Islam's Take on Weddings | Sayed Ahmed Qazwini

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[0:09][Music] foreign the day of our wedding may be the happiest and

[0:37]most important day of our lives it is a day that we

[0:45]celebrate the beginning of a new era an era that the husband

[0:47]and wife come together to live happily ever after or at least

[0:50]that's what we hope it's a day that we enjoy the day

[0:55]of our wedding because we receive all the spotlight and your wedding

[1:00]everybody is looking at you everybody's talking about you you become the

[1:04]talk of the night the talk of the town the spotlight is

[1:09]yours everyone is cheering you everyone is honoring you so this is

[1:12]one night that you have out of your life where everybody is

[1:17]thinking about you and you have the spotlight so that's why it

[1:20]is natural for us to enjoy our weddings and to have weddings

[1:23]and thus it's a custom everywhere in the world from the most

[1:29]basic and underdeveloped places of the world to the most advanced and

[1:32]developed countries of the world you will find it's a custom to

[1:37]hold a wedding celebrating the marriage now the question is from an

[1:43]islamic perspective is it recommended to hold a wedding or no we

[1:49]know definitely that marriage is recommended getting married correct this is definitely

[1:55]recommended but is it also recommended to have a wedding a formal

[2:01]ceremony where i invite invite people i give them food and we

[2:06]cheer and dance and whatnot is this also recommended or not because

[2:09]now you see a new trend of some young youth who are

[2:12]getting married religious youth their faithful menin but however they have decided

[2:20]to skip having a wedding they say say it why should i

[2:23]have a wedding the point is allah wants me to get married

[2:26]so i will get married i'll go to the sayyid i'll go

[2:29]to the sheikh and i'll have my ketamiktab i'll have my nikah

[2:34]recited my akkid my milcha whatever it's called and then i am

[2:39]what i'm married this is when the official marriage begins it's after

[2:43]the question so what's the need of having a formal wedding inviting

[2:49]so many people you have to go through so much trouble and

[2:52]planning you have to spend thousands of dollars this is all unnecessary

[2:58]i have received the tawab and i have followed the sunnah of

[3:03]rasulallah by getting married so i've received what i've received the benefits

[3:07]without the burden of having a wedding so why have a wedding

[3:10]and you see many people many young individuals i have seen in

[3:15]many communities they are leaning towards this trend that get married but

[3:19]no reason to have a wedding wedding is not important for me

[3:22]it's between me and my wife and allah subhanahu ta'ala and thus

[3:27]they are skipping weddings all together so the question is islamically from

[3:33]a religious perspective should we have weddings yes or no what do

[3:38]you think na'am we have to ask the woman yeah let's ask

[3:44]the woman islamically should one have a wedding yes or no yes

[3:50]yes and he knows no knows so islamically is it recommended to

[4:00]have a wedding that formal ceremony yes or no the answer brothers

[4:05]and sisters depends it depends what type of wedding you want to

[4:08]have if the wedding that i want to have is like the

[4:13]weddings that i am seeing in our communities today most of the

[4:16]weddings then you should definitely not have a wedding skip the wedding

[4:20]altogether because not only will i tell you this listen and then

[4:24]you can judge what i'm saying not only are the weddings that

[4:29]are happening in our communities in our muslim shia communities today are

[4:33]they unrecommended but many times they are haram when you go to

[4:38]the weddings you find the laws of allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala are being

