Qur'anic Themes in Nahj al Balaghah: (8) Psychology - Shaykh Dr. Usama al-Atar

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[0:09][Music] [Music] ald [Music] muham [Music] [Music] m [Music] muham this Ayah

[1:52]number three ofah was revealed after the event of the event of

[1:58]when the prophet Sall declared as Theif official of the leader and

[2:12]the master of the Muslims after him and this was on the

[2:15]year on 18th day of the month of in the year 10

[2:23]after hij about 100,000 Muslims approximately were present on that day at

[2:32]the event of few days after the final of and those Muslims

[2:40]were told to come and pledge their allegiance to and the famous

[2:53]tradition of which is narrated by all Muslims sh and whomever I

[3:07]am his master Ali is also his master oh Allah support those

[3:12]who support him go against those who go against him befriend those

[3:17]who befriend him and make those who take him as an enemy

[3:24]as your enemies Ya Allah what's important about the Ayah the AY

[3:34]says today I have completed the religion for you this completion comes

[3:43]with the IM religion of Islam it is not just about Salat

[3:52]and religion of Islam it's a way of life therefore if you

[3:58]look at the books of there are a section called for example

[4:08]how you do how did you do etc etc these are all

[4:23]acts of worship then there is another section called dealing with with

[4:31]people because we live in a society we live not in isolation

[4:34]we live amongst people so how do we deal with people for

[4:39]example part of that section is contracts what is a contract how

[4:46]do you make a contract does it have to be written can

[4:48]it be verbal for example all this his way of dealing with

[4:52]people marriage how do you get married divorce what are the requirements

[5:02]all these are there about interaction the religion of Islam is a

[5:05]comprehensive religion comprehensive it deals with every aspect of life including the

[5:15]political aspect Islam has politics indeed became the head the master of

[5:25]a community of a society of a Nation so how did he

[5:27]deal with this community as a leader a political leader became a

[5:33]political leader so how did he deal with it so there's politics

[5:35]in Islam finances there is a financial system in Islam the entire

[5:44]Financial system because once you become a leader of a of a

[5:47]community of a society how are you going to make your ends

[5:52]meet so there's a whole financial system which is unique about Islam

[5:59]by by the way brothers and sisters you'd rarely find a system

[6:03]a religion that has such a comprehensive system for example even those

[6:08]that claim spirituality like Buddhism you go to Buddhism tell them show

[6:12]me a political system that say this is not of our business

[6:17]it's of our spirituality but when it comes politics that's not what

[6:20]what we what we deal with one of great prophet of Allah

[6:32]subh but he never became a political leader became a political leader

[6:38]became a political leader so therefore there are all these aspects one

[6:43]of those aspects of Islam is the psychology as well psychological aspects

[6:49]Allah subhana wa ta'ala created the human being and he knows that

[6:54]the human being has certain needs emotional needs physical needs and among

[7:00]those needs are psychological needs tonight if Allah gives us very briefly

[7:06]we'll go over some of the psychology that is found in very

[7:12]briefly we'll just take a look at Four Points briefly the idea

[7:18]is to show you brothers and sisters that touched upon every aspect

[7:28]of religion which is every aspect of life so when the Ayah

[7:33]says today I have completed my religion for or the religion for

[7:40]you this completion comes with the IM from all dimensions and facets

[7:44]with the religion of Islam if we need help Financial system Islam

[7:51]gives us that fin but who gives us that Financial system if

[7:57]we leave the it becomes incomplete if you remember yesterday do you

[8:03]remember I said with the imams how many more years do we

[8:08]have in addition to almost yes exactly if you include then yes

[8:15]without 250 years without 250 years of from the IMs that's a

[8:25]lot of wealth of Sunnah Traditions from the IMs if we cut

[8:32]that off what happens we just cut off ourselves from 250 years

[8:38]of traditions and sun from the so this is inshallah what we

[8:44]want to get at let's start with it there are several points

[8:51]where the IM touches upon very important points these points interestingly if

