The Marriage & Progeny Dua: 25:74 | Quranic Duas | Night 18 | Sh. Mohammed Al-Hilli

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[0:15][Music] f alhamdulillah [Music] [Applause] Muhammad for the purification of the souls

[1:26]the enlightenment of the hearts the acceptance of the deeds and for

[1:31]the hastening of the reappearance of Enlighten your souls and the atmosphere

[1:37]with the recitation of Sal upon muh muh respected Scholars Elders sisters

[1:49]and brothers this Quran Dua is found in chapter 25 amongst a

[2:03]number of superb qualities designated for the Servants of the all merciful

[2:09]it should be memorized understood but importantly it has connotations towards one's

[2:18]relationship as far as marriage and indeed parenting is concerned chapter 25

[2:24]Surah fan Ayah number 74 constitutes a favorite Dua for the especially

[2:43]we find in the book as well as a that says used

[2:53]to recite this Ayah frequently this was a Dua that was beloved

[2:56]to the commander of the faithful and it's a Dua of great

[2:59]import importance for each and every one of us because it has

[3:06]a theological basis it has a spiritual Dimension as well as a

[3:09]social element for you and I to understand of the utmost importance

[3:15]is the memorization of this Dua and the recitation of this Dua

[3:20]whenever possible indeed today we find our have said those who are

[3:23]seeking to get married those who are looking to find a wife

[3:28]those who are married and want children children and those who have

[3:33]children but want them to be righteous and those who are married

[3:37]and have children but want their grandchildren to be righteous and those

[3:42]who are married and have children and have grandchilden but they want

[3:49]their great grandchildren to be indeed upright it is recommended to recite

[3:55]this Dua with t reflection and contemplation this Dua exists in Surah

[4:00]fan and allaha inah highlights 14 characteristics virtues of the slaves or

[4:11]the Servants of the all merciful is a beautiful term in the

[4:19]Holy Quran describing an important part of our Lives the lives of

[4:23]each and every individual and that is the identity who are we

[4:26]how are we identified by how do we represent present ourselves how

[4:33]do we speak about ourselves to others this constitutes a critical part

[4:37]of the lives of human beings because how many times in our

[4:40]lives we've been in situations where we identify ourselves we identify ourselves

[4:44]to people who don't know us we identify ourselves to even those

[4:49]within our community yet identity today is a subject that has caused

[4:54]confusion and arguably there is what is known as the identity crisis

[4:57]amongst the youth sometimes they don't know who they are meaning that

[5:01]for example they know their ancestors are from India or for example

[5:05]they know originally they are Arab yet for instance they are living

[5:11]in Africa or they're living in the Middle East or indeed in

[5:14]America or different parts of the world do they identify themselves as

[5:17]belonging to that part or do they go back to for example

[5:22]their family and the roots of their family but more importantly what

[5:26]about their religious identity meaning today there are those who hide their

[5:31]faith or indeed their M sometimes not because that they are worried

[5:36]or afraid of their lives but rather for diplomatic reasons diplomatic meaning

[5:41]that they do not wish to somehow create friction or that they

[5:47]are not proud of their religious identity meaning what today when you

[5:53]ask a question to people which mhab or which school of thought

[5:57]within the religion of Islam do you follow there are those today

[6:03]who say I will not for example distinguish between I as a

[6:06]follower of and somebody else I will not say for example I

[6:11]am from the Shia of Ali why they might say that this

[6:13]might cause disunity this might cause dissension this is indeed far from

[6:21]the truth this is a fallacy meaning Quran identifies and brings forward

[6:26]an important realization that is indeed supported by the of the each

[6:31]and every one of us has an identity which we need to

[6:33]be proud of and it's an identity that shapes Our Lives an

[6:38]identity that gives us Direction Vision instructions commands how do we live

[6:43]our lives how do we conduct Our Lives how do we seek

[6:45]success in this world and my identity is what my identity muhamad

[7:28]another salaat please my identity is my vision my goal my life

[7:40]therefore I as a Believer should I introduce myself as an individual

[7:48]who follows the school of or should I introduce myself as somebody

[7:51]who is a Muslim that's an important question that some people may

[7:55]have the answer to this in this day and age we have

[7:59]to recognize the importance of identifying ourselves as indeed the followers of