[4:43]violated left and right 95 brothers and sisters i would say of

[4:47]the weddings that i hear about or i attend which i usually

[4:51]try not to attend because of this or i see for example

[4:56]on social media 95 percent of them unfortunately even hajj the father

[5:01]is a hajj the mother is a hajjah they are believers they

[5:05]come to salat they come to the masjid but you find their

[5:09]wedding becomes a ceremony of disobeying allah every haram you imagine is

[5:16]committed in that ceremony tomorrow night i'll speak about this the haram

[5:20]that is being committed in our weddings tomorrow night wait and i'll

[5:23]explain what i mean in sha allah so the point is if

[5:26]i want to have a wedding just like everybody else's weddings today

[5:31]95 then definitely skip it because not only is it unrecommended it

[5:35]is haram because allah is being disobeyed in our weddings but however

[5:40]to put that aside in general generally speaking when we read the

[5:46]traditions of we find that it is recommended they did encourage us

[5:54]to hold weddings what do we mean by weddings by a wedding

[5:57]we mean to hold a feast and celebration of your marriage invite

[6:03]people hold a ceremony where you invite people and you feed them

[6:08]you hold the feast this is recommended by the imams of bait

[6:12]and by rasulullah now the question is why we have to understand

[6:17]the purpose of weddings brothers and sisters because now wedding is all

[6:22]about love it's just about i'm in love with some girl this

[6:24]girl is in love with this guy and i want to declare

[6:27]to the world that we are in love is this why i

[6:31]am celebrating no this is not what i'm what why i'm celebrating

[6:33]it's recommended in islam to have a wedding remember not marriage we're

[6:37]talking about the formal wedding reception ceremony four reasons number one is

[6:45]because in our weddings we are feeding other people we are providing

[6:51]food for other people and this is highly recommended in islam to

[6:55]feed other people to give to invite other people for a meal

[7:00]is highly recommended let me mention three sets of a hadith the

[7:03]first set of ahadith are the traditions that tell us allah loves

[7:07]when we feed other individuals one hadith from imam al-baqar says loves

[7:17]when you feed other people when you invite them for a meal

[7:22]iraq means when you slaughter an animal give them meat that means

[7:25]when you invite them over don't give them falafel give them meat

[7:28]give them give them whoever feeds one allah will feed you from

[7:50]the fruits and the foods of al-jannah so this is one set

[7:54]of hadith allah loves it that when we hold feasts we invite

[7:58]other people to eat this is number one number two the second

[8:01]benefit of holding a feast and inviting people to eat is that

[8:06]when you feed other people allah forgives your sins listen to this

[8:09]hadith from rasulullah the holy prophet says one of the factors one

[8:21]of the acts that will entitle you that will make you earn

[8:24]the rahmah of allah the forgiveness of allah is if i have

[8:31]committed sins and i feel bad and i feel my sins have

[8:35]burdened my back one good way to repent is to give food

[8:37]to people allah subhanahu ta'ala will forgive you because you are feeding

[8:43]other individuals another hadith from imam sadiq says whoever feeds three people

[8:52]from the muslims allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will forgive your sins imagine

[8:56]just three so in your wedding if you've invited 30 you can

[8:59]imagine how much rahman you receive from allah if you have invited

[9:03]200 300 the more you invite the more the rahm is because

[9:05]you're feeding more people so this is number two that allah forgives

[9:09]your sins by feeding other individuals number three the third benefit of

[9:16]feeding others is that allah increases your risk you see when you're

[9:22]spending thousand five thousand on my wedding i'm feeding other people you

[9:24]think this is a loss the prophet and the imams tell us

[9:29]don't look at it as a loss because allah will quickly reimburse

[9:31]you when you spend money feeding other people this is not a

[9:35]loss allah will quickly reimburse you listen to this hadith he says

[9:52]he says that when you feed other individuals will come to you

[10:00]faster than the knife can do its job you know the knife

[10:03]when it slaughters the animal it's done within seconds the prophet says

[10:07]that when you kill that animal you slaughter it and you feed

[10:10]allah will bring you the faster than it takes for you to

[10:13]slaughter the animal so this is what this is a metaphor he's

[10:17]telling us that allah will reimburse you now i know what some

[10:21]of you are thinking all these hadith are speaking about feeding a

[10:26]poor person if i invite 200 300 homeless people poor people who

[10:33]cannot afford to eat of course all of this will apply but

[10:37]what if i'm inviting people who don't need food my wedding i

[10:42]have to invite my family and friends most of them they're wealthy

[10:45]most of them middle class they're well off us on some of

[10:50]them they're wealthier than me some of them are millionaires so will

[10:52]i still get all those benefits of the people that come to

[10:56]my wedding and eat the food they're rich they're wealthy they don't

[10:59]need the food yes definitely one hundred percent why listen to this

[11:03]hadith a man by the name of abu mu'awiyah he asks about

[11:11]feeding other people the imam tells him listen carefully brothers and sisters

