The First Steps to Breaking a Habit - Hajj Wissam Bazzi

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[0:01]Mohammed Ali Mohammed Allah ho Bazaar again solemn famine waarom Hamid I

[0:34]will be lurking in a shame for the regime just be lurking

[1:10]off man you often America see ya yeah I need a shovel

[1:42]ah Yee and shot on going behind bad on my thang June

[2:10]ji hoon' I've been you fool I am yeah show most of

[2:55]you or not believe I am father yeah oh boy moon out

[3:29]Wow y-you won't be me see now [Music] mmmnot boy only or

[4:32]July we don't uhh [Music] among you mmm leniency [Music] one woman

[5:35]the one I love [Music] either want some [Music] what [Music] love

[6:29]one lady that y'all want yeah I was oh my god [Music]

[6:54][Music] thank you same order for the beautiful recitations give him another

[7:24]loud Salawat please tonight's topic is the first steps to breaking a

[7:28]habit and it's gonna be presented by our wonderful brother and speaker

[7:32]Sam busy so help me in welcoming you selamat wali muhammad audhu

[8:03]billahi min ash-shaytani r-rajim bismillahi r-rahman r-rahim o salatu was-salam ala al

[8:13]anbiya wa l-mursalin abu qazi muhammad while elevate heavy not oh here

[8:22]in Malaya of Manara him / o Bashar Lisa bring us ugly

[8:26]hungry while octoman listening of holy brothers and sisters I'm honored to

[8:36]be here this is my community this is where I was raised

[8:38]I'm one of you I've been around the world and I'm honored

[8:46]to be part of this community and it's a treasure just to

[8:53]be here trust me what we own here and what we have

[8:55]the least that we have is each other we have to recognize

[9:03]what's really happening around us and we have to really pay attention

[9:08]our level of awareness needs to be at heightened levels because as

[9:16]our kids are walking around trust me there's a war and it's

[9:26]a thought war it's a psychological war and what do you like

[9:32]it or not you're being programmed bottom line your cellphone knows you

[9:39]more than you know yourself you know where the brain is now

[9:48]it's no longer in your head you know where it's at anybody

[9:52]guess it's your thumb this is the most powerful thing you own

[10:02]now it controls you what are you like it or not you

[10:05]ever seen it in person just scrolling mindlessly just they pull out

[10:10]their phone just scroll him now I'm not saying there's anything wrong

[10:14]with that when it's excessive it's a problem so tonight I want

[10:19]to talk to you about what makes beautiful actions why when you

[10:25]as a person you see something that's beautiful someone displays a beautiful

[10:33]action why do you gravitate towards that why and what happens and

[10:38]how you have to watch yourself there's five steps that you have

[10:43]to understand that at the end of the day you're responsible for

[10:50]your soul no one is gonna be sitting next to you my

[10:54]enough user here very young my niece is here my father's here

[11:06]I'm honored I'm honored but what makes beautiful actions there was a

[11:15]time one of my friends he's on his way to an interview

[11:27]six-figure job he sees a person stranded on the side of the

[11:30]road for some reason his heart told him go see what's wrong

[11:47]with that person he pulls over there was a lady from there

[11:54]he goes to the passenger side he doesn't go to the driver's

[11:58]side he goes to the passenger side he knocks on the window

[12:01]she lowers the window he says are you okay she's like yes

[12:06]I'm gonna be late for work but I'm having car trouble he's

[12:09]like is there anything I can do she tells him could you

[12:14]call her phone wasn't with her could you call a truck for

[12:19]me like sure he's like do you want me to wait with

[12:20]you in my car just to make sure that you're okay he's

[12:27]on his way to a job interview and he pulls back and

[12:34]he says you know what there's someone in need now what happens

[12:38]when we go through stuff like that I'm gonna complete the story

[12:41]at the end but this you have to understand that you have

[12:49]been impregnated with this you as a person we love beautiful actions

[12:51]why because abu-jamal we love beauty beauty is within you you love

[12:59]it you gravitate towards it why do you do that why do

[13:02]you gravitate towards beauty as a person in the Quran in the

[13:07]Quran Allah Azza WA JAL says it clearly says what in the

[13:10]holy hell Heidi what can anybody finish it I should eat we

[13:17]love it we love beautiful things what is beauty what is bridge

[13:22]when you look at a beautiful person some of us saw Allah

[13:25]Allah has really gifted us you look and they're beautiful people but

[13:33]those beautiful people they just like display themselves everywhere some of the

[13:41]most insecure people are the most beautiful it's amazing I deal with

[13:45]a lot of clients and I deal with a lotta insecurities but

[13:50]this is what happens so watch this why do we love beauty

[14:01]it's innate it's within us that we as Allah has made us

[14:06]like that what is beauty beauty is symmetry meaning one side is

[14:11]symmetrical to the other it's balanced you have a balanced face you

[14:19]have a balanced one aspect to you when that happens and you

[14:24]create that balance you have beauty but beauty is not in just

[14:28]encompassed in physicality beauty is encompassed we're also in your own actions