[8:55]you take a look at them they are very contemporary points but

[9:00]the packaging is different today they put different for example a a

[9:04]terminology for it different slogan for it but if you go to

[9:10]the roots the essence IM aliam has spoken about it more than

[9:13]14 about 1400 years ago for example when it comes to the

[9:22]effect of a group on people the IM one day took k

[9:30]zad the one who narrated Dua k for us with him to

[9:36]the cemetery and he started speaking to him he said these hearts

[9:45]are like containers and the best of them is the one that

[9:48]can take the most so then he tells him people he categorizes

[9:58]people into three categories what are these three let's take a look

[10:02]at those three categories a scholar who is on the he knows

[10:11]the path this at the time of the is the himself today

[10:17]it is who follow the path of the those great Scholars okay

[10:24]so that's one so you become you should become a Rani or

[10:29]what's the second category learning someone who's he's not a which is

[10:39]most of us most of us we're not we're not Scholars we

[10:44]learn from the from the why do we learn because we want

[10:47]to save our and our we want to have a successful life

[10:53]in D and in the so we learn the we learn the

[10:58]we learn from these so that we can inshallah benefit and Advance

[11:02]okay that's good so these are the two categories that are important

[11:06]comes the third category people who are idiots this is what the

[11:25]IM uses idiots means they don't have a say of Their Own

[11:31]they follow every Trend whatever fashion comes they go with the flow

[11:36]and they mean they go with every you know wind you know

[11:40]what the currents go this way they go this way the currents

[11:42]go this way they go this way yeah they don't have an

[11:47]opinion of their own in Arabic they call such a person he

[11:52]has no opinion of his own he just goes with the flow

[11:58]and how many people do we see as such how many people

[12:00]we see as such a lot of people surprisingly surprisingly so many

[12:07]people you know I remember when I mentioned this last night when

[12:12]Isis came into Iraq and you know they started attacking and taking

[12:17]over people started screaming where is the where is the let the

[12:24]help us where is the say where are the where are okay

[12:27]so Allah subhana made the then a means to save the country

[12:34]alhamdulillah and defend the land all right few years later they come

[12:40]out on the streets what is this you know they dictate to

[12:42]us whatever we do you know we have to follow them we

[12:46]want to be liberal we want to be liberate just few days

[12:49]ago you guys just went out saying where is the we need

[12:54]their help we need their support and now you see a lot

[12:58]of people surprisingly in society a lot of people like this they

[13:02]go with the flow and if I want to use political examples

[13:05]I can use many political examples contemporary contemporary political examples things you

[13:12]will relate to but you see people mallah someone coming especially in

[13:17]in some mallah some countries in some countries you find someone coming

[13:21]out in a campaign people yes hey we cheer for him and

[13:24]then and then a few years later no they cheer against him

[13:27]they go with someone else you know and they go with that

[13:29]person and so on so forth that's in terms of politics but

[13:36]in terms of religion it's also very serious today brothers and sisters

[13:40]we have people so-called influencers know on Tik talk and on social

[13:48]media influencers you know who I'm talking what I'm talking about yeah

[13:53]influencers you guys are laughing now okay so these influencers literally they

[14:03]have millions of followers millions of followers okay you look into their

[14:09]credentials no credentials okay okay somebody follows a doctor for example a

[14:14]cardiologist you know tells him okay this cardiologist comes and he says

[14:17]I'll give you health tips about how to maintain a healthy heart

[14:19]okay that's good he's an expert in this field and I can

[14:24]follow him and learn from him in this particular field you know

[14:27]good somebody who special izes for example in in child psychology and

[14:32]he's teaching us a m a and specializes in child psychology teaches

[14:38]us about how to upbring our children Etc okay he's an expert

[14:41]in this field I'll listen to him in that field but there

[14:46]comes someone who actually has absolutely no idea about this whole world

[14:51]but knows how to talk they're good talkers good talkers and good

[14:56]actors these days acting is not you have to go to to

[15:00]Hollywood mallah It's All Over YouTube anybody can become an actor these

[15:03]days and they may even have more followers than the actual actors

[15:09]you know and the actresses these guys and they come up with

[15:13]strange Trends you remember the ice ice cube Trend you know that

[15:16]ice whatever ice water ice water bucket Trend and how many people

[15:20]used to fall into that and got killed because of that and

[15:23]then people follow just follow blindly follow I had the other you

[15:29]know one day I had a few M come to me and

[15:30]they say sheh I was in a particular area in a particular

[15:34]country they said there is a trend now among ladies among young

[15:36]ladies unfortunately taking off the hijab why because some influencer on social

