Tafsir of Surah Maryam: Modes of Effective Communication

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[0:00]maja long sagadam from muhammad life voila le VAV Napoleon and maximum

[0:09]integer being a homeowner ages what a harem thought he lost a

[0:20]lot of a lot about okay what are elastic eternal energy he

[0:27]wanna kill Hamidah balloon haha I oughta be learning in a shape

[0:49]one orgy for the quality of the garden Zachary [Music] what a

[0:58]phenomenon you know the ensalada muhammad wa ali muhammad long Sanada Mohammad

[1:05]OID man sha Allah over the course of the next few nights

[1:12]or couple weeks until the end of this holy month we'll be

[1:17]discussing few verses from surat maryam chapter xix of the holy quran

[1:26]containing several wonderful stories of Prophet Zachariah Zacharias and then the birth

[1:36]of yeah yeah John the Baptist and then moving on to marry

[1:43]em or marry and hear wonderful stories in the Holy Quran after

[1:49]that we'll touch upon the story of Abraham ibrahim alayhis salaam and

[1:55]some of the other prophets that are mentioned in this surah we

[2:00]will take a break for three or so nights which will be

[2:08]the nights of the Shahada of imam amirul mumineen an evening be

[2:12]a part of salawatullahi wa salamu alayh and we'll dedicate those three

[2:16]nights for imam ali salam ala ala and then we'll resume with

[2:23]the discussion of surat maryam in sha allah so the beginning of

[2:32]the surah starts with alphabets there are 29 sewers in the holy

[2:41]quran that begin with alphabets alphabet such as for example surah al-baqarah

[2:49]if you look at the beginning of surat al-baqara it says the

[2:56]smell of manna rahim Alif LAAM Meem you have some other servers

[3:00]like surah Saad starting with sod surat yaseen starting with seen surah

[3:07]taha starting with so this surah also begins with some alphabets and

[3:17]they are curved yeah I'm and Saad what do these alphabets mean

[3:26]today sha Allah will give about three meanings or interpretations to the

[3:34]meaning of these alphabet and then we will take a look at

[3:43]the last meeting and will branch off to it to the affective

[3:45]modes of communication one suggestion about CAF yeah I inferred all the

[3:55]alphabets in general and the Holy Quran is that they are secrets

[4:03]their secrets to whom only Allah subhana WA Ta'ala knows the answer

[4:07]so what do these alphabets really mean there are just wonders of

[4:13]the hora it's to tell people that no matter how advanced you

[4:19]might get something so simple like the alphabets may get you and

[4:24]keep you at wonder it's kind of a realization to humanity that

[4:34]don't feel invincible with all the discoveries that you make with all

[4:40]the power that you attain it is sometimes something simple that can

[4:45]take you down a human being who could be very powerful very

[4:52]mighty a small parasite can bring him down to earth it is

[4:57]narrated that a man by the name of Al Mamun al abbas

[5:02]II he was the son of Harun al-rashid the Abbasi kaleb's the

[5:07]abysses established a very big dynasty and their capital was the city

[5:11]of Baghdad in Iraq al Mamoon al abbas II was the man

[5:16]who with his own hands killed an imam allah by allahís kalam

[5:21]poisoned macGruber our hmm alehissalaam his father Harun al-rashid ordered the imprisonment

