Why Stress When You Have God? - Sayed Saleh Qazwini

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[0:02]for the souls of all of the and especially the in the

[0:09]recent days.

[0:11]Please recite Alhamdulillah.

[0:52]Allah in Allah.

[1:36]Holy sh for the love of Allah and his holy household.

[1:54]>> We live in probably the most comfortable time humans have lived.

[2:04]We have access to travel.

[2:06]We have access to the internet, to AI, to the most sophisticated

[2:15]and most advanced medicine that humanity has reached ever since humanity.

[2:23]Probably all of the resources that we have right now are some

[2:31]of the things that we have right now people maybe 50 years

[2:36]ago or a 100red years ago did not even dream of, did

[2:40]not even imagine.

[2:40]Yet we have all of that.

[2:45]Especially we who are living in the west now.

[2:50]Many of you know people that are living in the Middle East

[2:56]that are suffering.

[2:57]But in this society, people have all of the resources and access

[3:04]to living a very comfortable life.

[3:08]Yet when we look, we see that there are many people that

[3:15]are not happy.

[3:15]We see that there are many people that are living with anxiety

[3:22]and stress and lack of comfort and a sense of restlessness.

[3:28]In fact, about 1ifth of the people that live in the United

[3:36]States deal with some sort of anxiety and restlessness and stress.

[3:41]And sometimes this could get very severe where some end up hurting

[3:48]themselves or hurting other people.

[3:50]And this is a reality that many people have.

[3:55]Now what is stress and what is anxiety?

[4:01]Stress is a response that the body and the brain has towards

[4:10]things that are not in your control, things that are out of

[4:16]the control of the brain of the body.

[4:19]The body responds by releasing adrenaline and cortisol which are hormones that

[4:27]make the person become more reactive and ready to react.

[4:33]So you see the blood pressure goes up, you see a person

[4:36]becomes a little bit more tense and that feeling that's stress.

[4:42]So stress is a reaction that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given

[4:48]every person.

[4:46]It is a mechanism.

[4:50]Stress in itself is not evil.

[4:52]Stress is a mechanism that the body goes through in order to

[4:56]react to things that are not in a person's control.

[5:01]When things are going that are not really comfortable, a person senses

[5:05]danger.

[5:06]The body starts releasing the adrenaline and the cortisol as a mechanism

[5:11]to protect yourself.

[5:13]Now having stress in itself is nothing is not wrong because this

[5:20]is a protective mechanism that Allah subhana wa ta'ala has given every

[5:25]single person.

[5:24]When does it become a problem?

[5:28]It becomes a problem when a person is always going through stress.

[5:34]Imagine a building has an alarm system.

[5:37]This alarm system it's necessary for the security of those who are

[5:42]in the building.

[5:44]If there's an intruder, if there's a potential danger, the alarm system

[5:49]is supposed to go off.

[5:49]It becomes a problem when the alarm system is easily triggered or

[5:53]when the alarm system is triggered over nothing.

[5:57]You always hear the alarm going off then it becomes a problem.

[6:00]The alarm system in itself is not a problem.

[6:04]It becomes a problem when it becomes so sensitive that it begins

[6:07]to trigger very quickly or it's always going off then it becomes

[6:13]a problem then you say I don't want to have this alarm

[6:14]anymore otherwise having that system of stress and anxiety that is something

[6:22]that Allah subhana wa ta'ala has given every single person as a

[6:27]mechanism to protect yourself when things are not going your way when

[6:32]when there's harm coming in your way.

[6:34]So the problem is not stress in itself.

[6:37]The problem is the lack of control of stress or when a

[6:40]person is easily stressed.

[6:44]When a person goes through issues that easily trigger these the stress

[6:49]response that a person goes through and every single one of us

[6:53]we have what stresses us, the stressors, what triggers us.

[7:00]Some people either because of their finances, some people because of an

[7:06]illness, some people because of a relationship problem, some people because of

[7:11]the news that they're hearing.

[7:12]The news that we are hearing right now, it's not good news.

[7:17]It's causing everyone to live on anxiety.

[7:18]It's causing everyone to live in very tense and very stressed life

[7:24]because you don't know what's going on and you have no control

[7:27]of what is going on.

[7:31]So ultimately stress is caused by things that are not in our

[7:35]control and what we like to do is we like to take

[7:39]control of things.

[7:39]I like to take control of matters, take control of affairs so

[7:45]that I will not be living a stressed life.

[7:48]So what do we do when things are not going in our

[7:50]control?

[7:50]We try our best and we struggle to take matters into our

[7:54]control.

[7:55]But here's the question.

[7:58]Am I going to be successful in doing that?

