How To Create A New Destiny Through Fasting? - Hajj Hussein Charara | MYC

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[0:01]fatty our praise be to allah the lord of the worlds may

[0:35]his peace and blessings be in our beloved prophet and his immaculate

[0:43]so let's discuss one was generating abundance because you don't create abundance

[0:51]you generate inshallah we'll talk about that maybe after ramadan for this

[0:55]is just how to create a new destiny through fasting and if

[1:01]you notice there's times in your life you just want something new

[1:05]and if you believe that your thoughts have something to do with

[1:12]your future and we want new things but how many of us

[1:14]actively woke up today and say something new to yourself what's a

[1:20]greater version of myself today where do i want to be where

[1:23]do i want to go what are the things that i want

[1:27]to realize and i've been an interesting journey especially the last five

[1:32]years that when i get people to do that interesting things happen

[1:36]and why is it important to do that during fasting and why

[1:40]are things elevated during fasting what is it about fasting do we

[1:44]fast because to remember the poor because if we did then what

[1:50]about the poor people don't they also have to fast do we

[1:54]fast to get healthy well that's it become god consciousness between you

[1:59]and allah allah didn't create you he manifested you there's a big

[2:05]difference some religions believe that god created we don't believe that in

[2:10]islam allah manifested you and if you want to the simple way

[2:13]of understanding it is if your mind has a thought is your

[2:18]mind separate from the thought no and if the mind stopped giving

[2:26]attention to the thought would the thought exist no and can the

[2:29]thought exist without the mind no so the mind create manifests the

[2:37]thought and the thought is a manifestation of the mind the same

[2:40]with you and allah we're not separate we're all connected so allah

[2:45]is saying to us just come back to me don't go to

[2:50]anybody else but me and become aware of me you want to

[2:55]get married come ask me you want your parents to stop fighting

[2:57]ask me that's why you know we've created a community it's called

[3:04]elevate where we just get people to overcome themselves and i do

[3:08]a lot of counseling where a person will come let's say they

[3:11]have 180 missing assignments i said man you got to work really

[3:17]hard to have 180 missing assignments and they're about there in eighth

[3:21]grade and about to be kicked out of school and i said

[3:23]do you want that possibility out of all the possibilities that exist

[3:27]allah has already given it to you you have the possibility of

[3:31]going to prison you have the possibility of being next to the

[3:34]prophet on the day of judgment you have the possibility of creating

[3:36]the next uber idea you have the possibility of making millions of

[3:42]possibilities you also have the possibility of creating destruction all these possibilities

[3:55]already exist we we don't believe that allah created from nothing just

[4:00]like the thought isn't created from nothing all your who you're going

[4:04]to marry if you behave this way this is the type of

[4:07]person you're going to marry you do like this in school this

[4:09]is the type of person that you're going to be and what

[4:13]do we do we have expectations we don't we complain we want

[4:17]everything else around us to change allah says no you change you

[4:23]become aware when that student came back two months later she tells

[4:27]me how she's on the honor roll did she change her destiny

[4:30]there's another student in one of the high schools i have a

[4:37]lot of relatives that work in either principals or vice principals or

[4:41]counselors or superintendents spell bad behavior i said is this what you

[4:51]want to wake up to every day will you wake up to

[4:56]your mom crying every day yes because every time i meet a

[5:00]kid who's lost in sin every time i ask is the mom

[5:04]sick yes because those thoughts is what deregulates genes that causes disease

[5:08]stress stress is the biggest killer then i said i'll invest in

[5:14]you but you first have to invest in yourself when he came

[5:19]back two months later again an honorable we have a friend he's

[5:22]in the cyber world inshallah one day his company could be worth

[5:26]you know he does really well and i said okay i'm going

[5:30]to have you mentor because he wanted to go into coding i

[5:32]said every three months he's going to mentor you he's going to

[5:36]tell you which code to learn and what to do and he's

[5:39]doing it guess what did he change his destiny yes he went

[5:43]from a drop out to what to something much bigger why he

[5:48]became more godly he became aware if you notice fasting did he

[5:54]become uncomfortable though was it hard the first couple days doing their

[5:57]homework changing there's a reason change isn't hard it's the resistance to

[6:03]change so you notice fasting it's all about resistance about not doing

[6:07]everything else is doing what fasting is you can't do anything why

[6:11]allah says i need you to be uncomfortable why so you can

[6:15]get out of the habit of being yourself and you need to

[6:18]break the habit of being yourself to create a new destiny so

[6:21]then what do you do you create a new habit of a

[6:26]habit of connecting to the divine every day and then you just

[6:29]get out of the way where allah says in the holy quran

[6:31]i'll give you unexpected things just follow me come my way that's

[6:37]what fasting is all about where you have to refrain you become

[6:41]uncomfortable and to reflect maybe lengthen your sujuda a little bit saying

[6:47]out of all the possibilities that exist in your life what are

[6:50]you unhappy with what do you want to change so allah says

[6:55]okay now is the time what habit do you want to change

[6:59]who do you want to be where do you want to go

[7:00]when people come within our community and they decide to make a

[7:07]change they decide to no longer be that past self they decide

[7:11]to forgive their husband or forgive their ex or let go of

[7:18]that resentment just let it go because what would happen what would

[7:21]happen if i held on to this test b for 10 seconds

[7:29]nothing a minute two hours fifteen years i become paralyzed it becomes

[7:46]very heavy and if i'm focused on just holding this am i

[7:48]able to create anything else in my life no this is what

[7:53]resentment does this is what not forgiving somebody who's hurt you does

[7:57]this is what anger does this is what arrogance does and any

[8:05]time you don't live godly godly says now hold on to that

[8:07]you can't create anything and you're going to live the same life

[8:12]over and over and over and your past becomes your future and

[8:15]our whole life you're going to keep complaining why things are not

[8:17]working out and the simple reason is you couldn't let go of

[8:24]yourself it became lost ramadhan would wake you up what happens if

[8:33]you lose your keys how about a month about a year that's

[8:50]your soul if you don't keep coming to the mass you don't

[8:53]keep praying you forget you won't even reflect and saying what am

[8:59]i here for what's my purpose and if you have a purpose

[9:01]in life that is not for the sake of allah whatever that

[9:06]thing is will never bring you satisfaction it's impossible so if you

[9:10]want an instagram page and you have 10 followers and likes and

[9:14]making money but it's not for allah you will be unhappy you

[9:17]know who said so allah it's a famous hadith where the prophet

[9:21]said that allah said when you let go of your desires for

[9:27]my desires for what i tell you i will bring angels to

[9:32]help you but if you don't and you take your desires over

[9:35]mine and you let go of the sharia whatever you get and

[9:40]you'll get millions of dollars none of it will make you happy

[9:43]you think will smith is happy does he look happy he's got

[9:49]millions of dollars he's got fame he's got a house i went

[9:50]i saw his house we on a boat we drove by we've

[9:56]uh invited on a boat humongous somebody who's has everything you think

[10:02]they're happy why because they forget about allah so what is ramadan

[10:06]for just to remember allah why because he manifested you why because

[10:10]he's closer to you than a jugular vein so why is that

[10:16]important anything you want just ask allah people come to an office

[10:21]where they have this one lady had to be carried in why

[10:24]their son was lost and she was heartbroken and she had these

[10:31]pills anxiety pills where she had to be walked in to my

[10:32]office carried in i said you need to we need to do

[10:37]a prayer for you i'm going to recite for you we're going

[10:39]to have a group of healers around you and we're going to

[10:43]let your heart open see what happens two things in ramadan women

[10:47]worry about everybody else who's last themselves this is the month to

[10:54]think of yourself men brothers it's the month for you to be

[11:02]vulnerable what's the character of a leader somebody who's vulnerable not to

