The Purified Podcast #1: Random Q & A

42 Bekeken· 23/04/14

The Purified Podcast #1:

The questions asked in this episode:

1) why are you a Shi'a?

2) your favourite Shi'a scholar?

3) your favourite Sunni scholar?

4) your favourite book of hadith?

5) your favourite subject to read about?

6) one advice you can give to the Shi'a?

7) what are the biggest problems the Shi'a community faces in your opinion?

8) favourite hadith from the Prophet or Imams?

9) what is your advice for someone who wants to start practicing?

10) what advice would you give to yourself 10 years ago?

11) for a young brother that wants to get married in this generation, what advice would you give him?

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Transcript

[0:05][Music] [Applause] one sunny island filming assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh today we'll be

[0:25]visiting yeah what hasn't the child asking a few questions and discussed

[0:30]a few topics which I thought so that my my alaikum as-salaam

[0:34]what laughs I will be crown let's go straight into this thing

[0:38]there's no waste any time so I got a few questions for

[0:46]a refugee a little bit serious then what is it or why

[0:50]are you in particular a follower of metal rattling so that why

[1:00]you share Masuda rahmanir rahim allah la solana muhammad nur muhammad i

[1:05]think there's a very crucial question and i think it's an important

[1:09]question that every single shear he needs to ask himself on a

[1:16]daily basis on a consistent basis and be persistent with this question

[1:19]and be persistent in trying to achieve or acquire the answer why

[1:26]because too many of us have just inherited our religion we don't

[1:32]know why we are Shia and if we don't know why we

[1:36]are sure we can't really be proud yeah I mean you being

[1:38]proud of why you're Shia isn't really a valid reasoning you understand

[1:45]what I'm trying to say to you so I say this for

[1:47]example the reasoning behind I am a Shia it's specifically the consistency

[2:01]of rationality when it came to the beliefs or the principles of

[2:07]religion when it came to Shearson what do I mean now we

[2:10]don't want to get into a whole theological discussion going through one

[2:13]of ours or the Dean and then the discussions occurring with it

[2:18]and so forth know what we are discussing here is a specific

[2:22]matter and I'll give a specific example for example we say allah

[2:28]subhanahu wa'ta'ala russian knee has to be what the creator he is

[2:35]the one that shapes the shapes is the creator of the shapes

[2:42]he is the creator of forms when you go back to the

[2:44]textual evidences and you see what is the Shia belief regarding a

[2:52]loss of Hanna who were to odda you'd see that yet they

[2:55]say Allah doesn't have a body Allah doesn't have a form Allah

[3:00]doesn't have a location that fits exactly with the principles that I

[3:04]started with to start to believe in God right for example I

[3:07]believe Allah is unlimited there's no limit on love there's no head

[3:11]Dharma you go to other schools of thought you'd see that they

[3:16]say no he has a hand but not like our hog well

[3:18]whatever befits is whether befits his majesty so we say this call

[3:27]me true or that they believe for example you could see Allah

[3:29]on the day of done we say ok but then that means

[3:33]he's located another location so the principles that you started with to

[3:37]try to prove Allah now you're going against it but they say

[3:41]no you have to start believing in the text the second reason

[3:45]I am a Shia is once it's because when I looked into

[3:53]by the way there is more rationality to why I became Shia

[3:57]oh why I am Shia when it comes to toe he'd had

[4:02]a little nah no boy Muhammad may hide and so on well

[4:04]that was just a small example the second reason is because when

[4:10]you look at the investigation of the history of a militant what

[4:15]we mean and you look at who should have been caliph who

[4:20]should have been the Imam after a surah noor al-hadi you're either

[4:24]sena no one fits that characteristics that then attributes that fills that

[4:31]understanding of who to be who is the greatest being after a

[4:33]surah in LA or the greatest individual that should have taken the

[4:36]place of leadership on I'm here I mean says to you Shalini

[4:43]Shalini a plaintiff were tuning for a lie in the after the

[4:48]sama what you and earth ask me asking before I leave you

[4:53]for I know the navigation through the heavens and under earth my

[4:56]man is telling me this you want me to go to other

[5:00]than I'm here in what many now they'll say - yes but

[5:04]now now you have to choose between Smiley's ADEs that's another discussion

[5:09]muscular I couldn't go to another another individual even the sheer belief

[5:17]it sold all political economical financial problems what do I mean we're

[5:24]just just looking at it from the outside she has believed imam

[5:31]must be infallible imam must have any attorney a divine knowledge the

[5:37]imam must be chosen by allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala and we believe that

