The Relationship Hierarchy - Sayed Saleh Qazwini - Friday Prayer

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[0:28]ill [Music] [Music] as Sal [Music] [Music] allahar ill alhamdulillah alhamd sh

[3:28]muham respected brothers and sisters Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has created the

[4:03]human being as a social being we are created to interact with

[4:11]other people Allah subhah wa ta'ala did not create us in a

[4:17]way where we seclude ourselves and isolate ourselves from others we need

[4:23]to socialize and we feel a sense of fulfillment when we socialize

[4:28]this is why Allah says in the Quran verely you have been

[4:39]created in male and female and made into Nations and tribes so

[4:43]that you get to know one another in another verse Allah says

[4:52]from the signs of God is that he created you in pairs

[4:57]so that you may find Tranquility with one another another and suon

[5:02]with one another and when it comes to relationships our life is

[5:07]defined by the relationships that we make how do I prioritize that

[5:11]relationship which which relationships do I prioritize in my life some people

[5:17]their life is defined by their career their relationship is based upon

[5:23]their career if this is going to make me money I'm going

[5:25]to enter into this relationship if it's not going to make me

[5:28]money I'm not going to enter into this Rel relationship some people

[5:34]family comes first family above all else other people God comes first

[5:39]so the relationships that we have and how we deal with these

[5:44]relationships and how we have the hierarchy of this these relationships defines

[5:49]who we are as a person and a successful person is the

[5:54]one who's able to manage their relationships properly a successful person is

[5:59]the one that knows how to deal with people how much to

[6:04]give to each relationship and they know the order and the hierarchy

[6:07]of the priority of relationships which relationship do I have to prioritize

[6:12]in my life and then which relationship and then which relationship and

[6:16]often times we see people fail in life whether it's marriage whether

[6:20]it's business whether it's any decision because they don't know how to

[6:25]prioritize their relationships because they don't know how to create a hierarchy

[6:29]what relationship comes above which relationship maybe I'm hanging around the wrong

[6:33]crowd and I'm ignoring my responsibilities my more important responsibilities in life

[6:40]so now when it comes from an Islamic perspective what is the

[6:45]hierarchy of relationships which relationship comes first and then which relationships come

[6:52]after of course when we look at the teachings of Islam you

[6:57]have one relationship that comes Above All Else and that is your

[7:05]relationship with God of course with Allah subhana tala we have to

[7:07]have a relationship we have a bond with Allah subhana wa ta'ala

[7:09]and I as a Muslim as a Believer I have to put

[7:15]my relationship with my Lord my relationship with my Creator above everything

