Looking After the Individual and the Family

40 Bekeken· 24/08/10

Shaykh Dr. Usama Al-Atar
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[0:00]monogram wal hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen Valhalla man ba I feel ambia

[0:08]a warm of saline from Isola to assalaam o Allah ashraful ambia

[0:11]it was a leader mouselina habib allah allah allah mean al mustafa

[0:15]a bell awesome mohammad wallah Alotaibi nepal heaven alma so mean element

[0:25]a job in a ladina at hvala unha Mowgli just about a

[0:33]hora home top hero I'm a bad koliwada vodka water olive akita

[0:39]al Majid work of an eel ha miracle haha audhu billahi mina

[0:43]shame panaji bismillah llaman oh yeah you live in a man pasa

[1:00]como a Lincoln ah yeah levena fusa como an income Naraku doin

[1:22]sewell hey Jabba to Elena mala y cotugno munchi daughter Ally haha

[1:30]in canton real on she does una llamada muy fi luna maroon

[1:43]so the fun long Lonnie lonely sumbala Muhammad Ali Mohammed an individual

[1:57]but not only as an individual but it looks at an individual

[2:09]as being a person with responsibility and hence the ayah says when

[2:16]you have responsibilities when you have an individual who has responsibilities you

[2:22]need to first of all take care of yourself you need to

[2:27]take care of perfecting your own self and then you can start

[2:35]administering these responsibilities which include looking after other individuals as well and

[2:38]in this ayah it looks after the individual and the family as

[2:46]well because the family is the nucleus of the society if you

[2:51]can affect the family then you have perfected the society it is

[2:55]said one day a king became a king as per his father

[2:59]died and then it came to him so they came to him

[3:03]he said what are you looking for in a in the kingdom

[3:07]now under my era what are you looking for they told him

[3:10]we want a good nation we want a good leadership that will

[3:16]give us a good leash and a good nation he said if

[3:18]that's what you want it's easy providing me with good mothers and

[3:24]I'll provide you with a great nation because it starts in the

[3:27]home in the house you provide me with good educators with good

[3:29]nucleus or good nuclei and then I'll provide you a good nation

[3:36]as well a problem occurs when one family for example is not

[3:41]withheld properly one family not educated properly you'll have individuals and this