[8:01]Am I always going to have control over everything?

[8:03]Am I always going to be in control of all of the

[8:07]matters and all of the circumstances that I deal with in life?

[8:10]The answer is no.

[8:13]We try our best to be in control so that we are

[8:18]not living an anxious life.

[8:18]But the reality is we can never be in control of everything.

[8:25]In fact, I'm not even in control of myself.

[8:26]I don't have authority over my heartbeat.

[8:28]I don't have authority over my kidneys.

[8:31]I don't have authority over the blood, the respiratory system, and all

[8:35]of the systems that are operating in me.

[8:37]I don't have control over anything.

[8:38]I live my life in an illusion thinking that I have control.

[8:44]An illusion of wealth, an illusion of power, an illusion of stability,

[8:49]when in fact I don't have anything.

[8:53]One small bacteria could knock me down.

[8:57]One small virus could knock down a whole nation, a whole global

[9:01]community.

[9:02]We saw what happened during CO.

[9:04]A virus that cannot even be seen by the naked eye.

[9:09]It brought the world to a standstill.

[9:12]What does that mean?

[9:12]That means that as much as I try to be in control

[9:18]of everything in my life, I will never be in control.

[9:24]That's it.

[9:22]That's a reality.

[9:24]And there are many that talk about this.

[9:27]One hadith from he says, "The son of Adam is a msk."

[9:34]Poor miserable person thinking that they have control of everything.

[9:39]One mosquito could come and bite you and then it causes you,

[9:46]it disturbs your sleep.

[9:46]It causes you pain.

[9:50]One mosquito, one weak mosquito could come and ruin your life for

[9:57]you.

[9:55]By a choke, you die.

[9:59]One choke, it could kill a person.

[10:02]And one sweat could make you stink and stench.

[10:06]And then this human being thinks that they have control of everything.

[10:11]They think that they have control of their life.

[10:12]And they want to have control of your life.

[10:15]I don't have control over my life.

[10:17]I cannot control what's going on in this dunya.

[10:21]I cannot control what's going on in this world.

[10:25]And because I want to be in control and I'm not in

[10:27]control, then I become stressed.

[10:30]Then I become more anxious.

[10:31]Then I become more upset.

[10:33]In aith he says Allah subhana wa ta'ala spoke to David and

[10:44]he told he tells him you want something and God wants something.

[10:54]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala wants something and nothing will happen except that

[11:02]which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala wants.

[11:11]If you submit to what God wants, if you go with God's

[11:18]schedule, with God's plan, I will give you what you wanted as

[11:22]well.

[11:30]But if you don't submit to God's plan, I'm going to make

[11:35]you chase this dunya, chase your schedule and your plan, and you're

[11:37]going to keep running after it, running, running after it, running after

[11:40]it.

[11:40]And then at the end, what's going to happen?

[11:42]What God wants is going to happen.

[11:45]So here we we need to come to that realization.

[11:49]We need to come to that understanding.

[11:59]Everything is under the power.

[12:01]Everything is under the control of God.

[12:03]I should not stop acting like a fool and thinking that I'm

[12:09]in control of this dunya, thinking that I'm in control of what's

[12:13]going on.

[12:15]And when we act like we are in control but things don't

[12:19]go in our way, what ends up happening to us?

[12:22]We end up becoming anxious.

[12:23]We end up becoming upset.

[12:26]We end up becoming angry.

[12:27]We end up getting upset.

[12:27]And this is life.

[12:30]We get upset because we want something that Allah subhanana wa ta'ala

[12:34]has not even written for us.

[12:36]We want something that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has not even given

[12:39]us.

[12:39]And in the process of wanting things that are not for us,

[12:45]what do we do?

[12:45]We're going against the wave and we begin to let go of

[12:53]our priorities.

[12:55]We stop doing our waj.

[12:56]Maybe we start hurting ourselves.

[12:58]We start questioning the will of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

[13:01]We start questioning why is God doing this?

[13:03]If I see someone for example comfortable, I start talking about this

[13:07]person.

[13:08]I become jealous of this person.

[13:09]I want my life to be perfect, but I cannot have my

[13:13]life be perfect.

[13:15]And I get upset and I start doing things that take me

[13:18]out of my responsibility and my core.

[13:21]I start skipping what I'm supposed to do and I start doing

[13:26]secondary things in order to achieve that which God has not even

[13:30]written for me.

[13:30]So this stress of being in control, it makes us do things

[13:37]that are sometimes wrong.

[13:37]It makes us do things that are sometimes hurtful.

[13:41]I want to secure an income.

[13:43]This income has not been written for me.

