Love, Loyalty, & Leadership: Lessons from Khadija (as)

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[0:24]forchech.

[1:06]Alhamdulillah.

[1:21]for Alhamdulillah.

[2:15]for Allah.

[2:51]for what?

[3:12]What's foreign.

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[4:50]What do I make?

[5:28]Alhamdulillah.

[5:45]Alhamdulillah.

[5:52]Alhamdulillah.

[6:10]Alhamdulillah.

[6:23]Fore sher.

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[7:18]foreign speech.

[7:57]Alhamdulillah.

[8:16]Alhamdulillah.

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[8:57]for alhamdulillah.

[9:38]Alhamdulillah.

[9:51]forch.

[10:21]for this.

[10:42]What?

[10:59]Allah for Hussein Hussein Aliham [singing] Ali.

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[16:40]Do we care?

[16:48]Allah for the hero.

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[25:47]a Alhamdulillah.

[26:14]Alhamdulillah.

[26:25]Muhammad.

[26:47]Allah.

[26:52]for foral.

[27:48][clears throat] foreign.

[28:19]Respected brothers, respected scholars, brothers and sisters.

[28:49]History knows remembers conquerors.

[28:55]Revelation remembers.

[28:59]Before there was an army and before there were followers and before

[29:07]there were multitudes of loyal supporters, there was one woman.

[29:11]She stood with him despite him being claimed and called delusional.

[29:18]And she stood with him to the very end.

[29:25]Such that he said in very strict bold words, "Had it not

[29:28]been for the sword of Ali and the wealth of Khadijah, Islam

[29:34]would have perished." Tonight, we don't only honor a woman who came

[29:39]in history and left her mark in history.

[29:42]We honor a woman who left one of the biggest marks in

[29:45]Islam.

[29:46]Who left a impact that till today reverberate in its influence, in

[29:53]its sacrifice, in its loyalty, in its obedience.

[29:57]Despite the whole world going one way, she stood firm because she

[30:04]knew wherever the truth goes, I go that way.

[30:05]And it doesn't matter whether the numbers are on our side, the

[30:11]media is on our side, whether we have money or not.

[30:14]Everything we have comes from God.

[30:18]And if God is with you, nothing can destroy you.

[30:20]Such was the legacy, the epicness of She generally speaking is cocooned

[30:35]to her role as the wife of the holy prophet of Islam.

[30:40]Whereas earned that title and earned that status by taking the initiative

[30:45]on multiple fronts.

[30:45]Oftent times there are social standards for how a upright woman ought

[30:51]to behave in society especially when it comes to her potential prospect

[30:59]and her future.

[30:58]Say understands that the role of society is not in favor of

[31:05]women.

[31:05]At that time period you were lucky to be born alive.

[31:07]It was rather the case that if you were born to a

[31:11]family who had a degree of intelligence, they would consider not bearing

[31:16]you alive, as the Holy Quran records for us.

[31:22]And if the infant child on the day of judgment comes forth,

[31:26]she will say, "For what crime was I killed, burying me alive?"

[31:29]What's the deal here?

[31:30]misogynistic, backward, hated, very vile, oppressive, barbaric, bloodthirsty society is not going

[31:41]to look out for the best interest of a lady upright, pious,

[31:47]god-fearing, chasteed, modest such as a khadijah.

[31:52]But she played her cards right.

[31:53]See, lady, she is known to be very wealthy and successful, entrepreneurial

[31:58]if one might even describe her.

[32:00]But that didn't come out of the blue and it's not simply

[32:05]a matter of inheritance as many historians and orientalists have reached a

[32:08]conclusion towards that she became very successful because of you know her

[32:12]father and his father and so forth to because she is also

[32:21]a distant relative cousin to Allah.

[32:23]They meet in the grandfather, the common grandfather by the name of

[32:28]see he isoolahbin Hashim if I can go on I I'll take

[32:46]too long but so he's about six generations back she meets back

[32:49]at that same grandfather as well her greatgrandfather father when he passed

[32:55]he left behind that massive inheritance that then generationally went down.

[33:01]The thing that's impressive isn't the fact that she just got this

[33:03]much money and dealt with it.

[33:07]Is the management of that such that she made it into a

[33:13]successful ongoing and passive incomedriven business whereby she would simply be recognized

[33:18]as the most wealthy woman of all of Quraysh.

[33:23]One hadith by the book alum mentions this book is a nonia

[33:27]historian but he just simply dictates and shows us look at the

[33:32]wealth that she amassed it's not a matter of it's just standard

[33:35]history say according to one tradition owned has a this is a

[33:42]very bizarre number because each one of these is tantamount to a

[33:46]car today 80,000 camels a camel back then if you owned it

[33:52]and you didn't rent It it was like you could say, let's

[33:54]call it like a G Wagon because it lives very long, minimal

[33:59]maintenance, although G Wagons need a lot of maintenance.