[7:20]else and this is the single most important relationship you could have

[7:25]in your life if all other relationships if all other bonds do

[7:31]not work but this one works then you are going to be

[7:34]successful but if you have all other relationships working you're the most

[7:39]popular person you have thousands of friends on Facebook and followers on

[7:43]Instagram and all over social media but you don't have a relationship

[7:46]with God what's that going to help you it's not going to

[7:51]do you anything all the money in the world you're connected with

[7:54]people but if you're not connected with God it's not going to

[7:58]do anything to you and Unfortunately today we see people they sacrifice

[8:02]the most important relationship in life and that is the relationship with

[8:07]God for the sake of other relationships and that is the meaning

[8:10]of failure maybe you might look at someone you might say this

[8:16]person is successful this person is wealthy this person is this and

[8:19]that but if a person does not have a relationship with God

[8:22]this person is not going to be successful on the day of

[8:27]judgment this person is going to come to God poor this person

[8:29]is going to come to God not having anything because they did

[8:34]not invest in the most important relationship and this is a test

[8:39]one of the most one of the greatest tests we are tested

[8:41]in this life is with regards to our relationship with Allah subhana

[8:44]tala do I care for that relationship or do I prioritize something

[8:51]else used to Stand and Deliver his sermon on the day of

[8:58]Friday and then a caravan passes a business Caravan passes and suddenly

[9:04]there were individuals who are listening to the prophet they hear the

[9:07]business has Caravan has passed you know they had a moving market

[9:13]so this business Caravan passes and what do they do they get

[9:15]up in the middle of the and they leave the prophet and

[9:19]they go after their business and Allah subhana T talks about this

[9:23]in we recite this every Friday in [Applause] they leave the prophet

[9:35]standing delivering the sermon and they go after their business and then

[9:39]Allah says in the Quran you're after risk you're after happiness whatever

[9:49]you're after in life it's in the hands of Allah subhana wa

[9:51]tala so why leave God why sacrifice and compromise that single most

[10:00]important relationship in life for the sake of other relationships and my

[10:04]dear brothers and sisters we see that this relationship with God is

[10:08]tested every day sometimes it's tested because of wealth sometimes it's tested

[10:12]because of our children sometimes it's tested because of other things in

[10:17]life Allah says in the Quran verily you're going to be tested

[10:22]with your wealth and with your children and with your family but

[10:26]the believer is the one that does not come compromise their relationship

[10:30]with God and Allah says in the Quran Allah says if any

[10:58]relationship if you're if your your CH your fathers or your children

[11:02]or your brothers or your spouses or your tribes or your wealth

[11:07]comes before God and the prophet and defending the religion of Islam

[11:15]then know that you are going to be against Allah subhana wa

[11:18]tala so this is something that we have to be very careful

[11:21]of so we mentioned our life is defined by relationships the single

[11:26]most important relationship is your relationship with God which Rel relationship comes

[11:30]next in the hierarchy of relationships your parents according to the Quran

[11:37]according to the religion of Islam second in line before anyone else

[11:41]come your parents and Allah says in the Quran your lord has

[11:51]declared that you do not worship anyone other than God and second

[11:55]you have to havean to your parents you have to take care

[11:58]of your parents you have to be there for them you have

[12:02]to show them the love and the affection and the compassion and

[12:05]several verses in the Quran talk about the importance of caring for

[12:12]parents and we have commanded and ordered the insan to showan to

[12:21]your parents and here's the beauty of Islam Allah says even if

[12:25]your parents are not Muslim even if your parents are mush they're

[12:28]asso ating a partner with God you still have to respect them

[12:33]you still have to love them you still have to care for

[12:34]them and be there for them yes we have a rule I

[12:42]cannot because the single most important relationship in my life is with

[12:47]God that means this relationship governs all other relationships so that means

[12:52]the lower tier relationships cannot make me do something that will break

[12:58]the first relationship so that means I have to respect my parents

[13:03]I have to love my parents I have to be there for

[13:05]them but if my parents tell me to do something Haram do

[13:08]I obey them I don't obey them if my parents tell me

[13:13]to do something I idol worship associate a partner with God I

[13:15]don't obey them but I still have to show them love I

[13:19]still have to care for them I still have to be there

[13:20]for them I still have to check up on them and Allah

[13:25]subhana waa says [Applause] um if they are ordering you to do

[13:35]something Haram don't obey them but you still have to show them

[13:37]respect you still have to show them that love and that compassion

[13:41]and we see that this relationship your relationship with your parents this