[3:48]family going in tangents and then these tangents they cause problems not

[3:52]only for themselves they have caused problems for the society a person

[3:56]for example ogo is drinking and driving he's not only endangering his

[4:01]own life he's endangering other people's life and hence you see that

[4:06]numbers of deaths annually if you take a look only at North

[4:09]America just North America thousands per year die because of this issue

[4:17]drinking and driving thousands so Allah subhana wa'ta'ala is taking a look

[4:24]at the individual first because he will be composed one day of

[4:30]a family you'll become a family and this family will become the

[4:33]nucleus of the society and hence allah subhan allah ta'ala starts and

[4:37]this ayah of surah the team aya number 6 saying bismillah gimana

[4:45]viremia I you hella Dina r minus o believers what do I

[4:49]want from you oh and for Socko oh and for Socko walaikum

[4:56]nara so safeguard yourself as individuals look after your own self and

[5:02]then not only yourself you're not only responsible for yourself you also

[5:07]responsible for who for the family as well save them and yourself

[5:10]from the Hellfire now how could somebody look after his own self

[5:18]for example there are many ways and in the month of Muharram

[5:20]we gave many examples of perfecting once all for purifying oneself he

[5:24]will take a look at three ways one reading reading books meeting

[5:31]articles there are many books of a clock that can educate the

[5:38]individual for example there is a great book I don't know if

[5:41]it's been translated to english i have not seen the english translation

[5:43]of this book it's called Johnny o Sadat written by shaykh medina

[5:51]rathi may Allah bless us all chef medina rocky has written the

[5:54]spoke of a flock it talks about how to pure for yourself

[5:59]how to perfect your own o'clock how to improve your manners how

[6:03]to control yourself great book but it has a philosophical flavor into

[6:09]it as well he goes into some philosophy as well the chef

[6:12]Maddy it is said one day he came to naija and Nyjah

[6:18]falasha as a visitor and usually people when they come to a

[6:21]new city other people who are in the city they go to

[6:26]visit this individual normally that's what used to happen or still happens

[6:30]in the Arabic world so what happened when he came here this

[6:34]was after he published his book he was well known at that

[6:40]time the ulama in Najaf came to visit him all of them

[6:44]came to visit them except one island say it babalu whom he

[6:48]did not come to visit him so one day this ship made

[6:54]in arathi he goes and he says I will go visits hit

[6:57]baccarat do it doesn't come maybe he's busy no problem he goes

[7:05]there the servant greets him there is a walter usually working he

[7:10]says he goes and he told said the barber alone that you

[7:15]know this has come to see you it doesn't ok get him

[7:17]in lets him sit down he does not give him the warm

[7:23]welcome that one would expect for a share of his caliber coming

[7:26]to visit the city then the time goes by and he tells

[7:33]him today we're busy you know so he goes and he leaves

[7:36]he comes back the next day chef my dinner happy he says

[7:42]you know go visit him again no problem second day the same

[7:45]thing happens as well it doesn't get that much of a warm

[7:50]welcome now what we have done first of all if it were

[7:54]us we would say no why should I go see him he

[7:55]has to come and see me this is the protocol but he

[8:00]broke this protocol now he goes the first time he says what

[8:05]is this island he doesn't even want to look at me and

[8:07]i'm expected i lay my within such a great work what he

[8:13]did nothing like this he said maybe he's busy no problem he

[8:16]goes the next day and again the second time he does not

[8:21]get greeted well so he sent back third day he comes back

[8:25]again the third day the servant comes and tells saved by a

[8:32]room that you know chef made in our app is coming he

[8:34]gets up and he greets him from the street he goes out

[8:39]into the street and he greets him a very warm welcome and

[8:41]he brings in and makes him sit next to him and tells

[8:47]him I read your book John asada and I think it's a

[8:54]great book on a clock but I wanted to see if the

[8:56]author holds great Alec like the book has and i found the

[9:02]author has even greater a lot than what's written in the book

[9:05]now this when you read about such individuals such a llama such

[9:14]scholars who've written such books then their books also influenced us why

[9:20]because it's written with sensitivity class this Arthur chef made in arathi

[9:24]meant what he wrote in his book he applied it on himself

[9:26]first and then he put it in the book so then when

[9:30]you read in the book for example that you need to always

[9:32]think positively of the movement don't think negatively of a moment you

[9:39]come one day to visit him he doesn't have time to see

[9:41]you no problem he's busy he's a he's a Harlem he's a

[9:46]manager to say by her demise a merger he's busy no problem

[9:48]I come back the next day a person comes in he greets

[9:53]other mini and he doesn't greet you no problem maybe he didn't

[9:56]see me a person calls to invite people but he forgets to

[10:01]invite me for example to his house no problem maybe I forgot

[10:04]hallows not a big deal I'm not gonna hold it against him

[10:08]and then when I hold that measures at my house I will

[10:10]also not call him again or when we have a wedding we

[10:14]will not call his family this is how he treated us so

[10:17]this is the way we treat him this is not the clap

[10:21]of marine and no am I gonna attend his measureless so that

[10:23]he attends my majlis this is business oh I'm going to attend

[10:27]his wedding so when my wedding comes they'll attend my wedding this

[10:31]is business no I attend because he's a movement and by attending

[10:35]his mother so by attending for example as wedding as long as

[10:41]it's an Islamic wedding huh then no problem I'll attend it because

[10:45]they'll bring pleasure to his heart out to her heart she's a

[10:51]moment so when you read such in the book then that influences

[10:53]us that affects us and I found recently I was talking to

[11:03]a psychiatrist and Hodge who said that the one of the biggest

[11:07]problems for depression is negative thinking negative thinking is one of the

[11:11]biggest problems for depression people always think negatively of other people you

[11:16]know so when you have manin don't think negatively of them he

[11:19]gave an example the psychiatrist I was talking to enhance he says

[11:23]for example you go to see a doctor you have a doctor's

[11:25]appointment for example he tells you to come at two o'clock you

[11:31]go you sit in the office 2-230 three o'clock four o'clock then

[11:34]you get up and you stop getting angry you know so I

[11:40]start shouting at the poor secretary what is this you know it

[11:42]told me two o'clock now it's four o'clock you think I don't

[11:45]have anything better in my life to do and so on so

[11:47]forth and then they might tell you the secretary my tell you

[11:53]you know what actually the doctor is gone is gone so imagine

[11:56]how if you see would become no volcano erupt but this is

[12:03]negative thinking why did you become angry is because you thinking negatively

[12:07]but what is positive thinking for example I would say okay maybe

[12:10]he had an emergency after all this doctor is also human he

[12:15]can also have a family emergency a medical emergency something so if

[12:18]I tell myself maybe he had an emergency and maybe that's why

[12:22]he left without even telling his own secretary for example so then

[12:26]I'm happy my reaction is much easier and comer and I don't

[12:32]need to really get upset and so on so forth and just

[12:35]be scheduled appointment for another date so this is all positive negative

[12:37]thinking that's what they talking about insight and psychiatry these days when