[34:02]I don't know how I know, but I just hear and uh

[34:06]the insurance is high and this and that.

[34:06]This was extremely valuable and especially the different qualities and types there

[34:11]are out there.

[34:13]She owned 80,000 of these and so she would rent them out

[34:15]to businesses, to people that needed them.

[34:18]She would also have the caravan and she was the dictator of

[34:23]this business.

[34:22]She would dictate as such and she would make wise decisions.

[34:27]That's what's impressive that it's not a matter of inheritance.

[34:29]So people inherit.

[34:31]If a father has one lone daughter, she's going to inherit everything.

[34:35]But what was impeccable is that even though her father left the

[34:39]world when she was a young age, was her father by the

[34:45]name of kind of reminds you of the uh mother of immorts

[34:51]back then however and so her father passed in one of the

[34:56]early wars in the period of Islam and she grew up an

[34:58]orphan.

[34:59]These are common things that one can imagine would be something they

[35:04]could bond with.

[35:06]She grew up an orphan.

[35:07]Allah grows up an orphan.

[35:10]They share common denominators.

[35:11]They are distant relatives as well.

[35:14]Yes, she inherits this but she manages to make it expand exponentially.

[35:19]She invests it properly.

[35:21]She doesn't rob or cheat or steal or use interest and usery

[35:26]to make it difficult on others.

[35:28]She maintained such a successful business that she was completely independent in

[35:34]her own life choices such that she was called.

[35:37]She's if you look at her, she's pretty much a princess.

[35:40]Where did her wealth come from?

[35:41]She made it.

[35:43]She got it.

[35:44]She amassed it.

[35:44]Not only that, another famous well-known title of hers, and this one's

[35:51]impeccable.

[35:50]Pre-Islam, she's called Yeah.

[35:53]I mean, where's Tahara pre-Islam?

[35:54]Show me.

[35:55]I can't find a single one except a few households.

[35:58]Ali and then for example imminad show me pre-Islam they had no

[36:07]concept or conceptualization of purity be it spiritually nor physically and then

[36:14]to be titled that you're not given titles nor accolades unless this

[36:18]is something that has merged into your identity we call it it

[36:23]has merged in her qualities that she no she's if you in

[36:28]Mecca.

[36:29]Oh, you're talking about aren't you?

[36:31]She's pure.

[36:32]Impurities never reached her.

[36:33]Alcohol was never around her.

[36:35]She would always be upright.

[36:39]And furthermore, she followed the path of Abraham.

[36:43]She never came near idolatry.

[36:46]And she was that unique.

[36:48]It's in fact quite bizarre to see this.

[36:51]Unless the hand of God is behind this.

[36:55]Allahel is tailoring her.

[36:56]One hadith mentions that a monk emerged and began to foretell a

[37:03]group of women who were gathered at one point and he said

[37:06]to these women in Mecca that you women it is perhaps the

[37:10]case and this was a monk who would have access to ancient

[37:13]scripture.

[37:13]By the way, till today we have some of these scripture and

[37:17]even back then they had more access to it where it foretells

[37:22]the coming of a last final messenger from the town and city

[37:26]of Mecca in that Pan Valley as according to the Old Testament

[37:33]that God showed his manifestation on Mount Pan.

[37:35]These are all references but to them the early monks they had

[37:40]direct access to these scripture and it mentions that there will be

[37:44]a final messenger one of you woman would marry him.

[37:48]The other women took this as some kind of joke.

[37:49]Khadijah remembered this.

[37:53]She recalled this and many people raise question that for her age

[37:58]to not be married is quite bizarre is out of the ordinary.

[38:05]She would be about the age of 28 years old, single, but

[38:07]by her own accord.

[38:10]It's her own choice.

[38:10]She's no one's no one's forcing her.

[38:13]She's her own woman.

[38:15]She can make her own decisions.

[38:17]And many historians reach a conclusion that it's not because of her

[38:21]social status necessarily because what there are other men who are rich.

[38:26]Abu Sufyan actually proposed to her.

[38:28]Yuck.

[38:29]Abu Sufyan, Muawi's dad, proposed to someone known as you.

[38:33]You can see the rejection letter came in flying like that.

[38:37]It's because of her high standards.

[38:42]And it's interesting to see that Khadijah's standards were so important and

[38:50]they were so to her necessary that she is willing to postpone

[38:54]ever getting married if unless I find these standards.

[38:58]It wasn't a matter of preference rather it was conditional and you're

[39:02]entitled to have preferences.

[39:03]No one's going to blame you for having a preference from perhaps

[39:06]a certain region of the world certain for example profession that one

[39:11]entertains certain age range.

[39:14]These are all preferences but there are conditions and these conditions she

[39:18]did not compromise with.

[39:20]Some of these conditions involved period it would be a lottery to

[39:27]find someone who had some sort of was non-existent.