[13:46]is also tested a lot in life just like your relationship with

[13:49]God is tested your relationship with your parents is tested sometimes you

[13:55]find the Dilemma do I have to put my spouse my wife

[14:01]or my parents sometimes you find some people they come young people

[14:05]you hear that a lot they come and they say oh my

[14:09]parents are toxic my parents don't know what they're talking about my

[14:11]parents this and my parents that were your parents toxic when they

[14:15]were feeding you were your parents toxic when they were raising you

[14:19]were your parents toxic when they gave you everything that they had

[14:23]now they became toxic because they're telling you don't go out at

[14:26]this time and and be home by this time and this is

[14:31]unfortunately this is what we see many young people in society right

[14:34]now they come and it's very easy for them to break their

[14:38]ties with their parents it's very easy for them to disrespect their

[14:41]parents and this is not only something that is morally and ethically

[14:46]wrong but it is Haram as well it is Haram and the

[14:52]punishment from Allah subhana tala will come very quick to a person

[14:56]that does not respect that relationship and if you want God to

[14:59]bless your life if you want God to honor your life then

[15:04]you have to keep that Bond and take care of your parents

[15:10]and be there for them take care of them and when they

[15:13]pass away you say you pray for them you remember them and

[15:20]often times we see that some people the moment their parents pass

[15:26]away what do they say this responsibility is over for me I

[15:28]don't have to take care of this responsibility anymore is it over

[15:33]with the passing away of the parents it's never over in fact

[15:36]you have to continue remembering them and honoring them and visiting their

[15:40]graves and doing sodak on their behalf and doing all that it

[15:45]takes because the relationship that bond is never over the third tier

[15:50]we said your relationship with God comes first in the hierarchy and

[15:54]then your parents and then third you have other family members you

[16:00]have it's very important in Islam for us to take care of

[16:07]our parents for us to not not only our parents but our

[16:10]relatives uncles cousins family extended relatives any blood relatives you have a

[16:17]responsibility towards them and this is what is your your Rel reles

[16:29]they should be prioritized whenever you want to do something good look

[16:33]do I have relatives that are in need you give your relatives

[16:36]and then you give other people if you have you have Z

[16:40]you have whatever it takes you have to go and check up

[16:44]on your family first Allah says in the Quran that means if

[16:49]you want to do some you want to do something good do

[16:52]it to those who are closest to you first and Allah says

[16:57]in the Quran describing those who have have a strong relationship with

[17:01]their family the Believers they are those who take care of that

[17:14]relationship they sanctify that relationship with Allah subhana wa tala so this

[17:19]is with their family with their relatives and this is also tested

[17:22]many times we see people they come and they say I have

[17:26]a relative who doesn't talk to me I have a relative that

[17:27]does not respect me what am I supposed to do with this

[17:32]person what you're supposed to do is know that God is going

[17:34]to hold you accountable for what you did Allah is not going

[17:38]to ask you what they did so you have to fulfill your

[17:40]responsibility if it takes just a phone call a text message checking

[17:45]up on this person at least you do not be the one

[17:47]that disconnects the bond with the family if they disconnect then that's

[17:52]on them but you don't be the one that's responsible for disconnecting

[17:55]the bond then in the hierarchy of relationships after God Parents extended

[18:02]relatives then comes your friends and your neighbors and co-workers and these

[18:08]sort of relationships that we have to respect we have to honor

[18:12]these relationships if someone is trusting you that means God is in

[18:16]this relationship that means Allah subhana wa ta'ala is going to hold

[18:22]you accountable with how you deal with these relationships and who do

[18:26]I enter into a relationship with this is also so very important

[18:30]am I entering into a relationship with someone that brings me away

[18:33]from God am I entering into a relationship with someone that brings

[18:37]me away from my parents someone that destroys my faith maybe this

[18:40]person is fun to hang around with maybe this person is wealthy

[18:43]they'll make me a rich but they'll bring me away from God

[18:47]is this a healthier relationship to be with and Allah subhana wa

[18:51]tala describes on the day of judgment how all relationships will come

[18:55]to an end even the mother even a mother even the even

[19:03]the mother she will drop her child why the only relationships that

[19:08]will last are the relationships that are bounded by faith and bounded

[19:15]by respect to God and respect to Faith Allah says all relationships

[19:24]will turn into animosity except the relationships that are bounded by tawa

[19:31]bounded by God God Consciousness we will conclude here to go on

[19:36]to the second aldam muham Muhammad Ali Ali Muhammad Hass my dear

[21:46]brothers and sisters we were talking about the hierarchy of relationships and