[8:04]in a world where everybody is asking who are the Shia of

[8:09]Ali what are Thea and the beliefs of the Shia of Ali

[8:11]it is of the critical importance that we are not shy of

[8:17]this identity listen to individuals in history who are asked this question

[8:20]about who they are for example who is the slave or the

[8:28]servant of he was an individual who was executed by the enemies

[8:41]of the this individual was asked during his lifetime who are you

[8:50]what is your identity what do you think the response of kar

[8:54]was listen to part of what he said he said M I

[8:59]am the ser of who he says I will give you my

[9:17]identity by giving you the of who I am belonging Who I

[9:18]Am the servant of I am the servant of the one who

[9:22]fought with two swords and had two Spears and he performed Salah

[9:26]towards twas he gave two he did two hijas he never ever

[9:33]a moment in his life did kuur of Allah subhah wa tala

[10:00]for then he says [Music] was not worried about his head being

[11:02]separated from his body his identity was the will ofate his identity

[11:10]was the Shia of Ali that's why I remember a few years

[11:12]ago at the University in London there was a a program that

[11:18]I was invited when I spoke about the importance of Muslims being

[11:21]honest about who they are so that there is an understanding not

[11:26]because of animosity to to fight each other no this is who

[11:28]I am this is my you are the I want to be

[11:37]on I am not shy to tell people I am on yes

[11:42]therefore I said to the seating congregation I said to them that

[11:46]please identify yourself who are you the follower of after the holy

[11:49]prophet one individual in the crowd put his hands up and he

[11:54]said to me I disagree with you you are causing problems you

[11:57]must only say that I am a Muslim don't say anything else

[12:01]because a Muslim is enough the prophet was not Sunni or sh

[12:04]Prophet is Muslim I said to them I will answer you with

[12:08]an example he said what do you mean I said when you

[12:09]travel to any country what is it that you need in order

[12:15]to enter that country he said two things number one passport number

[12:19]two visa I said very good if you go to a country

[12:24]with only the passport with no Visa would you enter that country

[12:32]or not he said no I said usually they need a pass

[12:34]a Visa yes I said can you tell the immigration officer or

[12:38]the person at the airport telling you where is your Visa you

[12:41]say to them don't differentiate we are all human beings this is

[12:45]a passport and you have a passport why do you need a

[12:47]visa everybody should be let through there is only one response you

[12:51]get from that person go back home you cannot enter yes he

[12:56]said to me I don't get it what is that got to

[12:59]do with you and having an identity of the Shia of Ali

[13:02]I said listen very carefully our objective is to go to Jah

[13:06]our passport to Paradise isi is the differentiated between and J I

[13:17]should never have any doubt in my mind someone asks me and

[13:21]someone did two weeks ago in Mecca he said to me who

[13:25]are you are you Sunni or sh next to the of the

[13:26]holy prophet at that moment I was walking and he told me

[13:31]that moment Subhan Allah I was next to I felt the need

[13:33]immediately I raised my chest and my head and I said I

[13:39]am proudly the of when you and I are proud of the

[13:41]association with number one this is the path of Salvation number two

[13:48]our children will look up to parents who understand the value of

[13:52]and not shy of understanding its implication in our lives therefore the

[13:58]Quran comes forward and says that if you have and if you

[14:01]have a belief you need to be identified by it the Quran

[14:06]says that this servitude is an identity for the Believers that an

[14:14]individual has is what is amongst the most successful human beings because

[14:20]the highest status anybody can reach is to be known as the

[14:23]servant of Allah [Music] Allah subh says that the First Quality given

[14:37]to the holy prophet likewise you all know when we recite the

[14:46]we say is mentioned before the messengership therefore the goal for me

[14:55]as a human being as an individual to indeed have an identity

[15:01]that gives me salvation in this world is to recognize that is

[15:05]of the utmost importance I am a servant of Allah first and

[15:10]foremost and I should work towards the servitude whatever indeed comes before

[15:15]me hence the Quran then gives a number of qualities and characteristics

[15:21]associated with this [Music] areas number one what is the of this

[15:36]ay how do we understand its phrases and what does it actually

[15:41]mean this Dua number two how does it apply to the goal

[15:44]of a seeking a successful wife or husband and number three what

[15:50]does it mean in terms of raising children what are the qualities

[15:54]of having the successful yes children or proy for an individual the

[15:59]Quran says those who say is it or is it actions because

[16:07]the Quran the beginning of an intentional Journey towards understanding what this