[12:42]they come to depression and all these things and Quran told us

[12:44]about this 1400 years ago Allah says bismillah Khan Agha hain h10

[12:53]ebuka theorem in oven and Nabokov ani it stay away from this

[12:57]bad thinking negative thinking because some of it but be haram sin

[13:00]if you think negatively of a movement among men said one word

[13:06]maybe he did not mean it like this maybe he meant it

[13:08]this way is there a chance that I may have misunderstood his

[13:12]words or am I must assume i can immediately understand their everything

[13:16]that's being said and I can really mean and know what this

[13:19]person is meaning meaning and intending I can really underneath his mind

[13:22]if any person is like this ok no problem but if there

[13:27]is a chance even one percent that I may not have understood

[13:30]the true meaning of what he was trying to say or what

[13:34]she was trying to say then Hamas let me even think this

[13:36]one percent that one person I'll act upon it so this ship

[13:42]made in about a has written such a great book John I

[13:47]saw a dog another book which is a bit easier less you

[13:50]know doesn't have philosophy into it simpler to heed is written by

[13:53]the city Shaheed esta Abe called alkyl boo Salim again I have

[13:58]not seen an English translation of this i have seen another one

[14:01]of his book the greater sins at the noble que Viva that

[14:05]has been translated into English alkyl Boselli my have not seen it

[14:08]yet but it may be out there that one is less philosophical

[14:11]and fights an easier one those of you who speak arabic or

[14:13]farsi you can find it this book both of them you can

[14:18]find them so there are books that's one way a person for

[14:21]example can improve his love herself he can work on himself and

[14:25]improving it a second way is meeting to our and I go

[14:32]back to the Alma kagamine o'clock the AMA cogman effect a greater

[14:35]are with great meanings and great treasures so we need to arm

[14:43]Academy luck and their Imam alehissalaam is teaching us that o Allah

[14:47]if you find for example there are different paths and different ways

[14:52]guide me to the best way ya allah o allah give me

[14:57]of your own sustenance so that i don't go and beg from

[15:05]people and when I beg from people I start then cursing those

[15:08]who don't give me who deny me I said look at this

[15:12]man he comes to masjid he prays and you fast then when

[15:15]i go ask him four hundred dollars he says go go go

[15:17]what kind of a movement is he and i start doing is

[15:21]heber when I audible on going around all this oh I start

[15:24]raising over praising the one who gives me over praising him this

[15:31]man is a great man you know so whatever he does hollis

[15:34]he becomes infallible so I support him in everything he does or

[15:37]everything she does that also has mentioned in Durant macaca villa club

[15:45]ya allah make me always live a balanced life give good judgments

[15:50]so this way when i read the arm economy love and it

[15:53]has a good translation it's been translated with a good professor he

[15:57]translated the ama caramel o'clock so we did and it's very nice

[16:04]sweet the translation of it one day we were in medina and

[16:06]i got to a couple of my friends who were with us

[16:11]in the caravan and we were not Arabic speaking I told them

[16:13]will read the am acad last loud and then briefly I won't

[16:18]summarize every sentence but briefly we'll go over some of the major

[16:21]points when we went over it one of the mini said what

[16:25]a great the Odysseys you know I've been reading it but I

[16:27]never really read you know the meaning of it I never understood

[16:31]what I was reading I didn't realized has such beautiful meaning into

[16:34]it so sometimes it's worth to spend a little bit of time

[16:37]just to go over the meaning of what imam ali salam is

[16:41]teaching us into am acad laughs laughs and to try to read

[16:45]it regularly try to make it at least a weekly habit if

[16:47]not a daily habit or at least a monthly habit and so

[16:52]on so forth so leading dora is a second way now some

[16:54]people unfortunately they don't have time to lead no time to eat

[16:59]then what do you do then the modulus of Imam Hossein alehissalaam

[17:01]the modulus of Ahlul Bayt coming and attending these modulus by attending

[17:07]these metallus then you can hear stories of the ulama like chef

[17:10]medina rocky and his greatest luck you can hear stories of Morella

[17:18]Tessier sometimes one word one word changes a human being turns his

[17:22]life upside down in karbala there was a scholar by the name

[17:25]of sayyed mohammad column on cos weenie may allah bless his soul

[17:31]he's written several books and arabic about a lil betta la mesera

[17:35]now in Karbala and the month of Muharram he would have more

[17:39]than one majlis he would recite much less and then he finishes

[17:42]and then goes to another Methodist for example and then finishes and

[17:46]then goes to third meshless one day the man who was walking

[17:49]with him from one wishes to another meshless he walks with him

[17:55]he saw that say it is very tired after he gave one

[17:58]minute or two measures you know imagine on the seventh night of

[18:02]the eighth night every night you're giving three modulus for modulus then

[18:05]you become tired and he was not a young man so he

[18:10]became tired a little bit he said say it why don't you

[18:12]tell the measureless the next measureless tell them you have a little

[18:15]bit tired today so it's ok any one night you go rest

[18:20]at home and then tomorrow inshallah you continue with the majlis he

[18:25]said let me tell you something he said few days ago a