[5:44]allah subhanaw taala is just his merciful as this is that and

[5:50]he chooses the amount so when he comes to political mati he's

[5:53]not gonna get anything wrong it's not gonna be ecstatic ah general

[5:59]I mean so that's the second reason and again there's more discussion

[6:01]to it but we're gonna try and make this as brief as

[6:04]possible in Shaba the third reason is believe it or not actually

[6:12]you know honey at one point in my life I wasn't a

[6:13]shear but when I started reading the DA of the Imams of

[6:22]a debate I was so shocked - how come I see our

[6:33]journal Kabira something it's truly you see they always say this is

[6:36]what Donna is not just you supplicant asking for your needs in

[6:41]multi shape when you break that down and you look into in

[6:50]the description jamming is something this is unmatched I've never come across

[6:56]a text even hey I mean it's unbelievable it's a man unbelievable

[7:00]I'm just ahmadi then early Muhammad when you really least Ally probably

[7:09]from Hama Hama Society for said Giardia no I mean these matters

[7:17]these are the three reasons that makes um how can I'm not

[7:19]be a cheery and I advice for all brothers and sisters if

[7:24]you have a non-muslim for goodness - such idea let them read

[7:27]let them see what then molar a be Muhammad has said jarred

[7:33]how he speaks to his Lord it's a very very important book

[7:36]so inshallah that's the answer to the question I don't know if

[7:39]you have any other think you want to add to it that's

[7:44]where you are justified in your belief today okay so obviously we

[7:51]have as you mentioned earlier different types of oh yeah different branches

[8:00]so to speak don't see we follow a school of thought in

[8:03]which we follow a merger or scholar yeah so to speak who

[8:10]would you say is your favorite color so you ask in now

[8:13]on history or both I think let's start with no and then

[8:19]maybe we'll go to finish tree afterwards um to be honest to

[8:22]be I can't say to you which merger I like the best

[8:29]all of them are great but what I say is it I

[8:32]say for me someone that I can relate to and I love

[8:38]his work it chef Jeff allah subhan as we've seen many great

[8:41]works i will read all of them and I read a few

[8:45]I've skimmed through some of these other books just to see what's

[8:48]about the man money be magnetically may is a Kalama a polymath

[8:56]um someone less having mastered all Sciences for me she died for

[9:01]us of hunting this time this generation is probably my favorite as

[9:07]a Highlander and someone but I connect you as for in history

[9:12]I think done the champion of champions as a Harlem that's unbeatable

[9:19]did you think I'm gonna say I think Elena shaker Murphy it's

[9:33]yummy untouchable you gone again Master Sciences go and read about why

[9:39]in our opponent Sega by gonna read in Seattle Amman about what

[9:44]their be writes about it if he came the course of history

[9:52]what man do you get that the Imam sentences Vanessa Coulomb and

[9:55]more feed and and calls him his companion his friend and so

[10:02]forth Annie Murphy top of the ranked others now or both again

[10:14]again both let's address no no really see that now I don't

[10:20]have as a high on him I don't have a favorite okay

[10:22]I'm gonna see me in history um I would say dinner as

[10:32]a bar full like I've already enough from his work to say

[10:35]he's my favorite I would probably have to go with a baby

[10:40]okay and reason being is because it's either between him or silty

[10:46]why solutely food is good every simple science for Moroccan see he

[10:52]or on the when he's discussions on the sciences of Quran and

[10:56]a miracle it's something canny unmatched but I'll probably have to go

[11:01]with the heavy I love his book shiranami Nevada I love his

[11:05]books and I don't know it's just great book doesn't mean I

[11:10]agree with everything in their best great book as a Harlem is

[11:12]Musa enacted on and so I'm just amazing book so I do

[11:17]not feel like computer one from today I honestly don't I don't

[11:20]feel any one from our opponent right now is maybe you know

[11:32]what maybe she had him oniy the one that I meant in

[11:34]Saudi Arabia he's okay I like him but I can't save my

[11:41]favorite just there isn't anyone that I you know I should I

[11:47]share like a understanding of his work and I felt like it

[11:50]was a good job being done they're just my humble opinion not

[11:53]degrading any of their scholars when you think just don't feel like

[11:58]you know they is anyone that is my favorite right now okay

[12:01]next question which is what would you consider for both sexes cause

[12:11]a force means cause the force and slime your favorite book of

[12:16]Hadees what would she think I'm gonna say again you know me

[12:20]quite well well let's see actually in the comments section you write

[12:26]what you think is my favorite book of Hadees before I say

[12:33]it no cheating though God would even say I mean God try

[12:41]just no I mean what would you go for Oh probably say

[12:52]coffee but look in my face believe it or not it's not

[12:58]as popular oh yeah because you know it's it's this shining star

[13:04]among stars young as some of our own oh my I put

[13:11]it for me it has to be a jolly Takeshi although that

[13:16]is considerable coverage Alba is a hadith from the Imams I love

[13:19]Regina because I just I love the understanding of looking into delving

[13:23]into the different understanding of narrator's of hadith companions of the what