[39:29]No way.

[39:31]Back then racism they would be extremely drunkered gambling was common.

[39:39]Unfortunately exposure people would not really dress.

[39:40]The Quran records for us a glimpse that they would do circabulating

[39:47]the cabba unclod what left the window exited the chat in Mecca

[39:51]pre-Islam where was that to her that's conditional you can be as

[39:54]good-looking you can be very wealthy you could be strong you can

[39:59]own a lot of like you can sway you can try swaying

[40:01]hey I have thousands of uh horses and camels and livestock oh

[40:06]yeah well I have 80,000 that's not going to win me over

[40:08]plus she's not materialistic her standards which is a lesson to us

[40:12]both men and women by the way that if it comes to

[40:17]the case of standards never compromise Dean is something you should never

[40:20]compromise in be in any aspect of life be it for a

[40:25]potential prospect for marriage or be it for someone that you're willing

[40:28]to get closer with business-wise familial you can entertain their world but

[40:34]there are certain exemptions that if a person does not fear God

[40:38]they're not going to fear viol violating God when it comes to

[40:42]you.

[40:42]If they disobey God, what?

[40:43]They're not going to disobey you.

[40:45]These are things you can't be naive to.

[40:47]Preferences you're entitled to have, but the priority goes to these conditions.

[40:52]And asoolah says, do you know who that criteria is faith and

[40:59]you can have, but if you don't have faith, it doesn't match.

[41:02]But you can have faith.

[41:06]Where's the they have to be symbiotic, brothers and sisters.

[41:08]say because of that she delayed it which was bizarre 28 what

[41:13]are you talking about that you hear about children getting married at

[41:15]that time period 6 years old 9 years old 10 years old

[41:17]you know 11 years old there was a famous story by the

[41:21]way where a young man I don't want to even call him

[41:26]a man a young boy got married at 10 in the period

[41:28]pre-Islam he had his child at 11 and then when he became

[41:35]21 years old his child became 11 and he had a child.

[41:42]He became a granddad at about 21 22 a grandpa and he's

[41:47]going to community college.

[41:48]That that was then you have an upright chase lady at her

[41:54]in her late 20s.

[41:56]It is a matter that is interesting in the school of we

[42:01]reject the historical analysis that she was in her late 40s or

[42:04]in her 40s.

[42:05]To us, by the way, it doesn't make a difference.

[42:07]Her status is her status.

[42:08]It doesn't affect us whether she's 40, whether she's 28.

[42:12]But we're more concerned for the truth.

[42:15]And historically speaking, it does not consist with the history that she

[42:20]would be 40.

[42:20]Because here are a few reasons why.

[42:21]In her life, Alam from the time she was born, you're we

[42:27]know for a fact 5007 578 of the common era of the

[42:35]current calendar.

[42:36]500 rather 568 of the common era.

[42:40]She is born 3 years before Allah 571 of the common era

[42:43]and we know exactly when she died.

[42:45]She died in those last three years of the Medkin period such

[42:51]that we mentioned last night it would be referred to as the

[42:54]year of grief of of the same year Abu Talib died.

[42:58]So we know these two numbers but there was an attempt especially

[43:01]by those who would concoct traditions to for them it would be

[43:08]belittling that is an elderly lady and so they would make her

[43:13]older for first of all it doesn't change a thing for us

[43:16]whether she's older whether she's not but we're more concerned for the

[43:20]truth.

[43:19]Furthermore she was not previously married brothers and sisters nothing in history

[43:24]has proven this.

[43:26]It's all speculation.

[43:25]She did not previously get married, nor did she get divorced from

[43:29]that marriage, nor did she have a pre-existing child from that marriage.

[43:32]And then she married Allah.

[43:36]But the disclaimer is this still does not change anything.

[43:38]Even if she was, what's so wrong about that?

[43:40]Even if she was, she moved on from a that doesn't change.

[43:45]But for us, we understand the intention behind many of these claims

[43:49]that there were certain partners of the holy prophet of Islam that

[43:54]sought to bring down the status of a khadijah and in their

[44:00]limited understanding.

[43:58]One way to do so is to adjust some of the societal

[44:06]expectations of what is beauty.

[44:08]Make her older, make her a divorce.

[44:10]Well, earth to you, a divorce is not someone who loses status

[44:13]in the eyes of God.

[44:15]So, what does that even mean?

[44:16]Someone who's older doesn't mean that they're less significant in the eyes

[44:20]of Allah.

[44:21]What why are you even attempting that for us?

[44:22]It's more about let's find the actual truth.

[44:25]And more consistent to the historical record was that she was 28

[44:29]while the prophet was 25.

[44:35]And she noticed that time moved on and that there was this

[44:40]individual outstanding in his character, impeccable in his remember it was about

[44:48]character, morale and ethics, never once known to cheese, never once known

[44:51]to steal, never once known to use profanity.

