messenger until we send them a guide and in this

[18:20]life Allah subhana Allah is constantly sending us messengers and guides now

[18:27]my dear brothers and sisters we are faced with a challenge with

[18:32]an obstacle every day in our life and every single one of

[18:37]us our obstacle is different our challenge is different some people their

[18:44]challenge is for example when it comes to finances they're making Haram

[18:48]money some people their challenge is when it comes to relationships other

[18:54]people their challenges with their parents sometimes some parents their challenges with

[19:01]their children each person has their own challenge the prophets they were

[19:05]they were challenged the prophets they had to speak to people and

[19:08]guide people and people would not listen to them no sort of

[19:11]lalala Hani Hani he was with the people if you believed some

[19:16]did not believe prophet nooh or prophet ISA prophet Musa the Imams

[19:21]of the animate they all had their own challenges and we have

[19:25]our own challenges my dear brothers and sisters the Muslims they had

[19:30]challenges during the time of rasulullah salallahu alaihe wa some of the

[19:35]difficult trials that the muslims would have to face was that every

[19:44]few months the muslims were being attacked and the muslims had to

[19:49]come out and defend themselves for some they would come out and

[19:52]they would fight and they would defend and they would their honor

[19:58]and their religion and there were others who were lazy there are

[20:01]others who didn't want to go and sacrifice so they would come

[20:06]to Rasulullah sallallahu Island they would try to make an excuse to

[20:10]not be with the prophet and Allah describes that in the Quran

[20:13]whereas the nuke every 10 min home wait whereas that day no

[20:19]Furi Furi from min home and maybe yaku Luna in Naboo chana

[20:22]Ora wanna hear bear watching a URI Doudna Allah for Allah they

[20:30]don't want to join the barrel they don't want to go and

[20:32]defend the Muslims so they come and they told the prophets in

[20:36]the boots and our era we have excuses and we have to

[20:38]defend our houses and our and our families and allah subhanaw taala

[20:45]says in the quran all that they want is Ferrar they want

[20:47]to be of they want to run away that was a test

[20:50]let me give you this story the last expedition of rasulullah sallallahu

[20:56]alaihi wa an expedition to Tabuk Tabuk is a land north of

[21:05]saudi arabia north of the arabian peninsula and that was at the

[21:08]borders with the roman empire at that time so rasulullah sallallahu aleyhi

[21:13]al and he heard that there might be an invasion from the

[21:19]roman empire so the prophets and this was months before the death

[21:23]of the prophets rasulullah sallallahu alehiwassallaam us lumps were going to Tabuk

[21:30]now it was a very hot season it was in the summer

[21:37]and it was the harvesting season so the ones who have planned

[21:41]the ones who have farmed and planted this is the time that

[21:45]they come and they take their harvest they take their dates and

[21:49]it was a very you know it was hot it was summer

[21:55]so some of the hypocrites they did not want to go with

[21:58]the Prophet even the Muslims they found it difficult but the ones

[22:03]who were hypocrites they came and they started making up excuses so

[22:08]they start telling the prophets you know what we have to be

[22:11]here we have to rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa d he decided

[22:16]to move and of course it was that event the last the

[22:18]last expedition of the Prophet also a lot left Ameer al-mumineen Andhra

[22:22]sort of lack knows that there's going to be no battle but

[22:26]the Muslims don't know that so rasulallah he leaves Ameer al-mumineen and

[22:31]and it was that event where rasulallah tells Ameer al-mumineen Antonini by

[22:36]Manzella T Haruna min Musa lalana BM in body you to me

[22:41]are like what Aaron was to Moses except there's no prophet after

[22:44]me what does this mean this means that when I leave I

[22:48]want you to be in charge and the Saudis that's accepted by

[22:51]all Muslims anyways Ameer al-mumineen you stayed because Rasool Allah ordered him

[22:57]but all of the men they had to leave as they were

[23:02]the caravans and the the army basically was moving going up north

[23:06]slowly some of the Muslims some of the hypocrites they would slow

[23:11]down their donkeys and then turn around and go back home go

[23:16]back to Medina so some of the Muslims they would come to

[23:19]rasulallah and they would tell him like a telephone on this person

[23:24]you know what they turned around and he's not with us anymore

[23:27]so allah would tell them itaku leave him if he's a good

[23:30]person if he's worthy he would join us and if he's not

[23:36]a good person then we don't even need him this happened several

[23:40]times until one of the great companions of Rasul Allah by the

[23:47]name of a Buddha have you heard of a Buddha before a

[23:49]Buddha was one of the greatest companions of rasulallah salallahu alaihe wa