[13:30]the Imam says about them what they've done how they got just

[13:36]for me that's just fascinates me so I would go Rajani Keshe

[13:39]what is your favorite subject to study or your favorite subject to

[13:45]read about I would have to say I really like the lyrics

[13:53]I'm gonna say yeah I love Fleming himself but when you're talking

[13:55]um because you have the obviously have the Sigma Chi Appalachia yeah

[14:00]it certainly Shepherd Amex definitely tops it all but I am starting

[14:03]to really like atheist stuff um I think it's quite a crucial

[14:11]thing first everyone's a society of the spread we do you do

[14:14]but I don't feel like it if it doesn't affect for us

[14:19]atheism hasn't affected our youth just ya know maybe in the Middle

[14:22]East a bit more but here no no no well yeah I'll

[14:28]say polemics are real economics I enjoy the reading of it I

[14:32]don't know they it gives me a rush of just reading and

[14:38]excited to see versus arguing how does he argue it trying to

[14:41]understand that even bother I like reading polemical works of those who

[14:45]oppose this yeah I really like that yeah do you know me

[14:51]personally when I read in some political issues I tend to perhaps

[14:55]read an argument form an opposing argument and you'll find yourself answering

[15:02]that question before you even move on to the answer that's been

[15:07]given from from what's called a fool yeah yeah I did all

[15:09]the time trying to address anything actually make how would that dress

[15:12]is particularly a question myself yeah I'm gonna play out the scenario

[15:18]and yet I think yeah just a touch on the subject of

[15:20]it when it comes to polemics i don't i usually we'd like

[15:26]to get involved in a lot but it's not no it's not

[15:28]for me anymore but it's it doesn't it doesn't create character it

[15:34]doesn't help progress it doesn't help you develop yes it has this

[15:39]time in place you should do it but I don't feel like

[15:42]you know we should be sitting there day and night doing it

[15:47]I feel like many arguments bought from both sides talking sunni-shia is

[15:55]just sometimes just faces like okay thanks for that quaint what you

[16:00]want to do now to me wrong I mean from both sides

[16:04]yeah I'm not just the opposing sides okay that's quiet in today's

[16:09]day and age as well I think it's getting more and more

[16:11]over here it got better at a stage but we personal feel

[16:15]when you look at the scene nowadays there's a lot paying us

[16:18]about this above my argument maybe your argument no price being taken

[16:25]in terms of degradation of character as opposed to yeah that's just

[16:30]that's just people that just sick man Teddy it's just your model

[16:41]just they do what they do you know I mean if you

[16:50]had one advice say for example the viewers watching now somebody's seeing

[16:55]them for the first time somebody may have never seen any of

[16:58]your videos before may never watch any of your videos ever again

[17:01]if you had one advice that you could give to the Shia

[17:03]one thing that you could say now that we've got to them

[17:07]what would it be today I would have to resume they just

[17:10]a peasant hen seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave Sync

[17:20]manager never stopped you on the bus going to work or to

[17:25]school University College wherever you're going PDF wait you're on the plane

[17:30]turn somewhere read you're on the sofa you have nothing to do

[17:37]for our read for you can't Eve you won't even know what

[17:40]makes a Shia become a Shia or is a Shia if you

[17:44]don't have you won't even know who your mom is you have

[17:48]nine so I'll definitely say make sure you have alien and seek

[17:54]knowledge and never stop the most important aspect of a person's life

[18:02]is AI for seeking knowledge builds character it develops you a mother

[18:07]I'm not just saying seek knowledge in matters of religion matters of

[18:11]religion office is the primary thing the secondaries seek knowledge and other

[18:13]matters other Sciences maths science economics and so forth go for it's

[18:22]not a bad thing seek knowledge educate yourself so you learn more

[18:30]about philosophy of life philosophy of existence your Creator your prophet your

