Navigating Emotions For A Better Life - Sayed Saleh Qazwini

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Navigating Emotions For A Better Life - Sayed Saleh Qazwini
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[0:00]i'm now i would be honored to invite sayyid salah fazvini to

[3:29]the seat is this good most important functions of religion is to

[5:52]bring stability to a person's life stability from all dimensions a spiritual

[6:00]stability a social stability financial stability ethical stability religion has something to

[6:08]do and it's a way to improve and enhance our lives from

[6:15]all dimensions today one of the greatest challenges that we see many

[6:22]people deal with are the challenges of anxiety the challenges of stress

[6:33]not knowing how to deal with emotions being emotionally unbalanced sometimes controlled

[6:44]by their moods instead of the moods controlling you instead of you

[6:50]being in control of your moods some people it is their moods

[6:56]that control them and it dictates how they live their lives it

[7:00]affects them at work it affects the marriages it affects relationships so

[7:08]dealing with anxiety and stress is something that is very serious and

[7:13]sometimes it leads to depression sometimes it could lead to suicide and

[7:18]it could lead to major problems and this is a problem that

[7:23]many people deal with this is not something that is very rare

[7:29]something that you won't find common this is something that is very

[7:33]common and perhaps the majority of the people at some point in

[7:38]their lives have dealt with anxiety stress and perhaps even depression and

[7:44]other mental health problems now every time i talk about the subject

[7:50]the subject of dealing with anxiety and mental health issues the first

[7:54]point i say this it needs to be dealt with a professional

[8:00]and there's no shame and there's nothing wrong with going and seeing

[8:05]a professional when it comes to matters of mental health just as

[8:09]you have a physical illness a physical defect you go to the

[8:13]doctor no one sees that as something shame no one sees that

[8:17]as something problematic no one's going to question your faith if you

[8:21]go to a doctor similarly no one should question your faith and

[8:24]your iman and no one should question who you are as a

[8:28]person if you go to a psychiatrist if you go to someone

[8:31]who will help you deal with the mental health challenges that you

[8:37]are dealing with however since this is not my profession i will

[8:43]focus to what i know and that is what does islam say

[8:48]what does the quran say about anxiety how do i deal with

[8:53]these struggles of life from an islamic perspective from an islamic point

[8:57]of view and both are very important you need to seek medical

[9:02]professional treatment and you need to also have god in your life

[9:06]for someone to say i don't need god in my life this

[9:10]person is mistaken because allah is the one who created you and

[9:14]allah is the one who knows what is best for you every

[9:20]illness every problem has a solution and the solution is in the

[9:25]hands of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala when i am sick it is

[9:31]god who will cure me so we have to go to the

[9:36]islamic solution as well we have to go to religion religion my

[9:39]dear brothers and sisters plays a very essential role in our lives

[9:44]our problems of dunya our problems of this life can be solved

[9:51]through the religion because allah subhanahu wa ta'ala created religion for us

[9:56]to live a healthy life allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says religion is

[10:09]a religion of hayat a religion of life it's not just spirituality

[10:13]it's not just praying in the mahrab that's not all that god

[10:15]wants from you god wants you to live a healthy life and

[10:20]when you abide by the religion and when you take the orders

[10:24]of the religion the way god wants you to make religion seem

[10:31]in one particular way when it's not the way god wants the

[10:35]way the prophet wants the way the quran wants then we will

[10:39]find that we are living a 'hayatun qaiba' we are living a

[10:43]healthy life a healthy lifestyle and allah talks about one of the

[10:49]books of cure and that is the quran my dear brothers and

[10:54]sisters the quran within the quran there's shifa there's healing and there's

[11:06]also rahma there's also mercy for the believers in another verse allah

[11:12]describes the quran within the quran there's there's admonishments from your lord

[11:29]it's a healing for the pain that is within the chest the

[11:34]pains of anxiety the pains of stress the pains of depression the

[11:39]pains of anger and holding a grudge these are all self pain

[11:46]this this all hold pain in the heart you need a solution

[11:50]you go to the quran and then and it's a it's a

[11:57]guidance and a mercy for the believers now my dear brothers and

[12:04]sisters when it comes to anxiety when it comes to stress when

[12:10]it comes to these self problems that we all deal with anger

[12:16]holding a grudge being upset cannot forgive someone these are all problems

[12:23]within the heart within the soul and we are all susceptible to

[12:28]these problems no single person could come and say no alhamdulillah i

[12:33]have no problems i live anxiety free i live stress free i

[12:37]have no struggling no problems in my life no single person can

[12:41]say that every single person even the prophets of allah they had

[12:46]problems they were tested because at the end of the day we

[12:50]were created here not to live a life of enjoyment we were

[12:55]created here and every single one of us is tested in one

[12:58]particular way some people fear hunger so now we see that even

[13:16]rasulullah he suffered rasulullah he was tested this anxiety and stress and

