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[0:04]good evening and welcome to another one of our Friday night programs
[0:10]here at the IAA presented by the myc my name is Mohammed
[0:12]ham Coast and I'm a alaikum and before we get started I
[0:17]would like to present to you brother underwater Mahmoud on him for
[0:21]him reciting Quran so please help him welcome him up to the
[0:24]podium after allowed salawats Allah Muhammad Worley Muhammad I wouldn't love him
[0:46]in a shameful on it was this man [Music] what some huge
[1:03]while [Music] my mother heart engine in lovina mom you know slowly
[2:38]heart engine nitrogen immunity hell and the jurymen takhtee hell and a
[2:51]nickel phone's gonna be in a Porsche or a pickle I should
[2:58]eat in [Music] the LaRoche imagined for all only my read I'll
[3:20]attack ahadees in June Corona was a mood by little lady in
[3:35]a cafe didi [Music] dadi him salawatu I'm not Vali Mohammed thank
[4:13]you brother onward for the beautiful recitation can we please give him
[4:18]another loud salawats allah muhammad wa ala muhammad tonight's topic is the
[4:26]sign of narcissism for at our guest speaker hodge rhys embassy but
[4:30]before we get started can we please have the brothers and sisters
[4:32]move up to the front a bit so we can you know
[4:39]get more type so please help please help me give also allah
[4:45]muhammad wa ala muhammad for how to assemble everyone Salaam my Joe
[4:58]Ali Mohammed thank you for that wonderful introduction I love it it's
[5:06]amazing I'm not picking on you either trust me if if I
[5:12]can seriously just have you just come up as much as possible
[5:15]it's just a lot easier for me to connect to you guys
[5:19]so the more I can look at your amazing mashaallah faces and
[5:24]the Eman that just comes out of them just it makes me
[5:34]a lot stronger so Salaam Muhammad Ali Mohammed thank you I appreciate
[5:51]it audhu billahi min ash-shaytani r-rajim bismillahi r-rahman r-rahim o salatu was-salam
[5:56]ala stuffy Lambie our evil mursaleen about cousin Muhammad Ali elevated her
[6:01]play abhi na pas here in I just want you to imagine
[6:14]just for a little bit just go on a journey with me
[6:16]and one should imagine a man who is standing in front of
[6:25]you and it's about 1400 years ago you don't know what this
[6:30]man's gonna say you don't know what he's gonna do but everyone
[6:37]has gathered and now this man states on the side of a
[6:48]mountain and he says if there was a caravan behind this mountain
[6:51]would you but if I said to you there's a caravan behind
[6:59]this mountain would you believe me they said what yes we would
[7:05]believe you gave him two names what are the two names can
[7:09]anybody say them can anybody say the names what did they say
[7:15]to him let me test your history a little bit they said
[7:18]to him you are a Sadiq well I mean the truthful one
[7:25]trust where they want place yourself in that land you don't know
[7:31]if this man is gonna complete his mission you don't know who
[7:37]he really is as a person it's much more difficult to believe
[7:42]in that state but what characteristics did they give him truthful truthfulness
[7:54]and trustworthiness I want to take you to a little layer it's
[8:00]a layered process every one of you here at the end of
[8:07]the day you have something called character what is your character it's
[8:17]your identity that identity that you hold has characteristics that identity is
[8:26]up for sale every single day you're selling it every single day
[8:34]when a cop pulls you over thank you sir I appreciate it
[8:43]your principal your dean your teacher you're always selling what your character
[8:54]now how do you sell that character how what dictates you having
[9:05]a strong personality the way you sell your character is through look
[9:11]at any relationship any two people with two intentions the bridge between
[9:18]those two intentions is what trust look at your relationship now with
[9:29]anyone when the worst thing happens to you and you're just sitting
[9:32]there and something really awful happens to you you pick up the
[9:36]phone and what do you do you call someone that's your most
[9:43]trusted person so why trust to be able to sell your character
[9:51]you have to build trust with people how do you build trust
[9:59]so layer one is your character you are a product and it's
[10:03]for sale and it's undisplaced a single day you are that product
[10:15]it's your character now we said to sell your character you have
[10:18]to build trust people have to trust you number two through that
[10:26]trust how do you sell trust honesty I saw the ploy I
[10:34]mean the truthful trustworthy one that creates credibility when you stand and
[10:44]people know you are honest what happens your character will dominate any
[10:52]situation and I'm gonna get I'm going to take you through that
[10:58]and someone who's narcissistic what happens to them there are actually opposite
[11:03]of everything that I'm gonna show you I'm gonna take you through
[11:07]a process that we all go through every single day all of
[11:13]us every single decision you make where is it coming from do
[11:20]you in the depths of your soul you pull out your words
[11:24]and when you speak you shake the ground it's what the truth
[11:32]entails when you can do that when you can dig that far
[11:38]into your own self and look and say you know what this
[11:41]is me and I'm not afraid to show you my mistakes I
[11:48]wear those on my left sleeve and I'm not afraid to show
[11:51]you what I can do and I wear that on my right
[11:54]sleeve and I don't care I will display Who I am regardless
[11:59]Imam Sajjad ali salami says well only will hawk want us to
[12:06]say the truth even if it is against myself can you be
[12:09]like that can you have that kind of what integrity or your
[12:15]face is just one I don't flip a million different faces because
[12:19]of the individual who's in front of me I don't I'm one
[12:25]person one character I'm truthful and I'm trustworthy and I stand I
[12:34]don't move because in my heart I have that I'm secure now
[12:40]how do you say the truth and you are honest right now
[12:49]I'll give you a quick example I'm gonna take you through impression
[12:54]management in a little bit but how do you stay honest there's
[13:01]internal honesty and external honesty internal honesty I do something with my
[13:09]daughter and I'll explain to you I'll give you the example some
[13:15]of us we love to lie to ourselves we love to think
[13:18]that why we're a certain person the ideal self and when we
[13:26]live and when we talk when I circulate my tongue and I
[13:29]transmit my message to you I build a character in my head
[13:35]first and I display it to y'all as I look at me
[13:38]but it has nothing to do with you I'm just impression managing
[13:46]you I give you something you want to see I build an
[13:49]identity based on the individual that's standing in front of me is
[14:01]that truthfulness is that trustworthiness that's very difficult to do by the
[14:09]way but some people are masters at it they will study every
[14:12]single cool thing that you do they're watching you with the utmost
[14:16]precision and guess what they can even take it to the level
[14:23]of emotional mimicry they can actually mimic your emotions and show you
[14:28]that they're a mirror of you I can actually sell you emotions
[14:31]I can feel what you feel but it's not real I've had
[14:41]people like that people who are so good in the corporate world
[14:50]my god what they can do they can literally display emotions but
[14:55]they're not real emotions but they will display them to you and
[14:59]you will believe them it's incredible when someone's like that so impression
[15:07]management is something that when I dig into myself I don't like
[15:12]Who I am when I look inside and I truly look inside
[15:25]and I'm truly honest with myself I don't like Who I am
[15:30]so do you think if I don't like something do you think
[15:37]I want to display it to the world it becomes very difficult
[15:41]I don't want you to see that person cuz I don't like
[15:47]them so now what do I start doing to gain attention I
[15:50]have a need for admiration what do I start doing what do
[15:57]most people please just answer me real quick it's not rhetorical what
[16:00]do people start doing to gain attention what is it by things
[16:07]like what give me some examples what do they buy cars houses
[16:11]why is that so important you ever heard of something like having
[16:15]a trophy wife you want to know how that works works sisters
[16:20]let me show you how it works okay get away from this
[16:26]guy please trust me you have no idea what's coming your way
[16:28]and none of the guys here hamdullah are like that right guys
[16:35]okay so now here's what a person like that is doing they
[16:38]need a trophy wife how why do they really care about you
[16:45]as a person or their own sense of self it's an exaggerated
[16:51]sense of self now when that person has you underneath his arm
[16:56]here's what happens your beauty which he thinks is something it's a
[17:03]lot of value and unfortunately these days beauty is sold and it
[17:13]makes our women I'm sorry so cheap but not our women and
[17:17]when you hold value and you put the scarf on and if
[17:23]you're having a bad battle with it it's okay it's okay and
[17:27]sometimes the scarf itself is not respected in the right way and
[17:35]it's even worn the scarf is not a piece of clothing it's
[17:39]not an article of clothing it's an identity there's an internal scarf
[17:46]an external scarf completely different reality please trust that trust it it's
[17:54]there for you it's not there for anyone else it's for you
[17:58]and my brothers same thing please when you see something on the
[18:08]internet don't lick it don't cuz you know it's wrong but we
[18:15]choose to display ourselves this way ask yourself please the next time
[18:22]you want to take that Marlo action do you realize what you're
[18:26]doing do you you think these small decisions that you make you
[18:30]think they're not gonna affect you don't do the things you don't
[18:36]want to become don't your wiring yourself and you think in 10
[18:40]years I'm just gonna change it doesn't happen you're gonna lose yourself
[18:44]the target that you had I'm gonna go to hogr when I'm
[18:48]60 I'm sorry by the time you get there you know what's
[18:51]gonna happen you won't even know Hodges okay now I'm giving you
[18:59]some bits and pieces in terms of narcissism on the inside but
[19:03]I don't care about that listen the profits too great Salameh holla
[19:08]holla the profit is amazing when you choose to follow our principles
[19:13]our religion it's amazing what happens to you how you become so
[19:17]intact and your identity and then when you speak the truth is
[19:25]on your tongue and your sincerity is in your heart how do
[19:29]you speak the truth let me go back to my point how
[19:34]do you speak the truth the truth is a very difficult thing
[19:43]al hakama Holly Holly you My Luck the truth is with Ali
[19:46]and Ali is with the truth it's a two-way street now in
[19:57]order for you to say that it's illallah muhammadu and mama I
[20:10]want to thank one of my brother's was here and his person
[20:14]that means a lot to me and me and him I've grown
[20:19]up together a little older than him but I can still hang
[20:25]I'm did Allah and he's a very special person to me and
[20:27]this is the Brotherhood you guys need to form okay you guys
[20:33]need to understand that and the sisterhood as well you can't just
