The Polarity Between Masculinity and Femininity - Sayed Mehdi Qazwini (Night 8 Muharram 2019)

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The Polarity Between Masculinity and Femininity - Sayed Mehdi Qazwini (Night 8 Muharram 2019) at the Ahlul Bayt Center of Toledo

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[0:00]to have one more time for the memory of our sister who

[0:03]we lost rahmanir rahim hamdu lillahi rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa salam

[0:30]ala ashrafilal mba even more serene Habib al-ajami Nabil cozumel Mustafa Muhammad

[0:40]vada Liberty I be no paranal Massimino al muntaha beam sallallahu assalamu

[0:47]alayka ya rasul allah sallallahu wasallam ah Ali ka-bar abdullah yah rahmatullahi

[0:58]wa my abenader till gallatin Arcana mark on CD vana forza forza

[1:09]edema audhu billahi min ash-shaitani rajim bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim voila - taman

[1:19]oma follow allah who be he become a la ba la jolla

[1:25]no-sebum in Mecca Sabu wellness a NOC boom accessible Wasser ollahm fodhla

[1:33]analogic arabic allah shayin Alima sadaqa allahu al azim salut allah muhammad

[1:39]wa ala muhammad verse number 32 of chapter 4 in the Quran

[1:50]reminds us not to covet what one another has in other words

[2:01]do not desire something that is destined for somebody else and even

[2:08]simpler terms the Quran is explaining the human tendency to see the

[2:13]grass is greener on the other side and that's to say that

[2:21]we always think that others have it better the person on the

[2:25]other side either has it better than me they have less hardships

[2:31]than me I'm struggling my struggle is unique nobody has struggled in

[2:36]the way that I have struggled and it's all about me and

[2:43]my problems and my challenges and if only I had more time

[2:47]if only I had better looks if only I had more money

[2:53]if only if only and sometimes we live an entire life based

[2:57]off of the phrase if only so the Quran says when a

[3:05]determined Noma Fadlallah Habiba become a la Barthe larae jolliness EBU mimicked

[3:10]s Abu well in Nisa in a saebom mimicked a sub and

[3:13]the reality is that moral trials come with everything that is good

[3:22]and everything that is bad so if you're rich there are moral

[3:25]trials if you are poor there are moral trials if you're wealthy

[3:29]there are moral trials if you're not there are also moral trials

[3:35]and if you read the commentary of this verse you would come

[3:39]to know that commentators suggest that a group of women came to

[3:43]the prophet muhammad sallallahoalyhiwasallam and they asked him the question that why

[3:55]is it that men receive double the inheritance of woman or why

[4:04]is it that men are spiritually it seems like spiritually they're placed

[4:10]ahead because they're placed at the forefront for instance in the issue

[4:15]of jihad and the in the issue of battle and fighting and

[4:18]it's very interesting because it seems from this verse that even during

[4:27]those days men and women were confused about their roles in society

[4:31]as we see today men and women confused about their roles in

[4:35]society so in the case of jihad and being at the forefront

[4:42]even though that was ordained to men that was the responsibility of

[4:46]men even in those early days there were women that were fighting

[4:50]on the forefront a prominent example of that is no suburban scab

[4:58]a woman who was one of the first people who came from

[5:02]medina to pledge to the Prophet because before the Prophet left Mecca

[5:06]to go to Medina there were a number of pledges that took

[5:11]place and within those pledges the people of Medina had pledged had

[5:15]committed that if the Prophet came to him that came to them

[5:18]they would serve his mission they would help him so normally that

[5:24]was the business of men however she was one of the only

[5:27]ladies that participated with the men she wanted personally herself to pledge

[5:32]in her assistance in support of the Prophet and when the Prophet

[5:37]came she followed through with her commitment she went out into the

[5:42]battlefield in fact during the Battle of Oh hood when times became

[5:46]tough as described in the Quran and when the Prophet was almost

[5:50]abandoned completely narrations tell us that there was only a handful of

[5:56]people that stayed behind to defend the Prophet about five or six

[5:59]people she was one of those people when other men run away

[6:03]she stood there defending him even after the life of the Prophet

[6:08]she continued to participate by standing in the front lines of the

[6:13]battlefield so it seems that even in those days there was some

[6:17]confusion as to what the role of men and women are and

[6:22]so in light of that what I want to talk about is

[6:27]the question of masculinity and femininity because in today's world those questions