[11:06]always have to feel like you have to act strong this is

[11:09]the month to go to your parents to say these are the

[11:14]things that are bothering me what do i do about it this

[11:16]is the what problems i'm having in school so this sister came

[11:20]in i said you need to now think of yourself he said

[11:23]no i want you to pray for my son i said no

[11:26]we need to pray for you so she came to the prayer

[11:30]hall that wise we had about 10 people surrounding her we did

[11:34]a prayer for her and she popped when i mean pop she

[11:39]felt the presence of allah after the dua was recited she had

[11:42]to be carried into the prayer hall by the end of the

[11:46]dua there's witnesses here there's people here that were part of it

[11:48]she ran around the prayer hall about 25 times she had so

[11:55]much energy and then she took out the anxiety pills and she

[11:58]hasn't taken them since they melted how does that happen there's so

[12:05]many things that we don't believe in because we forget to believe

[12:10]in ourselves and possibility in the holy quran and we have to

[12:14]bring that back and what better time than the month of ramadan

[12:18]where we could believe in ourselves in possibility because if you read

[12:24]in the holy quran it's filled with possibility so let me explain

[12:27]how it works so there is imam bakker alayhi islam a christian

[12:31]man came to him and said baqarah he says no my name

[12:39]is bhakar he says bakara he says no it's bhakar he was

[12:42]calling him cow but he was nice to him then he says

[12:46]your mom has got a horrible job she doesn't you know she

[12:51]just serves people food so this is a noble job it's good

[12:53]i said well your mom is a black woman who's immodest who's

[12:57]got a bad tongue how would we respond your punch what happens

[13:07]if this was a pop can soda can and it gets shaken

[13:12]and you open it what happens to the can explodes that's us

[13:19]does the imam explode no what happens after the can after you

[13:22]leave it for a few minutes nothing this is our trial so

[13:28]he responded to the person he says if what you say about

[13:32]my mom is true may allah forgive her but if what you

[13:37]say is a lie may allah forgive you within salawat did he

[13:47]become a muslim yes or no yes that christian be one action

[13:53]one prayer one habit change changes your whole destiny where abu dhabi

[14:01]was the companion of the prophet the person asked for advice for

[14:05]knowledge he says knowledge is vast he said what advice he says

[14:09]the advice is don't wrong the person that loves you so the

[14:14]companion says then who loves who wrongs the people why would somebody

[14:18]wrong somebody who loves is there anybody like that abu dharr said

[14:23]yes he said who he said themselves says they love themselves but

[14:31]they forget about allah by creating sin and then they fall out

[14:36]of love with themselves and that's what this journey is about this

[14:40]journey is about for you to learn to love yourself enough that

[14:44]you don't allow yourself to sin every time you sin that means

[14:49]you just don't love yourself that's it and when you learn to

[14:54]love yourself then you get to love allah imam alaihi al islam

[14:57]used to say this is a dead man walking what did that

[15:02]mean because he died before he died he already transversed transgressed to