[16:16]means they say it's of the UT most importance that you and

[16:24]I understand each term so when I memorize this Dua and I

[16:28]recite this Dua in order to get married or to have righteous

[16:31]children it comes from the heart and not just from the tongue

[16:39]in Arabic is not to give hi means to gift but specifically

[16:42]when you gift someone something that they do not deserve is something

[16:49]which is referred to as a gift is an undeserved gift when

[16:57]you give someone who has wronged you something they say this is

[17:03]when you and I say we are saying Allah I Am The

[17:09]Sinner I am the individual who do not deserve all the blessings

[17:13]you give me but you are you are all the merciful and

[17:19]I I am grateful for what you give [Music] me every night

[17:28]what do we recite the recitation is I have never seen a

[17:35]a servant who is more stingy and Mis than me dealing with

[17:38]a all merciful kind Lord like you you call me and I

[17:47]turn away from you you shower me with love yet I respond

[17:55]by hatred and you keep showing me with compassion but I don't

[18:04]like it I don't accept it therefore the first realization when I

[18:08]make Dua Allah I don't deserve it Ya Allah I am not

[18:15]befitting that you are you are you are yes you are the

[18:24]all kind all loving please understand this first thing we ask for

[18:34]in Dua is a righteous spouse a rightous wife or husband second

[18:41]thing we ask for is children do you agree no the Ayah

[18:49]does not ask for righteous children because the word in Arabic for

[18:54]children is but in this a it says is Quran is not

[19:09]concerned with shortterm relief and success Quran wants you and I to

[19:14]have success until the day of so I am asking Allah yeah

[19:20]Allah I do not only want my children to be good I

[19:23]want all the children that come after my children from their proy

[19:29]until the day of to be the best and the most rightous

[19:35]Allah said look at my Mercy that even the Dua I am

[19:42]teaching you gives you and continuous and this is Key by the

[19:47]way because those who are not married and are looking to find

[19:50]the husband or the wife people often are shortterm in their thinking

[19:53]they say you know I want somebody who fulfills one two three

[19:59]of my criteria yeah the Quran says look Beyond understand that if

[20:03]you find the right spouse they will be building the fabric for

[20:07]your C children is righteous and the line will continue until the

[20:20]and all the good that they do you will get for will

[20:29]come to you is very beautiful because in the Arab language in

[20:50]the Arabic language there are two types of eyes means coolness of

[20:58]the eyes in Arabic there is what is know of the eyes

[21:05]the of the eyes there are two types of Tears when somebody

[21:13]is sad they cry and they are referred to as crying hot

[21:20]tears when somebody is happy they cry they are referred to as

[21:26]crying cold tears Quran says is coolness of the eye when the

[21:34]eye feels cool it's a metaphor for Joy Tranquility calmness and happiness

[21:39]the AR used to say when we are in a desert and

[21:45]there is a storm we go into a cave we hide in

[21:49]a cave cave we are hiding in a cave to protect ourselves

[21:56]from a storm therefore the Quran comes forward and says that supplicate

[22:01]to Allah Ya Allah grant me a spouse and progeny that are

[22:07]the source of comfort a source of Happiness source of Tranquility but

[22:11]also protect me from the storm of this D meaning what this

[22:18]dun has so many hardships has so many difficulties has so many

[22:23]challenges the wife or the husband as well as the progeny and

[22:28]the children are source and the means of Tranquility our means of

[22:36]settling down from the storm that hits us from all different directions

[22:41]number one second means of on this Ayah where else in the

[22:47]Quran is mentioned three places two in regards to a mother two

[22:53]mothers yes and one very very important the one place that is

[22:57]referred to with regards to a mother is in chapter 28 both

[23:04]of them when when she picks up M she says to her

[23:12]husband let us keep him yes why he will be a source

[23:19]of happiness for us he will bring joy for you and I

[23:26]let us keep him number one number two when m is placed

[23:29]in the river by his mother in a casket Allah waala says

[23:36]I reveal to her that do this so that she feels a

[23:44]sense of calmness and she is not saddened both are used in

[23:50]reference to what two mothers or females what is important to you

[23:54]and I however is the third usage that is found in third

[23:58]chapter 32:1 17 Allah uses here to relate it to this ay

[24:09]please understand Quran says no soul should know what has been hidden

[24:17]for them what is going to be provided for them from that

[24:22]which gives them coolness of the eyes this is in reference to

