The Dynamics of A Faithful Family - Sayed Saleh Qazwini

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"The Dynamics of A Faithful Family" - Sayed Saleh Qazwini

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[0:04]Batman raheem alhamdulillahi rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa salam o Allah ashraf

[0:12]l m bi even more saline habib allah allah allah mean able

[0:24]cosmic Mustafa Muhammad Allah elevated pnina pnina Lavina adebolajo animal rich surah

[0:32]taha raha Matata Allah Allah vegetable cream smilla rahmanir rahim allahu Jalal

[0:41]Allah common and fussy come as Raja Janaka mean as Raja company

[0:47]navaja Fedotov Arisaka community about affable battle e Manini webinar metella humic

[0:58]firoun sallou ala muhammad wa ala muhammad the human being is a

[1:07]social being humans love to connect with one another in fact humans

[1:17]need to connect with one another you see that sometimes if prisons

[1:21]they want to punish someone they place them in a room by

[1:25]themselves and solitary confinement this is a type of punishment to place

[1:34]a human being a social being in a solitary state where they

[1:38]are on their own and no one is with them so we

[1:44]love to connect we love to talk to people we love to

[1:46]socialize and the religion of islam teaches us how to connect with

[1:55]people it teaches us the rules of dialogue the rules of socializing

[2:00]with others and being connected with other people this is why you

[2:05]see Islam doesn't just teach you how to pray and fast and

[2:10]go to Hajj no Aslam teaches you how to deal with your

[2:13]neighbors aslam teaches you how to treat your parents aslam teaches you

[2:18]how to deal with your ahem with the family these are all

[2:25]relations and important relations that the religion of Islam stresses about however

[2:28]there is one relationship one bond that is holier than any other

[2:36]relationship and holier than any other bonds and one institution that is

[2:39]holier than any other institution and that is the institution of the

[2:46]family ma Bonilla Phyllis lamby bina on Abdullahi minute assuage no institution

[2:51]and foundation has been built in the religion of Islam more beloved

[2:58]to Allah than the institution of the family then the relationship within

[3:04]the family and this is why according to the Islamic teachings a

[3:09]family is considered a blessing from Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala if you

[3:14]have a healthy family structure then you are blessed by Allah subhana

[3:20]WA Ta'ala even if you don't even realize it Allah says in

[3:24]the Quran wallah huija LLL common and facecum as Rajan Waja al

[3:29]alaikum min as watch accompany now I have fed that our Raja

[3:36]Kakuma Playa but Allah subhana Allah gave you from yourselves as wagon

[3:40]he created you in pairs and this is one of the greatest

[3:43]miracles of Allah that he created us in pairs allah subhanaw taala

[3:50]he created in pairs so that humans can reproduce so that the

[3:55]human race and the human beings can continue Rajanna come in as

[4:02]Raja come benin and from your spouse's from your partner's allah subhanaw

[4:07]taala gave you children and this is another miracle from allah subhana

[4:11]wa ta'ala wa haveta and children and grandchildren warez akka coming up

[4:17]by Abbas and he gave you the risk of the sustenance from

[4:22]the hollande from the pea but there's a halal type of risk

[4:26]a halal sustenance there for you and then he says affable battle

[4:30]aluminum now after Allah gave you opposites after allah subhanaw taala created

[4:36]you in pairs after allah gave you children and gave you a

[4:42]rest can anyone go and believe in the bottle can anyone go

[4:44]and believe in wrong after all that Allah subhana WA Ta'ala has

[4:50]done and then Allah says affable battle EO min own why been

[4:54]a metal a home yuk firoun and they do cover in the

[4:59]name of Allah they do cover and the blessing of Allah subhana

[5:02]WA Ta'ala what does this mean this means that family and marriage

[5:07]and the fact that we are created in pairs and the result

[5:12]that allah subhanaw taala gives us this is all enamel this is

[5:15]all a blessing from allah subhanaw taala upon us but there is

[5:19]only a few were able to comprehend this nama this blessing and

[5:26]thank allah subhana wa ta'ala for what he has given them and

[5:29]this is why we see the religion of Islam as a teaching

[5:35]the religion of Islam as a religion it focuses on the dynamics

[5:38]of the family on the dynamics of every relationship but especially the

[5:43]relationship of the family the relationship of that holy union that holy

[5:52]sacred union the relationship of the family and we see through the

[5:58]Quran and through the hadith that there's a direct correlation between family

[6:04]and faith now someone could say what does family have to do

[6:07]with faith what does my relationship with the way I deal with

[6:09]my wife and my children what does that have to do with

[6:13]my prayer and my connection with allah subhanaw taala according to the

[6:17]religion of islam it does if you are good to your family

[6:25]if you are married if you fulfill your duties allah subhanaw taala

[6:29]will reward you and we have heard of many of these hadith

[6:31]the hadith the famous hadith from rasulallah salallahu alaihe island he says