[44:54]That's his status.

[44:57]And so she consulted one of her closest friends.

[45:02]And this is a way that we now understand is an approved

[45:05]manner to go and inquire about others.

[45:07]That she asked her friend by the name of a nephisa.

[45:15]Nafisa understands that she has a a brother Mes who would go

[45:21]with the prophet during some of these caravan trades.

[45:26]And so see she said let me inquire from my brother how

[45:30]he is like because I don't see him but I know my

[45:35]brother does.

[45:36]Now do you see the barriers between andoolah people a friend and

[45:41]a brother not this directness that many people have unfortunately been desensitized

[45:47]to that the best way to go and understand from someone if

[45:50]it is appropriate if it is befitting if it's done with consent

[45:56]of families then there are ways to do that and halal but

[45:58]the majority of ways these are conducted are you're just sliding into

[46:03]DMs if you are personal messaging, direct messaging, the same and rules

[46:10]and and Jewish students apply like you would if you were talking

[46:14]to them in person.

[46:14]Don't send emojis that are and haram like you wouldn't say words

[46:19]that are and haram.

[46:18]Don't try to be flirtatious.

[46:22]That is haram.

[46:21]What if it doesn't go through and you flirted?

[46:24]What are you, Mr.

[46:24]Smooth?

[46:25]What are you doing?

[46:27]The the girls probably grossed out and weirded out, too.

[46:29]And sometimes, brothers and sisters, if you forget these messages, they stay

[46:34]that one day Allah is going to bless you inshallah with a

[46:38]potential prospect.

[46:37]What about these messages that pre-exist now?

[46:39]Do they come back to haunt you?

[46:40]They're going to come back to haunt you.

[46:42]I mean, take it easy, man.

[46:43]Social media people take screenshots.

[46:45]Don't send pictures.

[46:48]Don't entertain things.

[46:48]Don't talk.

[46:50]Don't I have to say it it's horrible.

[46:52]I've had a case where a brother came and he was paranoid

[46:54]saying I found the one but there's this haunting me saying you

[46:59]can't delete it no I can't what if I delete it that

[47:03]she has it and she's angry at me why is she angry

[47:04]at you because she found out I was learning about her while

[47:09]I was talking to her and I was I was looking at

[47:13]both my options whose fault is that I mean I can't save

[47:14]you here be honest be open there were mistakes that were made

[47:18]and just move on here but there are ways to do this

[47:20]one the best ways is this manner this protocol, this metric that

[47:27]you implore someone who has who cares about you that that someone

[47:32]implores their brother who's a friend of them.

[47:36]That is the mostal clean way ever whereby you're not directly getting

[47:41]involved lest you say something haram.

[47:44]We have a hadith.

[47:44]Whoever uses out of place language with the opposite gender.

[47:56]Allah will imprison them with every word.

[48:00]Sorry, y word.

[48:03]I wish it was word.

[48:02]With every letter f 1,000 years.

[48:08]So it's like, "Hey girl," and then H E Y.

[48:12]That's three.

[48:13]So that's 3,000 years.

[48:14]I'm doing the math here.

[48:18]Girl, he probably spelled it wrong.

[48:19]Gu L.

[48:21]So 1 2 3 4.

[48:21]So three plus four.

[48:24]That's seven.

[48:23]7,000 years.

[48:25]Enjoy it, mate.

[48:27]Hold on.

[48:26]Very nice.

[48:27]That good.

[48:28]Good on you, bro.

[48:28]It's like have some decency.

[48:32]Have some masculine prerogative.

[48:33]And I know I'm I'm I'm I'm bashing the boys here and

[48:36]the guys here.

[48:38]I'm not going to entertain what goes on in the sister world.

[48:40]I don't know.

[48:42]But I suppose we have equal fights as well.

[48:45]So what goes on here must go on here sometimes.

[48:49]But let's not judge.

[48:49]In this case, Islam has emphasized confidentiality, privacy.

[48:52]You're not a billboard and you have value.

[48:55]You have sanctity.

[48:57]You're not someone that just tries and goes and people can try

[48:59]on you and go.

[49:01]That doesn't work this way.

[49:02]The halal and most clean clear way is through mutual contacts who

[49:06]have your best interest in mind.

[49:08]They're not billboards.

[49:10]Al also one brother once told me he said I asked my

[49:12]aunt if you can keep an eye out there.

[49:14]She just texted the group chat with all the community members in

[49:19]it too and she put his image.

[49:21]It was a billboard advertisement 27 named this works this.

[49:25]Sometimes he doesn't send messages but he will remember you this and

[49:29]that that he's like I was embarrassed I was exposed.

[49:32]I'm like hey you first do your due diligence man okay you

[49:37]have to figure figure out the source that you go to.