[15:06]the next world it wasn't a surprise he already seen the veils

[15:10]to us it's a surprise it's a surprise that when we give

[15:15]something attention then it appears do you know you have that power

[15:21]that every day you give something attention every single day allah says

[15:25]pray to me go towards it watch how i make it unfold

[15:28]whatever the situation is this is why i do marriage counseling i

[15:33]said for 30 days can you give this attention instead of your

[15:38]past that keeps me coming up and forgiving your husband for what

[15:41]he did and filling up his cup and give him attention and

[15:45]then he will give you the peace and after 30 days they

[15:48]come back and they change their habits say brother hussein our marriage

[15:51]is saved and guess what we're no longer fighting now we're talking

[15:54]about how we're going to open up a business together why because

[15:59]they release that energy and they put energy someplace else so you

[16:03]notice when you have bad habits anything bad you cannot create it's

[16:07]impossible why because you're in survivor mode why because when you have

[16:13]a bad habit you have to hide it you have to lie

[16:17]so you know if you're drowning in the ocean and somebody comes

[16:21]and tells you how's your day what would you tell them i'm

[16:26]drowning what do you mean out what are you gonna eat tomorrow

[16:29]what's your plan in five years ten what's your ten what's your

[16:34]business plan say no i'm just drowning why because they're stressed all

[16:39]they're thinking about is survival when you do things that take you

[16:44]away from allah you put your body into stress and when you

[16:47]get into stress you can don't have time to create so many

[16:52]people have aspirations to do great things but when they get older

[16:55]they get into things that cause stress what are the some of

[17:01]the things brothers that you guys and sisters at your age get

[17:03]into that you know when people do it your friends or your

[17:06]peers at school that you know it's going to take them away

[17:09]from their possibility what is one smoking is marijuana really bad for

[17:18]you horrible it's so it makes your brain the second most toxic

[17:23]thing to the brain outside of schizophrenia is marijuana did you know

[17:29]that how many people they were going into med school they wanted

[17:32]to take the edge off they smoked marijuana it became they made

[17:36]them schizophrenic and then they're in my office and their mom is

[17:40]crying we have to get them committed by the police or when

[17:43]i've been called at one o'clock in the morning i go into

[17:47]a house the guns are drawn the mom is crying why just

[17:51]from marijuana he lost his mind for what because you put your

[17:58]desires over what allah has commanded you and allah says then you're

[18:01]going to suffer how long do you want to continue living that

[18:07]way we forget about the possibilities in our life when all we

[18:10]think about is ourselves there's a brother his name is inky johnson

[18:14]he's one of the top motivational speakers in the country how did

[18:21]he get there he was going into the nfl he had he

[18:25]told his mom you no longer have to work at wendy's because

[18:28]he was in the ghetto and he worked so hard to get

[18:32]his mom out of the garage that he was a top 30

[18:35]draft pick his agent was going to tell him you're a multi-millionaire

[18:37]you got eight games left the next game he plays against air

[18:44]force person hit him became paralyzed he actually had to go into

[18:48]surgery and he says you might die he woke up the doctor

[18:50]is like you got some bad news he says what bad news

[18:53]i'm still alive he says well you can never play football again

[18:56]he says well i'm not defined by football see your goals may

[19:02]change but it's the process it's the way you live every day

[19:04]that will decide if you're going to live life on your terms

[19:08]the ultimate failure in life is when you succeed into something and

[19:14]you're not happy so many people are going into careers into things

[19:19]that they really don't want they know it's not into their heart

[19:25]and when you don't find that purpose for allah nothing will satisfy

[19:29]you so i don't care if you're 70 years old if you

[19:31]don't wake up happy go back to that childlike state and start

[19:36]creating things and watch how allah will instantly help you so inky

[19:42]said god help me guide me he's praying to god he gets

[19:50]offered to go to atlanta as a job he graduated from school

[19:55]and he'd go work at a ymca he gets there the guy

[19:57]doesn't answer now he's back at his grandma's house he's married with

[20:01]a kid his kid doesn't even have a crib they can't afford

[20:04]one he's got 200 in his pocket he says god help me

[20:09]he had a vision and allah gives us visions in different ways

[20:13]this is why you should go into sujud lengthen it one of

[20:19]the best times to get a vision is in the state of

[20:23]sujud when we were looking for camps to buy in michigan looked

[20:26]at like eight camps he didn't know which one to buy he

[20:29]asked allah help me in the state of sajud in the crystal

[20:34]vision of which camp to buy came there's another time in sejud

[20:39]we were short two hundred thousand dollars for the camp we needed

[20:43]to finish the cabins the brothers and sisters cabins we prayed he

[20:47]went into sajud he said allah you send me a helper the

[20:51]next day a brother comes in who was supposed to go to

[20:56]an alaskan cruise says i came here i didn't want to my

[20:57]family wanted to meet their family in dearborn i didn't want to

[21:01]come here i did this good to come here why am i

[21:05]here he's saying then he heard that somebody's building a camp the

[21:08]only muslim camp in the country so then his brother goes to

[21:14]the camp he gets the tories with hajj hassan giving a tour

[21:17]and he looks to him halfway because i was just saying this

[21:21]is where the pool is going to go this is where we're

[21:25]going to do the water slide and so on so he turns

[21:29]to him halfway how much money do you need and said it

[21:33]never mentioned money and not only did he give him that he

[21:37]gave him much more and he brought other people to help us

[21:42]finish the camp question if he didn't ask allah would that have

[21:45]happened no because allah says you've got to call on me and

[21:50]i'll answer you so how do you call on allah how do

[21:54]you speak to him so same thing john said he called on

[22:00]he had a vision he prayed go speak to oprah huh go

[22:06]speak to oprah oprah winfrey is the only billion dollar black woman

[22:11]he has 200 his pocket he goes with his friend drives from

[22:16]atlanta to chicago he goes to oprah studios there's a sea of

[22:20]people he says god you bro he's constantly talking to god he

[22:24]says god you brought me here show me a way so he's

[22:27]trying to get in going from one door to another he gets

[22:28]kicked out he goes into the back of the studio all of

[22:35]a sudden he's sitting and he's praying god you brought me here

[22:39]i'm so close i could feel it all of a sudden a

[22:43]car pulls up who comes out a security guard security guard pulls

[22:46]up the door who's there oprah he gets up he's in a

[22:52]blazer he's walking with by her she looks at him nice suit

[22:54]says hey my name is inky johnson i wrote this book about

[22:59]my life and i'd like to share it with you can i

[23:01]get a picture she said sure so you can look it up

[23:07]inky johnson oprah winfrey and you'll see the first picture he took

[23:09]so he left he's like oh my god i met oprah it

[23:15]worked so as he's walking away the security guard tapped him on

[23:19]the shoulder he said oprah liked you she wants to come in

[23:24]the studio and let you know in 20 years oprah's never done

[23:28]that she liked him enough she put him on the book list

[23:29]he's now one of the top motivational speakers in the country he's

[23:33]a multi-millionaire how just ask allah then he got out of the

[23:39]way but nobody changes unless you do the work so how does

[23:42]a student go from 180 missing assignments to going on the honor

[23:47]roll they found purpose what's your purpose there's brothers here their purpose

[23:53]maybe one day is hanging out with their friends the next day

[23:57]it could be something different but if you don't have a vision

[24:01]of the future that's greater than the current environment your friends will

[24:07]always pull you away because if some of you said i wanted

[24:12]to build an uber idea i wanted to be a soccer pro

[24:15]i want to get into harvard your friends would probably mock you

[24:20]but yet when your friends tell you let's go do something even

[24:24]if it's haram you're willing to go with them and the angels

[24:27]are like what are you doing why are you going to your

[24:33]friends why aren't you going to allah who created you who's given

[24:37]you this existence and until you keep overcoming overcoming and overcoming you'll

[24:43]never become somebody else and the rest of your life you'll keep

[24:48]complaining you know why people over the age of 35 even 30

[24:50]now 90 of their thoughts are the same thoughts as yesterday and

[24:54]everything that they did yesterday is going to be the same thing

[24:58]that they do tomorrow and their personality that they have the way

[25:02]they think the way they act the way they feel determines their

[25:06]reality so if they're having the same thoughts as yesterday tomorrow is

[25:11]going to be the same future is there ever going to be

[25:14]anything excited in their life no why because they didn't think of

[25:20]something new why well i got to worry about my kids i

[25:24]got to worry about my husband i gotta call my aunt who's

[25:30]gonna complain to me about 32 things i gotta make sure my

[25:34]kids are okay allah says i didn't create you for that the

[25:37]only reason i created you is for you to realize that you're

[25:40]not a mom you're not a dad you're not a brother or

[25:46]a sister you're none of these things your pure consciousness going back

[25:49]to allah that's all that you are so allah says come back

[25:55]to me well please how follow the sharia pray if you don't

[26:00]pray pray for 30 days during ramadan ask god to show you

[26:06]a sign that leaves no doubt that it's him pick one habit

[26:09]during ramadan do you swear pick the habit for 30 days you're

[26:11]not going to swear for the sake of allah and ask allah

[26:15]to show you a sign do you watch haram ask god for

[26:20]30 days i'm not going to watch i'm going to overcome myself

[26:24]i'm going to replace that back and ask allah to show you

[26:27]a sign what allah shows you there will be so clear and

[26:31]when you experience it you'll never go back to your old self

[26:35]that sister never had it to take an anxiety pill again the

[26:40]doctors were shocked i had radiologists who'd say what did what are

[26:43]you guys doing this person this boy's hearing should never have improved

[26:49]so what did you change so we just up regulated his genes

[26:54]how through prayer i could prove it scientifically and these are the

[26:59]conversations that i love having with people not about what some rapper

[27:06]is doing or lebron james shoe size or posting a picture of

[27:12]your feet on instagram hoping you get some likes i'd rather talk

[27:18]about possibility so what are your dreams what do you believe in

[27:21]possibility and why are you not waking up to that vision every

[27:24]single day that's how you stay away from haram that's the purpose

[27:28]but it has to be a purpose for allah so you have

[27:32]to wake up i don't care who you are in your room

[27:35]in this room if you're five or eighty what is your purpose

[27:39]if you don't know ask allah because the best purpose is to

[27:43]get close to the prophet to be because the prophet says i'm

[27:48]here as just a moral example and the best person you could

[27:50]be is a moral human being so what does that mean you

[27:54]want to bring people to higher moral states that should be one

[27:57]of your purpose how are you going to do that you want

[28:00]to start an orphanage you want to help battered women you want

[28:03]to help people with eating disorders you want to help the poor

[28:08]what is it that you want to do there's a brother his

[28:12]name is dave abdullah you guys know him he's a real estate

[28:15]he's one of the top real estate agents in the country you

[28:20]know his wife wasn't too happy with him at one point of

[28:24]his life you know why he maxed out all of his credit

[28:28]cards why because he was an accountant at um-dearborn he told me

[28:31]when he was a kid he used to go into the garbages

[28:33]on middle point in east dearborn looking for clothes that was a

[28:38]regular occurrence because they didn't have money for clothes that's how poor