[6:35]that a married person his prayer is worth 70 times more than

[6:40]the person who's not married now what does prayer have to do

[6:44]with family but there is a correlation there is a relationship or

[6:48]in another hadith where rasulullah sallallahu aleyhi salam on Tazawa jothika erogenous

[6:55]Medina phonetic a laugh and nostril Arthur the one who gets married

[6:58]this person has protected and preserved half of his religion half of

[7:04]his faith or her faith so let them worry about the other

[7:07]half so marriage it protects your faith it protects your religion so

[7:14]you see the direct correlation and the one who fails when it

[7:18]comes to the family even if this person prays the midnight prayer

[7:21]and every salon goes to Hajj and does the zakat and everything

[7:27]if this person fells when it comes to the family then this

[7:30]person has failed in the eyes of allah subhanho wa taala a

[7:35]sort of lhasa allahu allahu allah he says hey eurocom cairo calmly

[7:39]i wanna fail calmly ali the best out of you in the

[7:44]eyes of allah is the one who is the best with his

[7:46]partner the one who is the best with his wife or the

[7:51]wife with her husband and you see that even sometimes a person's

[7:56]faith takes a hit if they are not fulfilling their duties within

[8:02]the family if a person has shortcomings with regards to the family

[8:07]then that means this person's faith has shortcomings don't let your there's

[8:13]many hadith that says don't be fooled by their prayer and their

[8:16]fasting and their all of the apparent religiosity that they have go

[8:20]and look at the way they deal with one another go and

[8:24]look at the way they treat one another and who is the

[8:29]one that we have to treat the best during our lives and

[8:32]that's the closest people to us they're the family there was one

[8:34]of the Companions of rasulullah sallallahu alehiwassallaam in math this great companion

[8:41]of rasulallah he was injured in one of the battles and the

[8:45]muslims carried him back to medina and there he died well sort

[8:53]of lhasa of Liholiho came out in his tashera and his funeral

[8:58]and they say that was sort of luck was walking on his

[9:00]tiptoes they asked what sort of why are you on your tiptoes

[9:05]he tells them because the Angels there are so many angels and

[9:09]this man's funeral that I'm walking on my tiptoes now one of

[9:16]the reasons they said this how he reached that levels because he

[9:19]used to always recite when who Allah who I had selected to

[9:21]read now it's a small surah in the Quran but look at

[9:26]the table from allah subhanaw taala so I sort of lie he

[9:28]participated in the funeral he led the journey he led the Janaza

[9:33]prayer and rasulallah participated directly in bringing him into the grave and

[9:38]the Muslims were all around him then his mother she comes and

[9:41]she stands over the grave and she says yeah sad honey and

[9:44]luckily Jannah Oh sod congratulations you're going straight to paradise Rasul Allah

[9:50]looks at her and he tells her yo Mossad lotta hot to

[9:55]me and Allah hell Jenna Brava movin in Tecate heaven wha she

[10:01]tells her om sod o mother of sod don't give out paradise

[10:07]on behalf of Allah because his grave has crushed him in a

[10:10]way where his ribs have come together when you read about this

[10:14]person's life they say that even though he was the best even

[10:19]though he was injured in the battle and he was with the

[10:22]Prophet when he had bad luck bad morality with his own family

[10:28]with the people within the house and he paid the price for

[10:31]it so we see that there is a direct correlation between the

[10:37]way you treat your family family and faith they are connected to

[10:41]one another because a successful family means that you will have a

[10:46]successful faith as well faith without family it might not be a

[10:51]strong faith but faith that comes with the family with a successful

[10:55]family then that means that you have protected yourself so now how

[11:01]do you preserve your family this is a question that many of

[11:05]us asked and this is a struggle that everyone has even the

[11:10]prophets of allah allah subhana wa ta'ala describes in the quran how

[11:13]prophet nor prophet nuah and prophet lute there were two prophets of

[11:17]allah who struggled when it came to the family so if you

[11:21]are struggling when it comes to the family don't think that you

[11:24]are you know it's only you and no one else goes through

[11:28]this no this is something that everyone goes through the struggle but

[11:32]everyone should strive towards you know progressing towards enhancing towards improving their