[49:39]Some of the best source is uh a community member that you

[49:45]is known for known for contacts and network.

[49:48]These are things you can do as well to keep in mind.

[49:50]Family is also very good but you have to do your homework

[49:53]at the same time.

[49:53]You don't want to go down Ford Road and see a big

[49:57]billboard with your face on it and single if you're interested call.

[50:00]He really needs help or she really needs help.

[50:03]Or there are websites Musm I'm going too far into this muz

[50:06]match.

[50:07]I once saw a website called Shia match and there was a

[50:13]a brother showed me it was there was a section because it's

[50:16]all about who you are your profile.

[50:18]One of the sections said which med if this person follows.

[50:20]This person showed me he's like this individual says none like also

[50:24]there are their own mush head here all of a sudden.

[50:26]Yeah people the lengths people go is quite bizarre.

[50:30]It's easier than that.

[50:30]Don't go that far.

[50:32]Ask a member of the community who's known to maintain privacy for

[50:36]you that you can trust an upright figure this and that.

[50:41]You look at the model that she laid out asks her close

[50:44]friend who she knows is trustworthy who can ask her brother.

[50:48]So it's still within the control of communication who then says I

[50:54]suggest something go and dispatch another caravan.

[50:56]Even if you've heard things this is the other lesson it's interesting

[51:00]even she heard after all that she was informed she says let's

[51:03]still give it a shot in the sense of try one more

[51:07]attempt in figuring him out.

[51:08]How do you know if someone is who they claim to be?

[51:13]By traveling with them.

[51:14]Travel with someone brothers and sisters.

[51:16]their true color show.

[51:19]It's genuinely the best way to learn more about someone.

[51:22]You know why?

[51:24]Because when they get little sleep and they be get a bit

[51:27]fatigued and they become a bit stubborn and they lose patience, that

[51:30]character that was so calm and patient suddenly begins to crumble and

[51:36]they might snap one moment.

[51:37]Then do you want that?

[51:37]How would you discover that?

[51:41]I remember going to hydr 2019.

[51:43]We had to share a room and each room had three beds

[51:46]and so me and a brother and then we had a spare

[51:51]bed and we decided who could we let come with us.

[51:55]We want the quietest person.

[51:56]Not someone who is known to talk, not someone who's going to

[51:59]bother us.

[52:00]Yeah, find the quietest person.

[52:01]We found the quietest person in the hamlet in the group.

[52:05]This person never speaks a word.

[52:06]I don't even think he knows how to talk.

[52:08]But when you talk to him, you can barely hear him.

[52:12]He makes dua like this.

[52:12]That's how he talks.

[52:14]One day as we're sleeping, the room next door, the guy is

[52:21]smoking.

[52:19]The guy that we have that we brought, thinking he's the quietest,

[52:24]easygoing, not going to bother us is going to let us sleep,

[52:27]has a hate to cigarette smoke.

[52:29]And suddenly he gets up and he opens the door.

[52:32]And we're thinking he's going to go say, "Awan knocks on the

[52:36]door.

[52:36]Could you not smoke?

[52:37]We're next door.

[52:39]We can smell it." Suddenly, he screams.

[52:40]He begins to yell from the top of his lung, "How dare

[52:46]you smoke?

[52:47]We're next door.

[52:47]Don't you know I have a I guess allergy to smoke?

[52:51]We're in Mecca." And his veins are showing and he's fatigued and

[52:55]he's screaming.

[52:56]The guy comes out, "Who are you to yell at me?" And

[52:58]they're about to fight and the cabba is right there.

[52:59]We had to break it up.

[53:02]What's going on?

[53:01]And then after we calm things down, I looked at my friend.

[53:04]I thought you said you brought the quietest guy ever.

[53:06]He's like, "I didn't know he had the capability to scream." Subhan

[53:11]Allah.

[53:10]Very loud.

[53:11]What happened when you travel with them?

[53:14]When you learn imbal says this beautifully in cases where circumstances change,

[53:28]the true reality of men show.

[53:30]Change his zone.

[53:29]Test him a bit.

[53:31]Push him a bit.

[53:32]Then you'll see what he's really like.

[53:33]if he's still patient, if he's forbarent, that's going to be someone

[53:37]who's going to be tolerant of kids that will scream one day.

[53:42]Or a woman who's not going to snap when one day, for

[53:44]example, her husband comes home a bit late or suspicion happens, but

[53:50]it was just jumping to conclusions.

[53:51]Change the environment just a little bit because this is what you

[53:54]see is what you're used to seeing and what they're used to

[53:57]dealing with.

[53:58]They've truly ironed out and solidified their situation, changed that situation a

[54:04]bit.

[54:04]She says, "Let's send them on another caravan trip where they go

[54:07]to Sham.

[54:09]You may accompany him.

[54:10]See what he's like.

[54:11]Does he rob people?

