Falling in the Trap of Trends - Sayed Saleh Qazwini

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[0:03][Music] Yeah.

[0:20]Allahbar.

[0:22]Allahbar.

[0:46][Music] Allahill a shadow doan.

[0:57][Music] [Music] Sh.

[1:22]Allah.

[1:22][Music] All I could ill.

[2:22]Alhamdulillah.

[2:24]Alhamdulillah.

[3:06]Sharham Ali Muhammad Ali Muhammad.

[3:38]When My dear brothers and sisters, we live in a world of

[3:54]constant trends.

[3:53]Every few months, few years, we see something becomes trendy and everyone

[4:05]starts blindly following these trends.

[4:09]Whether it is whether it has to do with clothing, whether it

[4:15]has to do with technology, whether it has to do with beliefs

[4:20]and conversations and thought process.

[4:24]You see, many people are very quick to follow trends.

[4:30]Just a few days ago, for example, one popular trend was this

[4:37]um changing your image into a cartoon.

[4:41]You see, probably almost everyone that you know on social media did

[4:45]this.

[4:46]Now, trends are not always bad.

[4:49]Sometimes it could be positive, sometimes it could be negative.

[4:55]However, most of the trends that follow that people follow could have

[5:03]a negative impact and negative consequence.

[5:08]For example, some of the trends that can become harmful.

[5:12]One is the hyper consumerism and the brand worship.

[5:18]You see some people every week they have to go to the

[5:21]mall.

[5:22]Why is there something that you need?

[5:24]No, it's just I have to buy this because my friends are

[5:29]buying this.

[5:30]I have to purchase this item not because I need it, but

[5:33]because I see other people having it.

[5:36]I just have to fit in.

[5:39]I have to feel a sense of belonging.

[5:41]I have to be accepted by my peers and by people around

[5:43]me.

[5:44]So therefore, I'm going to go and spend X amount of dollars

[5:50]just because this is the thing that everyone else is doing.

[5:53]Maybe it's not the thing that is good for me or the

[5:56]thing that I need, but it's something that other people are doing.

[5:59]A lot one place that we find a lot of trends is

[6:05]online on social media.

[6:06]What are people talking about?

[6:08]I'm going to come and talk about that.

[6:11]Even though that's something that is maybe not the healthy thing to

[6:14]do, not the right thing to talk about, it's probably inappropriate.

[6:17]What are people posting online?

[6:19]Therefore, I'm going to come and post that as well.

[6:24]And there's it becomes a type of addiction with some people because

[6:28]there's a need to feel a sense of belonging.

[6:33]There's a need to fit in.

[6:34]And believe me, those people who do that, they keep trying to

[6:39]get they keep trying to fit in and fit in and do

[6:40]so much.

[6:41]In the end, they lose their followers or they're not going to

[6:46]fit in or something is not going to go their way.

[6:48]You want acceptance, seek acceptance from Allah subhanana wa ta'ala.

[6:52]He's the only one who will accept you for who you are.

[6:56]You don't need to change your ways for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

[6:59]to accept you.

[7:02]While when it comes to others, when it comes to fitting in,

[7:04]when it comes to trends, or when it comes to following what

[7:09]is trendy and what is acceptable, you're always going to find people

[7:14]that disapprove of you.

[7:14]We see trends when it comes to media and entertainment.

[7:18]Sometimes there's there you see this with promoters, people that are are

[7:23]famous online or people that have accounts.

[7:26]You see, they're willing to post things or do things or say

[7:31]things that are harmful that take away from their own dignity and

[7:35]values, but they're willing to do it just so they could be

[7:38]on top of the trending list.

[7:38]Just so people could say this person is popular, this person is

[7:45]accepted.

[7:46]And a lot of what is being posted is immoral, inappropriate.

[7:49]It goes against the human dignity.

[7:51]You know, I see a lot of youth sometimes they do certain

[7:58]things that even they don't feel comfortable doing.