[18:34]man came to me and he said my neighbor my neighbor sees

[18:41]my house back in Iraq especially at the time when the tyrant

[18:45]was there the oppressive regime people who have linked to the oppressive

[18:49]regime they had special powers they can come to your house and

[18:52]kick you out of your house and they take your house and

[18:55]you cannot say a single word they have all the powers they're

[18:57]linked to that guji we had the connections so apparently this individual

[19:03]was of such sort you know so he came to this poor

[19:07]neighbors house and he kicked him out of his house so Carlos

[19:09]house is my house gossip he said ok what shall I do

[19:16]he said that guy my neighbor who took my house he regularly

[19:19]attends you jealous he attends you modulus he said say it tonight

[19:25]and the measures can you please speak about this issue say how

[19:28]bad it is to take somebody else's house you cannot play in

[19:33]the house haha he said no problem he said so I went

[19:38]on the member that night and I spoke of this issue I

[19:40]spoke about it I told them it's haram to taking somebody else's

[19:44]house so you cannot play in this house how can you guys

[19:47]your children in this house so I gave my other he said

[19:50]the next day this man came to me and he said say

[19:52]you'd thank you may Allah bless you this man he was sitting

[19:58]in your matchless the minute he went back home he came to

[20:01]me he said you know what I changed my mind take your

[20:04]house back hellas keep it he said if our words have so

[20:10]much power and influence then even though we feel a little bit

[20:14]tired we must deliver we have to go we have to do

[20:19]this work for the sake of ABA Abdillah Husayn and hence i

[20:21]was just talking with one of the minions sometimes we feel tired

[20:25]to cut to mosque you know especially for those of us who

[20:27]work from seven in the morning let's say oh you wake up

[20:31]at a lot time for example we force a lot of time

[20:34]and by seven you are at your job and you work until

[20:37]five in the afternoon of six in the afternoon tiring a little

[20:39]bit you come back home by the time you eat that few

[20:42]meal or a little bit of a meal if you have time

[20:47]to eat any meal hollis a person is drained however it's sometimes

[20:50]we have to push ourselves subhanAllah you find that one day I

[20:54]push myself and that majlis that's something you know hadith is said

[20:58]and I as recited that really opens my heart opens my mind

[21:06]opens my eyes cleanses my heart and my soul is modulus they

[21:10]cleanse one soul and hence these are the three ways through which

[21:18]a person can start perfecting his own life and safeguarding himself from

[21:25]the Hellfire well I audible now through one reading some books to

[21:29]eat indoors and three attending them a journalist and of course I

[21:33]haven't talked what we don't pour on and all that says many

[21:35]many ways is that just because of the time here so now

[21:40]a person has worked on himself now comes the family you're not

[21:44]only responsible for yourself you wake up and you pay us a

[21:48]lot and then you'll let your children just run around and do

[21:50]whatever they want the main thing is that they have clothes and

[21:55]they have the latest cars and they are studying in the best

[21:57]universities that's it hollows I've done my job hamdullah there is lots

[22:00]of food in the fridge and everything they want they have there

[22:05]was one thing that sometimes the children need more than that and

[22:08]that is the father of the mother they need them they need

[22:14]to sit with them a while back a few years ago I

[22:16]read a survey that was done among some teenage girls teenage girls

[22:24]they asked teenaged girls what do you want the most they said

[22:29]we want to spend time with our fathers we wish our dads

[22:34]would spend more time with us they would sit down with us

[22:36]a little bit more they're just busy busy in their lives Allah

[22:42]subhana Allah says Allah Haq emoticon Thor hot soup Timon Micawber you're

[22:46]so busy about your own lives and your own affairs until all

[22:50]of the sudden you find that column in the Cabana it's already

[22:55]50 years have passed by 60 years have passed by where did

[22:58]all this time ago what happened to you my child was born

[23:01]yesterday now Marshall eyes and university my daughter was born yesterday now

[23:08]she's getting married how did this happen time flies tell us so

[23:14]we got a rush we got a rush to teaching them and

[23:16]educating them from the day they are born I had a study

[23:23]once where they follow children children and when they grow up they

[23:28]so followed them and they saw which one's of them for example

[23:30]became criminals and so on so forth they saw that you know

[23:35]they at the age of nine months at the age of nine

[23:39]months that's when a child starts developing this sense of hate towards

[23:44]the society and hence a person might become a criminal and why

[23:48]because of neglect since this child nine months if those of you

[23:55]who have children you know the child even winner at the young

[23:58]age he can recognize his mum he can recognize his father if

[24:00]you give him to somebody else he starts crying too baby the

[24:05]minute the mother holds him Hollis is quiet or she becomes quite

[24:09]so that he can he can identify he can feel the comfort

[24:14]if this child of this baby was only two months old three

[24:17]months old is neglected and is in constant pain now he cannot

[24:24]speak but the pain is inside this pain one day will explode

[24:27]and unfortunately that what happens when an individual for example one day