[11:42]family dynamics now how do you get a successful family this could

[11:45]go for the ones who are not married and looking to get

[11:47]married and it could be for the ones who are already married

[11:52]the first solution my dear brothers and sisters the first answer is

[11:57]that one should always keep a law in mind keeping Allah in

[12:04]mind will bring you success when it comes to everything in life

[12:08]when it comes to business when it comes to family when it

[12:10]comes to transactions when it comes to this dunya and the afterlife

[12:17]because Allah says in the Quran woman yet allah llahu maharaja where

[12:21]yours up woman - i Otteson the one who has true piety

[12:26]in allah allah who support this person Allah will be with this

[12:32]person and when you have faith in Allah it's going to help

[12:35]you make decisions much easier in life you know we all make

[12:40]decisions on a daily basis and we all make decisions based on

[12:46]certain principles and certain values or certain things that we want in

[12:53]life for example you find a person who's all about money they're

[12:56]going to make decisions in their life every decision and their life

[13:01]revolving around money you know even a marriage I'm don't that this

[13:05]person's going to think is this going to make me money or

[13:09]not am I going to be able to write this off on

[13:11]my taxes or not this is how some people are everything there's

[13:14]this is the framework that they make their decisions and if Allah

[13:19]in the back of your mind every decision that you make is

[13:23]going to be a sound decision every decision that you make is

[13:26]going to be a healthy decision that will help you in this

[13:30]life and in the afterlife for example when it comes to choosing

[13:33]a spouse when it comes to choosing the family that you want

[13:38]to be with there are some people that choose with Allah in

[13:40]mind and there are some people that choose with other things in

[13:43]mind other factors in mind if you choose a partner based on

[13:50]the satisfaction of Allah then Allah will be you there with you

[13:53]and bless you within that relationship but if you choose something else

[13:57]you might get that other thing but how can you guarantee that

[14:01]you will get a lost satisfaction the hadith of Rasul Allah he

[14:05]says meant azzawajal the mat a person who marries a female for

[14:11]her wealth or her money then that is what you will have

[14:14]you will have that but how can you guarantee that you will

[14:18]have the Asura how do you how will you guarantee that you

[14:21]will have the afterlife and the satisfaction of Allah this is why

[14:29]before getting married before starting that you know that journey of starting

[14:35]a family keep Allah in mind the hadith from rasulallah he says

[14:39]a dejar a commented on Adina ho ho cough as a widow

[14:44]fan LM tov a loo takuan fitna tone fill our WA facade

[14:47]on Kabir if someone has come to propose to you to the

[14:52]sisters and you see that this person has jewel qualities tardone Adina

[14:56]Honoka you see that this person has Dean faith and this person

[15:01]has a clock this person has good a good manners this person

[15:05]is not a not a hothead he's someone who you could talk

[15:09]to someone who you could have a conversation with feza would you

[15:15]then accept to marry this person this is the quality that was

[15:19]sort of lost some of Maharani gifts this only the person who

[15:23]keeps Allah in mind will make this decision but those who do

[15:27]not have Allah in the back of their mind they're going to

[15:29]go after other issues they're going to go after other factors which

[15:32]maybe later on they're going to regret and we've seen many stories

[15:38]we've heard many stories of people that went after things I have

[15:41]to do with this dunya they ended up losing the dunya and

[15:43]the afterlife make sure you choose someone that has faith a man

[15:49]came and he asked him a man for saying he tells him

[15:50]I have daughters and there are people that are coming they're men

[15:54]that have come to propose to my daughters who should I give

[15:57]my daughter to he tells him the same hadith and then he

[16:02]says because a person who has faith even if this person later

[16:04]on there's going to be problems there's going to be fights there's

[16:07]going to be arguments which every relationship has this person's going to

[16:12]know that Allah is there Allah is watching now Allah subhana Allah

[16:18]he is the judge so when our lives in the back of

[16:20]your mind you're going to be able to make decisions when you're

[16:23]choosing who to get married you're going to be able to make

[16:29]correct decisions when you're planning the wedding how many weddings have we

[16:32]seen the beginning the first day of the marriage it starts off

[16:35]with Haram starts off with disobeying Allah subhana wa tada you see

[16:40]this all the time we hear of this all the time the

[16:45]first day you're choosing the first day of your marriage where you're

[16:48]starting the family to disobey Allah subhana wa ta'ala why so that

[16:52]people the community can be happy so that people could say masha'Allah

[16:57]they they spent so much money they went all out she had

[17:02]this guy this type of dress and that type of outfit and

[17:04]believe me the night of the wedding it's one night you're not

[17:09]going to think about it after the wedding you're not going to

[17:12]look at it but we spent so much and we think so

[17:15]much now there's nothing wrong with having a wedding there's nothing nothing