[20:37]pick up people off the street and say hey just be my
[20:42]friend you can't do that you got to share these things the
[20:45]marshal I've watched him grow the amazing person in my life and
[20:51]a lot of people's lives in this community I want to thank
[20:55]Jed I'm running here for being here and he's in the back
[20:59]let's give him a lot of salawats Adam I'm a jolly Mohammad
[21:03]I remember Jalen when he was about 15 years of age but
[21:12]I'm not gonna say anything about him I thought I was gonna
[21:15]get you guys but no it's okay hamdulillah these are beautiful things
[21:19]it's amazing and this is why I tell you guys my sisters
[21:24]and my brothers who's gonna take who's gonna take the next level
[21:29]who's gonna stand up here and trust me our sisters need to
[21:36]step up you need to because the programming that's happening unbelievable you
[21:43]need to step up because now when a man says something it's
[21:50]automatically what goes against him so if you say it and you
[21:58]step up it's incredible what happens so you need to step up
[22:01]you need to talk you need to voice your opinion so now
[22:04]how do you say the truth take this with you please if
[22:08]you don't take anything from this presentation take this the truth is
[22:17]when you drop the outcome when you drop the outcome one second
[22:23]area alright when you drop the outcome in the Quran it says
[22:31]what's a man know will mount in kuntum Saudi clean longed for
[22:36]death if you are truthful now when the truth is with you
[22:44]what happens to you let's take an example of Imam Ali RA
[22:56]Salaam Imam Ali is in the middle of a battle how do
[23:03]you get to these kinds of feelings how how as a person
[23:07]test yourself at this level can you long for death so what
[23:16]happens when you long for death death is a scary thing it's
[23:21]packed with fear but if you long for death are you fearful
[23:35]you're not so how do you get to a state of security
[23:38]when the situation holds utmost fear how when you have the truth
[23:48]in your heart and you can dig to that level I'm telling
[23:51]you the peace and the calmness that you feel is incredible Imam
[24:00]Ali's in the middle of battle he's facing some against someone now
[24:07]what happens Imam Ali knocks his sword away he looks at him
[24:12]and he says to him I won't kill a man in a
[24:19]state of fear the man becomes arrogant and he says to him
[24:29]kill me Imam Ali says no I won't kill you how do
[24:32]you flip someone's heart who wants to kill you watch the actions
[24:41]this is who we have I don't care what example you follow
[24:46]what scientists you follow what level of identity you follow no one
[24:54]can do it like this because the amount of security you have
[24:58]to have in your heart to actually do I'm gonna say next
[25:04]is incredible it's impeccable in character you can't do it without the
[25:10]truth you won't feel that secure now Imam Ali Allah's Salam is
[25:17]standing there he's looking at him the other man is looking at
[25:23]him the other man knows notices who he is he's like I
[25:27]know you because I've heard that you have never refused the beggar
[25:31]goes now I'm a beggar and I'm begging for your sword give
[25:39]me your sword imam ali lowers the sword hands it this is
[26:03]so profound the man asks him now who's gonna protect you listen
[26:14]to the answer I swear you this makes mine just whole body
[26:18]to shake why because at the end of the day this is
[26:25]principle this is truth it's being unveiled to you you choose to
[26:28]listen you listen you choose not to listen it's up to you
[26:35]no one can force you to do anything now Imam Ali RA
[26:41]salam says death is my protector you know how philosophical that is
[26:50]you know how powerful that is he's literally saying if you were
[26:55]to kill me now then it's my time but if my time
[27:01]is decree later how are you gonna kill me you can't I'm
[27:06]protected can you feel that secure in that state can you ask
[27:12]yourself I swear to you right now dig into your own being
[27:17]dig into your own heart right now just take a second and
[27:20]there's something so deep inside of you that you want to change
[27:26]right now do it just close your eyes if you even want
[27:31]to and be so truthful with yourself that you look into your
[27:36]own soul and save yourself I'm gonna change this be that real
[27:42]be there open I swear to you your heart will open and
[27:49]once you're her open I swear to you that's the journey you
[27:52]want to take it's in every one of you every one of
[28:00]us wants to change something when you become brutally honest with yourself
[28:06]this is what happens you display yourself to the world and when
[28:10]you display to yourself to the world you won't care what people
[28:12]think you won't impression manage anyone you won't you don't care -
[28:18]I am up here this is who I am this is my
[28:21]identity take it or leave it then even you're trying to get
[28:25]married you know what happens you'll tell the person listen I'm as
[28:28]clear as water I'm not trying to shade my character whatsoever this
[28:33]is what I do this is what I am I'm not trying
[28:39]to fool you whatsoever because narcissism happens mainly a lot in relationships
[28:48]here is how you get impression managed here's what we do when
[28:53]someone is doing this to you please be careful I'm gonna give
[29:01]you three stages solanum hama - Ali Mohammed impression management is when
[29:16]someone consciously or subconsciously consciously or subconsciously runs a process on you
[29:26]so they can maneuver and change your perspective about a person an
[29:31]object or an event that's what they're trying to do they're literally
[29:37]telling you listen she's a bad person don't go next to her
[29:44]but she's not so literally through that information through that thought it's
[29:51]a lens I've given you a lens to look through about this
[29:55]person that's impression management I influence you by managing pieces of information
[30:05]now here's some of the ways people do it I can tell
[30:13]you a blatant lie about a person that's not true and I'm
[30:19]gonna take you through what happens when you build your infrastructure and
[30:24]your belief system based on lies you skew your reality and not
[30:31]even know it you skew it and you start thinking that actually
[30:36]this is the truth when it's not and literally it starts affecting
[30:44]the way you view the world based on how you lie to
[30:46]yourself there's no honesty how do you even trust yourself in what
[30:50]you're saying you actually lose the truth even when you speak you're
[31:00]even doubting who you are imagine living in that state where I
[31:05]become habitual err because I'm so afraid to display myself to the
[31:13]world lying has so many effects that you have no idea how
[31:17]much it damages you and by the way this happens to us
[31:24]as we're very young the smarter the kid is the smarter they
[31:28]are the faster they figure out how to lie I swear to
[31:36]you you see some kids sometimes they're like adults you go around
[31:45]they maneuver so well it's incredible what happens and how they do
[31:52]it now stage one is pure lying in the Quran it says
[31:55]fitna - I should do mine on cutting to say something that's
[32:01]not true about another individual or something else it's worse than killing
[32:07]it's worse than killing someone you know why now imagine I go
[32:11]say something about you and it's not true and now people start
[32:18]viewing you that way then even worse imagine even spread it all
[32:22]over social media and people believe it now about you I just
[32:28]assassinated your character it's the worst thing in the world when you
[32:37]do that to someone no that's the first stage the second stage
[32:40]please look at yourself and where you're at in these stages okay
[32:46]number two has two levels half-truths and exaggerations please listen to these
[32:57]two okay Charla none of you are what Liars hamdullah no one
[33:04]in here is a liar I'm sure if I asked a every
[33:08]one of you in here okay do you lie you'll be like
[33:15]no I tell sometimes white lies but at the end of the
[33:18]day okay you wouldn't consider yourself a liar it's very difficult to
[33:22]look at your perspective and don't think it's a matter of perspective
[33:28]actually the way we judge others in terms of social the social
[33:31]studies of things we judge people on extremes but we're always right
[33:35]we're in the middle so when we judge others guess what happens
[33:46]is too much she's too much I am away me I'm I
[33:49]know where the line is so just quick sidenote islam is moderation
[34:00]whatever islam says it's moderation it's a beautiful thing now watch what
[34:10]I have truths listen to this I'm just gonna give you example
[34:17]my father or my mother tell me I don't like this kid
[34:20]you're hanging around a person I don't like and now both of
[34:29]you discover that this person is not a good person they call
[34:33]you hey what's up you're like hey what's up come by so
[34:39]you go over there and you visit knowing that your father or
[34:44]mother disapprove you've been there for a half hour guess who calls
[34:56]Baba or mama you're on the phone what do I do do
[35:04]I say the truth it becomes so difficult when you open the
[35:15]phone and then you see the name what happens to your heart
[35:19]at that second I swear you take a step back just take
[35:28]one step back and tell yourself the truth can you live like
[35:31]that or your own intention is scrolling on your forehead and other
[35:37]people can see it can you live like that but you know
[35:43]what we do that's what we do you wait you don't answer
[35:49]this is what happens you don't answer the call and now you
[35:54]give yourself a little space you leave the house and what do
[35:59]you do you get in your car and you start moving 1
[36:01]mile an hour now how you call your dad and what do
[36:04]you say baba I love you how are you but was like
[36:10]lb bro hey how are you is everything ok just checking on
[36:18]you where are you I'm driving bah bah I'm driving you just
[36:29]went down the driveway of your friend's house are you lying no
[36:36]you're not lying but you're hiding the truth you hide in the
[36:41]shadows and you think no one sees you you're manipulating and you're
[36:58]shifting things this is how we work and then one we justify
[37:03]it to ourselves I'm not lying I'm not if this becomes your
[37:12]reality trust me you're building your foundation on the wrong things your
[37:17]identity is not intact you know why because when you hit the
[37:19]next stage of life which has more responsibility on you what are
[37:24]you gonna think is gonna happen to your belief structure what do
[37:28]you think is gonna happen when it's based on falsities and lacking
[37:32]of truth responsibility just gets heavier and you know what's gonna happen
[37:39]to your belief structure it's gonna collapse under the next level that's
[37:46]why happens now exaggerations there's a thousand people that come out to
[38:02]see the speaker and two people call and complain but listen you
[38:07]didn't like this speaker and the speaker doesn't like you so what
[38:14]do you do you go to the CEO and you tell the
[38:16]CEO man people are calling the calling my god what's happening they
[38:24]complained do you say how many people call see how you're putting
[38:37]on one dot on one spot you're exaggerating it is that truth
[38:44]you're telling the truth but the truth has many layers that if
[38:51]I were to dig deeper and if I were to ask you