[24:31]you find him a criminal becoming a criminal it's from this childhood

[24:36]they found at the age of nine months nine months that sense

[24:39]develops into the child so from day one the first day the

[24:42]child is born is when teaching has to start now this teaching

[24:50]cannot start if the environment and the house is electrified the father

[24:54]is yelling at the mother the mother was shouting at the father

[24:58]and always there fighting and always doin for example arguments that cannot

[25:02]happen a father is nice outside he comes home he becomes mashallah

[25:13]you know shimmer at home yeah hey honey I see sometimes people

[25:17]say you know I'm the man of the house so I'm not

[25:23]going to touch the dishes dishes what clean this is not my

[25:25]job I'm the man of the house I'm the man of the

[25:29]house what should I talk about to my wife about tell us

[25:30]whatever I say goes no I Jeep now welcome to Canada if

[25:36]you stay I may be back there it of here my friend

[25:40]they'll kick you out and they'll take the whole thing so that's

[25:45]unfortunate that's unfortunate and you find sometimes even the wife she's busy

[25:52]with her own life you know the father for example is busy

[25:55]with his blackberry the mother is busy with her iPhone and then

[25:59]tell us no chatting and no kami kitchen no chatting literally you

[26:08]know so that environment then is becomes tense for the house and

[26:13]then the children they cannot then obtain they cannot absorb anything in

[26:17]such an environment they cannot absorb anything in such an environment so

[26:23]that environment of the house has to be a serene environment and

[26:25]this has to be worked on from the father and the mother

[26:28]both and then you start teaching this serenity and tranquility to the

[26:37]children from their young age by one you know we didn't put

[26:40]on to those people to the child by reading the art to

[26:45]them some of the ulama used to wake up every morning for

[26:48]salat ozawa and called their children to teach them to our sabha

[26:54]and hence the children started memorizing to our sabha they started for

[26:59]example calling their children and teaching them poor on uniting together at

[27:05]dinner getting everyone together for dinner about 10 or 11 years ago

[27:11]in The Vancouver Sun the major newspaper in Vancouver daily newspaper I

[27:17]read an article once because I used to teach in the weekend

[27:21]school and this came across so I discussed it among the students

[27:25]this article is written by a school counselor a school counselor about

[27:36]the attitudes of children or youth you know in this day and

[27:40]age and this was before the age of you know the tablets

[27:43]and the iphones and the cell phones even back then were not

[27:46]so popular even cellphones and we're not talking too long ago ha

[27:48]we're only talking about 11 years ago you know back in the

[27:52]year 2099 those of you may remember you know not many people

[27:55]even had cell phones back then so she was saying one of

[28:02]the major problems were facing in the society today is that children

[28:05]they're not sitting with their families at the dinner table anymore you

[28:09]find the father is so busy he's working the mother is busy

[28:13]working the child comes home grabs the pizza or whatever it is

[28:18]that you know they cooked wanna and he sits down watching television

[28:21]and eating he says when do the parents then teach the child

[28:24]he says this dinner con she you know she was referring to

[28:28]a psychologist a psychologist was saying this psychologist said this dinner table

[28:31]conversation is very important for the family it's very healthy at the

[28:37]dinner table you asked a child how was your day in school

[28:39]what was it like what did you learn you see and monitor

[28:44]and observe the child's behavior at the dinner table because that reflects

[28:48]his behavior outside as well and hence you can teach spending time

[28:52]with the children our prophet sallallahu alehiwassallaam an con Allahu Sabean felita

[29:00]sabala whomever has a boy or a child let him behave like

[29:03]a child with him or with her play with him no problem

[29:08]Oh boohoo hey narrates a boo hoo Ava he says we were

[29:14]coming with us oh la la la la MOLLE who were a

[29:18]lead to his house we were walking and then he came across

[29:20]al has Al Hussein alayhis salaam he said the rasul allah loved

[29:25]us you know he was walking with us the companions he loved

[29:27]us and he started running after Hussein Hussein would run away from

[29:31]him and he would chase hussain ali saleh hossain we're gonna win

[29:37]sit rasool allah is running after him up as early as Ella

[29:40]and then he grabbed him he grabbed him and he hugged him

[29:48]and he said Hussein is my love AHA balama a hibachi know

[29:51]i love this young child may Allah love the one who loves

[29:59]this young child so spending time with them playing with them trying

[30:03]to educate them as very important brothers and sisters trying to teach

[30:07]them the love of a lil bait for example if you are

[30:12]if you buy them toys you know and they will always like

[30:17]toys you know children even masha'Allah men even and women but everybody

[30:21]still likes toys it's just that the price of the toys changes

[30:23]you know and gets more expensive as they grow older you know

[30:27]surely it is a one dollar car that you buy and then

[30:29]later on they want a fifty-thousand-dollar car you know that's so that's

[30:35]what it is otherwise the toys don't change so if you buy

[30:40]them something tell them you know what and the whale added of

[30:43]this Imam of this month so i will give it to you

[30:46]inshallah so then they started looking forward for the wee lad of

[30:49]this muscle and alhamdulillah Allah bless that's what 14 masoomeen alhamdulillah and