[11:24]he says whoever feeds another mothman means a believer whoever feeds another

[11:30]believer whether that believer is sir means he is poor mooser means

[11:39]he's rich whoever feeds another believer it doesn't matter how much money

[11:44]he has in his account it doesn't matter how wealthy he is

[11:48]that doesn't matter it says [Music] of freeing a slave you know

[12:03]one of the best acts that the imams would encourage people to

[12:05]do is to buy a slave and free him because they want

[12:09]to end that slavery so this would be one of the best

[12:10]acts that you can do a slave is expensive so it's like

[12:14]you go and you buy a brand new car and then you

[12:16]just donate it slave was expensive so this was one of the

[12:19]best acts to buy a slave and free him al-imam says if

[12:24]you feed one person you invite him for a meal whether that

[12:28]person is rich or poor allah will give you the thawab of

[12:32]freeing a slave now you may say why it's obvious brothers and

[12:37]sisters it's not because you just want that person to eat when

[12:41]you invite someone over for a meal whether it's in your house

[12:45]whether it's in your wedding you are showing the love to that

[12:47]person i said look every night we have iftar here is anyone

[12:50]here homeless as anyone here poor is anyone here coming to eat

[12:54]because they don't have food no asan i guarantee you some of

[12:59]the people that come and eat here they have better food in

[13:01]their houses but why do we come and we eat here we

[13:04]come to show the love we come to show the community so

[13:06]when allah wants you to feed other people invite them for a

[13:11]feast it's because you're showing that you love that person you care

[13:14]for that person that i invited you i know you don't need

[13:15]my meal i know you can have and find better food in

[13:20]your house but by inviting you for this feast this is a

[13:23]sign of respect that i love you that i care and this

[13:27]creates love in the community when we do this so this is

[13:31]number one why you should hold the wedding it's because you're feeding

[13:35]other people in the feast and this is highly recommended in islam

[13:39]number two the second reason why it's recommended to hold a wedding

[13:45]is by having a wedding ceremony you are instilling happiness in the

[13:50]hearts of people you see many people not everyone yes i know

[13:54]some people they hate going to weddings but most people they love

[13:59]going to weddings why because they can meet their friends they can

[14:02]you know try out new dresses for the sisters they can come

[14:06]and eat good food they can come and have fun it's a

[14:10]time to come and have fun and enjoy so many people when

[14:12]they're invited to go to a wedding that truly you know brings

[14:16]joy to their heart that they can come and be a part

[14:20]of this celebration the hadith of imam al-bakr says you want to

[14:28]do a kind act that allah loves make someone happy however it

[14:34]may be make someone happy allah subhanahu wa loves the act so

[14:38]when i hold the wedding i know that i'm making people happy

[14:42]by inviting them sending them an invitation and asking them to come

[14:45]and be a part of my celebration i am definitely instilling happiness

[14:50]in the hearts of people that's why it's recommended so once again

[14:53]it's not just because love i'm i'm celebrating my love no it's

[14:56]about the community feed the community show them the love instill the

[15:02]happiness in their hearts this is number two number three one of

[15:06]the most important aspects of a wedding and that's why islam recommends

[15:11]it is because it shows the unity of the community you see

[15:15]one family is celebrating do they celebrate by themselves no the entire

[15:20]community comes to celebrate with them what is the show this shows

[15:25]that this community is together this softens the hearts this brings the

[15:29]hearts closer together that when one family is rejoicing we all rejoice

[15:33]with them it's just like why do we attend why do we

[15:37]attend when someone dies because we want to show that person that

[15:40]we're one community we're like one big family we are here to

[15:46]console you when you are sad and we are here to celebrate

[15:48]when you are happy so this shows the strength of the community

[15:51]that for one person's happiness everyone is happy isn't this beautiful the