[54:12]Does he cheat people?" We know he's called the truthful and am

[54:17]as well trustworthy.

[54:17]But just see him cuz this is where a true color shows

[54:23]after the month journey has passed.

[54:24]I say, "Look how long she's willing to wait too." Not, let's

[54:30]give it a month.

[54:31]I don't even care.

[54:31]There's a hikma that says if a person waits all their life,

[54:37]half their life for the potential prospect that they would not have

[54:41]wasted their time.

[54:41]You're talking about someone who's going to carry on your legacy and

[54:46]is going to change and raise your descendants.

[54:49]After the month passed, she inquired through her brother, what's the status

[54:56]update on this man?

[54:56]And he replied by saying, "Wallah, he shocked me." No man has

[55:05]ever done business the way he does.

[55:07]How?

[55:08]He says, "Most people, they scam a bit.

[55:12]They steal a bit.

[55:12]When they trade spices, they might add pebbles in the bottom of

[55:15]the bag to make the bag heavier." He double checks that container,

[55:23]making sure there was nothing.

[55:25]He once found a twig.

[55:25]He threw that out.

[55:28]He does not cheat for a little bit more money.

[55:32]And him, because he doesn't cheat, he somehow still gets more profit

[55:37]than the most than the majority of others.

[55:40]Him, while not cheating, still manages to get the most yield in

[55:44]the business transactions.

[55:44]You would think someone who's so truthful with the market and how

[55:48]it's played will get the market quality and the market return and

[55:54]yield on investment.

[55:53]He gets more than that.

[55:54]and he doesn't cheat.

[55:57]That was quite impressive.

[55:57]Furthermore, he has upright.

[56:00]He met with Christians and Jews and he treats them like he

[56:03]treats the others that were with him.

[56:05]There was another thing I noticed while others bowed down to Allah

[56:08]and the small idols they brought.

[56:11]He's out in the distance looking up in the sky.

[56:16]And when it was very sunny, oh, when it was very sunny

[56:19]and everyone had to shade themselves with like makeshift umbrellas, he didn't

[56:24]have any.

[56:26]Why is that?

[56:28]Because Allah as if would send a cloud over his head to

[56:31]shade him.

[56:33]It's like the universe loves him that he would go outside, no

[56:38]need to cover his own head.

[56:40]The clouds would formulate above him.

[56:42]Everyone loved him.

[56:42]He was so honest and truthful.

[56:45]Not only that, no one could take advantage of him.

[56:47]He knows business properly.

[56:50]When they would all marry make at night and drink, he's standing

[56:53]over there by himself alone thinking, reflecting.

[56:58]I have never seen a man like him before says then I

[57:01]am open to marrying him finally.

[57:02]Oh, go and tell your brother a proposal has happened.

[57:08]Typically, what you should you do?

[57:10]Go talk to your dad.

[57:11]her dad had passed away.

[57:11]She speaks to her uncle and her uncle the problem is Allah's

[57:17]dad is also not around.

[57:21]So he speaks to his dad archetype and you know who that

[57:27]is practically his father and they meet together and they instantly agree

[57:34]that this union should happen.

[57:36]Look at this foresight.

[57:39]Despite her being older by three years, despite her being the one

[57:43]that initiated the proposal, despite her being wealthy, the hadith says the

[57:48]response from the prophet said, "Me when I am a poor man

[57:51]and she is someone who is well off, why would I be

[57:55]of interest?" The response came back, "It's not because you're poor.

[57:58]It's because you're rich in the eye of allahel.

[58:01]You're rich in you're rich in demeanor.

[58:04]Who cares about wealth?" This is also a lesson for us today.

[58:07]Who cares about this?

[58:10]It's in's hands.

[58:10]Allah who gave you can take away your but the true is

[58:17]morality.

[58:18]That's valuable.

[58:17]How many couples would pay that the other partner has a bit

[58:23]more patience that's true wealth more foresight more sympathy more compassion more

[58:28]empathy more passion.

[58:30]These are invaluable.

[58:30]Who cares how much they have?

[58:31]I mean that's going to be torture in three years time when

[58:35]you buy all the purses when you buy all the G wagons

[58:36]when you buy all the houses when you buy all of this

[58:41]that dictator that in your house what about him could you buy

[58:47]for that person you can't and even then Allah will give because

[58:51]Allah does not let his chosen servants on this dunya doing his

[58:54]good work on this dunya suffer and if there is suffering it's

[58:59]for our own benefit because no pain no gain brothers and sisters

[59:02]And says, "It's not because you report.

[59:04]I don't look at what you have.

[59:06]I look at your relationship between you and Allah." And that was

[59:09]impeccable.

[59:10]They get together.

[59:14]Say's uncle Allah's Yes, you can say his father Abu Talib his

[59:18]uncle as well.

[59:21]And Abu Talib begins to preach.

[59:22]We skimmed through the of their wedding.

