From Indecisiveness to Tawakkul

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[0:12]Amen.

[0:29]>> [singing] >> Allah.

[0:38][singing] Allah [singing] speech.

[1:11]>> [singing] >> Oh, [singing] >> [singing] [singing] [singing] >> way of

[2:12][singing] [singing] [singing] I >> [singing] >> Hay Hard.

[3:04]Hey.

[3:10]Hey.

[3:23]Hallelujah.

[3:33][singing] Allah Oh, who went to [singing] [singing] >> [singing] >> Alhamdulillah.

[4:37]Alhamdulillah.

[5:15]Aliham come out for one Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has endowed the

[6:02]human being with two gifts that make the human different and surpass

[6:10]all of the other creation.

[6:11]The first is the gift of the intellect, the gift of the

[6:17]the ability to decipher between right and wrong, between and the ability

[6:26]to make decisions.

[6:26]And number two, the second gift is the gift of choice.

[6:34]Free choice.

[6:34]You are not coerced into your life decisions.

[6:38]You make the decisions for your life.

[6:42]And every person they are responsible for their own decisions that they

[6:47]make.

[6:48]And Allah says says in the Quran every person they make their

[6:58]own life choices.

[6:58]You could either be a shakir, someone that is thankful to Allah

[7:02]subhanahu wa ta'ala, someone that is grateful or someone that is kafur,

[7:08]someone that rejects the bounties of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

[7:14]And based on these two gifts, the gift of intellect and the

[7:18]gift of free choice, Allah will judge us.

[7:37]You are going to be judged as a result of the decisions

[7:42]that you made, as a result of the choices that you made

[7:48]in your life.

[7:47]But you see sometimes these gifts that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has

[7:51]given us we don't deal with them properly.

[7:55]We don't appreciate the gifts that Allah has given us.

[8:00]Everyone Allah has given them the intellect the but how many people

[8:04]intoxicate themselves or do things that take away their ability to make

[8:09]sound decisions.

[8:11]This is why intoxicants are forbidden in Islam.

[8:16]Or sometimes you see people they have the but they blindly follow

[8:22]other people.

[8:20]They blindly follow the crowd.

[8:25]Even the prophets many of the prophets they dealt with this type

[8:28]of people.

[8:29]They would tell them why do you worship idols?

[8:32]Why are you doing this which is haram?

[8:34]This which is wrong.

[8:35]This which is immoral.

[8:35]They say we saw our fathers and our ancestors doing this.

[8:42]Therefore we are following them.

[8:43]We're just blindly following the crowd and this is also something that's

[8:48]wrong.

[8:48]Allah tells you I have given you the and I have given

[8:53]you the ability to make your own choices.

[8:56]So we see some people either through intoxicants some people because they

[9:02]follow blindly and then there's also when it comes to choices there

[9:06]is a problem that a lot of people have and that is

[9:12]the feeling of indecisiveness meaning unable to make decisions.

[9:19]This is a problem that many people have.

[9:22]You see, for example, they want to put on an outfit.

[9:24]They're looking at their clothes for five minutes.

[9:27]What am I going to wear today?

[9:28]They want to buy something.

[9:30]They go and they keep deciding, should I get this or should

[9:35]I get that?

[9:37]This is actually a problem.

[9:37]And according to the American Psychological Association, approximately 20% of Americans suffer

[9:46]from indecisiveness, meaning unable to make a decision.

[9:52]And this could become a serious problem in a person's life.

[9:58]It causes marital relationships, it causes financial relationships, it causes so much

[10:02]problems.

[10:03]The inability to make a choice to decide on something.

[10:09]It leads to stress.

[10:09]It leads to anxiety.

[10:11]It leads to procrastination.

[10:13]And as time progresses, we see that this becomes more and more

[10:19]of a problem because in the past, people did not have many

[10:22]choices.

[10:22]Today, we live in a world that we have so many choices.

[10:26]You go to the supermarket, you want to buy cereal, for example.

[10:29]Before there used to be one option people would have to take

[10:36]eat whatever is available.

[10:36]Now you go and you see there are 40 options.

[10:40]So what are you going to decide?

[10:41]And it creates it feeds that indecisiveness.

[10:45]Or sometimes people think that they have a lot of choices.

[10:49]I see some of the many people who are not married.

[10:52]I tell them why are you not married?

[10:54]They say I don't know who to marry.

[10:56]There are so many choices out there.