[18:37]Quran your Imam know yourself without signal you will not know yourself

[18:41]why do you react to certain things why is there a voice

[18:47]saying to commit the same way how do you tackle it how

[18:53]do you fight off wood off Shaitaan how do you act is

[18:55]scenting how do you react to certain things these are aspects that

[18:58]are very important to understand one can say seek knowledge yeah I

[19:05]mean we get so busy with this life that we actually forget

[19:10]to seek knowledge because we work so much family who that na

[19:18]na na make time one la make time one more make time

[19:20]we have wasted our life running around Netflix Adam I'm not saying

[19:27]don't watch that you don't watch you know the halal soaps and

[19:30]hell outros but um as it's time like let that be your

[19:38]reward for example for example you go to work you come back

[19:41]you spend time with the family and you study for 3-4 hours

[19:47]your religion you socialize with your friends on social media then you

[19:50]sit down for a break and you just watch your shop method

[19:54]oh yeah it's your life go and seek knowledge what you would

[20:04]understand how how much I wanna MA our righteous PD says our

[20:07]seller for Sylar that was an hour don't get scared we're not

[20:13]talking about that Salafist I was talking about our branches predecessors is

[20:19]honey they sacrificed so much the least we could do is know

[20:23]about them learn what they were trying to them you know passed

[20:29]down to us so I would say seek knowledge do that's the

[20:31]best advice and just like share the Senate I wanna I wanna

[20:36]met him in nature I so what's your advice for the youth

[20:38]and Wes he says a painter I paid them a cleaner let

[20:43]our feet and map out your life you know how brilliant that

[20:47]statement is you know why does he saying to you listen it

[20:53]is the thing that tells you what's your next step do you

[20:55]take this job or do you not take this job this person

[21:00]is swearing at you how do you react to him you're hungry

[21:07]you wanna eat you get hungry I got angry so bad how

[21:10]they react to it okay so moving on love yeah just a

[21:18]mess question I hope for yourself yes sir it's one of my

[21:22]upset some but however my mind drink / - eh Allah one

[21:27]of the biggest problems the Shia community faces in your opinion hey

[21:31]this is juicy man this is dawn would have to talk about

[21:38]and I'd love to talk about okay so like I said I

[21:42]don't feel like we are affected the Shia community is affected by

[21:46]atheism like the Sunni community oh why not I'm not saying because

[21:53]of him he's for some reason China attack here or anything like

[21:57]that I just feel like our main problem is root is Teixera

[22:04]has become a cultural rather than a religion for a few reasons

[22:09]reason one and tell me if you agree or disagree and I

[22:13]don't have a problem most of them started inheriting a it's just

[22:17]become inheritance yeah - she ISM has just become more like you

[22:27]got medalist senior ya Hossein above just beating dima make sure it's

[22:40]Kerala yeah and then afterwards she Showtime and then boom that's it

[22:46]most of us just cry a bit you know because we blow

[22:51]up to cry a bit my mom and her seinen and that's

[22:54]it so it's culture our main problem is culture yeah I mean

[23:01]we need to tackle culture we need to really really tackle this

[23:07]problem with into sugar is Teixera is not a culture Shia error

[23:15]Hussain is not a culture we need to stop becoming cults we

[23:18]need to start becoming more religious she had that practice their religion