[59:25]Abu Talib said say the he tried to speak.

[59:28]He couldn't.

[59:30]The hadith said he had a state of awe.

[59:35]Interesting where the father potential father-in-law is in a state of awe.

[59:38]He couldn't talk.

[59:40]He was just he sees someone like and he sees someone like

[59:42]Allah and he knows the family they come from.

[59:44]He just was I guess insecure which is out of the ordinary

[59:47]in the state says I will speak and so she spoke on

[59:51]her own as you could say and she began to speak about

[59:57]the merits of her family his family and she spoke on her

[60:03]and not just that the mah of the relationship was on her.

[60:06]She paid for her own mah breaking social taboo one after the

[60:10]other like a domino effect.

[60:14]impeccable outstanding.

[60:14]Why?

[60:14]And then they made fun of the uncle of Khadijah.

[60:19]They said, "Your niece, we've never seen women pay for their own

[60:22]mahar." And he said, "But you've never seen a man like Muhammad

[60:25]sallallahu alaihi wasallam." >> Trust me, him it's worth all the treasures

[60:33]of this dunya.

[60:36]Brothers and sisters, tonight we honor her.

[60:39]We remember her sacrifices.

[60:40]The emphasis that she gave in the sake for the religion of

[60:44]Islam for its life.

[60:47]She was its lifeline.

[60:46]Say Khadijah was the best support to the prophet he could ever

[60:50]have besides Im Alib.

[60:53]And when he would feel low, do you know what she would

[60:58]do?

[60:55]She would recite poetry to him to uplift him.

[60:59]Some of the most beautiful poetry you've ever seen.

[61:03]A true relationship is like this.

[61:05]where one remembers the other in beautiful words and uplifts the other's

[61:09]mood despite the hurdles of society.

[61:13]The Bihar mentions one of her lines of poetry.

[61:20]If I had all the blessings on this earth and I had

[61:29]everything this earth had to offer and the kingdoms of all the

[61:32]Caesars, To me, none of that is worth the wing of a

[61:42]mosquito.

[61:45]If my eye was not looking at your eye, all of this

[61:49]is useless.

[61:50]Yahoo Allah, look at the deep love.

[61:52]Look at the affection.

[61:52]Look at the care.

[61:55]Look at listen to me.

[61:56]Riches, gold, this and that is not worth anything if it's not

[61:59]worth the time I spend with youallah.

[62:03]He would always come to her in times of distress when everyone

[62:07]abandoned him.

[62:06]She believed in him that such that one time he's on he's

[62:12]receiving revelations.

[62:12]She would go up the mountain and bring him food.

[62:16]Have you been to Mecca?

[62:20]You see when you go up it's literally a quad and calf

[62:22]workout up the mountain then all the way back down.

[62:28]She would go every day.

[62:28]He would spend two months out of the year up on that

[62:32]mountain every single year.

[62:33]When the revelation first came, he stopped.

[62:35]But he would go two months and shah Ramadan.

[62:39]When she would go every day to feed him, imagine she's carrying

[62:41]containers of food.

[62:44]A woman who's going up this mountain.

[62:46]I mean, look look at the emphasis.

[62:49]Look at the look at the dedication.

[62:50]And Allah is so pleased of that that she's taking care of

[62:54]her husband that Allah dispatches and Gibbra says and with her is

[63:10]a container of food and when she arrives then send your then

[63:19]send salams from her Lord Allah sendum to her and from me

[63:26]I send my salams to her as well and give her glad

[63:30]tidings.

[63:30]She's going to get a house in Jenna.

[63:32]When Khadijah came, he said to her, "Oh my beloved wife Khadijah,

[63:35]Allah send salams upon you." Send salams upon you and I say

[63:43]salam to you as well.

[63:44]Do you know what she said?

[63:45]It is the most wise response you'll ever hear.

[63:51]The most beautiful response you'll ever hear.

[63:54]You can't say to Allah.

[63:58]You're making dua that Allah is in peace.

[63:59]Allaham.

[63:59]So guess what she says indeed Allah is peace and upon is

[64:20]my salam because you can send to and upon you is my

[64:23]salam and the mercy of Allah and his baraka as well.

[64:27]She didn't saylayum ya Allah because that's not wise.

[64:29]How do we say?

[64:31]She knows the relationship.

[64:32]She knows.

[64:34]She knows theology.

[64:35]She knows intelligent, impeccable, wise, but also sacrificing.

[64:39]Had it not been for the wealth of Khadijah, Islam would have

[64:44]perished.

[64:43]Such that in those three arduous, tumultuous, difficult years of the of

[64:50]spent everything she can that such that she prioritized her own well-being.

[64:56]Whatever she had, she would give to him.

[64:58]She would feed him.

[65:01]She gave it all till you know how much money she had.

[65:06]We said it all became net negative.

[65:08]She would eat grass.