[30:54]then there is a toga d there's little photo a demo behala

[30:57]I did off and and so on so forth several I odd

[31:00]so it this way you keep them looking forward for their ID'd

[31:04]because that's when they're going to be getting their price that's good

[31:10]so this way we teach them the love of a little bait

[31:13]bringing them to these modulus not by force but we tell them

[31:17]you know what you come here you know what this is where

[31:19]I little bait allium salam will be happy with so here allah

[31:23]is pleased with and then they come that's one thing this is

[31:25]the role of the parents and then there is all of the

[31:29]children as well the youth especially the youth the youth brothers and

[31:32]sisters make sure you also listen to your parents they are saying

[31:37]what they're saying to you because they love you not because they

[31:42]want to restrict you not because they'd want to take your freedom

[31:46]away this country you know has laws they have for example driving

[31:51]laws these driving laws were made not so that they restrict you

[31:55]freedom in fact they were made so that you can have freedom

[32:00]if there are no laws you drive any way you want then

[32:04]imagine all the accidents and everything that chaos that will occur you

[32:09]can drive this way you can drive wrong way like in some

[32:11]countries you see mashallah there is although they have posted signs in

[32:16]some countries I hear they even steal them he's posted signs you

[32:22]know when they have because they can you know melt them and

[32:25]then we recycle them use them sell them for something else so

[32:30]I imagine what chaos would happen these laws were not made to

[32:33]trick the individual but in fact to liberate the individual similarly when

[32:37]the father tells his son or his daughter son daughter at this

[32:41]time of solid go prey you're watching this hockey game are you

[32:44]playing this video game you know maybe it's time for salat a

[32:50]little bit go pray and then come back the Sun or the

[32:53]daughter should not get upset at the father say no no no

[32:57]what you become like you know Mon Cala and nikhil or even

[32:59]achieved what is this policeman now in the house Allah will take

[33:04]care of my salat and Salam you know it's between me and

[33:06]Allah yes it's between you and Allah but think about your aha

[33:11]think about this Hellfire that allah is talking to us what all

[33:14]do Hannah sue an HR law says the fuel of the spire

[33:19]is people and stones now what does the stones means Allah that's

[33:22]for a different date we're talking about the first part of the

[33:28]ayah today Bo and for second walaikum Nara so when the child

[33:31]when the father and the mother is telling that the daughter for

[33:33]example do not wear these tight clothes you know just her job

[33:38]is not just bad way for example covering your hair it is

[33:41]also about wearing clothes that are also loose tight clothes and for

[33:47]example or your neck is showing or having makeup on this is

[33:50]not part of a job you have to work a job properly

[33:54]a girl should not get upset at the mother for example for

[33:56]saying something like this should realize that this is for her own

[33:59]advantage now it is the father and the mother whose job is

[34:04]to teach them and educate them when this ayah was revealed it

[34:07]is said one of the Companions of rasulallah was crying isola told

[34:13]him what's the matter why are you crying he said I can

[34:15]barely take care of myself now I'm also responsible for my own

[34:17]family how am I gonna do this he said at least you

[34:21]tell them what is halal and what is Haram and that fellas

[34:25]it's up to them you teach them you educate them look after

[34:29]them by educating them by reading this a lap and these manners

[34:35]to them brothers and sisters by spending time with them by making

[34:39]them love the pop on the draw ahlul bayt and then by

[34:41]us also remembering our parents by us listening to our parents because

[34:48]what goes around brothers and sisters what comes around it is said

[34:52]one day a for you know a son got an argument with

[34:56]his father he got an argument with the father will I a

[34:59]double a-- then he killed the father outside the house he said

[35:02]get out of the house what I other below the father told

[35:05]the Sun you know what it's cold outside at least give me

[35:07]a blanket is it ok he calls his son he says son

[35:12]go get him a blanket the Sun comes would have a blanket

[35:15]not a full one he cut it in half so the father

[35:19]said where's the other half he said I'm saving it for you

[35:24]dad so when you become old the other half will be for

[35:26]you as well because if this is what you're doing to your

[35:30]father it means this is what I should do to you as

[35:31]well when you become old and it's so Han Allah this is

[35:37]whatever we teach them they get they absorb and then they'll do

[35:39]it to us one day if we teach them that white lie

[35:43]is ok somebody calls me at house you know I say or

[35:46]tell them I'm not here and you're teaching them that lying is

[35:49]ok so one day when you call them on their cell phone

[35:53]they say that all we're not in some place that you know

[35:55]we should not be we're here with my friends you know the

[36:00]brothers here sitting down Alice because that's what they learned when they