[5:30]and the poisoning of the father of Imam agava Imam will Calvin

[5:35]alehissalaam and moons daughter at the command of her uncle Matt moons

[5:47]brother Alberto said she poison an imam who jawad so you can

[5:50]imagine what the family it is mashallah father son and granddaughter so

[5:55]here is how things are working with this family this memorial Abasi

[6:00]was quite mighty quite powerful yet the story goes one day he

[6:08]was with his entire army with his big army and they were

[6:12]standing there at a place that is just like a lake and

[6:17]he sees a fish that is fishing you know coming out in

[6:19]the water he says you know I want you to fish this

[6:23]fish for me I want to eat it as they were catching

[6:28]the fish it splashed water on him and he felt unwell oh

[6:31]you know I'm getting cold now all of the sudden because of

[6:36]this water that's what splashed on him he develops a fever and

[6:39]that fever kills him so here is a mighty man who killed

[6:46]his own brother to become the Selita he killed Imam Abu baraa

[6:52]laid his cellar gonna be microphone we follow Muhammad in so he

[7:03]killed an imam of navarre alehissalaam he killed his own brother to

[7:08]become the Khalifa yet it's just a matter of some water being

[7:11]splashed at him that bring him down to his knees so sometimes

[7:15]it's something that you don't even think about it's the little things

[7:19]that will gets you and Allah subhana WA Ta'ala may be hinting

[7:22]towards this look at this great or on but it still contains

[7:27]some secrets and it's the alphabets that you may not be able

[7:30]to understand so that's one interpretation that they're just wonders that people

[7:35]don't quite understand second interpretation is that those who are challenging the

[7:48]authenticity of the holy quran people at the time of the holy

[7:52]prophet sallallahu alayhi wa LA were challenging is this for an authentic

[7:56]no no no they were saying the Prophet himself came up with

[8:02]it he wrote it himself he's a great poet he's a magician

[8:05]and they started giving all these names to the prophet sallallaahu he

[8:09]who had these letters at the beginning of the holy quran suggests

[8:14]that listen all you guys were challenging the authenticity of this holy

[8:20]book if you're claiming that allah did not reveal this book fine

[8:28]what is the book made-up words what are my words made up

[8:32]of letters okay so these are the letters and if Lam Meem

[8:40]yeah I ain't thought etc etc etc use these letters and try

[8:44]to come up with something as magnificent as the holy quran good

[8:50]luck go ahead this is like for example you coming to a

[8:54]very wonderful painting and you come to that painter and you say

[8:58]you know what that's something simple you know I could have done

[9:02]this myself okay well you really think oh yeah definitely that's nothing

[9:05]I could have done that I could have done better than that

[9:11]like okay well here are the tools I use this brush I

[9:13]use this paint there you go take the tools and come up

[9:19]with something better than this as you claim so another interpretation is

[9:26]these are the tools of this holy book the alphabets are the

[9:31]tools so if you are questioning the authenticity of the holy quran

[9:36]if you are saying that no no no it was not allah

[9:41]who revealed this book come up with one surah like the holy

[9:45]quran what is the shortest surah in the holy quran what is

[9:51]it I'll catch up so that will catch up you guys have

[9:55]sorted Calvin memorizing Sharma I hope so right yeah good how many

[10:02]verses does it have you sound hesitant three thank you very much

[10:10]three verses okay I'm hoping everyone here knows Ovid in Calcutta is

[10:16]the shortest surah in the Quran three verses only Allah subhana WA

[10:21]Ta'ala says here is a sewer and the shortest surah in the

[10:27]Quran made up of three verses come up with something like it

[10:31]good luck and it's been 1,400 years and still people have not

[10:38]come up with anything like the Quran so my brothers and sisters

[10:41]I know there are a lot of people who write about the

[10:48]authenticity of the Quran some are academics they criticize the Quran my

[10:52]request to all of you my message to all of you when

[11:00]you come across such individuals the simple answer is this come up

[11:05]with a book like the Quran those who criticize the authenticity of

[11:11]the Quran I found many of them do not even know Arabic

[11:20]the Quran is revealed in Arabic in order for you to understand

[11:24]the Quran you have to learn Arabic and I don't mean Arabic

[11:27]just speaking Arabic know you've got a study Arabic language you have

[11:32]to study Arabic grammar Arabic grammar is quite intensive there are people

[11:37]who do pH D's on Arabic grammar Arabic literature Arabic linguistics that's