[7:59]But why are they doing it?

[8:03]They're doing it because they want to be accepted.

[8:06]And this is as a result of pure pressure.

[8:07]This is as a result of having and associating with bad friends

[8:12]and having that need to fit in.

[8:14]But Allah subhana wa ta'ala says we have dignified the human being.

[8:19]You don't need to do something that takes away from your own

[8:25]dignity and to to fit in when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has

[8:29]already honored you and dignified you.

[8:32]Another trend that you find for example as soon as the month

[8:40]of June begins they call it pride month and unfortunately you see

[8:44]some Muslims on their account what do they do?

[8:49]They come and they put the flag because they say, "Oh, I

[8:51]have to fit in.

[8:52]I have to be accepted.

[8:52]I want to show that I'm tolerant.

[8:55]I want to show that I'm okay with other people.

[8:58]They're supporting me.

[8:58]Therefore, I have to support them." Doesn't work that way.

[9:02]My dear brothers and sisters, you are not required to compromise your

[9:06]beliefs and your values to fit in.

[9:10]We don't ride any bandwagon that's going.

[9:12]You have to make sure that whatever you're putting yourself in, whatever

[9:17]trend you're following, whatever you're posting online, whatever you're talking about, whatever

[9:24]you're wearing is something that is pleasing to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

[9:30]before anyone else.

[9:30]Now, this brings us to one idea that a lot of people

[9:35]have in mind is as long as the majority are doing something,

[9:38]then that makes it okay.

[9:42]meaning whatever the majority are doing then that's the right thing to

[9:49]do because the majority are doing that well this logic is a

[9:53]logic that goes against the Quran and it goes against the and

[9:57]it goes against the intellect Allah subhanaha says in the Quran if

[10:05]you obey people the majority of the people if you follow them

[10:10]what are they going to they're going to bring you away from

[10:13]Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

[10:16]So there should never in anything that you do in your life,

[10:19]whatever it is, whether it comes to clothing, whether it comes to

[10:22]what I post online, whether it comes to how I spend my

[10:26]time, whether it comes to anything, the excuse should never be because

[10:29]the majority of people are doing it.

[10:31]Just because the majority of people are doing it does not mean

[10:36]it's correct.

[10:35]Does not mean it's good for me.

[10:39]And here this is something that we have to be very careful

[10:42]with.

[10:43]You see this argument is used with many of those who did

[10:48]not follow the they say the majority did not follow then that

[10:50]means the is that way.

[10:51]No that's not the truth.

[10:54]Allah subhana wa ta says just because the majority are doing something

[11:01]that does not make it right.

[11:03]That does not make it okay.

[11:08]And this is one following the majority.

[11:11]Another is to please grab a someone grab a chair please for

[11:16]the Hajj.

[11:15]So the the the to follow the majority we should not follow

[11:22]the majority.

[11:24]That's number one.

[11:22]Number two we should not be imitating other people.

[11:27]Some people they have this need this desire to always imitate what

[11:36]other people are doing.

[11:36]No.

[11:36]If you're a mman, if you're a believer, if you're a Muslim,

[11:40]you're a follower of faith, you be the trends setter in your

[11:44]community, you be the trends setter in your society.

[11:46]You don't have to always follow what other people are doing.

[11:50]The prophets of Allah, were they trendsetters or were they followers?

[11:55]No, they were trendsetters.

[11:56]And that's why many people in their communities and societies went against

[12:01]them because they could not handle what they are doing.

[12:04]But you see the kufur when the prophets when prophet N and

[12:09]prophet and prophet hood and all of the prophets they would speak

[12:12]to their people and they would say nope we want to remain

[12:18]idol worshippers and what was their excuse?

[12:22]They [Music] say we saw our ancestors and we are following this

[12:32]even though they know it's wrong because the Quran says meaning their

[12:38]souls accepted the message of the prophet but their desires rejected.

[12:42]Why?

[12:43]Because they wanted to imitate others.