[13:45]So I go and I try to secure it in the haram

[13:47]way.

[13:48]I want to, for example, have a relationship with someone.

[13:50]That relationship is probably not working for me.

[13:53]Then I come and I force myself.

[13:55]I come and I do things that are probably not good for

[14:01]me.

[14:01]and then I end up causing a problem for myself.

[14:03]So here my dear brothers and sisters, we need to come to

[14:09]the realization that number one, we are not in control of our

[14:13]affairs.

[14:14]Allah subhanana wa ta'ala has given me a responsibility.

[14:16]Allah subhanana wa ta'ala has given me certain things that I am

[14:20]responsible for.

[14:21]I need to do what is waj on me.

[14:23]I am not responsible for what's going on in the world.

[14:27]I am not responsible for things that are beyond my control.

[14:30]And if I do not accept that, I have two options.

[14:35]Either I keep going against the wave and keep living that illusion

[14:42]that I'm in control, but I'm not really in control and I

[14:46]end up disappointing myself and hurting myself.

[14:48]Or the second option is I submit to Allah subhanana wa ta'ala.

[14:56]I give the wheels to the one who knows how to drive.

[14:58]I give the wheel to the one who knows how to plane

[15:03]to fly the plane and I submit to Allah subhanana wa ta'ala.

[15:06]Our problem is that we are not willing to submit to Allah

[15:11]subhana wa tala.

[15:11]We think we're in control but in reality we're not in control.

[15:17]The easiest solution is to have that on Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

[15:21]Who has been who has been there for me my whole life?

[15:23]Has Allah subhana wa ta'ala ever left me?

[15:26]Allah has never left me.

[15:28]My food has been coming to me, my resources, my risk, everything

[15:31]has been there for me.

[15:32]Why do I assume that I'm in control and then I go

[15:36]and do things that take me out of my responsibility and I

[15:41]end up skipping what I'm supposed to do.

[15:42]Instead, let me just surrender to Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

[15:47]Let me leave the matters that are not in my control to

[15:49]Allah subhanana wa ta'ala.

[15:53]And here Allah says in the Quran, the one that has on

[16:05]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will create an off-ramp,

[16:11]an exit for you in a way that you did not even

[16:16]imagine.

[16:20]And Allah will give you the risk and the sustenance from a

[16:25]way that you did not even imagine.

[16:27]And then Allah subhana wa ta'ala says in the Quran in the

[16:33]same verse those who rely on God they have on Allah.

[16:39]Allah will take care of your matters.

[16:47]God is in control and Allah subhanana wa ta'ala has placed a

[16:53]destiny for everything.

[16:54]Allah subhanana wa ta'ala has written everything.

[16:58]So I need to worry about what is in my control.

[17:03]I should not be worried about what is beyond my duties, beyond

[17:07]my control.

[17:06]Because when I try to worry about things and I try to

[17:11]take control of things that are not in my control, I end

[17:15]up stressing myself.

[17:14]I end up missing out on my responsibilities.

[17:17]I end up not doing what I'm supposed to do.

[17:21]Let me worry about myself.

[17:21]And Allah subhana wa ta'ala has given me every day I have

[17:25]a few responsibilities.

[17:26]I have a responsibility to pray.

[17:28]I have a responsibility to have a healthy relationship with my parents.

[17:32]I have a responsibility to take care of my own responsibilities.

[17:35]I'm not responsible for what is beyond me.

[17:38]Let me do what I'm supposed to do.

[17:40]Let me fulfill the waj.

[17:40]Let me stay the away from the haram.

[17:43]Let me take every day one day out of a at a

[17:47]time.

[17:47]I don't need to be worried about tomorrow or next year or

[17:49]five years from now.

[17:52]Take everything one day at a time and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

[17:55]will take care of you.

[17:58]And Allah subhanaa tala takes care of us every day.

[18:01]But we don't realize it.

[18:02]Doesn't Allah send me my risk every day.

[18:04]So why am I worried about finances?

[18:06]Doesn't Allah subhana wa ta'ala give me a heart that beats every

[18:11]day?

[18:11]If that day, if today my heart is beating, what does that

[18:13]mean?

[18:14]That means today I'm living.

[18:15]Allah subhana ta has written life for me.

[18:18]Why should I worry about tomorrow?

[18:19]Now of course this does not mean having does not mean that

[18:24]I let go of my responsibilities and I don't care about I

[18:28]become reckless and irresponsible.

[18:29]No, this is addressing those who worry too much.

[18:34]This is addressing those who have too much anxiety and too much

[18:37]stress about tomorrow.

[18:38]I'm not responsible for tomorrow.