[23:54]amudha was riding a camel his camel got tired and it started

[24:03]slowing down basically his camel got a flat tire so Abu that

[24:06]he's you know he's trying to get the camel to move to

[24:10]catch up with the Prophet the camel keeps slowing down and slowing

[24:14]down and there's a distance starts to emerge between the prophet and

[24:19]a Buddha Abu Dharr slowing and slowing and the caravan is so

[24:24]the Muslims once they couldn't see a Buddha anymore they come to

[24:30]rasulallah and they tell him that Allah for a Buddha Buddha is

[24:33]also he's one of those people sort of sort of laissez at

[24:38]Roku if he is good he'll join us he'll catch up with

[24:43]us and if he's not then we don't want we don't want

[24:44]someone who's not catching up with us so Rasul Allah moved on

[24:52]and the caravan stopped to rest a Buddha he got stranded in

[24:56]the middle of the desert his camel is not moving but he

[25:01]knows he has a duty towards or a sort of Lhasa of

[25:07]Lahani you had and how could he leave rasulallah so Abu Dharr

[25:10]being that he was from the desert Abu Dharr managed to find

[25:17]some water in the middle of the desert he finds water but

[25:20]he does not drink that water in his mind he's thinking that

[25:25]Rasul Allah might be thirsty so he carries that pouch of water

[25:32]with him and he leaves the camel and he starts to run

[25:35]in the desert he starts to run the Muslims they're sitting in

[25:43]their camp suddenly they see someone from very far approaching and they

[25:47]say we see a darkness approaching from the desert rasul allah says

[25:53]allah Amida Buddha oh Allah make it be a Buddha they see

[25:58]a Buddha he's running suddenly he comes to the prophet and he's

[26:06]exhausted he's thirsty he's catching his breath and they run but also

[26:12]lovely' tells them bring him some water he tells them I have

[26:17]water with me but I was carrying this water because I was

[26:19]worried about a sort of loss of Allah Allah God I was

[26:24]worried that a sort of LA might be thirsty and that's why

[26:26]I didn't drink from that water this is a buddha when rasulullah

[26:32]sallallahu alayhi wa sallam óbuda he says the rahamallah abathur may allah

[26:39]have mercy upon a bother young she what way a moot what

[26:47]were you baths owada he walks on his own and he will

[26:51]die alone as he died in robada all alone because of a

[26:56]decision he made because he decided to stand against the authorities because

[26:59]he decided to enjoin the good and forbid the evil they kicked

[27:06]him out during the Khilafah Osman they kicked a Buddha out of

[27:09]Medina and they allowed him to die Andromeda a land with a

[27:12]deserts between Mecca and Medina so rasul allah says yunxi what the

[27:18]hawaii muchas de were you bath owada why because of a decision

[27:25]he made now my dear brothers and sisters this was just a

[27:28]story of some of the challenges that some Muslims went through some

[27:35]of them they felled the tests they left the prophet and others

[27:41]they sacrificed and they went the extra mile to please or sort

[27:45]of lost a little Holly who are they because they know that

[27:50]pleasing rasulallah and satisfying rasulallah that is what will please allah subhanaw

[27:54]taala and when you please God you are doing what your uncle

[28:01]what your intellect tells you to do religion my dear brothers and

[28:07]sisters obedience to God it goes without them find me one ruling

[28:10]that doesn't make sense find me one ruling that country that totally

[28:16]contradicts the oven when a loss of high no time that tells

[28:21]you to pray your intellect knows that we have to show thanks

[28:25]and appreciation to the creator chakra and when I'm all even non-muslims

[28:29]everyone has a need to pray when our loss of a note

[28:35]Allah tells us to give zakat our intellect says that this is

[28:38]something that makes sense when allah subhana WA Ta'ala tells us to

[28:41]abstain from what from drinking alcohol from eating pork from drugs and

[28:49]lottery and gambling and all of these things why does a la

[28:54]semana tada tell us these things they go in line they go

[28:59]hand in hand with our intellect so whenever you're at a point

[29:02]where you have to make a decision ask yourself does this make

[29:05]sense does your mind accept this and does this please allah subhanaw

[29:13]taala does this please what sort of law yes sometimes there's a

[29:17]conflict between culture cultural norms and religion but we have to make

[29:21]sure that we make the right decision and whatever challenge we face

[29:25]in life now I'm going to go through some of the challenges

[29:30]that we face even though my intro was a little bit too

[29:32]long but I'll give you I'll give one example a while ago

[29:40]I was talking to someone and they were saying you know what

[29:44]I don't drink but sometimes I sit on a table sometimes we're

[29:52]out with our friends and some of my friends are drinking so

[29:56]this person didn't know and a lot of people I don't know

[30:01]if a lot of people know this or not but it's haram

[30:03]it's forbidden to be sitting on a table to be sitting on

[30:10]a session where someone is drinking alcohol even you're not drinking someone

[30:15]else is drinking it's haram to sit on that table now someone

[30:19]might say this doesn't make sense you know I'm not drinking why

[30:25]do i why is it haram upon me but here my dear

[30:29]brothers and sisters this is a challenge that some people face but

[30:32]we have to side with our intellect and side with our faith

[30:36]and I replied to this person I was saying that if someone

[30:42]passes by and they see that there's there are some people drinking

[30:46]on this table there's a big chance they're going to think that

[30:49]you're also drinking as well if you're sitting on this table where

[30:55]someone is drinking when people drink what do they do they lose

[31:00]their mind when people drink they're killing their their brain cells and

[31:05]therefore they won't be able to make sound decisions so you're putting

[31:09]yourself at risk you're sitting next to someone who has lost their

[31:15]mind because they're intoxicated because they're drinking and therefore they could harm

[31:20]you therefore they could do something but every now sometimes we understand

[31:27]what the wisdom is behind certain rulings and other times we don't

[31:35]not every time we we totally understand the wisdom behind certain rulings

[31:40]but if we are devout and sincere believers then we have to

[31:44]believe it because God says so a lot of times people ask

[31:48]me say it why is it that this why is it this

[31:52]why that the first answer I say is because God said so

[31:54]right I acknowledge that a loss of a note Allah is my

[31:59]Creator Allah is the most knowledgeable Allah knows what's best for me

[32:04]therefore God ordered me to do something sometimes your parents they tell

[32:08]you we want you to do something when you're young when you're

[32:11]a child you don't understand the reason behind it right they tell

[32:15]you because I said so and then once you grow older you

[32:19]understand the reason behind it but at that time when they were

[32:23]telling you and they were forcing you to do something you didn't

[32:26]understand the reason so when allah subhanaw taala orders of something it's