[14:36]so now he waits with her she gets out of the car

[14:47]she goes to him she goes do you need to go somewhere

[14:48]he's like don't worry about it she goes back to the car

[14:57]so now he's sitting there doesn't do anything just sitting imagine you're

[15:04]waiting for the next thing to happen and you've just completely stopped

[15:10]your whole world this is Tom Akula was a limb to a

[15:18]miracle in LA and you've just won you put your conditions and

[15:23]a laws hands how many of us have that kind of courage

[15:26]how how do you do something like that because you believe that

[15:35]Allah has the ends he controls the ends not you you don't

[15:39]control the end of the interview he does the outcomes on him

[15:43]you just take the conditions to get there do we believe in

[15:52]that that's not easy that's difficult so now what happens let's move

[15:59]forward how bullish a man we love beautiful actions it's innate we

[16:04]said that beauty is symmetry let me give you an example some

[16:08]of us and actually all of us we have four powers in

[16:14]the soul two quick ones I just want to talk touch on

[16:19]real quick before well another beer or shall we yeah you have

[16:23]why one power of anger another power is what desire if you

[16:29]take the power of anger and if it doesn't have balance guess

[16:34]why it becomes ugly what happens when someone loses complete control what

[16:45]happens how do you look at that person it's very difficult to

[16:51]even control yourself at that level now what happens when someone is

[16:56]passive when they need to be aggressive what happens when a person

[17:02]needs to be brave but they become a coward because of inaction

[17:09]that balance is situational if someone one of you guys let me

[17:14]get some big guys here wait what can I pick on real

[17:20]quick okay I said okay buddy some if melody if someone's beating

[17:24]up your mother or father anybody close to you what's your obligation

[17:30]you're gonna apply the principle of protection what's your obligation I for

[17:37]an eye what are you gonna do to that guy are you

[17:40]gonna sit there and say he's 6 2 6 3 250 I

[17:45]think I can take him are you gonna do that but what

[17:48]are you gonna do after are using this wait and just fiddle

[17:58]your thumbs and okay so what are you gonna do okay why

[18:02]why is that important what do you need inside of you to

[18:12]happen what do you need to feel ascent Imam Ali Ali Salam

[18:17]he says you're as brief is how much anger you can muster

[18:20]that's your bravery if you are a person who is that in

[18:28]that moment you cannot generate anger guess what what happens when that

[18:33]person is done with the action and you just stood there because

[18:41]you are afraid that whole equation now is over your chance is

[18:47]over the window has closed what are people gonna say about you

[18:51]now are you a coward or are you brave once the window

[19:01]closes that's it regret sets in because if you don't move at

[19:05]that moment that's it that's positive anger negative anger is when you

[19:13]don't move when you become a coward on that side beautiful actions

[19:18]is something called the Helen L helm is what it's the balance

[19:24]between someone who's irrational and out of control to someone who's what

[19:29]totally passive in cordis there's a difference so on that level you

[19:39]start seeing who you are when you create balance which is beauty

[19:44]beauty is the action that is taken in its right place in

[19:48]its right time I'm telling you I'm dealing with a lot of

[19:57]issues within our community and a lot of them have to do

[19:59]with why beautiful actions for the women I'm just gonna say one

[20:10]thing please this is all that men want nothing else this is

[20:14]a beautiful action an example okay then I'm gonna talk to the

[20:22]men okay one thing that men absolutely adore just do this and

[20:27]I guarantee you you'll be happy and he will be happy few

[20:36]words with a few actions when he gets home go to the

[20:40]door and as hard it is to smile just put a big

[20:47]smile on your face and it's so difficult I know you want

[20:53]to yell at him for getting the groceries wrong and I know

[20:55]you want to just go off you know where are the kids

[20:58]you missed the time what's wrong with you I know it's hard

[21:10]okay but it's a secret okay do that and watch what happens

[21:17]I'm saying if you have a great husband and he's a good

[21:21]person and he deserves that have your manners be beautiful your actions

[21:26]be beautiful just like you see a beautiful face you can have

[21:37]beautiful actions then you know what you do give them a hug

[21:41]that you've sealed it if you do that you've sealed it then

[21:47]you know for the rest of the day you don't have to

[21:50]do anything there's something that happens inside of a man when something

[21:54]like that happens all he wants is that kind of support this

[22:00]is the halacha photometers ahora al es Salaam she used to be

[22:05]like that tima Molly and guess what you do that those actions

[22:13]are your ticket to heaven bottom line no matter how harsh some

[22:17]of the situation's are and trust me I know for the brothers

[22:20]beautiful actions right listen when she's going off on the phone or

[22:28]right in your face you know what you do what do you

[22:31]do see this that's all you see Wow oh my god don't

[22:39]even listen don't listen okay just wow that what happened oh my

[22:44]god what is that what they did to you she's just venting

[22:50]that's all she wants to do don't do this okay don't go

[22:56]into problem-solving mode don't you will become the problem if somebody got

[23:02]to her at work now you're the problem guaranteed I guarantee you

[23:08]that okay do some research and watch what'll happen I guarantee you

[23:12]what I'm saying is true and psychological means it's emotional coping versus

