Families of Light - Building Homes that Welcome the Imam | Sheikh Mohammad Ayad

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Families of Light - Building Homes that Welcome the Imam | Sheikh Mohammad Ayad | Night 8 Muharram 2025 at the Ahlul Bayt Center of Toledo

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[0:01][Music] Say [Music] [Music] mass mech.

[0:40]Abdul, peace be upon you, oh my master and messenger of Allah.

[1:01]Peace be upon you and your pure, noble and oppressed family.

[1:09]Peace be upon you, oh my master Abdah Hussein and for your

[1:18]brother the poisoned Im Hassan Mushta and for your nephew Alim the

[1:25]orphan of Kuah.

[1:27]Oh my master Hussein, the ark of salvation, the lamp of guidance,

[1:34][Music] the master of the martyrs, the one for whom tears are

[1:47]shed, the lonely oppressed one in peace be upon the blood gray

[1:59]her [Music] peace be upon the dust covered cheek.

[2:12]Peace be upon the plundered lifeless body.

[2:15]Though my body was not present in Kerbala to answer your cry

[2:21]and call, oh my master, oh Hussein, though my tongue could not

[2:26]speak in your defense.

[2:27]Today my heart, my hearing and my eyes have all responded to

[2:34]your call all of us.

[2:45]Hussein Hussein.

[2:55]Imm Hussein called out tears on his face.

[3:01]Oh brother, lift your wounds.

[3:05]Come from that place.

[3:05]Im Hussein calling his brother Im Hassan to come to Ker to

[3:09]witness something and we for that Hashimi beauty slain bath in blood

[3:18]yet dressed in honor and pain this youth oh Abah Muhammad brave

[3:28]and bold I never thought he wield the sword or hold since

[3:32]Alas Hassan was young amid the forest of spears.

[3:38]He stood alone.

[3:37]They fired their arrows.

[3:41]Every side had thrown.

[3:42]Their swords tore through him, oh sorrow, oh night.

[3:49]Go gather his limbs, my brother.

[3:51]Hold them tight.

[3:54]He is alasim, son of the chosen one.

[4:00]From noble loins a valiant soul was spun.

[4:04]In both his hands his fathers will be bore wrapped death like

[4:09]clo and dove into the war.

[4:15]To him shahada was a taste so sweet.

[4:16]Im Hassan Im Hussein he asked his nephew alasim how do you

[4:23]see dying and firing with me?

[4:25]He said sweeter than honey.

[4:30]To him shahada was a taste so sweet.

[4:33]His swords become bloodr written bold complete.

[4:35]His blood died red his young angelic face.

[4:40]Am moon now rests upon the desert's grace.

[4:45]The stabs and strikes could not his light conceal.

[4:50]Even eclipsed he burned with holy zeal.

[4:54]His body so soft I cannot lift its weight as if I

[5:03]am raising mountains bound by feet.

[5:05]Bring me what's left of him.

[5:10]I beg you now.

[5:10]His mother asks I cannot answer.

[5:27]In the name of Allah, the entirely merciful, the especially merciful, the

[5:31]one who created and and designed everything, the utmost perfection, the one

[5:37]who created every one of us for a reason and the purpose

[5:41]and made the peace and blessings of the almighty God be upon

[5:44]his beloved and pure messenger, the peak of his creation and the

[5:50]symbol of humanity, the holy prophet Muhammad.

[5:50]and for Zack progyny of the BB especially the leader of our

[5:56]time that we receive Mai.

[5:56]May Allah hasten his reappearance and make us all among his dedicated

[6:00]and sincere servants.

[6:03]And since there is a relationship between Kbala and paving the way

[6:07]for the arrival of Im Mai, may Allah hasten his reappearance and

[6:11]the main principle or the foundation of our malis is Im Mai

[6:17]and how we can reform ourselves at the individual level, family level

[6:22]and social level.

[6:24]So allow me tonight to speak about the Mahawi family.

[6:26]how we can build a family that as a whole they are

[6:34]paving the way for the al- Mahi pleasing his heart and trying

[6:41]inshallah to build or guide or raise or nurture children and generation

[6:48]and progeny that we able inshallah to be chosen as part of

[6:52]the servants and the companions of the Imm speaking at the end

[6:58]of times prophet Muhammad peace be upon him it has been narrated

[7:01]that he looked at his a group of children and he said

[7:06]so as he was sitting among his companions looked at a group

[7:10]of children and he said woe to the children of the end

[7:14]of times because of their parents which is interesting statement from the

[7:21]prophet as if he's blaming the parents here he was asked oh

[7:25]messenger of Allah Do you mean their fathers who are polytheists and

[7:30]non-believers, non-Muslims?

[7:32]He replied, no rather their fathers who are believers, the parents who

[7:39]are believers is in a way threatening or saying a negative statement

[7:44]showing the situation at the end of times how it will be

[7:50]from the religious Muslim parents toward their children.