[32:33]because God said so but also sometimes there is a wisdom behind

[32:36]it so now my dear brothers and sisters should I start with

[32:46]these or these okay so okay if anyone has any questions you

[32:56]will have there's a paper and pen already on your seat or

[33:02]there's extra so you use that and you write down the question

[33:04]even though these are a lot so limits on getting to know

[33:11]the opposite gender how should you how long should you talk for

[33:14]now here this session was titled what should you do so a

[33:18]lot of people when it comes to getting to know someone the

[33:21]the session the the getting to know one another starts dragging on

[33:26]and on and on month turns into months and then it turns

[33:33]into years and then it become it becomes so long so yes

[33:38]when you get when you want when you're getting married you have

[33:40]to know who you're getting married to and you have to try

[33:43]to make sure that there's compatibility but sometimes in the process of

[33:48]getting to know someone you could fall in her on now yes

[33:53]you're allowed to ask certain things you're a lot to ask someone

[33:56]some of the most important things that are on your mind you

[33:58]have the right to ask if you're serious about marriage but some

[34:04]people they're not serious about marriage some people they're just you know

[34:07]they're just sitting and they're hanging out and they go to this

[34:09]restaurant one day and another restaurant and they're just chilling and then

[34:12]they say oh I'm just getting to know people I'm just getting

[34:15]to know her or she's just getting to know him don't cheat

[34:19]yourself you know yourself better than anyone else you make the right

[34:24]decision for yourself so I wouldn't I don't think it takes too

[34:28]long to get to know someone if you're gonna apply for a

[34:31]job if you're picking a university to go to how long does

[34:35]it take for you to decide takes you know a month two

[34:39]months three months more than that that's just going too much you

[34:43]make the decision yes or no you move on okay so this

[34:48]just says loneliness so I'm guessing what to do in times of

[34:52]loneliness what there are many things that you could do one is

[34:58]socialize with your family we have select rahem we have an obligation

[35:03]towards our family we cannot disconnect with our family not play at

[35:09]around disconnecting with the family is Haram so connect with your family

[35:14]with your loved ones make friends have friends there's nothing wrong with

[35:18]that aslam encourages socializing and having friends and as long as it's

[35:24]in the hell out there's nothing wrong with that and coming to

[35:27]the Masjid interacting in the in the house a Nia and mustards

[35:32]and places of worship these are all places where you find friends

[35:35]and I recommend that you find a friend that is on the

[35:37]same ideology as you when you find a friend who's who has

[35:43]a different ideology a different mindset I'm not saying that's Haram but

[35:48]there's a lot of chances of problems emerging like one one example

[35:52]of that that person that was saying my friends are drinking my

[35:55]friends are drinking how are you going to be hanging out with

[35:59]them how are you going to be sitting with them what are

[36:01]you going to you know a lot of problems are going to

[36:04]emerge so this is I don't know someone is joking and there's

[36:09]trying to find the right car I'm not a car salesman so

[36:15]I don't know showing the need to get married yes okay so

[36:23]you have to tell me let me know ok good so showing

[36:27]the need to get married yes it's a natural something natural that

[36:35]allah subhanaw taala created us with the first thing that will show

[36:38]you the need is your body it's going to start showing you

[36:41]the need to get married and it's not just a physical need

[36:47]there's a social need there's a psychological need there's an emotional need

[36:53]and marriage satisfies all of these when people they take the back

[36:57]route and they don't get married and they start having relationships outside

[37:01]of the bounds of marriage those temporary relationships they don't satisfy what

[37:10]marriage satisfies you know they say sleeping at right and the dark

[37:14]is much better than sleeping during the day when the light is

[37:17]on your body it might it might have slept less at night

[37:21]but your body is going to benefit more right I don't you've

[37:25]probably heard that you know that being said before similarly marriage it

[37:32]satisfies the needs that we all have the social need the psychological

[37:36]need the physical need the emotional need even the financial need according

[37:40]to the hadith of Rasul Allah whether you have faith in what

[37:45]the Prophet says that's up to you and the Quran says that

[37:47]in your corner for Cara you haven't home Elohim and from Allah

[37:50]so marriage satisfies the needs and when you begin to show those

[37:58]needs then that's the time that you have to put yourself in

[38:01]a position where you will be able to get married you can't

[38:05]just come out of nowhere and say okay I want to get

[38:09]married that doesn't things don't happen like that you have to prepare

[38:12]yourself you have to put yourself in the environment and then eventually

[38:16]you will find inshallah the right person to get married to trying

[38:21]to wake up for fejoe this is a challenge a lot of

[38:27]people they find that that that is a very big challenge for

[38:30]them especially in the summer because in the winter waking up for

[38:34]fudge was easy when when sunrise is at 7 o'clock it's easy

[38:39]everyone wakes up for in the winter but in the summer it's

[38:42]difficult when you have to wake up at 4:30 and 5 o'clock

[38:48]that's difficult and a lot of people one of the main reasons

[38:50]that people skip out on fejoe is what you're sleeping you're staying

[38:57]up till 2:00 a.m.

[38:58]you're staying up till 1:30 obviously it's going to be difficult to

[39:01]wake up when you're staying up so late you're not going to

[39:07]wake up early if you had a a job interview if you

[39:12]had an appointment if you're meeting someone who is very important you're

[39:17]going to make sure that you sleep early and you get your

[39:20]beauty sleep and your good night's rest so that you wake up

[39:23]and speak to that person right what about if that's a loss

[39:29]of Hana Hana the creator of the universe the one who gives

[39:32]you everything that you might need in life everything that you have

[39:35]in life is from Allah and no Salafi or no tsuki wama

[39:40]hi om Amati lillahi rabbil aalameen so my dear brothers and sisters

[39:46]nothing is impossible it's all about you prioritizing your prayer the moment

[39:53]you prioritize your prayer then you will be able to wake up

[39:56]and then there are other things that you could do for example

[40:00]you put your alarm clock not next to your head you put

[40:02]it somewhere you know a little bit further so you might have

[40:08]to get up so you do certain things or you have someone

[40:10]else in the house wake you up and you wake up that

[40:14]other person there's nothing wrong with waking up the whole house you

[40:17]know some people have the idea that at federal time we have

[40:21]to just keep it quiet and you know no one no one

[40:24]makes a sound no wake up and do Salah and do that

[40:30]on and it's much this is why the federal prayer and the

[40:33]measure and the shot prayer are the jari prayers meaning that when

[40:36]you recite the quran you have to recite bismillah r-rahman r-rahim al-hamdu