[15:42]media took off the hijab they went with the flow okay where

[15:46]is your where is your brain okay she took off the hijab

[15:51]does that mean you go with the flow okay ask yourself okay

[15:58]she's wrong what she's doing is not right who should I please

[16:03]Allah subhana wa ta'ala or follow this influencer who doesn't even know

[16:06]what's right and what's wrong and what's H and what's B but

[16:10]unfortunately this is the sad reality today we have so many people

[16:14]watching these videos and mimicking them imitating them the way they dress

[16:24]their hair their Styles their makeup their whatever they go with the

[16:29]flow just go with the flow this is what the IM is

[16:33]referring to this is the effect of a group group effect interestingly

[16:37]the Quran refers to this Allah subhana in says on the day

[16:53]of judgment the people who go to Jenna they are surprised they

[17:00]surpris at the people who ended up in J because they say

[17:04]with all Allah's with all Allah's forgiveness with all Allah's Mercy how

[17:09]did you guys end up in jna because now they're in Jenna

[17:15]they've seen Allah's Mercy Allah's forgiveness Allah's subhana that's why interestingly was

[17:27]told says this was not a follower of he was but not

[17:35]from the school of says I'm not surprised at the one who

[17:45]end up in Janam how he ended up in Janam with all

[17:48]the desires and The Temptations and all that I'm not surprised I'm

[17:51]surprised at the ones who end up in Jah how they made

[17:55]it up into Jen someone came and told the IM IM he

[17:59]says this is what says IM told him this is what he

[18:09]says what I say this is what he says I'm not surprised

[18:22]at the one who ends up in Jenna how he ends up

[18:26]in Jenna because Allah is so forgiving Allah is so merciful Allah

[18:31]is so compassionate Allah wants any excuse to take you to Jen

[18:36]that's really the essence of it Allah does not want he did

[18:37]not create us to end us to put us in the Hellfire

[18:40]we choose to go to the Hellfire that's why he gave us

[18:45]so many incentives you do one good deed I'll multiply it for

[18:47]10 by 10 for you you do one I'll multiply it by

[18:51]80 years for you more than 80 years you do this good

[18:55]deed I'll forgive you you do that good deed I will delete

[18:57]your sins and someone good deeds will delete Allah really is pushing

[19:03]us go to J just do some good deeds and do the

[19:09]basics and that's it but we choose to go to Janam so

[19:13]the IM is saying with all Allah's how do people end up

[19:17]in Janam really surprising how really people put in effort to go

[19:20]to Janam put in a lot of effort to go to J

[19:25]otherwise Jenna is very easy to attain just do the basics theat

[19:29]and stay away from the anyways so those on the day of

[19:33]judgment who end up in Jan are asking the people of Janam

[19:41]how did you end up in Janam look look at what they

[19:43]say listen to what they say we did not pray that's one

[19:51]so that's one thing that's why Salat is so important two we

[19:55]did not care about people and feeding the hungry and all that

[20:00]who cares as long as we are fed and we're looked after

[20:02]we don't care about everyone else anyone else three this is the

[20:08]important we used to go with every flow you know we used

[20:15]to sit down whatever people talk we go with the fashion we

[20:19]go with the trends for and we started we we used to

[20:27]bely the day of Judgment Day of judgment nonsense just this and

[20:32]that's it until what until death Came Upon Us until death beell

[20:40]upon us such people such people Allah says those people will not

[20:51]help them there's no for such people but ayat in the Quran

[20:57]you can see Allah says in another Allah subhana wa tala mentions

[21:02]about certain [Music] people7 when you tell them believe in Allah they

[21:17]will say no no we'll just follow whatever our parents used to

[21:20]follow whatever our forefathers Allah says what if the forefathers did not

[21:23]really understand the truth you blindly just follow follow the h follow

[21:32]the that's why on the day of the battle of sorry Al

[21:35]Al on the Battle of Al a man came he looks this

[21:40]side he sees the wife of the prophet sahabah of the prophet

[21:45]he looks on this side says and theah of the Prophet here

[21:52]sah there he became confused noticed noticed he says listen you're getting