[13:28]these problems these dealing with emotions this is a problem that every

[13:32]single one of us deals with rasulullah his emotions were tested the

[13:36]al baed their emotions were tested the greatest test for the ummah

[13:41]is the test of the family of the prophet that rasulullah he

[13:46]hears that his grandson hussein is going to be killed his grandson

[13:51]is going to be butchered is there a test greater than this

[13:54]this is the greatest test the al baith they were tested their

[13:59]emotions were tested and sometimes you cry just because you cry that

[14:06]doesn't mean that you have no faith just because you have emotions

[14:10]and you show those emotions it doesn't mean that there's a problem

[14:16]these emotions are a way that allah tests us rasulallah has a

[14:22]son month old son ibrahim died during the life of the prophet

[14:33]and the prophet began to cry he was crying the muslims they

[14:38]came to him they tell him you rasulullah why are you crying

[14:40]you teach us to be patient and you're crying he tells them

[14:53]emotions the eyes they begin to tear shed tear overflow with tears

[14:58]and the heart becomes sad however we don't say that which angers

[15:04]allah we should not that which brings the wrath of allah subhanahu

[15:10]wa ta'ala so here the prophet was emotional he describes him to

[15:26]he says was a person who cried very quickly and there's no

[15:31]shame in crying there's no shame in having emotions but here islam

[15:39]living a healthy islamic lifestyle teaches me that i should be in

[15:44]control of my emotions not my emotions control me that means it's

[15:48]okay to cry but let me cry for something that will make

[15:52]my life better let me cry for something that will bring me

[15:56]closer to god that will bring me closer to my goal don't

[16:00]cry for something that is not going to improve my life this

[16:05]is why the hadith says if you want to cry in he

[16:12]tells his companion he tells him hussein if you want to cry

[16:22]for something cry for my grandfather imam hussein some people they come

[16:25]and they say you shias you gather ten forty days two months

[16:32]you're crying for imam al hussain day and night this is bad

[16:35]this is not a healthy lifestyle you're always crying and teaching yourself

[16:38]to cry no who told you crying is always bad sometimes crying

[16:42]is good sometimes it's through crying i'm able to improve my life

[16:48]i'm able to live a healthier lifestyle when i'm crying for god

[16:56]crying for the imam he says he says i cry for these

[17:10]things i cry for my akhirah today some of us we cry

[17:13]because of worldly matters didn't buy this outfit i didn't go to

[17:22]the mall today they're crying cry but cry for something that is

[17:27]for the cry for something that will change your life and we

[17:34]the followers of the al bayt yes we are taught to be

[17:38]emotional to have emotions but have healthy emotions our shia the hadith

[17:53]says they were created from the remaining soil that the were created

[17:58]from and when the are happy they are happy and when the

[18:02]are sad they are sad now how do i learn to control

[18:09]my emotions how do i become in control of my emotions my

[18:15]dear brothers and sisters some people don't like this answer because they

[18:19]try to find solutions all over except the actual solution and that

[18:23]is god today we live many people they live a lifestyle where

[18:28]god is out of the equation god is not in people's lives

[18:32]they went they go around everywhere trying to find solutions leaving allah

