✨Play it out, like in the theatre

Make your house like a stage in the theatre.

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The most effective factor in bringing up children well at home is how the parents behave with each other. The parents should consider the home to be a scene of a show in a theatre and be coordinated with each other. They can have a script or a plan for a play and show desired behaviors to their children. In this way, the children will learn about life, the future, ideals, humanity, and morality from their parents’ behavior when dealing with each other. Parents should never show their children that they cannot tolerate each other. They should show that despite different preferences, they tolerate each other. This should be shown and played out.
Image if the child is behaving badly and never apologizes. The solution is easy. The parents can work together, even for less than a month. The wife should say, “I’m sorry. I apologize. Have you forgiven me?” “It’s fine.” “Can I be sure that you have forgiven me?” “Yes, I have forgiven you. It’s fine.” Then the other way around. “My wife, I apologize. Truly forgive me.” If they apologize to each other in front of their child a few times, the child will be corrected. Raising a child is easy!
A child’s training is based on the parents’ behavior with each other. Imagine you hold a grudge against anyone you are upset with, say whatever comes to your mind, and pout whenever you want. Then your child cannot be trained correctly anymore. A tradition says if a man’s family eats the foods that he prefers due to their fear of him, this is a sign of him being a hypocrite. This tradition has explicitly stated it in this way. But if the father eats the foods that his family likes, this is a sign of him being a believer.
Mom says, “Your dad doesn’t like squash, but we have squash tonight because it’s healthy.” “But didn’t you say dad doesn’t like squash?” “Yes, he doesn’t like it, but he’s a good man! See what he does.” He eats the squash and acts as if it’s very tasty. He says, “I actually enjoy eating these foods I don’t like. Your mom has cooked it.” The children should hear this and see this tradition acted out.
On the other hand, if a man is upset, his wife shouldn’t let him sleep in that mood. She shouldn’t say, “I’ll fix it tomorrow morning. Who cares! He’ll sleep.” No, he should forgive her before going to sleep. She thinks, “I’m tired, forget it.” No! A tradition has said you should hold his hand and say, “You can’t sleep until you forgive me.” The man will enjoy this and think he’s a true king! And similarly, that behavior with the wife will make her think she’s a queen!
A person went to Imam Baqir’s (as) house. Imam Baqir’s children were watching their parents’ behavior. That person saw the Imam was wearing red clothes. In other words, the man needed to see the Imam. So he went to his house and saw the clothes the Imam wore at home. He said, “You’re wearing red clothes!? You’ve never worn such colors before. You usually wear white.” He said, “This is the color my wife likes.” This means, “I wear the clothes at home that my wife likes. She should like them.”
Children are like spies. They secretly collect information and give it to themselves. A child comes into the kitchen and sees that when a poor guest comes, his mom uses cheap plates. But when a high-class guest comes, she says to use the more expensive dishes. “Mom, these guests are different!?” She says, “Yes, she’s not important. She’s just your dad’s sister!” So the child learns discrimination, and he/she won’t forget this that easily.
The parents should consider the home to be a scene of a show in a theatre and show desired behaviors to their children. In this way, the children will learn about life, the future, ideals, humanity, and morality from their parents’ behavior when dealing with each other.