[17:20]wrong with trying to be happy but don't try to do that

[17:22]at the expense of allah subhanaw taala at the expense of your

[17:27]faith don't compromise your faith for the sake of one night the

[17:30]one who has Allah in the back of their mind they're going

[17:35]to be very careful when they're planning their wedding they're going to

[17:39]be very careful when they're planning what how the wedding is going

[17:44]to be this is one and then you see for example when

[17:48]it comes to the family buying a house deciding where to live

[17:51]this is also a very important decision someone who doesn't have Allah

[17:56]in mind they're going to go and live somewhere that is far

[17:59]from the Masjid far from the community they don't care about taking

[18:03]their children and their family to a Masjid the one who has

[18:07]Allah in mind this person might even move to a different state

[18:10]for the sake of a Masjid for the sake of an Islamic

[18:14]school this is the difference between two people one does not have

[18:16]a lion mind and one does have Allah in mind what you're

[18:21]feeding your children if you have Allah in the back of your

[18:23]mind you're going to feed them in one way and the one

[18:26]that does not have a lot in the back of their mind

[18:27]they're going to do something else where you spend your vacation you

[18:33]have $5,000 you have extra money you would decide on going on

[18:35]a vacation are we going to go somewhere where we're going to

[18:40]fall in Haram or am I going to take my family and

[18:42]my children somewhere that will bring them closer to allah subhanaw taala

[18:46]this is all the decisions that we make in life it goes

[18:51]back to one very important factor and that is whether Allah is

[18:55]in my life whether I've chose to keep Allah in the equation

[19:00]whether I choose to have Allah in my mind and the result

[19:03]of having Allah in your family and in your life and Allah

[19:08]a part of your decisions the result is a happy family now

[19:14]someone could say how so yes because happiness is a feeling right

[19:19]happiness happiness is an emotion who is the one that controls the

[19:22]hearts and the emotions in the heart allah subhanaw taala don't we

[19:28]say yarmulke labelled boob it's a bit can be allah the eunuch

[19:33]allah is the one who changes the hearts you find people they

[19:35]have everything they have a huge house they have beautiful cars they

[19:39]have everything but no one's talking to one another in that family

[19:44]it's a ghost town no one talks to one another everyone this

[19:47]proceeding God by herself he's eating by himself the children they're doing

[19:51]everything on their own and then you might find another family they

[19:55]might have the dunya they might not have such a luxurious house

[19:58]they might not have such fancy cars and whatever we go after

[20:01]in this life but at least they have each other and that's

[20:05]because they have a lost behind Ohana it's a loss of I

[20:10]know to Allah who keeps the families together and allah subhanho to

[20:14]either who keeps you happy with one another this is why I

[20:17]am your own minion Ali of nebith eyelid he says when I

[20:21]used to go home he says I used to go home and

[20:25]I when I look at the face of Fatima I would forget

[20:29]all of my homeroom and my homeroom I would forget all of

[20:33]my struggles why because Allah is in that equation this is the

[20:40]marriage of Imam Ali and Fatima where amirul mumineen rasul allah asked

[20:43]him what kind of a wife fatima is the day after the

[20:49]wedding he says naman oh nana thought allah she's the best partner

[20:53]and getting closer to allah subhanaw taala because that union that relationship

[20:58]that marriage it's a marriage that's supposed to advance you that's supposed

[21:02]to make you better for one another help one another I'm not

[21:05]supposed to marry someone that brings me down and destroys my life

[21:08]in this life and in the afterlife maybe someone marries someone who

[21:14]yes you might have prestige in this life but maybe in the

[21:16]afterlife you're going to lose it all when you're building the relationship

[21:19]when you're building a family make sure you build the family that

[21:23]supports one another in this life and in the afterlife so this

[21:28]is the first point the first point is keeping Allah in the

[21:31]back of your mind second is that every single member of the

[21:37]family needs to take the relationship seriously you look at some marriages

[21:41]you see that some individuals within the family they don't take it

[21:45]seriously you see some husbands and I've heard many of those he's

[21:51]at work and then the moment he comes home he eats he

[21:53]takes a shower and then he says yeah Lamar said I might

[21:56]have to go out and hang out with my friend I have

[21:57]to go and hang out with my friends why did you decide

[22:01]to get married if you want to hang out with your friends

[22:05]every night who forced you to get married when you are in

[22:08]a relationship when you're in a family you have duties and responsibilities

[22:11]towards one another and every single individual within the relationship needs to

[22:17]take that relationship seriously the same way I take my job seriously

[22:21]I go 9:00 to 5:00 I need to treat the marriage the

[22:25]same way why is it that the marriage I'm not treating it

[22:27]the way I treat my job some of us were afraid we

[22:31]don't want to go have some half an hour five minutes late

[22:32]to our jobs because we're gonna get fired well what about the

[22:36]you know the live load of your family your children your family

[22:40]the wife towards the husband the husband towards the wife and most

[22:44]relationships that fell most marriages that fell it's because this this is

[22:51]the first complaint they don't make time for one another one individual

[22:55]decides not to take the relationship seriously one individual decides not to

[22:59]care about the feelings and the needs and the emotions of others

[23:02]and this is why when you're going into a marriage you need

[23:07]to know what your responsibilities are upon you and what duties are

[23:10]upon you allah subhanaw taala he has given us rules to live

[23:16]by certain responsibilities for the husband certain responsibilities for the wife the