[40:40]lillahi rabbil aalameen not like the hora nozzle prayer where you're whispering

[40:46]so so that's one of the philosophies behind that is to wake

[40:52]people up during those times the embarrassment of shaking women's hands so

[41:00]alhamdulillah we are in the kovat era and there's no more shaking

[41:05]hands anymore so you don't have that problem anymore but sometimes before

[41:10]when you did have that problems or if later on you might

[41:14]have that problem you have to tell yourself who do I have

[41:22]to please who do I have to satisfy do I have to

[41:28]satisfy God or do I have to satisfy other people if you

[41:30]tell yourself and you make it a part of your in your

[41:37]mind in your that I can't disobey allah subhanahu wata'ala at all

[41:42]costs I can't disobey allah subhanho wa taala then it will be

[41:45]very easy to do whatever you have to do but if you

[41:50]keep compromising your faith oh I'm embarrassed to pray I'm embarrassed to

[41:54]do this I don't know how to do this then slowly you'll

[41:59]go you'll go down the you know it'll be a Lance it

[42:00]will be something that it's a slippery slope the moment you start

[42:06]compromising once then you tell yourself it's okay then it's going to

[42:10]be okay to keep compromising once again all you have to do

[42:13]is say you know Salaam you put your hand on your on

[42:17]your heart and you say saddam alaikum peace be upon you and

[42:20]this is my way of greeting if you had to if you

[42:24]were in a position that you had to you could be if

[42:29]you're wearing gloves then it's okay here scholars they say if it's

[42:32]extreme hamid if it's extreme you know it's something that is very

[42:38]difficult to endure something that's very difficult then it becomes hard but

[42:42]then this is the the law of Harwich where allah subhanaw taala

[42:46]does not want anyone to go through anything that's intolerable if you're

[42:50]starving in the desert and there's haram food then you would have

[42:54]to eat it so this law applies to everything it's not we're

[43:01]not just saying to shaking hands so this is this is the

[43:04]embarrassment if you tell yourself that I don't want to be embarrassed

[43:08]on the day of judgement then any embarrassment in this life will

[43:16]be okay when in that battle of tabuk some of them they

[43:19]were saying it's really hot so the Prophet tells them the Hellfire

[43:22]is much hotter keep that in mind the Hellfire is much hotter

[43:29]so how can I refrain from RIBA how can I refrain from

[43:32]backbiting this is a challenge some people they pray they fast they

[43:37]go to Hajj but there's one thing that they can't control and

[43:40]that's their tongue backbiting dancers don't do it 1/2 cup wah having

[43:46]table as telling yourself that allah subhanho wa taala is there Allah

[43:50]is watching me don't allow it if you see and how does

[43:58]Libra starts usually the people who are backbiting first they're attending the

[44:04]session where backbiting is going on so they're listening to other people

[44:08]they're listening they're listening and then they start also talking as children

[44:14]they start listening or use you you you want it becomes a

[44:16]habit once you start listening that seabeds when you're listening and when

[44:21]you're talking so one one person the one who's listening anyone who's

[44:25]sitting right away say let's change the topic right away stop this

[44:29]this is gossip this is immoral this is wrong and this is

[44:31]something that you have to stand against and it's according to traditions

[44:37]it is one of the kaabah era there is one of the

[44:40]great sins Reba backbiting Allah says in the Quran o hadouken and

[44:45]Allah if he may turn the character more does anyone like to

[44:52]eat the flesh of their brother when they're dead they can't defend

[44:55]themselves you're eating at their flesh do you like that no one

[44:58]likes to do that Allah says backbiting is the same backbiting is

[45:02]similar to that this person says something I have been struggling with

[45:08]this something I have been struggling with is tension in my family

[45:16]how can I fix this and learn to be more patient as

[45:19]we mentioned earlier one of our greatest obligations is to respect family

[45:27]and it's a test Allah says in the Quran Wakaba rabbuka and

[45:32]latamuda ya woman while edenia sana your Lord has your Lord has

[45:41]decreed that you don't worship anyone other than God and respect your

[45:46]parents it comes right after that and the reason why this is

[45:50]mentioned several times in the Quran M Maya blog Ananda calibre aahed

[46:00]Ohama Oklahoma philosopher Lama fny Latin Hara homopolymer Poland Karima when they

[46:07]become old don't even say off to them you know sometimes your

[46:12]parents tell you go do this for me don't mow the lawn

[46:18]go you know do something here and there and what are they

[46:22]what are some people say they'll do it but they'll say why

[46:28]do I have to do this Allah says in the Quran well

[46:30]at Oklahoma often in a hadith I believe from imam zain al-abideen

[46:36]alayhi salam he says that if there was anything less than this

[46:39]off the Quran would have mentioned it meaning that that's the least

[46:42]thing you could do now some people they start cursing they start

[46:48]talking back they start doing so much more so you have to

[46:51]tell yourself if this is a a something that starts tension in

[46:56]the family you have to tell yourself that this is my test

[47:00]this is something that I have to deal with and tell yourself

[47:06]that this is what God is testing me with God tests this

[47:09]person with something this person with another thing God is testing me

[47:12]with this do I show respect to the ones who cared for

[47:17]me loved me the ones who raised me or do I not

[47:21]now sometimes the parents are wrong in fact many times the parents

[47:25]are wrong however even if they're wrong you can't talk back to

[47:31]them these are the teachings of islam allah subhanaw taala wants us

[47:36]to respect our parents you give them the proper respect it doesn't

[47:41]mean you have to do everything they're telling you to do but

[47:46]you don't hurt them you don't disobey them where they become hurt

[47:50]so you have to make sure that you are always treating your

[47:54]parents with a son and in a hadith from imam sadiq ali

[48:02]salaam he says the person who the person who disobeys their parents

[48:09]allah subhanahu wata'ala will not accept this person's prayer even if the

[48:16]parents they are the volume even if the parents they are the

[48:20]oppressors well ho ma the whole Valley man what does this mean

[48:26]this means that you have to this is a test for you

[48:29]you have to treat them with their sign with kindness and even

[48:33]there are some verses in the Quran because some of the those

[48:35]who were becoming Muslim their parents were idol worshippers the Quran was