[28:42]he was but he knew he had to work hard he became

[28:44]an accountant he says he's not happy here so he maxed out

[28:49]his credit cards to go and get training for real estate and

[28:52]his wife was like what are you doing we don't have any

[28:56]money but you know what he would do can anybody guess prayed

[29:02]and every day you take two showers a day and you put

[29:06]on the wall number one in michigan and if people would have

[29:10]came if you would have went to his friends and said i'm

[29:12]going to be the number one real estate agent in michigan with

[29:16]his bank account being negative what would he have told people what

[29:19]would people have told them impossible if you don't believe in the

[29:26]possibility of yourself don't expect anybody else to do that not only

[29:28]did he become number one in michigan at one point he became

[29:30]number one in the world how he stopped using his brain as

[29:36]a record of the past and holding on to things and he

[29:38]started using it as a road map of the future and he

[29:41]asked allah show me how to get there i can't figure it

[29:45]out allah i need you and that's what allah has put us

[29:50]for so what is your vision of the future or do you

[29:51]want to still always wake up to some vision of the past

[29:55]when you wake up when you woke up today where did your

[29:57]thoughts go is this some problem some heartbreak a money issue you

[30:05]have to break that habit that morning right when you wake up

[30:10]for fajr that's the time for you to create and you say

[30:11]allah this is the vision that i want spend two minutes don't

[30:15]touch your phone don't do anything then ask allah to show you

[30:21]a sign that leaves no doubt that it's you and inshallah we're

[30:25]going to be creating testimonials because we have hundreds of these stories

[30:28]just in our community of alone when people stop waking up to

[30:33]the vision of what the doctor told them with the cancer the

[30:37]disease where i had a lady for 20 years she said i

[30:40]have vertigo i've never been able to lay down i can't lay

[30:44]down when i go i can't even sleep properly i cannot lay

[30:47]down it's impossible i said let's do let's get your heart open

[30:51]she was at camp one meditation where she connected to the divine

[30:56]and your brain your heart and your body all has to be

[31:01]in sync and that's what meditation does then you recite dua most

[31:04]of the time when we recite dua when we pray where is

[31:08]our mind on pizza or on the instagram page or my ex-husband

[31:13]or where are my kids you can't create if you're not present

[31:18]so within a few about 15 minutes after the meditation she laid

[31:24]down for a half hour she got up and she was crying

[31:29]so i haven't been able to lay down for 15 years she

[31:31]looks at me and the other people that prayed for her so

[31:34]i'm going to be praying for you for the rest of my

[31:38]life i think my protection is when somebody comes and they're addicted

[31:41]to something heroin or whatever a bad habit and they overcome it

[31:48]we show them how by allah yes you should go to the

[31:52]doctor you should go to rehab centers but none of them work

[31:53]if allah is not in the center it's not going to work

[31:56]been doing it for 15 years allah has to be the elixir

[32:01]has to be the healer nobody else i don't care what you

[32:07]try otherwise you're going to relapse it's going to relapse it's not

[32:11]going to work but when a parent comes i'm going to come

[32:13]and spend the rest of my life praying for you i think

[32:16]that's our protection so who are you reaching out to who are

[32:22]you helping or is everything about you because if it is when

[32:25]something comes your way and you want to go in your vision

[32:29]and it's bigger than you you're going to quit and give up

[32:31]yes brother so the first thing is just be aware so when

[32:42]your mind wanders say oh my mind is wandering that means you're

[32:47]doing it right but most of the time when our mind wanders

[32:49]are we aware of it no it's like when you're driving you

[32:52]know if you drive down the same road all the time don't

[32:56]you sometimes zone out and you forget how you got to the

[32:59]other spot while you're driving because their body is doing it so

[33:03]all you have to do is stay aware so you write it

[33:06]down what are two or three thoughts i'm going to be aware

[33:09]of today what are two or three thoughts i no longer gonna

[33:12]have today and write it down you know when you write things

[33:16]down even if you're looking for a job you have a fifty

[33:19]percent chance of getting that job just by writing it down they

[33:23]know they did it in harvard and yale they asked everybody who

[33:27]wrote down a mission statement what's your mission statement harvard yale students

[33:33]the top after 20 years only three percent wrote a mission statement

[33:38]when they graduated 20 years they asked them one question how much

[33:41]money is in your bank account that three percent had more money

[33:48]than the 97 percent combined what was the only difference they wrote

[33:51]it down they looked at it every day same with dave abdullah

[33:55]he wrote it down every day he took two showers a day

[33:57]number one in michigan and he said what habits do i have

[34:01]to have to achieve that most of us because we've been spoiled

[34:06]because why don't people wake up and do something for the sake

[34:10]of allah because we're too comfortable parents have spoiled us why should

[34:14]i work hard for an iphone i just keep crying like i

[34:15]was when i was in the crib my mom will eventually bring

[34:19]it to me and our parents because we're so loving we don't

[34:21]want our kids to suffer but the only way they could suffer

[34:26]the only way they could succeed is by suffering who's a mother

[34:30]here sister if i brought you somebody who looks just like your

[34:37]daughter would you take care of him the same way why because

[34:41]she's not yours and why do you love why would you give

[34:44]your life why if somebody tried to kidnap if somebody tried to

[34:47]kidnap her you'd go through that window to save her yes or

[34:52]no that's some strong love yeah but not at the level look

[34:57]your child needs a if your child needs hold on your child

[34:59]your child needs a heart transplant would you give them your heart

[35:03]how about somebody else's because i could give you hundreds of thousands

[35:06]of them no why this one because allah says you suffered so

[35:11]if you truly love your kids you allow them to suffer you

[35:15]allow them to cry you won't keep giving in what's ramadan ramadan

[35:20]is for you to become uncomfortable that's it and when you do

[35:25]then you're overcoming yourself and that's when you ask a question i'm

[35:28]uncomfortable now allah i can't go back to my old habits what

[35:33]are things that are going to change that's when you become conscious

[35:36]that's when you create a new destiny it's that simple so if

[35:40]you want to go from 180 missing a students to the honor

[35:44]roll you've got to have a vision of the future but it's

[35:48]got to be for the allah for allah cannot be for yourself

[35:50]most people because were consumed by corporate america thinking that this is

