Family Dynamics: Importance of Family - Sayed Saleh Qazwini - American Islamic Community Center

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[0:09]ald Muhammad the religion of Islam is a religion of life and

[0:47]as a religion of life that means that the religion would have

[0:54]to be a social religion some people have the idea that religion

[1:02]is just a system that connects a person with spirituality that connects

[1:09]a person with their lord Islam does that but in addition to

[1:15]spirituality Islam as a religion focuses on relationships that we have in

[1:24]life we have social relationships we have moral duties we have ethical

[1:34]responsibilities and as a religion Islam focuses on these relationships and in

[1:39]order to define the religiosity of a person we don't only look

[1:43]at their spiritual Dimension but we look at the social Dimension we

[1:49]look at how this person is as a human being and that

[1:52]is what makes you a religious person so from the Islamic perspective

[1:59]we have duties and responsibilities towards Allah subhana wa tala that's known

[2:05]but we also have duties and responsibilities towards our neighbors towards our

[2:12]friends towards our co-workers towards our relatives and towards our family these

[2:20]are duties that shape whether we fulfill these duties or not it

[2:24]shapes whether we are truly religious or not so this this is

[2:30]the beauty of the religion of Islam it's a religion of life

[2:33]it's a system that teaches us to be spiritually comfortable and socially

[2:42]at peace with others around us if you find someone who they

[2:45]just pray but they don't have good relations with those who are

[2:48]close to them then there's a problem with this person's religiosity so

[2:55]as a we see that the religion of Islam focuses on relationships

[3:01]social relationships because we human beings we are social beings Allah subhana

[3:08]wa ta'ala created us as social beings so therefore we have rules

[3:12]of interaction how we socialize with one another we are in need

[3:15]of it today you see a lot of people during the pandemic

[3:20]because a lot of people are home most of the time they're

[3:23]they're not feeling comfortable because they have not seen their friends they

[3:28]have not seen and connected with with their relatives with their friends

[3:32]social Gatherings are not the same as they used to be so

[3:37]this is affecting people's mental well-being it's affecting the people's psychological and

[3:43]perhaps even spiritual well-being so we see that Islam is a religion

[3:49]it constantly reminds us to show love to those who are around

[3:57]us and one of the categories and groups of people who we

[4:01]have a major responsibility and obligation towards them are our family our

[4:08]relatives your parents your children your grandparents your uncles your siblings those

[4:17]who are around you you have a religious obligation towards them now

[4:21]some people they come and they say no my religious obligation is

[4:26]when I go to the Masjid when I pray when I fast

[4:27]when I wear my hijab but it doesn't matter how I interact

[4:31]with this person and that person here and there even if they're

[4:33]my relatives no this is a wrong approach towards religiosity your religion

[4:41]is defined by your manners and the way you treat those who

[4:45]are close to you whether it's a husband towards the wife the

[4:49]wife towards the husband the children towards the parents your relatives here

[4:54]and there and some people they miss out on that opportunity some

[5:02]people they don't fulfill their duties and responsibilities towards those who are