[18:39]Let tomorrow come and then tomorrow I will deal with my responsibilities.

[18:45]There was a man and this is a hadith that is mentioned

[18:50]a story that is mentioned by the imams of the B and

[18:55]Bah mentions the story.

[18:55]He says that there was a man in an area called Jabal

[19:02]Lubnan.

[19:02]So maybe some of you are familiar with that area.

[19:04]This is of course before Islam.

[19:10]This man was aid.

[19:09]He was a worshipper and he used to have his risk and

[19:16]his sustenance sent to him every day.

[19:18]All he would do is he would pray and then when he

[19:22]finishes his prayer he sees that Allah subhanana wa ta'ala in some

[19:25]way or another has sent him his food for that day.

[19:30]his meal every day would come to him.

[19:32]And this is how risk is.

[19:33]Says risk is two types.

[19:41]There's one type of risk that you have to chase and there's

[19:43]another type of risk that chases you.

[19:49]It comes to you.

[19:48]So this man every day he would pray and then he comes

[19:52]and he sees his food.

[19:53]Alhamdulillah.

[19:55]One day Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala wanted to test him.

[20:00]Is this person truly a believer or is this person in it

[20:06]for the comfort once life becomes a little bit challenging once things

[20:10]don't go your way then you see that some people leave and

[20:13]we mentioned they worship God on the edge meaning they're on the

[20:23]fence.

[20:22]This man, he prayed and then he looked, he saw there was

[20:27]no food.

[20:28]So now he's wondering where's my food?

[20:31]Allah sends me my food every day.

[20:33]The next prayer he prays the whole time his stomach is growling

[20:37]and instead of concentrating on his prayer, what is he thinking about

[20:42]now?

[20:43]He's thinking about his food.

[20:47]He did not wait very long.

[20:48]He did not wait another day.

[20:49]He did not wait another prayer.

[20:52]He was living on the top of a mountain where he had

[20:57]the security and every and he he was living in in a

[21:02]comfort.

[21:00]Beneath him there was a neighbor who was a kafir a neighbor

[21:06]who was against God.

[21:06]A neighbor who did not believe did not practice and was publicly

[21:13]against God.

[21:12]This man because his rk did not come to him one day

[21:17]he ended up leaving his home and he goes to that kafir.

[21:21]He goes to that non-believer and he tells him, "Give me food."

[21:24]And the kafir, he comes and he gives him two pieces of

[21:30]bread.

[21:28]He takes these two pieces of bread and he is ready and

[21:35]about to walk back home and a dog, a dog who was

[21:41]around the neighbor's house, the kafar's house, comes and begins to growl

[21:46]and bark at him.

[21:46]So, he becomes very scared of the dog.

[21:48]The dog was very hungry.

[21:51]He becomes very scared of the dog and he throws one piece

[21:53]of bread to silence the dog and the dog eats the bread

[22:00]really quick and begins to bark at him once again.

[22:05]And then he begins to yell at the dog and he he

[22:06]gets so scared he throws the second piece of bread to the

[22:10]dog and he tells him, "What kind of an ungrateful dog are

[22:12]you?

[22:13]You I gave you a piece of bread and you want another

[22:17]piece of bread." and he gave away the second piece of bread

[22:22]and he became very angry.

[22:23]The hadith says that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

[22:30]allowed the dog to speak to the man in a way sending

[22:32]him a message and the dog tells him you're calling me ungrateful.

[22:38]I guard this man's house.

[22:43]Sometimes days pass and he does not feed me.

[22:47]But I don't leave his house.

[22:48]I stay at his house.

[22:49]I stay loyal.

[22:51]I don't leave.

[22:53]And you had your food delivered to you every day.

[22:54]One day your food did not come to you and you go

[22:58]to the kafir.

[23:00]You go to the non-believer.

[23:01]This story has a very big meaning.

[23:05]My dear brothers and sisters, it reminds us of our human nature.

[23:12]We want to worship Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala when everything is comfortable.

[23:15]But when things are not going our way, some of us we

[23:19]question, some of us we leave our faith, some of us we

[23:25]turn against Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and we stress over this dunya.

[23:30]And because sometimes because we're so worried and consumed with the comfort

[23:37]of this dunya, we end up doing things that bring us away

[23:39]from Allah subhana tala.

[23:40]We end up going to the non-believers.

[23:44]We end up changing our ways.

[23:46]We ourselves might not believe.

[23:46]We might not practice because we're worried about our sustenance.

[23:49]And this is how stress and anxiety could drive some people to

[23:56]do that which is haram.