[24:25]Paradise the only time the Quran uses in reference to you and

[24:31]I is when it talks about J and if you link this

[24:39]Ayah 32117 to 2574 you'll come to a very important realization Allah

[24:49]says he is saying your spouse and your progeny are your key

[24:57]to get to Jen are your key to obtain prosperity in is

[25:02]a reference to what is in reference to calmness and Tranquility number

[25:07]one but the second meaning is what is Paradise is happiness is

[25:15]success in the here after therefore it goes to show of the

[25:18]importance of what of the correct selection when it comes to the

[25:22]wife or husband and likewise the correct upbringing of the children this

[25:29]particular Dua is therefore a very important Constitution for us as far

[25:38]as family structure is concerned meaning what meaning today the family unit

[25:44]is facing a number of hardships and challenges a number of obstacles

[25:47]anywhere around the world even the definition of a family unit today

[25:54]is being subjected to many different question marks and there is a

[26:00]war on family in this day and age many parents I know

[26:03]are struggling they say that today parenting for example is harder than

[26:11]perhaps 20 30 years ago there are those who are saying finding

[26:17]a righteous spouse is becoming more difficult than ever before and so

[26:24]in their eyes there are many more challenges that need to be

[26:29]overcome and need to be examined I'd like to look at these

[26:32]two areas very briefly to touch on how the Dua can become

[26:38]an active Dua there are two types of Dua there is what

[26:40]is known as a passive Dua a Dua that is just a

[26:48]sentence that's mentioned without any action but an act a successful parent

[26:54]I need to supplicate but I also need to work towards a

[27:00]plan a plan to Manifest this question the first area the Quran

[27:05]comes forward and says and that is the selection of a particular

[27:09]spouse for human beings a challenge that today some have come forward

[27:15]and have complained about why because they say today marriage has become

[27:20]more difficult than before what do you mean when I was looking

[27:23]statistics in the United Kingdom the average age now for marriage has

[27:33]been the highest that has ever been in 2017 the office of

[27:36]national statistics in the United Kingdom said the average age for men

[27:40]to get married is 37 and the average age for women to

[27:47]get married is 35 people are delaying marriage they're pushing it further

[27:53]and further and it's happening in our communities as well it's happening

[27:57]in my travel in different parts of the world America Canada Australia

[28:01]Africa Middle East I meet many people Z and I see our

[28:07]boys they're in their 30s I see our sisters they're in their

[28:10]30s and 40s and when we speak to them there is a

[28:15]reluctance there is a a form of what there is a form

[28:21]of apprehension when it comes to getting married there are a number

[28:24]of reasons and a number of challenges that they say the these

[28:30]are the problems that we are facing when it comes to marriage

[28:33]the first thing that they often say is we have heard so

[28:38]many problems and negativity as far as marital relationships is concerned either

[28:42]by watching our parents or seeing the number of divorce cases in

[28:48]our communities or hearing about how nasty or how difficult it is

[28:52]when it comes to marital relationships what do you mean one person

[28:55]said once my father and mother a fight and they fight a

[29:03]lot in front of us he said when my mother go gets

[29:08]angry with my father she says to him you know how I

[29:10]become calm after I fight you so the father husband says to

[29:17]her how she says the only way I become calm is by

[29:19]going upstairs and C cleaning the bathroom so the husband said very

[29:30]good go and clean the bathroom the son later went to his

[29:36]mom and said Mom how is it that you become calm after

[29:39]a fight with My Father by cleaning the bathroom she said listen

[29:43]you don't understand and your father doesn't understand when I clean the

[29:47]bathroom I use his toothbrush in the recognition that when somebody hears

[29:55]this they say I don't want to be in a state where

[29:59]I am con fighting let me be in a state of calmness

[30:02]I don't want to include myself in these particular situation one person

[30:08]said I was sitting in the car and my father and mother

[30:12]were having an argument in the car driving all of a sudden

[30:15]my wife my mother looked at my father and said can you

[30:21]see these animals on the street in the farm they remind me

[30:24]of your family the husband said yes I agree she said you

[30:32]do he said yes I agree she said how yes they are

[30:37]my in-laws so the child is sitting is thinking you know all

[30:44]these particular slanging matches against husband and wife father and mother is

