Choosing the Right Spouse - Sayed Saleh Qazwini - Thursday Night

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Thursday Night Program: Dua Kumayl & Choosing the Right Spouse: Sayed Saleh Qazwini

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[0:52]assalamu alaikum everyone i would like to start off tonight's program with

[0:58]the recitation of the holy quran after a loud salat allah muhammad

[1:01]wa'alee muhammad at this time we would like to please ask everyone

[4:45]to recite surat al fatiha for the souls of all marhomin including

[4:49]the soul of yusuf kamal amin baydun the brother of hajj hassan

[4:53]baydun may allah have mercy on his soul and elevate his ranks

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[6:32]kumail followed with a lecture by sayyid salaq qazwini at this time

[6:36]i would be honored to welcome my dear father haj majid hajj

[6:41]the recitation of dua kumail after aloud muhammad can we please get

[34:36]another loud salaat for that beautiful recitation with that being said i

[34:45]would be honored to welcome our beloved scholar i would like to

[35:27]begin by asking you all to recite a surah al fateha for

[35:32]the soul of the marhum yusuf kamal amin baydoun who is the

[35:39]older brother of our dear brother haj hassan baydoun who passed away

[35:44]a few days ago and was buried today in lebanon so we

[35:48]all will recite surat al fatah after the lecture we will recite

[36:09]the salat al washa although the salat is not done in jama'ah

[36:13]but we will do it in mutabah and for those who do

[36:16]not know how to do it we you could follow along this

[36:20]is for anyone who would like to stay it's highly recommended that

[36:23]on the night the first night that a person is buried that

[36:28]the mumineen recite and do salat al washa the night the prayer

[36:34]of the loneliness because the first night in the grave is the

[36:37]most lonely night for the soul a few days ago we commemorated

[37:31]the martyrdom anniversary of the lady of light fatima tazarah fatima tazarah

[37:42]was great in every aspect of her life and she was also

[37:50]the wife of amir al mumineen ali ibn abi talib today we

[37:58]commemorate another great lady who was a follower of fatima tzarah and

[38:08]a person a lady who devoted her life and her children and

[38:14]everything that she had for the sake of fatima tzarah and the

[38:19]children of fatima tzarah and that is albanin fatima bin tuhuzam al

[38:26]khilabiyah after the martyrdom of fatima tzarah amir al mumineen married multiple

[38:35]wives in fact they say that amir al mumineen married in his

[38:40]whole life he married a total of eight women now of course

[38:46]not all at the same time while he was married to fatima

[38:51]tzarah he did not marry a single lady he did not think

[38:55]of a single single lady because there was no need fatima tzarah

[39:01]was the greatest match for amir al mu'mineen he was the best

[39:06]husband for fatima and she was the best wife for amir al

[39:10]mu'mineen and this was a marriage that took place in heaven where

[39:14]rasulullah jibrael comes to him and he tells him allah has commanded

[39:26]you to marry the light with the light marry ali with fatima

[39:33]but after the martyrdom of fatima and fatima she passes away just

[39:40]a few months or a few weeks after the death of the

[39:45]prophet imagine that rasulullah passes away in the year eleven after hijra

[39:52]amir al mu'mineen is martyred in masjid al kufa in the year

[39:56]forty after hijra this means the time that amir al mu'mineen spent

[40:02]with fatima was very short time and we know that because fatima

[40:07]zahra according to our books and according to our hadith she died

[40:14]at the age of 18 of course she had five children imam

[40:22]al hassan imam al hussein zaynab kulthum and al muhsin as sikh

[40:28]the one who was lost due to the attack that took place

[40:33]on the house of fatima tazara alaihi salam of course on her

[40:40]deathbed fatima tazara alaihi salam in her will she asks imam ali

[40:46]to get married she tells him i ask you in my will

[40:58]that you marry after me my niece imamah zainab the sister of

[41:06]fatima tazarah of course there is an opinion that says that zainab

[41:11]and ruqaiyah they were not the daughters of khadija however according to

[41:16]many scholars they were the daughters of rasulullah and khadija but they

[41:21]were daughters of the prophet but not daughters like fatima tazarah fatima