[38:53]how many people called you're like two out of a thousand the
[39:07]impression that you're giving is that truthful that's a lie your truth
[39:17]on one level false on another who are you who are you
[39:25]see what happens identity it becomes split this is also a form
[39:32]of cognitive dissidence you have two two cognitions that are split but
[39:38]they're on the opposite end of each scale that's how it works
[39:43]the third level is people who are one they have the truth
[39:55]they have it they speak it and they're not scared to display
[40:01]it some of my sisters here you're gonna go out into what
[40:17]the workforce and now some sisters are doing why because of work
[40:28]what do some of the sisters do because of work it's like
[40:41]an epidemic now I'm not saying all obviously we're speaking majority minority
[40:46]you know or let's say minority majority let's do it that way
[40:50]insha'Allah but it's happening that I think my scarf is gonna hinder
[40:58]my career which identity do you wanna follow your career or your
[41:11]moral code and system are you that honest with yourself the first
[41:23]place you have to be honest is where with you you know
[41:26]why we're not honest with ourselves let's say you're having trouble with
[41:33]a job let's say it's okay we're not honest because why'd the
[41:40]main is we have to justify our actions to ourselves we do
[41:45]something wrong we feel the guilt we justify it removes the guilt
[41:50]this is how you become a habitual liar to yourself first this
[41:58]is where it starts it starts there then it's much easier to
[42:02]lie to people but what happens when you have the truth this
[42:08]is what you do you look in the mirror and you say
[42:14]to yourself this is who I am this is my truth I
[42:16]have many faults do you think you will have time to look
[42:26]at anyone else I swear to you the second you will start
[42:29]looking to the inside you will not have room to judge anyone
[42:36]else because your journey begins and once you understand that that your
[42:41]journey is in word not a word I don't blame the world
[42:44]I take charge of Who I am and I start looking inside
[42:50]when I need to fix me you know what happens when you
[42:57]start looking at other people and they have faults you'll start judging
[43:03]with a merciful heart that person will remind you of what you
[43:09]need to work on when you see the sin they become a
[43:16]reflection for your own sins it doesn't make you better than anyone
[43:21]else because you sin differently than someone else no one is better
[43:31]than anyone so when you judge boom judge with a merciful heart
[43:36]not a blame for heart and the only way you do that
[43:39]is to go on inside journey of who you are when you
[43:45]do that you start taking responsibility you will start moving towards self
[43:51]development not self sabotage if you deny the truth anywhere you need
[43:55]to work on yourself you're actually moving towards self sabotage now what
[44:01]self development so the truth when it's displayed you show character at
[44:09]the highest level and then when you are truthful you know what
[44:16]will happen with people they will trust you the prophet sallallaahu alia
[44:23]when he stood on that mountain and he said to them I'm
[44:28]Rasul Allah so Allah Allah Solara Muhammad Ali Mohammed and he begins
[44:40]by saying if there's a caravan behind this mountain would you believe
[44:43]me they're like yes you are I saw the whole I mean
[44:50]the truthful one the trustworthy one truth brings why trust Trust brings
[44:56]what your character to the highest level once you have impeccable character
[45:02]when people see you imagine when someone sees you and they look
[45:09]at you and they say that's truth walking by they don't call
[45:11]you by your name they say that's truth walking by that's trustworthiness
[45:19]that's forbearance so Imam Ali Ali Salaam when he lowers his sword
[45:25]and he says to the man death is my protector look at
[45:32]the way he finishes the whole story the man asks him again
[45:35]and he says to him now I want to follow you imagine
[45:40]son who was trying to kill you he's trying to kill you
[45:47]and not by what a bullet by the sword that's very gruesome
[45:54]you know what kind of energy you have to have to kill
[45:57]someone like that you don't can have heart you have to build
[46:05]to get to that level but how do you stay calm in
[46:11]that kind of state how that's what the truth does but when
[46:14]you start going inside enough soul why lawanna you start looking into
[46:21]yourself studying who you are you will bring the truth up and
[46:27]you work on it and you say you know what in two
[46:31]years I want to develop this character this is who's gonna be
[46:35]me these are the characteristics and when to embed into I me
[46:41]that's my future self so imam ali ali salam says to him
[46:52]grabs his beard and he says follow principle not personalities Wow because
[46:59]when you own principles and they're actually embedded into your system you
[47:07]become that personality but if you follow personalities you can mold yourself
[47:14]to any set of systems their principles that a person has so
[47:19]download what principles like that so we name I'm Ali Ali Salam
[47:29]is walking towards his own death he knows someone's gonna strike him
[47:34]would you get up in the morning and walk to that mosque
[47:43]would you would you would you face death willingly with the humblest
[47:49]of Arts and no fear and absolute ominous that's beautiful that's the
[47:56]character you want to be and when you can do that and
[48:01]you can face that like that were you welcome it with a
[48:07]man no amount in Boonton solidly Solano Muhammad Ali Mohammed I just
[48:20]want to say a few things beforehand you're all here right now
[48:28]take a second and just reflect and earlier if you found something
[48:38]you want it to change anything you're struggling with bring it to
[48:46]the surface and say I'm gonna change you that's the battle you
[48:51]have to win I have clients who've been battling for over 30
[49:02]years one problem and they've lost every year but they won't give
[49:09]up they won't give up that's a long time but I promise
[49:17]you if you take it on it doesn't matter how many time
[49:20]how many times you get knocked down it doesn't matter stand up
[49:25]the next day and fly it again it doesn't matter some of
[49:31]the things that you will go through will knock you to your
[49:35]knees but take that and push it forward instead of when someone
[49:46]says no to you flip the OEL and you turn it on
[49:48]and move forward it's incredible what happens when that mentality is up
[49:56]here nothing can stop you now when you represent the religion and
[49:59]you're walking the amount of respect that people will show you is
[50:07]unbelievable you won't need to ask for respect you won't want respect
[50:11]people would just give it to you that's the epitome of the
[50:21]lack of narcissism I don't need anyone to validate Who I am
[50:29]and I just want to say this to you how many of
[50:37]us seek validation from others terms of who you are this is
[50:44]an epidemic now because of what one thing can anyone say it
[50:52]what is it I sent I always like to use this example
[50:56]because I grew up I'm a little older than you not too
[51:03]old Allah we used to like print out pictures okay this is
[51:07]something that's like to you guys like okay you're a dinosaur okay
[51:15]I just want you to imagine this once you imagine me walking
[51:19]around with a picture and I have a tally underneath the picture
[51:27]and I'm asking you like my picture please could you like my
[51:31]picture look how nice it is I love it what would you
[51:35]think of me seriously what would you think of me if I
[51:37]walked around with a picture and I said you know what like
[51:42]my picture please please happy be like look at my pose this
[51:47]one like look at this one you have to like this one
[51:53]what would you Satan and jet like seriously what would you say
[51:58]to me what just say a wallet just talk out loud I
[52:03]don't care anymore just say what you need to say what is
[52:07]it okay so I'm making frenemies at what else how would you
[52:09]look at me and judge what is it just one at a
[52:14]time okay mashallah you're all excited well what would you say go
[52:23]ahead I'm insane what else may God help you go ahead I'm
[52:29]sorry that that's print what is it just oh that makes a
[52:40]difference but you see that but I love that I love what
[52:41]you said but you see how we make things normal when they're
[52:46]not do you see how we become tricked on certain things and
[52:51]now I need that validation from other people and now I seek
[52:56]it you don't think that's a disease you don't think I'm inside
[53:00]me I'm creating a disease and now I have that need for
[53:05]someone to hit the like button now imagine this imagine I walk
[53:13]around and only 2 people say masha'Allah a cure so great pitch
[53:19]I love the pose do them all like that imagine I get
[53:26]two likes and I get all that crazy insane stuff from other
[53:31]people what would would I do that would I do that again
[53:36]okay if you have the courage I want you to try it
[53:40]can anybody volunteer oh I should've just asked you to jump off
[53:48]a bridge okay like I wouldn't do it you know I'm telling
[53:51]you I wouldn't it's too embarrassing and I have no problem getting
[53:58]judged by others otherwise I won't be up here but at the
[54:01]end of the day it's a very difficult thing but social media
[54:06]Instagram was literally developed by what psychiatrists psychologists and programmers they're designed
[54:17]to be addictive designed understand you're being programmed understand that and I'm
[54:23]not telling you not to use it properly use it it's part
[54:27]of our image it's okay but know what's happening in the background
[54:31]know what's happening to you how subconsciously you're being wired and you
[54:36]don't even realize it that your relationship with your phone as well
[54:41]a better relationship than you have with other people people are actually
[54:48]a disturbance to your phone I love you but isn't that the
[54:58]truth understand this is the beginning of narcissism understand that these are
[55:06]the beginning steps these are the things that affect you that you
[55:11]need validation constantly from the outside world and I'm sorry a lot
[55:16]of people can break the habit they can't kids these days are
[55:21]being called digital natives I'm a digital immigrant alhamdulillah I'm a digital
[55:29]immigrant so I just want to say that message to you this
[55:39]is the beginning these things are linked when you need someone to
[55:44]respect you someone to validate who you are understand your personality and
[55:49]the inside is shaken you're not strong when you have the truth
[55:56]and you coat it inside and you work on yourself and you
[56:00]take responsibility for who you are guess what happens you stop caring
[56:08]what other people think and now when you stand up here you
[56:12]like me thank you you don't like me thank you I'm okay
[56:17]I swear to you it's not gonna bother me cuz I'm up
[56:22]here I'm trying to save myself I can't save you all I
[56:26]say it's gone I'm being honest like I can't no matter what
[56:29]I say okay it's up to you it's how hits your ear
[56:33]it may ring and it may you know what bounced right out
[56:35]you're like this guy is crazy Angelis crazy who said I was
[56:40]insane right okay in some of you it just goes in your
[56:45]ear and it hits your head and you're like it makes sense