[36:05]were child so we have to teach this Allah by watching first

[36:09]ourselves that's why the ISS yeah I ujala be nominal oh and

[36:14]fossick home you save guard yourselves and then you became like chef

[36:17]madine not okay when he writes a book he actually has a

[36:21]cloud is even greater than what's in the book he means what

[36:23]he has and hence when I teach my children about pants a

[36:26]lot on time I should be a role model for them I

[36:30]should be paying my salad on time when I teach my children

[36:31]to place a lot to Lane I should be a role model

[36:35]I should be paying salotti late in front of them when I

[36:37]teach my children about for example not spending so much time on

[36:42]the computer playing video games and whatever I should not be spending

[36:45]so much time on my computer doing email and chatting and for

[36:47]example doing my business also I should spend time with them as

[36:51]well and hence this way we can start educating these children so

[36:57]that they can remember faltamisu haggadah that talk of imam hussain ali

[37:01]salaam she narrates from her own zainab salam ala alaihe zeinab says

[37:04]i used to see my mother fought lehmann pray insalata lane on

[37:11]Thursday night and told thatcher she would wake up the whole night

[37:15]until they jump ring and this hadith is also negated for me

[37:22]Mom and has an alayhis salaam as well so far which means

[37:24]that not only zeyneb alia salam was awake even imam al hassan

[37:29]ali salam was awake and not only were they awake they observed

[37:31]what their mother was doing they were little children huh salam was

[37:34]about five years old when her mother died imam hassan was about

[37:39]7 years old when his mother died seven or eight give or

[37:42]take she says and he says we noticed that our mother prays

[37:49]for our neighbors and she does not play for us so we

[37:51]asked her mother I hate you praying for the neighbors but you

[37:56]did not pray for us she said son and daughter and jog

[37:58]to Mad Dog you pray first for the neighbor and then you

[38:05]take care of yourself so for us no problem we pray for

[38:06]our neighbors and pray for yourself no problem pray for yourself but

[38:09]also think of the others this is the teaching she taught her

[38:13]daughter Xena and hands a nuh alaihi Salam even on the eve

[38:16]of the 11th of Muharram the eve of the eleventh after the

[38:21]mat with them when they had no tents even that night she

[38:23]played a lot in late she did not leave salat al-eid even

[38:28]throughout their journey she was playing solitaire laid throughout the journey and