[65:09]And those final moments that pain and fatigue came on her.

[65:18]The embargo of was put on them.

[65:22]Three years suffering, hunger, thirst, abandonment.

[65:25]The women folk of society abandoned her camping in the valley of

[65:30]Abu Talib until the very last stretch.

[65:35]Sayam is about 6 years old.

[65:38]She's tending to her mother just after they got released.

[65:40]Remember on the pact that they made between Abu Dasool Allah and

[65:47]Qur if you all see that the letter has been eaten except

[65:50]the word of Allah you let us go.

[65:52]A month or so after that Khadijah is in her home as

[65:56]Zah is with her.

[65:59]She notices her mother hadn't recovered.

[66:01]Three years of starvation is not easy.

[66:04]Barely making it in the woods, in the cold as such, until

[66:06]she sees that her mom's time is becoming very difficult and heavy.

[66:13]And Khadijah notices that it's probably time to wish Allah goodbye.

[66:17]just says, "Go and inform your father that I want to ask

[66:28]him for three things.

[66:28]Number one, ask him to forgive me if I've ever wronged him.

[66:39]Number two, ask him to give me his to shroud myself with

[66:42]because I know the right of a m is to be shrouded

[66:46]in a kan.

[66:48]Unfortunately, we don't even have money for a at least let me

[66:50]have your also a form of and number three I want to

[66:57]let him know that he ple he should really watch out for

[67:02]you just to make sure he takes care of you.

[67:05]goes to inform Allah.

[67:08]Allah immediately comes back to Khadijah and he says to her, "Oh

[67:11]my beloved wife, as for your first request, nothing you've ever done

[67:15]has ever disappointed me.

[67:17]In fact, I am grateful to everything you have sacrificed and everything

[67:22]you gave.

[67:24]As for no one will come near her so long as I

[67:27]am around.

[67:29]And as for the then this of course will come for you.

[67:33]This is yours.

[67:35]Allah steps aside and he begins to raise his hands in dua.

[67:40]He says, "Oh Allah, this is who in the early years of

[67:53]Islam had given all of her wealth to the sake of your

[67:55]religion.

[67:56]But now as she is about to depart, she doesn't even have

[68:06]money for a heaven.

[68:06]Ya Allah help us in this state.

[68:09]The hadith says came down but not with one but five kafas.

[68:16]And he began to say these are five shrouds.

[68:26]We know you wanted one, but here are five from Jenna.

[68:30]Allah says, "Please tell me who each one goes to." He said

[68:39]to him, "Yaool Allah, as for the first, this is yours to

[68:43]be shrouded in.

[68:46]And as for the second one, this is for As for the

[68:52]third one, it's for As for the fourth Kevin, it's for As

[69:04]for the fifth Kev, you will be blessed with a grandson by

[69:09]the name of Hassan.

[69:11]This will belong to him.

[69:14]Allah then said, "Where is the keen for my son Hussein?

[69:21]Does he not get a keen when he [singing] dies?" The angel

[69:29]replied, "Yeah, will die without.

[69:38]He will lay on the sand of Caribana for three days without

[69:47]anyone to shroud him.

[69:46]His keen will be the sands of the land of Caribana.

[69:53]and his keen will be the trampling of horses of if you

[70:01]were there in what would you see?

[70:17][singing] Brothers and sisters, let us recite on this night of the

[70:47]names of Allah 10 times altogether.

[71:00]All [singing] ya Allah Allah ya Allah ya Allah ya Allah ya

[71:20]Allah and brothers and sisters, so many have requested on the to

[71:43]remember their especially from those who have left us from last year

[71:48]from the especially who has left us few months back together as

[71:59]well.

[71:59]Let us give to their families for the and for the patience

[72:02]and for the and compensation.

[72:06]Let us give them the ayat of for as well as the

[72:10]of all of your and for those who have no one to

[72:15]remember him on the night of the shahada ofam and then we

[72:17]will wrap up.

[72:19]Amen.

[72:28]Amen.

[72:39]for you.

[72:52][singing] I thank you for Allah.

[73:29]Brothers and sisters, we're going through very unprecedented times in the world.

[73:32]We don't know what's going to happen tomorrow.

[73:34]We're not going to even think about the dangers that are out

[73:37]there that are facing the lovers of in elsewhere in Lebanon, in

[73:45]Iran, especially.

[73:43]We ask Allah to obliterate all forms of fitna all forms of

[73:48]injustice for those who have left us on behalf of the night

[73:53]of from the shuada of from the shuada of everywhere there were

[73:56]any oppressed person Allahel we ask you ya Allah to send your

[74:02]blessings to them to raise us with Muhammad and al Muhammad to

[74:05]hasten their appearance of and for those who have requested and those

[74:09]who have no one to remember them give them a surah Mubarak

[74:13]But before the loudest of your salawat.

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