[22:11]confused you don't judge Justice and the truth against people you judge

[22:15]people against the truth people can change yes the use Zu was

[22:25]with the prophet in all the battles or many of the battles

[22:30]was a brave man says Zu was of us he was the

[22:47]cousin of IM Ali from his aunt safia his aunt safia the

[22:50]mother of Zu is the aunt of imami and the prophet cousin

[22:58]he's hashimi from his mother's side Zu Brave good man IM Ali

[23:03]says he was of us until his Wicked son says grew up

[23:11]the son deviated the father it's good to love your children but

[23:15]not to the point where they take you off the there has

[23:19]to be limits when he became a deviant he's no longer your

[23:27]son Allah tells no so here IM is saying don't go with

[23:40]the group just for the sake of the group interestingly today well

[23:44]not today recently in the 1930s we're talking about almost 100 years

[23:49]ago there was an German American psychologist very famous his name is

[23:57]Kurt Leen Kurt Luen came up with a theory called the group

[24:01]dynamics Theory what is group dynamic theory he says the action of

[24:05]an individual is different when he's put as a part of the

[24:10]group when you're part of a group you start behaving differently from

[24:15]being an individual for example I'll give you an example that we

[24:20]relate to but then I'll use some of his examples as well

[24:24]on just few nights ago those of you who stayed with us

[24:27]those of you may Allah give you the and may Allah accept

[24:32]from us inshallah we stayed we started reading the duas the some

[24:37]of you stay until Dua abali if you were by yourself at

[24:46]home doing the you would probably say I would probably not have

[24:49]done many of this maybe I would have done you know putting

[24:52]the Quran on my head pray and that's it but to sit

[24:59]down reading Dua Dua du Dua where did you get that energy

[25:03]from the group the group is doing it so as a group

[25:07]you go with the group and it gives that momentum it gives

[25:11]that energy to do things in a group okay that's something you

[25:13]can relate to an individual versus a group Kurt Leen for example

[25:20]that's why it's good to come and do the as a group

[25:22]in the husse for example last night we read Dua Dua in

[25:27]the we were here we read Dua whereas those people who may

[25:32]have been at home you may not have read Dua for example

[25:35]so Kurt Luen what he did he did a couple of experiments

[25:41]one experiment what he did he contacted some big corporations in his

[25:46]time and he said to some corporations he said I want you

[25:52]to send me two of your managers big leaders like CEO something

[25:55]but two other corporations he said I want you to send only

[25:59]one so they sent he said we're going to do training for

[26:03]them training know some kind of Consulting free about leadership training how

[26:08]to enhance your production and maximize your profits said okay great this

[26:13]is sounds good and he's a professor at the University he's a

[26:16]psychologist so people started sending companies started sending some had two some

[26:23]had one he gave the seminar then he went back they went

[26:28]back he started observing without telling the companies which companies showed more

[26:34]profits which companies implemented the strategies to increase their profits he noticed

[26:40]that the companies that sent two had more profit than the companies

[26:45]that send one and he said he says it's because there is

[26:50]two of them there was a group a group in this time

[26:54]of two people when you have a group then it has a

[26:59]bigger effect the people the one by himself did not have as

[27:01]much of an effect he then went to some schools he went

[27:06]to some classrooms and he went to some children that were some

[27:10]troublemakers he took them out from the school he put them in

[27:15]a different school that did not have many troublemakers he found that

[27:20]after some time this child who was a troublemaker slowly he started

[27:24]to change with the group the group dynamics Theory so he developed

[27:28]this Theory that the group impacts the [Music] individual mentioned this but