[56:48]but then two three hours later you're like hell Andy I don't
[56:55]want to reflect I don't want to think about it and some
[56:59]of you it will hit your ear decode the information in your
[57:06]head then it sinks into your heart when that happens please at
[57:11]that moment water it with your emotions connect it to you and
[57:16]walk connect that will change you that's true change so the whole
[57:26]social media thing some of you this week right I'm gonna see
[57:30]some posts of you just taking pictures and you're like like my
[57:36]picture I swear you be academic just do it like please like
[57:39]my picture carry a picture around and just what have people like
[57:47]it I think they'll go viral don't take my word on that
[57:53]okay Salim Mohammed Ali Mohammed let's take some quick questions real quick
[58:03]oh wow so accent can anybody tell me what the truth is
[58:29]that's what you're really asking correct like what is the truth how
[58:32]do I know I have the truth can anyone go ahead you'll
[58:37]know it when you have it but think about different religions and
[58:43]somebody will tell you listen this is the way and someone will
[58:47]tell you what this is the way think about that how do
[58:54]you know you're right anyone else right now okay this used to
[58:57]be a church correct now its mask who is right God was
[59:05]worshiped two different doors similar doors are Christian brothers and sisters now
[59:15]my beautiful brothers and sisters in Islam how do you know you're
[59:26]right let me question you now how do you know you're right
[59:31]character but I'm okay yeah I'm an atheist and I have really
[59:40]good character if I see you and you're getting your jacket I
[59:43]will put it on your back it's a great character how do
[59:46]you know how do you know you're holding on to the truth
[59:57]okay you're getting warm okay you look at God and what he
[60:03]tells you to do and you then you look at the reasoning
[60:05]behind it go ahead beautiful answer you guys this beautiful this is
[60:24]we should just have a discussion about this I think this is
[60:28]awesome what is the truth okay beautiful answer by the way so
[60:30]you went to the emotional aspect of it and emotional kind of
[60:32]navigation anybody else all you are failing by the way miserably I'm
[60:38]joking joking go ahead we're losing them guys hurry up come on
[60:50]what is it see how I make people uncomfortable yes I'm glad
[60:59]I'm we're just getting to the good part I don't think you
[61:05]want to go okay go ahead I'm sorry is that again the
[61:17]bitter thing that causes you to change hmm so pain find your
[61:27]pain and like that philosophy major mashallah go ahead okay so something
[61:43]that with your soul okay here we go again man I don't
[61:46]think we should have went to the truth topic but okay so
[61:51]now something that resonates with your soul but again I just want
[61:54]you to think that people were you going guys you too you
[61:59]leave I'm done I'm leaving with you okay here's here's what happens
[62:05]if we truly look at this truly mark just that was supposed
[62:09]to be a joke nobody laughs okay thank you appreciate it okay
[62:12]so now watch this see that one worked masha'Allah I'm getting better
[62:17]at this okay so watch this now I just want to give
[62:22]you an understanding of how things work why our religion is so
[62:33]impeccable why the one thing that separates everything is one word can
[62:44]anyone say it to me one word one word it's a secret
[62:50]okay I'm gonna give it to you I'm not listen shut off
[62:56]the cameras - one word Islam beautiful what about Islam what logic
[63:04]I love logic God I love God go ahead somebody right had
[63:15]their hand up faith I love faith peace I love peace Dean
[63:24]so religion I love religion what else modesty I love modesty a
[63:31]way of life I love that way of life so look ooh
[63:40]lalala I love that interest ethics beautiful what else whoa come up
[63:46]here behead come up here I have to bring you up here
[63:52]come up here salon madam you're gonna wish you never said that
[63:57]word come up have you come here let's give him a lava
[64:04]golem Hamid wali Mohammed it's okay it's okay you're fine hold on
[64:09]let me feel is higher it's really moving okay listen when you're
[64:16]challenged by the way is like alright so watch this if I
[64:22]were to put his heart on a monitor right now when you're
[64:25]in resting position your heart is about 85 beats per minute right
[64:29]now his heart would be no I don't think so now watch
[64:39]this watch this here's what happens why why I want to hear
[64:48]your answer [Music] [Music] but I would say though he is personally
[66:15]I'd say though he is just from a lifes perspective is following
[66:23]infinity and once you're attached to infinity you know that your infinite
[66:34]yourself okay see masha'Allah I know what he can do I know
[66:43]he has a great answer and mashallah he hit it on that
[66:46]in terms of the word infinity but at the end of the
[66:50]day you have to be able to support these ideas and I'm
[66:52]making him really really nervous but it's all good that I have
[66:57]it's okay okay stand right next to me the cameras right there
[66:59]we can look good together okay so now when you start understanding
[67:07]that and he said the magic word of tawheed I challenge anyone
[67:11]on the face of this earth anyone to have more of an
[67:20]understanding of Touhey and being a Shia anyone on the face of
[67:31]this earth why because of one man you know what that is
[67:42]see the suspense see the weight of the room the Prophet Muhammad
[68:13]behind the Prophet also there's a division and it's okay you can
[68:25]have academic conversations about these things it's okay I challenge anyone on
[68:31]the face of this earth to talk about Allah and remove one
[68:41]of the vowels in a sermon I challenge I challenge anyone to
[68:48]stand next to him a Malayalee Salam intoa he a challenge this
[69:00]is what separates you that concept no one on the face of
[69:06]this earth can stand like we can stand no your value and
[69:14]who you follow don't waste it trust me you're gonna be asked
[69:23]about it because you were in line with this path do you
[69:27]truly know it when you say Ya Allah do you truly know
[69:38]who you're calling do you can you hit your target or if
[69:44]the Prophet says ya la la he hit his target that's an
[69:56]Incred what concept to think about that's why and that's how you
[70:01]know the truth when you truly understand how hate everything falls in
[70:07]line in your system everything and it's a journey it's a lifetime
[70:18]don't think it's light don't I'm gonna give you four simple stages
[70:23]and please just listen okay how do you get to it this
[70:26]there's four steps number one this is how you want get yourself
[70:34]to different stages of who you are first stages to acquittal having
[70:40]telecoil meaning that why I dropped the outcome and I put it
[70:46]in whose hands Allah Azza WA JAL I said Ya Allah you
[70:51]got that I don't know what was gonna happen to me in
[70:53]the future all I have is control over now that's number one
[70:59]number two is test lean test lean you letting go Moose's mother
[71:04]did one she put the baby in the water she let him
[71:13]go any same mother would do that when a tyrant is after
[71:21]him that's why test leme number three a little in your heart
[71:27]how many of us say hundred how are you but then your
[71:34]complaint start coming out this happened to me and this happened to
[71:43]me life my god your tongue is what okay I'm saying I'm
[71:48]okay but are you happy is your heart okay are you content
[71:55]with what you have and number four is fine an this is
[72:00]the stage of like Imam Ali Allah's Salam where he literally anywhere
[72:04]he looks anything he sees Allah is there that's a completely different
[72:11]level but if you can get to the third stage of whatever
[72:16]happens to you I'm okay Imam Hossein alayhi Salam in Karbala he
[72:23]says a ridah what the Salim he says both of them look
[72:29]for those in his speech I'm not gonna tell you what he
[72:32]says but he says I'm right after each other I've surrendered to
[72:37]your will and I'm content and I'm happy with whatever happens whatever
[72:42]you've given me I'm okay with can you get your heart to
[72:49]that stage it's very difficult to do but try so on that
[72:51]level thank you for sharing I really appreciate it it takes a
[72:57]lot of strength to come up here now you had another question
[72:59]so please go ahead excellent so what is validation can anyone tell
[73:12]me what validation is acceptance what else what is it approval okay
[73:19]approval from others now imagine if I didn't need approval from others
[73:27]if I had enough strength to what I didn't I didn't care
[73:30]you two you accept me or you don't accept me it doesn't
[73:35]bother me so when I seek that level and I start becoming
[73:39]stronger that I don't need your validation or approval people who need
[73:44]that what are they looking for comfort beautiful what is it a
[73:56]reason there's something deep inside they're looking for excellent but there's actually
[74:04]even deeper excellent but keep going with that if somebody if you
[74:18]need someone to tell you who you are do you truly know
[74:21]yourself do you truly trust yourself self-confidence that's a good start go
[74:29]further go one step deeper self what self Dow self-acceptance you're getting
[74:36]very close starts with an e self asan masha'Allah see how he's
[74:43]like self-esteem I got it the low sell levels of self-esteem that's
[74:47]where it starts and my repetition with myself when I look in
[74:54]the mirror I don't like Who I am so if I need
[74:58]someone to constantly tell me listen you look great you look amazing
[75:04]look awesome what you have is beautiful what's going on with you
[75:10]is great and someone rejects you just a little bit and knocks
[75:16]all that down you become very sensitive to rejection those are some
[75:20]of the signs if you're sensitive to rejection when someone rejects you
[75:25]at the highest level I'll give you something to say okay I
[75:27]have five steps to it but I'll give you the first one
[75:31]it's very powerful I swear to you if you use it I
[75:37]always teach people reflect and don't inject okay reflect and don't inject
[75:43]so take the words reflect them push them back out don't inject
[75:47]them into your heart this is what you say you ready everybody
[75:56]should write this down not on your phone but in your mind
[76:00]and inscribe it in your heart somewhere okay good one I like
[76:07]that go ahead you're talking about the physiological level sure sure do
[76:35]you have a medical background okay does anybody know long-term potentiation how
[76:46]we learn should I go into that or forget it no no
[76:50]okay so so you're right in terms of the physical physiological aspect
[77:08]in terms of the neural networks so what happens when someone steps
[77:12]on a sensitivity that you have that's legally like a landmine that
[77:15]goes off in your mind so when a person goes through a
[77:21]bad experience and they meet another person and the person steps on
[77:24]a past experience with such a trigger they actually invoke a neural
[77:32]pathway and you don't realize it then this person is going off
[77:37]on you and you have no idea why they're doing it what
[77:40]happens is this and I'll give you an example so I'll answer
[77:44]this and I'll go back to the self-esteem aspect of it okay
[77:46]so when you go across a person and then you're having a
