The Solution to Anxiety and Depression - Hajj Wissam Bazzi

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[6:52]it so we'd like to welcome our beloved hedge wissam bezzie now

[6:58]for the topic of the solution of anxiety and depression after aloud

[7:02]salawats alarm our module allah muhammad Salalah muhammad wa ali muhammad okay

[7:25]he's always things if I was so tricky all the time salam

[7:30]hamid wa ali muhammad audhu billahi min ash-shaytani r-rajim bismillahi r-rahman r-rahim

[7:41]wa salatu wa salam o Allah ashraf al anbiya wa l-mursalin Abell

[7:47]kasi muhammad wa ala elevated ye be not ahi beam and the

[7:56]lads the birth of the Prophet so congratulations it's a celebration that

[8:01]needs to be had internally before externally I'm in the Quran it

[8:09]says about the Prophet says Hosseini o Idina meaning in the Quran

[8:14]when he went up into - Lily wood in Mirage when he

[8:21]went up to the ascension towards Allah the prophet got so close

[8:25]that he was two bows links or closer to Allah Azza WA

[8:29]JAL jibra eel at one point had to stop he says ya

[8:37]Rasul Allah I cannot go any further but you can why there

[8:45]is nothing in that gap those two bows links or closer there

[8:49]is nothing in that gap there's no other creature that ever has

[8:54]that has ever been created that's in that gap rasool allah salallahu

[9:00]alayhi wa ala is the closest creature to allah the closest entity

[9:06]ever created and he is your prophet lamas allah allah muhammad wa

[9:18]ala muhammad once you understand that it should give you chills in

[9:23]your heart give the beat little you should feel it it's a

[9:26]different beat it's a different rhythm to your heart why this is

[9:30]the man I'm behind that's incredible want to give you a story

[9:37]just to begin prophet Musa asked Allah says Allah show me my

[9:50]neighbor in heaven Allah says to him he says go to this

[10:00]house and enter it moosa follows and he goes he goes to

[10:04]the house he knocks on the door this young man opens up

[10:11]he introduces himself doesn't tell him he's the Prophet he says may

[10:18]I come into your quarters the young man invites him in he

[10:25]is conversing with him and he's telling him what do you do

[10:28]he's asking questions he wants to know his neighbor why is he

[10:37]his neighbor is this you is it you is it me don't

[10:39]know this is specified for certain people it's incredible but how how

[10:47]do you get to such an extent you will be the neighbor

[10:50]of a prophet in heaven how is it by taking anxiety pills

[10:58]I can't handle my depression these are putting your mind on automatic

[11:04]pilot what is it what do you go for now it's an

[11:10]epidemic literally it's an epidemic one out of three women one out

[11:15]of three women is an antidepressant pills guys watch out joking joking

[11:22]that was a bad joke joking guys are not too far behind

[11:28]don't worry you've got to step into your mask in just a

[11:31]little bit we need our men to what a little more backbone

[11:35]stand up be who you are don't be afraid to identify who

[11:38]you are don't be afraid this is manhood is a right you

[11:42]need to do that I'm sorry if your eyebrows are better than

[11:45]hers I'm sorry I have problems with that but it's okay it's

[11:49]cool it's not a big deal just know who you are know

[11:56]your masculine role and who you are my sisters also put the

[12:00]career just a little bit just one step behind the family it's

[12:03]cool to the independency thing is awesome I love it but it's

[12:09]it's gotta be regulated there's obligations you have to raise families I'm

[12:14]Delilah you don't want him ending up seeing me trust me that's

[12:22]not where you want them to end up so now he's going

[12:24]back and forth the kid inside the house is a young man

[12:31]he keeps leading the prophet alayhi Salaam and he keeps entering this

[12:36]room coming back out it keeps entering coming back out he's talking

[12:41]ten he interrupts him he says why why do you keep doing

[12:48]that he says I'm sorry forgive my manners but my mother's inside

[12:56]and she's a sick woman I have to tend to her now

[13:04]he says can I see her he's a sure prophet Musa goes

[13:17]in sign he looks at the woman and she's murmuring something you

[13:24]couldn't hear he's trying to understand and he says he asks the

[13:30]young man like what is he saying he says for a long

[13:41]time now all she prays for is to be in heaven next

[13:52]to the prophets think about that she can't move she's got no

[13:58]capability but she's got a tongue that recites the beautiful thing this

[14:04]is the antidote to depression I'll take you there I'll show you

[14:14]how it's right here literally it's right here when this connects properly

[14:22]appear and your thoughts connect properly down here there's nothing in this

[14:28]world that can touch you nothing this is the antidepressant and I'm

[14:36]going to show you how now first part where does it come

[14:44]from why do we become depressed why why do we get to

[14:54]states where we want to take our life which is the highest

[15:00]form of self hate to be able to take your life is

[15:02]to say to yourself I hate myself enough that the value of

[15:09]my life should be taken and it has no worth that's the

[15:12]highest form of self hate how do you move to self love

[15:17]where imam ali alayhi salam says he says i've stood at the

[15:23]gate of my heart and left nothing in but the love of

[15:28]law how do you get to that level what should you do

[15:31]to attain such might that your intention is like a mountain it

[15:42]cannot be moved when a situation comes temptation anger whatever it is

[15:48]you stand and you hold back and you fight yourself in so

[15:52]many different ways you don't speak hold back you pull on that

[15:55]mental muscle you say no I'm not going here step back and

[16:02]you don't go through that door and Allah all of a sudden

[16:05]opens the door for you on his all owner something you would

[16:11]have never seen before that's how you have to fight but watch

[16:15]the first thing we do to get to this extent and this

[16:21]way of literally giving yourself to where you're not satisfied you're never

[16:28]satisfied everyone these days is looking for why fulfillment I have everything

[16:33]I can go to the gas station hey it takes us an

[16:38]hour that's the big drink I don't know what I want there's

[16:40]so many choices you're trying to get a candy bar it takes

[16:44]you three hours in the gas station it's like you're going shopping

[16:47]it's so hard it's really hard it's hard I swear he was

[16:53]hard because there's so many choices you have everything you want we're

[16:56]right here go on any website you want anywhere around the world

[17:03]you press a few buttons next day mashallah mr.

[17:07]Amazon hey I got you whatever you need just press a few

[17:12]buttons and some of you have a little card credit card problems

[17:19]it's okay you got a hold back on those things too now

[17:21]but what are we trying to do we're trying to become emotionally

[17:29]satisfied fulfilled in the Quran it states in Nam Akram oakum and

[17:35]Allah he at kharkom what does that mean surely the one who's

[17:40]best amongst you is the one who is God conscious in now

[17:49]chromo commend Allah Allah what does that mean how do you stay

[17:55]God conscious what is that is that satisfaction how do you get

[17:59]to that point now what's the difference between this B and the

[18:11]color can anybody tell me very quickly what's the difference between test

[18:20]B and the car what's the difference now excellent what's the difference

[18:30]between the two you said Behold Allah him FSM owatta well not

[18:35]a lot everything does this we have to Allah it glorifies Allah

[18:38]everything who's that incumbent on when the Sun is letting off its

[18:49]radiation when the earth is spinning around the Sun the moon is

[18:56]spinning around what the earth are they submitting to Allah yes they

[19:04]are they're doing what they have been commanded they're doing this behalf

[19:14]of all human beings have to do what they what is big

[19:20]well in most solitary decree surely establish prayer for what so you

[19:29]can remember me if you have to remember q if you have

[19:33]to remember something it means that you can what what what does

[19:40]it mean if you have to remember something it means you can

[19:48]forget what do we forget that's the key everything is always in

[19:53]submission to Allah because everything is determined because it doesn't have free

[19:59]will you've been given free will you have a choice you can

[20:03]remember or you can lie forget dissatisfaction comes from one forgetting forgetting

[20:16]one watch this now as we move along in everything that you

[20:25]do the first part is this as we are moving in this

[20:33]life we start trying to identify who we are an identity is

[20:41]based on principles of who you are principles what our principles thoughts

[20:46]emerge the emotion that's a principle when that thought of protection protecting