[38:33]you read in the history how difficult it was the journey was

[38:36]so all that started back 50 years ago when their mother was

[38:45]teaching them the father was teaching them so this is something we

[38:48]have to do brothers and sisters and this is how we can

[38:49]safeguard ourselves and the children and you find this is how I

[38:55]handle beit al-salaam did imam hussain ali salam took care of his

[39:00]children constantly he would look after them teach them educate them and

[39:04]hence they had attachment to him there was a big attachment from

[39:13]the children to him but the strongest attachment was of his daughter

[39:19]hope a year who was about three year old she was strongly

[39:24]attached other it is interesting out of the children of imam husain

[39:29]most of them if not all of them came to know that

[39:35]their father had been killed within a little while some came to

[39:38]know immediately those who were older and those who are younger a

[39:42]little while later but the only one who died when she came

[39:47]to recognize that her father has been killed was a papaya is

[39:52]the only one who died it may reflect allah knows but it

[39:56]made a flag that she may have had the strongest attachment to

[40:00]her father the strongest love to her father out of everyone else

[40:06]and this through the teaching of imam hussain alehissalaam how he taught

[40:13]them to said she used to bring the masala her father to

[40:18]her father she would stretch it for him prepare it for him

[40:22]so he was teaching her from that young age she was only

[40:25]three years old he's teaching her what does a lot how to

[40:29]play even though the children might look as if they are playing

[40:32]around us at the time of salat that's fine let them play

[40:35]around us they are absorbing it with their ears are with us

[40:38]you'll find them memorizing the Suez that you hidden the and thus

[40:44]a lot just by playing around us I warned you they play

[40:47]she was teaching them and then this family went through a lot

[41:01]of difficulty on the day of ashura zeyneb alayhis salaam looked for

[41:07]sakina who was a little older than what a year she looked

[41:11]for her she couldn't find her so she approached her and to

[41:17]the battlefield she looked into the battlefield she saw her hugging the

[41:23]body of her father Abby Abdullah I'm saying a body without a

[41:26]head she told her daughter my little girl what brings you here

[41:30]she said aunt when the enemy started burning our tents I didn't

[41:36]know where to go I thought let me go seek refuge in

[41:40]my father what I found my father here a body with no

[41:44]head and on the eleventh day of muharram she came and she

[41:51]hugged the body of her father schimmel came and he dragged her

[41:55]away from her father and started beating her and the family continued

[42:00]continued their journey until they came into shaam when they came to

[42:06]shaam one night what I yeah the three year old daughter of

[42:15]Imam Hossein alehissalaam wakes up in the middle of the night she

[42:19]says I'm mehsana a nagual edl Jose amazonas where is my father

[42:23]Imam Hussein I just saw him in my dream now she was

[42:28]too young to recognize that her father had been killed she did

[42:36]not know yet zeinab alehissalaam in the middle of the night looked

[42:40]at her and she said when a year in the office a

[42:42]anta weed he is gone in a long journey your father isn't

[42:48]long journey she said but aunt I just saw him in my

[42:54]dream I want to see him tell him to come back from

[42:55]this journey she said little girl he's in a journey where he

[43:02]cannot come back and that's when all the women and the children

[43:04]of him up saying they woke up and they started weeping for

[43:10]this little girl rock a year then the news reached the palace

[43:13]of years eid he said what is the matter they told him

[43:18]a little girl of imam hussain alayhis salaam woke up and she's

[43:22]asking for her father he says well then take the head of

[43:25]her father to her they brought the head of the Father covered

[43:36]it was covered on a plate Yahoo lacerda ventajas philemon / attila

[43:42]about 10 a la pêche Lynette another pasta uh when she looked

[43:51]at that plate she thought there is food in the plate she

[43:54]said amazonas block Adagio fat Navi on a bomb on Xena I

[44:01]don't want food I want my father Abdullah Hussein she said my

[44:05]little girl remove the cover from the plate and then woke I

[44:12]brothers those of you who have and sisters those of you who

[44:15]have a daughter those of you who have daughters now try to

[44:20]think of this remember when the time you daughter was three year

[44:23]old may Allah keep your daughter's for you protect them insha'Allah but

[44:27]remember remember how they used to run after you they used to

[44:29]love you they used to rush to see you now imagine if

[44:34]this little girl the three-year-old is coming to see her father but

[44:39]instead she removes that cover and what does she see she sees

[44:45]the head of her father into the plate covered in blood she

[44:50]threw herself on the head of her father she cried a by

[44:53]officers and a bataya manila the Azzurri de oh my father who

[45:13]beheaded you abba tamanna levy solvable shea butter oh my father who

[45:20]stained your beard in blood Abbott I malena saw it will later

[45:32]who will take care of protecting the women and the orphans Oh

[45:40]father and then she went into a silence ammamma sajjad ali sanam

[45:47]turn to zainab gawler amazonas every of ellicott for cattle fire uh

[45:55]oh my on Xena remover from that of my father of your

[46:03]burden for she has joined my father copy of it in LA

[46:09]and zeyneb alayhis salaam she rushed to this little girl she shook

[46:16]her she saw her sister that she has no life anymore her

[46:18]soul has departed her body right there when the head of her

[46:24]father no p orbital i listened while she was hugging bed of

[46:29]her father crying and xena banaya sanam she carried that little girl

[46:37]she looked at at the head of abu abdullah she said a

[46:40]co sir oh yeah not spiritual of it okay oh brother yahoo

[46:54]said look at your sister Zainab all alone with the orphans facing

[47:00]such great difficulties with no one to help me with no one

[47:06]to support me and then this little girl was very daring sham

[47:10]and today millions of zawar go to her grave millions and zana

[47:19]ballet s-salam headed back to Karbala uh it just said when she

[47:24]arrived in caravela she threw herself on the grave of a b.o.b

[47:28]Delilah said she said okay officer oh god oh yeah Abdullah here

[47:39]is your sister Zainab oh brother but I have an apology to

[47:42]make what is your apology as a nub she said yeah Abdullah

[47:48]you told me to take care of your children to take care

[47:51]of everyone but your daughter nokia was left in shy um dinesaw

[48:08]Oh Khmer ago Oh No in the circuit naalala when I laying

[48:19]in Roger oh no se llama Ladino volim oh IM on callaghan

[48:28]cali one while after battling with to pee in the brothers and

[48:31]sisters your hand this little girl although she was only three year

[48:35]old but believe me she's a grand door of haha if you

[48:40]have haja she will fulfill it for you this little girl millions

[48:43]of zawar go to her grave every millions go to her shrine

[48:49]every year and they get that heart so remember this little girl

[48:53]and your heart will be accepted insha Allah on here because she

[48:57]loved him up her saying so much she had great attachment to

[49:01]avi Abdullah Al Hussein we ask ali abdullah Hussain ya about Abdullah

[49:05]by this love of this girl of yours okay year except our

[49:12]heart and fulfill our heart ya allah is your hand bismillah al-rahman

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