[77:52]conversation and you just literally step on a landmine that's a trigger
[77:56]that's a sensitivity for the other person what happens inside the other
[78:00]person is there's an emotional explosion that happens inside and you don't
[78:04]know it you didn't mean to step on that because you don't
[78:08]know it's a trigger and we're all like that by the way
[78:11]all of us have sensitivities that we have now what happens if
[78:18]the circuit fires it triggers a pathway in terms of your neural
[78:22]network then it hits the emotion now certain hormones are released into
[78:28]your system and guess what happens you feel rage just come out
[78:35]and now you just want to kill this person what happened there's
[78:41]a subconscious wiring that you're not aware of but the person who
[78:45]is aware and they realize that listen when someone let's say the
[78:48]trigger when someone judges my intentions wrongfully that's my trigger that was
[78:54]one of my triggers and I didn't know it when someone looked
[78:59]at my intention and they judged it in a wrong way I
[79:02]just couldn't handle that so what I started doing is something called
[79:07]awareness training where I notice when someone presses the button and I
[79:20]stop it at the neural circuit if you don't do that here's
[79:24]what's gonna happen someone will step on your land mind it will
[79:27]trigger a circuit inside your mind it will hit your emotional state
[79:34]and who's to blame who's to blame who's to blame the person
[79:37]who stepped what on that land mind and you think you're completely
[79:42]justified but you don't know that you have a trigger that you're
[79:50]the problem you don't realize that so now if you do the
[79:53]awareness training aspect of it and you do this when someone rejects
[80:02]you you what open up space between that person's words and what
[80:07]your reaction you step back you create a gap and this is
[80:14]what you do you say this to the person please use this
[80:16]this is a very powerful tool it's just listen the weight of
[80:22]your words you have no idea how powerful they are you have
[80:26]no idea the people who can formulate sentences in very short powerful
[80:32]meetings are the strongest people of influence and they can get what
[80:40]they want out of life the people who can't do it have
[80:45]a very difficult time influencing others and by studies we have 27
[80:53]conversations per day that's 9072 conversations per year imagine you can only
[80:59]influence out of those conversations about two to five percent how happy
[81:04]are you going to be with your life so I told you
[81:11]reflect the idea and push it out don't inject it this is
[81:14]how you do it it's just the way you respond to it
[81:19]even if you feel that it triggers the neural circuit you feel
[81:22]it don't react step back one degree and say this you want
[81:30]to drive people crazy I swear I shouldn't even say it listen
[81:35]when you start really knowing how to communicate it's very dangerous because
[81:41]there's a fine line between manipulation and what the truth is a
[81:47]very fine line and when you become weaponized with certain ability to
[81:54]influence it's very dangerous that's why I'm very careful with the people
[82:00]I choose to kind of mentor and take to the next level
[82:05]because people did that with me now it's an obligation so now
[82:08]here's what you say you're ready and the next time you use
[82:14]this and somebody puts just pushes your button and you use this
[82:17]they're gonna be like and especially if they know you're gonna react
[82:20]they know your pattern and they know like between husband and wife
[82:25]when I teach like the husband comes to me we're actually having
[82:28]a mentoring him now and or they're seeking some kind of let's
[82:32]say their executives and a lot of executives actually will seek this
[82:40]and it just goes crazy all right and then I teach him
[82:43]a few things and I know what's gonna happen to her harem
[82:47]like I know what's gonna happen I know that she's gonna literally
[82:50]just her system up here is not gonna register anymore and she's
[82:54]gonna be like and women by the way guys forget it I'm
[82:56]going too far okay listen I feel like I'm manipulating now but
[83:08]but please pay attention when someone rejects you what you say is
[83:16]thank you for sharing that thank you for sharing that thank you
[83:25]for your feedback and be enthusiastic thank you for sharing that what
[83:31]happens to the other person's mind can they categorize you now can
[83:37]they put you in a certain category they can't it's like they
[83:42]don't know your position on the subject matter they don't that's one
[83:47]thing second thing you're thinking them for putting you down I'm gonna
[83:54]give you another level okay for the people who change whose choose
[83:59]who chose to stay okay I'm gonna give you some weapons second
[84:04]level if they don't if they keep continuing here's what you say
[84:10]okay you say I'm sorry I didn't hear that could you repeat
[84:12]it I want to hear it again 90% of the time you
[84:19]know what will happen it all happened they won't repeat it this
[84:28]is strength and if they keep going okay you third level you
[84:32]want the third level okay if they keep going and they're not
[84:37]like you know what you're just a bad person I hate you
[84:39]you just suck I can't stand you and now this person has
[84:48]resentment against you you just say this like are you really trying
[84:52]to hurt my feelings I swear to you the other person if
[85:00]they haven't blown up by now okay it's it's incredible what you
[85:04]can do when you stay like that you exactly you're not allowing
[85:09]it to go into your heart stay calm stay collective and if
[85:15]you do these things it's incredible what happens then watch your triggers
[85:22]look at your triggers and your sensitivities because those things will literally
[85:28]when somebody steps on those buttons this is where you seek validation
[85:32]by the way it's through your insecurities your insecurities will cause the
[85:39]validations if I have insecurities I need someone to tell me what
[85:43]I'm secure I'm okay so you need that validation when somebody's going
[85:49]through a problem in life what's the first thing you tell them
[85:55]it's gonna be okay you're giving them security that's what you're doing
[85:59]so that's the way it works I hope that answers your question
[86:01]any more quick questions go ahead hmm could you hire your voice
[86:14]just a little bit okay so I need you to rephrase the
[87:03]question just a little bit because I'm not sure I'm following I
[87:08]just want to make sure it's okay but I love where you're
[87:10]going with it but I I think I got the picture I
[87:20]just need to make sure I understand mm-hmm what narcissism narcissistic people
[87:37]like empathy so they can't put themselves in someone else's shoes you
[87:42]see no I'm saying so that's the opposite of narcissism an empath
[87:49]or somebody who's an empathetic cake can't be narcissistic so I don't
[87:53]know if you're just mixing the ideas there okay so if you're
[87:56]saying to be empathetic instead of narcissistic is that what you're saying
[88:03]okay to understand certain emotions so explain the emotion to me like
[88:23]what are those things right there feeling certain things what are those
[88:26]things so I just want to make sure I understand your question
[88:30]and forgive me if I'm questioning I'm not putting you on the
[88:35]spot okay okay compassion so how would that be a tool yes
[88:41]if I lack compassion for others how would that be a tool
[88:59]so here's what I understand what you're saying and and let me
[89:12]rephrase so I just make sure I understand okay so you're saying
[89:18]I wouldn't want this to happen to me mentally not emotionally that's
[89:23]what you're saying so mentally okay I don't like that okay because
[89:27]I don't like seeing that right mentally so I'm sympathizing not empathizing
[89:33]is that what you're saying there are two different things cuz narcissism
[89:37]if you're looking at it through a logical perspective I can see
[89:41]that I can see how that would make sense okay but to
[89:45]truly change a situation don't you think that you have to feel
[89:48]with that person don't you have to feel that pain of the
[89:53]person because being narcissistic at the end of the day is like
[89:56]when me I lack empathy I can't feel what others feel so
[90:03]therefore I become self-centered and I'm listen narcissistic NPD okay narcissistic personality
[90:09]disorder it's not it's not something easy to diagnose a lot of
[90:13]people just sit there and okay this guy's a narcissist you have
[90:18]no idea what you just did like literally everybody's a narcissist by
[90:21]the way now they have a bad relationship with someone she's a
[90:28]narcissist he's a narcissist yeah I mean easy you know you have
[90:32]no hate like you know how hard these these things are to
[90:36]diagnose they're not easy so don't use the words lightly okay so
[90:40]these kinds of things I would tell you for truely to feel
[90:45]change okay at the end of the day you have to be
[90:46]empathetic to actually want to change something that goes back to emotional
[90:51]states because emotional states cause Drive it causes me to approach something
[90:56]if I like it and it caused me to avoid something if
[91:03]I dislike it its emotion mind the mind creates awareness I see
[91:08]and I have insight now it's the heart that pushes you towards
[91:14]something or makes you avoid it so as a perspective and as
[91:19]a theory I can see that possibility but I think that's half
[91:23]of it where mentally I can see what the truth is I
[91:29]should change this situation but I also have to feel with that
[91:32]person if I truly felt what that person feels and I'll give
[91:39]you an example of empathy okay watch this there was a verse
[91:49]and hold on and I forgot it hold on man it's not
[92:01]coming to me that was literally my example I'm gonna show you
[92:13]how okay you just said it's okay right I told you I
[92:21]forgot a verse I didn't I just played that whole act in
[92:25]front of you but then you're like why what happened in your
[92:31]heart don't you like just get it out it's okay somebody says
[92:36]sella wat you're feeling my pain you see that that's how it
[92:43]works when you can feel someone else's pain you're actually with me
[92:48]on an emotional level that's where things happen that's being empathetic well
[92:54]you fell for me you're like you know what it's okay you
[92:57]did a great job masha'allah out a presentation but you screwed up
[93:02]the last one if that's what your smile is saying you need
[93:06]some work all right look at this guy's good unless Adam that's
[93:10]what your heart is saying then you should get some work done
[93:15]okay but that's empty so I'm giving you some sympathy but also
[93:20]one empathy you need both mentally and emotionally and I hope that
[93:24]answers your question and if not come coming to me afterwards okay
[93:40]go ahead sure okay excellent Oh based on an evolutionary part that's
[93:54]what you're talking is that what you're talking about an evolutionary side
[93:58]evolutionary science okay excellent go ahead thank you for that by the
[94:08]way thank you for sharing nobody got it come on man go
[94:17]ahead I'm sorry sure okay I love what he's saying by the
[94:35]way okay and I hope is that what he's what you're you're
[94:38]saying okay excellent but look I really appreciate what's your name by
