Weak, Dependent Children | Ali Reza Panahian

Weak, Dependent Children

Don’t cause your children to be weak and dependant with this method of training.

They say that at a certain age, between the ages of five to seven for example, a child understands that his parents aren’t the source of power. They’re not superpowers; so, he looks for power. If a child is trained well, his weakness turns into strength, except before the source of power, Who is God. His dependence turns into independence, except before the source of power, Whom one cannot be independent from, and that source is God.
There is an example I always give, which they taught us in books and in class. For example, if debris falls on a child’s doll, debris that would need ten cranes to remove, the child sincerely asks her father to remove the debris and give her the doll. When the father says, “I can’t,” the child doesn’t believe him, “What do you mean you can’t?!” This is the mental image of a child about his parents. He believes they are superpowers. Gradually, he realizes, “There are some things that mom and dad really can’t do. It looks like they’re not truly superpowers!” The point is that the child becomes distressed.
If this transference of power is done well, which in our analysis happens when praying for a child at the age of seven is emphasized, this is a way of teaching him about the source of power, and the child learns that prayer isn’t for just when you like to pray. Prayer isn’t something at your discretion. You have to pray! No discussion. The child sees that his parents, who are kind in all areas, pray in this way. So, he understands the source of power.
A way to explain it in a bad way is to say the child will understand there is one who is more powerful. He forces his parents too. One of the ways for a child to believe in this divine power is for his parents to tell him, “God has forced us too. We are not in love with God or prayer either. Don’t think that we continuously miss God three times a day. We must stamp our feet like a soldier in front of the Lord of the universe too.” The child will be released from a pressure.
He’ll understand the source of power. Prayer isn’t something at your discretion. You have to pray! No discussion. The child sees that his parents, who are kind in all areas, pray in this way. So, he understands the source of power. What does religion do? Religion has a program for people that takes them to the peak of independence, strength and power. What does God dislike? He dislikes a person depending on other things. If you don’t cause your child to depend on God and pay attention to the source of power, your child will become dependent on worthless things. Your child will become weak and be humiliated. Do you want him to be humiliated?
[From the series of speeches under the topic of “Being Independent, Being Passive.” Muharram 2019.]


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