[30:50]what is putting me off marriage so the first thing to recognize

[30:54]is there is no marriage without conflict but for the sake of

[31:00]Allah and to give a good idea of IM image of marriage

[31:02]do not have these arguments in front of children do not have

[31:08]these particular swearing and acts of aggression and violence which are unacceptable

[31:12]within the religion of Islam just because somebody is your wife or

[31:17]somebody's your husband does not give you the right to use profanity

[31:22]or swear words it is Haram and unacceptable to have these particular

[31:26]exchanges of swearing against each other let's fear Allah first and foremost

[31:31]secondly they must not ever be done in front of the children

[31:33]number one number two one of the problems that we find today

[31:39]as far as finding a right spouse is concerned is the high

[31:44]demands and expectations please understand this Western influence has had an impact

[31:51]on the mindset of our youngsters and our youth both boys and

[31:55]girls today because of social media B holwood and Hollywood there is

[32:02]maybe a wrong understanding of what a husband should be and what

[32:06]a wife should be so when they come to look for somebody

[32:11]to choose as a husband or wife what do they expect in

[32:13]their minds they expect in their minds this idea that is being

[32:20]embedded in their heads or or the wrong expectation that they have

[32:23]seen from their own parents I deal with many marital problems sometimes

[32:28]when I say to the husband what is wrong with your wife

[32:32]honestly you might laugh at what I'm about to say but it

[32:36]happens he says to me she can't cook my mother's Biryani is

[32:39]better than her so immediately there is a comparison with the mother

[32:46]do this and there is this constant comparison that creates conflict and

[32:51]so from the beginning perhaps before the marriage starts there is the

[32:56]idea that I have this the bar is very high and if

[33:00]all the boxes are not ticked then I will not get married

[33:04]to this person by the way there is a ruling here which

[33:10]is what if an individual is committing any form of Haram because

[33:16]they're not getting married any Haram there is a physical need there

[33:20]is also a psychological need also to be with the opposite gender

[33:25]but if an individual commits any form of Haram this doesn't mean

[33:30]fornication no no no anything watching that which Isam yes or having

[33:38]boyfriend girlfriend as a result of not getting married marriage becomes W

[33:43]upon them and the delay of marriage becomes Haram upon them that

[33:48]every day that they're not married and they commit any form of

[33:54]sin what is an act of Disobedience of Allah subhana tala the

[33:57]meter is working it's not a joke some people say it's okay

[34:01]it's okay no no no M it's fine whenever the right person

[34:06]comes whenever I find the right person if you are strong in

[34:09]your IM and you're not committing Haram okay but if you are

[34:12]slipping up yes there is no excuse for delay of this marriage

[34:19]and having this High expectation likewise the Western culture has given in

[34:25]movies I have seen does Islam believe that you have a a

[34:28]soulmate you know soulmates people say there is a soulmate I have

[34:34]not seen any evidence in Quran or to say that there is

[34:40]a soulmate I speak to some sisters and brothers why are you

[34:44]not choosing this person oh mallah he's religious from good family good

[34:48]okay so why what is the problem what is the problem I

[34:53]don't think he's my soulmate allahar where are you going to find

[34:57]your soulmate in timbak 2 or in some parts of the world

[35:02]where is this soulmate oh but I have seen there must be

[35:04]this special connection of the heart that there are arrows flying everywhere

[35:10]where did we get these ideas from yes the holy prophet famously

[35:33]comes forward and says somebody comes to you they have de and

[35:39]yes now I know this is General I am not saying don't

[35:45]look for some important values that you may have but be flexible

[35:49]meaning a Believer is not stubborn not hard-hearted no either my way

[35:54]I want this one W I have seen in UK I don't

[35:58]know here mic but in UK some sisters rejecting a brother he

[36:04]is too short aib sorry molana he's too short when therefore we

[36:13]begin to pick and choose like this don't then yes don't then

[36:17]be surprised by theab of Allah falling onto US when I sayab

[36:24]I mean it today I am very worried today I think we

[36:26]have a pandemic across our communities when I say pandemic means affects

[36:31]Africa America Europe and Australia all countries do you know what that

[36:35]is many of our sisters in their 30s and 40s not married

[36:43]it's spreading it is spreading and our brothers they are looking for

[36:47]ladies who are in their 20s sometimes most of the times and

[36:50]these ladies later on in life not necessarily a fault of their

[36:55]own sometimes sometimes but I'm not being judgmental at all all sometimes

[37:00]it is sometimes it's not but the problem that we have today

[37:03]is that it has to be a coordinated effort between what between

[37:06]everywhere people ask the question these are issues what else culture what

