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Don't tell your spouse you're better!

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Noor Islamic Education
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Have a better profession/job/degree etc than your spouse? Have you ever felt need to make this clear? Listen to this clip from Sheikh Mohammed Al-Hilli on why this is un-islamic and un-healthy for marriage.

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[0:01][Music] she kept thinking that she is better than Saint she is

[0:11]from better family than Saint she's an a higher status than st.

[0:14]and so this is reflected in their communication this is reflected in

[0:21]the way that they dealt with each other it's interesting that this

[0:24]is an important lesson in marital setups isn't it that we will

[0:28]look around today we recognize none of the halal bait ever boasted

[0:32]their position when it comes to their family members have we ever

[0:37]found like amirul mumineen coming to his wife and say for example

[0:39]after say that when I saw Fatima all those other ladies that

[0:42]he married by the way I am aleem I'm better did the

[0:48]prophet himself ever boast about him being the greatest human being to

[0:53]his wives do you find any of their EMA ever using their

[1:00]status before Allah in their family discussion or maybe arguments or if

[1:05]there is a dispute about something no and today if we have

[1:07]for example a lady who is a physician or is a professor

[1:14]at the university marrying somebody who perhaps hasn't got a university degree

[1:19]or vice versa an important lesson from the story of Zeta and

[1:24]Zeynep is that in the qualifications that we may have or Islamic

[1:31]knowledge that we have equipped ourselves or as position in society that

[1:35]we may have acquired or a family that we belong to should

[1:39]never be an excuse to raise ourselves in a manner to set

[1:47]up and use it to somehow justify our actions use it to

[1:50]somehow say I know better than you do yes and cool but

[1:55]you know we run these marriage courses in the United Kingdom and

[1:59]it's for those who are in the first 10 years of marriage

[2:02]to ensure that they equipped with all the necessary skills and modern-day

[2:09]recommendations psychologically sociologically knowing oneself and so on one of the conditions

[2:17]that we have in these courses is what no husband or wife

[2:20]will come by themselves because it's for both husband and wife why

[2:24]because we know if the husband comes next day when there is

[2:30]a challenge or there is a fight in the house you don't

[2:33]know I have been to a course I'm better than you Milana

[2:38]gave me a certificate I'm already in there you haven't got a

[2:43]clue you are there in the course yes the recognition therefore is

[2:47]that this is an example in the Holy Quran of making sure

[2:52]that this kind of superiority that same people impose on the other

[2:56]in a marital setup should never exist and the messenger of God

[3:00]by the way it's a perfect human being who would not say

[3:06]to st.

[3:08]Mary's am knowing that the marriage would fail [Music]

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