[7:52]They asked him why.

[7:55]He said they do not teach them anything of the obligatory duties

[7:58]and if their children attempt to learn they prevent them and they

[8:04]are pleased with them for a trivial portion of the worldly life.

[8:11]I deassociate myself from them and they are deassociated from me.

[8:18]Unfortunately, sadly, we're living in a time where we feel that some

[8:22]parents if their child for example and we ask all our children

[8:26]inshallah to succeed at the educational level but if they graduated if

[8:33]they had master masters in certain degree if they were experts in

[8:37]certain field if they were blessed to work in a certain company

[8:40]and they are making good number of money the parents will feel

[8:47]That's it.

[8:46]They are now successful.

[8:49]They don't need to ask about their religious side or for example

[8:53]their Islamic in a way seeking knowledge to please Allahh and to

[8:59]maintain that their afterlife inshallah it will be successful like this life.

[9:04]So what the prophet meant that the parents will prioritize the world

[9:11]this world over the afterlife or the different fields that sometimes it

[9:17]become a distraction from the real knowledge.

[9:20]I'm not saying I'm not trying to compare the Islamic knowledge with

[9:24]the other uh knowledge that we have on planet whether science or

[9:31]math.

[9:31]They are all blessed and they are all invented and made by

[9:35]the same lord Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

[9:36]But in a way that we have to build that balance between

[9:39]these different fields so we can maintain at least that our children

[9:48]are pleasing Allah subhanaa thamad because the prophet subhan Allah he said

[9:55]by Allah he made an oath that any generation especially youth he

[10:02]said that when I see that generation prioritizing the afterlife they will

[10:07]be successful in this life and the afterlife and then the prophet

[10:10]continued saying by Allah I didn't see a generation concentrating on this

[10:15]life and they were able to succeed whether here or there yes

[10:20]Islam want us to build the balance between this life and the

[10:25]afterlife by saying give us in this in this worldly life and

[10:31]and give us a after life we have to build the balance

[10:36]But he meant the prophet by this hadith that the parents will

[10:40]in a way will be distracted that they want to maintain a

[10:45]strong financial life for their children and the parents will not care

[10:48]about the afterlife of their children.

[10:51]Subhan Allah.

[10:53]We witness some parents sometimes it's very sad that when their I

[10:57]know personal stories that their children for example request going to dua

[11:02]Thursday nights or going to certain maj it's it's very sad what's

[11:10]going on with some individuals but let me go back to the

[11:12]family I believe that the Mahawi family is revolving around one one

[11:19]verse in the Quran which is the verse of marriage itself Allahhanaa

[11:33]In this verse, we were able to extract seven points that the

[11:37]family has to have for them to be able to please the

[11:42]heart of the imam of our time.

[11:43]One, that family has to have one soul, one purpose, spiritual unity

[11:48]within the mother, father and the children.

[11:51]Second, the Madawi family feels spiritually connected to the prophet and the

[11:56]pure progeny.

[11:55]Three, the Mahawi family reflects on Allah's power, majesty, and beauty in

[12:00]their marriage and children.

[12:01]Four, the Mahu family is united in values, beliefs, rituals, and identity

[12:06]guided by the Quran and the five, they have ma at home,

[12:15]practical love free from jealousy.

[12:16]Six, they teach each other with mercy, forgiveness, contentment and em emotional

[12:22]grace.

[12:23]And seven, they know their reputation is one.

[12:24]They are garments for you and you are garments for them as

[12:30]Allahh said in that verse.

[12:33]Now when it comes to one purpose, one soul, the spiritual unity

[12:40]inside the Mahi family which comes number one, Allahh always in the

[12:44]Quran he said that he created us from a single soul.

[12:49]He said inah verse one he created you from a single soul

[12:51]and from it he created its mate.

[12:54]In the verse of marriage itself, he said among the signs that

[13:03]he created for you another self still speaking about that one self.

[13:07]So when it comes to that au family sees itself not as

[13:13]separate individuals living under one roof but as a united soul divided

[13:18]into parts created by Allah to journey together inshallah to please him

[13:22]and to seek closeness to him.

[13:23]So the parents you are a mean you as children we are

[13:27]as children to our parents we are a mean for them to

[13:32]become closer to Allah and for me my parents also as a

[13:35]mean to bring me closer to the same lord Allah subhana tala.

[13:40]Now I imam when he spoke about women to men in marriage

[13:44]he said women are a trust from Allah do not harm them

[13:49]and do not make their life difficult for they are a part

[13:55]of you and you are a part of them as if I'm

[13:58]a self minus with my spouse I will become a complete self

[14:01]and vice versa that's why unfortunately negative feminism will teach our females

[14:07]that as if males and females They compete with one another.

[14:12]We believe we complete each other.

[14:14]We don't compete against each other and that's very unfortunate way that

[14:19]that's why the society somehow is corrupted out there.

[14:22]There is no jealousy between males and females.

