No blaming! | Ali Reza Panahian

No blaming!

Imam Sadiq (‘a) said, “Whoever blames a believer for a sin, will commit that sin before he dies.” [Kafi, vol. 5, p. 329]

What causes a person to hide him/herself? Ridicule, especially in childhood. Blaming causes people to hide themselves. A person cannot correct himself that quickly, so he hides himself, especially when a mother blames her child, or she blames her husband, brother or father. There is no difference in blaming.
“What if a person sins?” Absolutely forbidden! “What if a sinner is going to be executed? Can we blame him?” Absolutely forbidden! Absolutely forbidden means it’s absolutely forbidden! We shouldn’t blame anyone! A tradition says we shouldn’t advise a person in public. Because, if you advise someone in public, this is blaming. You’ve crushed him. Don’t do this!
God hates blaming so much that He takes revenge for it in this world. God says, “If you blame someone, I’ll cause you to do the same thing he did!” “Ok God, have mercy. I just made a mistake.” “Didn’t I tell you not to blame others?! You’ve crushed him!”
Do you know what happens when he hides himself?! He’ll become an unbeliever or a hypocrite. No mocking. No blaming. No backbiting. No ridiculing. “You’re saying everything is forbidden!” Don’t ruin the discussion. When did I say that everything is forbidden? For example, being kind is praiseworthy. A tradition says that if you like someone, you should tell him. “I like you. I become happy when I see you.” That’s it. I like you.
The tradition says you’re being unfaithful not to tell him. Don’t you like him? So tell him, “I like you!” Ah! What calmness! The storms and anxieties suddenly quiet down. We have tons of commands in religion that help so the environment can be calm and everyone can feel safe. No one should be crushed, so that he doesn’t hide himself. So that he doesn’t hide himself! Any kind of anxiety causes people to withdraw and hide themselves. Let’s not do this.
What causes a person to hide him/herself? Blaming. Blaming causes people to hide themselves. A person cannot correct himself that quickly, so he hides himself.


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