[94:46]the way carry him thank you for sharing okay that wasn't I
[94:49]wasn't reflecting okay I'm injecting that because that's beautiful all right Kareem
[94:57]Imam Ali Ali Salam was in battle do you think when your
[95:04]mama Ali killed someone he was putting himself first think about it
[95:13]if it's you or me think about it if it's you against
[95:21]me black and white and there is no decision in between you
[95:24]kill me or I kill you is that a form of narcissism
[95:45]is that a form of being selfish excellent so it's a form
[95:55]of even a sacrifice to put yourself in that position in the
[96:01]first place correct okay so you see how tricky this can be
[96:04]it's not just one side and I see what you're saying but
[96:09]it's not that the fact that I can't feel or I'm literally
[96:12]but what they're saying is I've desensitized myself so what happens I
[96:16]can't feel I don't care when I kill you I feel nothing
[96:22]is that what you're supposed to feel that's really the question would
[96:26]you agree with me kidding lack of emotion so therefore it's labeled
[96:35]as why narcissism lack of empathy I don't feel when I kill
[96:44]I don't feel remorse when I kill let's take it to that
[96:48]level is that what you're supposed to feel see that but do
[96:55]you see what I'm saying okay but but they see but do
[97:01]you see this there's a fine point in here and it's beautiful
[97:04]if you catch it it's beautiful okay go ahead explain further this
[97:28]is giving deep in terms of philosophy you see how difficult these
[97:36]questions become to answer it's not light this is where you need
[97:40]to reflect these stages okay should I when I kill look how
[97:46]far we took it when I kill should I feel nothing where
[97:49]I become like a literally like an animal when the lion goes
[97:53]out to kill and it just needs to eat is it just
[98:00]following desire does it feel does it care for the other animal
[98:03]is that where we get our moral code from some people will
[98:10]tell you certain things about animals and they'll what connect it to
[98:35]human beings without a moral code go ahead okay so you just
[98:47]reacting to the situation but let's see your season killer a seasoned
[98:55]like you know how to kill you just come out and use
[98:58]it like you dropped chopped off heads and you don't care but
[99:08]let's say I don't okay this is beautiful see now listen she's
[99:16]saying now is exactly opposite what you're saying correct no the hold
[99:19]on hold on you had a lot of time to talk hold
[99:23]on hold on carry him I love your passion by the way
[99:25]I love your passion okay but but listen but do you see
[99:29]how it's opposite now she's saying now that when you lack emotion
[99:33]your heart has become black do you see what I'm saying cuz
[99:37]you started all this I'm gonna point right back at you all
[99:41]the time okay but but do you see do you see what
[99:45]she's saying the best early as early I just want Matthew okay
[100:05]it's okay it's okay go ahead go ahead mm-hmm okay sure can
[100:31]I give you a little system of Imam Ali Allah's Salam that
[100:36]this is what we've reached down by the way okay but go
[100:38]ahead I want you to I want you and somebody remind me
[100:42]to give you the system of what Imam Ali Ali Salim sighs
[101:07]love that passion okay usually put anybody go ahead now she's gonna
[102:06]serial kill you I'm shocked sure they're like a hero almost what
[102:29]you feel yeah how you feel about the matter okay so let
[103:02]me let me give you a little understanding from Imam Ali Ali
[103:06]Salaam okay we have science we have evolution okay let me give
[103:10]you what the true scientists of the soul says okay you guys
[103:14]ready all right so Imam Ali Allah's Salam he states in nashit
[103:18]balada he says there are people and he gives layers of people
[103:25]okay so watch yourself and what you said in terms of this
[103:28]generation and I apologize again okay I didn't mean to put you
[103:31]on a spot but I just like doing stuff like that I
[103:33]just call us it's a trigger for me I'm sorry but now
[103:37]you said the magic word which is desensitization okay when we become
[103:41]desensitized in science okay I'm gonna take you to science when you
[103:44]start with new study like learning and memory where does desensitization happen
[103:50]at the feelers when you what is it amygdala this is I
[103:57]love this all right but doesn't it go down all the way
[104:03]to the neural pathways where the actual neuron doesn't fire anymore the
[104:10]stimulus see one night when you touch your finger there's a neuron
[104:14]that just fired and you're actually in here it's not just here
[104:17]it's actually here what desensitization happens when the actual neuron doesn't fire
[104:25]anymore think about that it doesn't trigger you it doesn't move you
[104:36]want to see how imam ali says about these people watch he
[104:40]says there's a certain group of people when they see something wrong
[104:47]see that that's the key now who dictates what's wrong and right
[104:51]that's your moral system where does it come from you the animals
[105:01]who dictates that system that programming that you should have embedded in
[105:09]you who dictates that you me who the Constitution who what book
[105:16]what laws do you follow let's say for you it's the Quran
[105:24]for other people it's something else everyone runs a set of rules
[105:30]that are connected to what here's the key emotions let me give
[105:34]you an example someone attacks your mother the person is about 6
[105:42]to 250 pounds honey I'm like like 165 170 max I'm gonna
[105:51]have a little trouble but you know what I would have that
[106:00]this person doesn't have emotions I'm willing to die so what happened
[106:04]it gives me an advantage the law and the idea of protection
[106:13]connected to our anger and emotion when those two fuse I just
[106:18]attack I don't think I just attack this is a pattern that
[106:23]means a lot to me so what do I do I attack
[106:27]that's now a principle for me it becomes me it's embedded in
[106:34]me I own that principle now when I attack and I defend
[106:37]my mother and I push the person away what happens what would
[106:43]you call a person like that a brave but imagine they don't
[106:47]do that what would you call them a coward that's your character
[106:54]your value system gets split literally split in terms of that level
[107:00]when you approach and when you avoid that is a character system
[107:03]remember I was telling you earlier someone says to you that's truthfulness
[107:08]walking by why because that's part of your character now and if
[107:12]it becomes so infused into your character where it's like removing wetness
[107:17]from water it becomes your essence you can't remove whiteness from water
[107:21]you can't remove your truthfulness from you it becomes you it comes
[107:29]it embedded in you so now what happens from there you will
[107:32]just react the right way when you need to it doesn't matter
[107:36]who's in front of you that principle will get activated your heart
[107:39]will get activated in terms of emotion and it will drive you
[107:44]forward even if you get killed it doesn't matter that was valuable
[107:46]more to me than my own life you see what I'm saying
[107:50]do you see sacrifice there that's another principle see whole character works
[107:57]think of your mom I was saying I Lisa where there's a
[108:00]reason why you're sitting in this mosque and if it wasn't for
[108:03]him taking that stand you wouldn't be sitting here think about that
[108:08]that your eko time they create a ripple effect for humanity that's
[108:17]powerful so now here's what Imam Ali Ali Salim says he says
[108:22]there are certain set of people when they see something wrong you
[108:27]know what they do first step Kareem they feel they feel that
[108:37]it's wrong they feel it someone attacking my mother I know inside
[108:43]my heart it's wrong I'm not desensitized now imagine the guy who
[108:48]doesn't care I don't feel that doesn't matter to me he says
[108:55]they feel the second thing they do is they say something that's
[109:03]the second thing they actually act verbally the third thing they actually
[109:08]do something about it physically with their hands he says if this
[109:14]person if you have done this he says you have grabbed on
[109:21]to the epitome of what L AM aroma roof one nahyan monk
[109:25]are to enjoin the good and forbid the evil he says the
[109:32]second group the second group are these people he says this person
[109:36]feels the wrong they feel it they see a sin being committed
[109:40]they feel it they know it inside the heart because they have
[109:45]a moral system they have a moral code that they're judging against
[109:48]and this moral code is different for everyone this is why you
[109:53]have to embed the right principles that should you be your journey
[109:56]more than anything then they say something but guess why they don't
[110:05]do anything about it the third group they feel it they don't
[110:15]say anything and they don't act he says this person has let
[110:20]go of the grater - then he says there's a group they
[110:31]don't feel desensitization they don't say and they don't act he says
[110:40]this is a dead person walking and now we've gone so far
[110:50]is to do this we do a merabh al-munkar when nahyan Maroof
[110:54]we actually enjoin in doing falsehood and we stand for it deliberately
[111:04]and why we forbid doing the good it's flipped the prophet sallallahu
[111:08]alayhi wa ala has said these times are gonna come we're living
[111:14]in it now or it's not even just taken to that level
[111:17]it's actually flipped where the truth is smeared it's not known and
[111:26]falsehood is prevalent well now everything is accepted you want to be
[111:33]whatever you want it's your opinion you don't surrender to anyone you
[111:39]tell a child now Habibi Baba don't do this so we talk
[111:46]to you talking to me I'm six years old bro I just
[111:53]graduated my diapers come on you want to go it's literally to
[111:58]that extent where parents can't discipline children god forbid you tell someone
[112:03]please don't do that the cycle psychological reactance that's created there is
[112:09]incredible they don't want to listen to you why because we live
[112:12]in a time of opinion my opinion dictates I don't answer to
[112:21]general laws and regulations which is what what religion organized religions being
[112:31]one removed it's being talked against to all levels it's general laws
[112:36]but now imagine sister this you're in another country and I'm in
[112:42]this country you're a Muslim I'm a Muslim we follow the same
[112:49]religion which is Islam and we're both watch Shia let's just say
[112:53]would I expect you to have pork over your house what are
[113:01]we following what are we following same rule is it a general
[113:11]rule is it yes these things in these days those general rules
[113:16]don't mean anything anymore you know why because i dictate me personally
[113:22]what those rules are I tell the religion what it should wha
[113:33]do my opinion is over everything Marsha who needs a magic okay
[113:37]yeah I'm a scholar I took I took ten classes of psychology
[113:45]I know I've taken philosophy and I got my a PhD now
[113:48]PhD is just a specific level of knowledge it doesn't make you
[113:56]a grand all-knowing it doesn't you're just specified in a very small
[114:02]percentage of knowledge but now because I have a doctor next to
[114:07]my name what happens what happens to my opinion is it specific
[114:14]or general okay Yama dr.