[11:42]quite deep quite detailed in order for you to really understand the

[11:47]Quran you have to have all this knowledge under your belt if

[11:52]a person just says well I'm an Arab speaker and you know

[11:54]I have a problem with the hold on say excuse me with

[11:58]all the respect just because you speak Arabic does not mean you

[12:00]understand what the Quran says so one of the problems I'm seeing

[12:07]with people who have problems with authenticity of the Quran is that

[12:11]they themselves don't even know Arabic they read the translation of the

[12:14]Quran you cannot read the translation of the book to understand it

[12:17]this is like me taking Shakespeare and translating it into Arabic and

[12:21]seeing read this and someone would really like what's so special about

[12:25]this you know there's nothing special about it so well no no

[12:29]I mean this guy was a genius in English literature like yeah

[12:32]but doesn't look like it yeah because you're reading in a different

[12:37]language read it in English and you realize the kind of contribution

[12:41]he made so the Quran has to be made has to be

[12:46]studied by someone who's an expert of the Arabic language to the

[12:49]best of my knowledge and my research I have not yet seen

[12:55]an expert in Arabic language who has doubted the authenticity of the

[12:59]Quran that it is being the words of Allah to the contrary

[13:04]to the contrary I attended a lecture 21 years ago by a

[13:14]professor of Arabic language at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver

[13:20]Canada Professor Hanna cassis who he himself was not a Muslim he

[13:26]said in his lecture that if I take a look at the

[13:32]Quran only as a book of literature I can prove that it

[13:35]is a book that was revealed to the Prophet Muhammad from God

[13:41]this book it's not a book that was dictated by prophet muhammad

[13:45]sallallahu alayhi wa himself from himself he did not write it himself

[13:49]he did not compose it himself it was revealed to him and

[13:55]he passed that revelation on to the Muslims it is a laws

[13:59]words that Professor is a professor of Arabic language and Islamic studies

[14:04]and that's one example of the many examples of professors who have

[14:12]studied Arabic and studied the Holy Quran and came to the conclusion

[14:15]this is not human words the other problem with some of those

[14:22]who criticize the Quran as a simple fact that and says come

[14:26]up with a sewer I like it it's been 1,400 years in

[14:33]fact let me tell you something at the time of the Prophet

[14:36]Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala the arabs were well versed in poetry

[14:40]it was there like peak of their poetry there were so good

[14:46]at it Iran came to challenge them so and very easy way

[14:49]for those Arabs who were against Muslims against Islam a very easy

[14:56]way for them to destroy this whole religion is to do what

[15:00]what do you think what is it exactly destroy the Quran come

[15:09]up with something like the Quran why would flash for example have

[15:13]to fight many wars against the Muslims prepare an army they fought

[15:17]the Battle of when the Battle of than the Battle of Honda

[15:22]and they continued to fight against the most why bother just hire

[15:25]a couple of excellent poets people who are really really good in

[15:29]Arab language literature tell them listen guys just finish this let's get

[15:34]this business have a door wait did they do that no they

[15:40]just were incapable of doing it so that tells you that or

[15:46]on as indeed God's words so next time whenever you are hearing

[15:51]doubts about the Quran that Iran propagates this Iran is this go

[15:55]ahead and ask for answers because there are answers you may not

[16:01]know them but there are there so just go ahead and ask

[16:03]don't believe all this nonsense about Iran and the attacks against the

[16:10]Quran it is the book of allah subhanahu wata'ala and it has

[16:15]a great power i remember many times not just once i have

[16:21]been invited to churches where I go on and I talk about

[16:23]Islam usually when I'm invited to churches I start my discourse where

[16:29]the recitation of you verses of the Holy Quran and after completing

[16:34]my reciting I do it the recitation first in Arabic and then

[16:37]I translate it and I've had this happen more than once where

[16:42]a person would come to me after that lecture and take to

[16:45]me Sheikh or Imam I did not understand a word of what

[16:50]you read in Arabic but I found it moving I swear this

[16:53]isn't the words they have I found them moving and when I

[16:57]hear this I remember the verses of the Quran itself what Allah

[17:00]subhana WA Ta'ala says if we were to reveal this mountain this

[17:05]Quran upon a mountain you'll find it shaking and trembling breaking down

[17:08]out of the fear of Allah subhana Allah so if a mountain

[17:13]can break down from the greatness of the Quran rocks what about

[17:17]a human being was about feelings was got understanding there's got emotions

[17:21]obviously they'll be moved so a second interpretation of these alphabets at