[23:27]and without Johnny or of course without naming anyone the many brothers

[23:32]you see them they're the first to serve the first Dale part

[23:36]which is brilliant amazing but then you go and see them do

[23:38]Haram and then they did you want they expose you on social

[23:45]media may say yeah this type of actions is unacceptable one less

[23:50]unacceptable yeah and well it's like we live in a confused state

[23:56]you have those you go on the member those who go on

[23:59]the member then they want to like just in a certain way

[24:03]they want to have a certain type of hairstyle ya need look

[24:05]Shabaab I'm not saying don't look good being religious doesn't mean look

[24:09]ugly now look good what won't look good and I'm not saying

[24:14]like you don't like to Joe your hair no go ahead but

[24:19]she any aqua blue aqua etiquette Jan some not everything that is

[24:24]not Haram you should do for example we don't have a narration

[24:31]or we don't have even if - if I'm not wrong for

[24:36]my knowledge you know I might be ignorant this matter but for

[24:39]me I haven't seen it is that yeah and that says it's

[24:45]Haram on this - Charlotte of one of the Imams accept the

[24:48]imam husain or Amira won't mean for example but the other amounts

[24:54]for example is this it's the shot of Imam Joe at these

[24:57]few nights where it says it's Haram for you - for example

[25:05]go and do like a like I don't know like a gathering

[25:08]and laughs and so on and not laughs just do like a

[25:12]gathering and give presents to your kids it's one of your kids

[25:16]birthdays no it says how much is it the etiquette to do

[25:18]that from the know of course we have a wire that says

[25:23]you know you should be sad that our sadness and happy our

[25:26]happiness so hey I'm not just talking about happiness I'm talking more

[25:31]about you know giving presents to your do to your son and

[25:38]so on and like I don't know making a cake for them

[25:42]no don't teach your kids that it's this the shot of imam

[25:44]ja what no cake sorry present I'll buy few in a week

[25:49]Habibi you know I mean because it's culture our main problem is

[25:52]culture and it's a difficult way to even takuan battle such negative

[26:05]aspect black culture where religions become is so difficult you know like

[26:11]it's much easier to tackle and fight off you know liberalism or

[26:14]eight years and more feminism because it's it's it's it's ideology and

[26:18]you know those ways of a few culture you have to consistently

[26:23]be patient with the people until they change better than them better

[26:27]than them exactly no and then they take there are positive aspects

[26:33]of course I mean if you look at for example the hierarchical

[26:38]- there's the whole the whole generosity generosity and God why there's

[26:42]the you know now what was she talking about the negative light

[26:48]which unfortunately there in my opinion again that's just my humble opinion

[26:51]is that the negative unfortunately far away is the positive forum is

[26:56]the positivity yeah a lot of negative culture that people would then

[27:00]try and implement and and then try and establish as actually no

[27:02]this is part of religion this is religion when in theory none

[27:07]of these things are from our religion rather they're just aspects of

[27:10]a particular backgrounds culture which then they're trying to force or in

[27:14]for some time with others who may mean follow their particular culture

[27:19]great yeah I think that we as a community haven't made that

[27:24]invade our culture yes we've prioritized our country's traditions baby dances you

[27:32]know even like I always say to like converts or Satan brother

[27:39]sister I mean if you converted in a Pakistani mosque you don't

[27:42]have to take on the Pakistani culture if you convert it in

[27:46]an Iranian mosque you don't have to become an Iranian or honey

[27:49]or roughly no no no your culture or your coach needs to

[27:55]be Ali Mohammed al-ameen Neifi jamesha olana Mohammad our coaches are you

[27:58]Mohammed and child will do will do a discussion about converse in

[28:05]the Shia community soon insha'Allah well I think yeah that's the one

[28:11]of the bad aspects of the Shia community my humble opinion and

[28:16]I would like to hear the brothers and sisters opinions you know

[28:20]in the comment section as well it allows no guys what you

[28:23]think is while the issues we may have with community let's start

[28:28]conversation a conversation or an argument okay that's just our conversation yeah

[28:32]some people address these issues that lay at the table okay um

[28:37]what would you say is massive it'll be a hard time what

[28:44]would you say it would be your favorite hadith either from the

[28:47]profit more from their moms I've even something so first of all

[28:53]I don't have to defeat you me if your mama saw that

[28:59]said it they also do customers they'll call is Wyatt they are

[29:03]the inheritors of the prophets a little ah anything wrong he will

[29:05]seldom so whatever comes to their intellect ja and nebula comes on

[29:10]the law and he learned it but there's a hadith that says

[29:13]the first of us is Muhammad the middle was Muhammad the last

[29:18]of us is in Hamlet and all of us on so why

[29:29]did Fortunato so when the Imam says a hadith is always that

[29:36]means a jump they've said it together Sharla that's point one as

[29:46]for your actual question for me what thing was in my air

[29:50]and never leaves me this is the narration of Imam and B

[29:56]Muhammad sa jot and even bings makes my hair stand what I

[29:59]say it it says the work is the statement that he said

[30:06]in his sermon when he was standing in the courtyard of wedlock

[30:09]in the yard where the Imam says al Patio Lana odda and

[30:18]the Bakula Lonardo worker am I to nominal our Shahada death to

[30:29]us is the norm and it is an honor from Allah that

[30:32]he gives us shot look what you can derive from him death

[30:39]to us is the no wanna kill us kill us we are

[30:44]brave death to us is the norm a death for believers something

[30:47]more comes and goes one because just like in every savvy sound

[30:53]says you go from one side of the bridge for the other

[30:56]side of the bridge that's what is your just crossing by the

[31:05]third one is wish I were back Yelena are they were Corral

[31:09]Mattoon are on Elijah that means we should fight strive to come

[31:13]artists in the way of Allah spawn Ohana but we should be

[31:20]on the path of Imam and he abdullah hussein and you're imagining

[31:25]says this after the death of his father after he was massacred

[31:32]in the lands of Karbala remember the statement yah Shia and The

[31:37]Bachelor learner are that what Kurama to nominal Arshad I think you

[31:44]mean us it sums up a metapod our emotional down your spine

[31:56]I remember every day of my wife's and Charlotte Charlotte so what

[32:03]advice would you have for somebody who's I recently started looking into

[32:10]religion or recently taken a decision to perhaps stop practicing their faith

