A Different Conversation with a Suitor | Ali Reza Panahian

A Different Conversation with a Suitor

Where is affection? You can find affection in a heart that has risen up against itself! You can find love in a heart that has risen up against its carnal desires! You can find loyalty and sincerity in a heart that has acted against its desires! The least action against one’s own desires is to pray on time politely without taking away from it. Prayer brings independence for a person. After you have gained independence and fought with your own will, you’ll become affectionate, loving, and show kindness. Otherwise, a person who doesn’t pray is after his carnal desires! Carnal desires are very different from affection.
A young man wants to get married. He chooses an unreligious family. He says, “I want to be comfortable. I don’t want her to nag at me.” So, they talk to see if they like each other. The woman says, “Do you pray on time?” The man replies, “Why do you care about me praying on time? You’re not the Imam of the group prayer in the Mosque. Am I being hired for something or selected for an Islamic seminary?! Do you yourself pray that you’re asking me this?!” The woman replies, “No, I don’t pray. I’m asking you. Do you pray on time, or not?” “I don’t pray on time. Sometimes I pray. Obviously, I don’t pray on time.”
The woman asks, “Do you believe that one should obey God’s commands?” The man replies, “Yes, I believe in this, but I’m not in the mood for it.” The woman replies, “I’m sorry, but I won’t accept your proposal. You may go somewhere else!” The man is surprised and says, “Why are your sensitive about my prayer? Ask me for love and affection. Ask me for wisdom and understanding in life. Ask me for discipline, politeness and cleanliness. Ask for these. Ask for money. What do you want from me?”
The woman replies, “I only want love, loyalty and affection from you. But, you are a person who cannot be counted on. A person who is committed to prayer is obviously not just after his own carnal desires. This shows that he has killed his own desires in the amount of praying on time. How can I be sure about you? Today you like me. Tomorrow you’ll like someone else. Today, you came to me because of yourself. Tomorrow, you’ll crush me under your feet because of yourself. I cannot trust you at all as long as you don’t pray. I have seen thousands of people’s lives. I myself don’t care about God or His Prophet. But, I want to have a husband who will be a human being for me! You, who believe in your God, why don’t you listen to Him? You’re after your desires. I cannot live with such a man! If you haven’t crushed yourself with prayer, you can’t be in love either. I swear you’re lying if you say you love me! You love your own desires! You’ll hate poor me tomorrow because of your desires. You are not a bit polite to a God Who has been this kind to you! If I want to become your spouse tomorrow, how kind can I be to you so that you’ll be polite with me? You ignore God. Will you be loyal to me?!”

You can find affection in a heart that has risen up against itself! You can find love in a heart that has risen up against its carnal desires!


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