[23:18]one problem coping you're trying to solve a problem that's not gonna

[23:21]be solved she doesn't want to solve it she doesn't want a

[23:25]solution so what do you do show me guys show me what

[23:28]you do so right there let me see our beautiful smiles that's

[23:31]all you do listen it works amazingly okay so on that level

[23:37]you smile that's a beautiful action let her talk then you know

[23:44]what happens after like 10-15 minutes and you're so interested in what

[23:49]she's saying you know what happens now some of you Alice it's

[23:54]gone it'll be like two hours but you're gonna have to bear

[23:57]the pain okay but it's okay it's worth it after that you

[24:04]know also say to you my god you're such a good person

[24:07]everyone should be like you I just want you to listen beautiful

[24:13]actions examples just for both sides okay now let me give you

[24:23]an understanding if you don't have these actions let's go to the

[24:28]other side now let's say you as a person you don't know

[24:31]what you don't know I'm gonna give you five steps five steps

[24:38]that if you do this right you'll be able to look at

[24:41]yourself and you'll be able to manifest while beautiful actions that when

[24:49]you see your wife or the wife sees the husband it all

[24:54]happens there's an affinity we like each other wait wait wait we

[25:00]love each other the reason why I'm choosing this right now there's

[25:07]a lot of problems with our relationships our relationships are falling apart

[25:15]individuals make up families families make up communities communities make up societies

[25:22]if you as a person don't understand your value within a community

[25:26]and you break a family either side god forbid you have no

[25:35]idea what you're doing to the community because that's a brick within

[25:39]the community an imagined house that's where they're due and it's bricks

[25:47]are worn what's going to happen to its community what's going to

[25:53]happen to our next generation that's our responsibility I go around the

[26:03]world not for the adults for the kids for the next generation

[26:07]now let's go to the five steps of you watching yourself if

[26:18]you do these five things I give you permission to take out

[26:23]your phone and write them down okay this if you truly want

[26:30]to know yourself as a person go try to find psychology books

[26:33]whatever you're not gonna find what I'm saying this is our religion

[26:37]this is what it does and this is what we have it

[26:41]can challenge anything spin it take it take a picture do whatever

[26:45]you want nothing can stand to what we have nothing at all

[26:51]solve allah muhammad wa ali muhammad the reason being when you study

[26:58]psychology at the end of the day it will give you certain

[27:04]equations it doesn't give you the solutions all the time take it

[27:07]to the religion you'll find your answers our religion is a program

[27:11]it's a code the more you have of it the more you're

[27:16]free all of us we think we're free right now our phones

[27:22]we can just stop in any second and you can what relieve

[27:25]yourself from what from anything any situation that you're in at this

[27:29]moment right now you can just click on a phone and what

[27:33]happens you go to somewhere else someone else has got your attention

[27:36]what happens to your relationships with your father with your mother with

[27:40]your brother with your sister they're being drained they're being eroded that's

[27:44]what's happening we're becoming more individualized by the second your ego now

[27:50]is at full flare me me me me narcissism is taking on

[27:56]a whole nother level entitlement is taking on a whole nother level

[28:00]no that's not who we are Imam Ali Ali Salaam Rasul Allah

[28:11]Allah Allah Allahu Allah they say if you want a law to

[28:16]fulfill your needs fulfill the needs of others I'm up here filling

[28:25]my book hoping that one of you will take a concept it

[28:29]could be a mother who's teaching her child that thought resonates it

[28:38]turns into mental DNA it goes into the system it's programmed now

[28:44]it's passed down through lineages why do you think we have a

[28:53]religion right now because people have done that in imam ali ali

[28:57]is Salam he has these things they exist if you just study

[29:02]he says one of his after a battle Imam Ali says to

[29:07]one of his companions he says to him he says ya Amir

[29:09]al-mumineen he says I wish my brother was here his brother had

[29:15]died in battle he says I wish my brother was here look

[29:24]about what the Imam says he says did he love me did

[29:26]your brother love me it's an emotional state it's a connection what

[29:32]is your heart connected to at the end of the day when

[29:36]Salah goes is your heart have that affinity it wants to read

[29:42]it wants to be in submission is that your heart talk to

[29:45]it talk to yourself ask yourself these questions Who am I Who

[29:54]am I or when that happens you're just like it's okay you

[29:59]rationalize and you tell yourself I'm safe I'm okay I don't need

[30:03]to pray prayer doesn't matter prayer is a beautiful action AHA it's

[30:14]beautiful you're saying I submit to something greater than me I'm humble

[30:20]so many signs happen let's put that aside just for right now

[30:25]he says to him he says this did he love me love

[30:31]he says yeah I mean meaning yes he did love you Imam

[30:37]Ali Allah's Salam says to him he says then no he was

[30:40]with us and he will be with us no matter what it's

[30:45]the love of truth that's beauty that when you see something wrong

[30:50]you don't just look away he saw something wrong he went to

[30:57]the side of the road his passion he needs that interview it's

[31:00]his job he goes to the side of the road to help

[31:03]someone else that's a beautiful act but watch how Allah rewards watch

[31:09]when you do beautiful things and your actions become beautiful watch how

[31:15]Allah rewards you it's incredible when you do that it's incredible so

[31:19]now he says to him he says there are even people he

[31:24]says to his companion there are people who are still in the

[31:28]wombs of women and then the loins of men who have not

[31:33]come yet that will come one day in the future and they

[31:41]will uphold our flag here you go here's your opportunity he's talking

[31:45]about us why do we have these things because people decided that

[31:54]were before you to keep the message of life to pass a

[31:58]thought that's a hadith that's guaranteed and it's transformed through time to

