3 Steps to Perfect Our Character | Shaykh Faiyaz Jaffer

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Day 8 #Ramadhan 2023 #Akhlaq #character

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[0:00]haha [Applause] [Music] [Music] udible [Music] perhaps there's nothing as difficult and

[0:31]as challenging on a day-to-day basis in comparison to managing relationships in

[0:38]my work every single day people of various different ages and genders

[0:42]doesn't make a difference truly they come to me and they mention

[0:47]about the difficulties that they have to undergo particularly in navigating conversations

[0:51]with their family members with their loved ones with friends or obstacles

[0:57]and encounters that they had had 10 years previously that totally shift

[1:01]the way that they see life that they see faith if they

[1:03]see religion if they see God and again there's perhaps nothing that's

[1:07]difficult to manage in comparison to people we're different we have different

[1:13]experiences we have different perspectives we have different backgrounds when you bring

[1:19]all of that together in one particular setting undoubtedly it is the

[1:24]potential for so much conflict but it's important for us to seek

[1:29]toward mitigating those obstacles and challenges by allowing for the central focal

[1:33]point of our being which is our heart to become purified and

[1:39]to become perfected and for us to remind ourselves that we're working

[1:43]for something greater in the world Beyond this one and to not

[1:45]only see the challenges that we endure that we encounter in this

[1:51]temporal world is the be-all end-all but rather the means toward getting

[1:56]to the end and this is understood by various versus Quran and

[2:01]in doubtedly the Hadith of the prophet and his family peace and

[2:05]blessings be upon them and that famous narration from the prophet sallallahu

[2:09]alaihi States for instance that the believer is someone who is easy

[2:15]going the believer is someone who's lenient we don't allow for instance

[2:21]for all of the little things to consume us to sort of

[2:24]stem forth and create too much stress or anxiety and build up

[2:30]a lot of issues on our shoulders and burden but rather we

[2:34]let the small things kind of just roll off and we're not

[2:36]going to be so consumed when someone speaks poorly to us or

[2:41]when someone harms us but rather we can see that at the

[2:42]end of the day my responsibility is to do my best to

[2:47]forgive to forget because I'm working for something greater and that is

[2:51]to find pleasure with Allah and I understand at the same time

[2:58]that that's difficult that's challenging but sometimes when we forgive and when

[3:03]we let go it's more about us pushing forth It's About Us

[3:07]healing from that encounter that we have to encounter from that encounter

[3:10]that we had to endure such that we are able to make

[3:15]progress in our own lives and I want to share with you

[3:19]a very beautiful Hadith from the messenger of God as he speaks

[3:25]to his beloved Brothers cousin his son-in-law when he States there are

[3:35]three qualities which are the best of qualities and when the messenger

[3:39]of God is advising Ali that means that every single one of

[3:45]us should undoubtedly be content in terms of how we listen and

[3:50]in terms of how we obey the messenger of God he States

[4:01]he says if you do these three things you will have perfected

[4:06]your character the first one of those is to mend relationships with

[4:11]those who have cut you off again I know it's hard but

[4:16]when you have a family member who has decided that they don't

[4:18]want to talk to you anymore then you make the effort again

[4:20]recognizing that for you it might be an opportunity for you to

[4:25]make a testimony to Allah to Humble ourselves in front of others

[4:29]and reality is humbling ourselves in front of God and through that

[4:35]we can attain his pleasure and success in this world and in

[4:38]the next as well so when someone cuts you off and cancels

[4:41]you and tells you they don't want to talk to you anymore

[4:45]it doesn't have anything to do with you anymore and at the

[4:47]very least you make that effort to smile in their faith to

[4:51]say salaam to them to send them a message on the day

[4:52]of Eid on their birthday on whatever it might be in order

[4:58]that we're slowly bridging that gap between us and them at the

[5:01]end of the day for the sake and for the pleasure of

[5:05]Allah if someone has chosen not to give to you or any

[5:11]of the Prophet says secondly then you give it to them someone

[5:15]didn't give you a favor they didn't offer you something that doesn't

[5:18]mean that you throw it back in their face and say well

[5:20]you didn't offer this to me now I'm not going to give

[5:23]it to you no if someone didn't extend their hand to you

[5:27]when they need help you extend your head to that again that's

[5:30]what it means to being a Believer and it's difficult and it's

[5:34]challenging but that's why the messenger of God states that this is

[5:40]amongst the best of etiquettes and amongst the best and we see

[5:43]this in the life and within the Sera of the messenger of

[5:47]God and undoubtedly within the Sunnah of his sallallahu alaihi and that

[5:52]of his family even those were the staunchest enemies in opposition to

[5:56]them peace and blessings be upon them the prophet and the Imam

[6:01]is Faith were always at the Forefront toward offering them support toward

[6:05]offering them advice who are offering them wealth who were offering them

[6:08]whatever it was that they needed because they realized that they have

[6:12]a responsibility to Allah amongst the most sort of famous examples of

[6:20]this is that moment when intercepts at that land known as shut

[6:30]off and when he saw even the horses of the opposing enemy

[6:34]at that time who are looking for water and dying and struggling

[6:39]with The Thirst that they had to endure it was the moment

[6:42]and his family members and companions who offered even the horses water

[6:49]so that they could be satiated at that moment knowing very well

[6:53]that those same horses and that the same enemy sought to shed

[6:56]the blood of the daughter of the son messenger of God it's

[7:04]my friends it's important for us to go back and read and

[7:08]reflect upon these words of the messenger of God the first one

[7:13]of those most perfect qualities or characteristics to make men's with those

[7:19]who have cut you off and to give to those who have

[7:26]chosen not to give to you what's up and to forgive those

[7:29]who have wronged you and again I recognize just how difficult that

[7:34]is as well but at the end of the day when we

[7:37]forgive those who have wronged in Us in reality what it is

[7:42]that we're doing is that we're demonstrating to Allah that we are

[7:46]not amongst those who live for this world but rather we live

[7:51]for something far greater and something far more important and when we

[7:55]tell those who have wronged us that we forgive them in spite

[7:57]of the way that they have treated us at the same time

[8:00]we're seeking from Allah that he forgives us for all of the

[8:07]times that we have transgressed his boundaries and wrong our own cells

[8:10]going back to these epic words of the prophet of God is

[8:25]that we are able to be amongst those who are able to

[8:29]take a higher ground and be those who perfect our hearts and

[8:34]our souls during this holy month of Ramadan and be he to

[8:37]the advice oh [Music] foreign [Music]

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