[17:29]the beginning of the Quran is that they are the tools for

[17:33]this wonderful book if you ever doubt the greatness of this book

[17:36]fine take the tools and come up with something like it so

[17:42]the first interpretation it's I wonder it's a miracle that only God

[17:48]knows the answer to second interpretation is it's the tools for this

[17:52]wonderful book use them and come up with something like it if

[17:54]you can the third interpretation Allah Subhanahu WA Ta'ala is suggesting to

[18:07]us that every letter counts every word counts so when you speak

[18:13]when you talk when you are having a communication a conversation make

[18:17]sure you watch your language you watch your words because words can

[18:23]be very powerful not just words even letters alphabet they could be

[18:33]very powerful so watch the methodology of your speech this is something

[18:39]interesting the way we converse is extremely important communication is extremely significant

[18:49]some people are great at communication skills others are not however it's

[18:58]always about practice as they say practice makes what perfect how you

[19:06]present something it's really important and it may have an impact on

[19:11]the listener there was a professor of psychology at the University of

[19:21]Michigan here in your backyard but this was back in the 1950s

[19:27]dr.

[19:29]Doron carte writes Cartwright he wrote a paper back in 1951 about

[19:36]the affective modes of change interestingly in that paper back in 1951

[19:46]dr.

[19:47]dorwan Cartwright says sometimes the language you use may have an impact

[19:59]on people for example if you want to induce change into people

[20:03]and that's a great thing great leaders want to and transform people

[20:08]they want to transform their followers they want to change people but

[20:13]how would you feel if someone came to you and says I

[20:21]would like to change you how would that make you feel I

[20:24]am here to really make change each and every one of you

[20:30]guys how would that sound that may not resonate well with some

[20:34]people change me while I'm happy the way I have I don't

[20:40]want you to change me I'm okay the way I am so

[20:47]some people might associate change with some emotions became them it becomes

[20:49]emotional however I can say something along the following lines I am

[20:57]here to educate you I'm here to train you people are more

[21:05]susceptible to being educated trained as opposed to being changed even though

[21:16]the implication may be the same by educating you I'm trying to

[21:19]change you I'm trying to change your perspective on things I'm trying

[21:22]to transform the way you think about things I'm training you I'm

[21:26]educating you but the language makes a big difference doesn't it it's

[21:33]how you present it how you talk about it so brothers and

[21:36]sisters this is really important it is said what are that his

[21:39]teeth are falling out that's in the dream he wakes up and

[21:45]he calls upon some people he's like who knows how to interpret

[21:48]dreams you know I I had this kind of bothersome dream that

[21:53]my teeth are falling out who knows how to interpret dreams so

[21:56]they bring someone he said like I know how to interpret dreams

[21:58]okay what how do you interpret this dream is like this is

[22:02]such a bad dream your your majesty terrible terrible what do we

[22:07]good lord what's happening like you know your whole family is gonna

[22:11]die and you're gonna live alone for the rest of your life

[22:13]what you probably don't even know how to drop dreams kill this

[22:20]man so they actually execute this problem there goes his life because

[22:25]of a dream then they bring another fella they ask someone else

[22:29]how do you interpret this dream and he interpreted the same way

[22:33]as the first guy so guess what will happen to the second

[22:37]person alayhim his life is also done they bring several and unfortunately

[22:46]this King just kills them one after the other because they all

[22:48]interpret the dream in the same way until comes one intelligent person

[22:56]comes this one guy and says your majesty I know how to

[23:00]interpret this dream it's like yeah sure like everyone else right prepare

[23:04]the guillotine it's like to the contrary your honor this is such

[23:14]a wonderful dream what wonderful dream everyone is saying this is a

[23:20]bad dream what do you mean it's a wonderful dream your honor

[23:22]those guys just don't know what they're talking about no wonder you

[23:27]killed them all this is such a good dream like really what

[23:34]does it mean your honor you're gonna have such a great long

[23:40]life you're gonna outlive everyone in your family members you're gonna live