[20:55]someone you really care for has a lot of emotion behind it

[20:58]that becomes you that becomes the sweetness to sugar the wetness to

[21:02]water the oil - to what oil it's part of your essence

[21:10]it cannot be removed either way good or bad bottom line now

[21:16]the first place we look for I identity is where outside or

[21:29]inside outside Facebook or Instagram Shabbat fee what else I have to

[21:35]go a little it's okay it's okay we'll play with it a

[21:40]little bit but I have to do these things I start looking

[21:43]for that light but black button to do what validate Who I

[21:52]am if you don't like me I don't like me you see

[21:56]that if you say I'm not good I say I'm not good

[22:01]your opinion of me is greater than my own opinion of myself

[22:10]if you have that in your heart trust me right now please

[22:15]please take note of your own thoughts and emotions I deal with

[22:25]a lot of people in this community the anti-depressant problem is an

[22:37]epidemic the drug problem is an epidemic it's all over as soon

[22:43]as one of my clients sits down right in front of me

[22:49]I know I know I know where they're at it's scary you

[22:55]look at someone like that why Imam Ali Allah's Salam he says

[23:07]about the Shaitaan and how it describes Shaitaan and his people listen

[23:15]he describes us not the shayateen not the jinn he describes us

[23:22]he's like it's as if Shaitaan has laid eggs and hatched in

[23:27]their heart he creeps into their lap he speaks through their tongue

[23:41]that's a human being you can go there not one of us

[23:45]is safe that can be you I can be me that's how

[23:52]powerful that is but you have another power watch this when we

[24:00]start number one rule you gotta understand first thing you need to

[24:05]take with you everybody right now sign this somewhere on your heart

[24:10]okay take your pen not a physical pen mashallah Lana of us

[24:14]take notes because with all our memories are just amazing by tomorrow

[24:18]you'll remember 11 percent Lily that's what studies indicate everybody's too good

[24:25]for nouns it's okay no problem your mom says if you want

[24:31]to remember something write it down it's advice thank you sister I

[24:34]appreciate it see just to get underneath your skin thank you you

[24:39]have wallet Salam Hamid wali Mohammed I appreciate you taking notes that's

[24:48]awesome now the first thing is comparison I'm going to take you

[25:00]through a superior perspective and an inferiority perspective and how it works

[25:03]we're going to go into a little bit of psychology but we're

[25:07]going to connect it to the Quran and you're going to see

[25:12]how that works what happens when your superior and thought and what

[25:16]happens when your inferior and thought and how that works the first

[25:21]level let's talk about superiority what happens when you look down on

[25:26]people and you become condescending what you think how does it happen

[25:30]I have to take one good thing about myself and I have

[25:37]to have a blanket perspective that I'm all good I have no

[25:42]faults when that happens you start looking at everybody and I sit

[25:49]down with people to some of my clients are like that too

[25:53]you know what happens with them my god when they sit in

[25:55]front of me I'm coming after you mentally and to me I'm

[26:00]not good at a lot of things but you enter my arena

[26:05]in terms of what I'm really good at I'm gonna break your

[26:11]arm I'm gonna break you mentally and you better be ready now

[26:17]what happens that person becomes a hotty it's all full of themselves

[26:25]I know and I know better than other people why does the

[26:31]person that if they get what we get ninety-nine point nine into

[26:36]you're struggling to get like a eighty percent or like 99.9% like

[26:42]it's like come on man then they get mad they're they're actually

[26:46]worse than you like it's so mad there's a difference there some

[26:51]people because they do want to be best not because they're arrogant

[26:57]they just have high standards that's good but what if you just

[27:01]want to be best no matter what if you have the capability

[27:03]or you don't here's the comparison who the shaitaan compare himself to

[27:15]who Allah gives us a command he says issue do the Adam

[27:22]that's you that's me our kind Allah is giving us that kind

[27:29]of privilege this is your stature in what you can reach as

[27:32]a human being you have the prophets Allah Allah Allah in front

[27:34]of you as a guide you have the EMA and you have

[27:41]won this this is your manual how do you dare say you

[27:44]know what I don't have anything how how do you get to

[27:49]such audacity that you say I don't know where I'm going how

[27:51]how do I get to that level and we think that we

[27:56]don't have nothing we don't wow really FFA e ila Arabic Ummah

[28:03]to get divan allow repeats this again and again and again which

[28:06]of my bounties are you gonna call me a liar for Allah

[28:12]saying this you don't when I given you but you still don't

[28:16]have enough he says Allah he says bow down to Adam you

[28:24]me we are the best creation in the jalapeno in Santa Fe

[28:28]ahsani taqwim to Murad Mel SS fellas a feeling we've created man

[28:33]in the best catcher then we've reduced him to the lowest of

[28:36]the law we can go that far we can go to become

[28:44]beneath the animals literally now he says to Allah the Bliss objects

[28:53]he says Anna hyeonmin who he says I am better than him

[28:59]as a creation see the comparison right there that can lead you

[29:05]to damnation when you do that when you compare in the wrong

[29:08]way it says another on the no halat anima najran will hurl

[29:15]up the home and lean you've created me from fire and you

[29:18]created him from what might look at the comparison that's superiority why

[29:29]think about this Adam and his creation alayhis-salam caused an insecurity inside

[29:35]who I shot it on that's what happens to us that's what

[29:44]happens inside your heart that's a spiritual disease right there the second

[29:50]you compare and you look at that person and you say wow

[29:54]he's got something but he's created a suit why insignificance inside of

[30:01]me I feel less of worth what did - I don't have

[30:03]to do what did he have to do all he had to

[30:08]do was why what did he have to do what that's it

[30:13]some of us I'm sorry we choose to be in that corner

[30:21]cuz we don't wanna what see I'm making myself as small as

[30:24]possible because I don't want anybody Chuck anything at me okay we

[30:32]don't want to buy read on Allah like a bottle of vodka

[30:35]bottle you're here the other hand you have it sit on your

[30:40]phone but your heart doesn't want to move it doesn't want to

[30:43]follow you haven't programmed yourself properly this thing I'm sorry sitting on

[30:52]the shelf and you wonder why you're not satisfied I'll I'll be

[31:06]the gorilla top my novel oh wow the antidote is where I'm

[31:11]sorry I keep raising this thing up I like it okay but

[31:20]it's there it's inside here if this the information stays in the

[31:26]book I'm sorry you lost if you download it into here and

[31:37]it becomes yours this is what happens the prophets of allah allahu

[31:44]ala solana muhammad wa ala muhammad the prophet in Eretz idea and

[31:51]he says there will be a young man that when you die

[32:01]is wandering and wandering around one your funeral it's a beautiful young

[32:07]man and this young man will slip himself into you're between you

[32:13]in your shroud he will go into the grave with you when

[32:19]the two angels come to you and they're about to question you

[32:22]they will see the young man and they will tell him to

[32:30]leave he says I can't leave he says you need to leave

[32:37]it's not who you are it's being questioned he says I can't

[32:43]leave him they asked him why he says I am the Quran

[32:49]he used to recite out loud I swear you that makes my

[33:00]heart just its pain sighs its pain why cuz I don't do

[33:05]it enough I don't says whatever he goes I need to protect

[33:14]him and I will not leave till I take him to heaven

[33:21]with me grab this thing please another good one yeah adi-lila tee

[33:32]hee haw qualm this book will guide to what is best is

[33:41]anybody depressed right now I heard the press that i emotionally groom

[33:52]you a little bit psychologically groom you a little bit why if

[34:01]your heart at this moment is beating to a different drum the

[34:06]Quran has touched you Rasul Allah Allah Allah Allah has touched you

[34:13]now first level is comparison and superior when we compare on a

[34:24]superior level that's what happens let's compare aware and inferior level some

[34:29]of us have this spiritual disease we look at others and they're

[34:35]better than us this problem is I'm better than everyone and no

[34:43]one can take the number one position no one that's what happens

[34:47]if something is created that's better than me I have to make

[34:51]sure it's done and bliss takes that vowel Allah that I'm gonna

[34:58]make sure why he submits and I'm gonna take a lot of

[35:01]them with me yes Allah that Allah grants it so now how

[35:09]do you compare on a superior then inferior level inferiority is when

[35:18]I look at someone and they have more likes than I do

[35:20]where they have more followers than I do I start hating them

[35:30]anon they're always getting a better grade than me they become your

[35:38]point of reference for perfection they become your standard that's sad no

[35:47]one should be your standard but you you've been created for your

[35:54]own maximum potential not for anybody else's who would let you so

[35:59]would come fill out a hunk a failure shop he's fashioned you

[36:03]in the womb of your mother as he pleases your height your

[36:07]weight your eye color everything is special for you to take on

[36:14]your own journey that's my daughter signalling me so I had to

[36:19]give her okay under love we have that kind of communication no

[36:24]here's what happens look at the story of copy and happy and

[36:32]you'll get info you're ready perspective here's what happens Bobby Lee makes

[36:39]a dua to Allah it's not accepted habil makes her why also

[36:44]do heart to Allah and it's accepted Bobby Lee compares himself to

[36:52]who his brother his brother your own brother you can have the

[36:58]wrong emotional code towards your own brother your own father your own

[37:04]mother doesn't matter once you emotionally condition yourself the wrong way it's