[32:15]a bit raw seriously first step change your friends yeah for the

[32:21]prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says your friends are an image of

[32:27]you a narration by my memory serves me right Ameer al-mumineen Ali

[32:33]Salaam well he says you are upon what your companions of appointment

[32:40]why what can we understood from it well how can we put

[32:44]it into scope and the day-to-day life that we are living is

[32:50]that you have a friend that constantly use you know swear words

[32:56]for example without realising you start using it too without realizing at

[33:02]the end of the day from far people can't tell from the

[33:09]ignorant and non in current so this is an important factor so

[33:13]from far you know if your friends are the type of friends

[33:18]that you know they act in a specific way they loud they

[33:21]are rude to people in public then they can't tell the difference

[33:27]so change your friends that's the first one second one like I

[33:33]always say knowledge you're always any same any time voila you always

[33:38]say me in on it while it's like tools it tells you

[33:46]how to change it tells you how to how it gives you

[33:54]the guidance the map of how to change how to develop yourself

[33:57]knowledge so change your friends find new friends religious friends depend on

[34:05]yourself know that it's not going to be easy transition it would

[34:11]be a difficult one and keep on pushing forward and get knowledge

[34:17]get to know the religious community in sha allah and remember that

[34:26]practicing isn't just growing a beard isn't wearing a dish - arrant

[34:32]you know goofy and so on la being religious is praying your

[34:36]prayers on time being religious is making doubt to Allah relying on

[34:47]Allah depending on Allah and and the majority of of being religious

[34:53]is how you interact with people and know Allah Allah so Allah

[34:58]I knew I knew send them most of the companions that became

[35:01]Muslim became Muslim because of the flock of us really last remaining

[35:09]like so Allah how you interact with people so learn that when

[35:12]you interact with people you need to learn and that requires what

[35:16]that's my advice and Sharla to someone that wants to become practice

[35:23]on mobile you would you have anything I'd say those of you

[35:28]who maybe in more remote areas or you may not have a

[35:31]community will cross by to them oh if they do maybe there's

[35:36]not somebody in the community who's up a similar standing an age

[35:40]group or background as you saw so you may not relate with

[35:44]him we will be able to socialize with them so to speak

[35:47]you know we haven't you know they have social media friends wrote

[35:53]a lot talk online or probably speak more to your friends online

[35:57]and speak to your peers in in person so and travel was

[36:00]wrong when I make the effort not make therefore you understand I

[36:07]agree I haven't always lived around people work of religion I'm used

[36:11]to live quite far away but you make that initiative and you

[36:14]know it's not as cost effective but you know everything comes out

[36:20]price hit that you need to surround yourself as had some same

[36:23]move with people who do good the more you hang around with

[36:28]your old friends be whoever they may be or the more you're

[36:30]gonna find yourself influenced by them and before you know it you're

[36:34]acting in almost the same way as their no I definitely think

[36:42]changing your friends and acquiring knowledge and understanding the importance of Allah

[36:48]most important thing to work on first and foremost before even I

[36:55]think attending and interesting about this agreement but that's probably they kind