[5:06]close to them I've seen this many times many times you see

[5:12]individuals who when you look at them you see they're very religious

[5:15]but then once they start talking to you they'll start telling you

[5:18]oh I don't talk to my brother I don't talk to my

[5:22]sister I haven't talked to my parents my uncle this and that

[5:27]my niece my nephew my cousin here and there you see that

[5:30]there are many problems within the family and families are falling apart

[5:36]and Islam here it says no this is a red line family

[5:40]is a red line because it's through family that you get closer

[5:44]to Allah subhana wa taala through your family you will be able

[5:49]to attain a higher level of religiosity he says he says that

[5:59]the the M the the believer ver who is married their faith

[6:04]is halfway complete through marriage you you you guarantee half of your

[6:12]faith why does say this just to you know just for the

[6:15]heck of it no because marriage forms a family and family is

[6:23]your first point of immunity your family is your protection today a

[6:27]lot of people that are doing wrong a lot of people that

[6:32]are doing you see that a major group of them is because

[6:40]the family is broken or there is no family to come and

[6:47]persuade them to stop to to do in joining the good and

[6:49]forbidding the evil when a family is broken you will find that

[6:51]Society will be broken so this is why in order to protect

[6:57]your identity in order to protect your religiosity order to protect your

[7:01]spirituality you need to focus on your family but we see that

[7:09]family especially in this Society in the western mindset there's not so

[7:14]much focus on family as much as the Eastern mindset now yes

[7:20]the Eastern mindset is focused a lot on cultural aspects and it

[7:25]might perhaps the intentions are not even 100% pure but because the

[7:29]culture imposes family family so it it's kind of a good thing

[7:32]here you don't have that you don't have the cultural pressures enforcing

[7:38]family values because there's Freedom as soon as someone's 18 they leave

[7:43]the house and they start calling their father and their mother by

[7:47]their name and there's you don't find that you find some families

[7:51]the only time they get together is when Thanksgiving that's the time

[7:55]they get together and that's why for Middle easterners for Muslims Thanksgiving

[8:01]is not that big of a deal because we get together every

[8:06]week like that so we get together we have these feasts every

[8:10]week but you have your you know some of the non-muslim or

[8:17]non Middle Eastern and Eastern friends they say oh we we got

[8:20]we got together and the whole family got together I'm like you

[8:22]know our family gets together like that all the time what's so

[8:28]what's so weird about that so our cultures the the Middle Eastern

[8:35]and Eastern cultures focus on Family Values which is a good thing

[8:41]but you also find even today you find some who have no

[8:47]family get togethers theyve broken bonds with their families and many times

[8:53]you see that people they regret the way they had their relationship

[8:57]with their family after they've lost lost that loved one I've seen

[9:02]many times a young man or a young daughter they're crying when

[9:08]when they're attending the funeral of their parents when they're burying their

[9:11]parents when that relationship is gone that's the time that they come

[9:18]and they say only if I took advantage of this relationship only

[9:21]if I cherished this bond that I had with my family this

[9:28]bond that Allah subhah wa ta'ala tells me it's a bless bling

[9:31]in my life Allah subhana wa tala says in the Quran that

[9:34]families and the fact that we have been created a social beings

[9:39]and we gather with one another and we feel comfortable and we

[9:42]socialize with one another this is one of the signs of Allah

[9:48]subhana wa tala one of the ayat of Allah Allah talks in

[9:52]the Quran this and the from amongst the signs of Allah the

[9:57]creation of the and all [Applause] and from amongst the signs of

[10:12]Allah is that he created you in pairs he created the male

[10:15]and the female now today some people they'll come and they'll tell

[10:19]you what's male and female Let's Get Married let you know let

[10:22]two men get married and two women get married but this is

[10:26]one of the signs of Allah where common sense says you know

[10:30]everything Allah has created in two genders two Sexes so that that

[10:34]is the way of reproduction that is the common sense that is

[10:40]the way that Society lives with one another and grows with one

[10:43]another this is amongst the signs of Allah subhah wa tala in

[10:46]another verse Allah subhana waa says in the Quran Allah says in

[11:07]the Quran in verse 72 God created for you from amongst yourselves

[11:16]spouses Allah created you in in pairs this is from the signs

[11:22]of Allah subhana wa tala and from your spouses Allah gave you

[11:30]children and grandchildren and gave you the risk the Halal sustenance from

[11:38]the from the and the good but some people they want to

[11:49]reject the signs of Allah and go towards the go towards the

[11:54]false and and reject the of Allah so here Allah subhana tala

[11:59]says that your family is a your family is a blessing now

[12:05]do you appreciate that family do you appreciate the family that you're

[12:09]in you find a lot of people they don't appreciate the time

[12:15]that they begin to appreciate is after the family is broken apart

[12:18]after you lose the that's when you will realize the blessing of

[12:23]that let us not be in that category my dear brothers and

[12:28]sisters if you have members and your family your the wife and

[12:33]the husband and the children and the parents appreciate show them appreciation

[12:39]sometimes it just takes a small gesture to show thanks one act

[12:46]of thank you one sometimes that's enough that thank you that smile

[12:54]that does magic in the house one of the reasons one of

[12:57]the major reasons why families break apart is is that there's no

[13:00]appreciation there's no appreciation and when you don't appreciate that means you're

[13:08]not acknowledging that these individuals in your life they're a blessing from