[12:45]In this case, they wanted to imitate their forefathers.

[12:52]And this is a very big challenge.

[12:54]And I I give a lot of credit to individuals and you

[12:57]see this with converts or reverts or people that make a change,

[13:03]a switch in their life.

[13:03]I give them a lot of credit.

[13:05]Why?

[13:06]Because they're not blind followers.

[13:08]Because they're not just saying, you know what, I'm going to do

[13:10]this just because my family is doing this.

[13:13]I'm doing this just because my parents or my ancestors are doing

[13:17]this.

[13:16]In fact, not only are they not blind followers, they're actually going

[13:20]against what their parents and what their grandparents and what their ancestors

[13:25]would teach them.

[13:28]And this is a sign of strength.

[13:30]This is a sign of im.

[13:31]And this is a a sign of strong willpower.

[13:34]And I tell this to Muslims all the time.

[13:36]My dear brothers and sisters, whether you're a follower of the al

[13:39]whatever, do not say I'm a Muslim because my parents are Muslim.

[13:43]Allah is not going to accept this on the day of judgment.

[13:45]You need to be a Muslim because you came to the conviction.

[13:51]You have the conviction and we should not be of those people

[13:54]who are following and imitating.

[14:02]We should not be from those who just follow people.

[14:08]Now someone might come and say what about we do we we

[14:11]we follow scholars we emulate scholars isn't this imitation isn't this following

[14:17]is following but is not following when it comes to when it

[14:22]comes to your beliefs when it comes to your sense of beliefs

[14:27]the belief in the Quran the belief in the day of judgment

[14:29]the belief in the prophet I cannot say I'm following Islam because

[14:32]of the pro because of these people or because of my family

[14:37]No, is when it comes to Islamic law.

[14:42]For example, how do I pray?

[14:42]I need someone to teach me how to pray.

[14:44]How what are the rules of fasting?

[14:45]I need someone to teach me the rules of fasting.

[14:48]What are the rules of Hajj?

[14:49]I need someone to teach me.

[14:50]I emulate a scholar.

[14:53]when it comes to these issues, the issues of the the branches

[14:58]of faith, not the so we mentioned sometimes um we have to

[15:04]be careful just because the majority are doing something that does not

[15:08]make it correct and we should not be blindly imitating.

[15:13]We're talking about people who are following trends, trends in the community

[15:17]and society that are always happening.

[15:19]Some people they're very quick to follow a trend.

[15:21]And my dear brothers and sisters, sometimes being alone and living a

[15:27]lifestyle that you are doing things alone and you're not following blindly,

[15:32]this is much better for your and for your than following people

[15:39]and ending up losing, ending up doing something wrong.

[15:44]In a from he says He says, "Do not feel like you're

[15:54]a stranger when you're on the path of the hak because there

[15:57]are not many people with you.

[15:58]There are not many people on the the majority of the people

[16:04]they'll follow the majority.

[16:04]They'll follow the bandwagon.

[16:05]They'll go where there is haram, where there's entertainment, where there is

[16:10]wrong.

[16:11]But only small number of people are going to deviate from the

[16:15]wrong and remain on the h.

[16:18]And this is what we ask Allah subhana wa t'ala for every

[16:20]day in our prayers.

[16:22]My dear brothers and sisters, every day we do this dua.

[16:25]The number the first dua that we all perform every day in

[16:29]our salah.

[16:40]Alhamdulillah.

[16:41]Guide me to the straight path.

[16:43]What am I saying when I'm doing this dua?

[16:45]That means I don't know.

[16:49]I need your guidance.

[16:49]Maybe I see the majority of people are doing something, but this

[16:52]is probably not the I need your guidance to guide me to

[16:58]the straight path and keep me on the straight path.

[17:00]And here we see every day we're tested with this.

[17:04]Do I make a decision that follows the majority even if it's

[17:11]wrong or do I become a lonely person?