[14:24]Everyone has to complete and fill a gap and they have to

[14:31]hold accountable for their fields in under the eye and the supervision

[14:34]of Allah subhanana wa ta'ala.

[14:35]Imam Sadd said the believer's wife is a blessing from Allah.

[14:39]He created her for his own soul so that she may be

[14:45]a comfort to him and her and he to her.

[14:47]So they comfort each other spiritually, mentally, psychologically and so on.

[14:52]That's why we call them healers.

[14:54]Also, Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said when a man marries

[14:56]he has completed half of his faith.

[14:58]So let him fear Allah in the other half.

[15:01]And we all know that im for example talking about shared responsibilities

[15:05]within the family he said the house in which husband and wife

[15:09]cooperate forgive and support each other become a place where angels visits

[15:18]and shin fle fleas.

[15:18]Subhan Allah.

[15:19]So from one soul to one purpose this unity is not just

[15:25]emotional psychological it drives the family goals language values and destiny.

[15:29]So in a mi family the father leads with love not dominance.

[15:33]The mother nurture with vision not reaction.

[15:37]And the children reflect the spirituality of spirituality of the home not

[15:44]just rules as we say.

[15:44]Now this is the main core the way you view the family.

[15:51]So when you look at the mother father children you feel that

[15:54]they are just one one being one soul.

[15:58]Second, the Madawa family feel spiritually connected to the prophet and his

[16:04]pure progeny.

[16:05]Why I made this connection?

[16:06]Don't we have verses in the Quran saying that?

[16:14]So the prophet has a higher spiritual authority over us.

[16:20]So if the mad family is connected, if the prophet had that

[16:24]spiritual authority over that family, then naturally the entire family will feel

[16:30]connected to the same source which which is the prophet.

[16:34]The mean, the tool, the vehicle that will drive us closer to

[16:38]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

[16:39]Inah verse 6 Allahh said the prophet is closer to the believers

[16:44]than their own selves.

[16:45]Now own selves my in now the entire mah family is one

[16:51]self the prophet is closer to that family more than it's close

[16:56]to itself now the guidance the light of the prophet is attracting

[17:00]that family closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so in the mi

[17:03]family mi home the prophet Muhammad is not distant historical figure prophet

[17:09]is the center of their emotional identity the model of their family

[17:13]structure and the soul of their collective spiritual being.

[17:19]At least we mentioned salawat at home.

[17:27]Allah said again means more deserving of obedience, more worthy of love,

[17:38]more entitled to decision making in our lives.

[17:41]Now, subhan Allah, the more the wife and the husband, they love

[17:46]Allah and the more the children love Allah, the more they are

[17:48]closer to each other.

[17:51]I think you saw that triangle shape where the wife and the

[17:53]husband and there is Allah at the top of that triangle and

[17:56]the more they are closer to Allah, both of them, the more

[17:59]they are closer to each other.

[18:00]The same thing with the children.

[18:03]The more the entire family close to Allah, the more they are

[18:06]connected together and the more we are closer to the prophet and

[18:09]his teachings and his guidance, the more we are closer to each

[18:13]other.

[18:14]So now for example, if the husband said something that the prophet

[18:18]disagree with and the wife brought a hadith from the prophet telling

[18:20]him that based on this hadith what you're doing is wrong, he

[18:24]must obey because at the end the prophet has a higher authority

[18:29]over the entire family.

[18:30]So now the wife can use the prophet to defend herself over

[18:34]unfortunately disobedient husband or the irresponsible husband or unfortunately the arrogant husband

[18:42]and so on and so forth.

[18:43]Sorry I gave the example from the husband's side but also vice

[18:49]versa the opposite is also true.

[18:51]The husband can bring a hadith from say the fatim and tell

[18:55]her wife that Fatima is displeased with this.

[18:58]So at the end she feels that it's not personal anymore.

[19:03]So it's not that the husband directly he's ordering her to do

[19:05]this and that.

[19:07]They all know that they are all under the authority of who?

[19:11]Of Muhammad Fatim Hassan Hussein and the rest of the so family

[19:16]the prophet's ethic govern the household.

[19:19]His mercy shapes parenting.

[19:20]His patience guides marital life.

[19:25]His love for Fatima teaches the father how to honor his daughter

[19:28]and his tears for Hussein teach the family how to grieve with

[19:32]purpose.

[19:33]Imam said whoever builds their home upon our love upon the love

[19:38]for the angels descend to that house and bring with them blessings

[19:44]mercy and spiritual protection.

[19:46]So they pray together they do together they recite Quran together.

[19:53]children knows their profit.

[19:54]How nice is the family when you have children?

[19:59]I always request that as a practical way to connect with purpose,

[20:03]quality time as we call it.

[20:05]Why we don't have enough families now despite the age of your

[20:08]children whether they are uh three years old or they are 30

[20:13]years old.