[6:33]exist in contemporary society and not just masculinity and femininity but you

[6:40]have you know you have the modern and the rise of the

[6:46]modern feminist movement and then there's the counter to that if you've

[6:50]heard of the meninist movement you know we always have to there's

[6:52]always one-upsmanship if you do something I have to do it better

[6:59]and where do those movements find their foundations now I want to

[7:02]talk about it from a social perspective but also focusing creating our

[7:06]focus on the Quran because if you stray away from the Quran

[7:09]you can get lost in the mumbo-jumbo of things so the number

[7:16]one question when it comes to masculinity we have this idea of

[7:21]what masculine it's years we have this idea of what femininity is

[7:27]and for most people their ideas are informed by what simply by

[7:33]their association and what they see on TV so when a man

[7:38]looks up when a boy looks up to his father he's looking

[7:41]up to his father to provide a model of masculinity to him

[7:47]when a boy or a girl looks up to the mother they

[7:50]are looking up to her to fill the role of femininity so

[7:56]the question is how do we define ourselves how do people define

[8:00]themselves because these terms are sometimes they're arbitrary and sometimes they sort

[8:06]of get confused and convoluted how do you define yourself do you

[8:13]define yourself by your job by your career by you being a

[8:22]parent if you if you wrote out the definition of myself and

[8:26]you wrote out your name what would you find there sometimes we

[8:34]tend to define ourselves by things that you know are sort of

[8:39]arbitrary and when we when we lose those things in our life

[8:42]it's as if we've lost everything in our life so if a

[8:48]person is described by their career or by their job for 40

[8:53]or 50 years of their life what happens when they're no longer

[8:57]practicing that job or practicing that career when their entire purpose is

[9:02]based upon that title when their entire meaning of life is based

[9:06]upon that title what happens when they're stripped of that title or

[9:13]when they retire they say one of the biggest killers of people

[9:17]is retirement and by retirement they you know not doing anything it's

[9:21]giving up your job and then not committing yourself to anything meaningful

[9:24]or committing yourself to anything purposeful and people who live long lives

[9:29]or people who continue even after the age of quote unquote retirement

[9:33]they continue to put their life in meaningful projects and purposeful projects