[17:13]Maybe I'll become a lonely person.

[17:14]Maybe I won't have friends.

[17:17]You know, he says the hak did not leave me any friends.

[17:20]There was there was the hak did not leave me any companions.

[17:25]This is why he was left alone.

[17:27]There was other companions.

[17:27]One of them was Abu Al- Gafari.

[17:30]Abu Dafari, this great companion of Allah.

[17:33]He was one of the first seven to join the the religion

[17:38]of Islam.

[17:39]He was with the prophet.

[17:40]You know what happened to Abu Alfari?

[17:43]Abu Alfafari he ended up dying all alone in Rabada.

[17:47]He was excommunicated from the Muslim community.

[17:48]He was pushed out.

[17:52]Why?

[17:50]Because he dared to say the truth in a time that people

[17:54]were afraid to say the truth.

[17:55]In a time that everyone was compromising the truth and afraid to

[17:59]speak out he spoke out.

[18:06]This is why he tells Abu he tells him he tells him

[18:18]oh Abu you're going to live alone.

[18:21]You're going to die alone and you're going to be resurrected alone

[18:24]and you're going to live a life that you're all alone.

[18:28]But on the day of judgment, you go to heaven alone as

[18:30]well.

[18:31]Why?

[18:32]Because Abu Dafi, he was a person that did not follow the

[18:39]masses.

[18:37]He did not blindly follow what everyone else is doing.

[18:41]And he spoke the word of truth.

[18:43]And this is why Allah also says about him, he says there's

[18:48]no one more honest than Abu than Abu Dar because he was

[18:51]he was a person that always remained with the truth but he

[18:56]paid the price.

[18:57]He paid the consequences.

[18:59]He was excommunicated from the community during the during the reign of

[19:04]the third Khalifa.

[19:03]He kicked him out of Medina and he tells him where is

[19:09]your favorite place to be?

[19:09]He tells him Medina next to Allah.

[19:11]He tells him, "Where's the worst place that you want to be?"

[19:15]He tells him, "Rabbada." Rabba is a a desert between Mecca and

[19:18]Medina.

[19:19]So Abu, he was excommunicated to die in Raada.

[19:23]And none of the Muslims were allowed to come and say farewell

[19:27]to Abu Dar and Hassan Hussein.

[19:30]They came out and they bid farewell to this great man.

[19:33]We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make us from those who

[19:40]do not follow and imitate others blindly.

[20:05]Aliham.

[20:07]Alhamdulillah.

[20:09]Alhamdulillah.

[20:36]Aliham.

[20:41]Muhammadu Muhammad.

[21:11]Hussein Hussein Ali Muhammad Musham My dear brothers and sisters, when it

[21:39]comes to when it comes to imitation and following trends, sometimes it

[21:48]could become very dangerous and it could become something that is that

[21:55]is wrong especially when we are imitating that which is that which

[22:00]is wrong.

[22:02]This is why one of the one of the acts that are

[22:09]considered to be haram in our faith is meaning imitating non-believers.

[22:15]Imitating non-believers, especially when it comes to a practice that directly goes

[22:22]against my belief, directly goes against my ideology.

[22:27]Now, if I'm imitating them in something that does not contradict directly

[22:32]contradict my faith and my belief, there's nothing wrong with that.

[22:36]But when it comes to when it comes to um a practice

[22:42]an act that will directly go against my faith now I have

[22:45]to draw a red line.

[22:48]That's it.

[22:47]I cannot imitate that because the moment I step across that line

[22:52]then that means I'm telling my own beliefs and my values.

[22:54]I don't care about these beliefs and values.

[22:56]So this is why my dear brothers and sisters, we have to

[23:01]be very careful.

[23:00]And there are a lot of practices.

[23:03]People always come and ask me, can we celebrate Halloween?

[23:08]Can we light up our house in Christmas?

[23:12]Can we do this and that?