[41:25]tazarah was a greater daughter she was chosen by she tells him

[41:36]the daughter of zainab who is the sister of fatima zahra and

[41:45]she tells him because she will take care of my children she

[41:54]is close to fatima tazara she is her niece so she says

[41:58]she will take care of my children and every man has to

[42:12]be married in fact every woman also has to be married and

[42:17]this was this was at a time fourteen hundred years ago today

[42:22]marriage has become oh if you choose to get married it's okay

[42:26]if you choose not to get married it's okay but at that

[42:30]time fourteen hundred years ago no in fact just probably fifty years

[42:33]ago a hundred years ago twenty thirty years ago marriage was a

[42:37]necessity for survival today we've brought distractions and we brought all of

[42:44]these things that have delayed marriage even though they do not answer

[42:48]the need for marriage marriage is something that is the sunnah of

[42:54]rasulullah it's the way that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala created us allah

[43:00]created us in pairs from amongst the signs of god is that

[43:05]he created you to get married the two genders the male and

[43:09]the female get married this is the sign of allah subhanahu wa

[43:12]ta'ala because we complete one another the husband completes the wife and

[43:17]the wife completes the husband and they fulfill the needs of one

[43:21]another today when society when the entertainment industry when job when careers

[43:28]encourage people to delay marriage they are in fact doing you a

[43:32]disservice they might tell you here is money you have a career

[43:35]now don't get married they are doing you a disservice because marriage

[43:41]and along with having children growing a family this is what brings

[43:46]a sense of completion to a person this is what brings a

[43:50]sense of satisfaction emotional psychological social fulfillment and satisfaction to a person

[43:59]and fatima tazarah she tells amir al mu'mineen so that she can

[44:05]take care of the children because o ali you can't you as

[44:09]a husband you have duties you have responsibilities and the wife has

[44:14]responsibilities and duties and these responsibilities and duties fulfill one another reciprocate

[44:21]one another so she tells him so that she helps you take

[44:27]care of the children and the family so amir al mumineen he

[44:34]married married imam and this was the first marriage of amir al

[44:43]mumineen after fatima zara and this was due to the will of

[44:46]fatima tazarah tazarah another lady that amir al mumineen married inshallah we

[44:53]will get to al baneen who we are commemorating who we are

[44:57]remembering another lady that amir al mumineen married was asma bintu umayyas