[9:39]so how do you define yourself if you ask yourself when it

[9:45]comes to success everybody wants success in this world how do you

[9:51]define success is it by the fact that you are a son

[9:56]or a daughter or a wife or a husband is that how

[10:02]you define your success the reason I bring that up is because

[10:05]we tend to sort of with that mindset we tend to reduce

[10:08]ourselves human beings so what they are in terms of the service

[10:17]that they can provide so we look at a person and we

[10:20]say that as long as this person can provide the service they

[10:24]are of value as long as they can't provide the service anymore

[10:28]they're of no value they have no value to society at all

[10:31]they have no value to their family at all the other day

[10:35]I mentioned the story of the the gentleman who you know was

[10:42]was very successful and he lived his life by the standard of

[10:44]you know living up to his father's image of success he wanted

[10:47]his father to always be happy and proud and then finally when

[10:52]he purchased that home if you remember the story and the father

[10:55]looks in the corner of the room and says there's a there's

[10:59]a watermark on the ceiling and he realized that at that moment

[11:01]that he's never gonna be able to live up to his father

[11:06]no matter what so this gentleman goes on he says that he

[11:09]would conduct interviews with some of the most successful people and he

[11:13]would ask them the first question he would ask them is what

[11:18]is your measure of success like where does your success come from

[11:21]so he says one day he was conducting an interview with a

[11:28]very successful lady I think he said it was Maria Shriver something

[11:31]like that from the Kennedy family and and you know he asked

[11:34]her what's your definition of success so he's expecting this big long

[11:37]complicated answer and she gives him a very simple answer she says

[11:43]success is being a good daughter to my parents a good mother

[11:45]to my children a good wife to my husband simple very basic

[11:52]things so he sort of had an epiphany there and he realized

[11:53]I've been asking all of these people what their definition of success

[11:57]is but I don't even know what my definition of success is

[12:02]I don't even know how I define my own self so how

[12:08]do you define yourself if you're if your sole purpose in this

[12:13]world is to be a father or a mother and nothing else

[12:20]then what happens if a person loses their child and they're no

[12:24]longer a father or a mother or if their sole purpose is

[12:27]to be a worker what happens when they don't have meaningful employment

[12:31]anymore so we tend to define people and we tend to define

[12:35]ourselves by the service that we give to society now this ties

[12:40]in with the whole idea of masculinity and femininity and even when

[12:45]we talk about issues such as equal pay and why are these

[12:47]even a reason in the first place but this type of thinking

[12:51]is dangerous I'll share a couple of examples with you in 1911

[12:56]there was a mechanical engineer by the name of Frederick Winslow Taylor

[13:00]he wrote a book called the principles of scientific management and the

[13:05]whole idea of the principles of scientific management was how do we

[13:11]find a way to increase efficiency in the workplace because in America

[13:15]the model of work was the agrarian model and then it shifted

[13:22]to the industrial model so before that time before the Industrial Revolution

[13:25]people I mentioned the other day the most common job for people

[13:30]four out of five Americans were farmers so to remove those farmers

[13:33]and then now put them into factories especially during the days of

[13:36]World War one and World War two where people needed to be

[13:40]in factories to produce he wrote a book called the principles of

[13:44]scientific management the whole idea was now you have these masses of

[13:46]people that you've gotten off the farms and you've put into the

[13:49]factory now what how do you how do you increase efficiency so

[13:57]him naturally being a mechanical engineer and if you've noticed sometimes when

[14:03]you have a certain profession or you've learned something you begin to

[14:09]see everything through that lens so Mechanical Engineers is gonna look at

[14:14]everything in terms of efficiency because as a mechanical engineer you have

[14:17]to be very efficient in your process if you're building something it

[14:21]has to be extremely efficient so you tend to see things based

[14:25]on your pet if you're a mathematician what happens when you see

[14:27]numbers or if you're an English major what happens if you see

[14:32]a word that is misspelled if someone writes there instead of there

[14:37]or instead of there what happens you lose your mind why because

[14:40]that's the paradigm that you see everything I had a relative one

[14:45]time who is building a home and every time he would walk

[14:48]into somebody else's home he would begin to measure things you know

[14:51]how is how far is this corner from that corner and you

[14:56]know this platform from that platform and this room how big is

[15:01]it because it's something that he was involved in so you begin

[15:05]to see from that point of view so Frederick Winslow Taylor developed

[15:09]an entire philosophy which was referred to as Taylorism Taylorism refers to

[15:15]the principles of scientific management how do you crew increase efficiency in

[15:20]a workplace so people were reduced in a factory they were reduced

[15:24]to a commodity - upon their value was based on how efficient

[15:32]they were if a person is efficient he stays or she if

[15:35]a person is not efficient they go now efficiency is important but

[15:40]more efficient it more important than efficiency is effectiveness to be effective

[15:45]is different than being efficient efficient is doing doing things right effectiveness

[15:53]is doing the right things so it's a little bit a notch

[15:56]above now his intentions were very well but because people were defined

[16:04]by how efficient they were they were used as pawns and commodity

[16:07]it was a very good system in creating efficiency but you know

[16:10]what the adverse effect was is that a few decades later Nazi

[16:15]Germany began to use the same philosophy when they were building their

[16:18]state if a person is not an efficient part of the state

[16:21]he's done for another example I'll give you when it comes to

[16:30]the idea of Marxism socialism communism Robert Shiller writes in his book

[16:35]self-love he talks about an example where in 1949 there was there

[16:39]was a girl who was three years old who in San Marino

[16:45]California had fallen into a well and as soon as she fell

[16:47]into that well the city began to spend exorbitant amounts of money

[16:53]to try to try to pull her out they spent a total

[16:55]of two hundred and fifty thousand dollars and in the end they

[16:58]could not save her life so Robert Shiller talks about he he

[17:05]mentions a conversation between two communists two American communists so we still