[27:38]not in these fancy terms group dynamics Theory all that he said

[27:42]you should either become aim or you should hang out with the

[27:47]and learn from them so that you can inshallah have a success

[27:51]in D and in the or do not be among those this

[27:56]is the third group of people they go with every flow whatever

[28:01]place you put them they go with that place they go with

[28:08]that fashion I see sometimes some people coming from Muslim countries as

[28:14]students when they first arrive here the hijab is good everything is

[28:17]good slowly slowly M the hijab is taken off you know and

[28:23]then the boy comes at the beginning slowly he goes nothing no

[28:31]just went with the flow this shows this individual did not have

[28:35]a very strong foundation and base that's why it's important for us

[28:41]to build the base and the foundation strong base strong Foundation once

[28:44]you have a strong base strong F no matter what happens nothing

[28:47]will move you brought one day he told his uh followers he

[28:56]was sitting down he says find me a sh so I can

[29:02]Slaughter him a sh to slaughter him this what he wants to

[29:05]slaughter a sh they told him today we don't see any more

[29:10]than the servant of IMI you want top not sh this is

[29:16]he says then bring mear so they brought Kar he tells him

[29:21]you arear he says yes I am he says disassociate yourself from

[29:30]ALB so I'll spare your life looks at him says okay with

[29:39]one condition he says what he says find me someone more God

[29:44]conscious more God-fearing better than alali and I will leave Al Talib

[29:49]and follow them nowar presented a logical argument see what he said

[29:59]he said bring me someone better than Ali I will follow him

[30:05]he didn't say I'm not going no I will stick to he

[30:08]presented so what should have been the response the response in a

[30:15]logical way like yes there is someone so and so you follow

[30:17]this person or no there isn't then you can follow but what

[30:23]did Ha say there is no answer so he says kill him

[30:29]there's no answer so just kill him so they killed him you

[30:35]know that's when the is strong you know even if you see

[30:40]the sword and you see ha you still are strong this is

[30:44]the strong base how do we build a strong base brothers and

[30:50]sisters as I told you a few nights ago those 10 things

[30:51]do you remember them what did I say those 10 things on

[30:56]you probably forgot some of them you know and these things increase

[31:11]our faith in Allah whether we like it or we don't because

[31:14]we're creating an environment of submission to Allah and so on so

[31:24]forth attending malalis listening to lectures from reputable speakers this increase our

[31:29]strengthens us so then when the tide comes we're very strong that's

[31:36]one second inshallah let's take the a look at what the IM

[31:42]also says he says when it comes to speaking every human being

[31:55]is hiding under his tongue what does mean he's going to slip

[31:59]he's going to have some slips and that will tell you really

[32:04]who he is in front of people he might come out as

[32:07]M God-fearing he is good person one day some situation might happen

[32:13]something might happen he'll say a word he'll make a statement from

[32:19]that statement you'll know what kind of a person he is I

[32:22]was once at a place I won't mention where in that place

[32:33]there was a center people followers of used to come to that

[32:38]Center in that place they used to have every night in the

[32:46]month of Ramadan so people would come one day after thear and

[32:53]the evening at night we were at somebody's house one person said

[32:56]you know we should stop having having AAR every night why not

[33:00]why this is a good thing it's good to have AAR every

[33:05]night because these poor people come and attend with us to eat

[33:10]I told him okay what's wrong with that used to feed everyone

[33:18]the rich and the poor it's bar the MJ of IM Hussein

[33:21]first of all it is husse this is not your house in

[33:25]your house you can invite whomever you want but when it's a

[33:28]everyone comes to the husse he says no we should build a

[33:32]separate husia for these guys can you imagine can you imagine Subhan

[33:38]Allah I was shocked this is like a this is he goes

[33:50]to regularly I was shocked people have this kind of a mentality

[33:55]and don't be surprised there are people who have that kind of

[33:59]mentality people have kind there are people and some husse they have

[34:05]a spot for example he sits here if someone comes and sits

[34:08]in his spot he gets very angry he goes and complains to

[34:13]the administration that somebody today sat in my spot put a parking

[34:18]label you know reserved there is that arrogance it's hidden it's hidden

[34:28]when he says something you'll catch it then you'll catch it eventually

[34:34]you'll catch it IMI what a beautiful statement interestingly there is a

[34:43]um a journal called Psychology today in that journal look at this

[34:51]heading of this uh publication this publication was published on November 1st

[34:56]2022 just about couple years ago look at the heading did I

[35:03]really just say that our conversations are sprinkled with slips pauses lies