[23:21]moment and certain responsibilities as a parent as children towards the parents

[23:26]we have duties this is Siletz or ahem this is the connection

[23:29]that must be respected and allah says in the quran that the

[23:32]ones who do not respect the rahem than they are men own

[23:38]this person is cursed by allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala so the problems arise

[23:43]when individuals do not take their relationships seriously when individuals start undermining

[23:50]the needs of other people instead of marrying a lady is married

[23:54]to his shisha to his hookah this is how some people are

[23:59]he would rather spend more time with the shisha than his own

[24:01]wife and this is a reality my dear brothers and sisters this

[24:04]is a reality that we see and I hear so many stories

[24:09]and this is what's going on when someone is married they need

[24:14]to dedicate time and effort and take it seriously just like you

[24:17]take your job seriously in fact rasulullah sallallahu alehiwassallaam as libertagia hadouken

[24:27]under an evil men electic a famous JD hada for a person

[24:35]who spends time quality time with his family this is better than

[24:39]act akov in the masjid of rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala and

[24:44]you see this sometimes the husband oppresses his wife and sometimes the

[24:48]wife trees are pressing her husband every day she's out hanging out

[24:52]with friends and then they tell her why are you not with

[24:54]your husband she says oh he's a grown man he could take

[24:57]care of himself yes she's a grown man he could take care

[24:59]of himself but a family as a family that protects one another

[25:05]that spends quality time with one another and in order for a

[25:09]family to function properly every single individual must fulfill their duties and

[25:13]responsibilities within the family if one person is doing it that's not

[25:19]going to work if two people and one person is not doing

[25:21]their tasks it's still not going to work and this is why

[25:27]a relationship a successful relationship it needs order it needs order for

[25:34]it to succeed and for it to continue and go on this

[25:37]is the second taking it seriously the third is that the family

[25:44]is a sacred zone the family is a holy institution why because

[25:48]it's a safe zone for every single individual everyone within the family

[25:54]should feel safe everyone should feel safe to be able to speak

[25:59]to be able to say what they want to be able to

[26:00]express themselves because and the family is where you should go and

[26:08]take your needs not outside the family the problem is when when

[26:12]the needs are not met within the family they're going to be

[26:16]outside of the family and that's when the collapse of the family

[26:23]starts so the family is a safe zone and allah subhanho wa

[26:25]taala talks about it in the quran that it's a place of

[26:31]sukoon a place of tranquility where you are tenshirock peace allah says

[26:36]in the quran women irt from the signs of Allah women IATA

[26:40]and callek alaikum men and physical exertion lettuce coneja the goal of

[26:49]a successful family a sukoon tranquility from the signs of allah he

[26:54]created you in pairs for what so that you reach tranquility so

[26:57]that you are satisfied with one another let us go no alaihe

[27:05]and then he tells you the how how you are supposed to

[27:08]reach that sukoon through love and compassion through love and mercy what

[27:13]John Bainer come Metuchen wa rahma these are the tools that Allah

[27:17]subhana Allah has given you through love and mercy you're going to

[27:23]be able to reach that sukoon reach that tranquility within the family

[27:27]and this is what a family is supposed to be it's supposed

[27:29]to be a place where everyone feels that peace with one another

[27:35]where everyone it reaches the state of tranquility with one another where

[27:41]everyone feels protected Allah says in the Quran whenever Allah come when

[27:46]Tom Lee bass on the horn talking about the husband and the

[27:49]wife he says they are like lobos's like close to one another

[27:55]close what's the task of the close one is that it protects

[27:57]you second it beautifies you it makes you reach your highest potential

[28:02]it covers the faults and it brings out the beauty of an

[28:08]individual this is what a healthy relationship is supposed to do a

[28:12]healthy relationship is one where the social the psychological the emotional the