[17:08]have common they still exist by the way there's still the American

[17:13]Communist Party they're still around so he talks about a conversation between

[17:16]them he says that one of them said to the other that

[17:21]how ridiculous why would you spend two hundred and fifty thousand dollars

[17:23]trying to save a life do you know what you can do

[17:27]with that money you can build a hospital and so what what

[17:32]the author what he was trying to say was that in reality

[17:34]you can't really put a price on the life of a human

[17:40]being so even though in terms of efficiency you can think to

[17:43]yourself that $250,000 is not worth it but in reality $250,000 is

[17:53]not enough it's not enough because the value of a life of

[17:56]a person is much more than that so the conversation continues I

[18:02]said well you can replace that child if you if you bring

[18:05]together two people and they create a child nine months later that

[18:08]three-year-old child can be replaced that was the mentality that's what happens

[18:13]when you read or reduce a person to a pond to a

[18:18]commodity their value is only based off of the value that they

[18:22]can provide in this world now what is the Islamic viewpoint on

[18:28]this we have a concept in Islam which has to do with

[18:30]diet what is idea or diet D a report refers to a

[18:38]retaliatory compensation so if you were to injure somebody on accident if

[18:43]you were to injure someone on accident a significant injury you would

[18:48]have to pay that person retaliatory compensation some people they call it

[18:53]blood money so if you accidentally severed a person's finger or a

[18:58]person's hand or if you on accident you took somebody's life there

[19:04]is a diya there is a retaliatory compensation that needs to be

[19:09]paid now for a free mail what is the amount of the

[19:15]diya if you accidentally take the life of a free mail it's

[19:18]1,000 gold dinars which in today's worth is about 4 point to

[19:23]five kilograms of gold I don't know how much that's worth in

[19:28]the market probably hundreds of thousands of dollars now what's the issue

[19:33]with that some people will say okay while you're putting a price

[19:36]on the life of a human being you're not putting a price

[19:40]on the life of the human being and just to push the

[19:42]envelope a little bit further and maybe rattle your cage a little

[19:47]bit more for a man it's 1,000 dinars for a woman it's

[19:49]how much it's 500 it's half the amount Oh some people become

[19:56]very upset at this number one if the if the man the

[19:59]head of the household dies that 1000 dinar goes to whom doesn't

[20:04]go to him it's not buried in his grave it goes to

[20:06]his family if a woman is killed that 500 dinars goes to

[20:12]whom it's not buried in her grave it goes to her family

[20:16]but then you're asking okay well why why is there a difference

[20:19]between a thousand and five hundred the short answer is God said

[20:25]so but there's a long answer to it as well because that

[20:28]doesn't satisfy you know that that doesn't satisfy the answer for everyone

[20:33]the answer is that when you look at the dia the the

[20:39]the retaliatory compensation it's not effective it's not reflective of what the

[20:44]person is worth the life of the person has nothing to do

[20:46]with that how do we know that because the Quran speaks about

[20:51]the value of a human life man catalana person Bavarian ops in

[20:55]a facade and fill a loaf at Fatima patella NASA jamia woman

[21:02]ah ha ha ha Adama via NASA jamia that if you take

[21:06]arrived in reality it is as if you are taking the life

[21:10]of all of humanity and if you give life it is as

[21:14]if you are giving life to all of humanity so in reality

[21:16]there is no real worth there is no real value that you

[21:21]can place on the human being to say that well this person's

[21:23]life is worth 500 that person is worth a thousand that person

[21:29]is worth 1,500 in light of the idea that during those days

[21:33]the male the head of the household was seen as the the

[21:36]main breadwinner so if his life was taken it's sort of like

[21:40]if you think about today the same philosophy of a life insurance

[21:44]policy how long would it take for the family to recover to

[21:46]financially get back on their feet - financially recover from the loss

[21:53]that has happened from the loss of his life or the loss

[21:56]of her life and our services that we provide to our family

[22:00]they actually have value there was a study that came out a

[22:10]number of years ago it said it said that if you were

[22:13]to put value if you were to put a price tag if

[22:18]you were to provide a salary for the work that the average

[22:23]homemaker does a woman who has taking taking care of her home

[22:32]cooking cleaning staying up at night making sure the kids are you

[22:35]know being a being everything for the family if you were to

[22:41]put a price tag on that and pay someone now think about

[22:43]it it's it's easy if you were to if the mother and

[22:46]the father of the household were not to do any of those

[22:49]responsibilities and outsource it to someone else you had a full-time person