[23:56]But when you have Allah subhana wa tala, when you have the

[23:59]on Allah, when you have that full reliance on Allah subhanahu wa

[24:06]ta'ala, even your vision and your goals in life are going to

[24:10]be different.

[24:09]Now my goal in life and my vision of what is successful

[24:14]in life is different from what other people see.

[24:17]Those who do not have Allah subhana tala in their life their

[24:20]vision of success is a materialistic vision.

[24:22]And when they don't have it which no one has it people

[24:25]have it for for a very short time and then it's taken

[24:29]away from them.

[24:31]Then they become upset and they become anxious and they become angry

[24:35]and they ask why is this happening to me?

[24:38]But when you have Allah subhana wa ta'ala, when you have that,

[24:41]when you have that reliance on God, then your vision of success

[24:45]becomes different.

[24:46]It's not a materialistic approach anymore.

[24:49]Now your vision of success is how could how could I guarantee

[24:53]that God is pleased with me?

[24:54]How could I guarantee that my income is haram?

[24:57]How could I guarantee that I'm raising my children in a way

[25:02]that is pleasing to Allah subhanana wa ta'ala?

[25:03]Because that is the ultimate success.

[25:06]Not them driving this car or wearing this clothes or having this

[25:13]or that.

[25:12]That's not real success.

[25:14]That's what the non-believer sees as successful.

[25:18]But the mman sees success as something that is very different.

[25:21]And that is why the mman is not bothered easily.

[25:26]The mmin is not bothered easily.

[25:28]Why?

[25:29]Because the mman is not chasing what the kafir is chasing.

[25:32]The mman is not chasing this dunya.

[25:35]The m knows that this dunya I should just take from it

[25:40]just enough only what I need.

[25:41]I don't need to take more because this dunya does not last

[25:43]for anyone.

[25:45]And then your vision of success, your vision of failure changes.

[25:51]Now my vision of success becomes something totally different because God is

[25:55]in the equation.

[25:56]Now when God is in the equation, I don't see success as

[25:59]what the kafir sees.

[26:01]The kafir all they want is this dunya.

[26:03]They don't see anything other than this dunya because they don't believe

[26:07]in anything other than this dunya.

[26:08]While the mman sees that there's something much greater.

[26:11]This dunya is a place of test and it comes to an

[26:16]end and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is putting us through a trial.

[26:21]My goal is not this dunya and then my goal becomes something

[26:26]that is much greater and then my vision of success changes.

[26:29]This is why was able to say I did not see anything

[26:38]other than beauty because her vision of what is success is something

[26:41]very different than the vision of Yazid and all of those.

[26:47]When Allah subhana ta is in your heart when God is in

[26:49]the equation then you look at life completely different.

[26:53]Your life perspective becomes different.

[26:56]So then your stress level and your anxiety level is going to

[27:01]be much less.

[27:00]A second reason why many people go through anxiety and stress in

[27:08]their life is because of people.

[27:10]There are some people you see them two miles away and your

[27:13]heart starts you you you feel nervous and you feel anxious because

[27:17]of them.

[27:18]You know some people they walk around with negative energy and they

[27:22]end up hurting other people either through their words or through their

[27:27]actions or through what they say.

[27:28]And this is a problem that many of us deal with.

[27:33]Many people deal with dealing with other people.

[27:35]This is probably one of the most difficult tests that people deal

[27:39]with.

[27:39]Some people they say I don't have a problem with my life.

[27:41]If Allah has tested me with an illness, if Allah has given

[27:45]me this much income, I live in this house, I live in

[27:49]this area, I'm okay with it.

[27:50]But there are some people, they're like a snake, they're like a

[27:53]scorpion, you know, they come and they keep trying to hurt you.

[27:55]They keep trying to bring you down.

[28:01]And this is something that many of the ah many of the

[28:03]prophets of Allah subhana ta Allah describes this is what they have

[28:06]to deal with.

[28:08]prophets that God sent to guide people, to help people, to support

[28:11]people.

[28:12]They were they were tested with the harms of other people through

[28:19]the tongue of other people.

[28:20]Some people through their tongue, they could stab you much worse than

[28:26]if they were if they were to physically hit you.

[28:28]And says the stab and the wound of a tongue penetrates much

[28:38]deeper than the stab of a spear and a sword.

[28:42]And you see talking about stressors, things that cause you stress.

[28:46]Sometimes it's other people what they say and what they do.

[28:51]Toxic people, hurtful people.

[28:52]Look at the prophets of Allah subhana wa tala.

[28:55]Prophet Zakaria was accused and attacked.

[28:59]Prophet Yaky was attacked and killed.

[29:03]Prophet Isaam, Jesus, Prophet MS, all of the prophets, they used all

[29:12]forms of harassment and abuse to sall.