[10:58]There are so many fish in the sea.

[11:01]I don't know which one to decide.

[11:02]And here this is a problem that a lot of people have

[11:09]the feeling of in the inability to decide.

[11:11]A lot of people suffer from that.

[11:13]You might run into people they can't make a decision.

[11:14]You tell them just decide just pick what you want and have

[11:19]that on Allah and your life will become easier.

[11:21]But they can't decide.

[11:23]One of the solutions that faith gives when you have faith in

[11:31]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala it is it helps deal with indecisiveness.

[11:34]It helps deal and it helps a person make proper choices in

[11:40]life.

[11:40]Of course ba faith has many benefits.

[11:44]Faith is not just something that brings you heaven and brings you

[11:47]closer to Allah.

[11:50]No, faith actually helps you become more productive in your life.

[11:53]And one of the ways that a person becomes more productive is

[11:59]that decision making becomes a lot easier.

[12:03]Why?

[12:01]Because a person who has faith now when they have all of

[12:07]these options in front of them.

[12:08]You have 40 options, 50 options.

[12:09]But a person who has faith right away they use the process

[12:14]of elimination.

[12:15]And already half of the things there are haram for you to

[12:19]use.

[12:20]So then now you know what you could use and what you

[12:22]can't use, what you could eat and what you can't eat.

[12:26]It makes decisions a lot easier.

[12:34]It makes making a decision a lot easier because now your faith

[12:40]and your iman in Allah subhanana wa ta'ala that is what guides

[12:44]you to make a decision in life.

[12:46]Same when it comes to for example food we said you go

[12:51]and you want to buy you want to buy food.

[12:54]Allah subhana wa ta'ala tells you that which is that which isal

[13:02]that which is good for you is halal that which is bad

[13:04]for you has become haram.

[13:08]So right away you eliminate all of the bad options.

[13:10]Therefore it becomes easier to make decisions in life.

[13:15]Same when it comes to marriage.

[13:16]For example, today there's a lot of guys they come and they

[13:18]say, "Oh, there's plenty of girls out there.

[13:22]I could marry whoever I want." Well, actually, if you're a faithful

[13:26]person, if you're a person with iman, no, there are not plenty

[13:31]out there.

[13:32]You don't have that many options if you really think about it.

[13:35]Half of them are married.

[13:38]Many of them live far.

[13:39]Many of them are younger, older.

[13:40]So, and then those who are within your vicinity, how many of

[13:45]them are qualified?

[13:46]How many of them are compatible?

[13:47]How many of them have iman?

[13:49]Should you be a person that just goes and marries whoever that's

[13:53]out there?

[13:52]No.

[13:53]You have to marry the one that is good for you.

[13:58]And therefore, having iman helps a person make better decisions in life.

[14:04]So, when you have faith, it actually helps you.

[14:08]It makes the process of eliminating the bad choices, the bad things

[14:12]that will harm you, that will hurt you, it makes it a

[14:20]lot easier.

[14:22]And here in a from he says, "The happy person is the

[14:32]one that looks at the decisions and the choices that other people

[14:36]made." And you see did this person make a good decision?

[14:40]Did this person make a bad decision?

[14:42]If they made a good decision, then you follow that decision.

[14:44]But if they made a bad decision, don't follow their experience.

[14:48]Don't allow yourself to become an experiment again.

[14:52]If you saw someone did something wrong, then let that be as

[14:58]an example for you so that you do not fall in that

[15:01]wrong.

[15:02]And here having that faith in Allah subhanana wa ta'ala it's something

[15:07]that helps and encourages a person in making sound decisions in life.

[15:13]Now when it comes to h and when it comes to right

[15:19]and wrong there should be no indecisiveness.

[15:22]There's a lot of people even when something is waj something that

[15:27]is very clear in front of them this is haram and this

[15:32]isal then you should not be indecisive be committed to that which

[15:37]is good be quick to make the decision that which is good

[15:41]if you see something that is good don't be indecisive don't let

[15:48]anything hold you back one of the one of the ways of

[15:49]shaitan one of the tactics ofan is that he makes people delay

[15:55]doing that which is good.

[15:56]You know salah is waj on you.

[15:57]So why delay it?

[16:00]You know giving your dues, religious dues are waj on you.

[16:05]Why delay it?

[16:04]You know going to is waj on you.

[16:06]Why delay it?

[16:08]Do it right away.