[22:53]I mean the best that you can get today is a full-time

[22:57]nanny but they're not gonna wake up in the middle of the

[22:59]night and do the same thing that the mother does when the

[23:02]mother has to take care of the child at 3:00 a.m.

[23:06]but say that you had to put a price tag on that

[23:07]how much do you think it was paid said more than a

[23:13]hundred thousand dollars more than a hundred thousand dollars for those services

[23:18]if you were to outsource them but mothers do it for free

[23:23]out of their care out of their compassion out of their love

[23:26]so the work has a price tag the next the soul does

[23:32]not have a price tag at all what happens in what what

[23:34]what Robert Shiller was saying when it when it came to the

[23:39]idea of Marxism communism socialism is that they put a price tag

[23:41]on the life of a human being not just on the person

[23:47]services so this all goes back as to how do we define

[23:48]ourselves and really the biggest issue here why people tend to ask

[23:55]these questions in the first place one reason is because we take

[23:58]God out of the equation allah subhana wa ta'ala that's why he

[24:01]says literally jolliness a bomb in Mecca Sabu when Anissa in us

[24:09]even mimicked her 7 was our Elohim and fodhla that each person

[24:12]shall receive what is due to them neither shall shall they be

[24:16]held more accountable so what God has burdened them with nor shall

[24:24]their rights be taken away so everything that God has put in

[24:27]your life God has been very intentional with that and put it

[24:32]in your life for a reason so when we talk about inequality

[24:34]when we talk about the differences between masculinity and femininity and these

[24:39]roles most of the time it's because we've taken God out of

[24:41]the equation we don't see ourselves in our relationship to God we

[24:47]see ourselves in our relationship to one another and that's when comparison

[24:50]happens not just between men and women but between men and men

[24:53]and women and women as well is because we don't realize the

[24:59]value of the life that God has given us so we're constantly

[25:01]comparing ourselves to one another and because we're constantly comparing ourselves to

[25:07]one another we are constantly not happy with our life so I

[25:11]want to share a couple of things with you number one is

[25:16]a youth psychologist that wrote the following about masculinity he said there

[25:22]are four areas when it comes to the idea of masculinity there

[25:26]are four areas that men want to intrinsically succeed these are the

[25:33]areas that men ask themselves am i succeeding number one is as

[25:40]a son all men look at themselves and think am I acceptable

[25:45]to my father am i acceptable to my father figure all men

[25:51]want to be good sons to their fathers and to their mothers

[25:54]and that's why the Quran appeals to that very entrance nature and

[26:01]it says what was final in Sanibel eyelid a he asana that

[26:09]we commanded man mankind to be benevolent towards his parents his and

[26:14]her parents and of course this verse specifically mentions the mother and

[26:19]the burden and the toil of the mother hamana to omou quran

[26:23]were allowed to occur on mohandro huwa Posada with Allatoona sha haha

[26:27]so intrinsically we want to be good sons to our fathers this

[26:36]is one area that men want to succeed another is as a

[26:39]worker so we ask ourselves the question that am i competent enough

[26:49]to provide this is a very intrinsic need that men have am

[26:52]i competent enough to provide and in some economies it's tougher than

[26:57]other economies you know when when you study the roots and the

[27:04]causes of what was known as a lobby a lobby the Arab

[27:07]Spring which started around 2010-2011 and there was a domino effect and

[27:19]the first of the event was the gentleman who set himself on

[27:21]fire in Tunisia if you remember that event it was the first

[27:26]one and the president of Tunisia left he went to another country

[27:29]why did he set himself on fire what was it that was

[27:31]burning inside of him that he had to set himself on fire

[27:35]if you read his story and he you know he died a

[27:39]couple of days later from his injury but it had to do

[27:41]with providing the economy was so terrible that he could not provide

[27:46]properly he could not get out of the bondage of debts and

[27:54]in other countries such as Egypt such as Libya such as Yemen

[27:59]you see that the biggest issue one of the biggest issues was

[28:06]unemployment the problem of unemployment and what is that cause in the

[28:09]mind of man that he is not competent enough to provide and

[28:13]that's why you have you have young men who become confused in

[28:18]their identity whenever you have terrible economies whenever people cannot get jobs