[45:05]asma bintu umayyas she was a mumina she was a believing a

[45:10]good lady and she was married to jafar the brother of amir

[45:15]al mumineen and she migrated with jafar from mecca to abyssinia to

[45:22]habasha the first hijra in islam was not to medina the first

[45:26]hijra a group of muslims rasulullah told them it's too difficult for

[45:30]you to live in mecca he was able to survive because he

[45:33]had his uncle abu talib who was protecting him but there were

[45:37]others they were poor people that did not have the protection so

[45:42]he tells them go and live in abyssinia and habashah so they

[45:48]crossed the ocean and they went and they lived for several years

[45:52]they lived in africa in abyssinia asma she goes along with her

[45:59]husband jafar ibn abi talib jafar the brother of amir al mumineen

[46:03]and jafar was very close to rasulallah and one of the first

[46:09]muslims one of the first believers who when abu talib he would

[46:15]see rasulallah praying and amir al mumineen praying next to him he

[46:20]goes and he tells his son jafar he tells him go and

[46:26]complete the wing for your uncle meaning your brother ali is on

[46:30]one side protecting him and you be on the other side to

[46:34]protect your cousin jafar he is martyred in the battle of mutta

[46:43]his wife asma ibn tawmaz and at that time a lady would

[46:47]not stay very long after death of the husband a lady would

[46:53]get married there would be other men who would come and propose

[46:56]because it was a necessity for survival asma ibn umeiz who proposed

[47:03]to marry her abu bakr abu bakr he proposed to marry her

[47:10]and from asma ibn umeiz abu bakr he has muhammad ibn abi

[47:16]bakr muhammad the son of abu bakr abu bakr was an old

[47:20]man he passes away asma ibn to amaze amir al mumineen marries

[47:26]her amir al muminin marries her and she was a good lady

[47:29]and the days that we talk about the shahada of fatima tazara

[47:32]we say asma said this and asma said that because she was

[47:36]with fatima tazara she was taking care of fatima tazara amir al

[47:43]mumineen married asma she had a son had a son muhammad ibn

[47:48]abi bakr muhammad the son of abu bakr but he was raised

[47:53]by amir al mumineen ali ibn abi tala and amir al mumineen

[47:58]has a statement regarding muhammad ibn abi bakr he says muhammad is

[48:02]my son from the solb from the blood of abu bakr and

[48:09]he raised him and muhammad ibn abi bakr became one of the

[48:13]staunchest supporters of amir al mu'mineen and he was killed by muawiyah

[48:18]he was killed by muawiyah and he was even though he is

[48:22]the son of abu bakr the biological son of abu bakr but

[48:25]he was the staunchest supporter of imam ali and in the battle

[48:28]of jamal he fought his sister aisha on the side of amir

[48:32]al mumineen and later on he was always with amir al mumineen

[48:36]until maawiya killed him this is the second and a third also

[48:44]wife that is known from amir al mu'mineen is a lady by

[48:49]the name of ka'ulah ibn jafar otherwise also known as al hanafiyah

[48:56]she had a son muhammad ibn al hanafiyah she was also a

[49:02]lady who was a good lady an honorable lady and she was

[49:06]the wife of amir al mumineen ali ibn abi talib and they

[49:10]amir al mumineen had many sons and daughters they say if with

[49:15]all the wives around 30 sons and daughters between sons and daughters

[49:20]and many of them nine or 10 of them were killed on

[49:23]the day of ashura including imam al hussein so these were the

[49:30]children of amir al mu'mineen and one wife of amir al mu'mineen

[49:36]who we are gathering to commemorate is al baneen fatima bin tuhuzam

[49:42]al khilabiyah this lady imam ali he tells his brother aqeel his

[49:50]brother aqeel was older than him and the aqeel was known in

[49:55]the family lineage he was known he knew all the families of

[49:59]the arabs and he would be able to track them and their

[50:03]qualities and their merits you know some merits some traits they are

[50:09]passed down in the family in the bloodline for example one tribe

[50:14]is known for their bravery one tribe is known for their generosity

[50:19]you know these are traits that are passed down they are socially

[50:23]passed down if your father is a generous person and your mother

[50:27]is a generous person what are you going to be you are

[50:30]going to be generous you are going to learn to be giving

[50:33]if your father was a brave man and your mother was brave

[50:37]you are also going to learn it's going to be passed on

[50:40]there are some qualities that are nurtured and there are some that

[50:45]are nature it's both it could be some that are within you

[50:50]and there is others that you learn and you pick up as

[50:52]you grow older this is why it's very important to surround yourself

[50:57]with good people because you pick up you pick up the good

[51:01]qualities and you also pick up the bad traits so surround yourself

[51:07]with good people you learn from them without even realizing we have

[51:11]a statement i don't know if this is a hadith or not

[51:14]if someone surrounds themselves with people for forty days you become one

[51:22]of them that's it you start learning from them you start eating

[51:27]like them you start drinking like them you start living with them

[51:31]this is why it's very important to surround yourself with good people