[20:15]You gather them whether Thursday nights da and a story the more

[20:17]they grow and it's harded to connect them.

[20:20]Bring them at least once a week.

[20:22]Now the best to start once a day like when they go

[20:26]to school you come back around afternoon after they finish their homework

[20:29]before sleeping in an hour you gather as a family and you

[20:31]start every day you speak about one of the prophets bring his

[20:38]story uh derive some practical lessons check what they understood from this

[20:43]or that imagine every day 40 minutes how much you can do

[20:46]after years I think the home will become an Islamic seminary Right?

[20:51]If every day 40 minutes and the father is giving one lesson

[20:54]every single day for 10 years for example 10 * 365 3,650

[21:01]days 3,650 lessons how much you can teach now or you can

[21:10]start with uh one verse of the Quran the Quran 6236 verses

[21:15]two verses a day and in 10 years you finish for the

[21:18]entire Quran with your family it requires consistency.

[21:21]But if my daughter upstairs checking her phone, scrolling over Tik Tok,

[21:27]the other one watching, I don't know what the heaven is.

[21:32]He's watching in his room and and someone is doing something else.

[21:35]I we need quality time.

[21:36]We need unity.

[21:39]So connection within the family, education, love, it's all in one.

[21:44]It's hitting more than as we say one bird hitting one sorry

[21:50]hitting more than one bird in one stone as we say.

[21:52]So the prophet said none of you truly believes until I am

[21:56]more beloved to him than his soul his parents and his children.

[21:58]So now the family they all love the prophet we said that

[22:04]that oneself it has to connect the prophet as with family.

[22:06]So now we all love the prophet more than anyone else inside

[22:11]the house and that's when the family will become spiritually connected.

[22:15]Imam Rada said whoever remembers us in their home and teaches their

[22:19]children our path their homes become a garden from the gardens of

[22:25]paradise.

[22:25]Yesh God witnessed that always I used to say that without hearing

[22:30]this hadith that Allahh expecting from me and you to build paradise

[22:33]on earth before we see it afterlife and if you can't change

[22:38]the entire society at least change your house at least a successful

[22:44]community will start from successful families trust me with that so now

[22:51]we beg you to try as much as you can to strengthen

[22:54]the bond and the foundation within the families so the community can

[22:58]become stronger.

[22:57]Now yes, after we fix our families, we can fix our community

[23:04]and that's it.

[23:03]If we're able to build a community, if we died, Immi will

[23:08]consider us every single member in this community as a supporter and

[23:14]companion of him inshallah.

[23:15]Now three, the Mi family reflects on Allah's power, majesty and beauty

[23:22]in their marriage and children.

[23:24]Allahh said in the verse of marriage among his signs that he

[23:27]created for you another self so you can do sakina in that

[23:32]self and he made between you love and mercy.

[23:34]Now was interesting in the verse of marriage that when he said

[23:39]ma right love in Arabic language we have a 20 words that

[23:42]subhan allah describe different levels of love.

[23:45]Now when it comes to ma, ma is the practical love, not

[23:52]the verbal emotional love.

[23:52]Now when we say hob in Arabic, hob is attraction.

[23:57]Ma is a practical love.

[23:59]You love with action, with effort, in practice.

[24:04]Subhan Allah.

[24:03]If you look in the Quran, the word ma was used in

[24:09]three different places.

[24:09]in marriage in house in family with believers and because the prophet

[24:19]he didn't request any any price for his message right I did

[24:23]not ask I didn't ask you for any worldly gains except ma

[24:28]in my pure progeny so if Allah is asking ma in marriage

[24:32]meaning that the entire family has to do toward practically love.

[24:40]When the wife, the husband and the children, they are all concentrating

[24:45]their life to please the hearts of the B, that family will

[24:51]become connected with purpose.

[24:52]As we said before, now a Madi family sees marriage and children

[24:55]not as ordinary life stages, but as a manifestations of God's creative

[25:02]power and divine will.

[25:03]They reflect on Allah not only in prayer or dua but in

[25:09]everyday family life.

[25:11]Let me explain this.

[25:11]Allah in the verse of marriage he said among his signs is

[25:13]marriage.

[25:15]True.

[25:15]Truly there's a miracle happening inside this marriage.

[25:18]The miracle is the children.

[25:21]Now it's normalized because we see it in biology in science.

[25:26]thousands or ten hundreds of thousands of people they are giving birth

[25:34]might every single week or month true so when it comes to

[25:38]that I think every second we have two newborn babies in the

[25:43]world uh now despite that it's normalized but imagine we have Adam

[25:47]and Eve landed on earth and they know nothing about marriage pregnancy

[25:51]and delivery and they have no one before them that they witnessed

[25:55]them marrying and giving birth.

[25:57]Now after they marry and they don't know that there's a child

[26:03]is forming in the womb of the mother they will freak out

[26:06]when she start feeling there's something moving inside her now because this

[26:11]is the miracle of life marriage is the miracle of life from

[26:13]liquid Allah creates life.