[37:09]incredible what happens and how you become this human being what this

[37:17]club he'll end up doing anybody know he killed his brother why

[37:25]one word what's the first thing comparison comparison causes jealousy causes envy

[37:36]these are the things that become spiritual diseases and then you have

[37:42]an emotional cancer in your heart that needs to be eradicated but

[37:46]you need surgery trust me and it's not a Facebook button or

[37:52]the Instagram button it's not how many likes you get it's not

[37:59]that it's not how many times tell you people tell you you're

[38:02]pretty and for my sister's you put on the wore makeup and

[38:11]it's like you want to war for my brothers the shirts just

[38:14]get tighter and tighter and tighter it's like look I do understand

[38:25]I was there okay no problem why we need that attention from

[38:31]the outside if you like me I like me you click like

[38:38]I like right that's how I get my validation of Who I

[38:41]am that's how I gained my self-esteem by other people's opinion of

[38:45]me when that happens that's what it causes you become envious jealousy

[38:59]all kind of things happen at that level the other side of

[39:06]superiority arrogance conceit all types of problems there too what are we

[39:13]supposed to do Imam Ali Allah's Salam gets the perfect answer this

[39:20]is number two we said number one is comparison just knowing what

[39:28]comparison is number two Imam Ali Allah's Salam he says Kanna melon

[39:35]la can somebody who say that I love when people just finish

[39:45]things just it's exciting okay you're with me it says contentment is

[39:51]a wealth that never exhausts never it's never exhaustive you cannot remove

[39:59]it contentment why can anybody please please just follow a bone and

[40:05]just get this point why is contentment a wealth that doesn't become

[40:09]exhaust it can never be exhausted why can anybody tell me because

[40:17]it removes the first rule that we talked about what is that

[40:23]first rule excellent if you're content if you truly content in your

[40:29]heart you're satisfied if you're satisfied do you care about what he

[40:36]has do you care about what she has know Allah give them

[40:39]more you become a giver her heart is filled why because you're

[40:43]satisfied whatever you have your Allah I'm content Imam Ali goes further

[40:49]he says the richest person is the one who's content with what

[40:54]he has why he's emotionally rich there's a difference between having wealth

[41:00]and being wealthy in richness but everybody's after white what's everybody after

[41:09]emotional richness that's more expensive you want to know why this is

[41:16]why because people think they can take a pill popping into my

[41:23]mouth I'm gonna be okay I'm not making fun of it trust

[41:30]me some people okay if you're on extremes sometimes those thing can

[41:36]help okay I'm not against the science but it's an epidemic everybody

[41:40]who has a problem BAM give him what just give him medication

[41:45]put him and pacify their mind I'm sorry I've gotten people off

[41:53]of heroin before heroin drugs anything you want they become directors of

[42:02]major companies I'm sorry I don't agree FLE how does it happen

[42:09]where should you stand you have to know how to fight the

[42:15]battle how do you become content how do you get to such

[42:18]a point in your heart that you can pull on that mental

[42:23]muscle at will and you bring contentment to your own heart and

[42:27]will number one remove comparison if you see someone that's got more

[42:36]than you pray for them say Allah give them more don't feel

[42:40]envious say Allah give them more and give me what they have

[42:45]completely different you can do that that's not a sign there's a

[42:55]different form I'm not gonna get into that you can wish for

[42:57]what they have is well but ask this way say a love

[43:02]this is good for me give it to me if is good

[43:06]for me cuz I don't know I don't know where things can

[43:09]end up if it's good for me Allah give it to me

[43:12]no matter how much I want it above other was asked says

[43:16]what do you want he says I want what Allah wants for

[43:21]me can we submit our wants to what Allah wants can you

[43:25]do that that's difficult that's not easy happy a bit my god

[43:31]I love her again I can't kiss because she's on my mind

[43:36]24/7 she left me I can't can you submit your one can

[43:48]you tell the self no but a mom on her former camera

[43:51]being my god when I had enough Sun is hawa then Elgin

[43:58]Italian Magua surely whoever fears the state of his Lord fierce meaning

[44:04]their God conscious they're about to make a decision they look at

[44:10]the law and I say Allah what do you want and I

[44:14]pull back and they push against their negative desires the regressive ones

[44:20]and I make a bad decision that you have to clean up

[44:27]later short-term gain but long-term pain now surely heaven is his abode

[44:33]contentment is set up this way please pay attention this doesn't exist

[44:40]in psychology I'm sorry the Thai religion okay that's the secret okay

[44:46]let's go like this define religion okay okay yes okay now you

[44:59]could tell other people when you leave okay now how do you

[45:05]gain internment oh let's go team Amalia Lisa Imam Ali Allah's Salam

[45:20]says there's four levels four levels I'm gonna go through three because

[45:28]the fourth just I think his domain the guy me and him

[45:31]are boys hamdulillah I hope he looks at me that way I

[45:35]don't know he might look at me on the day of judgment

[45:36]I hate use my laugh that's my hope I'm hoping to be

[45:46]like that young man but Musa I'm sorry I want to see

[45:50]my boy first that's my icon my daughter when she was younger

[45:57]I share this quick story for you I'm sitting down and Nashua

[46:05]lava is right next to me and she comes and she asks

[46:09]me she says bubble who's your best friend thinking thinking I looked

[46:18]down I seen I should love I Hall which was tell me

[46:28]I'm like Imam Ali Ali I'll go see where you talk about

[46:31]said yeah my Miley she goes to me okay so how do

[46:37]you communicate with him I'm stuck I don't care what do I

[46:44]say she's literally like six and she's got me in a corner

[46:47]and I'm being beat up by a five year old six year

[46:51]old I said the way I communicate with him is I talk

[46:58]to him I ask him yeah Meera mooning what would you do

[47:02]and I study his patterns of thinking that's the way he talks

[47:12]to me I read his book that book has changed my life

[47:16]literally I swear to you Nigel Bulava for me has changed my

[47:24]life and it was done by series for chef Lauren Orozco it's

[47:31]on YouTube it's an incredible series about mama really Sarah I'm going

[47:38]through it for like the fifth time we'll never get enough now

[47:43]then she says to me she was okay how does he talk

[47:52]to you I said that she goes then alright then how do

[47:57]you talk to him and she says to me like I'm stuck

[48:05]again then it just hit me and I'm like I just follow

[48:12]what he says I got you back why is this important because

[48:21]at the end of the day this is the way it works

[48:26]when he talks just please pay attention that's the code for your

[48:31]heart Imam Ali Allah's Salam and national vilela stayed so much follow

[48:36]that book download that into your system as much as it as

[48:40]you can now but let's go there first level Imam Ali Ali

[48:47]Salome talks about if you want to get to a point where

[48:51]you have satisfaction in the heart this is the way you do

[49:01]it the magic pill for depression is this can anybody tell me

[49:08]before I say thousand dollar question but if I give you $1,000

[49:16]to be different can anybody say everybody would have a lot more

[49:20]courage just to say their answer just imagine you're going to get

[49:23]a thousand dollars with Allah okay you're gonna get a thousand has

[49:28]a net I'll sell you land in heaven right now okay I'm

[49:31]selling land in heaven is like if I owned it or something

[49:38]okay but tell me you want some I got you what is

[49:45]it okay excellent answer what else what is it go on excellent

[49:52]what else nam tok go up you'll answer wow it's coming from

[49:57]the heart I love that what else praying excellent he talks about

[50:07]prayer in the Quran it states this please pay attention this is

[50:12]the magic verse it says bismillah al-rahman al-rahim you ready ready and

[50:22]if somebody if somebody if someone wants to really understand their own

[50:32]emotional state trust me is it unless it says woman debajo de

[50:40]falaya the loo well I assure whoever follows my guidance lost talking

[50:50]to us directly he will never go astray or never be unhappy

[50:57]let's finish the verse does anybody knows what follows does anybody know

[51:06]can anybody finish the ayah please look for this tonight and study

[51:21]it study it and he says woman aravane decree that's the word

[51:27]that's the bill woman our other Han degree whoever refrains from remembering