[35:12]and clues to our inner World here is what we reveal when

[35:24]we speak whether we mean to or not this is in 2022

[35:28]did you hear the title what did Imam say 1400 years ago

[35:34]exactly the same thing but this is packaged in a nice way

[35:39]you know did I really just say that the packaging is different

[35:42]the essence is the same our conversations I'll repeat you are sprinkled

[35:50]with slips pauses lies and clues to our inner world inside here

[35:59]is what we reveal when we speak whether we mean to or

[36:03]not this is the title and then the actual article starts discussing

[36:07]the details that's what the IM said 1400 years ago you see

[36:11]psychology is there in the words of what does this mean he

[36:19]tells us a treatment all fix what's between you and Allah then

[36:29]Allah will fix what's between you and the people what does that

[36:35]mean it means train yourself to always be good to be kind

[36:39]not to have a double face because one day you'll be caught

[36:48]if you fix your inside your inner world then your outer world

[36:53]would also be good the same image not different they say one

[37:00]of the to men you like this one one of the had

[37:08]four wives one of the had four wives it is said that

[37:10]all four of his wives used to pray J behind him all

[37:15]four of them believe in his all four of them believe in

[37:21]his this is how difficult it is they all see him you

[37:27]know sometimes there is a man who might have one wife and

[37:29]when it comes to she says I will not pray behind you

[37:35]you know people yeah they don't know your ins and outs I'm

[37:37]your wife I know exactly all your ins and outs I know

[37:42]who you are I'm not going to pray behind you he had

[37:47]four but this demonstrates he was although he had four wise how

[37:50]difficult it is but he managed to treat each one of them

[37:54]with God Consciousness not easy but when you do it in the

[38:02]house it's reflected outside imagine what he's like outside what he's like

[38:07]outside one of the visited another they visited another Al and they

[38:16]had a discussion a heated discussion so the who was visiting the

[38:19]other one insulted him and the who was insulted was very socially

[38:26]popular was socially popular popular his people were sitting down his followers

[38:31]were sitting down he's just been insulted by this who is not

[38:36]as popular socially this Al who's popular who's good comes and kisses

[38:42]down the hands of the other Al and apologizes to him the

[38:45]one who was insulted the one who was insulted bends down kisses

[38:50]the hand of the other one who insulted him and apologized and

[38:54]said I am sorry they hugged each other out and said no

[38:56]problem no it's okay okay and he went and left then this

[39:02]turned to his people he said you're probably surprised why did I

[39:06]do what I did they said yes you should have insulted him

[39:12]back he attacked you he disrespected you and he's visiting you and

[39:17]he's your guest you're the host and he's disrespecting you he told

[39:22]them you know what happened he said what he said the minute

[39:27]he said that word of insult I became angry you know my

[39:31]immediately got angry and told me to reply back say the same

[39:38]thing to him but then I paused for a second I told

[39:42]my nefs I'm not going to listen to you I will do

[39:46]what's right I will not you're not the boss I am the

[39:49]boss this evil commanding self you don't dictate to me what to

[39:56]do my dictates to me what to do so I am going

[40:00]to kiss his hand this is now all within a matter of

[40:02]seconds you know all this is happening within milliseconds but this is

[40:09]how he stained himself to restrain himself so then when my my

[40:17]evil commanding self when I when when I told it that I'm

[40:19]going to kiss his hand it said no no no no don't

[40:22]kiss the hand okay don't apologize don't apologize don't attack back but

[40:26]don't kiss he said I'm going to kiss his hand to teach

[40:30]you a lesson next time stay out of my business so I

[40:32]bent down I kissed his hand I apologized so this way I

[40:40]am in charge this is the third point that IM mentions Imam

[40:43]says listen to this one if you cannot manage your anger then

[40:59]behave act as if you can manage your anger act it out

[41:05]because it is rare for a person it is rare who tries

[41:11]to imitate another group of people but he becomes like them again

[41:14]this also relates back to the group dynamics Theory when you start

[41:17]imitating a group of people then eventually you'll be one of them

[41:22]that's why it's important to have good friends brothers and sisters make

[41:25]sure you're with a good group of friends otherwise they will start

[41:28]influencing you and you'll start Chang without realizing IMI says so if

[41:36]you have anger management problems start counting in the day how many

[41:40]times do I get angry 10 times for example say okay 10

[41:45]times I get angry every day for little things okay tomorrow I

[41:49]need to watch myself not 10 times I have to reduce it

[41:54]to eight times so the minute you hit eight you say ahas

[41:56]now I now now I have to really watch myself once you

[42:01]make it once you go through that 24 hours and only eight

[42:05]times you're going to feel so proud of yourself you'll feel that

[42:11]I accomplished it I did it I managed to beat my record

[42:13]10 times eight times that's 20% Improvement great that feeling of gratification