[37:12]do you mean there are some cultures that impose non-islamic practices that

[37:18]stop our youngsters from getting married number one and I know this

[37:23]is controversial but I have to say it because member of and

[37:27]member of is not a member of it's a member of H

[37:35]and the truth it's the member not to be afraid we are

[37:38]not afraid for the sake of Allah when somebody rebukes us one

[37:42]problem we have in culture practices is the say nons marriage issue

[37:49]molana yes this young boy has come yes he is mallah very

[37:57]good he recites Quran he besides Nam he prays he doesn't listen

[38:01]to Haram music he works in a company good Mah what is

[38:07]the problem he's not say m my daughter is say and this

[38:14]daughter remains unmarried why she's waiting for that Mr Perfect who takes

[38:20]all the boxes and has to be SED which which which Ali

[38:28]muhamad has said this must happen tell me this is culture okay

[38:31]no problem at the end of the day at the end of

[38:36]the day if we put extra obstacles before our children before our

[38:40]youth then we must expect problems we must expect these challenges to

[38:45]be Amplified likewise we mentioned a few days ago the whole challenges

[38:50]of is also not something that we should take seriously when it

[38:57]comes to marriage if if only there is doubt or 50/50 then

[39:00]perhaps we you Reser to of his Eminence listen to this he

[39:10]says if a father does for marriage without consulting his daughter regularly

[39:17]he loses the will over his daughter and his daughter can marry

[39:24]without his permission not a joke every time it's and the poor

[39:30]girl doesn't know what's going on yes likewise one of the major

[39:33]challenges that today people face is what is not knowing where to

[39:40]look somebody asked a question okay I want to find a righteous

[39:43]husband or wife where do I look where do I find this

[39:49]person how do I start who do I contact and I think

[39:53]this challenge needs a lot of discussion and help from many different

[39:58]organ organizations and relevant bodies meaning one first of all an individual

[40:04]has to recognize that everything comes from Allah tala and they must

[40:09]never give up they must always be hopeful number one number two

[40:16]they must not be shy to ask their friends and their relatives

[40:19]regularly to look controversial thing some of our sisters are told no

[40:27]not good you should wait for somebody to knock on your door

[40:31]you should never ask for marriage who said the holy prophet of

[40:36]Islam his mother Amina she her mother went and asked Abdul M

[40:45]can my daughter marry your son Abdullah in an age where this

[40:54]was unheard of in 7th Century Arabia which was full of misogyny

[40:58]yes an anti-woman attitude who else peace and blessings be upon her

[41:07]she sends her servant to go and ask the prophet of Islam

[41:09]is it okay that you marry me what's the problem with that

[41:16]oh but you know molana is not really our culture we don't

[41:19]want this but this girl if she finds somebody she can do

[41:25]it in an appropriately Islamic acceptable manner she speaks to her father

[41:29]she speaks to her brothers and says can you find out if

[41:31]this brother is willing or is looking for marriage what's wrong with

[41:35]that there is really nothing wrong with that and today we need

[41:40]to develop a new way which is islamically acceptable to help our

[41:45]sisters and brothers when it comes to marriage when it comes to

[41:49]facilitating yes the final area is the idea that immediately emerges is

[42:03]how do we make sure that our Offspring and our progeny is

[42:06]the apple of our eyes it's the light of our eyes is

[42:11]one that gives us tranquility and happiness I will mention three points

[42:16]inshallah tala before we conclude the first the quranic model for successful

[42:21]parenting is not how sometimes we have raised our children please understand

[42:27]this final few points critical for our success when our children are

[42:31]young are young usually we teach them in Mad pray Etc do

[42:43]you agree this is the foundation block usually when it comes to

[42:48]our children when they were young four five 6 7 the Halal

[42:53]and Haram the dos and don'ts are usually started off from an

[42:58]early age Quran says no Quran says this is important but not

[43:06]after you do something else was a righteous man is mentioned as

[43:23]someone who taught his son in the best possible way when Quran

[43:27]when Allah describes this that means follow this initiates the discussion with