[51:43]me I can allahumma inni Shaitan Duncan surely that person will live

[51:51]a depressed life I just put the world on your shoulders because

[52:02]now you know so that anybody can bring it up I like

[52:09]to put the contest thing into place can anybody can anybody bring

[52:19]it up you got Google in your hands come on anybody you

[52:26]got ten seconds five okay you can't are you serious okay how

[52:44]about this I think I can do better I'm just joking okay

[52:47]so all right so I'm gonna raise my voice a little bit

[52:51]it's it's a sensitive topic so you got to just make it

[52:54]like warm and cozy such as the hearts can bundle up properly

[53:00]so now here's what happens I'm gonna leave you to that I'm

[53:03]gonna leave you to that find it on your own I'd like

[53:08]to do that why it's gonna force you to travel a journey

[53:13]it's going to force you to do it it's not that I

[53:15]have the verse no it's for you to find out research now

[53:23]it says whoever whoever as a person goes against and it doesn't

[53:28]remember me what happens tohe which which ayah I sent no don't

[53:37]say it please don't say please no no no okay okay see

[53:40]now I'm telling you this is sales 101 by the way I

[53:45]create curiosity then I become the prize well now everybody wants it

[53:48]I just pull back a little bit and I train sales by

[53:53]the way okay but I just give you one then I just

[53:54]pull back and it's amazing what happens just to love scarcity when

[54:02]Apple tells you listen we ran out of phones guess what they

[54:06]didn't run out of funds you know what they're doing the ripping

[54:14]your control away from you that's what triggers that they trigger the

[54:17]fear of loss that's how marketing works they'll give you something then

[54:24]they'll pull it away watch how you chase it's amazing sisters if

[54:29]you ever meet a guy like that run the other way trust

[54:33]me trust me just run he's too good guys please don't do

[54:39]that don't if you have any conscience trust me she's got more

[54:44]to lose than you do okay sisters when you post I'm going

[54:50]to go directly now fed am i okay when you post please

[54:53]be very careful those eyes that are looking at you I'm not

[55:01]looking at you the way you think I'm sorry okay guys when

[55:05]you're looking at those pictures lower your gaze and also higher but

[55:12]guys we all have a responsibility towards each other to build the

[55:20]right community please stay strong in your faith hold on to who

[55:25]you are now let's go to the three and I'll finish with

[55:28]this the antidote is vicar Imam Ali Ali Salam he says he

[55:42]says in Doha Kamil Yama Yama Yama the crew who Shiva Oh

[55:47]Tata ho Lina all the one whose name is medicine and whose

[56:01]remembrance is healing for one for why that's the healing of the

[56:05]heart that's the emotional satisfaction that's what Imam Ali alehissalaam is talking

[56:10]about that he has nothing that nothing has entered his heart besides

[56:15]why the love of Allah that's what you have to work on

[56:23]how this is how he also gives us while the way to

[56:30]do it number one he tells us this number one is a

[56:35]rhythm which contentment contentment is being satisfied contentment is removing comparison that's

[56:43]number one we talked about that number two pay attention take notes

[56:51]this is your antidepressant pill I'm sorry it's not physical it's process

[56:58]he says it does phim what is this name anybody can tell

[57:05]me what to sleemoth that's how you get that letter by the

[57:09]way in Sam when he does to sleep you know what his

[57:14]first thing he does let's go you let go what do you

[57:25]let go of all of us are trying to hang on to

[57:33]control the mother of Musa when it was time to protect Musa

[57:37]and for houn was a tyrant was coming after all the babies

[57:46]she puts him in the river I want you to be that

[57:54]mother for a second or even that father she's handing on hanging

[57:58]on to the edge of the basket think about that think about

[58:07]the connection between a mother and a child there's no other greater

[58:15]connection and attachment imagine the second let's go and she pushes the

[58:23]baby can you do that to protect it if anyone was looking

[58:32]at her from the outside they would say she's crazy how would

[58:37]you protect the child by putting him out in the open or

[58:40]logic dictates you should hide him that's what the sling I'm satisfied

[58:54]this is where you let go most of us what we want

[58:57]the thing that most creates insecurity is always trying to control outcomes

[59:04]you're always trying to control outcomes that's what creates insecurity I'm not

[59:10]telling you not to think comes musa also alaysalam thought about outcomes

[59:15]and he says to Allah he says Ya Allah when Allah commands

[59:20]him to go to firown' he says yo Allah I fear him

[59:26]in Russian punishment I fear he may Russian punishment is that outcome

[59:33]absolutely it's an outcome what does Allah reply he says go I

[59:37]am hearing knowing let go of the outcome you drop the outcome

[59:44]you will drop the fear guaranteed why because now you do to

[59:50]Aqua which is the last stage brother satisfaction my heart how do

[59:55]you do that let go of control how do you let go

[60:00]of control in the present moment drop the outcome in the future

[60:02]and rely on Allah well what Cal Allah or kapha billahi wa

[60:07]Keela and rely on allah and he's all you need that's how

[60:13]it works when you can do that and you can stand and

[60:19]you can be in front of anyone that doesn't matter whom it

[60:21]doesn't matter who's in front of you trust me I've been in

[60:28]front of major CEOs millionaires and billionaires one billionaire after a two-hour

[60:34]conversation 6-7 people doesn't even know me last conversation what happens was

[60:42]between me and him and he's crying to me I'm nothing special

[60:50]trust me but at the end of the day just how you

[60:57]talk it doesn't matter who's in front of you your intention will

[61:00]become like a mountain nothing can move it when your identity is

[61:05]intact that's what happens and how mokume allah thank you that was

[61:10]my proof that was a good one perfect timing no so on

[61:15]that level number one is we compare I'm going to recap real

[61:21]quick we compare and when we compare here's what happens you either

[61:25]become superior or inferior how do you remove that become content how

[61:30]do you gain being content number one how to be satisfied you

[61:37]have to become satisfied to be satisfied you have to drop comparison

[61:42]first longed to become more satisfied let go of what control how

[61:48]do you let go of control you do the testing part and

[61:52]you let go of that and you become a person who's even

[61:57]more refined do the same then you do to lock one and

[62:00]you drop the outcome thusly ms in the moment you let go

[62:08]in the moment telecoil is an outcome you submit fully to allah

[62:17]azzawajal that is power like you wouldn't believe in la jolla dick

[62:25]jalan and mil elope Allah has made dhikr and enlightenment for the

[62:31]heart when Allah is in your heart in the Quran it states

[62:38]walamu and Nala higher whole when Elemental Evil al where know that

[62:44]Allah is in between you and your heart when that happens I

[62:49]just want to know when Allah is facing depression who's gonna win

[62:55][Music] who's gonna win the next time you submit this is the

[63:08]place to do it well clean was solitary decree establish prayer for

[63:14]why my remembrance not me of course establish prayer so you remember

[63:20]Allah because we have the capacity to do what to forget we

[63:25]are the only creatures who can forget about Allah so your brer

[63:30]is the navigation system when allah tells you to pray why it's

[63:35]not for him it's are you to get reoriented it's to go

[63:38]back on the path Edina sirat al-mustaqim sirata al-ladhina and I'm Italian

[63:44]we say this every day show us the true path when Allah

[63:51]is always telling you come here I'm right here I'm not that

[63:54]far away from you in the Aqua buy him and have little

[63:59]worried we are surely closer to you than your own jugular vein

[64:03]he's that close to you Wade annika a body honey for anybody

[64:12]do you would I what a die a Dada he says Allah

[64:14]is telling us he says if he's totally prophet he says if

[64:20]my supplicate er asks you about me tell him or her I

[64:22]am near I will answer the call of the supplicate er if

[64:29]look at the end becomes conditional why conditional statements can only exist

[64:38]when there's options you have options you have options you can choose

[64:44]to submit or not submit now they know Sevilla Medina who Sevilla

[64:51]in my Shack Iran one naka fora we surely we have shown

[64:55]you the way it's already there your fitrah is enough is either

[64:59]thankful all right let's go which side do you want to be

[65:07]on it's up to you that's how you recap yourself when you

[65:11]do that when Reza enters the heart meaning contentment it removes comparison

[65:20]when you remove comparison and you do to sleep and you drop

[65:27]your will to Allah and you want do the two what could

[65:30]drop the outcome so you drop the fear here's what happens when

[65:37]Musa goes to frown what happens in outcome huama kuru vomica allah

[65:43]allahu khairan marketing my god he says they plan and Allah plans

[65:49]amam laws the best of planner Wow drop your outcomes watch what

[65:58]happens you want to know the most powerful place now finish with

[66:02]this is this who can tell me really quickly what's the most

[66:07]powerful position and a face since earth what is it prostration this

[66:17]is dignity your face is dignity Imam Ali Ali Salaam when a

[66:27]beggar would come to his door they were a Muslim or any

[66:29]human being he would reach around the door and he wouldn't look

[66:35]at their face look at the Halak of him at home any

[66:37]knowledge salaam why because that face shows dignity doesn't want to shame

[66:42]the person that's a Halak this is dignity when allah tells you

[66:51]to put your maximum point of dignity and the lowest point that

[66:58]it can be that's where the finite the limited meets the unlimited

[67:10]that should give you chills that's your power as a human being

[67:20]right there is your antidepressant whenever you are feeling that pain you've