[35:57]the way for happiness it's a lie the only reason why they're

[36:01]doing that is for you to keep buying things because it's telling

[36:05]you you need something outside of you to be happy you need

[36:08]the next iphone you know imagine if you had the iphone 13

[36:12]look how weird we are but then somebody next and you're so

[36:16]happy and you're the only one in the room that has an

[36:21]iphone 13 you feel great but then somebody sits next to you

[36:25]and what do they have with iphone 14 you notice anything outside

[36:31]of you it will never satisfy you're going to need more the

[36:34]only satisfaction is when you connect to allah and allah draws that

[36:39]thing to you and then you get it as a tool to

[36:42]get closer to allah that's it and when you live that way

[36:45]now you're living life on your terms what's happiness happiness is when

[36:51]you get to do what you want when you want where you

[36:53]want how you want salawats how many people have to wake up

[37:03]to jobs that they don't want to situations that they don't want

[37:07]and then they're complaining it's because of my parents it's because i

[37:11]was limited it's because of my husband where allah says no expect

[37:15]the unexpected how through the unknown how ask me how be present

[37:22]with me stop putting your brain in your mind into the past

[37:25]or the predictable future put it in this moment and don't allow

[37:28]your mind to wander then recite dua piccadilla do akamel is a

[37:35]healing dua dua muslin pick up do it for 30 days watch

[37:41]what happens but a lot of people come to the mosque they

[37:46]try to unless you leave and do the work nothing's going to

[37:51]change that's why our community that we're building they're workers they're people

[37:54]who leave and do the work and then they'll come back brother

[37:58]was saying you won't believe it i'm an author on that book

[38:01]for my phd program it happened brother was saying you won't believe

[38:07]what happened i got into that school ever share the cadillac story

[38:11]with this group there was a brother wanted to commit suicide they

[38:14]didn't want to live anymore so what's wrong he said i want

[38:18]to work for the state because i got fired from my job

[38:21]and i'm here nobody likes me i want to go back to

[38:25]my other state and covet hit i don't have anything i don't

[38:29]want to live anymore what is this why would god do this

[38:32]to me so because first thing i said is any setback that

[38:34]you have is a set up for something bigger why would you

[38:39]be discouraged allah setting you up you prayed for patience you're going

[38:42]to be tried don't we pray for patience that means you're going

[38:45]to be tried so then i said can you recite this dua

[38:49]but then when you're you're not going to get up from the

[38:51]paramount until you feel like that person who's working for the job

[38:56]because if you get up from that prayer mat but you still

[39:00]feel like the old self the prayer didn't work that's that's the

[39:05]secret you gotta wake up walk talk and act as that future

[39:08]version you know how they say fake it till you make it

[39:12]yes it works the science is there he said you got to

[39:17]act like you're not working for the state and you got to

[39:18]thank allah and i told him one more thing ask allah to

[39:22]show you a sign he calls me in a couple days with

[39:25]brothers saying i only see cadillac's i don't want a cadillac i

[39:30]want a job i have dreams cadillac i go on the road

[39:35]there's nobody driving on the road all i see is what cadillac

[39:37]what is this then he calls me a couple days later brother

[39:41]was saying this is not working why unemployment it didn't go through

[39:47]call them he waits on the phone for three hours he gets

[39:51]redirected to a supervisor the supervisor says i like you we're hiring

[39:54]come work for us said really he said yeah now this brother

[39:59]makes over a hundred thousand dollars a year and he helps muslims

[40:02]overcome their unemployment issues especially the ones that only speak arabic and

[40:07]he was helping out at access and now he's been promoted even

[40:12]higher that's possibility then he went to go pick up his laptop

[40:15]because he's working from home right so he goes to pick up

[40:21]his laptop from downtown detroit and he sends me a picture and

[40:23]he picks it up from the cadillac building salaat we don't believe

[40:33]in coincidence can he go back to being the same person no

[40:36]it's impossible you can't so who do you want to be what

[40:42]are you asking allah for you have two options people do things

[40:48]for two reasons either they're hurt or they're in love that's it

[40:52]those two options so if you're in an abusive relationship that abuser

[40:56]is hurt figure out a way to pray for him to ask

[41:00]allah to change his pain has nothing to do with you that's

[41:05]it if anybody hurts you if somebody cuts you off stop allowing

[41:09]your energy to go to that person where you're talking negative about

[41:13]them i'm going to show this video in a minute i'm going

[41:16]to show how somebody took a negative in their life where they

[41:21]were abused and turned it into a positive what do we do

[41:23]somebody's ego comes in their way because they're hurt what do we

[41:27]respond with our own ego imagine if imam and bakker islam would

[41:31]have responded to that christian said who are you talking to me

[41:36]like that would that person ever became a muslim no instantly they

[41:41]changed faraon moosa said go to him go to him with a

[41:48]kind tongue it's a person who killed children allah says go maybe

[41:51]you'll change his heart if we have to be kind to far

[41:55]own don't you have to be kind to somebody that's hurt you

[41:57]maybe allah will change their heart why are you holding on to

[42:02]this resentment it's going to get very heavy in your life let

[42:04]it go because if you don't nothing new in your life is

[42:08]going to happen look at the magicians the magicians were going against

[42:14]prophet musa islam they saw what prophet musa actually did with the

[42:18]connection of allah they had an instant metamorphosis and firaoun says what

[42:24]are you doing why are you bowing down so we worship the

[42:27]god of musa and allah said i'm going to kill you they

[42:32]said we don't care you can't you can't threaten us with death

[42:36]why because they saw a different reality look at us we have

[42:40]a vision of the future but we walk out as the old

[42:44]self and as soon as something comes our way we forget about

[42:46]that vision we go back to our old self make when you

[42:50]leave here today say no more i'm going to leave that old

[42:54]self behind i'm going to leave it behind what's one habit that

[42:58]you could leave behind talk to the person next to you say

[43:01]during this ramadhan i'm going to give this habit up and if

[43:06]you don't know text your mom and ask her what that habit

[43:10]is and the only reason why we won't do it the scholar

[43:12]says because of our arrogance so be humble enough to say this

[43:18]is one habit i need to change for the sake of allah

[43:19]to get closer to him otherwise your fasting will have very little

[43:22]benefits go ahead share with the person next to you while we

[43:27]play this where we begin this video ready wait one second okay

[44:11]all right after this video i'm going to ask you questions and

[44:22]these are the questions how do you get a new brain how

[44:26]do you get new neurons because neurons that fire together wire together

[44:29]you have to ask the right questions i'm going to ask you

[44:31]a few questions and when you try to answer them then you

[44:35]try to wake up to that vision every day now here's somebody

[44:38]we're going to watch what would you do it's a show where

[44:42]they don't know they were being filmed and if you're in this

[44:47]situation just ask yourself what would you do but the main point

[44:49]of this video is going to be the last scene so let's

[44:53]go ahead bob and mary are spending the day with her grandchildren

[45:00]ava and mac their first stop lunch at the town diner in

[45:06]east windsor new jersey but their generational differences are keeping them from