[16:08]There's no need to be indecisive when it comes to that which

[16:14]is good.

[16:16]Do not hesitate in doing the good.

[16:19]We will conclude in the next in discussion of and how it

[16:24]operates in a person's life.

[16:35]Muhammaduhammed.

[16:49]Alhamdulillah.

[16:51]Alhamdulillah.

[17:19]Aliham.

[17:21]Ali Muhammad Aliham.

[17:28]Ali Muhammad Ali.

[17:56]Hussein Hussein Muhammad Ali Muhammadu My dear brothers and sisters, we are

[18:26]talking about the inability to make choices, inability to decide, that feeling

[18:37]of indecisiveness that many people suffer from.

[18:39]And it's actually a type of illness.

[18:42]It could hinder a person's uh progress and success in life when

[18:50]every decision they want to make they are unable to make.

[18:52]I know people they say we started looking for a house three

[18:55]years ago and until now we're living in rent until now we

[18:59]haven't bought a house yet because I go we go we want

[19:02]to we want to make a decision and they come and they

[19:04]say nope this is not good this is not good this is

[19:09]not and constantly bringing up problems and unable to make decisions in

[19:14]life unable to truly go forward with decisions in life and here

[19:21]one of The ways that we can that can help us make

[19:26]decisions in life is as we mentioned in the firstb is by

[19:31]having faith in Allah subhana wa tala.

[19:34]When you have iman that iman will eliminate all of the bad

[19:37]choices.

[19:38]Therefore you only have the good healthy choices that are halal for

[19:42]you.

[19:42]It will make decision making a lot easier.

[19:46]And then there's also another way that iman could help a person

[19:50]and that is through we have a concept of now when I

[19:58]when I talk about a lot of people think that when I

[20:00]don't know when I don't know what decision to make I call

[20:04]up the and I say I need a and he opens the

[20:09]Quran and this the orh does for me now that is one

[20:15]of the types of but that is not the that is promoted

[20:17]and pushed for in the hadith in the books in in the

[20:24]in the narrations of the prophets and theamar literally means seeking the

[20:33]from God.

[20:34]It means asking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for that which is good.

[20:40]So what is the best way that we ask for the from

[20:42]Allah subhana wa ta'ala?

[20:44]through dua.

[20:46]Through dua.

[20:48]When you do dua, when you're praying to God, ask Allah subhanahu

[20:52]wa ta'ala for blessings in your life.

[20:54]When you're ready to make a decision or when you're undecided on

[20:57]what decision to make, what house to buy, what object to buy,

[21:02]what to do in your life, any decision that you do in

[21:05]your life before going forward with that decision, ask Allah subhanahu wa

[21:13]ta'ala for the ask Allah subhana wa ta'ala for the blessings.

[21:16]Because all of the ti all of the blessings that we have

[21:21]in our life is it because of my own smart my own

[21:23]I'm smart I made good decisions no it's because Allah subhanahu wa

[21:29]ta'ala has enabled you to do that which is good.

[21:30]It's because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has favored you over others.

[21:34]There are many more people that are much more stronger than me.

[21:39]There are many more people that are more than me.

[21:42]But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave me the blessings.

[21:44]Allah gave me the ti.

[21:47]Allah gave me all of the gifts that he has given me.

[21:49]So I have to thank Allah and I have to ask Allah

[21:53]subhanahu wa ta'ala for further blessings in my life.

[21:59]And Allah says in the Quran, if you are thankful to Allah,

[22:05]if you show appreciation to God and if you ask Allah subhanahu

[22:10]ask Allah for for his blessings, Allah subhana wa ta'ala tells Musam,

[22:19]"Pray and ask me for everything, even for certain things that might

[22:22]be very simple for you, things that you really don't need to

[22:25]ask for even for the food that your cattle eat, the grass

[22:30]that your cattle eat, ask me for that.

[22:33]That might be something that is simple.

[22:36]But Allah subhana t teaches MS to ask for everything.

[22:40]And I im he says one of the signs of a person

[22:56]that is far from God and losing with Allah subhanana wa ta'ala

[22:59]is that this person makes decisions in life without doing meaning without

[23:04]turning to Allah without asking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for blessings.

[23:08]And in another hadith from he says Ali he says sent me

[23:19]to Yemen.

[23:21]He sent him to Yemen and he tells him meaning he tells

[23:31]him oh Ali this is before he sends him.