[28:18]physical needs are all met within the family because if the needs

[28:24]are not met within the family then you might have some individuals

[28:27]they go and they try to meet the needs outside of the

[28:31]family and then you will have the collapse of society this is

[28:35]why I'm here and what minene Ali bin Abi Talib he says

[28:37]when I would look at Fatima I would feel that sukoon I

[28:42]would forget all of my problems come to Andorra alaihe certain kesha

[28:47]for onion while the moon and this is what I successful marriages

[28:52]this is what I fruitful marriages a marriage that is void of

[28:58]any hurtful abuse any physical abuse any emotional abuse any verbal abuse

[29:04]you know just the way that you talk just the way that

[29:10]you talk to one another this is very important some people they

[29:13]think you know she's my wife he's my husband I could say

[29:16]whatever I want who's going to watch us who's going to police

[29:20]us some use profanity within the family a healthy family a family

[29:29]that follows the order of allah subhanaw taala is one that knows

[29:33]how to deal with one another how to speak with one another

[29:35]you know sometimes especially for the husbands with the wives it's kind

[29:42]of tricky sometimes you know if your wife she asks you does

[29:44]this dress look good on me just say yes even if it

[29:48]doesn't look good because who knows what could happen if you say

[29:50]no so you have to know how to deal with one another

[29:55]how to talk to one another or for example don't ever get

[29:57]caught pouring salt in your food when she's looking you know tell

[30:02]her look over there there's a bird and then put the salt

[30:04]in your food because who knows what could happen you don't want

[30:10]any emotional abuse you don't want to hurt them so this is

[30:14]what a family is a family is a place it's an environment

[30:18]it's an atmosphere where love is in the atmosphere and this is

[30:25]the relationship a successful relationship that allah subhana wa ta'ala talks about

[30:30]the two very important ingredients for a successful relationship or two according

[30:34]to the quran raja alibi nakum madison wa rahma and allah subhanahu

[30:42]wa'ta'ala has placed within that relationship two ingredients one is mazda love

[30:51]and second is rama and a house that is void of love

[30:53]is like a body void of spirit you find some houses there

[31:00]they're like that there's no love in that family there's no emotions

[31:04]in that family as a relationship within a relationship a husband is

[31:10]required to show love to the wife a wife is required to

[31:15]show love to the husband a father is required to show love

[31:18]to the children a relationship without that then that means what kind

[31:22]of a relationship is that before Islam some of the Arabs they

[31:28]would not even kiss their own children a man he comes and

[31:31]he sees it all sort of lalala Holly who either he has

[31:35]his grandchildren in his hands and he's kissing them a mammal Hassan

[31:37]Imam Hussain say the zeyneb uncle soon so he tells what sort

[31:42]of law he tells her a sort of live never I've never

[31:44]kissed my children and I have so so many children I sort

[31:49]of looks at him and he tells him what can I do

[31:53]with you if you have no mercy in your hearts what can

[31:55]I do with you if you are void of mercy so this

[32:00]is this is what the religion of islam teaches rasulullah he came

[32:06]as a message of mercy he came with love this is what

[32:12]allah' came and brought he stands in front of the muslims and

[32:16]he tells them goal or a jewel LaserJet or Ibuki lieth rog

[32:24]mental Baha when a husband tells his wife I love you this

[32:27]does not leave her heart now this for some relationships this is

[32:31]something very strange because no one says that to one another you

[32:36]know I was just in a community and I said this so

[32:38]the next day a man he comes to me and he tells

[32:42]me I followed your advice say it I went and I told

[32:46]my wife I love you she looked at me and she tells

[32:50]me have you gone crazy this is how some relationships are where

[32:55]no one expresses love towards one another and it's only through love

[33:01]and through compassion that a relationship will have life just like a

[33:06]body a body will have a soul and it will be a

[33:10]happy relationship a relationship where you are happy with one another you

[33:14]are you entertained one another you live a happy life filled with

[33:20]harmony and filled with love with one another now yes sometimes you

[33:25]know we talked about inshallah one night we could probably talk about

[33:30]the responsibilities and the duties of the husband towards the wife there

[33:33]are several responsibilities and duties that each one has towards one another

[33:41]there are some duties that you can go and try to fulfill

[33:44]these duties but it's going to make the relationship a very difficult

[33:48]one and dry one these duties that are there these are there

[33:53]as a last resort for example one day a lady she comes

[33:56]to me and she says you know what Islamic Lee I'm not

[33:59]required to cook I'm not required to clean I'm not required to

[34:02]do anything in the house and this is true in Islam the

[34:06]wife she has specific duties but those are not cooking and cleaning

[34:10]and what our communities and our societies assume that that's the role

[34:14]of women in the society in the community but if we want

[34:18]to just come and say okay you fulfill your duties and I

[34:21]fulfill my duties and that's it we this is your line and

[34:24]this is how we are going to deal with on another relationship

[34:27]is not going to succeed that way a relationship succeeds through love

[34:32]a relationship succeeds through compassion and the strongest uniting force is love

[34:39]where sometimes it's okay it's not my duty to for example do

[34:42]such-and-such but I will do it for the sake of love I

[34:45]will do it for the sake of the family I will do

[34:49]it for the sake of preserving the family and this brings us

[34:52]to the fourth point and that is sacrifice for the sake of

[34:59]the relationship a successful relationship is one where sometimes now we're not

[35:03]talking about all the time because sometimes within a relationship it's only

[35:07]one person that has to sacrifice the wife she says I'm going

[35:11]who always has to sacrifice and the husband he always gets his

[35:15]way no that's also not fair a successful relationship sometimes the husband

[35:20]sacrifices sometimes the wife sacrifices sometimes you both have to sacrifice for