[48:40]these verses of respect to parents was when they are Idol worshipers

[48:43]even if their Idol worshipers you have to respect them but you

[48:46]don't obey them when they're telling you to disobey allah subhanaw taala

[48:49]because we have a general rule lapa attend Emma Luke FEMA Seattle

[48:56]conop you don't just you don't obey any creation at the expense

[49:01]of disobeying the Creator so you try to fix it by strengthening

[49:06]your relationship with your parents by talking to them by avoiding avoiding

[49:14]a topic that will ignite tension try to avoid that topic don't

[49:19]talk back try to put yourself in a happy mood where you

[49:23]don't have to talk about that don't start a topic a conversation

[49:31]that is going to cause problems for you people prioritizing culture over

[49:37]religion and marriage etc yes this is a challenge you see that

[49:41]when it comes to marriage a lot of religious people they forget

[49:46]their religion and they start going after culture we have to keep

[49:51]in mind that it is a loss of hano Matata that we

[49:55]have to please it's not the auntie and the grandma and whoever

[49:58]is attending the wedding they'll come if you didn't do this or

[50:02]if you didn't do that they're gonna complain anyways most of the

[50:05]time but you have to tell yourself I have to satisfy allah

[50:08]subhanaw taala I have to make sure that Allah subhana WA Ta'ala

[50:13]is satisfied with me and culture there's nothing wrong with cultures as

[50:19]long as culture does not go against religion you're allowed to express

[50:24]your culture you're allowed to celebrate in your way but the moment

[50:28]your culture starts going against what God is telling you to do

[50:31]then that becomes a challenge and you have to make sure that

[50:39]you prioritize your faith and prioritize a loss of Hanna Tala because

[50:43]it is Allah who will hold you accountable and it is Allah

[50:48]who will be rewarding you and it is a loss of Hannah

[50:50]Allah who we will have to stand in front of under their

[50:57]judgement Allah o yama is in bahaminy Bhavan I do inland muta

[51:00]Fein Allah says in the Quran all relationships will turn sour on

[51:08]the day of judgment relationships will turn into animosity on the day

[51:15]of judgment llame ephemeral min-hee well on me will be on the

[51:19]day of judgment the brothers they will say I don't know this

[51:23]brother anymore the mother she will let go of her son the

[51:25]father would let go of their children the children will let go

[51:30]of their parents why because on the day of judgment everyone wants

[51:33]to go into paradise everyone wants to be saved from the Hellfire

[51:37]but they'll come and they'll tell you listen you're not gonna go

[51:41]to heaven or you're going to be delayed five hundred thousand years

[51:45]because of this transaction that you did because you were trying to

[51:54]please this person then this person is going to say I wish

[51:57]I was not friends with this person yeah they eat any lemon

[52:04]at akkad rollin and Kalina only if I didn't take this person

[52:07]as a friend only if I didn't follow what they were telling

[52:12]me to do Allah we all man isn't Bottomly Bhavan I do

[52:15]Ellen what a pain the only relationship that will last until the

[52:21]day of judgement is a relationship that is based upon tawa upon

[52:26]piety your friends for the sake of Allah you were helping this

[52:30]person you were supporting this person for the sake of God you

[52:34]weren't colluding to do something Haram but you were together to do

[52:39]something good then that is it going to be a healthy relationship

[52:42]that you will be proud of and the same goes with culture

[52:47]and marriage or in whatever decision we make in life we have

[52:51]to make sure that we are pleasing Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala we

[52:54]got this question again how does one deal with being lonely and

[53:01]feeling lonely we mentioned family friends and of course there's a loss

[53:07]of Hana Hana the one who is there for everyone who's lonely

[53:10]the one who's there to listen to you when all others have

[53:16]shut the door in your face Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala Allah Allah

[53:20]that man envelope top terminal poop it is through the remembrance of

[53:27]Allah that the hearts will be at peace so if you're lonely

[53:29]and you see that you find it difficult to make friends you

[53:38]find it difficult to find good friends then you don't have to

[53:42]have friends at that particular time I'm your own minion Ali of

[53:46]nabi Talabani salaam all his friends were killed amar look dad look

[53:54]that wasn't I don't know if dad was killed but my dad

[53:59]died Malik Ashtar all of those good friends he stands in Kufa

[54:06]and he starts calling him he starts remembering them aina i'm erin

[54:10]what a nub not a johanna aina the shia detain where are

[54:12]those good friends that I had but then he says they all

[54:17]answered the call to Allah and they left this life Amir al-mumineen

[54:21]didn't have many friends Amira Nene he says being with the Haqq

[54:25]left Lee left me alone no one no one could stand the

[54:32]Justice of alia never thought it if that's the reason that you're

[54:36]alone then good for you but if you're alone because you don't

[54:41]have social skills then that's a different issue islam teaches us to

[54:47]have proper social skills be kind be generous invite people be giving

[54:52]smile with people these are all good things that the religion of

[54:58]Islam calls for if you don't have social skills try to work

[55:00]on those but if you do have and you don't have friends

[55:05]because of your religion that know that allah subhanaw taala is always

[55:09]a friend yarn or run most Ohashi nephilim a loss of a

[55:18]note Allah is the light of those or all along laziness that's

[55:23]all it says laziness I guess this person was too lazy to

[55:26]ask I'm just kidding I guess this Brit was too difficult to

[55:29]write down what is it anyways from what I understand is how

[55:36]to deal with Blasi Nisour what's the solution for laziness I don't

[55:41]know laziness is not encouraged you have this potential that allah subhanahu