[23:47]for a look really long life so you're gonna enjoy your kingdom

[23:49]you're gonna enjoy your powers for a long long time Kings smiles

[23:57]and says Wow that is such a nice dream why were those

[24:02]people telling me otherwise good lord this guy is the best give

[24:08]him much reward honor and he's gonna be my personal dream interpreter

[24:12]from now on think about it did he say anything different but

[24:17]you see the presentation the first group and this is a true

[24:24]story by the way this was the true story it happened in

[24:26]history a while back the first group of interpreters how are they

[24:29]looking at it they were looking at the negative end of things

[24:33]that's you know you're gonna live alone for the rest of your

[24:35]life all your family member is gonna die and you'll live alone

[24:39]and what a negative way of thinking about things what did the

[24:41]other guy do exact same thing but he twisted it to the

[24:47]positive end he told him you know what you're gonna outlive your

[24:49]whole family members you're gonna enjoy your kingdom your power your monarchy

[24:54]it's almost the exact same thing he's all his family members I'm

[24:57]gonna die and he's gonna spend the rest of his life alone

[25:02]but he twisted it in a positive sense the way you present

[25:06]things make a big difference so it really makes us wonder and

[25:16]think about how we talk few years ago I actually gave a

[25:20]presentation about the five C's for effective communication five C's the first

[25:30]C those of you who may want to write them down feel

[25:37]free to do so the first C an effective communication is consideration

[25:44]consider your audience who are you on who are you speaking to

[25:49]what are you talking to if I am gonna talk about the

[25:57]atom to a group of kindergarten students am I gonna speak about

[26:03]the atom in a similar fashion like I am gonna speak about

[26:08]the atom to a group of graduate students in physics at the

[26:11]University of Stanford people who are doing the graduate degree in physics

[26:18]at the University of Stanford most of them are more likely to

[26:26]know what the basics of the atom is so I don't need

[26:28]to really invest much time introducing it talking about it giving examples

[26:32]and models of it that is something that is known to them

[26:38]they understand that language but when I'm talking to a bunch of

[26:43]five-year-olds that's where I have to speak in a very simple language

[26:46]I have to bring some models bring them get to them to

[26:52]see to play with things so the way I make that presentation

[26:54]if I make the kindergarten presentation at the University people will laugh

[26:59]at me and vice versa if I give that University talk to

[27:05]the kindergarteners they will just sleep throughout the whole presentation so you

[27:09]really have to consider your audience who are you giving a talk

[27:16]to consider the audience not only this consider how are you going

[27:21]to captivate their attention what are some ways of captivating the audience's

[27:29]attention one stories everyone like stories did you guys enjoy this folding

[27:38]teeth story in fact when you leave the lecture tonight and someone

[27:43]asks you what the shape of Sun I talked about the night

[27:46]like I don't remember but I really like that falling teeth story

[27:48]I don't know what he spoke about you know I wasn't paying

[27:52]attention but I was falling teeth in I like that story everyone

[27:55]loves stories we all enjoy stories stories are a good way to

[27:59]keep your audience even when you are actually doing a professional presentation

[28:05]let's say you're giving a talk about the financial things you can

[28:09]say as you're giving the talk you know the other day I

[28:11]was talking to my neighbor who's got some investments in mutual funds

[28:16]and so on so you just added now a story component to

[28:19]it you're not just talking directly about stocks and blah blah blah

[28:22]so that's that stuff could be boring but now you've added some

[28:27]interesting aspects so even when you give a scientific presentation I did

[28:31]my PhD on kidney stones and I remember once giving a talk

[28:35]to a bunch of scientists about kidney stones and I threw in

[28:38]a story a communication I had with another graduate student at the

[28:44]time whose father had kidney stones and so she was telling me

[28:47]a colleague of mine about how difficult how painful it was for

[28:51]him is to experience Gideon it's just a personal conversation but it

[28:55]attracts people's attention because now it becomes something but like a story

[28:59]it's not just that facts that etcetra etcetra etcetra so stories are

[29:05]really good ways second humor and I don't mean to be a

[29:10]clown while giving a presentation please don't come with a red nose

[29:17]and a bushy hair but rather add a sense of humor to

[29:19]your talk humor is wonderful but you got a calibrated okay not

[29:25]too much not too little season just like salt got to make

[29:28]sure that it's just right so a bunch a little bit of

[29:34]humor attracts people's attention and they really intrigue their curiosity towards you