[28:23]so one thing is the economy so as a son as a

[28:29]worker as a husband men have that question as a husband can

[28:35]is he competent enough to take care of a wife to take

[28:39]care of children to raise the family and number four as a

[28:46]warrior what's a warrior warrior doesn't mean he puts on a shield

[28:48]and a sword and he goes out into the battlefield warrior means

[28:51]when you fight for a cause when you fight for a cause

[28:58]if you think about it everybody becomes a warrior in something some

[29:04]people become a warrior and they become enthusiastic and they become fanatical

[29:08]when it comes to their sports teams and their dedication to their

[29:12]sports teams don't get me wrong I'm a fan of sports myself

[29:16]i watch but that's not my cause and my fight and my

[29:21]battle cry in fact we were speaking with with some of the

[29:23]Shabaab earlier today about different sporting events and there's nothing wrong with

[29:29]that but for some people it's their battle cry it's their cause

[29:35]that they live for these are the type of people that they

[29:38]go to the sporting event and they paint their face and they

[29:42]paint their bellies and they stand in freezing cold weather and when

[29:50]their team wins they celebrate and when their team loses they're destroyed

[29:56]they cry I spoke to a gentleman one time and you know

[30:00]he's a productive man family man but he said he said on

[30:06]Sunday mornings nobody is allowed in my family to talk to me

[30:10]because he has to watch the Lions game every Sunday he's originally

[30:19]from Dearborn but he lives in Los Angeles so it's 10:00 a.m.

[30:22]for him there the game not 1 p.m.

[30:24]he said he said during that time nobody is allowed to talk

[30:27]to me at all and he you know he runs a business

[30:32]he doesn't even take care of his business three hours I lay

[30:34]in bed and that's it I only watch the Lions game that's

[30:40]it so that sometimes becomes a person's fight it becomes a person's

[30:45]cause you go to different arenas and you see a arena of

[30:48]70,000 people 80,000 people 90,000 people it becomes a person's battle cry

[30:56]because intrinsically we want to be warriors intrinsically we want to fight

[31:01]for something we want to stand up for something the problem is

[31:05]that most of us were standing up for the right thing with

[31:08]the wrong thing we're fighting for the wrong cause imam hussain ali

[31:14]sallam taught us that when it comes to confrontation when it comes

[31:17]to stand standing up and fighting you do so based on the

[31:20]correct principles on the right principles he taught us what it meant

[31:26]to truly be a warrior and go out into the battlefield it's

[31:28]not just about the battlefield the battle is within sometimes but people

[31:34]are confused so when you look at the warrior on TV for

[31:38]instance if you watch hollywood you know that they idolize personalities such

[31:46]as james bond James Bond's of the guy that has it all

[31:51]he drives an Aston Martin he wears not a not a Rolex

[32:00]he wears an Omega because you know Rolex is not cool enough

[32:04]he wears the best suits his you know his relationship status everything

[32:10]there's no strings attached and he always wins at the end he

[32:17]always beats the bad guy another model for masculinity and manliness John

[32:25]Wayne the gunslinger lone gunslinger I can do it all by myself

[32:28]and the reality is nobody can do anything by themselves that's why

[32:37]you look at this massive wave when it comes to self help

[32:39]and and there's nothing wrong reading books on personal development I actually

[32:43]encourage that all the time but the idea of self-help that in

[32:48]order to become successful I don't need anyone or that someone is

[32:51]self-made you see on Instagram people all the time and on social

[32:55]media people that are self-made nobody is self-made this is an idea

[33:01]called luciferianism Lucifer is the English word for it beliefs beliefs saw