[55:47]wa'ta'ala has given you a loss of hannah what allah has given

[55:54]you power Allah has given you mind Allah has given you energy

[55:57]you could do so much look at what so many people have

[56:03]accomplished so many people have accomplished so much every day they're working

[56:09]every every day they do something be productive my dear brothers and

[56:14]sisters especially during this kovat era during the stay at home order

[56:17]some people they just stayed at home they didn't do anything they

[56:19]didn't accomplish anything ask yourself what did you accomplish during this time

[56:25]it's summer what are you doing right now either find yourself studying

[56:33]find yourself teaching find yourself working find yourself doing something productive Amir

[56:40]al-mumineen he divides people he says people are in categories either eylem

[56:47]or much on them either you're a scholar that's teaching or you're

[56:54]learning last a billion a giant a loss of hanasanai wants us

[57:01]to be productive don't tell yourself oh it's I shouldn't do this

[57:04]and I shouldn't do that a lot of people right now they're

[57:07]just receiving unemployment benefits and they quit from their job the job

[57:11]is calling them telling them come back to work they say no

[57:18]I'm receiving my free money so we have to work my dear

[57:20]brothers and sisters in the long run working pays off more than

[57:25]sitting at home and not doing anything I'm you know I'm a

[57:28]man backer it has said that a mammal backer alehissalaam one day

[57:33]a man he saw a mammal battered out in the field he's

[57:36]farming he's working in the foreign and he's sweating he's sweating and

[57:44]you know the heat of Arabia the Imam Ali Saddam is working

[57:46]now a mammoth backer was a teacher and I'm and batgirl used

[57:48]to teach the highest levels of knowledge and I'm a banker was

[57:53]not a farmer but he used to go out and work he

[57:58]used to go out and plant and foreign so a man passes

[58:00]by and he sees a madman backward sweating he comes to him

[58:06]and he tells him yep never so Allah if you die like

[58:08]this what are people going to say you're killing yourself you're exhausting

[58:12]yourself you might die because you're out in the field working and

[58:19]I'm and Baca replies if I die in any other way while

[58:21]I'm at home relaxing and not doing anything what should I answer

[58:26]a Muslim I'm not tired meaning that there's no shame in working

[58:30]there's no shame in working your body working your mind going to

[58:35]doing things and a good Muslim a good movement is a hard

[58:42]worker I'm here on my knee Nadia blab you taught him he

[58:45]planted thousands of trees Amir al-mumineen he dug many wells probably hundreds

[58:55]of Wells amirul mumineen dug them in the Arabian Peninsula that was

[58:58]how a man Amir al-mumineen worked and he made money for that

[59:04]and the wealth that came to his children imam hassan and husayn

[59:07]a lot of it was because of the work their own work

[59:11]and the work of amir al-mu'minin he planned to trees and in

[59:15]Islam there is a beautiful rule where the is something that Islam

[59:21]brought Allah subhana WA Ta'ala says and the Quran not in the

[59:25]Quran the hadith of the Prophet Allah Rivoli la women America the

[59:32]earth belongs to God and whoever harvests harvest so if you're in

[59:37]the desert you go and you plant and you bring the water

[59:40]and you grow trees this land becomes yours according to Islam now

[59:45]today the government's they've taken everything and you know you have to

[59:51]go and buy and pay tax and Aslam says a lot of

[59:52]Allah when I'm in America you go out and you plant in

[59:56]this empty land that doesn't belong to anyone you didn't take it

[59:59]from anyone it was an empty land this land becomes yours so

[60:03]I'm not telling you of course to just go and take land

[60:05]right now because this will be against the law right now but

[60:11]this is the law that Islam would encourage and accept so laziness

[60:15]remove that from your life and our daily routine schedule when we

[60:21]have to wake up at fudger law and our prayer Megara banish

[60:26]our prayer the our prayer helps us schedule our day and that

[60:31]removes or should remove laziness daily challenges stay calm at all times

[60:40]so staying calm not being angry the the hadith says that anger

[60:45]burns the faith the same way fire burns the wood meaning anger

[60:53]will take away every good everything good that you've done you find

[60:57]some people they've worked so hard they've done so much but because

[61:00]they can't control their anger they do something which angers people and

[61:05]that is going to take away the love you have to control

[61:11]your anger the second is what to listen to in the car

[61:13]besides music I always listen to the podcasts lectures but what do

[61:24]you recommend instrumentals I mean podcasts lectures TED Talks anything that will

[61:31]benefit you benefit something benefits you for your acura like the Quran

[61:35]like lectures like Doha or something that helps you in this dunya

[61:39]you have a project you want to learn something regarding this dunya

[61:46]has something new listen to that listen to the news you'll be

[61:51]informed listening to music some people hours and hours go by and

[61:55]they're just listening to music and many times it's probably the same

[62:01]song so that's just wasting time you're wasting time you're not being

[62:05]productive how many hours are you behind the wheel and some states

[62:10]people they go one hour to work and then another hour coming

[62:13]back that's two hours every day you're in the car what are

[62:20]you listening to be productive during that time don't waste your time

[62:24]allah subhana wa ta'ala will hold you accountable and try to benefit

[62:27]from what you're listening to or you could be on the phone

[62:34]as long as you know you have the the driving what does

[62:36]it called the driving mode where the hands-free mode so you don't

[62:42]you know cause problems for yourself and for others call people call

[62:47]your friends call your family call your relatives and this is something

[62:51]that is encouraged fighting the urge to fight sins that everyone around

[62:55]you is doing for example listening to music and backbiting same thing

[62:59]my dear brothers and sisters don't fall for what other people are

[63:04]doing know that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the one who we