[35:26]the sake of the now this is what brings this is what

[35:31]makes a relationship healthy and a relationship successful when individuals are willing

[35:38]to compromise for the sake of the greater goal when the family

[35:42]members are willing to sacrifice a little bit of their entertainment a

[35:46]little bit of their time for the sake of a greater goal

[35:51]and that is preserving the family so there's two types of sacrifices

[35:55]there's one where I sacrifice as an individual for the sake of

[36:02]the family and this is very good and there's another type of

[36:05]sacrifice and that is when the whole family sacrifices as a whole

[36:10]for the sake of the greater good for the sake of a

[36:14]posit for the sake of something better sometimes the whole family has

[36:18]to sacrifice for the sake of something good and we learned that

[36:22]from the ahead based on a homesteader we learned that from the

[36:25]family of rasulullah sallallahu who are they where not only did they

[36:28]sacrifice for the sake of one another but as a whole they

[36:32]all sacrificed for the sake of the greater good like the day

[36:34]they slept hungry for the sake of them skiing and the ateam

[36:39]and the icier this is a sacrifice but they did it for

[36:43]the sake of the greater good so this is how a family

[36:49]can advance when I sacrificed by myself I compromise by myself I'm

[36:53]one individual I could own I could reach one goal but if

[36:58]I and my wife and my children we do something and we

[37:01]sacrifice for the greater good then we're going to be able to

[37:06]reach a much higher potential we're going to be able to reach

[37:09]a much greater goal and this is how families become great and

[37:13]only through a family you will be able to be great and

[37:18]even great individuals they became great through the family look at what

[37:22]sort of Lhasa Olajuwon was it a sort of lot able to

[37:27]accomplish his mission by himself even though he was rasulallah but no

[37:30]sort of lot needed Khadija the wife the loving wife the compassionate

[37:35]wife who sacrificed all that she had for the sake of Islam

[37:39]for the sake of her husband and this is how as a

[37:43]couple they were able to reach a much higher goal and they

[37:48]were able to reach much higher potentials because as an individual you

[37:51]have one potential as an individual here there's one potential but if

[37:55]you mix it together you're going to be able to reach a

[37:59]much greater goal and this is what we learn from the Ella

[38:00]debate this is what we learned from Russell Allah this is what

[38:04]we learned from Imam Ali and Fatima is our heart this is

[38:07]what we learned from Imam Hussein and his family and I'm in

[38:10]her saying he took his whole family out to carbon ry so

[38:12]that they watch him be killed no ma'am and her saying did

[38:17]that because he had a goal in mind he had a much

[38:18]greater goal in mind and the only way he's going to be

[38:23]able to reach that goal is through a greater sacrifice and that

[38:25]is a sacrifice with the family look at the prophets of allah

[38:32]ibrahim alayhis salaam ibrahim alaih-is-salaam he sacrifices for the sake of the