[114:15]Marsha come on I don't need Quran a job where is it
[114:19]show me you have to prove things to you don't settle in
[114:24]look at the quran they'll say it doesn't make sense you should
[114:28]say I don't understand not that it doesn't make sense but look
[114:34]at opinion what happens Imam Sajjad Ali Salaam he says this way
[114:39]turkey a little beta one mr.
[114:40]Molina el maraa this is the Atma caramel o'clock your Allah pushed
[114:45]me away from people who are innovate the religion is in their
[114:52]pocket they create the general rules and regulations for themselves it's my
[114:56]opinion I don't agree with that but you don't even understand it
[114:59]in the first place and I'll give you an example okay Turkey
[115:02]a little bit at warmest a milliner almota and the ones who
[115:07]want follow their own opinion this is Imam Sajjad alaih-is-salaam and do
[115:12]at mccarran o'clock now what happens here I'm talking to this doctor
[115:19]and we're having a debate about Maria why you need a Maria
[115:23]I'm like you're a doctor you specialize and I took even further
[115:26]let's say your heart surgeon I said let's say I have heart
[115:30]surgery tomorrow can I perform that on myself tomorrow hey I'm gonna
[115:35]cut myself and I'm just gonna do I could do it I
[115:40]know I can do it if even your own heart you won't
[115:43]take a chance with when would you take a chance with your
[115:47]soul why you know how dangerous that is when you start introducing
[115:51]your own opinion a manager has to study like 40 to 50
[115:58]years do you have that kind of patience do you even know
[116:00]the smallest part of actually using law do you know what the
[116:05]four criterias are to deduce law in the first place to have
[116:09]an opinion so now I'm have conversation with the doctor was like
[116:16]you don't need a manager great I said how do you deduce
[116:24]law he's like I just figure it out what mere opinion what
[116:32]he thinks is right I said I said the way you deduce
[116:35]long has four levels first level is the Quran second level is
[116:39]hadith third is asthma and fourth is one the little ugly first
[116:47]level is the Quran second hadith third in terms of asthma as
[116:52]consensus amongst the circus scholars I said are you scholar of course
[117:02]Thomas Keller dr.
[117:00]C D ah right here period dr.
[117:03]period class period means what I'm all-knowing so now what happens I
[117:13]said do you know how to read Quran of course what did
[117:16]I do I went upstairs and grab the Quran I opened it
[117:20]as a read I know how to read in English I'm all
[117:30]Arabic Wow excellent I said do you know this letter Wow he
[117:34]knows a little bit Arabic and so you know what that means
[117:37]he says you know how many meanings that has that letter Wow
[117:41]you say we Sam and Bassam right it means end we all
[117:46]take it as end you know how many different meanings it has
[117:49]in Arabic anybody guess guess just guess it's okay try I know
[118:01]I hear a little bit try it's okay 27 very close 9
[118:04]it he has 9 different meanings it's a particle to one letter
[118:11]but we sit there we read the Quran and we think it's
[118:21]what I mean dr palace all-knowing when you don't know the simplest
[118:26]things about how to deduce law and regulation so now please why
[118:31]would ask you is reserved your opinion to the things you know
[118:40]that circle of knowledge is the limit of your personality outside that
[118:45]circle you don't own anything what you know is the edge of
[118:50]your personality many of us we choose to lie when we have
[118:57]conversations and I'm not telling you not to ask if you're curious
[119:00]it's ok ask it's ok but don't go in there thinking you're
[119:06]all knowing there's a different emotion so now what dictates that moral
[119:12]code for you what you feel like you should be attached to
[119:20]is this whatever Allah loves you love this is the emotional code
[119:24]that should be structured in your system whatever Allah despises you should
[119:31]despise why because law is perfection and I would challenge you here
[119:38]if I were to give you give me one second if I
[119:42]were to give you this equation and you're saying as a human
[119:45]being and I tell you a is better than being a is
[119:52]heaven B is hell which would you choose and obviously right why
[120:00]cuz you're always in state of betterment were always trying to perfect
[120:05]ourselves anyone of us why because we're always trying to move to
[120:10]the next level if I give you 99.999% and I give you
[120:16]a hundred percent you would take the hundred percent so you're always
[120:19]in a state of betterment you're always trying to perfect yourself I
[120:24]ask you this what is absolute perfection allah azza wajal so you're
[120:32]geared part of your fitrah is geared to go towards what Allah
[120:35]Azza WA Jalla you're always in a state of betterment so no
[120:41]the emotional code that we're talking about how should I feel which
[120:45]is a great question I love the question but you see how
[120:47]much you have to dissect and some of you are falling asleep
[120:52]and I'm sorry okay I'm sorry I'm truly sorry these things are
[120:54]very deep in terms of what you're asking but you're asking so
[120:59]I'm sorry I have to entertain I enjoy these things I love
[121:01]these things because when you come to the end and it makes
[121:06]sense to you it's incredible how your system changes so now if
[121:08]that's the case if I'm moving towards perfection I have a relative
[121:13]point of perfection which is Rasul Allah Allah Allah Allah he connects
[121:16]me to the absolute realm which is why absolute perfection of Allah
[121:21]I have to go through him to understand what the greater good
[121:28]when I do that what happens I have a navigation system now
[121:32]I have the address and I plug it in now I sink
[121:38]my heart to that and I find all the principles Salah I
[121:42]began to love it I begin to love Salah when it says
[121:47]allahu akbar allahu akbar my heart moves like the prophets of allah
[121:54]allah wahda and he used to say to bilal i yeni Abelard
[121:57]please say that i dan it's time make it just bring me
[122:04]into that state of comfort you can't wait to be institute because
[122:07]your heart wants to be institute not your physical body there's a
[122:11]difference look at your mom Holly when they remove the arrow when
[122:17]when he was where Institute Imam Ali Allah's Salam says why Rickett
[122:22]only hidden yaku a hub bully min al geneva mafia he says
[122:32]one one rica in this world for me is greater greater than
[122:37]heaven and what is in it think about that that's someone who's
[122:44]connected to allah so now whatever allah and i have that navigation
[122:52]i begin to build the right emotional code connected to the right
[122:56]ideas that whatever allah wants because i have the navigation system i
[123:01]love whatever allah wants me to think about I think about and
[123:09]I'm not desensitized from these things most of what's happening now and
[123:14]I love your question because of this guys there's a psychological war
[123:20]on your mind and it's after you to embed certain ideas into
[123:28]your mind subconsciously without you knowing I guarantee you millions in even
[123:40]billions of dollars are being dumped by advertising marketing just to implement
[123:45]certain ideas in your mind those ideas lead to a sexuality drugs
[123:54]and drinking I'm sorry stereotypes any temptation you're being fed that's what's
[124:11]happening temptations are being fed to you look at the Super Bowl
[124:15]look at halftime I'm sorry just question yourself right there just for
[124:20]a second are you a person who can't wait for the halftime
[124:27]show or are you a person who despises the halftime show check
[124:35]yourself if you understand what I just said you will see where
[124:43]is the truth where is falsehood where's temptation where is goodness and
[124:51]when you understand that and your navigation is set properly you won't
[124:55]know the truth how clear it is and in the Quran it
[125:01]says toboggan or rush liminal high truth is clear from error you
[125:05]know it but when you become so desensitized you need so much
[125:09]to knock you out of that space that you need somebody to
[125:15]die that's very close to you to start one reflecting and thinking
[125:19]tomorrow that might be me then you're like oh my god I
[125:25]should think of my hair after what am i doing but then
[125:30]a week goes by the door closes and you're just back to
[125:34]your old habits it doesn't even change you because you're in love
[125:39]with what your opinion does it make sense now does that answer
[125:46]your question I knew we would get there okay khadeem are you
[125:53]satisfied okay excellent I love that it's okay but that's excellent intrigue
[125:57]is even more awesome I'm sorry Kareem I can't a team I
[126:05]think I think we're all tired but listen you want to go
[126:07]a couple more hours I'm good to go I swear to you
[126:10]I can go all night but if there's any more last questions
[126:12]or comments I'll do it really quick then we'll go from there
[126:16]anything what is it three levels that was a say he says
[126:38]feeling he said this is the emotion you know how I always
[126:43]say I don't know if you watch my lectures and you guys
[126:44]listen I have a ton of free information out there so if
[126:49]you want like just find it there's just a bunch of stuff
[126:53]okay but there's one one little presentation that I have and it
[127:00]talks about the four four levels of communication the four languages of
[127:02]communication and their verbal behavioral emotional Andres imam ali in this sequence
[127:08]he's talking about three of them okay the emotional someone feels the
[127:14]verbal and why the behavioral so those are three languages imam hassan
[127:20]ali salam he says true generosity is giving someone before they ask
[127:27]so what other languages should you be reading you seen I'm saying
[127:32]so these things really exist and some people are scientists at this
[127:36]kind of level of communication I've studied this stuff to the nth