[63:07]have to please and these relationships they will turn sour if they're

[63:11]not based upon the satisfaction of allah subhanahu wata'ala wearing a job

[63:16]when you receive death threats people being rude to you your family

[63:24]not liking you wearing hijab I mean I don't think people receive

[63:29]death threats because of the hijab if your life is in danger

[63:34]than the loss change obviously but I don't think you know maybe

[63:41]someone tweeted something thousands of miles away on the Internet you know

[63:45]something generally we live in a free society where Muslim woman there

[63:50]practicing her job and her job is generally you know especially in

[63:54]Michigan here it's something that is you see it very frequent and

[64:01]something that is generally accepted so that shouldn't be the case if

[64:05]you're receiving death threats then the laws would change because preserving life

[64:10]is more important but I don't think that that even happens or

[64:15]if it does happen it's not a direct threat but people being

[64:19]rude to you yes that might happen or your family not liking

[64:24]you or her job let them not like it allah subhanho wa

[64:27]taala likes it a loss of Hannah no Tyler wants that from

[64:31]you are you going to do what your family wants or what

[64:35]allah subhanaw taala wants we mentioned earlier napa art endemic Luke FEMA

[64:40]CEO Tim Qaeda you can't obey the creation at the expense of

[64:44]disobeying the Creator so you have to make sure that Allah is

[64:50]happy with you Allah says in the Quran that become far they

[64:53]would ridicule they would make fun of the prophets and the manin

[64:56]Allah says that Allah who Astacio be him Allah makes one of

[65:02]them as well on the day of judgement they're going to feel

[65:05]that they made the wrong decision but don't make you don't make

[65:10]the wrong decision if other people are making the wrong decision and

[65:14]the other point is we have to my dear brothers and sisters

[65:19]we have to convince people why we do things when I'm praying

[65:22]when I'm fasting when I'm practicing her job and modesty I have

[65:26]to be convinced with it one and I have to convince other

[65:33]people in a proper way I have to let them know why

[65:35]I'm doing this why this makes sense if you do that if

[65:40]you talk with people kindly people will listen to you trust me

[65:44]you show them the flower to the manners of Islam people will

[65:51]accept you people are willing to change you just have to show

[65:55]them but if you're going to have a bad attitude and you're

[65:58]not going to be willing to show them then yes people are

[66:02]going to give you bad manners but we have many examples of

[66:05]individuals who were able to change the perception that others had towards

[66:13]them because of a flaw because of their manners because of their

[66:17]kindness because of what they did this person who's rude to you

[66:20]you go and you give them a gift you smile in their

[66:24]face you show them an act of kindness and you will see

[66:26]that they will change what do you think about a girl and

[66:34]guy being strictly friends being strictly friends what does it mean I

[66:39]mean if someone is going to break the laws of a job

[66:44]and the laws of modesty and chastity then it becomes how long

[66:48]but if they're in a place at school at work and they're

[66:51]they're socializing and they're socializing is not going any further there's no

[66:59]bad intentions behind it then and they're working on something productive for

[67:06]example they're working on a project they're working at something at the

[67:10]Masjid at school work then there's nothing wrong with that but just

[67:14]to find a friend where it's just a guy and girl they're

[67:18]going gow and they just want to go have lunch together they

[67:20]want to have dinner together they want to go out for you

[67:28]know one of these ice cream places here Shatila then I mean

[67:33]that's not going that's going to look like it's it's a little

[67:39]bit you know it wouldn't it probably wouldn't be allowed because what's

[67:43]the purpose behind this what's the purpose behind this going out yes

[67:47]if you're being productive if you're working on something a greater goal

[67:53]there is room for it to be allowed as long as the

[67:57]environment as long as you're not in a secluded place there's something

[68:01]called Kahlua meaning a man and a lady a boy girl they're

[68:06]together in a room where the door is locked or no one

[68:12]has access to them they're sitting in a room and the doors

[68:16]locked this is how long this is called Kahlua can you imagine

[68:20]a BIA meaning that someone who's she's not related to you she's

[68:25]not your wife and you're together here Shaitaan could come and estimate

[68:30]earth nan Kenneth Anitha Homa a Shaitaan if to gather the third

[68:37]will be Shaitaan now you might say I have pure intentions and

[68:40]this and that but if you do then you have to make

[68:44]sure that if you're gathering for a work for something work-related or

[68:48]anything then you have to make sure that you're gathered in a

[68:51]public place where nothing had on nothing indecent can happen don't give

[68:57]people the excuse even when people see you they're going to say

[69:03]either they're married or they're going to say something bad is going

[69:08]on don't allow people to assume that in you protect your own

[69:13]modesty protect your own you know your own image one day rasul

[69:18]allah sallallahu alayhi wa know he was walking with one of his

[69:21]wives he was walking and the muslims they saw the Prophet SAW

[69:24]Rasul Allah they saw the Prophet walking with a lady Rasul Allah

[69:30]right away he tells them this is my wife so they tell

[69:32]him you know so Allah no one assumed anything no one doubted

[69:37]in you he tells them yes but rahamallah and jab bellybutton FC

[69:44]may the mercy of Allah be upon the one who stops the

[69:49]D but don't give people the opportunity to talk about you to

[69:52]say look what she's doing look what he's doing so he tells

[69:54]them this is my wife so that no one could come in

[69:59]question but sort of muscle on the Hani here on I am

[70:04]struggling with properly getting to know somebody how do I go about

[70:11]it so you have to before getting to know someone this requires

[70:14]a full lecture in itself but before getting getting to know someone

[70:18]you have to know yourself and you have to know your your

[70:23]your own priorities the process of finding someone it helps you find

[70:31]yourself it helps you discover yourself what do you like what do

[70:37]you want if you want a girl who is out and you

[70:38]know going out and every day she's socializing at this hookah lounge

[70:42]and at this place then that's the type of person you are

[70:45]if the girl wants a guy who is also you know careless

[70:52]about their income and careless about their interactions and who they sit

[70:57]with and who they socialize with then that will also reveal themselves

[71:01]so you have to get to know yourself first make a list

[71:10]of priorities write down write down what you want in a person

[71:13]and then when you think of a person see if they meet

[71:19]these qualifications but you have to know what qualifications to prioritize and