[23:13]If you're doing it because it's a you're just doing it for

[23:16]fun, you know, you want some candy on Halloween, then there's nothing

[23:22]wrong with that.

[23:22]But some people they religiously abide by all of these holidays but

[23:26]then when it comes to Islamic holidays the birth of the prophet

[23:30]the day of the of Eid they're nowhere to be seen.

[23:36]Uh you know and I've someone told me in our subdivision the

[23:39]the most decorated house and during Christmas is a house that Muslims

[23:48]live in.

[23:45]So, so you see this is a reality and now you want

[23:50]to decorate.

[23:51]There's nothing wrong with decorating but decorate as well during our holidays.

[23:54]Right now we just had the Eid.

[23:57]Did anyone of us for example put lights up and mashallah we

[24:00]have alhamdulillah.

[24:02]So, so that is the holiday that we have to celebrate.

[24:04]Be follow your own trends.

[24:08]I don't need to go out of my way to follow others

[24:10]especially if it is following something that goes against my beliefs right

[24:14]now.

[24:15]for example, kids come in February 14th, they're like Valentine's Day, October

[24:20]31st, Halloween, St.

[24:21]Patrick's Day, Christmas, all of these events.

[24:24]Now, you want if you're not celebrating it because you actually believe

[24:28]in some of that, then there's nothing wrong with that.

[24:33]However, um if you're actually believing it and you're ignoring your own

[24:38]beliefs, then it becomes a problem.

[24:40]In a hadith from Imam, he says, In aith he says Allah

[24:50]revealed to one of the prophets, one of the many prophets.

[24:52]He tells them do not dress, do not eat, and do not

[25:06]live your life in the way that the enemies of God live

[25:11]their life.

[25:12]So now you know in some cultures they say it's haram for

[25:14]example to wear pants or something.

[25:16]No this is this is not what the are doing but if

[25:20]there is something that is if there if there is something that

[25:23]is truly going against our against our belief and against our practices

[25:29]then that is something that we have to be very very careful

[25:35]with.

[25:35]So here in another verse Allah subhana t says in the [Music]

[25:44]Quran the kufur they want you to do kufur so that you

[25:49]and them could be together so both of you reject the truth

[25:51]but if you're a person with the then you have to hold

[25:55]on to the h and being with the huck my dear brothers

[25:59]and sisters is not always easy so some of the dangers of

[26:02]blind following and blind imitating and following trends.

[26:06]One, it it leads to the loss of identity.

[26:09]You don't have your own identity anymore.

[26:11]Now you're celebrating someone else's Eid and you're dressing like everyone else

[26:15]and you're where's your identity?

[26:16]Where's your Muslim identity?

[26:18]And second, it creates confusion between right and wrong.

[26:23]Maybe the adults, they know where the huck and the battle is,

[26:25]but when your kids, you're you're sending them the wrong message.

[26:27]Now, they're not going to know where huck and battle is.

[26:33]And probably one of the consequences is that we lose the protection

[26:36]from Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

[26:37]The moment you fall in, the moment you fall in oppression, then

[26:41]Allah subhana wa ta'ala does not answer the duas.

[26:45]And my dear brothers and sisters, we live in a time especially

[26:51]when it comes to politics.

[26:51]We are the minority.

[26:52]You see right now those who are standing with the hak those

[26:57]who are standing with the truth just by defending gaza in Palestine

[27:02]you're already singled out you're already seen and portrayed as if you

[27:07]are in the wrong my dear brothers and sisters the suffering is

[27:14]continuing and until today we see a school was attacked in Gaza

[27:19]and Lebanon and in Syria and Yemen and all over.

[27:23]We have to continue doing dua.

[27:25]My dear brothers and sisters, we pray that Allah subhana wa ta'ala

[27:28]relieves the Muslim world and all of the of the suffering that

[27:34]is going on.

[27:35]Alhamdulillah.

[27:36]Let us raise our hands in dua.

[28:14]Alhamdulillah.

[28:15]Then

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