[67:28]committed the worst thing in the world you've done the worst thing

[67:31]in the world you don't and you can't stand yourself please put

[67:36]yourself in that state of submission please and watch just talk to

[67:44]a long empty out your heart there no psychologist no pill nothing

[67:52]is better than that position trust me and ask Allah to show

[67:57]you Allah show me the way please when you do that and

[68:06]if your intention is proper Allah guarantees the response he guarantees it

[68:12]kattappa ala nafsi rahama he's encompassed himself with one and he's made

[68:19]himself he's made it incumbent on himself terms of his mercy that's

[68:24]how we need to be as human beings the second you submit

[68:30]just lean in your heart submits not your just your physical body

[68:36]your heart goes into statute there's nothing on this face of this

[68:43]earth that can touch you Salam Hamid - Ali Mohammed any quick

[68:53]Q&A put your quickie on anybody want to ask any questions yes

[69:06]excellent excellent question so how do you drop the outcome number one

[69:13]thing when I say outcome I see I mean consequences in the

[69:18]Quran it says this it says what's a man know will note

[69:20]in kuntum Saudi clean always refer back to the Quran it's it's

[69:26]amazing once you have that with you but it's not in just

[69:29]in the book like I told you it's with you you carry

[69:32]the verses with you you can talk walk speak the Quran it's

[69:39]important it becomes part of your language so now when it says

[69:42]that here's what it means it says long for death if you

[69:48]are truthful study the equation there what happens if you long for

[69:52]death death is encompassed with what when we think about death right

[69:58]now molecular modes going to come to you is like bro okay

[70:01]you got five minutes and that come is the ayah okay you

[70:06]got five minutes or Allah here those five minutes it's like you

[70:12]feel like what the most precious time you'll ever have one for

[70:18]home in mattatuck my own table and yet I had a condom

[70:23]out for all Arab Balala a heartening Lola a heartening Allah agile

[70:26]in Korean if I said the colloquy - Allah hain now Allah

[70:32]answers if Allah you are kuru Mohonasen II - Aloha it gives

[70:35]you the psychology of us when we cross over and we haven't

[70:42]done what we need to do it gives us that this is

[70:43]we start asking for more time we don't ask to go to

[70:47]heaven we don't we ask s for anything we'll ask for a

[70:50]big house a car whatever what do we start asking for more

[70:52]time that's the outcome so now from here when that happens when

[71:01]that happens when you drop the outcome death is encompassed with fear

[71:06]not many of us can face death because it has so much

[71:13]fear in it when you drop the outcome you drop the fear

[71:16]that's what happens the second you drop the outcome you drop the

[71:24]fear now when you drop the outcome what happens the fear gets

[71:29]replaced with what security a lab with the guerrilla dr.

[71:33]Martin on a loop I say whatever kilala I drop the outcome

[71:38]- who - Allah Azza WA JAL I do that and I

[71:43]say the outcomes your Allah are on you I don't have any

[71:45]control over that when that happens now security enters the heart it's

[71:54]no longer fear whatever I'm fearing the outcome that's what happens take

[71:58]it to psychology psychology inside psychological studies you're 50 percent more likely

[72:03]to fail if you think of outcomes you're 98% likely to succeed

[72:12]if you worry about process which is in the initial moment it's

[72:16]incredible so now when you do that and you flip the fear

[72:20]to security you know what happens inside your heart as well you

[72:24]become sincere you no longer fear what outcomes are consequences that makes

[72:31]what your tongue were truthful because you don't care who's in front

[72:36]of you because you've dropped it and you put it on laws

[72:40]lap allow you take care of the outcome I'm just going to

[72:43]become sincere with you what a man no alone in condoms other

[72:46]thing long for death if you are truthful that means what truth

[72:52]there's no fear when you are submit to Allah drop the outcome

[72:55]you gain see see it sincerity and security in the heart when

[73:01]that happens the tongue becomes truthful when you speak wow this is

[73:05]what imam ali says he says when you speak man on telephone

[73:08]mineral water a local woman telecom in alison walk off handle with

[73:17]a nun he says whatever comes out of the heart with that

[73:21]sincerity and that truth truthful thumb what happens when you speak your

[73:27]words encompassed with two things your truth in logic and your sincerity

[73:32]imam ali said lady salami says when you speak and it comes

[73:37]out of the heart it will enter the heart and when you

[73:39]speak from the tongue it will stop with the other person's ears

[73:45]why there's no sincerity so when you speak your word to engage

[73:48]the other person's mind your sincerity will engage the heart different languages

[73:55]completely different conversation drop the outcome that's what will happen that safety

[74:04]no pill can give you you can never gain that satisfaction and

[74:09]i promise you you do that properly I promise you the power

[74:13]you feel with that is incredible it's incredible I'll give you a

[74:23]small little story we had to get an NFL player who is

[74:25]Muslim eight months it was a project I set the project I

[74:31]said what we're going to get this player there less than 1%

[74:36]in the NFL less than 1% seven months go by we don't

[74:43]have a player everybody attacks me they're coming at me Hodge start

[74:50]calling about your social names Hodge please don't call me ouch let's

[74:56]call her yourself oh I want it's good enough for me can't

[75:01]we do plan B can't we do this can't we do this

[75:07]I said I'm sorry I don't feel what you feel your emotional

[75:12]code is different than mine I said there is no plan B

[75:19]and we're staying the course and I don't care what happens I

[75:23]swear to you I walk out of the office I make one

[75:30]more phone call one more formal and four hours later I des

[75:38]an Abdullah was from the Kansas City Chiefs he set up a

[75:41]meeting with me and one week later we're in Florida filming imagine

[75:47]I would have stopped at that moment that's what fear does to

[75:52]us it cripples us what you don't feel like you want to

[75:57]move but all the power is with Allah that's how you need

[76:00]to do it so I hope that answers your question she's talking

[76:07]about the fear aspect how you drop the outcome so when you're

[76:12]dropping the outcome how does that work any other questions that's a

[76:34]great question okay I've been so you guys know I've been the

[76:39]VP of business development for multi-million dollar companies so I've held positions

[76:46]in terms of being the head of a direction in terms of

[76:53]development for those kinds of companies as well so it's not even

[76:56]but I left the corporate field because there's certain things I just

[76:59]didn't want to do and for me everybody who I dealt with

[77:08]was non-muslim like literally 99% so subhanAllah you develop a reputation and

[77:14]there was a chair in my office and it was called the

[77:21]crying chair that's what they labeled it you sit in front of

[77:25]me you're gonna cry because I will dig out your pain now

[77:28]we'll show it to you I say here you go and I

[77:34]start poking at it and you're like so every human being every

[77:40]human being has a frequency it doesn't matter who they are they

[77:45]have a frequency you know where you're dialing the am channel am

[77:48]channels and you can't get it right then he's just like you

[77:50]lock in on one just you hear it clearly I'm that's for

[77:55]me I've developed those kind of tools so it doesn't matter who

[77:59]you are I don't care if you can't even speak I'm I'm

[78:03]literally like tuned in as a machine on stuff like that so

[78:09]seven percent of communication is verbal fifty five percent is behavioral and

[78:14]dress and thirty eight percent is emotional I've tuned in on all

[78:18]four languages I can literally give you mixed messages at one point

[78:21]literally in one statement I can give you mixed messages I've trained

[78:25]myself at that level that's very important for you to understand communication

[78:29]is power because some of you will be able to influence some

[78:34]of you won't you know why as every day you have 27

[78:39]conversations the average person has 27 conversations per day 27 conversations if

[78:43]you multiply that that's 9072 conversation per year you know what the

[78:53]average influence of original ideas is 2% imagine you can only influence

[79:04]at 2% then imagine you meet someone and they can influence at

[79:13]98% ladies trust me those guys are up there trust me trust

[79:18]me if your walls are guarded guard them even further don't give

[79:26]them a chance sorry guys sorry trust me some of them are

[79:32]artists they know and they're looking for the smallest little crack and

[79:36]when they find it I guarantee you they will enter and they

[79:41]will be behind the wall and you won't even know it that's

[79:45]scary but the reason why I tell you that is because there

[79:54]isn't being able to persuade then there's manipulation to get what you

[79:58]want it's a completely different world if you meet a monster like

[80:06]that that's manipulation that's strength but in a negative way and I've

[80:11]met and swam through a lot of people's minds and I'm telling

[80:14]you someone are literally the walking devil I'm not joking with you

[80:19]and I will call them out literally I will put it right

[80:25]in their face and I'm not afraid because they know I'm on

[80:30]the inside I'm the guy in terms of my profession you don't

[80:34]want to come across why because I will enter the wall and

[80:38]you have no idea you literally have no idea it's happened that's

[80:46]how many relations arcs so was that a problem for me no

[80:50]not at all I would actually say to them and they would

[80:53]get on the call imagine it 150 people - 200 people from

[80:58]school in the company and the head director will start quoting Imam

[81:07]Ali without knowing that's incredible I've gotten to a place where I

[81:11]was in conferences who some of you know Les Brown who knows

[81:15]Les Brown okay les brown is one of my mentors lovely I've

[81:20]been on stage with him I have his number in my phone

[81:22]book Jarek Robbins the son of Tony Robbins text me today really

[81:28]if you want to see the text I'll show it to you

[81:32]it's not a big deal it really isn't I got nominated to

[81:34]speak at the corporate headquarters of Amazon my nomination got accepted not