[29:16]Prophet Musa Alisam is mentioned the most in the Quran and he

[29:24]dealt with all types of difficulties and challenges.

[29:26]One of those who turned against Prophet MS was a relative of

[29:32]Musa Kun is mentioned in the Quran.

[29:34]He was close.

[29:36]He was from the ummah.

[29:38]He was from the community of Musa.

[29:39]But he became extremely wealthy and he got very upset.

[29:45]Why is MS telling him that he has to give zakat?

[29:49]So he started creating slander about prophet Musam.

[29:54]He goes and he pays a lady.

[29:58]He tells her, the hadith says he pays a lady.

[30:01]He tells her, I want you to come in public while Musa

[30:03]is speaking to the masses and I want you to accuse Prophet

[30:10]Musa of committing adultery.

[30:11]So one day prophet MS is sitting with his people.

[30:16]He's talking to them and he tells him oh Mus tell us

[30:22]about the what is halal and what is haram.

[30:24]So MS says you have to do this and do this and

[30:25]do that and stay away from adultery.

[30:28]Tells him and what if it's you who committed adultery?

[30:34]MS says me?

[30:35]He says, "Yes, there's this lady here that is accusing you of

[30:41]adultery." Musam.

[30:42]He looked at the lady.

[30:44]He tells her, "Do you swear to God that I have committed

[30:46]adultery?" The lady right away she said, "Karun paid me money." Right

[30:52]away she said, "Karun gave me money and he told me to

[30:56]say this." Musam became very upset.

[30:59]He turned to God and he said, "Eli, I'm your prophet.

[31:05]I'm I'm a m I pray.

[31:06]I fast.

[31:07]I do all my waj but people are talking about me.

[31:12]Can you please stop them from talking about me?

[31:13]Allah subhana wa ta'ala tells him, "Ya Musa, you're asking something that

[31:18]even I don't have.

[31:19]People talk about God all the time.

[31:20]You want you want some type of immunity that even God does

[31:27]not have." Allah tells him, "Be patient." Here MS he became very

[31:31]upset and he did dua.

[31:32]Allah subhana wa ta'ala tells him do with them whatever you want.

[31:38]He did a dua that the earth begins to swallow and begin

[31:42]to suck in and the people who are with him.

[31:46]So he says, "Oh earth, suck him in." It became like a

[31:52]quick sand and they started sinking in it.

[31:55]They sunk to their knees and they begin to cry, "Ya Mus,

[32:01]ya Mus, please have mercy on us." And Mus says, "Ya, oh

[32:03]earth, take him in." And it goes to their stomach.

[32:08]And they begin to beg, ya, mus, yah mus, please forgive us.

[32:14]And he says, until they were swallowed.

[32:17]Here there's an interesting hadith which reminds us about the mercy of

[32:24]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala where Allah subhana wa ta'ala tells him they

[32:35]turned to you and they began to beg you but you did

[32:39]not answer them.

[32:44]Allah tells him, "But if they had turned to me, I would

[32:49]have answered them." And this shows us that in times of stress,

[32:52]in times of difficulties, in times of challenges, who should we turn

[32:56]to?

[32:56]Turn to Allah subhanana wa ta'ala.

[32:59]If you turn to Allah, Allah subhanana wa ta'ala will cleanse and

[33:05]remove the difficulties and the challenges from your heart.

[33:09]The heart is is a is a it has feelings.

[33:12]This is why we say Oh the one who turns the heart

[33:19]put peace in my heart put tranquility in my heart give comfort

[33:24]to my heart and if we pray for that Allah subhanana wa

[33:27]ta'ala will give it to us but when it comes to toxic

[33:34]people in our lives when it comes to people that are hurtful

[33:40]when it comes to people that cause pain there's a very simple

[33:44]solution That solution is let go of them.

[33:49]Leave them.

[33:47]Do I have to have toxic friends?

[33:49]Do I have to have friends that annoy me and bother me

[33:53]and every time I see them I have to go and take

[33:57]a blood pressure pill?

[33:56]Do we need to have that?

[34:00]Some of us we want to have bad friends and then we

[34:02]want to complain about the bad friends.

[34:04]Leave them.

[34:05]It's as simple as that.

[34:08]There's a in psychology class they give a an example an experiment

[34:16]where there's a jar.

[34:16]The jar has some sweets and treats in it.

[34:20]And they come and they put this jar in front of a

[34:26]monkey and the monkey it puts his hand the monkey puts the

[34:29]h its hand in the jar and it grabs it grabs the

[34:34]candy or the sweets and then the hand goes in the the

[34:38]tip of the jar is very small.