[38:39]family and for the sake of a greater goal he says ora

[38:42]Benna any ask entombed in the rillette Eby them ladies Arabic he

[38:49]says o Allah I have brought my family a lot just gave

[38:51]him a newborn child this marine then he comes and he takes

[38:56]a smile and he places him in Mecca him and his mother

[38:58]Hajj are and there's nothing in Mecca there's no trees there's no

[39:01]grass there's no water there's no food there's no people for the

[39:07]sake of what he says RAB bana aeneas can't amend or EIT

[39:10]be widenar a desert and debate circle Muharram rod Benaglio primo salata

[39:16]feminine a sita we alayhim wars a communist a Marathi la ilaha

[39:25]macaroon he sacrificed for the sake of the building the house and

[39:27]for the sake of the house of Allah and for the sake

[39:32]of people coming and worshipping Allah and Mecca and ibrahim could not

[39:37]build the Kaaba by himself he needed a smile to build the

[39:40]Kaaba he says well if Allah says well if your foul Ebrahim

[39:47]al-qaeda min al Bayt he was smile he Lauren Bennett in naka

[39:52]unta Samir Halim Ibrahim the great prophet of Allah he needed his

[39:59]son and his family to be able to accomplish his goal so

[40:01]what about us who are not at the level of Ibraheem don't

[40:06]we need our family don't we need a healthy family in order

[40:08]to reach our goals what are our goals as Muslims what's the

[40:14]goal of the Muslim family here in the United States one is

[40:18]to preserve the family in an atmosphere where families are breaking apart

[40:23]and second to preserve the faith of the family to preserve the

[40:30]Eman of the family many generations are losing one another many families

[40:35]are falling apart and the only way that you can do that

[40:38]is through is through taking care of the family and preserving the

[40:47]family and sometimes you have to sacrifice for the sake of the

[40:50]greater good sometimes you have to give up a few things for

[40:53]the sake of the greater good for example solanum Hamid wanama my

[41:06]time is not up yet sometimes a family has to sacrifice for

[41:10]the sake of a greater good what's the greater good for our

[41:13]community as a family one greater good is for example a Masjid

[41:21]a greater good is having a community where we are we are

[41:25]able to preserve our faith and able to teach our children now

[41:30]I have money I could spend that money going and enjoying my

[41:33]time doing something but I could spend it supporting a greater cause

[41:37]this is a whole family sacrificing for the sake of a greater

[41:44]cause today we need Islamic schools but is it just one person

[41:47]that has to sacrifice for the sake of an Islamic school no

[41:51]you need a whole family and you need a whole community to

[41:54]sacrifice even one family by itself they can't build the Islamic school

[41:57]but if everyone every family within the community they pitch in they

[42:01]help out you're going to be able to have yourself an Islamic

[42:06]school in the in the city so sometimes you sacrifice for the

[42:10]sake of the greater good of the family and this is how

[42:14]a family is preserved and this is how a community is preserved

[42:16]because in Islam the family is sacred because a preserved family a

[42:21]healthy family will lead you to a healthy community it's not just

[42:26]about the family by itself this is the fourth point and the

[42:29]fifth point is a family and this is the final point a

[42:34]family that prays and reach a spirituality with one another a family

[42:38]that prays as a family that will be united Allah says in

[42:42]the Quran what more alikum the Salah she was labelled alaihe and

[42:48]order your family to pray and be extra vigilant what slobber Allah

[42:51]does not say what's better what stubborn means be extra patient it's

[42:55]not easy to wake up your children to wake up your family

[43:00]for prayer but this is a duty this is a duty this

[43:03]is how you guarantee their Iman this is how you guarantee that

[43:07]the religion of Islam has been saved for future generations because if

[43:11]one generation is skipped if I don't teach my children how to

[43:13]pray how am I going to guarantee that my grandchildren are going

[43:16]to know how to pray and it all starts with one person

[43:20]it starts with an order it starts with praying and reaching spirituality

[43:26]and through spirituality not only will you be able to save the

[43:30]family but you will be able to bring ease to all of

[43:35]the suffering that one might face in the family you know families

[43:38]they're not immune from challenges Allah subhana Allah says in the Quran

[43:43]wanna blow and accomplish am in al cofee well journyx women and

[43:48]while well emphysema tomorrow to a bashar assad being a la semana

[43:52]allah test us in various ways one of the ways is through

[43:54]the family but if someone who has faith in allah they will

[44:00]be able to deal with their tests they will be able to

[44:03]deal with the challenges that come their way and i will conclude

[44:07]with the story one day the companions of imam ja'far al-sadiq alehissalaam

[44:13]they went to visit the imam and they see that the imam

[44:18]he looks like he's going through trauma he's going through difficulty every

[44:22]few minutes he gets up and he goes inside the house inside

[44:27]the room and then he comes out and then he goes in

[44:28]and then he comes out and then he goes in and then

[44:32]he comes out then they see him he comes and he sits

[44:37]and he hosts his guests there's guests there he talks to them

[44:40]he spends time with them and then once they're about to leave

[44:42]once they leave they ask him what was going on Oh son

[44:48]of rasul-allah why were you at first you were always going and

[44:50]coming and you you weren't at ease so he tells them I

[44:56]had a son one of my sons in the room he passed

[45:00]away so they told him your son passed away your son died

[45:07]he tells them yes when he was alive I kept going in

[45:09]the room because he was my responsibility I was I kept going

[45:15]in the room to see what what can I do to ease

[45:17]his pain to to help him you know to ease that suffering

[45:22]that he may be going through but then once he passed away

[45:28]I surrender to Allah and I came and I said this is

[45:30]a man Jaffa Adhikari Salaam he says once he passed away all

[45:35]I could do is you know everything is in the hands of

[45:37]allah subhanaw taala what can I do now I nothing is in

[45:41]my control now when he was in my control I kept going

[45:46]in the room but then after that once he passed away I'd

[45:48]left I left it up to allah subhanaw taala this is the

[45:53]power of faith my dear brothers and sisters faith it will help

[45:56]you deal with the suffering it will help you deal with the

[45:58]challenges that you might face and there are families every family goes

[46:04]through difficulties and challenges but the family that has faith in Allah

[46:09]is able to survive so we ask Allah subhana WA Ta'ala to

[46:12]help us preserve our families by following the guidelines that we spoke

[46:16]about the first is starting with Allah in mind second is that

[46:22]every member and the family must take the relationship seriously third is

[46:27]that the family is a safe zone fourth is that every single

[46:30]individual must sacrifice for the and the family as a whole must

[46:36]sacrifice and the fifth point is that we need to have our

[46:39]faith in Allah and reliance on allah wa l-hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen

[46:44]Muhammad [Music]

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