[26:16]Now when it comes to that if the husband and the wife

[26:20]after they they have the first child that child will make them

[26:26]witness God's power and God's majesty then naturally they will become closer

[26:29]to him because they witnessed a miracle with their own eyes and

[26:34]it proves the purpose behind creation.

[26:37]It's not coincidence that Allah subhana ta formed a perfect body for

[26:41]the male and a perfect body for a female to hold, deliver

[26:44]and nurse a child.

[26:47]That's a miracle happening inside that house.

[26:50]Now when we raise our children that you are a miracle, you

[26:54]you you being born raised, you're a miracle walking, then that family

[27:00]every day when they look at each other, they are witnessing God's

[27:03]what?

[27:04]power.

[27:05]When they look in the mirror, they will see God's power now.

[27:09]They will not think about the eye now.

[27:11]The way they view the realm will be different.

[27:13]When they look at anything, they ponder and reflect on God's beauty

[27:17]and majesty.

[27:18]That's how Allah want the mai family to be.

[27:22]Now, that's why he said among a sign, the framing teaches us

[27:25]marriage is not a contract.

[27:28]It's a divine sign.

[27:29]Children are not just biological results.

[27:31]They are miracles of creation.

[27:33]And the family is a living canvas upon which Allah's names manifests.

[27:40]Prophet Muhammad said when a man marries he has safeguarded half of

[27:47]his religion.

[27:45]Again also half of his doubts will be removed just because of

[27:54]what?

[27:55]Of marriage.

[27:53]Now uh connect connecting that to Imam we see divine meaning in

[27:58]relationships raised children to see beyond this duny.

[28:02]IM Saddic said, "The one who reflects and sees God's sign in

[28:05]everything will never be heedless of the Imam of his time." When

[28:13]you see Allah everywhere, you will always have insight toward the imam

[28:19]of your time.

[28:19]For the Mahawi family is united in values, beliefs, rituals, and identity

[28:25]guided by the Quran and Allah.

[28:27]when he said he placed between you love and mercy indeed this

[28:34]nation is one nation that's why your parents they fear for you

[28:39]they have concerns about you they care for you when I realize

[28:44]that the truth without exaggeration without being biased the truth is with

[28:50]the two way things the Quran and the when I when your

[28:52]parents reach the age of 30 and 40 and they see they

[28:57]experience Allah trust me their number one concern now is you.

[29:00]They want to make sure that all their values are with you.

[29:07]Rituals, identity, faith, spirituality.

[29:10]If there is something that can displease or hurt deeply the parents

[29:17]is when they see their children shifting away from our ways.

[29:21]That's one of the major challenges when your parents migrated to the

[29:27]west.

[29:28]because they fear for you.

[29:30]They want to see you trying putting effort to learn your religion

[29:36]and to grow spiritually and to grow morally.

[29:37]And your parents want you to become better than them.

[29:41]If I was 14, crazy years old teenager dude doing crazy stuff

[29:46]in high school.

[29:48]Definitely when I raise a child and he become 14, I don't

[29:50]want my child to repeat the same mistakes.

[29:55]I want to make sure that my child is better than me

[29:59]in every age.

[29:59]How about parents seeing their children deviating, shifting, falling away from the

[30:07]principles of the Quran and the guidelines of the so family is

[30:15]not merely a group of people related by blood.

[30:21]Eat, drink, learn, sleep, you know, rules.

[30:24]It's a divine aligned unit.

[30:26]They have to be synchronized in belief, identity, practice and purpose.

[30:33]What unites them is not age, personality or interests.

[30:35]Oh, this child look like his father.

[30:39]Oh, this daughter look like her father.

[30:42]It's not about how you look like.

[30:44]We have to see if the soul look the same uh or

[30:48]interests but assured loyalty to the Quran the the B and the

[30:54]prophet himself.

[30:52]So we know that the principles of faith that when we have

[30:59]one God together one message together one Quran together one prophet together

[31:05]one path to succession which are the together and one present Imam

[31:09]which is Imam of our time imi.

[31:11]I like sometimes when parents if the child did something wrong it's

[31:16]the best way is you are free there's afterlife there's imam of

[31:23]time watching you the prophet is watching you and Allah is all

[31:27]seeing all hearing put effort and please him at the end we

[31:32]will all stand everyone alone on judgment day it's very interesting for

[31:35]a mother to tell her daughter sometimes that me and you on

[31:38]judgment day we will have the same age and by the way

[31:43]biologically will not be related there because everyone will stand before Allah

[31:47]on judgment day alone.

[31:47]Me, my mother, grandmother, great-grandmother will be the same age there.

[31:52]But at the end, we have raw responsibilities on the face of

[31:57]the planet that Allah is expecting from me and you to fulfill.

[31:59]There is a trust.

[32:01]I for example, the parents were trusted by their children.