[34:39]So the hand goes in like this.

[34:41]But when the when the monkey grabs, he creates a fist.

[34:44]And then he wants to take his hand out of the jar,

[34:46]it doesn't come out anymore.

[34:49]And the c and the monkey keeps panicking and crying and yelling

[34:53]because he's unable to take his hands out of the jar.

[34:57]He's not willing to let go.

[34:57]All he has to do is let go and the hand comes

[35:01]out of the jar.

[35:00]But if he's not willing to let go, the hand will not

[35:04]come out of the jar.

[35:04]This is how it is with us and bad friends.

[35:07]We are not willing to let go.

[35:09]There are some relationships that are not worth it for you.

[35:14]Not worth the headache, not worth the stress, not worth the anxiety,

[35:17]not worth the pain, not worth the regret that we deal with

[35:20]on the day of judgment as a result of these bad friends.

[35:24]Think of them.

[35:26]There are some groups of friends when we sit with them, all

[35:31]that comes out of it is backbiting, gossip, and then we don't

[35:33]gain anything.

[35:34]And then we go on the day of judgment, Allah is going

[35:36]to ask me about that.

[35:38]Allah is going to tell me what were you doing that day

[35:41]talking about this person eating the flesh of a person by talking

[35:44]about them and this is what gossip is.

[35:48]So it's very easy if there's someone that is causing you stress

[35:55]causing you anxiety try to let go of them.

[35:58]There are some groups of people in our lives that we cannot

[36:00]let go of.

[36:02]I know some people here in America teaches you that even if

[36:04]your parents, let go of them.

[36:07]Even if it's your brother, let go of them.

[36:09]Even if it's your family, let go of them.

[36:13]No.

[36:10]In Islam, if it's a stranger, if it's a friend, if it's

[36:15]someone that is not related to me by blood, I could let

[36:19]go of them.

[36:19]Who cares?

[36:20]But if it's my family becomes haram, disconnecting with a family member

[36:26]that you share blood with, this is haram.

[36:29]So what do we do in this case?

[36:33]In this case, you have to try your best to bring peace

[36:37]and bring a solution to the problem.

[36:41]Now, it doesn't mean that I have to hang out with this

[36:44]person every day, but I should not disconnect with them as long

[36:46]as I do not fully disconnect.

[36:50]Maybe I check up on them once a month, once every once

[36:52]in a while to see if they need anything.

[36:55]I don't need to make it so close and I don't need

[36:59]to totally disconnect with this person.

[37:01]And the Quran and the teachings of the B teach us how

[37:08]to also change a toxic relationship into a positive one.

[37:14]Not every relationship should remain toxic all the time.

[37:17]Not every relationship should always be a reason for difficulties and challenges.

[37:24]Sometimes you could change it.

[37:25]Sometimes maybe one good deed, maybe one good action, it will change

[37:30]that negative relationship into a very positive one.

[37:34]Look at the people of Mecca, the people of Quraysh, they despised

[37:39]the prophet.

[37:41]They saw him as the worst possible person.

[37:42]But Allah through his ways, through his through his demeanor, he managed

[37:48]to change enemies into friends.

[37:50]And this is what the Quran teaches us.

[37:53]The bad deed is not equivalent to the good deed.

[38:05]Repel evil with good.

[38:08]It will turn a feeling, a relationship of animosity into a relationship

[38:13]of love and compassion.

[38:15]That is also possible.

[38:18]And one of the greatest solutions to dealing with stress and anxiety,

[38:24]especially in dealing with people, sometimes there are some people or there

[38:28]are some things that are stressing us in life that are not

[38:34]in our control.

[38:36]Allah subhanana wa ta'ala teaches the prophet.

[38:36]Allah teaches many verses in the Quran, God is talking to the

[38:44]prophet.

[38:43]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala over 10 times in the Quran instructs the

[38:51]prophet to have to have patience.

[38:53]Sometimes the solution is that's it.

[38:56]I just have to have patience.

[38:56]I need to be patient.

[39:00]And look at these verses.

[39:01]They tell him be patient and do something else.

[39:07]And this one Allah subhana wa ta'ala tells him be patient.

[39:14]Allah the same way the prophets had to be patient.

[39:20]Do not be like those who were not patient.

[39:23]Which prophet?

[39:23]There was a prophet that was not patient.

[39:25]Allah says in the Quran do not be like like Ununice.

[39:35]He ran away.

[39:37]He left his people and ran away.

[39:38]Allah tells the prophet be patient.

[39:46]And do not rush.

[39:50]Everything comes in its time.

[39:50]Everything has its own.