[45:12]seeing eye to eye i've been doing in school kids not bad

[45:18]ava look up at your grandfather when he's talking to you on

[45:21]everything from technology i don't understand why your parents let you have

[45:25]these things to manners you know when your mother was your age

[45:28]we taught her how to actually look at people how to have

[45:33]a conversation to discipline your parents let you get away with everything

[45:37]well it doesn't happen when you're with us if you witness grandparents

[45:41]becoming exasperated by their grandchildren's conduct kids today they have no respect

[45:47]what would you do ava do you have to play the game

[45:52]the whole time you're sitting here with us do you have to

[45:53]do anything around your house or do you just get your allowance

[45:55]no matter what we just get our allowance just get your allowance

[46:00]this pair starts to listen in as bob and mary do nothing

[46:03]but disapprove of the distracted youngsters all right i'm gonna go wash

[46:07]my hands when our grandparents step away now you both stay off

[46:14]those devices until we come back they lay down the law don't

[46:16]move and don't be talking to anybody ava defies their orders seeking

[46:26]solace in these other diners the seem like everything we do is

[46:32]wrong okay sit down relax but you know sometimes okay amen don't

[46:37]give too much advice you'll be involved in something but when the

[46:43]grumpy grandparents returned didn't i tell you not to look at those

[46:45]things when we were gone you don't listen sir enough okay i'm

[46:49]not taking it to you come on you're shouting to everybody here

[46:53]i'm sorry i didn't mean to disturb you but you had i

[46:56]have a problem with that look around take it out no no

[47:01]i can't take that and he's not the only one compelled to

[47:03]speak up they don't listen to us they don't have to listen

[47:09]to you right now you're not being nice do you have grandkids

[47:13]yeah we always do all they do is look at these machines

[47:15]it's a different generation you have to accept that they're not going

[47:19]to take it out i would never speak to my grandchildren the

[47:21]way you do it's disgusting really it's abusive i heard you i

[47:25]i would be ashamed if you were my grandfather and grandmother you

[47:32]felt for those kids i did i mean they're horrible grandparents i

[47:37]thought grandparents are for love and you know good things you yelled

[47:40]at them i couldn't help it and i said to my wife

[47:42]don't get involved you didn't want her to get in i said

[47:46]take it easy but then i lost it your advice to those

[47:52]grandparents treat the kids like the human life it was terrible we're

[47:55]back at the table and the kids can't seem to do anything

[48:00]right would you please sit up i can't stand watching you sleeping

[48:03]all the time yes we brought up your mother differently my father

[48:11]i don't want to see you using it when we send bob

[48:14]and mary away once again ava quickly finds this friendly face i

[48:20]just want to tell you i have four grandchildren and it's a

[48:23]different world today which your grandparents don't understand but they happen to

[48:30]be right many astronauts what should i do when he comes back

[48:33]when he comes back if i were you explain to him that

[48:39]you know you love him so he'll see your side of this

[48:44]story then he's unexpectedly drawn right into the middle of this family

[48:49]feud is she bothering you absolutely not sir absolutely not she was

[48:55]supposed to be sitting here we told her not to talk to

[48:57]apologize she wanted to apologize to me she's apologizing to you but

[49:02]you won't talk to us it's a different world today ma'am you

[49:06]don't realize it we're trying to have our daughter raise good kids

[49:10]everybody wants that sir it's exasperating sometimes i agree with you look