[15:57]unity and in fact this is why the day of eid filter

[16:01]is a day as a holiday why is eid al-fitra a holiday

[16:05]is it just because we can eat some people they're happy because

[16:07]finally they can have breakfast they can have lunch this is not

[16:10]why it's a day of holiday this is not why it's a

[16:14]day of celebration al-imam says in one hadith that the day of

[16:18]eid al-fitr is a day of celebration because the muslims gather unite

[16:22]and show their unity listen to this hadith says the day of

[16:31]meaning the first day of shawwal it's a day of eid it's

[16:36]a holiday it's a celebration why not so that the muslims they

[16:43]can come and show their unity together so that they can show

[16:46]that they are one strong community you see islam cares about communal

[16:51]worship islam doesn't want you just to stay in your house and

[16:55]worship allah allah by yourself come together in the masjid and worship

[17:00]allah you saddering how beautifully we say and we recited joshua you

[17:04]can recite aya joshua in your house correct but allah also wants

[17:10]the worship sometimes to be communal together that's why salat al-jamaa is

[17:15]so recommended why i can pray in my house salat al-jama is

[17:19]unbelievable because allah wants the community to worship together he wants the

[17:24]bond of brotherhood and the community to be strong don't just live

[17:27]in your house in your room worship allah subhanahu ta'ala the whole

[17:31]day when you do that first of all you're going to be

[17:33]disconnected from the community you won't know who's sick you won't know

[17:36]who's tired you don't know who you know what the community is

[17:41]going through and the bond between you and other people starts to

[17:44]dissolve so when you attend the wedding brothers and sisters one of

[17:47]the purposes is that the community stays united you get to meet

[17:53]other people you get to make friendships and that brotherhood is definitely

[17:57]made stronger so this is the third reason why it's recommended to

[18:01]hold a wedding in islam for the unity so that the community

[18:06]can join and celebrate together and finally and most importantly why it's

[18:10]recommended to hold a wedding is because it's the sunnah of rasulullah

[18:14]rasulullah encouraged it and he not only encouraged and he would hold

[18:20]weddings listen to this hadith from rasulullah it's very interesting it sound

[18:24]it sounds like a riddle listen to it the prophet is narrated

[18:31]saying [Music] it is recommended to hold a walima walima means a

[18:37]feast in five occasions even though he says what he means this

[18:42]is recommended other things it's not haram but it's not as recommended

[18:45]as this five times it's recommended to hold a walima a feast

[18:49]invite people and hold a feast he says what does this mean

[18:59]it's kind of like a riddle or sin everybody knows the first

[19:05]time that it's recommended to hold a walima a feast celebrate is

[19:09]marriage which is the wedding so this is the hadith of rasulullah

[19:12]number two he says in what is anyone know naam asant when

[19:20]you have a new child when a new child is born it

[19:25]is recommended to hold a walima to invite people over and to

[19:30]celebrate the fact that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given you a