[51:35]so here amir al mutmanin he tells his brother akhil he tells

[51:40]him you akhil i want you to find me a wife oh

[51:49]akhil i want you to find me a wife that was born

[51:55]from brave chivalrous men okay tells him what do you want with

[51:59]a lady known for her bravery usually when someone is looking for

[52:03]a wife they're not looking for a lady that's known for her

[52:07]bravery people they say want her looks i want this and that

[52:12]you don't want someone you don't want a wife that's known for

[52:15]her bravery but then amir al mumminini answers why he says so

[52:21]that she gives me children for the day of difficulty or in

[52:29]another hadith for the day of hussein what does this mean this

[52:35]means amir al mumineen when he is looking to marry al baneen

[52:40]al abbas on the day of ashura he was around 30 33

[52:44]years old 34 years old this means that over thirty years before

[52:49]ashura amir al mumineen is calculating who are the supporters of his

[52:55]son going to be on the day of ashura who's going to

[52:59]be supporting his son imam al hussein and what kind of supporters

[53:03]he's going to have so he tells him i want you to

[53:08]find me a lady that is born from brave men so that

[53:12]i could have children that will defend islam so that i could

[53:17]have children that will defend my son imam al hussein on the

[53:22]day of ashura aqeel he goes and he finds this lady fatima

[53:28]bin to huzam al kalabiyah amir al mumineen he sees her on

[53:35]the first day he sees she is very beautiful he asks her

[53:39]he asks her questions he tells her he he wants to test

[53:43]her as she just looks on the outside or is there internal

[53:48]beauty as well he tells her it's your wedding day what do

[53:51]you want she tells him i don't want you to call me

[53:56]fatima her name is fatima she says i don't want you to

[54:00]call me fatima he tells her why she says because your children

[54:05]their mother is fatima and i am the slave of fatima i

[54:12]am the servant of fatima and i don't want to be taking

[54:17]the place of their mother fatima so amir al mumineen he named

[54:23]her al baneen the mother of the sons and she gave him

[54:29]four sons al abbas jafar uthman and abdullah she gave him these

[54:36]sons who on the day of ashura they defended imam al hussein

[54:41]now my dear brothers and sisters to make this topic relevant to

[54:48]us today what's the importance of finding a spouse see amir al

[54:54]mumineen ali ibn abi talib he didn't just go and say i

[54:59]want to find a lady so that i could just get married

[55:02]and that's it today a lot of people when they want to

[55:05]get married they go and they don't they don't have priorities in

[55:10]their mind they just say i want to get married she's beautiful

[55:13]she has money or the sisters about guys they say i want

[55:17]to get married no he he makes money he's good he's he

[55:20]he he lives a comfortable life that's enough for me is that

[55:23]enough is that all that you want out of a marriage of

[55:27]course not marriage if you find the right spouse your whole life

[55:34]is going to be much better than if you find a bad

[55:38]spouse a good spouse could make your life heaven and a bad

[55:43]spouse could make your life hell right sometimes some people their life

[55:48]everything is going well they find a person and then their whole

[55:51]life flips upside down and sometimes you see someone finds the right

[55:55]person and you see that their life becomes much better you see

[55:59]that their iman their taqwa their closeness to god they become goal

[56:03]oriented they become focused so it's very important to choose the right

[56:10]spouse and not only is it important to choose a right spouse

[56:17]because you're going to be living with this person but it's important

[56:21]we learn from amir al mumineen it's important to choose the right

[56:24]spouse because of the children you're going to have with that spouse

[56:28]marriage is not just about the person marriage is about the children

[56:32]that you're going to produce out of that marriage and that is

[56:37]also very important at the end of the day you why do

[56:42]people get married why do people have that desire to get married

[56:46]and want to have a child and children because i realized that

[56:50]my time on earth is limited but there is a is a

[56:54]trait and they talk about this in science evolutionary trait to pass

[56:59]on your genes everyone wants to pass on their genes so you

[57:05]want to make sure that you find the right person you want

[57:10]to make sure that not only do you pass on your physical

[57:14]traits and qualities and your dna but you also pass on your

[57:18]akhlaq and your manners and your faith and your beliefs this is

[57:21]also very important rasulullah he says when you want to get married

[57:35]you are not only choosing a spouse but rather you are choosing

[57:39]your children you're choosing what kind of a children you're going to

[57:43]have if the mother is a good mother then you're going to

[57:45]have good children if the father is a bad father then who's

[57:50]going to be raising these children who's going to be there for

[57:54]these children this is a very important issue that the religion of

[58:01]islam focuses on and we see it from amir al mumminin ali

[58:05]ibn abi talib where he is choosing a spouse not only because