[18:37]out the solution is allah you wanna be stronger you wanna live

[18:40]healthier you wanna live a happier lifestyle you need to have god

[18:44]in your life there's no other way i'm not going to beat

[18:47]around the bush there's no other way to say it you need

[18:50]to have god in your life to live a healthier lifestyle and

[18:55]the hidayah comes from allah the one who wants god to guide

[19:05]them then allah will open the heart for islam and if god

[19:19]wants to misguide someone meaning god is not in someone's life because

[19:25]they chose not to have god in their life your heart will

[19:34]become tight your chest will become tight as if you are going

[19:39]up in an elevated place this is scientifically proven when you go

[19:44]on a mountain a high mountain will you be able to breathe

[19:47]the same way that you're breathing in a place that is at

[19:50]sea level for example no because lower oxygen there's lower oxygen the

[19:56]higher you go there's lower oxygen so allah says in the quran

[20:01]if someone god misguides them meaning they refuse the hidayah from as

[20:12]if he's going up in an elevated place so having god in

[20:17]your life will bring you a healthier lifestyle and healthier living and

[20:24]my dear brothers and sisters we have the quran the quran is

[20:27]the greatest gift it's it's a for the believers imam sadiq he

[20:40]says he says he says i'm shocked at the one who has

[20:50]four problems and this person does not deal to does not resort

[20:55]to four solutions within the quran my dear brothers and sisters if

[20:59]you can take notes this is very important because this is something

[21:02]always people they come and they ask me teach me a ayah

[21:05]teach me this do this imam is teaching us imam is telling

[21:10]us what we should do at which particular time he says i

[21:19]am shocked at the one who is afraid some of us we

[21:22]have fear we're always afraid sometimes there's moments of fear when you

[21:35]have fear whenever you're in a time of fear you say because

[21:42]he says because the verse continues you say allah will take away

[22:03]the harm and allah will take away the fear and this is

[22:06]verse one seventy three and one seventy four and then the imam

[22:11]he says i am shocked at the one who has meaning his

[22:17]sad sorrow whenever you have sorrow you say and say that always

[22:38]keep that on the top on the tip of your mind why

[22:55]you say allah will remove the from your life and this is

[23:02]surah eighty seven and eighty eight and then he says if you

[23:16]have enemies you have someone plotting against you you say this verse

[23:24]i surrender my matters to god because god is watching god is

[23:29]i might see someone but my eyes are limited allah is seeing

[23:35]you wherever you are in the darkness during the day wherever wherever

[23:39]you you are are allah is watching you allah will protect you

[23:50]from the evils and the plots of others and this is forty

[23:55]four and forty five and then the fourth one he says you

[24:01]want dunya you want god to bless you with this dunya what

[24:05]do you say say meaning what god wants will happen there's no

[24:15]strength there's nothing that can happen in my life other than from

[24:21]ta'ala this is in surah al kah so he says surah al

[24:37]kah verse 39 so my dear brothers and sisters the quran has

[24:42]the solutions and imam sadiq he gives us these solutions now my

[24:46]dear brothers and sisters other than reciting of the quran islam gives

[24:50]you a daily schedule it gives you things to do it gives

[24:55]you a prescription just like you go to the doctor the doctor

[24:58]writes for you prescription you have to go jogging you have to

[25:02]eat this you have to take this medicine you have to do

[25:04]that the quran quran in islam gives us a prescription to live

[25:08]a healthy lifestyle and here salah is the number one key your

[25:15]salah i am shocked when i hear someone saying i don't pray

[25:21]why because when you don't pray you're going to be the first

[25:24]loser i don't benefit and i don't lose if you pray or

[25:27]don't pray your family doesn't benefit or don't lose if you don't

[25:31]pray god does not benefit or does not lose if you don't

[25:35]pray allah doesn't need our prayers my dear brothers and sisters i

[25:47]don't want risk from you the risk is from god god doesn't

[25:56]need something from you people who used to worship idols they used

[26:01]to go and put money and food in front of the idols

[26:04]because the idols needed that in their in their mind allah doesn't

[26:08]need that but when allah is telling me to pray this is

[26:11]for my own good i am the number one beneficiary of prayer

[26:15]i am the first person who will benefit when i pray and

[26:20]here when you are going through emotional problems struggles in life you

[26:27]need to resort to prayer prayer is the key dear brothers and

[26:30]sisters allah tells rasulullah he was dealing with problems people would humiliate

[26:38]him they would attack him they would assault him they would abuse

[26:41]him allah tells him we know that what they say because sometimes

[26:51]people they say things that break they want to break you people

[26:54]they say things to hurt you to bring you down i know

[27:03]that what they say they used to call the prophet abtaq the

[27:06]prophet didn't have kids he didn't his his sons would die they

[27:09]would call him abtaq and this would break the hearts of rasulullah

[27:14]so allah tells him you want allah to be with you glorify

[27:25]your lord say say and be from those who do sujood my

[27:36]dear brothers and sisters why do muslims we muslims were ordered to

[27:40]do sujood we pray 17 a day and then each has two

[27:48]why why are we ordered to do sujood so much because there's

[27:54]secret to sujood sujood is the love language between you and god

[27:59]sujood is the closest position that you could be with allah allah

[28:07]says nothing could contain god could could god be in the sun

[28:14]in the moon in the stars in the universe everything is nothing

[28:18]compared to allah god cannot be contained within anything however i will

[28:30]enter into the heart of the believer and if you want allah

[28:34]to enter in your heart you have to do sujood you have

[28:37]to prostrate to allah prolonging the sujood because you're bringing the highest