[29:39]talk all these are factors to consider when you're giving presentation another

[29:43]thing to consider what am i doing right now the same movie

[29:50]I exactly make sure you develop eye contact with people you know

[29:59]sometimes when I'm sitting in some modulus on the pulpit on the

[30:03]member and there are some Husseini yet where I visit mashaallah they're

[30:09]big and they become populated quite quickly so people start sitting to

[30:12]the sides of the pulpit you know like underneath and this is

[30:17]a hypo fit every now and then I actually poke my head

[30:20]just familiar like yes and they'll grab it like it's just to

[30:27]remind this gentleman who's standing who's sitting right there in comfortably or

[30:30]maybe it's trying to sleep constantly thinking that you know the shifters

[30:35]way up there he's not gonna see me I'm just reminding him

[30:36]that by the way I'll keep an eye on you too so

[30:39]make sure you pay attention to what I'm saying I contact is

[30:43]extremely important as well when you're giving talks and therefore you've had

[30:47]cases where people just pick up their thing and they go like

[30:52]this and this is the talk I want to give about as

[30:53]this happen - but are you talking to me or you talked

[30:57]into your paper or if your your notepad here why are you

[31:01]talking to so talk to the people they want to see you

[31:03]talking to them I contact so these are some of the modes

[31:09]of consideration so first of all see for consideration you have to

[31:13]consider your audience second and consider what tactics are you going to

[31:17]use it's just like for example when I'm giving a talk -

[31:21]about the atom - the five year olds I got to consider

[31:23]what techniques am I gonna use to keep them entertained I have

[31:27]to think about this I can't just walk into the classroom I'm

[31:31]like you guys you know something really small you know that's Adam

[31:36]really yeah okay yeah and five minutes later they're all playing something

[31:43]whatever it is that they plane you got to consider how you're

[31:47]going to present your talk what are the effective means of presentation

[31:52]okay so that's consideration second you got to be critical and what

[31:59]I mean by critical is to have contact I'm critical of your

[32:02]content what content am i presenting you is it something good is

[32:09]it something useful is the audience gonna leave a talk tonight gaining

[32:15]something inshaallah tonight when you leave let me know if you've gained

[32:20]anything I'd be curious to know already tell me chef you know

[32:22]a wonderful talk but I really have no clue what you were

[32:26]talking about I would also like to know because it means I

[32:28]did not deliver the content that I want you two guys to

[32:33]understand in a pretty good way so be critical you have to

[32:36]be critical that I have some content you have some value at

[32:44]what you're delivering third C stands for concise be concise I mentioned

[32:50]this last night kind of briefly when we had the Q&A session

[32:54]we've had this case several times you know especially during Q&A sessions

[33:03]it's time for a Q&A we only have one hour or 30

[33:06]minutes and this person stands up holds the mic and starts talking

[33:12]for like ten minutes Prague's talks talks talk for 10 minutes and

[33:16]the Q&A is only for half an hour he's really thinking 1/3

[33:20]of it at the end of the ten minutes you say so

[33:22]brother what's your question but I don't have any questions I just

[33:28]wanted to mention this comment well thank you very much you just

[33:31]took a third of the whole Q&A session you don't even have

[33:40]a question to ask may Allah bless you have you had such

[33:44]cases some individuals who want to talk say something to you guys

[33:47]and they go on for like half an hour explaining a concept

[33:52]that could be explained in two minutes I mean it's understandable it's

[33:59]good I mean if you just want to vent when you're having

[34:01]an issue that's a different story altogether just want to vent to

[34:07]someone that's perfect it's a dear friend you start talking to someone

[34:10]and I don't mean the taxi driver is a dear friend to

[34:12]whom you should about your entire problems like some people do it's

[34:17]someone whom you actually trust then you just want to talk about

[34:20]you that's no problem I understand that part but when you're giving

[34:24]a talk when you're giving a presentation be concise get to the

[34:33]point and move on but you want to be concise but don't

[34:36]forget the next C which is being clear you want to be

[34:40]clearly don't be too concise to the point where people don't understand

[34:44]what you're talking about and have you guys had I don't know

[34:48]if you attended some talks in the past where the speaker starts

[34:53]saying some acronyms maybe like I have no clue what the exactly

[34:58]understand for make sure when you are ever using an acronym you

[35:04]define what that acronym stands for otherwise some people will just not

[35:09]understand what you're saying or even worse they just may feel that

[35:15]they're not intelligent enough because everyone else seems to know what you're