[19:33]child this is the hadith of rasulullah number three he says if

[19:41]it's a boy when the boy is circumcised the prophet says it

[19:47]is recommended to hold a walib now it is recommended to have

[19:50]the boy circumcised on the seventh day this is just a recommendation

[19:53]many parents they just do it in the hospital the first or

[19:58]second day so if you hold the walima for the child being

[20:00]born you can intend it two in one i am holding the

[20:05]walima for the birth and for the for their circumcision this is

[20:11]number three number four the prophet said what is anyone can guess

[20:18]recall is when you buy a new home and you move to

[20:22]a new home it is recommended to hold a walima invite people

[20:27]over and give them food this is number four and finally number

[20:32]five what is i don't think anyone will guess this recast is

[20:36]if you come back from hajj and some have said also if

[20:40]you come back from hajj thank allah appreciate the fact that allah

[20:46]gave you this opportunity by holding holding a feast inviting people over

[20:49]celebrating the fact that you went to hajj so rasulullah he says

[20:55]it is recommended to hold a walima for earth for a marriage

[21:00]this is the hadith of the prophet and likewise rasoon allah himself

[21:03]when he would get married he would hold a wedding by winning

[21:06]we mean a feast you invite people over because tomorrow i'll speak

[21:10]about what our weddings have become today how un-islamic they have become

[21:14]this is not the wedding that rasulullah is talking about the wedding

[21:20]of rasulallah was that people come over and they have a feast

[21:23]and celebrate and go back home i found two ahadith speaking about

[21:30]how rasulullah used to give a feast invite people over when he

[21:35]would get married one hadith is narrated from ali says that one

[21:40]of the wives of rasulullah was by the name of om habib

[21:45]now was her name according to this hadith amina or was her

[21:48]name ramallah the point is um habiba was the daughter of abu

[21:54]sufyan um habiba lived in ethiopia in habasha because her husband obeyed

[21:58]allah was amongst the muslims that had to migrate they had to

[22:02]flee mecca because they were under persecution he went with jaffa prayer

[22:07]to habasha because the king of habasha was a just king and

[22:12]najashi and najashi eventually became muslim the king of ethiopia he became

[22:19]muslim the husband of omaha biba one narration says he died so

[22:24]now she's a widow another narration says he became a morted he

[22:27]became a christian so now that he became a mortal he apostasized

[22:31]the marriage ended when the husband apostasizes khalas the marriage automatically ends

[22:37]so now she's left without a husband who comes to propose to

[22:41]her rasulullah sends a request to whom to the king of al-habash

[22:46]and he proposes um habiba from him now this was just respect

[22:51]or else he didn't have to the the king of al-habasha was

[22:57]not the wali of um but out of respect he asked him

[23:00]to facilitate the marriage and indeed this is how the marriage happened

[23:03]and najashi he was the one that went to um and he

[23:08]told the rasulullah who wants to marry you and rasulullah married um

[23:15]rasulullah then he held a feast and he gave food to the

[23:22]people and this is what's the customs and habits of the mursalien

[23:32]of the messengers of allah as that they hold a feast at

[23:38]am when there is a marriage when your son when your daughter

[23:40]or when you get married hold a feast so this is from

[23:43]the sunnah of the messengers of allah subhana ta'ala this is with

[23:48]his wife um there's another hadith where an imam assad speaks about

[23:53]another one of the marriages of rasulullah and that was to me

[24:00]was another one of the wives of rasulallah he invited people so

[24:16]that they can have food honoring the marriage of rasulullah and likewise

[24:23]when imam ali alayhi married fatima to zahra there are reports that

[24:27]rasulallah held a walima he had certain animals slaughtered and the people

[24:31]of medina were fed and there are traditions from the imam interestingly

[24:36]where they say it's even recommended to hold the walima for two

[24:39]days not just once if you want to have a wedding or

[24:44]invite people for food walima first day is recommended and even a

[24:47]second day is recommended if there is no space or if you

[24:52]have the means the financial means to even feed more people to

[24:54]invite more people then hold the wedding for two days this is

[25:00]mentioned in the hadith now once again brothers and sisters when we

[25:06]are inviting people to come and celebrate we are not just celebrating

[25:13]love because in the american culture the wedding is all about the

[25:17]love relationship between the husband and wife they invite everyone to come

[25:22]and attend so that they can witness the love so that they

[25:27]can declare their love to everyone that's there in islam this is

[25:30]not why we have a wedding you want to love your wife

[25:33]you love her privately you don't have to come out and tell

[25:37]the whole world that i love you until death do us part

[25:40]and whatever all of this do this privately in fact sometimes it

[25:43]could be against the modesty of the husband and the wife to

[25:47]you know be so public about their uh you know about their

[25:52]love and their intimate love to the entire world so marriage when

[25:56]we come to celebrate we're not just celebrating the love brothers and

[25:59]sisters the love can be celebrated privately in islam we are celebrating

[26:04]for four reasons listen what am i celebrating we said it's recommended

[26:10]for four reasons but what am i the husband celebrating we are

[26:14]celebrating four things brothers and sisters number one the first reason why