[58:11]of her but because of her children and this is very important

[58:16]we have many hadith that show us the importance of choosing the

[58:23]right father and the right mother for your child one hadith is

[58:28]another we see a verse in the quran prophet musa when he

[58:41]escapes from egypt he was raised he was raised in the house

[58:46]of firaun then later on he accidentally kills a person from the

[58:52]enemies because that person was abusing one of his own people one

[58:56]of the bani israel musa escapes he escapes he comes to the

[59:02]land of madyan there he sees two daughters of a prophet shuaiib

[59:09]they are taking water this is in surat al qasas in the

[59:12]quran they want to take water there are so many men there

[59:16]are so many men they can't come and take water out of

[59:19]the well musa he was very strong he goes and within a

[59:23]second he takes out the water for them and he gives it

[59:26]to them so the daughter of shahab she sees that no this

[59:33]person is different from everyone else he has the akhlaq has the

[59:37]iman she goes and she tells him my father is calling you

[59:41]she wants him to meet her father and musa musa he goes

[59:51]to see the father the daughter of shuaib is walking in front

[59:57]of him and there's wind it's blowing on the body of the

[60:04]lady in front of him so right away musa he says i

[60:09]will walk in front of you i don't want to walk behind

[60:12]you because i don't want to be in a position where i

[60:15]am looking at your body and the figure of your body is

[60:18]showing i will walk in front of you and you signal to

[60:22]me which direction to go so the daughter of shriab she was

[60:27]very impressed look at this man he is strong is trustworthy he

[60:31]is honest he is a muhman and at that moment right before

[60:36]this moment right before he takes the water musa had done a

[60:39]dua he says oh allah i don't have anything i left left

[60:50]egypt i was growing i was living in the palace i left

[60:53]everything now i don't own anything that moment the rizq came to

[61:01]him the daughters of shahab they ask him for help she goes

[61:05]to her father shahab and she tells him one of them she

[61:12]tells her father she tells him she tells her father oh father

[61:32]this is a good man to have him work for you have

[61:36]him be your employee he's strong he's loyal he's faithful have him

[61:43]be work for you so shoaib who was a prophet in madyan

[61:48]he tells musa he tells him work for me for ten years

[61:52]eight years and two from you making it ten and i will

[61:57]give you my daughter to marry a few hours ago musa was

[62:03]saying now allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave him riz gave him a

[62:09]place to stay gave him protection musa was an outlaw he has

[62:14]protection and now he is also married and this shows that if

[62:20]you have tawakulla on allah subhanahu wa ta'ala a lot of times

[62:23]when it comes to marriage the first thing people say is i

[62:26]don't have money i don't have a house i don't have this

[62:28]i don't have that now yes it's very important that you have

[62:32]to prepare yourself you can't sit around being lazy playing on your

[62:36]playstation and saying i want to get married of course you're not

[62:41]gonna get married if that's what's if that's what you're doing you

[62:44]have to work you have to be ready no offense to all

[62:47]of the guys that play playstation but this is how it is

[62:52]you have to work you have to be dedicated be motivated do

[62:58]dua and allah will send you allah will bring you the answer

[63:02]musa he wasn't sitting around not doing anything musa he was committed

[63:08]and allah answered his dua right away today a lot of times

[63:13]when some of the brothers and sisters we say you know it's

[63:16]time for you to get married you're getting older and you're not

[63:19]married and they're just saying say who am i gonna marry how

[63:22]all of these obstacles and excuses but they have not prepared themselves

[63:28]they have not put themselves on the path towards marriage if you

[63:31]put yourself on that path then you will be able to allah

[63:35]doesn't tell you to do something and makes it impossible for you

[63:40]allah has made it something that is the sunnah and something that

[63:43]is recommended and it could also be wajib now how to choose

[63:50]the right spouse when it comes to the lady choosing the husband

[63:55]we have a hadith from rasulullah and this is also narrated from

[63:58]many of the imams of the al baith alaihi salam rasulullah says

[64:11]if someone has come to propose to you and you see that

[64:15]this person has deen this person has faith and this person has

[64:19]amana this person has can be trusted in another hadith deen and

[64:26]manners faith and manners fazawaju accept to marry don't ask how much

[64:32]do you have in your bank what's the car that you drive

[64:35]what kind of a job you have these are things that are

[64:39]secondary if allah has kept you alive until now that means the

[64:42]rizq is coming that means the rizq is going to come and

[64:46]if allah chose for you to not be alive until tomorrow that

[64:49]means the rizq is going to stop if god destined for you

[64:53]to live that means the rizq is also going to come with

[64:56]it faith and manners faith and trustworthiness honest person this person is