[23:35]He tells him, "Whoever does whoever does ask Allah for the person

[23:39]will not have this person will not have indecisiveness because Allah will

[23:44]show you the way.

[23:47]Allah will make it very clear for you and you will not

[23:52]regret when you ask for counsel when you ask for advice from

[23:55]those who are around you.

[23:59]So we have to make it a good habit to before embarking

[24:01]on any decision before doing anything in your life first ask Allah

[24:08]subhanana wa ta'ala for the and number two seeking counsel from other

[24:12]people seek counsel from the experiences of other people there are many

[24:17]people that have life experiences when it comes to parenting when it

[24:20]comes to marriage when it comes to business when it comes to

[24:25]everything you could always find someone that has more experience Whenever you

[24:29]find someone that says, "No, no, no.

[24:30]I don't need to listen to anyone.

[24:31]I don't need to get any advice.

[24:33]I'll do it on my own.

[24:36]I have this." Then know that this person will soon make a

[24:38]very big error and it will be very costly.

[24:41]This is why Allah subhana t has given us the ability to

[24:48]talk to other people to learn from the experiences of other people.

[24:52]So here these are the types of and then we have another

[24:59]type of and this is the that most people immediately rush to.

[25:02]Sometimes they rush to it before they seek counsel before they do

[25:05]dua.

[25:06]They come and they say open the Quran and tell me should

[25:10]I do this or should I do that?

[25:14]Now it's only done when you truly cannot make a decision.

[25:16]When you're truly on the fence and you cannot make a decision.

[25:19]A lot of times people call me say do a for me.

[25:25]Okay, I'll do a for you.

[25:26]It turned out bad.

[25:28]Why did it turn out bad?

[25:29]I really wanted to marry her.

[25:31]They come and they they get upset why it turned out bad.

[25:34]They already knew what they wanted to do but they come and

[25:40]they do a or something that they really want it comes out

[25:42]bad.

[25:42]They get disappointed or they don't want and they do.

[25:45]If you already know what you want, then there's no need to

[25:47]do a anymore because your gut feeling, your heart, your brain is

[25:49]already telling you what you want.

[25:55]So is only done when in the sense that you open the

[25:57]Quran or you do it with the that is only done when

[26:02]you cannot make a decision.

[26:02]But the real type of that we are discussing is dua and

[26:09]counsel.

[26:10]That is what someone must do.

[26:11]Now one of the benefits of having that faith in Allah subhanahu

[26:15]wa ta'ala as we mentioned it helps a person make decisions in

[26:22]life that feeling of indecisiveness is going to be gone why because

[26:26]a mmin has on Allah subhanana wa ta'ala that is something that

[26:31]a non-believer does not have a non-believer does not have on Allah

[26:35]they don't even believe in God but when you believe in Allah

[26:38]subhanahu wa ta'ala You do what you're supposed to do.

[26:44]You go and you do the you seek counsel.

[26:47]You ask for the blessings from Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

[26:49]You get help from others.

[26:54]And then you make a decision.

[26:55]Now after we made a decision that's it we are not responsible

[26:58]for what happens.

[27:01]Allah is not going to expect for you to know the Allah

[27:03]says you do your part and the rest is on Allah subhana

[27:09]wa t'ala and you have to teach yourself one of the one

[27:15]of the benefits of im is that a mmin constantly every day

[27:20]reminds themselves to have that feeling of what does means relying on

[27:24]Allah subhana wa tala it doesn't mean I don't do anything and

[27:29]I just sit back and I wait for Allah to make decisions

[27:30]in my life.

[27:31]No, Allah is not going to make decisions in your life.

[27:33]Allah is not going to bring the change in your life.

[27:36]Allah tells me, you go and you do the research.

[27:40]You go and you do the work.

[27:40]You put in the effort.

[27:41]You do what you have to do and then you leave the

[27:45]rest up to Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

[27:47]And Allah tells that's it.

[27:54]have that when you make a decision to do something leave the

[28:00]rest in the hands of Allah subhana wa ta'ala and when you

[28:03]actually do that when we teach ourselves to have that it removes

[28:06]all of the anxiety it removes all of the stress it removes

[28:11]all of the pressure people that can't make decisions in life people

[28:14]that are indecisive because there's so much pressure on them they don't

[28:18]know whether to make this decision or that decision but if you

[28:21]did what you're supposed to do and you leave the the rest

[28:24]up to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and that's it.