[33:07]himself was the first person to see himself as independent that I

[33:12]don't need anyone her left anima now enraha left a woman clean

[33:15]you created me a fire I made a fire I don't need

[33:20]anyone I don't need to prostrate to someone made of clay the

[33:23]reality is is we all need someone and that is Allah subhana

[33:28]WA Ta'ala yeah you had now so I need to move for

[33:32]a la what love a world when you and I meet so

[33:35]when it comes to our fight what are we fighting for most

[33:38]people they're fighting for the wrong thing there's this term that they

[33:42]spread around called the man economy if you've heard so the man

[33:45]economy is it's a type of economy that exploits the desire of

[33:49]men to be better and recently this year they had the controversy

[33:52]with the Gillette commercial if you remember Gillette the company that makes

[33:57]the razor blades for men and their slogan 30 years ago in

[34:00]1989 during the Superbowl was do you remember the commercial what's their

[34:05]slogan the best a man can get so 30 years later they

[34:11]decided we're gonna do the best a man can be so it's

[34:14]not about getting out of the world it's about being and it

[34:17]caused a lot of controversy so it caused in the minds of

[34:22]men everywhere that they want to be better so the man economy

[34:25]is a term that's it's assigned to the economy that is dedicated

[34:30]to making men feel better about themselves making men more masculine why

[34:36]because we've strayed so far away from principles we have no idea

[34:40]what it means to be masculine anymore and we need to have

[34:43]no idea what it means to be feminine and then on the

[34:45]other side it's confused woman so women have also adapted not all

[34:51]woman but some woman have adopted a one-upsmanship that we don't need

[34:55]men anymore and what men say well we don't need a woman

[34:57]anymore and and this is what happens eventually when we take God

[34:59]out of the equation when we remove Allah subhana WA Ta'ala out

[35:04]of the equation is one-upsmanship we begin to compare one another to

[35:07]ourself allah says what ilaha min fodhla stop looking at everybody else

[35:11]stop wandering this person has it better that person has it better

[35:15]if I was only a man if I was only a woman

[35:20]if I was only on the moon I would do better wellwe

[35:21]have been further asked turn to Allah subhana WA Ta'ala so let's

[35:26]place God back in the equation and I'll end with this when

[35:28]we talk about masculinity you know when you think about imam hussain

[35:31]ali salam you think of a man who was chivalrous you think

[35:35]of a man who was brave a man who was courageous and

[35:39]when you talk about those characteristics you know this how the saying

[35:42]goes boys don't cry that you're not supposed to cry that you're

[35:51]supposed to be courageous imam hussain ali sonam while all of those

[35:55]attributes were true narrations say that when he would speak to Allah

[35:59]subhana WA Ta'ala his eyes would fill his eyes would tear would

[36:02]draw tears from his eyes as if it was a waterfall that

[36:07]his beard would be drenched in his tears I'll give you an

[36:11]example just a small excerpt from the Arafah narrated by Bashar Bashar

[36:18]even available these were two of the Companions of the Imam that

[36:22]accompanied him on the day of Arafat and they narrated this dua

[36:25]Imam Hussain ELISA Lam says and notice notice the words of tenderness

[36:31]of love of compassion waha 15e film editor flynn Swabia warez economy

[36:38]Nevada a Lebanon Maria well up after alia volleyball how Arvin waka

[36:44]felt anil omaha Tarawa ham waka latinum in tewara kill john wasallam

[36:53]tini minashi oddity one Noxon fatality ar-rahim Oh young man such beautiful

[36:58]words you watched over me in the cradle imam hussain ali salam

[37:04]is speaking to god you watched over me in the cradle as

[37:07]infant boy provided me with food wholesome milk you turned the hearts

[37:15]of the nursemaids towards me you entrusted my upbringing to compassionate mothers