[42:19]and happiness that Joy keep it in mind psychologist say that feeling

[42:24]should be your driving force so that tomorrow you should also not

[42:30]get angry try to go for seven then try to go for

[42:33]six that feeling should be your driving that reward the reward that

[42:39]I did it I managed to do it then you'll succeed there

[42:42]is a book called The Power of Habit Charles doig he says

[42:47]this is how you can change your habit it's a bestseller book

[42:50]IM Ali is saying it but in a different language again simple

[42:55]language not the Power of Habit and all that stuff when you

[43:01]imitate a group of people it will become a habit you'll become

[43:04]like them you have an anger management problem slowly the other day

[43:08]when I said to some I said whenever you get angry punish

[43:14]yourself penalize give $10 one man came to me the next day

[43:16]he said I started doing this I told him masallah ya prepare

[43:21]your jar good donation to The husse afterwards you know okay so

[43:25]he says no it's a good technique then I started being a

[43:29]bit more mindful you know again these are all strategies see which

[43:34]strategy works for you if you become angry say to yourself I'm

[43:36]going to punish myself what's the punishment I'm going to pay $10

[43:39]or $20 you put it in a jar that's not my money

[43:43]anymore give it give it charity give it to the after five

[43:48]six times that's like $120 you know now in the jar so

[43:52]if I go like this I'm going to become broke so I

[43:54]better watch myself so then you start watching yourself and slowly slowly

[43:58]you'll cut down your habit so these are strategies thinking of the

[44:04]reward how successful how happy you are the gratification of managing to

[44:09]reduce your anger to eight times instead of 10 times for example

[44:13]that gratification will start to motivate you encourage you if I did

[44:16]it then I can succeed and there is a every time whatever

[44:25]determination you make your body can go through it in other words

[44:28]if there is a will there is a way there is a

[44:33]way so the IM is mentioning all this last one brothers and

[44:37]sisters and this one is a big one mental health problems how

[44:42]many of us have mental health you know let me read you

[44:46]this Statistics this was published Again by Psychology today by a senior

[44:52]lecturer at Swansea University his name is Darren Edwards this was published

[44:58]in August 9th 2022 listen to what he says pay attention there

[45:03]is a silent worldwide mental health epidemic but few people talk about

[45:10]it due to stigma as a result and little effort to tackle

[45:15]the problem at a societal level mental health is not just avoided

[45:22]in conversation but it is also normalized in society this is in

[45:25]2022 this is postco the prevalence now listen to the statistics the

[45:33]prevalence of mental health problems is shocking with approximately 251 to 310

[45:42]million people suffering from depression 300 million people that's like the population

[45:49]of the United States of America and 275 million from anxiety disorder

[45:56]globally the cost of mental health problems to the global economy by

[46:02]2030 is predicted to amount to 16 trillion trillion dollars depression is

[46:14]estimated to outpace es schic heart disease did you hear that doctor

[46:20]there is competition now depression is estimated to outpace es schic heart

[46:28]disease as the number one cause of disease burden globally by 2030

[46:34]in another Statistics by World Health Organization they say 800,000 people commit

[46:45]suicide every year 800 when I did the math I divided it

[46:49]800,000 people divided by the number of minutes in the Year it

[46:56]turns out every 40 seconds not even in a minute every 40

[46:59]seconds a person commits suicide can you imagine in this lecture of

[47:05]ours this one hour how many people would have committed suicide see

[47:10]how serious it is why of course sometimes it requires mental intervention

[47:18]sometimes requires because there's a difference between feeling depressed and depression depression

[47:23]is a disorder which may require mental intervention feeling depressed we all

[47:28]experience it you know you have a bad day you feel you

[47:32]know feeling the blues feeling down the problem is if it starts

[47:36]persisting persisting persisting persisting until now it starts interfering with your daily

[47:39]tasks you don't sleep well you don't eat well you don't go

[47:45]to work you lose appetite insomnia now it's depression it sometimes requires