[81:39]a big deal it's Amazon it's the biggest company in the world

[81:44]I can see here and tell you oh yeah look at me

[81:45]no I resent here I'm prettier born in Dearborn Heights this is

[81:54]who I am why because I represent also my religion this is

[81:59]why I have to raise the flag this is what I have

[82:02]to say in terms of that we have to be able to

[82:04]do that so was that a problem no it wasn't that's where

[82:09]I needed to be that's where my talent actually excelled and I

[82:13]got a great company that allowed me to do that and share

[82:18]the stage with those kinds of people very impactful for my life

[82:22]and where it took me I got on TED talk of a

[82:27]TEDx talk you guys should do that as well try to get

[82:33]on these stages there's nothing wrong with it represent at the highest

[82:38]level you know what the end of my talk was what do

[82:42]you think I finished when I mentioned his name and I said

[82:46]he was my boy I Lily finished the whole talk with one

[82:51]of his things and I also put his name up there and

[82:54]I don't care that's my boy I hope I'm is a boy

[83:01]I don't know but that's what I'm saying to you that's how

[83:06]we have to be so was it a problem no I don't

[83:12]care represent don't be afraid wear the scarf proudly and if you

[83:19]don't and you're moving towards it hold on to that that just

[83:23]today is the biggest flag that you can all my god when

[83:28]you can cross over like that I know your look in the

[83:30]mirror and you're like I don't know the Leppa not confidence or

[83:37]your brother and you're like your abs is trying to show through

[83:42]your shirt it's cool I know it's cool it's okay but what

[83:50]it's okay cover up a little bit just a little bit your

[83:52]arms martial law they're like huge it's okay if you just cover

[83:59]them a little bit cover the guns okay but just touch chastity

[84:03]the Prophet says I'll finish with this he says I'll hire a

[84:07]high he says yeah they have higher is of two types the

[84:15]first type and higher Oh luckily I'll hire of the intellect meaning

[84:20]when you cover your chest you turn off your Facebook turn up

[84:26]even say that you turn off your Facebook you turn off here

[84:28]because you're getting the wrong attention it's negative attention you turn those

[84:33]things off and it doesn't matter anymore to you your heart is

[84:41]not attached that's why the right kind of hiya meaning shamefulness okay

[84:46]to feel ashame to do something that doesn't belong in the heart

[84:53]anymore we're being desensitized day by day by day then he says

[84:58]the second type is this allow yah will home okay no that

[85:07]means stupidness to have shamefulness in stupidity you never think that hiya

[85:15]can be stupid why let's say you about to ask question into

[85:18]a teacher and you never ask the question you need to go

[85:27]to a job interview and you never go that's not what you

[85:32]need to have why strength there because he next says in the

[85:36]next line in nashua lava he says that leads to failure fear

[85:39]that leads to failure drop the outcome on that level after Ocwen

[85:44]that gives you satisfaction in the heart that's how it goes was

[85:49]that a problem for me no it propelled me took me to

[85:54]another level and I'm proud to say when I'm going right now

[85:57]I'm proud of it but it gave me more Les Brown at

[86:02]one point said he was there and I was there and we

[86:07]were speaking we both spoke most of my presentations underlying underlining that

[86:15]it's mostly what a hadith by imam ali riza one of the

[86:20]directors walks up the stage he was getting a reward and he's

[86:25]like he's just thinking Les Brown he can't believe Celeste Braun's there

[86:29]he's thanking him he says please somebody go to the back and

[86:33]read off the first two things I have on my paper the

[86:39]CFO was also a Muslim and he's standing right next to me

[86:49]were pulsating on stage and the guy goes it says an opportunity

[86:53]passes by like cloud the CFO goes to me he goes that's

[87:00]not Les Brown that's Imam Ali Ali Sarah this is what you

[87:03]gotta understand wherever you are ahead leave your signature doesn't matter where

[87:11]I taught at Maya at one point for one year I was

[87:14]just teaching Arabic just wanted to do it just one big experience

[87:20]I had the kids get a smartboard for that room they raised

[87:25]it they raised four thousand dollars always leave your sick whenever you

[87:29]go leave your signature as a Muslim and hopefully as a Moute

[87:37]man sign time by doing the right things it doesn't matter where

[87:39]so did it propel me 100% did it hurt me in certain

[87:45]ways some things I would rather not do in a corporate world

[87:53]not because of me not because of me it's what you teach

[87:56]when you teach someone you empower them and what they have to

[87:59]do with that information if they don't have the right ethical code

[88:04]or moral code you've empowered the wrong person do you see I'm

[88:07]saying you have to be very careful there hamdulillah I'm very happy

[88:11]in terms of Who I am I'm not happy in terms of

[88:16]any shape how didn't know that's all I'm saying I need to

[88:18]be a lot more but also all I'm saying to you I

[88:23]represent and I represent properly probably not properly I'm not saying I'm

[88:31]perfect be proud of who you are don't be afraid job the

[88:35]outcome watch what happens when luck comes to your aid my god

[88:42]he will raise you to a whole nother level all the answers

[88:45]question that was like a mini like lecture but sorry this gets

[88:48]into it sometimes any other questions real quick good Wow hold on

[88:57]I have taken the end that one how do you deal with

[89:08]temptation if you're drawn away from Allah okay all right really quick

[89:14]temptation you have five different relationships really quick first relationship is with

[89:21]yourself okay second relationship is with Allah third relationship is with others

[89:29]fourth relationship is with nature and fifth relationship nowadays which represents temptation

[89:39]is your phone okay I'm sorry some of us between our phone

[89:43]and this no other person can exist people are bothersome to my

[89:51]relationship with my phone now I rather talk to this thing than

[89:53]one how many times you guys get that picture where every single

[89:57]person inside the room is what on their cell phone even the

[90:03]baby now is like why and what they got a cell phone

[90:08]they're being called digital natives now as well so on that level

[90:11]those five relationships okay so I want you to put your relationship

[90:18]with Allah at the top and I want you to put your

[90:19]relationship with temptation at the bottom your relationship with temptation works this

[90:26]way the second you go towards the desire and any sort of

[90:33]anger you're going towards regressive desires any time your mind dominates over

[90:40]those two desires which is anger and the aspect of desire which

[90:45]is emotion on a general level desire and what anger the mind

[90:52]has to dominate those two what that means is the second you

[90:55]feel that temptation it creates an urge let's go to a little

[90:58]bit of psychology what they've studied now is the one is the

[91:03]second it triggers in terms of that temptation it creates an urge

[91:08]that urge if it's not satisfied becomes an like an irritation to

[91:12]the person I have to satisfy it now the further you go

[91:19]into that and you satisfy the urge the more it becomes you

[91:22]we talked about the sweetness of sugar - sure can you remove

[91:28]that no it's its essence you don't want that habit to become

[91:31]your essence you don't want that if that becomes you it's very

[91:38]difficult to remove it becomes difficult it becomes entrenched in you I'm

[91:44]not telling you it's impossible but that's the problem and that's how

[91:49]what neurons that fire together wire together your little wiring your brain

[91:56]and existence you cannot remove that for the rest of your life

[92:02]or eternity that becomes you that's the way it works now how

[92:05]do you do that this is where willpower has to come in

[92:13]in discipline discipline is the key discipline is that self fight how

[92:17]the Prophet when a group came from actual what doing jihad which

[92:22]is the smaller jihad which is that struggle which is what they

[92:29]went to war he welcomes them and he says what he says

[92:33]welcome to the people who have done the lesser jihad and I

[92:38]said what's worse than this he says the fight against the self

[92:42]it's the fight against the desire so now how do you remove

[92:50]that first thing number one thing when you feel the urge number

[92:55]one that's your strongest point imagine you have a lot of muscle

[93:00]mashallah which one of you guys right now is just stack what

[93:05]okay so watch this that's your strongest point you also have mental

[93:13]muscle and that actually fatigues throughout the day actually becomes a weaker