[32:04]It's a trust from Allah.

[32:07]True.

[32:07]And their ch the children are interested with their parents.

[32:11]It's responsibility from both sides.

[32:15]Now when the children grow and they become parents, they will be

[32:19]interested with the new what?

[32:19]Children and so on.

[32:22]When I instill the principles and values of Islam and the Quran,

[32:26]the Albet in the children, I don't need to yell or to

[32:31]in a way rule with strictness.

[32:33]Just if they know the right from the wrong and their belief

[32:36]system is strong.

[32:38]I can use simple statements.

[32:40]My responsibility toward you to remind you remember there is Allah watching

[32:44]there's afterlife.

[32:46]I'm enjoining what is good forbidding what is evil.

[32:50]I did my role with you.

[32:51]Allah will not ask me on judgment day.

[32:53]I'm free because I did try to remind my children.

[32:58]If they don't want to be reminded that's on them.

[33:02]Now subhan Allah the father is responsible by the way sorry males

[33:06]but usually he will be questioned about the family affairs on judgment

[33:10]day is the fathers what mothers are doing it's all recommended in

[33:15]that sense and the son you will be questioned for him in

[33:19]the first 21 years after 21 you leave him to himself but

[33:23]the first 21 years if I enjoined what is good forbid what

[33:26]is evil instilled these values identity principles After 21, Prophet Muhammad said

[33:34]if he was good, then alhamdulillah if he was evil, leave him

[33:40]to himself.

[33:41]Life will teach him.

[33:42]The daughters are different.

[33:43]They are under the supervision and protection of the fathers until they

[33:48]move out.

[33:51]Males are not equal to females.

[33:55]There is justice.

[33:54]There's justice.

[33:56]At the end on judgment day, Allah will give you more mercy

[33:59]than us.

[34:00]There is a special treatment with mercy and forgiveness to females than

[34:04]males.

[34:04]And the mother will be standing sidelines being rewarded by Allah.

[34:07]And the males will be questioned for every single detail about the

[34:13]house.

[34:11]But let me say that on the side when the Allah gave

[34:15]authority for the father, it's not dictatorship or the mother cannot lead.

[34:19]Allah didn't mean that.

[34:22]But juspedentially Allah gave authority for the father because he will be

[34:25]questioned on judgment day.

[34:26]The mother has to be behind him pushing him forward, healing him,

[34:30]helping him, covering his back, trying to give him a different perspective

[34:35]about things, using her emotional intelligence to mix it with his logical

[34:40]intelligence so they can build a strong family together.

[34:44]But he must take the final decision, not because Allah is preferring

[34:48]males over the females, but because he will be questioned on judgment

[34:51]day.

[34:51]As simple as this.

[34:53]If the mother took the final decision, she will be questioned and

[34:57]she will not be able to bear that on judgment day.

[34:58]That's in my humble perspective.

[35:01]Now five, they are united in goal preparing for the imam return

[35:10]together.

[35:08]Immadi said if our followers were truly united in their one heart.

[35:15]So now if every family in the Muslim world not all of

[35:21]them but majority of them especially the followers of the B the

[35:26]entire family their main goal in life is to pave the way

[35:28]for the imam of our time with love and mercy they they

[35:32]have that in their minds.

[35:32]My purpose is not to make my son or daughter doctors which

[35:38]is a very sacred goal to have.

[35:40]I'm not saying it's wrong.

[35:41]We need doctors.

[35:43]We need lawyers.

[35:43]We need engineers.

[35:46]We need uh religious youth in all fields.

[35:49]But the main goal, this is a a a secondary or detailed

[35:53]goal, but the primary the main goal is for the family to

[36:01]please the heart of the imam of our time.

[36:04]So when we said they have ma at home practical love Allah

[36:08]said this is love has to serves quietly supports fully hopes for

[36:16]the success of the other endures hardships without resentment forgives uplift and

[36:21]sacrifice.

[36:28]Finally, they treat each other with mercy, forgiveness, contentment, and emotional grace.

[36:35]Please listen to this point.

[36:37]Then we move to the tragedy of Alas.

[36:39]The family has to prioritize their relationship together revolving around two words,

[36:46]love and mercy.

[36:49]There is no pure justice in marriage and family.

[36:51]There is love and mercy.

[36:53]And one of the manifestations of mercy that they forgive they contain.

[36:58]They understand each other.

[37:00]One practical solution for all the majority of the family issues do

[37:04]not take anything personal inside the house.

[37:07]When your father, God forbid, he raises his voice on you.

[37:12]When your mother, she treats you somehow strictly even though Islam is

[37:17]not recommending that.

[37:17]But never take anything personal.

[37:19]You and your family are one.

[37:22]You have the same name, same reputation.

[37:24]You and your siblings, you're one.

[37:26]That's if inshallah we follow the guidelines that we just mentioned.