[26:17]we celebrate in our wedding and we are happy is because i

[26:23]am celebrating the fact that i have completed half of my faith

[26:26]that's why i'm happy on my wedding day half of my faith

[26:31]is completed shouldn't i be happy shouldn't i celebrate listen to the

[26:35]hadith of rasulullah he is narrated saying man whoever marries then half

[26:44]of his religion is complete the other half is taqwa to be

[26:51]god conscious of allah wa ta'ala to stay away from halam so

[26:55]by getting married half of your deen is completed isn't this an

[26:58]occasion to celebrate imagine that you have for example finished half of

[27:01]law school half of med school you're happy alhamdulillah 50 of the

[27:05]work is done so by getting married you celebrate not just because

[27:10]of the love and the intimacy that relationship between me and mine

[27:13]it's more than that it's a relationship between you and allah azzawajal

[27:17]now your relationship with allah is fifty percent complete now why is

[27:23]it brothers and sisters that when we get married fifty percent of

[27:28]our faith is completed fifty percent just saying kabil two zawashta kenobi

[27:36]why my analysis brothers and sisters on this hadith is this that

[27:43]we human beings the two most common sins that we perform are

[27:48]with our tongues and through the intimate desire such that the hadith

[27:56]of the prophet says listen carefully brother sisters the prophet says if

[28:06]you guard two things in your life i guarantee you jannah paradise

[28:10]but you have to guard two things number one your tongue guard

[28:15]your tongue from haram and number two guard your chastity the desire

[28:22]the intimate desire if you can guard these two things from haram

[28:27]then i will guarantee you paradise why is the prophet saying that

[28:32]the prophet is telling us that most of the sins that we

[28:34]do are these two desires these two ways the the tongue and

[28:38]the intimate desire if you can guard these two khalas until you're

[28:41]a moment you don't have to worry about sins when we get

[28:44]married we're taking care of one of it that desire i know

[28:50]now i will not commit haram or at least i shouldn't commit

[28:51]i have no excuse to come now because i have what i

[28:58]have guarded that desire i have guarded my chastity the prophet says

[29:02]now you just have the other half what's the other half your

[29:07]tongue beware of your tongue don't hurt other people's feelings don't back

[29:11]by iriba don't lie don't do namima don't cause fitna we commit

[29:14]so much sins with our tongue such that hadith of the prophet

[29:18]he says most people go to hell because of their sin because

[29:22]of their tongue because they can't control their tongue the fitna and

[29:25]the problems that they cause because of their tongue so by getting

[29:28]married you are completing half of your faith and this is why

[29:32]i'm celebrating this is number one number two when i hold a

[29:36]wedding a ceremony i'm happy i'm celebrating i am celebrating the fact

[29:42]that my actions and deeds are more worthy in the eyes of

[29:45]allah now you know the prophet when he spoke about ramadan one

[29:49]of the beauties of the of ramadan he said woman if you

[30:00]pray in ramadan allah will give you the thawab of 70 prayers

[30:04]in another month so your are when ramadan finishes it goes back

[30:12]to the normal the normal count unless you are married the hadith

[30:17]tell us if you are married allah will keep that 70 times

[30:21]multiplier throughout your life listen to the hadith he says that a

[30:35]bachelor a single person prays equals that a married person prays equals

[30:41]seventy times or seventy raka's of someone who is single two people

[30:47]are praying in the masjid one is married the other is not

[30:50]married the one who is married allah has counting yet times 70.

[30:53]isn't this beautiful how allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gives you this this

[30:58]you know this easy way to accumulate more deeds your actions are

[31:01]more worthy in the eyes of allah so on the day of

[31:05]my wedding this is why i should be happy because after my

[31:10]wedding i will go and pray salah in sha allah i don't

[31:14]skip it after my wedding day finally now my salah is 70

[31:17]times more worthy in the eyes of allah my salat isn't this

[31:22]something beautiful to celebrate change your perspective brothers and sisters islam is

[31:28]not against enjoying having fun bringing other people to celebrate giving them

[31:33]food but you have to change your perspective look at it from

[31:36]this way and allah subhanahu ta'ala will give you thawab for holding

[31:42]the wedding instead of it's being a place of haram as i

[31:44]will speak tomorrow how our weddings are a way in which we

[31:48]disobey allah subhanahu ta'ala so this is number two number one we

[31:50]said why are we celebrating our weddings why am i so happy

[31:53]as the husband as the wife number one we said because half

[31:57]of my faith is completed number two because our moral supplied by

[32:03]70.