[49:15]i know firsthand how it is because i lose my composure as

[49:20]well but i learned to control myself honestly and i'm not trying

[49:24]to ridicule you believe me i'm not thank you you're welcome honey

[49:28]they continue scolding the kids for being on their devices ava i

[49:34]asked you to please put that away and in front of this

[49:37]couple bob says the unthinkable i really wish you weren't our grandkids

[49:43]and the diners react right away oh my god will you stop

[49:46]do you hear how you're speaking to them it's so rude okay

[49:50]they're playing with their games x them nicely to put it down

[49:52]don't tell them that you wish they weren't your grandkids how rude

[49:56]is that i would never go out to eat with you too

[49:58]you don't realize you have to stop you're right but you're doing

[50:02]it the wrong way not here but you're right he makes it

[50:08]clear that he agrees with the message although not the delivery we're

[50:11]just trying to teach them good manners that's not what you do

[50:17]you don't have grandchildren i do have glitches i'm like having a

[50:20]nervous breakdown over here listening to you i can't listen to this

[50:25]anymore i can't all right break it we won't make them listen

[50:27]anymore how are you boy you couldn't take it anymore i am

[50:33]from brooklyn and when i got something to say i say it

[50:35]what did it for you what put you over the edge i'm

[50:37]a grandmother so i have two granddaughters and i would never speak

[50:40]to them like that ever i mean the way they were talking

[50:43]to them was not acceptable you glad you spoke up yes i

[50:48]am i always speak up [Music] as we're rolling one last time

[50:54]this mother and her two daughters sit down for dinner put the

[50:57]things away and look at the menu all right your grandfather is

[51:00]talking to you in an instant mom is aware of what's happening

[51:04]i don't know what your mother is teaching at home but this

[51:07]is not going to fly with us when i ask you to

[51:10]do something do it she's trying to tend to her own children

[51:13]but she can't keep her eyes off the scene at the next

[51:18]table don't make me have to yell at you and it's this

[51:19]insult from our grandpa you know i'm ashamed to call you my

[51:22]grandkids that really bothers her although her own children try to stop

[51:30]her she can't hold in her emotions any longer excuse me but

[51:35]how can you talk to your grandchildren like that what did i

[51:38]do i'm just i know but they you know either out to

[51:41]lunch with you or dinner with you they have their cell phones

[51:43]it's not that big a deal but at least they're they're they're

[51:46]out here with you you're talking to them like they're a piece

[51:49]of crap i'm sorry you're so upset but you know we've been

[51:53]having problems with them all the way over here then she makes

[51:56]a plea to the children as well get some crayons and just

[52:00]be with your grandparents because they're not going to be here forever

[52:03]you know life is so short and it means so many people

[52:07]don't even have their grandparents it's okay please put your phones down

[52:11]and just enjoy your meal with him and just think about it

[52:18]i mean really what we have is one life time to meet

[52:24]this warm-hearted woman i'm john quinones it's it's only a tv show

[52:28]they're actors okay are you serious i'm so sorry we upset you

[52:35]why did you do that i just felt like i have to

[52:38]be an advocate for for kids and um i had some issues

[52:41]with my father was a very angry person and we had situations

[52:45]at dinner where things would be thrown and horrible things would be

[52:51]said and i made an effort for the rest of my life

[52:53]to stand up for children that need to have that voice oh

[52:58]honey you did a beautiful job oh my goodness i'm so happy

[53:03]that wasn't really shaking how long do you want to keep living

[53:38]that way so when things happen to you they actually happen for

[53:42]you no matter what the situation is and you use that as

[53:45]fuel to help others otherwise what is this life for so whatever

[53:51]has happened to you in your life how bad it is or

[53:54]how negative it is use that as a situation to say okay

[53:57]allah this has happened to me what can i do to help

[54:01]others to make sure that this doesn't happen anybody else for the

[54:04]younger brothers say what is it what do i want to be

[54:07]known for what are the things that i want to do so

[54:11]if i were to ask okay first thing what was the habit

[54:15]you guys wanted to break for this month anybody like to share

[54:19]before we do the questionnaire and then we'll end go ahead lying

[54:26]so you're going to spend one month that no matter what i'm

[54:31]not going to lie even if it hurts you allah says you

[54:35]tell the truth i always so quick at lying as if we

[54:38]think it's going to threaten us who are the people that i

[54:42]love the most the people who don't even know how to lie

[54:44]there's usually one in every family when you look at them they

[54:48]just can't lie i love such people who else would like to

[54:53]share okay so even if you have angry neighbors and even if

[54:59]they throw garbage at you you go check on them now you're

[55:04]being prophet like and can that change their heart yes this is

[55:09]how people became muslim not by words by actions what else you

[55:14]want to change social media for 30 days i've saved marriages i

[55:19]swear to you just take 30 to take three months off of

[55:23]social media they come back they say yeah that was our problem

[55:26]it completely destroyed our relationship they didn't even know it how about

[55:31]not complaining for 30 days not complaining about your kids your husband

[55:36]your house nothing you know we're addicted to complaining can you take

[55:43]30 days during this ramadan and don't complain the only person that

[55:46]you complain to is allah and you ask allah nobody else brothers

[55:51]and sisters it's not your parents that take care of you it's

[55:56]allah yes yeah excellent so next thing what's one thing you want

[56:13]to start doing so instead of saying i have to do this

[56:19]what do you get to do you know a lot of us

[56:22]say i have to take care of my kids i have to

[56:24]go to work what should you say i get to now you

[56:28]have to we talk so limited you know the way we talk

[56:32]people who quit smoking uh you offer me a cigarette no i'm

[56:35]trying to quit that means they're identifying themselves as a smoker compared

[56:40]to the person who says i quit i'm not a smoker even

[56:45]though he's a smoker they're more likely to quit so what is

[56:48]one habit you want to start should be this is the month

[56:53]of revelation what should you do for at least five minutes every

[56:57]day this read it that's your manual you want to learn about

[57:00]yourself you want to learn about possibility you want to learn how

[57:02]to heal people you want to learn every secret in this existence

[57:09]is in that book somewhere and the more you get into it

[57:12]the more that will be revealed to you but allah says you

[57:16]have to purify yourself to know those realities all you need is

[57:18]the holy quran you don't need anything else it's got everything what

[57:27]else habit you want to start about saying waking up and saying

[57:35]one nice thing to your husband every day you wake up and

[57:37]you say one nice thing to your parents every day if you

[57:41]start to change then the things outside of you start to change

[57:46]and through fasting you get a new destiny and it takes usually

[57:49]about 30 days and you ask allah just like the cadillac and

[57:52]all the other stories but you notice they're just stories what are

[57:56]you going to do so this is how we'll end you have

[57:58]to ask questions first question what is the greatest ideal of yourself

[58:04]what's the greatest version share with the person next to you i'll

[58:09]give you 30 seconds what is the greatest version of yourself who

[58:13]do you want to be naji what's the greatest version of yourself

[58:22]come on up come on your parents here okay so you're gonna

[58:35]be it's on youtube so now you're going to get to share

[58:40]this with your parents so on the mic you're going to ask

[58:44]you could just leave it there quick speak he's probably nervous let's

[58:48]get marcelo as if your parents tell your parents what's the greatest

[58:58]ideal of yourself that's the first question greatest idea like if your

[59:03]parents say this is the greatest version i see of you what

[59:05]does that version look like who is that person what's one thing

[59:10]that they would do i don't know homework without being reminded they

[59:14]don't talk about homework okay so what are things that they tell

[59:18]you it could be an updated version on time pray on time

[59:21]so the ideal version of myself is the prey on time yeah

[59:25]do you want to get married on time in the future yeah

[59:30]yeah and i know but do you want to get married on

[59:31]god's time yeah pray on time okay do you want to get

[59:35]into school on time i do pray on time do you want

[59:41]that opportunity on time yeah pray on time okay that's the first

[59:43]question you guys get it yeah that's the greatest you want things

[59:47]to happen on time pray on time we have one question yes

[59:52]we have we have a list who do you in history do

[59:56]you admire what's one person that you probably should emulate to say

[59:59]this is the person i want to emulate to become like he

[60:04]says i want to emulate him did he revolutionize lebanon yeah he

[60:09]did did he save the orphans yes is that somebody you should

[60:12]emulate how are you going emulate him i'm gonna try and be

[60:16]more uh humble how are you gonna know about him though you

[60:18]have to certain research research read figure out somebody in your life

[60:24]that you wanna be and read their book their 20 years of

[60:26]experience you could read it in one week and then you start

[60:30]emulating them and then when you start emulating them you still get

[60:34]those opportunities so he's on a good track so far pray on

[60:37]time emulate america one more how would i talk to others if

[60:45]i were changed so what's a different way you might talk to

[60:49]your brother your sister your siblings your mom or dad if right

[60:53]now you're gonna leave here is a little bit changed what's one

[60:56]attitude you'd probably change you might be listening to my brother be

[60:59]nicer so when your brother annoys you he shakes you you allow

[61:05]that uncomfortable feeling to dissolve away and you don't react to it

[61:08]that's called evolution and when you do that allah says bravo now

[61:15]i'm going to give you this opportunity how does that sound good

[61:20]all right we'll go last one who do you want to re

[61:26]who or whom do i want to remind myself to be the

[61:30]best president of myself so what is that version how are you

[61:33]going to get the best version of yourself i actually have to

[61:36]try but how do you know what the best version of yourself

[61:38]is because some people say the best version of myself is to

[61:42]have a youtube channel some people say the best version of myself

[61:45]is to make millions what's the best version of yourself what's the

[61:50]only place you could get it who should you get that version

[61:55]from from from allah and his representatives and they will tell you

[62:02]what those versions are salah thank you and i'll prove it let's

[62:09]say we go into a restaurant and you see a beautiful waitress

[62:11]and you're like i hope that's my waitress and then you're then

[62:17]she opens up her mouth and she said sit down what are

[62:21]you doing here you had to come so close to closing don't

[62:23]ask for anything except water and mac and cheese she brings you

[62:30]water and she brings you mac and cheese and it's bur she

[62:35]says eat it or leave that beautiful person just became what ugly

[62:40]let's say you go to another restaurant and you're hoping that guy

[62:45]who's got needles or earrings in his nose and tattoo on his

[62:48]head please don't let me be that might be my waiter and

[62:51]then he's your waiter he said if you had a lovely day

[62:55]take a seat you know we have these specials actually i've had

[62:58]such a great day this is on me and i'm gonna make

[63:03]the chef make this special meal and it's great that person you

[63:06]thought was ugly just became what beautiful if you're in love with

[63:12]this world you're gonna marry somebody who's beautiful outwardly but ugly inside