[28:26]You left the rest up to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and it's

[28:34]all in the hands of God.

[28:33]In a hadithman, Lman was a very wise man.

[28:38]He tells his son and he is advising him to have stronger

[28:43]faith in Allah subhanana wa ta'ala.

[28:48]He tells him, "Oh my dear son, you have four stages in

[28:53]your life.

[28:55]The first stage of your life, you are in the womb of

[28:58]your mother and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protects you from the heat,

[29:02]protects you from the cold and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sends the

[29:09]nutrition for you.

[29:09]That's it.

[29:10]You have nothing to worry about.

[29:11]the baby.

[29:13]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sets up a whole system that delivers the

[29:16]food and that protects the baby from everything.

[29:19]Then you move on to the second stage of your life.

[29:24]As soon as a child is born, as soon as a baby

[29:26]is born, right away the baby begins to suckle, begins to drink

[29:31]milk from the mother.

[29:31]And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala makes it in a way where the

[29:36]body of the mother provides the milk and provides the food.

[29:39]So you you have nothing to worry about.

[29:41]You have nothing to worry about at that time.

[29:45]And then third, you grow a little bit older.

[29:49]You become an infant.

[29:48]You become a toddler.

[29:51]And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala also delivers your sustenance.

[29:54]Allah sends your parents and the compassion of others.

[29:59]Your teeth begin to grow and you are able to eat.

[30:01]You're able to grow.

[30:03]Allah is able to provide for you.

[30:04]Do you see a kid worry about their sustenance?

[30:06]For example, you see a kid worry about where they're going to

[30:09]make their money from.

[30:11]No, because Allah has guaranteed that for you.

[30:12]So, Lman tells his son in the first three stages of your

[30:18]life when you were in the womb of your mother and when

[30:21]you were first born and then when you grew up to become

[30:23]a child, you had nothing to worry about.

[30:26]Allah was providing for you.

[30:27]All you have to do is have that on Allah subhanahu wa

[30:32]ta'ala.

[30:33]But then he talks he says then once a person reaches the

[30:36]fourth stage of their life they grow older now after all these

[30:41]years Allah has been providing for you now they start questioning God

[30:45]now they start questioning how is how is my going to come

[30:48]to me how is my food going to come to me how's

[30:51]my wealth going to come to me they start questioning Allah subhana

[30:54]wa t'ala so he tells him in the first three stages of

[30:58]your life who was providing for you it was God so why

[31:00]would you assume assume that God is going to leave you at

[31:05]the fourth stage of your life.

[31:06]And this is why it's very important to strengthen our on Allah

[31:12]subhanahu wa ta'ala.

[31:14]And if we have that, that stress, that anxiety, that indecisiveness will

[31:20]all be gone from our life.

[31:23]Sall he tells the Muslims, he says, He says if you have

[31:39]that real on Allah, Allah will give you the risk.

[31:43]The same way Allah gives the bird and sustenance.

[31:44]It wakes up hungry.

[31:47]It wakes up it has nothing.

[31:48]But then when it comes back to the nest at night before

[31:53]dusk, it comes back with a full stomach.

[31:56]Allah subhana wa ta'ala gives it its rest.

[31:59]So this is how we have to have that on Allah and

[32:01]when we have the on Allah most of the problems in our

[32:06]lives will be gone and the problem of indecisiveness inability to make

[32:11]choices will also go and we have to ask Allah subhanana wa

[32:17]ta'ala for the in making choices in deciding there's a lot of

[32:23]people you run into them they know what's up on them they

[32:25]know prayer is waj on them but they don't know oh should

[32:29]I pray should I not pray they know fasting is on them

[32:31]they don't know they know is on them but they're not sure

[32:35]whether they should go this year or next year or the year

[32:39]after if you do it don't worry about the sustenance don't worry

[32:42]about the if you give it don't worry about everything else the

[32:47]same lord that has been providing for you will continue to provide

[32:51]for you we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to give us the

[32:56]to do that which is good because a lot of people know

[32:58]what is good but they cannot make the decision.

[33:02]We need to ask Allah to give us the ti to do

[33:07]and embark on that which is good for us and guide us

[33:12]in making decisions and make the decision easy for us.

[33:14]When we want to make decisions that are for our own better

[33:17]for the better of our community our family we ask Allah subhanahu

[33:24]wa ta'ala for the Alhamdulillah.

[34:03]I'm definitely

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