[93:18]if you will see a lot of people commit more sins when

[93:22]at the end of the day because they're mentally tired once you

[93:26]become tired you're bored these are major signs of you I not

[93:33]being able to have discipline be very careful when you're like that

[93:38]put yourself in situations where you're not alone that's number two you're

[93:44]strongest when you first feel the urge to tell yourself what no

[93:49]pull back at that moment why because the second imagine this you're

[93:55]walking up a stairway walking up a stairway you go another stay

[94:02]away you go another stay away you're going closer to that temptation

[94:05]you get to the roof you walk to the edge you start

[94:11]you look you're literally on the edge and you start leaning forward

[94:18]this is what happens you go from a point of control and

[94:25]you can still turn back to why no control that's how it

[94:33]works the strongest point you have is right when you feel the

[94:37]urge step away and if you fail it's okay it's a slip

[94:44]keep going back never give up never give up though that's strength

[94:47]at that moment now there's another thing you can do when you

[94:51]when you're in like private put yourself in public another thing go

[94:55]to sleep try to go to sleep anything you can do to

[95:02]actually remove yourself from thinking about what whatever you're about to do

[95:08]it's about shifting focus it's it's situational and attentional focus the more

[95:13]you can remove that focus on that sin here's what happens now

[95:16]let's go to again psychology and actually physiology of the brain whenever

[95:20]you have two thoughts and they're challenging each other here's what happens

[95:25]please pay attention to this if you really haven't paid attention to

[95:28]me no problem I'm cool with that it's okay but pay attention

[95:34]to this one when two thoughts are actually against each other I'm

[95:39]telling myself no I shouldn't do this but the temptation is calling

[95:44]me whatever it is understand you're in a mental battle those two

[95:49]thoughts are in the ring and they're about to go at it

[96:00]whichever one you let win here's what happens at that moment when

[96:05]you make that decision and you're like I'm going to do this

[96:10]and I'm going towards my temptation that thought gets a dopamine kick

[96:17]you know what that means it actually becomes stronger it's taking more

[96:24]hold of you when the city Shaitaan starts speaking through your own

[96:32]tongue understand there's people like that he creeps into their lap these

[96:37]are just ways of control now your desires on you and your

[96:41]intellect is subservient to your desires that's how you get to the

[96:46]lower levels and that's the way it works that habit will literally

[96:54]become you more and more and more the minute you can stop

[96:58]it what happens is you start running down an owner or branch

[97:04]and that has to grow you have to water it with your

[97:06]emotions you have to get it strengthened with your emotions and that's

[97:10]the way it works that neural pathway that you lay down as

[97:17]a temptation is never going to leave you you can kill it

[97:21]with some weed killer which is your thought process or you can

[97:25]give it strengthen and empower even further by just letting it go

[97:31]and I'm sure the weeds are gonna take over your whole grass

[97:33]which is literally your whole brain and that's what happens and when

[97:37]people get to such a point where the heart dies there's no

[97:44]going back khatam Allah Allah Allah beam wahala samarium wala of sodium

[97:49]ratio Allah then seals the heart that's it there's no going back

[97:54]that's when a person literally becomes devilish you're walking devil you're walking

[98:02]demon and if you come across people like that I'm telling you

[98:09]and I promise you I've looked into people's eyes and I swear

[98:14]you there's nothing on the inside there's no motion this person will

[98:18]literally end your life and they don't care it's scary when you

[98:24]sit in front of a person like that there's no remorse no

[98:27]holding back they don't care that's a walking dead person you don't

[98:34]want to get there those are some mechanisms that you can do

[98:41]but what I would really recommend is working with someone please guys

[98:45]we don't believe in coaching we don't this community I'm sorry we

[98:52]don't we don't but lookee the Prophet and Imam Ali who's the

[98:57]coach of Imam Ali Ali so my boy who ooh the prophet

[99:07]sallallaahu al look at Salman Salman was Roo Hodja me he was

[99:12]wasn't even Arab not there's anything if it's better or worse it

[99:17]doesn't matter that's not the comparison one of his name's was sell

[99:26]sell sell sell you know what that means the one who asks

[99:30]a lot of questions but the Prophet said Salman min elevate how

[99:41]do you get to that level mentorship get a mentor trust me

[99:45]it saves you money when you spend money it saves you heartache

[99:50]when you're about to get in a relationship it saves you the

[99:59]spiritual agony of having to I I can't feel trust me please

[100:02]do yourself a favor find mentorship find good people will show you

[100:10]the way because what a mentor does is they lay out their

[100:14]information and it's a light that is casted on who your path

[100:21]that's the way it works and when they do that you can

[100:23]see when it's dark while others have to do trial and error

[100:28]and they fall in the ditch trust me get good mentorship that's

[100:35]the best thing I can and have an accountability partner person you

[100:40]can call one call can save your life sometimes that's the way

[100:44]it works that person that can hold you accountable until you know

[100:50]because you can't tell yourself now those are very important things so

[100:55]find the right friends but mentors mentors are everything I I swear

[101:06]to you that means a lot to me thank you but I

[101:19]literally can't even take on any more people I can't there's just

[101:24]too much going on and and I'm sorry just give me one

[101:31]second I have to speak to this because this is this very

[101:34]important to me there's such a problem in our community and trust

[101:43]me when I say problem there's problems and if you think that's

[101:48]the worst of it no it's going to get worse when the

[101:57]Prophet is said that holding on to your faith is like holding

[101:59]on to a hot coal there's going to come a time when

[102:07]that's going to happen guess what or in that time it's happening

[102:11]here's what I would tell you grab that coal and squeeze it

[102:18]as hard as you can and let it burn into your soul

[102:21]that's your only form of protection that's the only way you can

[102:25]protect your soul trust me hold on to it let it burn

[102:32]through your skin let it burn the flesh let it get to

[102:38]the bone because when it touches the right things there's no pain

[102:42]that's greater than that pain but I'm telling you you're gonna feel

[102:47]pain to do that because the temptations as my sister stated are

[102:59]everywhere click of one button instant gratification the dopamine explosion that happens

[103:05]you're in your brain when you hit that white it's like hitting

[103:09]a shot of cocaine you want to talk about addiction it's right

[103:14]here we're programmed talk to me after there's people that I know

[103:29]there's but the problem is so vast I can't do things alone

[103:33]but I'm starting to do so you know is I'm going to

[103:38]start doing modules so I have a website okay you can follow

[103:44]me online there's a whole bunch of stuff there's a whole bunch

[103:47]of videos that I have and I've done them on purpose just

[103:48]for these kinds of things and I'm did a lot my daughter's

[103:53]in the back but someone came up to her the other day

[103:57]and she they they thanked her to me you can't give any

[104:01]better thanks than to thank my daughter and she told she told

[104:05]her that your dad got me off depression through his videos and

[104:13]I've never met this person I'm honored I'm grateful but which one

[104:17]of you is going to do that it's not just me I'm

[104:22]trying to do everything that I can trust me but we need

[104:25]to step up all of us need to step up what are

[104:28]you going to do to solve the problem is that why just

[104:33]taking own care of your own no you have a social obligation

[104:37]and that's very important Imam Ali Allah's Salam he says your social

[104:44]obligation take all the good deeds she had everything you've ever done

[104:51]that's like a spit in the ocean compared the enjoining good and

[104:57]forbidding evil think about that that's a social obligation some of us

[105:05]we do it with our heart some of us we do it

[105:10]with our heart or hand some of us we do it with

[105:11]our heart or hand our a tongue and our hand Imam Ali

[105:18]Ali Salim he says that's the person who's grabbed on to all

[105:24]traits of goodness you see a person that's in need help them

[105:30]feel for them say something the world scared right CEO is doing

[105:38]something wrong were afraid I'm going to lose my job Imam Ali

[105:44]answer's no what he says he says enjoining the good and forbidding

[105:50]evil doesn't just crease your sustenance or shorten your life don't be

[106:02]afraid drop the outcome but be wise in your situations when you're

[106:07]applying I'm going to be putting modules together on the website what

[106:12]I'm going to do those modules are going to have worksheets and

[106:17]worksheets are going to have exams I'm going for like 13 and

[106:22]up that's what I'm going after now because that's what everything really

[106:26]starts and from there I'm going to be talking about discipline like

[106:31]understanding discipline the science of self confidence these are the things I'm