[35:19]talking about except me and that's why I don't really like this

[35:24]sentence as you know blah blah blah blah no I don't know

[35:31]that actually so should I feel stupid because I don't know it

[35:34]as you know I knew it I wouldn't beat up I think

[35:39]the stock altogether my brother I know why should I come a

[35:42]listen to you because I really know what you're saying as you

[35:48]know the sons distance from the earth is as you know kidney

[35:52]stones develop in this particular really you expect me to know how

[35:55]kidney stones develop these things sometimes are not obvious I mean yes

[36:03]to you because you're in that kind of mode for so long

[36:05]it just seems to you like second nature as you know but

[36:12]it's not as you know or it is known that it is

[36:14]known well if I don't know about it then what happens okay

[36:18]so you see brothers and sisters sometimes make sure what language you're

[36:22]using and the language is appropriate language things like as you no

[36:27]when there was a bunch like half of the room doesn't even

[36:31]know what you're talking about things like it has known that unless

[36:34]there's something quite obvious it is known that the Sun is gonna

[36:37]rise tomorrow yeah okay sure that's something I can live with that

[36:40]one as you know the Sun is gonna rise to more Nvidia

[36:44]well my bond by the way now that I know okay great

[36:49]most people in the room are aware it so be concise but

[36:51]be clear at the same time so the first see was you

[36:57]remember what it is or do you guys forget already what was

[37:01]the first seek consideration second see credit call you already forgetting that's

[37:07]why I told you to write that's right you're gonna forget are

[37:10]you using your cheat note yeah being critical critical of yourself critical

[37:18]of your content make sure that you have the right content the

[37:22]way that you've been presented being critical okay third C is for

[37:28]what concise for T is clear and the fifth C is the

[37:37]confident confident research shows that presidents politicians who present their talks confidently

[37:42]they are most likely to be believed than those who present their

[37:47]talks without confidence and you know what you have a president who

[37:54]is like a master at this he talks with full confidence I

[37:58]mean give credit where credit is due I have to give no

[38:02]I admit you know if there's one thing about this individual or

[38:04]my my praise if there is something remember its and I underlining

[38:09]it bolding it it would be his confidence at telling untruthful things

[38:18]he just stands behind the podium and says dear no this is

[38:21]the way we've done this and this and then you read in

[38:25]the New York Times the next day he just said twenty false

[38:27]statements yesterday and I'm like but people believe him because he just

[38:32]appeared so confident when he gives those statements so research actually shows

[38:38]those who speak with confidence they are more prone to be believed

[38:44]than those you may be talking you may have some great research

[38:46]great data you may be presenting something which is really good but

[38:50]if you're hesitant a little bit about it if you yeah and

[38:54]so on so if you sound skeptical it'll bit well the likelihood

[38:57]of people believing you will be much less so these are the

[39:03]five modes of effective effective communication presentation to people this is how

[39:08]you can make some really good presentations to people what the Quran

[39:12]may be suggesting with these letters at the beginning of the Quran

[39:18]those alphabets is we need to watch every word we say how

[39:21]we say it the content of our thoughts that's what makes a

[39:27]good speech a good talk I think some people are really excited

[39:32]about what I'm saying out there you know people are really impressed

[39:41]yeah thank you thank you very much so it's just a way

[39:44]that you present this it has to be really important it has

[39:49]to be really good so this is maybe a summary of those

[39:52]verses now of course there are many other interpretations in fact a

[39:57]llama bah bah bah BA in history of Amazon lists about 17

[40:00]different interpretations I've only touched up on three of them but given

[40:03]the sake of time this is enough for us to discuss so

[40:07]one interpretation about the importance of these alphabets is that they are