[37:18]you guarded me from the calamities brought by the gin and you

[37:24]kept me secure from excess and lack o merciful or compassionate such

[37:29]a tender conversation that he has with him what allah subhanho wa

[37:34]taala so sometimes the more we grow in our masculinity and our

[37:38]courage the more we need to increase in our tenderness the more

[37:43]we need to increase in our compassion and our love and our

[37:48]mercy towards people now I want to end by turning your hearts

[37:51]to Karbala and this is the night that we remember the sacrifice

[37:55]of Allison the young man the son of an imam hassan mostafa

[38:03]salah whathe lo said I'm Molly and to make a long story

[38:05]short on that day the Day of Ashura al-qasim came to his

[38:11]uncle imam hussain ali salam seeking permission and narrations say that there

[38:17]was a letter that was written this was this letter was written

[38:21]many years before by his father it was directed to him and

[38:26]when he opened up the letter and read it it said Barnea

[38:29]Qasim adesh turtle a column or FeliCa be no salat I am

[38:36]Michael for saying o person if you find yourself in a time

[38:39]of tragedy and calamity come to the aid of your uncle for

[38:45]saying so with that he came to his uncle seeking permission to

[38:48]go out and fight into the battlefield but Imam Hussain could not

[38:52]give permission to his nephew his nephew was a remnant of his

[38:59]brother Al Hasan he said to him my dear god symphonia Qasim

[39:01]and idea to ali al hasan you are the remnants of my

[39:07]brother al hasan you were you are with us you remind us

[39:11]of my brother how could I let you go out into the

[39:14]battlefield but he was insistent on going out into the battlefield when

[39:21]imam hussain saw that he was insistent he asked him a question

[39:25]he says kafir teju duel mode how do you see daddy a

[39:29]young man I want I want to know your perspective on death

[39:31]now that you are going out into the battlefield he answers to

[39:35]him he says yeah MP no strategy from Allah min Allah sorry

[39:41]if it is in your victory if it is in your aid

[39:43]then it is sweeter than honey so imam hussain ali mesa lanterns

[39:50]two sisters aina oke as a nerve ET nearby mama t fe

[39:53]and hassan ring for me the turban of my brother al hassan

[39:58]imam hussain ali me Salam places the turban on the young man

[40:02]he places his armor on him he gives him his weapon and

[40:06]he sends him out into the battlefield al-qasim Ali Salim went out

[40:11]into the battlefield and he introduced himself to the people for those

[40:15]that did not know know him in Tumkur oniy for an unnatural

[40:18]Hasan sipped on Nabil Mustafa one more time and if you do

[40:24]not know me then I am the son of Al Hasan I

[40:28]am the grandson of rasulallah and more time and the trusted one

[40:31]and he went out into the battlefield fighting like a valiant warrior

[40:37]like a brave warrior a man who was very young in age

[40:40]but fought with the valiance of his grandfather amir al mu'minin of

[40:46]his uncle al for Saint Ali Salaam of his uncle and Abbas

[40:51]this was a young man of been awash have no ordinary young

[40:55]man he went out into the battlefield fighting until finally narration says

[41:01]that he became distracted because his strap on his sandal snapped it

[41:08]ripped so as he kneeled down and as he bent down to

[41:10]take care of it one of the enemy soldiers came up to

[41:14]him and he struck him on his head he dealt him a

[41:16]blow to his head al-qasim fell on the floor blood gushing everywhere

[41:21]imam husain alehissalaam ran out to him al-qasim called out to his

[41:26]uncle imam husain ran out to him the narration says that there

[41:31]was an enemy standing there imam hussain unsheathed his sword and he

[41:36]fought off that enemy and he began to say to his son

[41:41]oh gosh IAM he says to him yo so allah allah UNMIK

[41:43]and tadaryl fella ug book it is so hard for me Oh

[41:48]Carson that you call upon me but I cannot respond and if

[41:53]I respond I cannot come to your aid Borodino Allah Allah foam

[41:57]in cataluña Kozma home yo man the Amity judge took away a

[42:00]book he says do not worry our custom for these people that

[42:05]fought against you their enemy on the day of judgement their adversary

[42:09]shall be your grandfather in allah wa inna ilayhi larger own was

[42:14]a Alamelu Deen of Allah I am humble opinion palamoun well October

[42:19]tool in the terpenes Mela Hockman over him a llama Philomena well

[42:24]not me not when this Romina well Muslim at and

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