[47:51]medical intervention you have to go see some therapist when it's in

[47:55]its early stages when it's in the early stages turn to the

[47:59]of Allah we have when you have a lot of problems do

[48:08]a lot ofah that will remove them away from you what does

[48:13]IMI say in his letter to his son imass he says I

[48:22]advise you of Allah be God conscious following his commands follow the

[48:35]and fill your heart with his remembrance what does Allah say about

[48:47]with the remembrance of Allah Hearts find peace and Tranquility on the

[48:51]contrary inah whomever does not follow my my my rules the will

[49:05]have a suffocating life there is a direct this is Quran Quran

[49:10]the more you hold on to your strong faith you hold on

[49:16]to you hold on to your the more you hold on to

[49:26]this then inshallah the more the easier it will be for you

[49:29]to face the difficulties and the challenges it does not mean they

[49:33]will go away but you know that Allah is there for you

[49:36]Allah listens Allah will answer you and hence this will make us

[49:42]feel really well I'll finish with this brothers and sisters there was

[49:46]a big his name is who wrote ofran what's the story behind

[50:01]that one day got a heart attack he fell they came they

[50:09]checked his pulse there's no pulse they thought he's dead so they

[50:13]did his they did his cfan and they put a nice Caan

[50:19]he's a big and they buried him they buried him at night

[50:25]he woke up it was a heart attack he was not dead

[50:29]but at the time they did not have these machines to measure

[50:33]the pulse and all that sensitive stuff they came they checked no

[50:36]pulse I spoke to some specialist there are cases when your heart

[50:41]rate can go very low very low heart rate such that you

[50:47]don't feel you think someone is dead unless you have the machines

[50:51]to test so they buried him now imagine this is you you

[50:54]wake up or us we wake up were in theab wrapped in

[51:00]the cff and dark everywhere he started you know shouting but again

[51:15]he was tired he had a heart attack so he did not

[51:18]have a lot of strength whatever strength he had you know anybody

[51:22]anybody no one middle of the night you who's going to come

[51:27]for him so then all the doors now are closed but there

[51:33]is one door that's open which door is this Allah this is

[51:40]Dua at that point he turned to Allah he said I make

[51:51]if you save me from this I will write a t of

[51:55]the Quran he was aim he was a long and behold he

[52:04]hears a shuffle someone is digging back in those days there were

[52:09]people who used to steal ke they used to steal ke they

[52:14]wait for someone to be buried they come at night they take

[52:16]the caffin and they go they sell it and this is a

[52:22]good C because this is this is like a big so the

[52:25]C is got some good value probably so this thief is digging

[52:31]little does he know that this so called May is alive he's

[52:40]not May good lesson for him sometimes Allah teaches people so he

[52:45]heard so when he heard this he kept quiet he said if

[52:50]I make noise right now this guy will get scared and run

[52:51]away so he kept quiet until he finished he finished he came

[52:57]to open the caffin he held his hand they exchange places catches

[53:12]his hand he tells him don't worry I am not dead I

[53:18]am not dead I am I am so and so I was

[53:22]buried thinking that I was dead but I'm not dead take me

[53:26]to my family and I will give you some reward I'll give

[53:29]you some money so he carried him so this thief carried you

[53:33]know again he had a heart attack he was weak there's not

[53:38]much oxygen there you know he was slowly suffocating so he carried

[53:42]him how to the house he gave him some money and recovered

[53:46]and wrote so Dua help when you have this kind of Hope

[53:53]in Allah will you get depressed if you did not have Allah

[53:58]if he did not have Allah what would have happened Kal he

[54:00]would have just been depressed the whole time until he would have

[54:04]died suffocating that's why we always call upon Allah this is the

[54:24]Dua of read it when you're feeling depressed a little bit subh

[54:31]we ask Allah subhana waala to increase our knowledge about the words

[54:36]of IM Ali increases our inshallah increases our IM inshallah make us

[54:45]among those whom he is very pleased with in D and in

[54:47]the and grant us his forgiveness inshallah raise your hands quickly it

[54:52]is now almost in about a minute or two the time ofan

[55:25]Allah [Applause] Allah sh for muham muham

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