[40:12]God's wonder we don't really understand them and that should remind us

[40:16]of how insignificant we are sometimes the simplest of things keep us

[40:21]held back or keep us amazed the second interpretation is that this

[40:25]is God's wonder it's made up of all these alphabets this is

[40:30]what the Quran is made up of so go ahead and make

[40:31]a copy like the Quran using these alphabets the third interpretation is

[40:36]that you got to look upon and reflect upon every word rather

[40:41]every letter of what you're saying and this is what take us

[40:44]to the affective modes of communication or presentation where we need to

[40:50]remember those five C's for effective communication skills or presentation skills I'll

[40:55]conclude with the last couple points when you want to have a

[40:59]meaningful conversation with someone avoid complaining you know some people are just

[41:07]so pessimistic about life so how's it going oh gosh look at

[41:14]this weather is just so terrible good lord it's so hot these

[41:16]days and it's the month of ramadhan why couldn't this heat come

[41:19]to us after the month of ramadhan it like good lord man

[41:23]you know you want to hear to someone coughing like this just

[41:26]be optimistic a little bit if you have a problem just keep

[41:31]them to yourself people don't like to listen to your problems it's

[41:33]very sad reality people don't care about your problems now because they

[41:38]have enough problems of their own unless you have a dear friend

[41:43]of yours again who you want to vent out to that's understandable

[41:45]he or she will listen to what you're saying yeah just like

[41:51]I'm listening to what they're saying so you want to vent out

[41:54]that's fine that's your friend no problem do so but not to

[42:01]the general public general people okay second thing is avoid gossiping gossiping

[42:08]that is a habit that we need to grow out of did

[42:12]you know this girl you know did you notice her bag did

[42:15]she sees the bag that she was carrying today my gosh you

[42:21]know that bag is $300 Baba who cares okay no big deal

[42:24]move on babe how meaningful is that conversation okay so gossiping avoid

[42:30]gossiping nobody likes to listen to people talking about someone else in

[42:34]a negative way behind their back because guess what the minute I

[42:38]turn my back what's gonna happen to you to me this person

[42:41]is gonna talk about me in a similar way so avoid gossiping

[42:47]and engaging in gossiping especially in this holy month of Ramadan in

[42:51]this month we need to train ourselves to avoid such conversations but

[42:54]rather to have meaningful conversations things that will produce some meaning something

[43:02]will benefit us in dunya and in akhira that's what we really

[43:05]have to focus on inshallah tomorrow continue with our discussion about surat

[43:10]maryam and we will commence in the talk about the second ayah

[43:15]of the surah which speaks of prophet zechariah alayhis-salam of Zacharias and

[43:23]a prayer that he made asking Allah for something what is that

[43:28]prayer how did he make that prayer what did he ask for

[43:33]come back tomorrow and insha'Allah we'll have answers for you raise your

[43:37]hands into our brothers and sisters as it is the night of

[43:42]this holy month half of this holy month has gone by with

[43:45]only now facing the other half of this holy month so let

[43:50]us raise our hands and only Allah accept our deeds and our

[43:59]needs and our prayers I will be like him in a shape

[44:13]on a team Su Su Su ma Eugenia reaction would sue a

[44:37]La Mexicana so Allah Allah that is an old Anna Quran saying

[44:43]Allah Allah he gently move mean you know I don't mean I

[44:51]chef you are a Fiji me I mean you know and me

[44:52]not I love a mother suddenly what you are neither for the

[45:02]evo Zima believe sir yes sir what we seen a kill on

[45:12]Abidjan name a famous Valenti women don't like Jinyu any we're talking

[45:18]I mean she I think he won seung-hyun Medina been a day

[45:46]a lock on soullow what my hottest inaho otherwise what do met

[46:06]Tina didn't wanna know how I worry she element of already cash

[46:14]we heard the hill woman hurry luma would eat our deal for

[46:18]Jamal Nana so have you lost because you know me not me

[46:20]not a lot for sauce agua no magic jealousy no and Halloween

[46:26]what a Martina Jimmy Milania Maserati Mubarak al-fatihah team a solo LOB's

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