[32:01]number three brothers and sisters is by getting married i am celebrating

[32:07]the fact that i have found peace in my life you see

[32:12]the quran when speaks about marriage it speaks about marriage and allah

[32:16]speaks about it as if it is rest and peace for you

[32:20]listen to this ayah allah says and amongst the signs of allah

[32:30]as allah created mates for you he created mates from you from

[32:34]yourselves so that you get married and that you find rest in

[32:43]them means rest means tranquility means peace a devout wife is a

[32:47]wife that brings you peace brothers and sisters comfort a devout husband

[32:50]a virtuous husband is the one that consoles the wife they live

[32:56]in peace together this is a true marriage that islam encourages us

[33:00]and listen to this hadith of rasulallah he says the best thing

[33:12]allah can give you after iman after islam is a good wife

[33:17]or even we can say even a good husband not only is

[33:22]she good she comforts me but even when i look at her

[33:26]subhanallah i forget all of my all of my agony muhammad s

[33:58]the prophet says that a virtuous spouse is the one that even

[34:03]when you look at her or look at him you forget your

[34:07]agony you forget your stress because you know you you come with

[34:09]so much stress at work from wherever you are you come to

[34:13]the house and you're greeted by your wife by your husband and

[34:15]you forget all of your stress correct no la why not this

[34:21]is how this is how you know our communities should be that

[34:24]when you go to your spouse your spouse allows you to forget

[34:28]all of your stress just the look the prophet says the prophet

[34:33]says to s this is how i know if i married the

[34:36]right person remember we said sometimes we fall in love it's love

[34:41]that blinds us and then a couple of months down it's all

[34:43]stress many people their marriages become a source of stress and islam

[34:49]the quran says marriage should be a source of relieving your stress

[34:52]not a source of stress this has showed how far we have

[34:55]become from the true marriage of islam brothers and sisters the idea

[35:00]of islam the idea of marriage that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has

[35:03]taught us in the quran and we are as far as possible

[35:07]and one reason i'll speak about tonight tomorrow night brothers and sisters

[35:10]is because we begin our weddings with al-haram we're not concerned about

[35:14]allah and this is why our marriages is all filled with stress

[35:17]and this is how the marriage of ali was with fatima you

[35:23]know this is a famous hadith after fatima died he said this

[35:30]very beautiful line about her whoever can say this about his wife

[35:34]whichever lady can say this about her husband you are the luckiest

[35:37]person you should be so content he said i come with stress

[35:49]i'm tired what the people would do to me all the words

[35:53]he would hear he says one look at the face of fatima

[35:55]and i would forget all my stress i would forget all my

[36:00]agony i would forget all the trouble how many of us is

[36:02]that lucky to be in a marriage like that this is the

[36:07]marriage brothers and sisters that the quran speaks about it is what

[36:12]is rest is peace is tranquility so when i am celebrating in

[36:17]my wedding it's not just because of love it's all of these

[36:20]reasons there are things that are much greater than love you want

[36:25]that peace and and tranquility and that rest you want it long

[36:29]term and finally brothers and sisters most importantly in your wedding you

[36:32]are celebrating the fact that you can finally file your taxes married

[36:36]and pay less taxes for some people of course i'm joking not

[36:40]an islam but for some yes there are financial incentives to get

[36:46]married in sha allah tomorrow night i will continue and i will

[36:51]speak about the problems of our present day and if i want

[36:55]to have a wedding brothers and sisters we have to change our

[36:59]habits we cannot continue in this way brothers and sisters our weddings

[37:02]are riddled with halam riddled with disobedience of allah subhanahu ta'ala i

[37:07]will speak about that tomorrow in sha'a llah i don't think they

[37:15]say let's ask allah subhanahu ta'ala raise our hands and ask allah

[37:18]to forgive us a

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