[36:58]of work hand in hand gain knowledge you need a backlog noted

[37:02]son son a clonk you need to attain knowledge in order to

[37:07]do so but make it I'd say your focal point focus on

[37:10]should be the earth loggin of knowledge more than anything I mean

[37:16]me personally I haven't always been the practice in person Bernina many

[37:22]who probably will be a bit shocked but an evil man even

[37:25]so if you could look back say let us say ten years

[37:30]ago for example and just I know my question is if you

[37:32]could go back ten years ago what would you say to yourself

[37:36]ten years ago that you wish you could have done that me

[37:38]didn't bother you no no time is the essence the importance of

[37:50]time I spent way too much time just hanging around with friends

[37:56]um you know once on the streets and and so forth and

[37:59]I wasted my time when I could have been doing something good

[38:08]learning progressing so I would say to myself two things time is

[38:13]the essence and weed and ok again and I'm very caring this

[38:25]yeah yeah honestly and I won't say has some pick up a

[38:29]book as I'm read that's that's why I would say to my

[38:33]so what about you mean what if I just determines myself ten

[38:35]years ago I mean there's things will come to it a love

[38:40]day that I'd probably say to myself know him what I don't

[38:46]know she come from come from I think first and foremost somebody

[38:48]would be able to focus on while studying him understanding and I'm

[38:54]a close relationship of the last final time the perfume that he'd

[38:58]been tylium stolen from through learning and as we mentioned previously I

[39:04]tell myself to stop hanging around with the people that I was

[39:08]hanging around with back there because a lot of time was wasted

[39:16]I procrastinated a lot you know time that could have been used

[39:20]to benefit if not myself to at least benefit others rather than

[39:24]one time that was benefiting nobody whatsoever so yeah I'd probably say

[39:28]don't I know these guys they see time of essence yeah yeah

[39:37]I think definitely time to their sense and acquire knowledge let's go

[39:46]one last question has our experiences no but if a young brother

[39:57]was to be looking for married or looking to get married in

[40:06]today's generation I would what advice would you have him that's not

[40:13]something I would say man honestly I would say I'll say look

[40:18]brother you want to get married you need to have the mentality

[40:25]too much our communities focus on the financial side of things they

[40:30]too much focus on oh what university graduated from what diploma do

[40:37]you have what masters were paged all of that mentality are you

[40:43]ready are you ready to get married have you understood the responsibilities

[40:48]I'll get to marry have you understood how to deal with a

[40:52]woman for the system don't take it like I'm saying and then

[40:58]it's it's a you know you need it's difficult and practiced but

[41:03]not like just like he needs to learn how to deal with

[41:07]a woman a woman needs to learn how to deal with man

[41:10]you know it comes with experience and something no one was only

[41:13]in a negative way but man has one aspect of how to

[41:18]respect the world this is so important so important how to respect

[41:22]a woman how to honor a woman and understand these aspects of

[41:27]married life I just think most people don't understand responsibilities I know

[41:32]a lot of friends of mine that got married like oh I

[41:36]didn't know there was that much responsibility can afford so what did

[41:40]you expect - would you just forget married and then it was

[41:45]like what's not wise and she led the prince of course of

[41:49]those responsibilities huge responsibilities I'll be honest with you I find it

[41:55]so dumb I find it so difficult son Allah brother to balance

[42:03]work family studying reading socializing YouTube Facebook it's it's very very difficult

[42:10]but you have to balance it out and I happen you have

[42:15]to understand for sponsoring so I would say get you on man

[42:17]mentality right don't think through your desires of just wanting to be

[42:24]physical and obviously you want it to be Holloman shot a lot

[42:26]so you want to get married laughs believe me because marriage is

[42:29]more than just being physical and so forth now marriage has responsibilities

[42:36]this ways of dealing with things you need to understand your wife

[42:42]is not always going to be in the mood your wife is

[42:44]not always going to be happy some days she's gonna be upset

[42:48]some days she does want to go to her family's house which

[42:50]takes me to the second point is when you get married you're

[42:55]not getting married only to her you get married to her parents

[42:57]brothers her sisters in what sense and it's the sensor as in

[43:03]you're part of a family now don't start getting upset every every

[43:06]word sometimes your father-in-law says something wrong you start games that don't

[43:11]do that I always say I always tell people that's your own

[43:14]biological father does he not say things that upsets you yes cool

[43:19]do you forgive him yeah okay you've got a second father now

[43:24]you have to be patient you upset them you've upset your wife

[43:27]so these things are very important know that you're not just getting

[43:30]married to her house you're gonna be part of a new family

[43:35]this is very important process and sisters one so for you brother

[43:39]you want to get married no you need to be mentally ready

[43:42]and know that your because you're going to be part of a

[43:50]family I'm free which is an obvious one but I think it's

[43:53]important to state is go out make a living I know too

[44:00]many guys they get married and you know there's the they quitting

[44:03]the honeymoon period it's for the first six months he some people

[44:09]drag it on for like five six years mr.

[44:11]Donner is like yeah it's like I've even gone get a job

[44:14]- dog gone good job make something of yourself you know like

[44:22]too many too many times people just think let's do 15 years

[44:29]old and only is that just basically found a you know quote-unquote

[44:32]a Muslim girl friend for life now and no it's not like

[44:35]that we be uneven period ends after a few months and then

[44:41]things get serious responsibilities nah go out make a living keep yourself