[28:44]the most noble part of your body your forehead forehead the the

[28:48]top top of of your your head you're putting it on the

[28:50]earth for the sake of allah this has a big meaning my

[28:54]dear brothers and sisters it has a very big meaning when you

[28:57]put that for and you know right now when they talk about

[29:05]electricity sometimes you need to put something in the ground they need

[29:09]to put the wire or whatever in the ground to ground the

[29:12]electricity that negative energy it needs to be grounded same with sujood

[29:17]you need to every once in a while do sujood because we

[29:20]have these bad emotions we have this anxiety we have the struggles

[29:25]and the troubles in life go do sujood do sujood and you

[29:28]will feel that immediately you will feel better because you're connected with

[29:32]allah today they come and they tell you go do yoga go

[29:36]and meditate go jog do all these things yoga is similar to

[29:41]sujood by the way so go and and do that but at

[29:45]least have allah be involved have allah be in your life do

[29:50]sujood let that bad emotions come out and put your forehead on

[29:56]the soil and it's even must have to put your nose on

[29:59]the soil as well the imam saddiq and the imams when they

[30:04]did sujood they would put even their nose it would touch the

[30:07]soil because this is a way to discipline yourself to tell you

[30:10]that this dunya is coming to an end who am i to

[30:13]look down on people who am i to think i'm better than

[30:17]anyone else when eventually these cheeks of mine are going to be

[30:21]laying on the soil these cheeks are going to be on the

[30:24]torah when someone dies you have to put their right side on

[30:28]the soil and the cheeks are placed on the soil the right

[30:31]cheek this cheek that i put the best lotion and cream on

[30:35]eventually it's going to be laying on the earth and allah tells

[30:39]us from it this earth we created you and from it we

[30:51]will return you and from it we will resurrect you at a

[30:55]later time so this is this is what prayer does when you

[31:01]do sujood second my dear brothers and sisters when you pray prayer

[31:06]and you have a relationship with god it removes anxiety because it

[31:10]makes you structured now you're living a structured lifestyle now you're living

[31:15]a social lifestyle when you pray there's a great reward in praying

[31:21]why because allah wants you to see people allah wants you to

[31:24]go out say salaam to someone pray next to someone talk to

[31:28]people socialize this is very important we have to have a community

[31:33]allah doesn't want you to just pray on your own allah wants

[31:35]you to pray as even if you're in the house as a

[31:38]family the husband and wife pray with the kids you're able to

[31:42]go to the masjid pray at the masjid the reward is multiplied

[31:47]and when we are connected with people this removes the anxiety and

[31:51]the stress sometimes you just need someone to talk to sometimes you

[31:54]just need someone to listen that listens to you and this is

[31:58]what the is supposed to be for one another another religion my

[32:03]dear brothers and sisters teaches us to preserve our body today you

[32:07]find people going through anxiety and stress and struggles they take it

[32:12]out on their body you know what people do either they start

[32:16]eating so much or they become anorexic or they go and they

[32:21]fill their body with tattoos and piercings and all these things this

[32:25]is a sign of a troubled person this isn't a sign of

[32:28]someone who does not stable emotions when you take it out on

[32:32]your body my dear brothers and sisters now some things to do

[32:35]are not haram i don't want to come and say some things

[32:38]are haram to do but this body is a gift from allah

[32:42]to you allah gave you this body in one particular way keep

[32:48]in mind that i have to return this body back to allah

[32:51]at some point let me return it in a good shape let

[32:55]me return it in a good way this body is a gift

[32:59]people me sayed can i get a tattoo can i get a

[33:02]piercing can i do this and that i tell them is that

[33:05]if allah we have created you in the best way possible if

[33:11]allah saw that it was better for you to have a tattoo

[33:14]allah would have created you with a tattoo right even if it's

[33:18]a dul fiqar tattoo or something so here this body when you

[33:25]have god in your life you preserve your body and you take

[33:28]care of the body another thing religion helps you have time management

[33:33]today one of the major reasons for stress and anxiety in our

[33:37]lives is what because i can't manage my time i have a

[33:40]million responsibilities and i don't know what to do first i i

[33:44]get overwhelmed with all of these responsibilities religion helps you manage your

