High School Husbands! | Ali Reza Panahian

High School Husbands!

The Quran states, “…mates from your own selves that you may take comfort in them…” “and He ordained affection and mercy between you.” God introduced three very important functions in this verse.
What does affection mean? The difference between love and affection is that affection is expressed with words. Love is transmitted with a look. It has been written this way in the dictionary. A tradition says that it is more emphasized that a man should express love to a woman than a woman to a man.
One time a person came to Imam Sadiq (‘a) and said, “My wife bothers me.” The Imam (‘a) said, “You don’t tell your wife ‘I love you’ very much. Tell her.” If you go into the kitchen and wash all the dishes, it is not equal to saying one time, “I love you.”
Someone said, “All of the things that I do, making money, and working hard are because I love her. I don’t need to say it.” This man is comparing a woman with himself. A man doesn’t need a woman to tell him that she loves him very much. But, the opposite is true.
The Holy Prophet of Islam (s) said, “If a man tell his wife one time ‘I love you,’ this will stay in her heart till the end of her life.” It means that she won’t forget it. Have you seen some men say, “We said it one time. It is enough.” Because they see it has been so effective. No, each time it is said, its effect is something else.
Affection means this love should be expressed. I don’t want to create an argument between you, but some men have been raised in a house where their father hasn’t expressed his love to their mother. So, they don’t know how to do it. These men should take a course. The best coaches are their wives. They should teach these men little by little with the methods that they know.
The woman should say at different times, “One of my beautiful memories is the day that you told me, ‘I love you.’” When she says this, the man will gradually understand that, “Oh, this is very important for my wife.” Some married men have kept their high school way of thinking.
During high school, a person needs a friend. He likes his friend to be something like himself. Then when he wants to marry, he thinks he wants another friend. But, this time his friend shouldn’t have a beard and a moustache! It should be someone from the opposite sex.
No, a woman is different from a man, and we have to understand this. These men should take a course. The best coaches are their wives. They should teach these men little by little with the methods that they know. The woman should say several times, “One of my beautiful memories is the day that you told me, ‘I love you.’” When she says this, the man will gradually understand that, “Oh, this is very important for my wife.”



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