[44:48]busy you don't want to be in each other's faces all the

[44:50]time so be be ready for the responsibilities of the mentality I

[44:54]know that you're going to be part of another family that do

[44:58]things in a completely different way think in a different way operate

[45:01]in a different way and don't be scared there's to my brothers

[45:07]and sisters don't be scared to get married outside of your and

[45:11]culture or outside of your background ethnicity and the handle I think

[45:18]we dis generation starts it's good it's good well yeah so what

[45:26]do you think yeah I think labret room for me has some

[45:32]saying is that you have any more juice because I'm elaborating one

[45:40]has some saying I think you do you need to be mentally

[45:47]ready for it well this is mine yeah you have to be

[45:48]mentally ready for it emotionally you need to be ready for it

[45:51]physically need to be ready for it I think what a lot

[45:56]of people and a lot of cultures and people from certain backgrounds

[46:00]have this whole mindset as well as I'm saying up this fall

[46:05]you have to have some sort of business and you have to

[46:07]have a house and Driver expensive blonde I mean by the time

[46:15]he gets married is real but you know I'd say even if

[46:18]you're more financially well-off even if you can you know you can

[46:21]just about provide the you know like most plan with battling will

[46:26]increase your resum even me personally as well as mothers and you

[46:29]know be if we had any financial difficulties Our Lives you know

[46:37]getting married is something which has increased on has everyone falls on

[46:42]hard times and vomit those hard times beat this one into you

[46:44]rather just remember that we're from the father's Vanya Mohammed unless it

[46:49]was supposed to be easy anything we have taken strides and be

[46:53]faithful forever fight for the test that you're giving hopefully for the

[46:58]cost of humble or magazine may be given and again it's aiming

[47:02]for brother has some saying this to try and marry outside if

[47:06]you're conscious you know the Prophet himself so know Mahoney who is

[47:10]told us to try and marry from my side about tribes so

[47:13]let's do it miss this Marriott from other cultures although maybe our

[47:17]parents or our grandparents of our communities may not agree at the

[47:23]end of the day with building bridges is a hobby you can

[47:26]add coffee so intend to work cheerful when someone asked the Imam

[47:31]Imam Assad upon Iran so volume 5 kita burgnik I um he

[47:37]says basically my parents were me to marriage certain marry certain someone

[47:41]but I want someone else the amount just American you want if

[47:47]I'm much my memory says in right the Senators idea what's on

[47:54]so you know it's not about your parents are not gonna get

[47:57]married for you you are going to get married you choose you

[48:02]look at what you want what you don't want think operate don't

[48:05]don't think it's not just about thinking of your heart think with

[48:07]your heart with your brain see ask your parents to allow you

[48:15]to speak to her and then like that you can get to

[48:21]know each other to understand you know how you won't lie to

[48:24]you you know operate will you how you want to deal with

[48:28]kids if she wants to work she doesn't want to work all

[48:30]of these factors so that you don't get married then all of

[48:34]a sudden it's like oh I didn't know you do it yeah

[48:36]you get surprised I don't like you're in the shop right then

[48:39]like a nasty shrub for like six months yeah by the way

[48:45]majority of the time people when they get married I think the

[48:48]first year not constant fine I think if it's constant fine then

[48:54]it's unhelpful but there is a bit more fighting than normal and

[48:56]that's normal by the way it's because they you're trying to get

[49:02]to know each other like you still don't know how other person

[49:04]does things and things like that he might see a joke you

[49:12]don't just understand your surroundings be an adult about it be mentally

[49:17]ready know that you you're what you're getting yourself into responsibilities behind

[49:21]it and may Allah give you tow feared to anyone that wants

[49:25]to get married so soon a number we're I would definitely recommend

[49:29]all brothers and sisters when they feel they are physically mentally spiritually

[49:33]emotionally ready to get married - not money with a single day

[49:40]go on work get married insha'Allah and maybe we can discuss one

[49:49]day how do you find a wife or how does a wife

[49:53]find the husband of course in our day and age because nor

[49:55]the families I have to be the man looking so as the

[49:59]woman is looking at so every everybody's stories if I were just

[50:03]different to mine yeah I'd say to little brothers and sisters for

[50:06]that matter as well is that buy more often mom I've been

[50:12]very fortunate but I'm often not how father's who said to me

[50:15]Sammy I can't find Mary John finds it too difficult dance they

[50:20]see I'm sure probably the same your sisters also have that being

[50:23]said don't be disheartened don't let that be something like gets into

[50:31]our heads in place you know tricks in your mind that you

[50:33]believe that you'll never forget sorry guys really seems I've got a

[50:36]bit of a technical issue there sums that the camera cut out

[50:41]absolutely just talking too long yeah Sammy's just repeating a lot of

[50:45]what I'm saying now I'm joking but um handled uh Charlie you

[50:51]all benefited from this Q&A if you liked it let me know

[50:57]each other we can do some more inshallah and maybe this time

[50:58]we'll allow them to ask the questions and if I do and

[51:02]you can ask the rest of my question or something maybe we

[51:04]could do that as well and Charlotte um remember us in your

[51:10]doubts and may Allah Spanish Allah bless you all haha salam ala

[51:15]sayyidina muhammad well he waited are you being a bar

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