[43:34]his son on no the first basis for which our children need

[43:50]to be strengthened and our youth need to have an understanding is

[43:57]a is beliefs you and I must work and invest so hard

[44:00]for our children when they're young to make them understand their connection

[44:05]with Allah subhana tala their a as far as the prophet and

[44:11]Ali Muhammad is concerned this AA if we feed it from the

[44:13]beginning then when I teach my child Salah and andab and when

[44:19]I teach my child will they will accept it and understand it

[44:22]much more than when they do not have a connection with Allah

[44:25]a is of the most importance when my child is Young when

[44:32]they are four 5 three I need to have conversations about Allah

[44:35]about the prophet about the today our youth are facing questions and

[44:40]objections and misconceptions about their they don't know how to answer because

[44:45]they have been told do this do this do this they have

[44:49]not been given the right foundation this right foundation gives them the

[44:53]strength today when our sisters take their hijab off when our children

[44:56]do not pray when some come and question like why why because

[45:06]they have not been strengthened and the plant has not been watered

[45:11]and the foundation has not being built with the doctrines with that

[45:19]is what we have to invest from a young age I need

[45:23]to know how to speak to my child about Allah I need

[45:27]to give stories of the prophet I need to teach them the

[45:30]importance of from a young age from a young age yes and

[45:36]when they grow older I must never ever dismiss any question that

[45:41]they have regarding a meaning what meaning that if I don't know

[45:47]the answer I will search I will ask the I will investigate

[45:49]and make sure a good answer is given to my child a

[45:55]good answer is given to my youth and I do not take

[45:59]this lightly this is of the utmost importance if I want I

[46:03]must make sure that our children are brought up in line with

[46:08]Quran and indeed the this is very very important in which way

[46:13]is it important today we have a generation who are asking about

[46:19]everything with regards to why the Gen Z they called they are

[46:26]asking why I have had discussion with some of them I'll give

[46:33]you an example one lady in America 13 14 year old she

[46:37]asked me once in a Q&A session she said I have asked

[46:43]this question to many but they have not given me good answer

[46:45]so I am asking you also I said B I am a

[46:52]student of Islam so she said why has Allah made hijab for

[46:56]women but not not to men why if she asks you this

[47:05]question what would you say I know the majority will say that

[47:10]Allah has created the females with their hair as a means of

[47:17]beauty which attracts men and therefore it needs to be covered yes

[47:20]would you give this answer no what answer would you give this

[47:26]is the normal answer that's given yes that's often given as the

[47:30]reason she said I have had this she didn't say but her

[47:32]father told me she has had this answer from every single but

[47:38]she's not satisfied she says it's not fair I want to show

[47:41]my hair why my brother he shows his hair and this notion

[47:46]of the hair of a female more attractive she will say but

[47:49]I find the hair of a man sometimes attracted so there are

[47:56]many who are asking why why why the majority say chess is

[48:03]Haram why I want to play chess why why says going to

[48:08]swimming pool which is mixed is Haram why I want to know

[48:14]give me reason they are asking and so the parent is wondering

[48:17]what shall I do do I have the number of molana sah

[48:21]I need to call him I need to find an answer because

[48:23]otherwise my child is saying I will not practice yes what is

[48:28]it that we are missing what is it that we are missing

[48:33]from the foundation of the upbringing of our children so that they

[48:37]are please understand this we are missing the power of the love

[48:42]of Allah coupled with submission to Allah subhana tala this is what's

[48:46]missing in our upbringing of our children Quran says in chapter 33

[49:01]Quran says when Allah and his messenger say something that the believing

[49:08]men and women do not have a choice they are not allowed

[49:13]to say I don't agree this is understood by the elders the

[49:19]youngsters they do not so a child when they come forward towards

[49:24]an idea that they cannot understand if their heart appreciat that Allah

[49:29]wants the best for them that wants us to be successful but

[49:33]deliberately based on his wisdom he has not told us the basis

[49:40]for some rulings he has not told us has a book called

[49:47]why some are why some are actions are Haram yet there are

[49:51]possibilities not the real reason Allah knows best so when I as

[49:58]a belie teach my child from a young age the love of

[50:00]Allah the trust of Allah that means I submit to Allah I

[50:05]love him so much I know he wants the best for me

[50:08]it doesn't matter if I know why from my rational deduction whether