[71:23]what to not prioritize from the Islamic perspective you should prioritize faith

[71:27]and you should prioritize Manners a clap because a person who has

[71:34]faith and a flock they're not going to harm you they're not

[71:38]going to hurt you they have their own moral principles knowing God

[71:50]beyond my intellect I understand it all with my mind but I

[71:55]struggle hanging knowing God beyond my intellect I understand it all with

[72:02]my mind but I struggle hanging on to faith I feel because

[72:07]I don't know how to connect with him through my heart so

[72:13]faith is a challenge faith is a it's a test for everyone

[72:19]and that's why it's called faith because if it was something that's

[72:23]right in front of you something that is that is very easy

[72:28]then it wouldn't be called faith anymore so faith is believing in

[72:33]something that your eyes don't see your senses don't feel but your

[72:37]heart senses it your mind senses it this is what faith is

[72:43]right now do you guys all have faith that a virus by

[72:46]the name of Corona exists the corona corona or kovat yes it's

[72:53]the corona virus do you all have faith that it exists yes

[72:58]because scientists are telling us that it exists have we seen it

[73:04]no we have not seen it but we believe that it exists

[73:09]we have faith that it exists and therefore because we have faith

[73:13]that exists you're all wearing masks we're practicing social distancing we're being

[73:18]very careful we keep pumping the hand sanitizer in our hands and

[73:24]we're very careful because we have faith in what the scientists and

[73:29]what experts are telling us same with allah subhanaw taala when your

[73:33]heart and your mind tells you that how is there so much

[73:36]structure in this universe who created all of this this is allah

[73:44]subhanaw taala so once you believe in that tell yourself that there's

[73:49]accountability there's a saab allah subhanaw taala will hold people accountable and

[73:54]slowly your faith will grow and faith is not a light switch

[73:56]where you switch it on and off it's a process you have

[73:59]to begin you have to work on that process this is why

[74:02]we pray this is why we pray five times a day this

[74:06]is why we do with Lu this is why we go to

[74:08]Hajj this why we fasted Ramadan this is why we read Quran

[74:10]because everything that we do strengthens our faith challenging practicing Nos yes

[74:24]brother yes so Shaitaan tries to take us away from faith and

[74:35]Shaitaan his whole mission and his old objective is to make us

[74:43]lose faith in allah subhanaw taala by making us look at this

[74:47]dunya follow our desires but we have to have faith in allah

[74:51]subhanaw taala because allah says in the quran yeah I don't home

[74:56]escape on Lamai yeah I don't mom in la flora Shaitaan makes

[75:02]promises but he makes false promises he's trying to fool you who

[75:05]should I trust should I trust the one who created me the

[75:09]one who gave me everything that I have the one who loved

[75:11]me the one who nourished me in the womb of my mother

[75:15]the one who provided for me when all others shut me out

[75:18]or should I trust Shaitaan who wants to take me away from

[75:24]paradise I have to trust a loss of Hana Hana and when

[75:28]I tell myself that Allah is the one who has the blessings

[75:31]and the favour upon me then therefore my faith will slowly increase

[75:36]in allah subhanaw taala at that time okay challenges practicing a class

[75:43]and every day insecurity and loneliness once again so a class mean

[75:48]being genuine to allah subhanahu wata'ala being genuine to allah subhanaw taala

[75:55]being genuine in your faith if you constantly remind yourself that God

[76:03]is watching you right now you came to the Masjid did you

[76:06]come for other people there or did you come for God you

[76:08]whatever you do in your life you're you're doing you're bringing a

[76:13]cup of water to your parents are you doing that for other

[76:15]people are for allah subhanaw taala make sure that any act of

[76:20]good that you do in life tell yourself that this is for

[76:22]a loss of high note Allah make God a part of the

[76:26]equation make God a part of your life that is how you

[76:28]practice a class once Allah becomes a part of your life in

[76:34]times of struggle you tell yourself God can help me out of

[76:35]this in times of need you tell yourself God can help me

[76:40]out of this in all times you tell yourself God make God

[76:43]a part of the equation like Ameer al-mumineen he says I do

[76:47]not see anything except I see God within it before it and

[76:52]after it and therefore God becomes a part of your life God

[76:55]becomes a part of the equation and you will start having a

[76:59]class you will start doing things for allah subhanaw taala the last

[77:05]thing it says it's an Arabic are the socks I assume that

[77:09]it's for the ladies are they obligatory this is an issue where

[77:16]some scholars are have difference in opinion but the it's the obligatory

[77:22]precaution from what I believe is that the the top of the

[77:25]feet should be covered and that is also out of precaution it

[77:32]should be covered otherwise the the head job they say that the

[77:37]what's allowed to be revealed is the face and the hands other

[77:41]than that the body should be covered and the feet as well

[77:46]so with that we end and we ask Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala

[77:53]to bless you all and make us from the ones who are

[77:55]able to make sound decisions in our lives levena a tribunal bone

[78:02]fair table una escena well hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen was Allah muhammadun

[78:08]wada pav Harry

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