[37:31]While ma love is the first that fuels a righteous home, rahma

[37:35]is the water that cools tempers, heals hearts and keeps the household

[37:43]from burning down under pressure.

[37:45]Allahh said that his mercy encompasses all things.

[37:47]Allah defined himself as the entirely merciful, especially merciful.

[37:52]He said that the more you give mercy, the more you receive

[37:55]mercy.

[37:56]So if I spend majority of my time inside the house, the

[37:59]number one priority for me to act with mercy with is my

[38:05]family, is my parents, is my siblings.

[38:07]It's weird how we see some people prioritizing their friends over their

[38:12]siblings.

[38:13]Or for example, they will contain their boss at work, but they

[38:16]don't know how to contain their parents at home.

[38:19]Or for example when our youth they grow up and they have

[38:21]like the love of their lives then he will accept the love

[38:25]of his life to yell at him but he will never accept

[38:29]his mother to raise his voice at him.

[38:31]You have to always prioritize your parents and your siblings over anyone

[38:35]else because there's priorities in life.

[38:36]Prophet Muhammad said be merciful to those on the earth and the

[38:41]one above the heavens will be merciful on you.

[38:44]Imam Ali said the most honorable of people are those who forgive

[38:47]when they have the power to punish.

[38:48]So when it comes to that the family has to act with

[38:53]each other with mercy containing your sibling containing your parents and so

[38:56]on and so forth.

[38:56]Trust me, the mercy that your parents gave you when you were

[39:02]young, it's equal.

[39:02]If you want to just weight that mercy, it's equal.

[39:06]You paying them back mercy for thousands of years.

[39:10]Just the first six, seven years of their life.

[39:11]When you have a child and majority of you they have, you

[39:15]can know that.

[39:17]Um, now, subhan Allah, when it comes to the family in Kbala,

[39:19]they treated each other with mercy.

[39:22]Imam Hussein would never give permission to Al Kasim the orphan to

[39:29]go to the battlefield.

[39:32]Al Kasim showed his uncle Hussein that he has maturity to understand

[39:36]what death is, what afterlife is.

[39:38]And al- Kazim proved to his to his uncle Hussein that he

[39:41]knew that Kabala is everlasting story that will lead to the success

[39:47]of God's movement on earth until the imam rise and fill earth

[39:49]of justice and iniquity after it was filled in justice and tyranny.

[39:52]Al- Kasim knew that and he was begging his uncle kissing his

[39:58]hand trying more than one time until uncle Hussein he truly agreed

[40:04]to give him that permission.

[40:08]But not before dressing him himself.

[40:11]So now al Hussein is preparing al kasim.

[40:14]He brought a shirt shaped like a burial shroud and he wrapped

[40:21]it upon Kasum.

[40:23]He took the turban of Im Hassan himself.

[40:26]Kasam's father unwrapped it on his young head, letting down the two

[40:30]tiesils to flour by his cheeks just like a warrior.

[40:35]Then he hugged Kasum to his chest.

[40:36]But that's not in front of the enemies.

[40:39]It was inside the tent far from the swords and spears.

[40:44]And then they cried together perhaps in that moment.

[40:49]And remember that Imam Hussein's son Al Akbar martyed before Alm Hussein

[40:54]as if he remembered his brother Im Hassan.

[40:57]He may have recalled that day when he stood at the head

[41:02]of Im Hassan watching him suffer on the bed of martyrdom because

[41:06]of the pain of the poison whispering.

[41:10]Im Hassan was vomiting his liver in pieces due to the poison.

[41:17]Hussein cried for his brother that day.

[41:19]Imm Hassan turned to him and asked why you're crying, oh Aba

[41:23]Abdullah.

[41:24]Hussein replied, "I cry for what they will do they did to

[41:27]you.

[41:28]Oh my brother, you don't see you're in pain, poison, moving right

[41:31]and left in front of me." But Imm Hassan responded with the

[41:37]words that echo in the the one who poison me will kill

[41:50]me but no day like your day oh abdah 30,000 men will

[41:52]come to kill you to plunder your family and to loot your

[41:59]belongings.

[41:57]Yes, back to the tense.

[42:01]Perhaps Kasim also cried not just from a youthful fear but from

[42:05]love from longing for his father Al Hassan from seeing the loneliness

[42:09]of his uncle Hussein and his thirsty from the heartbreak of a

[42:17]camp filled with weeping women and broken hearts.

[42:19]But when Imam Hussein finally gave him permission, Kasim ran to his

[42:25]mother, a smile of purpose on his youthful face, saying, "My mother,

[42:29]my uncle Hussein has granted me permission to fight." On the pain

[42:33]of that mother already wounded by the loss of her children in

[42:40]Kbala.

[42:41]She pulled Kasim close, held him tightly to her chest, knowing his

[42:46]word this would be her final embrace.

[42:49]She told him, "Oh my son, tell your father Al Hassan.

[42:53]I send him my peace." As if Alasim told his mother, "Oh

[43:01]mother, hear my final flea.