[21:51]in Islam we cannot just be friends with anyone we cannot just

[21:56]have relationships with anyone whoever it is there's a hierarchy there's an

[22:01]order there's a priority when it comes to relationships the number one

[22:05]is God and then your parents and then your family and then

[22:09]your friends and people who are around you and even when it

[22:14]comes to people in society when it comes to people in the

[22:17]community am I supposed to be friends with anyone out there is

[22:22]any everyone out there worthy of being my friend no in a

[22:26]beautiful Hadith from IM he talks about some of the restrictions of

[22:32]who I should socialize with he says friendship has boundaries if someone

[22:49]has some of these boundaries then attribute him to Sak to Friendship

[22:54]but if someone does not then do not consider this person to

[23:01]be a friend and then he mentions he mentions five important things

[23:05]that you have to have in a friend the first this person

[23:17]in private and public they are the same they're not two-faced with

[23:21]you there are some people in front of you they act in

[23:25]one way behind your back they act in a different way this

[23:27]person is not worthy of being a friend second this person if

[23:39]something good happens to them they will see it if something good

[23:42]happens to you they will see that good is happening to them

[23:46]and if something bad happens to you they will also consider the

[23:49]bad happening to them because there are some friends they only want

[23:52]the good for themselves and if something bad happens to you nothing's

[23:56]going to happen in their life so this is the second the

[24:06]third this person is not changed because of power or because of

[24:12]wealth you might have some friends you're old friend with this you're

[24:16]a friend with this person suddenly this person became very powerful suddenly

[24:20]this person became very wealthy now they don't even say Salam to

[24:23]you anymore now they don't even look at you now they don't

[24:28]even connect with you anymore because now they are too busy for

[24:31]you so this is not a person to be friends with this

[24:40]person will help you in any way possible if I am able

[24:44]to help you then I help sometimes there are some people that're

[24:47]unable to help we can't expect more but if someone is able

[24:53]to help you then they will and the fifth and the Imam

[24:56]says and this basically summarizes all of the first four and that

[25:04]is this person does not let you down when you're in need

[25:10]basically someone that you can count on someone that you could rely

[25:13]on not someone that is not there for you and does not

[25:18]help you and remember we said the first relationship the most important

[25:22]relationship is the relationship with God and that governs all other relationships

[25:27]and typically if someone has fear of God if someone has faith

[25:30]in God they're not going to let you down they're not going

[25:34]to disappoint you they're going to make sure that even if they're

[25:36]unable or they don't want to help but because God is in

[25:41]this relationship then they're going to make sure that they fulfill their

[25:45]duties they're going to make sure that they fulfill they do not

[25:48]neglect you and let you down because there's a lot of people

[25:55]out there they don't know how to take care of relationships they

[25:59]think that praying and fasting and fulfilling their responsibilities with God that

[26:04]is enough for them but in fact when we enter into a

[26:09]relationship with someone whoever it is it's your neighbor it's your relative

[26:13]it's your family it's your friend whoever it may be now God

[26:18]is going to watch me how I take care of this relationship

[26:20]what do I do with this relationship tells the Muslims do you

[26:30]know who is the bankrupt person so the Muslims who's who's someone

[26:38]who's bankrupt they said the one who's bankrupt is the one that

[26:43]does not have a Duram a coin a silver coin or does

[26:48]not have anything and then says this person who's bankrupt they will

[26:58]come on the day of judgment they have Salah and they have

[27:02]zakat meaning they filled the fulfilled the responsibility to God the muas