[63:17]and you're going to be tormented by it but if you're in

[63:20]love with allah allah says you're not going to have to look

[63:21]for it i'm going to bring it to you that's why you

[63:25]want to get married during ramadan write down three characteristics you want

[63:30]in that person wisdom positive character gratefulness write it down every day

[63:34]you look at he say you make sure you're those characters and

[63:38]watch what happens allah will send somebody not find such people but

[63:42]that's the trust all i'm asking everybody here is try write it

[63:49]down do something different and things will be different for you and

[63:53]that's how you create a new destiny any questions anything at all

[64:05]anything any anything at all anything that doesn't resonate with you anything

[64:14]go ahead oh sorry right right and then your grade changed so

[64:44]what did you do different you stopped blaming you know we run

[64:48]a school at wise and the student comes it's the teacher i

[64:53]got an e so all the other students got an a see

[64:55]if all the students get an e then yeah it's most likely

[64:59]the teacher but most of the time when things don't go right

[65:02]in our lives that we're not happy change and those things will

[65:07]change you're not happy with your kids change stop complaining comfort them

[65:12]show compassion in this community i know this is taboo to speak

[65:17]about but i'll end with this in this community we have now

[65:22]an uptick in homosexuality where guys are being promoted to like guys

[65:28]and girls are being promoted to like girls and it's the gene

[65:32]that gets triggered through the environment that's allowing all this to happen

[65:36]so then the people said well it's their it's their right don't

[65:39]change them i said but who are you telling them telling me

[65:44]not to change them what if they want to change so then

[65:47]the father comes wants to die he says this is my death

[65:51]i said the mother say show compassion love them this is a

[65:56]journey and i and you sit with them and you realize they're

[65:59]actually not this they're just confused but the father had to stop

[66:05]giving resistance towards that thing then a month later i'll get a

[66:09]text brother was saying he won't believe what happened my son came

[66:12]and started having feelings for a girl i was like okay you

[66:17]have to be careful there too but whatever you add resistance to

[66:23]persist what are you resisting every day what are you complaining about

[66:29]every day you replace that with compassion and understanding and you understand

[66:34]that that these people are hurt that's all it is they just

[66:39]need unconditional love that gives them room to change unfortunately somebody's pain

[66:43]body ego comes our ego comes too and we act small to

[66:49]people who are small that means both of you are small so

[66:51]when i do marriage counseling all i do is change that and

[66:55]how they treat each other after 30 days they realize oh my

[66:58]god i could be vulnerable with my wife and she won't attack

[67:01]me with it oh my god my husband's letting me think about

[67:04]myself before i think of everybody else this feels great then subhanallah

[67:09]the energy now they have to do things for the sake of

[67:13]allah take this month for you this is the month for you

[67:17]for nobody else for you to create a new destiny this is

[67:20]the the month that it was revealed the holy quran to the

[67:25]heart of the prophet things could be revealed to you where allah

[67:28]says you own it you can't find it in the book you

[67:31]can't find it anywhere allah will directly reveal to it people in

[67:34]iran they would pray these are farmers they would get a revelation

[67:40]directly from allah they become hafez of quran no teacher and then

[67:44]they would go in front of the scholars and the scholars would

[67:48]test them and they'd be shocked how did you get this from

[67:53]allah how does that happen go into the room and ask medium

[67:59]where did you get this from this food it's winter time this

[68:04]is fruits they don't come in the winter i asked allah so

[68:07]what did zakaria do he said oh let me ask allah allah

[68:13]bring me a child allah says okay here it is he asked

[68:15]what are you waking up and asking every day you got to

[68:19]ask the right questions allah what's the best version of myself show

[68:22]me what's my purpose and passion if i got a disease allah

[68:27]show me a way to connect to you to remove this disease

[68:29]if their soul knows that there's a potential that exists because remember

[68:32]everything already exists if you could tune into that potential it comes

[68:37]to the form from the field if your soul wants it it

[68:41]will happen if you're blind and your soul doesn't want you to

[68:43]see you'll never see it's what your soul wants but how do

[68:46]you tune into what your soul wants you got to ask from

[68:47]your heart not from your ego for the body or that resentment

[68:51]that you're holding on from 20 years ago it's got to be

[68:55]from the heart take this ramadan to feel your heart how take

[68:58]some deep breaths before you pray just take deep breaths take 10

[69:04]of them become aware don't allow your mind wander to the past

[69:07]of the future be present take the name of allah pick one

[69:09]name of allah focus on it until your mind doesn't wander where

[69:14]you shut off your thought your pure consciousness take any name of

[69:17]allah a scholar saying focus on that don't allow your mind to

[69:19]wander now you're taking your free will back then you're allowing allah

[69:25]to send you a direct message and when it comes it'll be

[69:28]so direct it'll leave no doubt share three points that i shared

[69:35]with you today to the person next to you go we shared

[69:40]a lot how do you create a new destiny tell the person

[69:46]now because if you could share it that means you understood it

[69:53]you're in complete control of your destiny remember the story of imam

[70:06]bakker about abu dhabi dev abdullah cadillac okay last thing who would

[70:23]like to hit come up and summarize this discussion i'd like a

[70:29]sister the brothers always come up just come up and summarize this

[70:33]discussion come on sisters don't let the brothers take the tho up

[70:45]come on all right okay salawat all right so in summary um

[71:00]always always always ask allah if anything you're gonna do ask allah

[71:04]because if you don't you won't get what you're what you're what

[71:09]you want because the only person that knows you best the only

[71:11]person that can answer what your duas are allah never turn to

[71:16]anyone else so even if you're hungry and you want to go

[71:18]to a place to eat ask allah allah give me everything allah

[71:24]created you don't ask anybody you get to ask allah for everything

[71:30]you need a parking spot you guessed allah help me because allah

[71:34]says when you call on me i answer you so why do

[71:38]it any other way sen just try it for 30 days you

[71:42]just ask allah for everything you'd be surprised and then you'll go

[71:45]back to say why would i live any other way one more

[71:49]thing too take this month of uh ramadan to better yourself and

[71:55]to ask allah to make you the best person that you can

[72:01]be and insha allah it will happen sister zainab is gonna give

[72:09]you twenty dollars so did he know he was gonna get twenty

[72:12]dollars kind of but he still took advantage of the opportunity were

[72:17]this is sisters you could have what if i would have given

[72:19]you a hundred you would have said you would have said i

[72:24]wish i would have done that stop losing out on opportunities because

[72:28]of fear the reason why we don't go after our visions of

[72:31]the future is we're too scared why are you scared allah is

[72:37]with you allah says when i'm with you who's going to defeat

[72:40]you nobody stop remove this fear the reason why you can't create

[72:45]the next uber idea is because of fear so you get twenty

[72:51]dollars thank you everybody it's a great time and inshallah we have

[72:56]a blessed ramadan let's connect to allah let's become let's gain that

[73:01]talk that allah is talking about inshallah thank you you

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