[127:41]level I pick up on everything 55 percent of communication is behavioral
[127:47]seven percent is verbal and 38 percent is emotional if you're thinking
[127:57]this is the only thing I should worry about LA siroque okay
[128:00]but at the end of the day when you start understanding that
[128:06]imam ali ali sanam is telling you feel so that means you
[128:08]have to have the right principle intact what dictates that principle that's
[128:13]your moral code whatever you think it is so a lot of
[128:17]us by the way and I'll give you even a little bit
[128:18]more a lot of us we think because we feel something it's
[128:26]the truth I feel something so there first true we don't think
[128:34]about that wait a minute is that truth is that emotion truth
[128:39]is it or is just because I feel it do you see
[128:48]what I'm saying so do you even check your own emotional state
[128:56]if I'm not satisfied why am i truly looking for the truth
[128:59]or do I just want to quarrel do I study myself at
[129:06]the nth level of my own intention do I look at that
[129:09]so push out your ideas and your emotions from you and look
[129:17]at them watch them see if they are truthful or not test
[129:21]them and then make a decision but don't think just because you
[129:30]feel something and you're not satisfied or you are satisfied that it's
[129:36]the truth but a lot of us we make that mistake that
[129:39]we think because we feel something but therefore why it's truth so
[129:47]ultimately on these kinds of levels what I want to say in
[129:52]terms of conclusion I think we're just going to conclude here but
[129:54]ultimately when you as a person start understanding that you feel talk
[130:01]and do these are three levels ok rasul-allah repeats the same thing
[130:09]he says if you see something that is wrong feel it in
[130:12]your heart he says do something about it he goes the other
[130:18]way as imam ali he says if you can't do something about
[130:20]it he says what use your tongue say something if you can
[130:24]say something and it's that kind of pressure then at least feel
[130:28]it in your heart rasul-allah goes the opposite of you mom Ali
[130:33]but this is a system you can one cannot deny these are
[130:40]universal concepts no one can deny that we do these things no
[130:42]one start off with universal concepts so what do I do with
[130:44]these what do these three things go back to it goes back
[130:50]to emotion how do I feel about this particular thing do I
[130:56]like it and am i against it or I hate it you
[130:58]see I'm saying it goes back to that split it goes back
[131:02]to your ideas and emotions is there anything before your ideas or
[131:07]emotions do you see that is there anything before your ideas or
[131:14]emotions but but do you see that like you as a person
[131:26]can you go past anything your ideas or emotions you see these
[131:32]questions it's but it's excellent these are good things to reflect on
[131:39]and ponder on now from here if that's the case and I
[131:41]am a set of what ideas and emotions and these things connect
[131:48]who has the best principles because when these two connect they create
[131:53]a principle and that becomes you who has the best set of
[131:57]principles that's what dictates the truth and this person has to be
[132:10]the closest to what perfection right now there's one human being if
[132:15]you would take all of humanity there's one human being who at
[132:21]least supersedes every other human being if you were to measure human
[132:26]beings that's why we have records right why do we have records
[132:33]so they can be one broken but that's the threshold of man
[132:38]but that's the high form of perfection so perfection exists but just
[132:45]in different forms this is how we measure so who has the
[132:52]best set of principles you have to ask are they living not
[132:56]living who do you follow your own ideas who do you follow
[133:02]what dictates who you are now when you cultivate a bunch of
[133:06]principles what happens that creates an identity that identity is going to
[133:15]interact with the world that moral system will interact with the world
[133:24]and now I'm you get results where right now depression is the
[133:28]highest rate of humanity but were the most civilized are we are
[133:33]we that's a relative point for you to discuss in your own
[133:42]mind and you see how these things work but it's just based
[133:44]on principle not I'm lying who has the highest form of principles
[133:51]and number two who can maintain those principles when you are what
[133:57]tests it so it's not enough to have the principle you have
[134:01]to the principle for you to truly know that you have it
[134:05]you have to be tested and I'll give you a final example
[134:07]and went on with this when imam hussain ali salaam in the
[134:13]middle of battle then goes off and it says allahu akbar allah
[134:18]akbar that's a test your own life is at stake but you're
[134:32]still gonna pray did he pass the test you guys ever heard
[134:36]the story all the time so that true that is true principle
[134:43]when you are tested with fear Allah says we will test you
[134:46]with fear wealth everything you're gonna be tested and when that wealth
[134:51]is taken away and let's say you're a millionaire some people kill
[134:55]themselves because they can't handle that some people lose a loved one
[134:59]they start blaming God they lose their faith you see no I'm
[135:06]saying it's it's you could it's it's it's listen at the end
[135:09]of the day it's your choice that's listen what you said is
[135:15]beautiful by the way what's wrong with that it's a choice excellent
[135:19]but can you escape religion if I just said you're a set
[135:26]of laws and regulations no one can escape religion you just stated
[135:30]a law you stated an idea that you believe in that's your
[135:36]religion it doesn't matter if you're an atheist it doesn't matter if
[135:40]you're a theist it doesn't matter that's your religion if you believe
[135:44]in God that's your religion you don't believe in God that's your
[135:47]religion imam ali says you can't escape religion a religion is a
[135:54]belief system but there's a difference between organized religion and non organized
[135:57]religion but it's okay but it's okay not to do that and
[136:05]an atheist Imam Ali Allah's Salam says he says they're angry with
[136:09]Allah usually they have a lot of anger because they blame you
[136:16]did this to me you're in this test not me I get
[136:19]to blame you as I'm dependent on you why did you let
[136:21]this happen you see how this stuff works so at the end
[136:30]of the day your decisions will create consequences those consequences if you
[136:35]truly believe they're going to be weighed on the day of judgment
[136:39]it will change your behavior here it's all based on one your
[136:48]belief structure and that day some of us are gonna have the
[136:52]book we're now right hand and poor a person like me it's
[136:58]probably gonna have it in their left hand okay and I'm gonna
[137:01]be a beggar than to asking you please give me a deed
[137:05]I'm sorry I shouldn't hurt you this way I haven't taken account
[137:12]but it all goes back to your belief system our belief system
[137:17]toheeb which is the oneness of God which is a journey within
[137:24]itself to understand this is the backbone of your belief Tao hey
[137:31]Aladin which is God's divine justice some people think that God is
[137:39]not just he's unfair life is unfair why am I here this
[137:42]is not fair a person who comes from that perspective blames God
[137:48]this system that you built with my finite information and your infinite
[137:54]information and the way it's built I get to judge you Wow
[138:00]opinion again but from there once you understand that the third level
[138:12]is what new boowa is believing in a prophet who can be
[138:17]relative perfection who can handle the code the Allah sends down that
[138:22]personality has to be able to handle the responsibility then from there
[138:27]he mama which is the imams then in me i'd going back
[138:34]to allah those are the five levels that's your backbone if you
[138:41]just understand the first one and that's why I challenged and why
[138:47]my brother mr.
[138:46]Bazzi said what tell hey when you figure out that code in
[138:55]your heart something ignites in the amount of confidence that you have
[139:01]is incredible it's literally when you start understanding that I am absolutely
[139:08]dependent me I'm absolutely dependent on an absolute independent there you find
[139:19]submission and your heart now goes into sujood willingly that's how it
[139:26]works when I look at dependency and I say I'm in need
[139:33]me I need something and it's ultimately allah azza wajal and when
[139:37]your heart can submit there I'm telling you you have emotional richness
[139:41]there's nothing in your heart that's angry malice resentment it's incredible what
[139:50]happens to your heart I'm sorry for taking so long I love
[139:54]whatever is here ok thank you for doing what you're doing good
[139:59]for you and if I lost you somewhere down the line please
[140:01]forgive me that means I'm not that good ok please keep us
[140:08]in your prayers keep every person who has stayed at least in
[140:11]your prayers this is a journey I'm telling you so good for
[140:16]you if you've stayed good for you that's what I used to
[140:18]do I used to stay I used to be the last person
[140:21]about maybe three four or five o'clock in the morning I would
[140:25]find the speaker and I would wait for my questions the last
[140:28]moment and I wouldn't care but those are the best conversations from
[140:33]three to five in the morning if you can stay up I'm
[140:37]not telling you to do that to me because I'm not staying
[140:39]up with you okay but at the end of the day that's
[140:44]how it works okay seek that knowledge and if you don't understand
[140:47]or you don't have that emotional structure it's okay go after it
[140:52]chase it and don't stop unless you quench your thirst Salah Allah
[141:00]Mohammed Ali Mohammed
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