[27:14]the bankrupt person is the one who on the day of judgment

[27:18]they will come they come with prayer they come with zakat but

[27:21]they also cursed at this person they accused this person they stole

[27:25]from this person they hit this person they abused other people this

[27:29]person will be bankrupt on the day of judgment why he says

[27:36]says because people are going to say this person stole from me

[27:42]this person cursed at me this person hurt me this person did

[27:44]something wrong against me so what's going to have to happen I'm

[27:49]going to have to clear my account I have to give some

[27:50]of my S here some theab to this person some good deeds

[27:55]to this person until all the good deeds are done and then

[27:57]they're going to say this person's still he used to keep talking

[28:00]bad he keep he kept slandering he kept hurting he kept insulting

[28:04]they said okay now you have to take the bad Deeds from

[28:06]this person because there's equality there has to be Justice they give

[28:12]them the bad deeds and then this person goes on the day

[28:15]of judgment with all bad deeds and this is why we have

[28:22]to care for these relationships that we had my dear brothers and

[28:25]sisters when it comes to relationships there has to be boundaries if

[28:30]there's no boundaries then that friend is not going to respect you

[28:34]and not going to be there for you my dear brothers and

[28:39]sisters we ask Allah to make us have healthy relationships just a

[28:44]few last points I want to shed light on a massacre that

[28:47]took place yesterday or the day before they're calling it The Flower

[28:55]Massacre because the people of Gazza who are being starve to death

[29:00]because all borders are closed and they have no access to food

[29:04]there are children that are dying out of hunger there are children

[29:07]that are actually dying out of starvation right now in Gazza they

[29:15]bring in a few trucks of food and because they're so hungry

[29:18]because they have nothing they haven't eaten for days they start running

[29:22]to take the food and then the terrorist Israeli army they begin

[29:32]to shoot at them killing hundreds wounding hundreds and this is a

[29:36]crime that is being taken place before the eyes of the whole

[29:40]world everyone is watching everyone is watching this but then you continue

[29:45]to hear the president and you continue to hear people in power

[29:51]Israel has the right to defend itself how does Israel have the

[29:53]right to defend itself by shooting at innocent people by shooting children

[29:57]I saw an image yesterday that is haunting where a body of

[30:03]a child has been ran over by a tank this is what

[30:08]they're doing these are the crimes that they are committing and the

[30:12]whole world is silent last week America the third time they vetoed

[30:17]they vetoed the ceasefire and yesterday Algeria they come and they try

[30:21]to pass a resolution to condemn the shooting of these children the

[30:27]shooting of these innocent people people that are taking the food and

[30:30]there's one country that always comes in the way and stops these

[30:33]condemnations and that is the United States that is the United States

[30:38]the president and those in power they come and they speak in

[30:43]the name of humanity but there's no Humanity there's no Humanity there's

[30:47]no shame where they're watching these people being killed and this is

[30:54]the silence and this is the the treatment that they are receiving

[30:59]and my dear brothers and sisters we will continue to vote last

[31:03]last Tuesday alhamdulillah the community here and all of Michigan people all

[31:09]across Michigan they all voted to uncommit themselves from the genocide that

[31:15]Biden is complicit in and the government is complicit in and we

[31:22]showed the world and it's become very clear that Michigan is not

[31:25]going to be a place where he will win as long as

[31:31]these actions are taking place and by and by the way this

[31:33]is not only Muslims some people they have the idea that it's

[31:37]only Muslims that are saying we need to call for a ceasefire

[31:39]we saw a few days ago the soldier who burned himself protesting

[31:44]the actions that are taking place and there are many other Americans

[31:47]there are many other Americans with a strong Consciousness that are protesting

[31:51]the actions that are taking place and the genocide that is taking

[31:58]place my dear brothers and sisters our hope is in Allah subhana

[32:01]wa tala we have to continue to do Dua and the month

[32:06]of Ramadan is approaching the month of du the month where the

[32:09]Dua is accepted let us continue to pray for the people of

[32:11]gazah for the people of leanon for all of the oppressed people

[32:16]all over the world my dear brothers and sisters before I finish

[32:50]this is a reminder to get your tickets for our we're going

[32:55]to have one Community dinner inshallah on April 5th at B uh

[32:58]please you could reserve your seats before it becomes too late and

[33:03]we've prepared the prayer times please take one on your way out

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