[32:06]transform people not transform the hadith itself to transform people and now

[32:13]you read and something happens to your heart and you connect to

[32:24]it this wasn't always like this it wasn't people had to do

[32:29]a lot of work so you one can put it as a

[32:35]decoration on yourself I'm sorry that's not what it's for don't use

[32:38]it in the wrong way please please but the Prophet says your

[32:48]law my people have taken this for granted he's talking to you

[32:53]and me as well some of us are not like that some

[32:58]of us this lives with us it's in our heart so now

[33:05]if we want to be those people what should we do to

[33:09]maintain who we are there are five steps number one the first

[33:17]thing please take these five down okay number one Allah ABBA I

[33:22]told you search you will not find this search this is our

[33:29]religion this is how we understand the self our Imams and our

[33:33]prophet or scientists of the soul not just the body not just

[33:38]action not just what we think is right or wrong they were

[33:41]scientists of you they can give you the program do you want

[33:46]it do you want to download it it's up to you no

[33:47]one on the day of judgment is gonna stand next to you

[33:51]no one you're gonna be alone by yourself even a suckling mother

[33:54]will drop her child she will drop him a child with hair

[34:02]will turn gray and that day those are warnings for you some

[34:06]people need those verses and some people need other verses of hope

[34:15]Janet in 30 min tahti Alan are beautiful things allow describes beautiful

[34:21]heavens some people need hope some of us need fear we don't

[34:24]have enough of it we think we're safe and what I play

[34:29]my music it's okay it doesn't matter I was gonna forgive me

[34:31]I want nullify my sin I make it small imam ali ali

[34:39]salami says the worst person is the one who makes his sins

[34:42]light I'm sorry the worst sin is the one you deem light

[34:49]Wow don't think you're safe because medical mode will visit you every

[34:55]single day he's coming you all are gonna have a meeting at

[35:03]the end of the day know that you're gonna meet him what

[35:06]do you like it or not what are you gonna have in

[35:09]your hands what have you done me I'm selfish up here I'm

[35:15]selfish I swear to you I'm not trying to save you I

[35:17]swear you I'm not I'm not trying to get you to go

[35:21]you know what actually saw my salad this guy's so great I

[35:26]saw you it does nothing for me I'm nominated to speak at

[35:28]Amazon do you think I care I swear to you do you

[35:31]think I care I don't care I get it I lose it

[35:36]it doesn't matter to me I don't care because at the end

[35:41]of the day I'm just filling my book and hopefully one of

[35:44]you takes the idea like I said and they plant it in

[35:48]their mind and they water it with emotions in their heart and

[35:51]now that's it if your heart ignites and it connects to the

[35:57]right things my god what happens to you it's happened to me

[36:00]I wasn't always religious I was always in here I didn't go

[36:08]to the mosque I didn't know I had no idea but something

[36:15]happened I went to Islamic retreat for days changed my life I

[36:27]came back a different person I don't know what happened to me

[36:31]it felt like I was floating I literally I swear you I

[36:35]was high if that I've never been high before I know taking

[36:37]drugs never did anything but I I swear to you I think

[36:44]that's how high people feel I I don't know so when I

[36:46]come back it shifted my whole trajectory in life and I never

[36:54]thought I would be up here I never thought that would happen

[37:00]one of my nephews he says to his dad today he's actually

[37:12]here and he says to him he says Bubba he's very young

[37:17]and he says to him you know I don't think I might

[37:25]make a lot of money but I think it would be a

[37:27]shift that's so beautiful to have that thought and to be that

[37:37]young that's incredible I swear to you like in my heart I

[37:43]was crying I didn't show up my face but in my heart

[37:45]I was crying you know why because that's a beautiful thing it

[37:50]is so beautiful the identity is being formed so early this person

[37:55]doesn't waver they don't move off the path please look at the

[38:00]kids look trust me trust me there's someone that's after them that's

[38:05]stronger than you protect them protect their minds from the thoughts and

[38:10]the ideas that's what you have to protect so when they go

[38:15]out into the world they have beautiful mannerism they can uphold the

[38:19]truth first step el mapa the person watch yourself watch yourself that's

[38:26]the first step watch who you are look at yourself did I

[38:34]smile when my husband came home or did I just do this

[38:37]when she was venting to me did I know Allah you always

[38:43]say that okay like I understand I'm telling you what to do

[38:46]why aren't you listening to me do I look at my actions

[38:53]do I do that do I go step by step and I

[38:59]watch my day do I do that that's number one number two

[39:02]Elmo hava number two is for you to what take accounting so

[39:09]number one connects to number two number one there's something called awareness

[39:15]training okay in number one elmore al kaba is the person who

[39:19]watches their actions awareness training is something I do with my clients

[39:23]this is where you figure out your triggers your bad habits what

[39:26]they are this is the first step so the person who does

[39:31]awareness training is you figure out your triggers their subconscious you don't

[39:35]even know they exist this is how you've been programmed maybe from

[39:38]your little kid to a higher stage in terms of adulthood but

[39:44]some has happened to you along the way and you don't realize

[39:47]that you trigger and when you trigger you become angry and you

[39:52]just react awareness training is you marking down every time that thing

[39:56]happens and then why the time of day who was around you

[40:02]start taking account of who you are that's awareness training October number