[13:13]Allah subhah wa ta'ala to you but once you realize that they're

[13:16]a blessing to you then you start appreciating them then you start

[13:20]showing appreciation and once you start showing appreciation then the relationships will

[13:25]grow stronger and the bond will grow much stronger so Islam as

[13:30]a religion does not only focus on our Salah and our zakat

[13:35]and our Haj no Islam says one of the most important and

[13:38]sacred duties that we all have is connection and bond within the

[13:46]family this is what it's called means connection and means the womb

[13:52]they call the womb of a lady why because your family those

[14:00]who you share blood with you've shared a womb with them at

[14:03]one point in time so this is why Islam says be connected

[14:12]with the your parents your siblings your uncles aunts cousins grandparents you've

[14:17]shared blood with them so now you have a duty towards them

[14:23]and Allah subhanahu wa taal tells us to take care of our

[14:30]duties towards our family is W it's important to be connected with

[14:38]the family and more importantly disconnecting with the family is one of

[14:45]the major sins now someone says okay I have a family I

[14:48]have a relative we don't we're not disconnected with them but I

[14:53]see them I say Salam here and there I send them a

[14:55]WhatsApp forward every once in a while there's nothing wrong with that

[14:59]what becomes Haram is if you disconnect the the relationship when you

[15:06]say no I'm disconnected with this person I don't want to talk

[15:10]to this person I hate this person if you say that that

[15:16]is called and that is har and in three separate verses in

[15:19]the Quran the person who does the person who breaks the bond

[15:26]this person is cursed in the Quran three separate times the person

[15:30]who disconnects will not enter into Paradise this person is cursed by

[15:35]Allah subhah wa ta'ala where Allah subhana T says in the Quran

[15:55]those who disconnect the Covenant that they have with Allah regarding believing

[16:01]in God and disconnect the what Allah subhana T has told them

[16:07]to be connected with and that is the family second another verse

[16:11]in the Quran those who are blind and those who Allah subhana

[16:29]wa tala has cursed they are the ones who carry out facade

[16:33]corruption in the land and they disconnect the bonds with their family

[16:39]another verse a third verse what I I I guess this is

[16:53]this is oh this is a separate another verse this is the

[17:05]similar to the first verse the ending is a little bit different

[17:08]three times you see that the one who disconnects with their family

[17:15]is disconnected with Allah brothers and sisters from an Islamic standpoint we

[17:22]have a duty towards our family we have a duty towards our

[17:26]loved ones a man IM he says a man from a tribe

[17:37]by the name of came to and he tells him tell me

[17:46]what is the best form of Islam what should I do to

[17:49]be a good Muslim tells him faith in God having faith in

[17:59]God that's the key ingredient towards being a good Muslim and then

[18:05]he tells him and then what so tells him be connected with

[18:12]your be a good Muslim do your duties pray connect with God

[18:16]and connect with your family that's all that Islam expects from you

[18:23]that's what Islam as a religion expects from us so we have

[18:26]to be connected with our family now this is is one point

[18:34]then you find another more specific insistence on being connected with your

[18:39]parents first there's a general order this includes all of your family

[18:44]anyone who you've shared with but then you have a specific order

[18:52]towards your parents why does the Quran keep reminding us your parents

[19:05]why does the Quran keep saying this because this is our weak

[19:10]point some people that's their weak point some people that is their

[19:14]test you want to know how God is testing you in this

[19:18]life Allah is perhaps not testing you with Salah because you pray

[19:21]and you might even pray Sal maybe Allah is not testing you

[19:24]with zakat because you give zakat and and you're very generous Maybe

[19:30]Allah is testing you with this when your parents are old when

[19:34]your parents are nagging when your parents are in need and they're

[19:37]telling you do this and do that and do this and do

[19:41]that some people that's their trigger point that's what that's what brings

[19:45]them away that's a test this is why Allah subhana wa tala

[19:49]clearly says in the Quran your lord has decreed that you don't

[19:58]worship anyone other than God and the immediate order is to showan

[20:05]to show good towards your parents Allah acknowledges this that when they

[20:19]get older they're going to start nagging they're going to start probably

[20:23]bothering you this why Allah says when they're older there don't even

[20:29]say o to them you know sometimes when you get an order

[20:34]do this and do that some people they say do I have

[20:38]to do that the Quran says this is the book of Mercy

[20:40]where the Quran 1,400 years ago it comes and says don't even

[20:47]say of to them IM he says if there was anything less

[20:49]than the of the Quran would have mentioned it some people they

[20:54]go a lot more some people they start using bad words some

[20:57]people they start talking back some people start becoming abusive towards their