[106:36]tackling that are the core of the identity and how to build

[106:41]it so those are the things I'm going to start doing where

[106:43]I can kind of give myself at a completely different level and

[106:48]then it's not just me being in one place it can be

[106:50]what expanded and that's the best I can do right now in

[106:55]terms of that but that's what I'm doing okay so forgive me

[107:00]go ahead okay I just took off my shoes for this one

[107:41]man I'm getting ready with you and your son or your father

[108:01]to you okay I'm going to allow Michelle out you don't look

[108:09]like you but excellent good for you man okay so the question

[108:14]is and correct me if I'm wrong so I'm going to reiterate

[108:15]what you said and correct me if I'm wrong if that's that's

[108:20]the case so the question is is how do I hold the

[108:21]right communication between me and anybody who have authority over let's just

[108:28]say okay how do i improve my communication skills in parenting and

[108:33]thank you for the question by the way in parenting there's something

[108:38]that's very important okay and it's called emotional honesty what is emotional

[108:45]honesty emotional honesty is when the tongue can say one thing but

[108:51]the emotions are saying why something why different so I said there's

[108:55]four levels of communication right there's four languages of communication number one

[109:00]is verbal number two is behavioral number three is dress and number

[109:05]four I'm sorry is emotional okay so verbal behavioral emotional and dress

[109:11]those are the four languages now when I speak to my son

[109:19]sometimes I have to do why they do things I don't like

[109:25]so what do I have to do I have to come in

[109:30]and do what discipline them correct that's what I have to do

[109:32]so when I do that it's very important how you set that

[109:40]mechanism up this is why and this is what you need to

[109:44]use I'm gonna give you the equation of what you need to

[109:46]use and this is the way it works and I've used that

[109:49]my daughter a lot but she's falling asleep because she's heard all

[109:55]this before trust me I mean here go at her all the

[109:57]time she's like just like coming at me and I'm coming at

[110:02]her but this is the way it works so I'll give you

[110:06]an example and I'm not gonna use her but because she always

[110:10]gets mad so here's what happens number one thing tell your child

[110:15]okay tell him or her tell him Baba do you want control

[110:23]over your own life what do you think most children gonna say

[110:32]1% ask anybody they want control correct if they want control here's

[110:36]what you need to give them that understanding when someone hands you

[110:41]control in freedom to choose here's what happens they hand you responsibility

[110:46]okay agreed so far okay now responsibility requires what discipline discipline is

[111:00]doing the boring stuff before what the fun stuff so when I

[111:06]tell them that when I'm speaking like high schools and stuff like

[111:10]that or universities I said when somebody hands you control to choose

[111:15]run because now you're gonna have to do the boring stuff before

[111:21]what the fun stuff when you have to do the boring stuff

[111:25]before the fun stuff what are you doing you're prioritizing teach them

[111:30]prioritization that's the key regardless of how they feel so when that

[111:42]person has to do something if they do the boring stuff before

[111:44]the fun stuff they have control and their discipline themselves that self-discipline

[111:49]this is where you come in now if they can't do the

[111:53]self-discipline what do you do you have to discipline them and you

[112:00]have to lay on them while rules most kids don't like one

[112:02]rules the second they can't do that self-discipline you have to come

[112:10]and discipline them that means you take over the responsibility that means

[112:15]what they lose their freedom to choose set that process I guarantee

[112:21]you I guarantee you that person will understand from there then they

[112:28]have to prioritize the responsibilities teach them time management and prioritization that's

[112:35]discipline from there if they can do that what that creates is

[112:40]higher levels of self esteem they actually like themselves more because they

[112:44]get stuff accomplished self esteem as a result it's not a state

[112:49]it's a result of getting and getting things right and gaining success

[112:56]winning the small steps all the time uh-huh there you go it's

[113:02]coming out okay go ahead go ahead okay excellent so you use

[113:17]something called the one degree rule the one degree rule is just

[113:19]stepping back when the anger hits step back put your tongue in

[113:27]between your teeth and by done so you don't speak literally and

[113:31]just step back once you step back hold yourself the Prophet says

[113:37]he says don't discipline while you are angry why you lose 90%

[113:44]of your cognitive power when you're angry you become black and white

[113:48]the frontal cortex literally shuts down which is the decision-making power it's

[113:54]incredible the Prophet knew this so on that level when you hit

[114:02]that state back off leave the situation and say this if they

[114:05]triggered you what you have a right if they triggered you and

[114:11]now you're telling the person I don't like what you decide literally

[114:15]say it I don't like what you descend I don't respect it

[114:18]and I don't agree with it when you're in a better state

[114:23]and more calm come back talk to me otherwise when I have

[114:31]in this conversation walk away you draw the line in the sand

[114:35]you let them know how you're thinking what you're feeling and why

[114:40]you don't accept their actions and the way they're treating you once

[114:46]you do that what happens I guarantee you 99% of the time

[114:50]they're gonna come back to you and then I tell you I'm

[114:56]sorry I didn't mean that because they have to think now why

[114:59]Cosima Ali Ali Salaam he says a Latin al-kibriya oh my god

[115:05]if we just just look at this stuff it's incredible he says

[115:09]to be forbearing meaning to hold back when you're angry is the

[115:15]grave of sins for others they will come back and apologize gives

[115:18]them the chance to see their mistake and once you do that

[115:25]it takes a lot of power and will to be able to

[115:27]draw back but sometimes you have to be assertive but don't do

[115:33]it too much hold your line let them know you don't accept

[115:36]what they're doing but why when you do that five or six

[115:41]times here's what happens when you are assertive this is what you

[115:45]say I didn't disrespect you I didn't raise my voice at you

[115:52]you did ABCD which is completely opposite of my behavior don't treat

[115:58]me like that I don't accept it who's the victim now you

[116:06]are but all you did was hold this thing back you see

[116:10]how that works that's a lot of strength that's mental muscle you

[116:17]need to pull on that before the action not after because when

[116:20]you pull on that after you feel regret I should have done

[116:23]that I don't feel right that make sense so take that in

[116:31]that way for them to have freedom they have to have what

[116:36]they have to own the responsibility they can't own the responsibility they

[116:40]have to have to own the responsibility you have to have discipline

[116:43]and explain to them what happens when they put someone in jail

[116:46]what do they take away the freedom why because they couldn't handle

[116:49]what the responsibility therefore they didn't have the discipline and they did

[116:54]the fun stuff before mine the blind stuff it's very simple as

[117:01]out why lay out but you got to be able to do

[117:04]it but these are the courses by the way I'm going to

[117:06]be setting up literally what edge gave you is a source I

[117:09]just gave her for the high school high school which is first

[117:12]our international I contracted with them so if your kids are going

[117:15]through good for you but Lily I'm running 18 sessions for them

[117:20]in terms of these kinds of things and how you discipline yourself

[117:24]at those levels so in sha Allah I hope that helped in

[117:29]terms of what's going on but I think for now that's that's

[117:31]enough and inshallah thank you so much and I just want to

[117:36]say this before you guys leave okay if you haven't went on

[117:39]the retreat and I wish I would have said this earlier the

[117:45]retreat for me was the thing that changed my whole life I

[117:49]literally went as a person who was wearing the tight shirt okay

[117:57]I came back and I wanted to go to Hajj it was

[118:00]crazy like literally my friends didn't know what happened to me one

[118:03]of them said are you going to bin Laden school like literally

[118:08]why but I felt the sense of belonging if you can go

[118:12]please go it will change your life it will guarantee it if

[118:21]your intention is right go put yourself in these situations once I

[118:25]went I made a promise to myself that I was going to

[118:29]go to Hajj when I went to Hajj what happened it changed

[118:34]my life as well then I went to Z ATO I said

[118:39]you just continue the retreat is like a mini Hajj it is

[118:43]great people great friends and you'll be able to see what's in

[118:48]your heart there people will be people there that will listen to

[118:52]you they run them ask for the upfront and I don't know

[118:54]anybody that's part of it so guys I was like you I

[119:00]was literally following snn and other speakers everywhere they went okay now

[119:04]every Thursday night I mean has an end speaker wise like I'm

[119:10]next that's my boy - okay but everyone everyone here from sightless

[119:15]weenie okay says when he was the first person I met Lilly

[119:17]at that level he was that was the first retreat so god

[119:23]bless him smack - say it people like him who take these

[119:26]routes and they pull people out of the river of society that's

[119:35]literally what happens so become also that person go on these retreats

[119:39]and trust me trust me trust me I promise you you won't

[119:45]regret it you won't that was my starting point now I've spoken

[119:52]all over not just national/international I've been on some of the highest

[119:58]stages in hamdulillah that's by the grace of Allah but I carry

[120:01]the flag with me ever I go and be like that so

[120:06]that's what you need to do insha'Allah go on the retreat my

[120:10]daughter has been on like I think what four or five at

[120:14]least can why these things are what they're very important for your

[120:18]identity to know who you are and to be around people who

[120:24]truly believe in the essence of the religion be around people like

[120:27]that and it's amazing what happens to you Solana Muhammad too Oh

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