[40:07]two and more has ever you take accounting of who you are

[40:14]now you ask yourself why why did I do that action why

[40:17]what's the reason my heart is doing that why am i submitting

[40:23]to this low regressive desire why why when I'm alone behind a

[40:26]computer I'm doing things I shouldn't be doing why am i sending

[40:29]certain texts that you know what my husband is in next room

[40:34]but I'm you know what there's something that's happening I'm watching social

[40:38]media and there's people that are so happy and they're portraying on

[40:42]this concept that oh my god life is so beautiful because they're

[40:46]on vacation so I go and I nag and I would tell

[40:51]him you know what why don't you take me on vacation do

[40:56]i watch myself like that do I say that this is wrong

[40:59]passive nafsi Rasul Allah Allahu Allah he says ha Cebu and for

[41:06]Sock'em Koblin - ha Sabu take account of yourself before you want

[41:12]you will be accounted for that day is coming and you in

[41:20]me it's coming was he knew her cobbler cobbler and what to

[41:24]Zano and way it way your what your actions that's all you

[41:28]have at the end of the day everything you have in this

[41:32]world is rented everything you're gonna have to give back even your

[41:35]own body it's not yours some of us we have plastic surgery

[41:43]on the outside but you know where we need the plastic surgery

[41:47]on the inside there's a difference that's the truth number two and

[41:55]mahasabha number three now I've committed the sin I've gone across I've

[42:01]said things to my father I should have said I've said things

[42:07]to my mother I shouldn't have said and I get now why

[42:10]I feel that regret I became angry at the wrong time I

[42:18]said the wrong things now my actions are turning ugly not beautiful

[42:22]number three l muhabba l Mahasabha is now feeling remorse there's a

[42:32]difference between a monarch and a movement a monarch there's a hadith

[42:36]by rasool allah allah allah allah allah allah muhammad wa ala muhammad

[42:44]a monarch when he commits a sin or when she commits a

[42:52]sin Rasul Allah Allah Allah Allah Allah says it's like a fly

[43:01]that lands on their nose and they brush it off that's how

[43:10]they look at us in it doesn't bother them but when a

[43:20]movement commits a sin it's like he says jebel ooh Ibuka bias

[43:25]obeys that's the mountain that rasool allah stood on and said to

[43:34]them am i if I told you there's a caravan behind this

[43:36]mountain would you believe me they said yes you are Asad opal

[43:41]I mean then he goes I tell you I am the prophet

[43:44]of law he says la ilaha illaallah muhammaden-rasul allah that's all we

[43:55]have that's your savior trust me you own nothing but that the

[44:04]second you grab onto that is you grabbed on to salvation bottom

[44:09]line you can fight any war that's here anymore the psychological war

[44:16]that we're in you can fight it and you can win easily

[44:19]number three al muhabba a person who's like that he says for

[44:26]them it's like they have a mountain they feel a mountain on

[44:36]their shoulders when they commit the sin they don't eat they feel

[44:41]bad they feel down don't beat yourself up go towards Y repentance

[44:45]potato carob be monetary fun Monica Sarah mone ba I've come to

[44:53]you you're alone to her Camille he says I've come to you

[44:54]what regretful acknowledging please forgive me go there when you have problems

[45:04]there's a beautiful place in your mind and it's called so Judea

[45:10]I've told my daughter anytime you have a problem go somewhere by

[45:14]yourself go into sejoon by yourself do that watch what happens your

[45:21]heart soften it softens so number three my heart ever feel the

[45:25]weight of the sin but then why what should you do should

[45:31]you just let it go I'm done I feel good I went

[45:35]to the alchemy I had a little tear I feel great I

[45:37]want that sure I cried my eyes out it feels awesome it's

[45:45]incredible it's a venting I vented I'm done now you've turned like

[45:48]some of the men they turn into women at that Oliver which

[45:52]is beautiful Boca there's hole had these series on stuff like that

[45:55]it's a healing process it's beautiful when your heart can cry it's

[45:59]a beautiful thing that means your heart is soft when the tear

[46:02]it dries up the heart becomes hard so now number four is

[46:10]what when you get to this stage you start understanding what now

[46:16]you have to fight and it's called Aloha ABBA that's the fourth

[46:23]stage this is where you fight the self now what am a

[46:26]man half a macaw marabi he wanna hanussen el-hawa for in Elgin

[46:33]not al-marwah surely the one who won is afraid of his Lord

[46:35]fear not in the wrong way feared that I don't want to

[46:41]disappoint just like I don't want to disappoint my father or mother

[46:44]I don't want to disappoint Allah I love you Allah it's not

[46:50]because I'm fearing I'm trembling and I'm so scared no I fear

[46:53]you because I don't want to disappoint you so now and I

[46:59]want remove the regressive desires by telling the self no I'm fighting

[47:03]and in the Quran it says la sumo enough silly Lama the

[47:13]one who accuses himself or herself she goes inside she does introspection

[47:20]she listens to her thoughts then from there what happens she sees

[47:28]the sin she Maps it out she even rates it done I

[47:35]have a schedule she goes and looks into the sin and she

[47:38]said why did I do that what emotions that I feel what

[47:44]thoughts went through my mind and I take a schedule I find

[47:49]out why I'm figuring out the trigger number three she does why

[47:52]what was number three can anyone tell me I gave you permission

[47:55]your hand went up too quick so give me a give me

[47:59]a second let me test everybody okay what was number three ray

[48:02]no no raise your hand please don't give it up number three

[48:07]can any just raise your hand let's say if you know do

[48:13]you know mashallah Acts tonight okay okay good listen I'm collecting deeds