[40:00]Sometimes there are people that are hurting you.

[40:03]Don't worry.

[40:04]This dunya on the day of judgment will feel like it was

[40:07]it will feel like it was one hour out of a day.

[40:13]In another verse, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells him, "Do not let

[40:24]those who do not believe unsettle you." Be patient and do not

[40:28]lose yourself.

[40:29]Sometimes when I see someone hurting me, I also lose myself.

[40:33]I become angry.

[40:34]I start doing things that are wrong.

[40:37]No, I have to remain keep my composure, be my who I

[40:41]am.

[40:41]Allah will judge me for who I am and Allah judges them

[40:43]for who they are.

[40:47]In another verse, Allah tells him, Allah tells him, "Be patient and

[41:06]for what they say and glorify your Lord before the sun rises

[41:15]at time.

[41:14]And before it sets, remember Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and in the

[41:23]middle of the night remember Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and the parts

[41:30]of the day.

[41:30]Then you will find relief.

[41:33]Then you will find that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will give you

[41:37]that soothing feeling when you remember Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

[41:41]This is why when we say we have to pray five times

[41:44]a day, this is the greatest blessing in our life that we

[41:49]have to pray because when I pray, prayer is like po pouring

[41:51]cold water on a heart that is full of fire.

[41:55]It helps it relieves you.

[41:56]But we need to understand the meaning of the prayer.

[42:00]And finally in another verse Allah says, Allah says, "We know what

[42:16]they say to you hurts you and it constricts your heart.

[42:20]So glorify glorify and praise Allah subhana tala.

[42:25]Remember God's blessings upon you.

[42:28]Say alhamdulillah.

[42:30]Even when you're going through difficulties." Even when you're going through difficulties.

[42:34]This is the sentence that we say in any circumstance.

[42:40]Even if someone died, we say alhamdulillah even when you go through

[42:49]difficulty say alhamdulillah because it could always be worse and he tells

[42:57]him be from those that prostrate to Allah subhana wa tala do

[43:04]sujud you know our stress and the anxiety it takes place in

[43:09]the preffrontal cortex.

[43:09]This is the front part of the head right behind your forehead.

[43:14]So there's a reason why when we do sujud, Allah subhana ta

[43:19]tells the prophet do sujud and you will feel better.

[43:23]Try it.

[43:25]Try it and you will see that sense of grounding that sense

[43:28]that even if the whole world is against me I have Allah

[43:33]subhana wa ta'ala and if I have Allah then I should have

[43:35]no stress I should not be worried because Allah subhanana wa ta'ala

[43:41]is with the Allah we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to bring

[43:51]us the relief during these difficult times that the um that the

[43:55]Muslims that the followers of the B specifically are going through, we

[44:01]ask and we pray for the relief from Allah and everything is

[44:04]in the hands of Allah.

[44:04]If Allah wants to bring us the relief now, Allah could do

[44:09]it.

[44:10]And if Allah wants to put keep this test going so that

[44:12]he rewards us, he elevates us for our patience, then Allah also

[44:19]knows what is best.

[44:18]We pray for the We do dua for those who are in

[44:23]need of dua especially during these nights during these nights of Ramadan.

[44:26]This this is the time to do dua my dear brothers and

[44:30]sisters.

[44:31]This is the time to do dua.

[44:32]This is the time to have that where we lose we forget

[44:39]everything.

[44:38]Nothing can help you.

[44:41]Nothing could save you except Allah subhana ta.

[44:45]When we actually have that feeling and that that conviction then we

[44:49]will be able to see results inshallah.

[44:53]Let us raise our hands in dua.

[45:05]foreign for Ramadan.

[46:01]for Allah.

[46:31]Islam.

[46:41]Allah I remind everyone that tonight there is going to be a

[47:13]lunar eclipse and is a full lunar eclipse.

[47:18]It starts around 3:00 a.m.

[47:19]and it lasts all the way until 7 a.m.

[47:22]So anytime during from the beginning until the end, you have to

[47:30]do salat ayat is a two prayer.

[47:32]In each there are five.

[47:33]So five times you go down do and then get up, go

[47:38]down and you go up and you recite in each and another

[47:41]surah and then you do the and then you stand and then

[47:46]you recite and another surah and then you do and you stand.

[47:49]You do this five times after the fifth you go down to

[47:54]and then you repeat the process in the second and this is

[47:58]ayat.

[47:59]This is ayat.

[48:01]It is waj.

[48:01]It is waj because this is a full eclipse.

[48:04]It's not a partial eclipse.

[48:08]It is obligatory upon every person.

[48:09]We ask Allah subhana wa ta'ala to bless you all.

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