[43:05]If you ever see young men free, then remember my youth taken

[43:09]from me, deprived of air, of joy, of light.

[43:14]While all my friends had one last night, I thirst, oh mother,

[43:21]by the river near.

[43:20]When you drink, pray and remember me.

[43:24]And so Al Kasim went into the battlefield on foot.

[43:29]Despite his youth and thirst, he declared with pride, "If you do

[43:33]not me, then know I'm the son of Al Hassan." He's looking

[43:37]at all of them.

[43:40]They don't know who's this youth.

[43:41]So the young man who came from the tents of Hussein as

[43:46]if al- Kasim his trying to write his name if you do

[43:48]not me then know I'm the son of Al Hassan the grandson

[43:53]of the prophet the trusted the chosen one this is Hussein like

[43:57]a hostage bound surrounded by a people who never taste the mercy

[44:03]of disguise though a mutained teenager Kasim fought like a lion among

[44:09]men brave composed and faith faithful.

[44:11]While fighting the strap of his left sandal broke, Kasim bent down

[44:17]to fix it and bothered by the swords as if the battlefield

[44:23]was no different than a quiet street by But at that moment

[44:28]the wretched day struck.

[44:32]He raised his sword and slashed Kawasen's head, splitting his skull.

[44:39]Gasen fell to the ground face first and cried out with his

[44:47]last breath, "Oh my uncle, come to me." May Allah help your

[44:58]heart.

[44:59]Oh Abdah!

[44:58]Imam Hussein rushed out like a hog descending on prey racing to

[45:05]his dying nephew.

[45:04]He killed the murderer and fell to the earth beside Kasim was

[45:11]kicking in the dust and hands and feet trembling the soul leaving

[45:18]the body.

[45:16]Imam Hussein sat at his head and whispered, "May Allah curse the

[45:24]people who killed you.

[45:24]Your grandfather will be their opponent on judgment day.

[45:30]It breaks your uncle heart or cause him that you call out

[45:35]to him and he cannot answer or he answers but cannot help

[45:41]or helps but cannot save you.

[45:43]This is a day he cried when my enemies are many and

[45:50]my helpers are few.

[45:51]Is gone.

[45:53]Killed Oab.

[45:55]Oh my sister, Kasim is gone.

[46:02]Help me carry him.

[46:03]No one else is with us.

[46:05]Is gone.

[46:07]His mother must not see his final breath.

[46:12]Oh, what your what your uncle could he do to you?

[46:19]What could I do, my son?

[46:20]I wish the sword has struck my inact before it even touched

[46:26]you, oh my nephew.

[46:26]Then Imam Hussein bent down, lifted Kasim's body, pressed Kasim's chest to

[46:33]his own, but Kasim's feet dragged along the ground for the back

[46:40]of the imam was bent from grief.

[46:41]He carries him to the tent of the martyrs and laid him

[46:48]beside Ali Akbar.

[46:48]He sat between the two and began to cry, looking at one

[46:55]and the other, the fire of grief burning in his chest.

[47:00]He turned to Kasum's broken body and whispered, "Oh my son, lying

[47:04]on the sand, you are the flower of our tents, the rising

[47:11]moon of our hopes." Now she heard the cry of Imam Hussein.

[47:20]She rushed to the tent of the martrs and where are you

[47:24]my son?

[47:26]You're late.

[47:25]I prepared the wedding but you never came.

[47:30]Why did you disappear and leave me behind?

[47:34]Your son, my son has set too soon.

[47:39]Your wedding clothes are still with me and your perfume too.

[47:45]What should I do now?

[47:45]When your neck was severed, I wish it was me instead of

[47:51]you.

[47:51]Oh my soul.

[47:53]Oh my eyes.

[47:54]Oh my son, did you not remember your grieving mother?

[48:00]My back has broken since your loss.

[48:04]I can't recover.

[48:07]Oh, my hair has grayed from sorrow's flood.

[48:12]and ad now with your sacred blood.

[48:13]My eyes have gone blind.

[48:18]With my hands I lead you to the grave.

[48:22]My eyes had gone blind.

[48:23]Your blood has stained your noble face.

[48:27]My eyes have gone blind.

[48:33]I only wish they' buried me beside your place when [Music] and

[48:42]those who oppress the will know how they will perish in the

[48:46]afterlife.

[48:47]Ya Allah [Music] Oh Allah, he send the appearance of our im

[49:07]and make us all among his dedicated and sincere servants.

[49:11]Oh Allah, oh Allah, shower your infinite mercy, forgiveness and blessings on

[49:18]all who are present for the majalis of Imam Hussein.

[49:23]Oh Allah also shower your mercy on our deceased especially the deceased

[49:30]of the ones who passed away from this community and all communities.

[49:34]Oh Allah also the souls of the scholars and the martyrs and

[49:40]the innocent.

[49:42]We send them the reward of chapter

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