[48:17]here I need more so the more of you that know the

[48:19]better for me okay I'm being selfish I'm being honest with you

[48:23]okay and the day of judgment I can say Ya Allah look

[48:24]bring this picture back right here you guys will see my vision

[48:29]you'll see how I'm looking at things and all your hands will

[48:30]count as has an ad for me so go ahead raise them

[48:33]up high I want to see my pie ready masha allah masha

[48:38]okay excellent ham I just collect this allah muhammad wa ala muhammad

[48:45]so now al haram number three is what somebody now say you

[48:58]can say elmo as ever the person who won he feels the

[49:02]remorse the fourth is what the fight i want to give you

[49:12]some psychology and i'm almost done in psychology here's what happens when

[49:16]you are in a fight mentally a mental fight here's what happens

[49:20]two thoughts will enter a ring one thought and it says in

[49:28]this corner who watch boxing who watches boxing okay and they say

[49:32]in this corner we have in [Music] well we'll say blue trunks

[49:41]okay weighing 250 pounds very muscular we have something what called Salah

[49:48]right in this corner we have in the red trunks weighing 110

[49:54]pounds very skinny called wah fortnight a game they're gonna fight we're

[50:01]gonna see who's gonna win who's gonna make the decision we have

[50:08]a referee you know what his name is you you're gonna make

[50:11]a decision you are the promoter you are the person who's gonna

[50:15]set up the whole fight from A to Z it's all happening

[50:21]in your head congratulations now your heart which are your fans guess

[50:29]what they start cheering and when they introduce Allah everybody's like really

[50:40]quiet we may introduce the game everybody raps because your heart is

[50:47]connected to that so you tell yourself it's okay it's okay I'm

[50:52]just gonna want I'm just gonna take off five minutes give me

[50:58]five minutes I'll get up and you start delaying little by little

[51:02]you know when you make that decision here's what happens that thought

[51:07]that's in the red corner which is the game gets a dopamine

[51:11]kick you know what happens there it's becoming stronger now it's a

[51:18]hundred and twenty pounds with a little more muscle you know what

[51:23]happens to Salah it goes from 250 to 240 it gets weaker

[51:31]balance an ala nafsi la basura welcome Adira surely you are a

[51:40]witness against yourself and you will put forth your excuses you will

[51:43]say Ya Allah I just needed a little bit it's ok but

[51:49]you're becoming something else that's Alma Harappa when you're fighting yourself guess

[51:54]what every decision you make you're either becoming stronger or weaker in

[52:01]faith every single decision you make will be brought to you in

[52:10]the Quran it says one I'm an MLM of Khalid are rotten

[52:13]hiren euro surely if you do an atom's weight of good you're

[52:19]gonna see it and if you do an atom's weight of bad

[52:20]you're gonna see it it's gonna be presented to you your book

[52:26]is gonna be presented and nothing will be missing al mahalla number

[52:31]5 now let's say you're strong capable so lost 300 pounds now

[52:39]and it's about to hit 310 because your heart is so connected

[52:45]now you're getting up in the middle of the night you're doing

[52:47]what el Minaj at and you're doing so lot a little and

[52:52]now you're getting closer to allah by the way the way you

[52:55]get closer to allah is not by the way g but it's

[53:00]not by that mostly everybody does that and why do bats is

[53:02]like doing salah fasting some people now that they don't care for

[53:08]that like fasting now is a it's outdated thing people I can't

[53:10]my body my female come on it's too hard nine o'clock kids

[53:20]are doing it we rationalize we lie to ourselves and we make

[53:27]ourselves feel better by removing the guilt it's okay guess what someone's

[53:34]writing their writing rare this guy and this guy trust me they're

[53:38]writing everything you're gonna have a book presented to you like this

[53:42]guess who the authors are they're sitting right on your shoulders they're

[53:46]writing everything and every third you say Imam Ali Allah's Salam he

[53:53]says watch your words because it's as if they're being written by

[53:57]the two angels in a letter to Allah every word you say

[54:02]you're writing a letter like you're writing an email to Allah so

[54:09]be careful on how you talk number five now you're becoming strong

[54:12]you're getting there and now your faith is stronger Elmo Alaba that's

[54:19]the fifth level the fifth level is now maintaining on doing the

[54:24]good because now you've been in the bad you flipped and you've

[54:29]made yourself a stronger being when you do that and you collect

[54:32]yourself at that moment and when the temptation comes you tell it

[54:41]no I'm sorry I'm too strong watch yourself when you're by yourself

[54:47]watch yourself there I can tell you some facts that I cannot

[54:54]talk about that are scary in terms of what's happening with our

[54:59]youth it's scary this is a youth club the next time there's

[55:05]a retreat or some kind of event be greedy because someone is

[55:18]offering you what an opportunity the person Solana Muhammad Ali moment there's