[50:13]something is halal andam I trust him and therefore I do it

[50:17]because I love him and I want J that is what the

[50:23]success is otherwise we will be what losing out on our children

[50:27]who constantly want to know the basis for something who constantly are

[50:31]struggling in this day and age where everyone from those who are

[50:37]atheists to agnostics to those who are from other schools who are

[50:41]enemies of to those who are within the school of thought online

[50:45]they will produce videos that will place doubts in their minds sitting

[50:51]in a corner somewhere in India or somewhere they will say no

[50:55]no no don't say yeah Ali mad no no no no no

[50:58]no no this no this no this and immediately our children become

[51:02]what infatuated with some style of talking or they become what drawn

[51:07]towards a YouTube Moana and all of a sudden they weaken our

[51:14]their faith whereas the foundation was not strengthened and even if the

[51:19]children were not strengthened when it comes to the usus the basis

[51:24]is not too late investment must be made through a lot of

[51:28]care and love and support and investment of time for them through

[51:34]the righteous means through good activities which require a lot of discussion

[51:40]final point that I'll mention is this the Quran in this Ayah

[51:45]ends and make us leaders of the the god IM when he

[52:02]was asked about this Ayah he says he says this Ayah in

[52:09]the first instance is in reference to the yes the fact that

[52:15]that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has made them the leaders of the

[52:21]god wary and it highlights the importance of the belief in the

[52:25]IM of the because the the word imama is used isn't it

[52:31]the Divine leadership that Allah waala has selected for the Salvation of

[52:37]human beings in this world and indeed but likewise our have said

[52:41]it also highlights how you and I if we want to be

[52:45]the best the slaves or the Servants of the merciful We should

[52:49]strive to be the best We should strive to attain and to

[52:55]indeed reach the level in which others look look up to us

[52:59]that they emulate us they consider us as Role Models therefore do

[53:02]not settle for second best aim to be the highest and inshallah

[53:08]Allah waala will grant us success because importantly we have the readers

[53:14]and the role models who are chosen by Allah subhana wa tala

[53:18]Muhammad muhamad [Music] final reminder and that is a if you would

[53:31]like to listen to this recite if you ask the and the

[53:44]they say to you this is not fair to say if you'd

[53:45]like something recite salawat one day one of the saw people tired

[53:51]he said if you want me to finish recite salawat everyone recited

[53:54]a lot of Sal wow final Mah and that is regards to

[54:06]uh issue that affects many people when it comes to traveling and

[54:12]who constitutes the a frequent traveler who in the opinion of his

[54:18]Eminence must fast everywhere and must pray tamam full everywhere this is

[54:26]an individual who is frequent traveler please understand this because I have

[54:33]seen already maybe this is not understood well somebody who travels at

[54:37]least 10 days in a month 10 days in a month it

[54:43]could be 2 days then comes back two days then comes back

[54:45]two days so all together 10 days at least 10 days so

[54:50]minimum 10 days in six months so 10 days one month 10

[54:56]days another month 10 days it doesn't have to be 6 months

[54:58]that are consecutive any 6 months in a year they are considered

[55:06]frequent travel number one so if I travel outside my city 10

[55:10]days a month for at least 6 months a year I am

[55:16]frequent traveler number one number two if I travel at least 10

[55:19]days a month for three months only so 10 days one month

[55:25]10 days another month later maybe 10 days in January 10 days

[55:29]in April 10 days in December but I do this on two

[55:33]years so one year 3 months another year three months I am

[55:41]also I am also which means I am a frequent traveler I

[55:46]must pray full everywhere around the world and fast everywhere including the

[55:51]airplane there is a third element which is a bit difficult but

[55:56]that's if someone who travels eight or nine days a month if

[56:00]you travel 8 to 9 days a month per month for 6

[56:06]months a year you are in a special category where you must

[56:10]pray full and so the advice is don't travel 8 to n

[56:18]days at least 10 days or seven days yes now final point

[56:26]is how do I know if I travel 6 months or 3

[56:29]months in a year 3 months another year you need to know

[56:31]for sure that means you know for work for your schedule it

[56:36]is likely this year you will travel 6 months or 3 months

[56:38]this year and 3 months next year it is likely not that

[56:42]you don't know if you don't know and it happens there something

[56:44]else but if you know that is likely to happen then you

[56:49]begin to be considered amongst the those who are frequent Travelers may

[56:54]Allah accept our with thead muhamad

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