[65:15]not a liar this person has good akhlaq this person has good

[65:18]manners this person you could talk to marry this person why rasulullah

[65:30]says if you don't if the good righteous men are being rejected

[65:37]because of their money because of their income because of their family

[65:41]last name because of their culture because of all these other secondary

[65:44]things if you don't do and they had the deen and the

[65:48]akhlaq then there's going to be fitnah in the land then there's

[65:52]going to be problems strife in the community this is what you

[65:56]see when a good lady is not being married because she covers

[66:01]up while the one who is revealing her whole body all guys

[66:04]are after her or when the good when the good man who

[66:08]prays who fasts who fulfills his duties towards allah towards his parents

[66:15]is being rejected and the guys that are out making haram income

[66:21]or guys that have a bad reputation in the community they're being

[66:25]accepted because of their wealth there's going to be problems in society

[66:30]don't don't assume that society is going to be a perfect utopia

[66:35]when the good people are being rejected this is what rasulullah said

[66:43]this is not my words rasulullah says there will be fitna and

[66:46]there will be facad what does facad mean facad means corruption it

[66:51]means that when the good are being rejected then they are going

[66:57]to say i don't want to be good anymore today i hear

[66:59]unfortunately a lot of times some guys and some ladies they say

[67:05]when i go to propose or some of the ladies they say

[67:07]i am wearing hijab no one comes to propose but they go

[67:11]and they look at the one who's not wearing they go and

[67:14]they look at the one who doesn't have the the full islamic

[67:19]appearance and then they come and they say i wanna take off

[67:22]the hijab now or the man he says what has my faith

[67:25]done for me i'm getting rejected by the faithful people of the

[67:29]community what has my faith done for me this is a problem

[67:32]this is a problem so at the end of the day when

[67:37]you want to get married you want someone who's going to be

[67:40]not only for their looks or for their money you want someone

[67:43]for their manners you want someone for their faith you want someone

[67:46]that you could live with you want someone that you could build

[67:49]a family with you want someone that you could imagine yourself twenty

[67:53]and thirty years from now forty years from now with this person

[67:58]looks will come and go but the akhlaq will stay a beautiful

[68:01]heart will remain and this is what we learned from amir al

[68:07]mumineen ali ibn abi talib this is what we learned in a

[68:12]hadith from rasulullah he's muhammad he says the one who marries a

[68:27]lady only for her looks and for her wealth then that's all

[68:31]he will get out of it only looks and and wealth nothing

[68:35]else but if you're marrying her for her if you're marrying her

[68:39]for her manners if marrying her for her faith then you are

[68:43]going to get much more the looks will fade away over time

[68:47]but a beautiful heart will remain forever similarly if someone gives their

[68:56]daughter to a man who does not have the islamic lifestyle then

[69:05]you're doing you're you're doing you're bringing down a catastrophe upon your

[69:10]daughter the one who gives his daughter to a person who's a

[69:27]drunkard a person who's always drinking and getting drunk then this person

[69:32]has given up his daughter to commit adultery so my dear brothers

[69:40]and sisters there are certain things that a person should look for

[69:45]you have to look for iman you have to look for akhlaq

[69:47]you have to look for compatibility now there is other things that

[69:50]could be on your mind you want her to be to have

[69:53]a degree you want him to have a degree you want him

[69:56]to speak a particular language these are all good things to have

[69:59]it's okay but make sure that you know what is the priority

[70:03]the priority is the faith the priority is the akhlaq these are

[70:07]things that will last amir al mumineen he married fatima bin tuhuzam

[70:16]al kalabiyah and she gave amir al mu'mineen those four sons al

[70:23]abbas abdullah and uthman and jafar and on the day of ashura

[70:31]the four sons of albanin they were sacrificed one after the other

[70:36]one after the other they go out in the battlefield and they

[70:40]do not return they go out to defend the imam of their

[70:46]time they go out to defend abba abdullah al hussein and this

[70:51]is exactly the upbringing and the nurturing that their mother had placed

[70:56]in them you know one of the we learned also a very

[71:00]important lesson from albanin is the role of motherhood today people think