[33:49]time get up in the at fajr pray your salah start your

[33:55]day it's to sleep after fajr between between fajr and sunrise stay

[34:00]up this is the time that your body is productive when he

[34:05]was struck on his head they were taking him back home he

[34:11]looked at the sun and he said allah bears witness that i

[34:13]never slept during this time during that time was always up so

[34:20]it teaches you when you have religion when you have god in

[34:23]your life it teaches you to have time management religion teaches you

[34:28]to be grateful all these blessings that allah has given you every

[34:33]day every day when we start our prayer what do we say

[34:41]every prayer has you can't have any prayer except reciting and begins

[34:50]with say thank you i'm grateful for all of the blessings that

[34:56]you have given me you've given me so much i'm grateful for

[34:59]all of this thank allah for the blessings when you thank allah

[35:07]it has a psychological impact on your mind on your mindset you

[35:11]know sometimes some people they're ungrateful oh why does this have to

[35:15]happen to me why does god test me this way why do

[35:17]i have to not have this why do i have to have

[35:19]when you are saying you're reminding yourself i have a lord who's

[35:24]taking care of me i have a i have a lord who's

[35:28]there for me so when you remind yourself that you have a

[35:35]caretaker you have a lord you have god in your life that

[35:39]makes you feel more grateful and when you're more grateful then you

[35:43]will be able to deal with stress and anxiety religion and faith

[35:49]teaches you to rely on god at all times at all times

[35:54]rely on allah say nothing will happen to me except what god

[36:06]has written for me now god wants to test me in one

[36:08]way maybe i have a disease maybe i have a problem maybe

[36:12]i'm tested with my children i'm tested with my wealth i'm tested

[36:16]with family i'm tested in my marriage now allah wants you to

[36:21]make a change get out of that bad unhealthy relationship but sometimes

[36:25]there's some things that are not in my control if god for

[36:28]example i have a disease i have a problem that's it whatever

[36:35]whatever god god is is there someone that is more merciful than

[36:40]god he is our the believers they've surrendered to allah maybe allah

[36:53]knows what's best for me imam al hussein he saw his family

[36:57]one after the other they were going and get and not coming

[37:00]back imam al hussein was grateful imam al hussein he was from

[37:06]those who were the and religion my dear brothers and sisters it

[37:13]helps you become patient people who don't god in their life they

[37:16]say what's the point i don't there's no need to be patient

[37:20]because they don't believe in the akhirah they don't believe that there's

[37:23]an afterlife they don't believe that allah will compensate you allah will

[37:26]reward you allah is with those who are patient give glad tidings

[37:41]to the patient ones allah is with those who are patient my

[37:46]dear brothers and sisters these are still the days of muharram the

[37:51]days of the calamity of abdullah al hussein and the al bayt

[37:55]were patient imam al hussein was patient when an arrow takes his

[38:03]son from his hands have you seen a father lose his son

[38:08]in his hands this is a test that no one has been

[38:12]tested before his son a six month old baby gets killed in

[38:17]his hands what does imam al hussein say imam al hussein says

[38:22]what has made this musima what has made this catastrophe easy for

[38:33]me to bear is that allah is watching allah you allah you're

[38:36]in my life you're watching and therefore i will be able to

[38:42]deal with this when imam al hussein fell from his horse they

[38:47]heard him saying i will be patient whatever you put in my

[39:04]way i will be patient yes imam al hussein was emotional imam

[39:10]al hussein did cry on the day of ashura but he did

[39:14]not cry a cry of a broken person he cried the tears

[39:19]of someone who is resilient someone who is full of someone who

[39:23]is full of taqwa this is why when he says his farewell

[39:28]to his family tells them be patient allah will be with you

[39:34]allah will support you and even when he fell even when imam

[39:40]al hussein fell the narrator he says he says imam al hussein

[40:04]was on the ground and they were attacking him left and right

[40:08]but i have not seen anyone more defiant more strong in his

[40:13]iman in his taqwa than imam al hussein his whole the whole

[40:21]time imam al hussein remained defiant he did not break he didn't

[40:27]break at the last moment he puts his head down and he

[40:33]asks them for some water they tell him you will not taste

[40:39]the water until you enter into the hellfire while he's on the

[40:44]ground he tells them i will enter the hellfire no instead he

[40:51]said he says instead i will enter he tells them no i

[41:21]will not enter the hell fire instead i will go to my

[41:24]grandfather grandfather and i will tell him what you have done to

[41:31]me what has happened to me and then and then he says

[41:37]that that made them very angry and they began to physically assault

[41:42]the imam more inshaallah we will pray now and then after the

[42:52]salah we will recite dua kumail now it's it should work okay

[68:04]for the souls of all of the believers all of your relatives

[68:08]your family the scholars the shuhada we send the reward of surat

[68:12]al mubarakat al fatiha with it a loud salawat inshaallah this coming

[70:05]sunday we will have a children's story time at 12pm so there's

[70:11]there's a book my name is hussein someone one of the youth

[70:15]is going to recite read the book for the children at 12pm

[70:19]on sunday and then we will end the program with with salah

[70:22]inshallah with salah inshallah and tomorrow of course we have one

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