[55:36]a person my mother was coming to the house she lives not

[55:44]too far away from me this happened about a couple years back

[55:48]I just want to show you how beautiful actions can be expended

[55:54]and I'll finish with this my mother was walking to my house

[56:00]she gets to my house and she has a tear in her

[56:09]eye I asked her why why are you crying she says to

[56:18]me she says this is a tear-free mom house anally Salah I

[56:26]say hamdulillah then she tells me and it's for a man that

[56:31]just did something this person pulls up and he says he's older

[56:34]it's very old and he says to her he says you had

[56:40]you do you want me to take you somewhere do you need

[56:45]a ride it meant a lot to my mother beautiful mannerism look

[56:54]she cried she told me the story now I'm telling you the

[57:00]story why because I want to hold him I've never met him

[57:05]I've never met him I don't even know yes but look he

[57:10]doesn't know that her son is a speaker he doesn't know he

[57:13]doesn't know that I'm gonna say the story over and over and

[57:15]over again he doesn't know what he's collected he has no idea

[57:20]but for right now give him Allah Allah Allah Muhammad Ali Mohammed

[57:32]that's how you collect simple little actions and when they turn and

[57:40]they bloom into beautiful things on the day of judgement when they're

[57:44]handed to you you're gonna say thank God I pulled over he

[57:51]pulls over he waits for the truck the truck gets there he

[57:58]tells her do you need anything she's like no he leaves he

[58:10]gets there and he's late when he's late he's waiting in the

[58:17]room they're like we're sorry we're having some delays and we're gonna

[58:22]be late on you he's like okay look Allah rewards I'm a

[58:31]kuru wanna car allah allahu khairan marketing they plan a non-law plans

[58:37]law is the best of planners when allows got your sustenance in

[58:41]his hands don't think you made it don't think it's you know

[58:48]he's given it to you and it's your responsibility to do the

[58:52]right things with it from your money and your time he's sitting

[59:02]there and he's waiting the door opens who walks in the lady

[59:11]that was on the side of the road he shocked she shocked

[59:19]he's like what are you doing here she's like what are you

[59:23]doing here he's like I'm here for an interview she's like I'm

[59:29]interviewing you why do we love beautiful actions if your heart didn't

[59:40]move at the end of that story you've got some work to

[59:48]do your emotions are not right we love beautiful actions because they're

[59:54]balanced you as a person will become beautiful when your actions become

[60:01]beautiful so when my little nephew says I want to become a

[60:07]chef and he's a little white look at that's a beautiful action

[60:12]I love you solo had a Muhammad Ali Mohammed any quick questions

[60:22]comments concerns told okay hmm okay so it's a great question I'll

[61:11]reiterate just make sure I'm saying the right thing okay so the

[61:17]question is really I'm overwhelmed because I don't have enough time to

[61:23]prioritize my responsibilities I have a very demanding job which requires a

[61:26]lot of time so that's time management okay so responsibilities underneath responsibilities

[61:32]understand is time management you have literally six categories of responsibilities that

[61:37]everything falls into and correct me when I'm done with my reiteration

[61:44]okay six levels of responsibility number one is your finances number two

[61:47]is your family in relationships number three is your own character development

[61:50]number four is your spirituality number five is your community and number

[61:56]six is your own health these are the six things that you

[61:58]have to balance you ever seen someone is spinning basketballs they spin

[62:02]basketballs you have to spin all these all the time some of

[62:08]us we can't even spin one but you have to balance that

[62:11]you have to be able to balance those things that you're talking

[62:16]about so I have family I have which is then I have

[62:17]my job and I have other things what you're saying is I'm

[62:24]overwhelmed because I'm off balance life has gotten me in so many

[62:27]degrees now here's what we do am i correct by the way

[62:33]okay so now if that's the question what should we do here

[62:38]when we understand this that at the end of the day your

[62:41]time is a luxury your time is not yours you don't get

[62:46]to spend it the way you want it's not yours your time

[62:48]has been given to you when you wake up and the first

[62:53]second you open up your eyes understand that's a gift that's a

[62:56]gift when you sit there and you tell yourself alhamdulillah Allah you've

[63:03]just given me what you've given me 86,400 seconds in one day

[63:16]that just went into my bank account now I need to spend

[63:26]those how do I spend them that time is not yours here's

[63:32]one issue from the outside our responsibilities here in terms of work

[63:35]are massive they're massive a lot of us I'm sorry we put

[63:45]our careers in front of our WA kids we put our careers

[63:47]in front of our marriage we put our careers in front of

[63:51]what so many other things that family has become one second airing

[63:55]now I'm not telling you that sometimes it's not necessary it's it's

[64:00]necessary you have to make things and make ends meet you have

[64:07]to but it's if it's hindering your relationship I don't care how

[64:12]much money you're making when it hinders your spirituality leave it drop

[64:16]it I guarantee you just do it don't even think just do

[64:22]it prioritize your principles because at the end of the day Allah

[64:25]is gonna give you your sustenance anyway Imam Ali Allah's Salam please

[64:29]take this right now write this down to 73 in Nashville aha

[64:34]the hadith it's a small little paragraph and Imam Ali please read

[64:40]it tonight if you can it's in the short sayings it's in

[64:42]the back of national Bulava there's sermons letters and why sayings I'm

[64:47]sorry letters sermons and sayings in Hodgenville Agha just read there's four