[71:07]parenthood being a good father being a good mother means i just

[71:11]have to feed my children give them clothes and put a roof

[71:14]over their head is that all that it is to parenthood no

[71:19]being a parent means you have to admonish your children being a

[71:24]parent means you have to discipline your children being a parent means

[71:29]you need to spend time with your children to teach them what

[71:35]is important to teach them their akhlaq to teach them their faith

[71:40]to admonish them umul baniin she just she did just that she

[71:48]not only nurtured her children with food but she nurtured them with

[71:53]iman with the ikhlas and with the love of the ahlul baytta

[71:58]this is a very key point here my dear brothers and sisters

[72:03]teach your family teach your children just as important it is to

[72:08]pray to fast to go to hajj to fulfill your duties towards

[72:12]allah subhanahu wa ta'ala teach your children to love the ahlul bayt

[72:17]loving the ahlul bayt some people they say you shias you guys

[72:23]are extreme loving the al al bayt this is too much no

[72:27]the quran tells us the quran doesn't say the quran not say

[72:40]the quran says what does mean means loving and obedience to the

[72:48]al bayt as well you have to love them and you have

[72:51]to follow them today there are people they say we love the

[72:54]al bayt but they're not following the al baith you have to

[72:58]follow them this is what mawadah is and this is what rasulullah

[73:02]ordered the muslims i am leaving behind the two weighty things the

[73:15]book of allah and my ahlul bayt and this is mentioned in

[73:19]sahih muslim and in many other books of hadith so albanin she

[73:26]was nurturing her children with the love of the ahlul bayt yes

[73:34]sometimes that mother when she gives the milk that milk does not

[73:39]only pass on the the food to grow it passes on the

[73:46]love of the ahlul bayt that's why a famous poetry a famous

[73:54]words of poetry the poet says he says may allah not punish

[74:17]my mother because she nurtured me with the milk but she also

[74:22]nurtured me with the love of abu al hasan amir al mu'mineen

[74:27]and i had a father and my father also loved amir al

[74:35]mumineen so that love came from both sides from my mother and

[74:40]from my father so al baneen she taught her children to love

[74:45]imam al hussein she taught her children to sacrifice for imam al

[74:50]hussein alaihi salam and this is what her children did they say

[74:57]that al baneen after the day of ashura she would go and

[75:02]she would sit in the cemetery of baqiya in madinah because that's

[75:07]where she was and she is buried in baqiya she would go

[75:11]and sit in the cemetery of baqiya and she would make four

[75:15]mock graves and she would say don't call me anymore they would

[75:27]tell her why when you call me al baneen you will remind

[75:38]me of my sons of my lions who were killed in the

[75:43]way of imam al hussein she would keep saying this and then

[76:13]when she would remember what happened to her to her son abel

[76:17]fadlil abbas she would cry and then she would demolish these graves

[76:23]and she would say may my sons be sacrificed for abba abdullah

[76:29]al hussain alaihi salam this is why when bishop ibn hazalam he

[76:35]entered into medina he was calling out he says i saw a

[76:44]lady she comes to me she tells me tell me about my

[76:55]son hussein he asks who this lady is they tell him this

[77:00]lady is al baneen she has lost four of her sons he

[77:04]gives her condolences he tells her you have lost abbas you have

[77:09]lost uthman you have lost your sons she tells him tell me

[77:14]about my son hussain don't tell me about the others tell me

[77:19]about my son hussain he tells her let us stand in remembrance

[78:14]of the imam of our time for the souls of all of

[79:53]the your marhumin and specifically for the soul of yusuf who was

[80:00]buried today we will inshaallah in a few minutes we will go

[80:26]and pray

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