[21:02]parents the Quran says don't even say o to them this of

[21:06]sometimes you might not even be saying it to them you might

[21:10]be saying it to yourself they'll tell you you know go do

[21:11]this and you just go do it and you say this is

[21:15]the beauty of Islam my dear brothers and sisters let us cherish

[21:21]this religion that teaches us to focus on our relationship with our

[21:25]parents the path to Paradise is to through pleasing your parents and

[21:31]the highest ranks in Paradise are for those who please their parents

[21:38]one day Prophet M he asked Allah M was he tells him

[21:46]show me my neighbor in Paradise who's my neighbor in Paradise Allah

[21:50]subhah wa tala tells him there's this man in this Village and

[21:53]this town you go and you see him that's your neighbor in

[21:57]Paradise so M he left his town he goes in search of

[22:01]the person who's going to be at the same level with Prophet

[22:03]Musa he goes and he sees this is a simple man this

[22:09]is a butcher so that man doesn't know that this is Prophet

[22:13]Musa Prophet Musa tells him I want to stay with you for

[22:17]the night why because he wants to see what is this person

[22:20]doing that's making him be at the same level with Prophet Musa

[22:23]the prophet that is mentioned over 200 times in the Quran the

[22:29]prophet that sacrificed and struggled so much he goes and he sees

[22:34]this person he's not doing anything special is he praying is he

[22:37]a muah is he what is he doing he sees nothing special

[22:42]about this person in the morning he sees that that man he

[22:45]goes and he Slaughters his sheep and then he goes into a

[22:50]room in the house and then he comes back he comes out

[22:52]about 15 20 minutes later a while later he tells him wait

[22:58]wait a second what did did you do who's in that room

[23:00]he tells him my mother is in that room he says what's

[23:04]wrong with your mother he tells him my mother is disabled she's

[23:07]not able to eat so I go and I sit with her

[23:11]I take care of her I feed her with myself I feed

[23:14]her and then he tells him when you feed your mother what

[23:20]does she say he says every bite that I place in the

[23:22]mouth of my mother my mother she says oh Allah make my

[23:28]son be the neighbor of prophet Musa Allah M he tells him

[23:34]I am Prophet M and your Dua is accepted the Dua of

[23:40]your mother is accepted because of your service towards your mother this

[23:47]is why this is why the Hadith says Paradise is beneath the

[23:54]feet of your mother that means that you have to make sure

[23:57]you please your mother now we have a duty towards the father

[24:04]as well and there is also a very important duty with regards

[24:07]to family of taking care of your family meaning that if you're

[24:13]on the right path if you're doing something good make sure you

[24:17]want that good thing for your family as well and Allah says

[24:19]in the Quran oh you people who believe protect yourselves and protect

[24:34]your families from the Hellfire many families they came and they immigrated

[24:39]to the United States in pursuit of opportunities and pursuit of money

[24:44]and pursuit of wealth and here they got the wealth they were

[24:50]looking for but they missed their family they lost their family that's

[24:53]it their family don't know Quran anymore their family don't know Salah

[24:57]anymore their family don't know anything about the religion of Islam Allah

[25:03]says in the Quran don't go to paradise alone if you go

[25:09]to take as many people as you want with you and we

[25:12]see that the struggle with the family is a struggle that the

[25:16]prophets of Allah have all had Prophet Adam he had a struggle

[25:19]with his family his sons one of them killed the other Prophet

[25:26]ibraim Prophet no Prophet Musa Prophet Isa all of the prophets and

[25:32]even he witnessed his family being persecuted and oppressed and that is

[25:41]the what brings sadness to Al and the the Muslims they are

[25:48]all tested by showing love to their own family and to the

[25:55]family of inshallah in the coming weeks we will talk more about

[25:59]the family we have begun a series on the family and inshallah

[26:06]we will talk more about these subjects

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