[64:51]hundred and eighty-one of them read them two seventy three states that

[65:01]Allah has guaranteed your provisions they're guaranteed how many of you can

[65:11]do that really say you don't want ya la my provisions are

[65:14]guaranteed it's a form of safety insecurity it's not that you drop

[65:21]your obligations use at home and you say wifey I'm done hulless

[65:24]Allah see look at the hadith see that done I sit at

[65:30]home recliner Netflix I'm done alhamdulillah what a great life start becoming

[65:37]overweight she looks at you yeah I'm sure ha what happened is

[65:44]that the way it works no you have to meet the conditions

[65:50]you know I really salami says have a high work ethic one

[65:51]of the things I love about my father alhamdulillah is instilled in

[65:58]us what work I think the man in seven months bought a

[66:04]house no English five kids and a wife he bought a house

[66:07]I'm proud to be his son I'm proud to stand up here

[66:10]and say you know what alhamdulillah that's my father I'm grateful that

[66:15]he did that that's a man that's how you stand that's not

[66:23]easy it's not but those are the shoes you gotta fill that's

[66:27]not easy to do imagine I through you right now in China

[66:35]five kids and a wife in no language you think it's gonna

[66:39]be easy so when we're coming overwhelmed prioritize those six categories prioritize

[66:47]them see what you're lacking in is it your spirituality is it

[66:53]time for your kids then reorder those categories that I gave you

[66:59]reorder them if you're missing spirituality listen I swear you I have

[67:03]people making millions of dollars I have some of my clients they're

[67:07]making millions of dollars you tell them go to a funeral you

[67:12]know what happens they're scared they can't go I can't go to

[67:17]a funeral scared you know why cuz in my spiritual domain I'm

[67:20]a little baby I may have millions of dollars and I spend

[67:25]so much money I spent so much time earning that money but

[67:27]when it comes time to pray I won't do it I'm dead

[67:31]spiritually in the financial world you're a giant people respect you look

[67:36]at your car mashallah when it comes to coming down and praying

[67:42]what happens you're a little infant because there's no time put into

[67:47]that one category look whenever number one when you have balance you

[67:53]have certain emotions that no one can touch you're happy you're grateful

[67:58]you give when you need to even if you have it or

[68:04]you don't have it you feel secure why because you're sitting in

[68:08]a lost pawn that's beauty it's the most beautiful thing now I

[68:17]know those kids can get what a little crazy it's hard raising

[68:20]kids these days too so I give it to you you have

[68:26]three mashallah like that's that's like to now like people I can't

[68:33]breathe honey take them Marsh fee it's difficult it's also the country

[68:37]so I'm not just putting it on you it's also the country

[68:39]the country puts a lot of responsibility if you get a car

[68:44]you need insurance if you get a house you have a payment

[68:48]in a mortgage payment there's principal and there's what you have to

[68:52]pay interest then guess what on top of that what happens you

[68:55]need insurance on the house then you need to feed the kids

[69:00]there's so there's a threshold that's set to keep you one-on-one the

[69:05]hamster wheel that's what it said there's thresholds it's a business you're

[69:10]part of a business you're part of a greater business these things

[69:15]are set there's a lot of people that understand the way we

[69:19]work and our social standards at a completely different level and they

[69:22]keep us spinning you know what they're after your time that's what

[69:27]they're after so balance it don't lose yourself balance it steal what

[69:32]you can from this world the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa ala he

[69:38]says he says these days when the day comes it will steal

[69:41]from you when the night comes it will steal from you he

[69:46]says steal from it take something for the future have a good

[69:48]action balanced your life ok get what you want out of it

[69:52]so that's what happens so it's our society the way we're you

[69:58]know the kind of the pressure cooker that were under okay some

[70:01]of us we can't balance in terms of those six categories and

[70:06]it becomes really it takes a toll and our major major toll

[70:09]on our health by the way that's where it takes a major

[70:13]toll line because we can't balance the responsibility I'll be honest with

[70:20]you I had a six-figure job I left it I left it

[70:23]I didn't care I left I've made more money this year than

[70:34]I've ever made that was a year ago I didn't care my

[70:42]time is my hands I didn't care it's not easy to leave

[70:45]things behind especially when they represent security especially when they do that

[70:52]because we think money is security when he's not security imam mahdi

[70:56]aleihi as-salam he says your money and your health I'm sorry your

[71:02]health and your wealth are not security Security's with Allah you got

[71:06]to work on your spirituality so I hope that partially answers your

[71:10]question it's a deeper question I would have to know your situation

[71:13]I'm just giving you generalities many other questions real quick Alma dhaba

[71:30]I'll move our Doba it's a weird word when you hear it

[71:37]I don't know if many people have heard about any other questions

[71:40]quick questions comments concerns otherwise isn't will move forward going once twice

[71:46]sallou ala muhammad ali muhammad thank you - a beautiful lectures give

[72:06]him another loud salawats please so that concludes our program thank you

[72:10]for joining us next week we'll have falta me apart - with

[72:13]Hajj Jalal Mohini inshallah and then two weeks from now if you'd

[72:16]like to listen Hajj Alam again we're honored and lucky enough to

[72:18]have him again for another program so we'll see you guys in

[72:22]sha allah and we're always here friday nights at 8 p.m.

[72:24]so Salaam Muhammad Ali Mohammed

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