Why Do I Feel Down?- Sheikh Aous Asfar - Ramadhan Night 13

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Why Do I Feel Down? Ramadan Night Thirteen Sheikh Aous Asfar Muslim Youth Connection Ramadhan 2019

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[0:04]thank you thank you brother much too before that beautiful recitation celada

[0:09]Mohammed Ali Mohammed I have a few announcements to make before we

[0:16]welcome chef also first of all this coming week on Monday Tuesday

[0:22]and Wednesday we have three special guests Monday we're welcoming Reverend Kenneth

[0:25]flowers he's going to be talking about his visitation to Karbala on

[0:31]Tuesday we have hodja hodja bessie she'll be speaking about how to

[0:35]prepare for ladatel qatar and on wednesday we have Emily Garth right

[0:39]she is a photojournalist from overseas she'll be speaking about her are

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[1:19]the Lake Huron retreat center ages 18 through 30 are welcome to

[1:27]attend this trip is $250 and it includes costs of lodging transportation

[1:30]and food we will be joined by religious scholars Sayed Hassan Collini

[1:34]say it's a la Sweeney Sheikh Mohammed asaji and hodja hodja busy

[1:38]this isn't something you guys want to miss out on it's a

[1:43]life-changing experience the spots are filling up fast so please register you

[1:48]can register at Muslim retreats org also we have two charity events

[1:52]going on during this Ramadhan we're participating with a local high school

[1:57]Dearborn high in doing an aid toy drive well we are collecting

[2:00]donations May 6 through the 31st and we're going to be donating

[2:06]them to underprivileged kids so that they're able to truly celebrate these

[2:11]toys can be new or used or in good condition and the

[2:13]nation boxes are in the lobby they're actually by the window here

[2:16]by the at the door also my sees partnering up with Zaman

[2:19]for a food drive over the month of Roma bond it's called

[2:23]30 days of giving the items are all listed on the boxes

[2:26]outside or you can find them on social media the boxes are

[2:29]actually full so thank you all for participating in that we're gonna

[2:34]get more boxes in Shiloh soon so tonight's topic with chef OHS

[2:44]is about depression how do we deal with our depression so let's

[2:50]welcome chef after allah allah allah mohammad ali muhammad salla allah muhammad

[3:03]wa ala muhammad a second time for the love of an imam

[3:10]hassan an imam hussain a third time for the love of lady

[3:22]fatima of the loudest voices bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim o salat wa salam

[3:29]ala sayyidal mursaleen habib allah allah ameen bill Cosman Mustafa Muhammad wala

[3:34]elevated pyrene pyrene alladhina I'd have Allah who and who murdered Sarah

[3:42]Haram Kira so what either you depressed everyone when you said depression

[3:49]or they have no energy and they didn't have a spot so

[3:52]let's see how how how energized you are after the mentioning of

[3:59]the name of Lady Fatima sallou ala muhammadin woman santé allahu taala

[4:07]Futaba al karima call you will hawk allah subhanaw taala states in

[4:13]the chapter of a ballot chapter 19 verse 4 he says la

[4:21]Fidele jalapeno in the Sun fee cabott allah subhanaw taala sure says

[4:25]surely we created mankind and brought him to this world in a

[4:28]state of hardship sort of Allah Allah inalienable assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh allah

[4:36]subhanaw taala says either who eaten bhai attend for how you be

[4:40]miss Leah oh we have cinnamon huh so when you are greeted

[4:42]you should always greet either at the same level or with a

[4:48]greeting that is better than it so I say Salam alaikum warahmatullahi

[4:52]wabarakatuh so in the last few nights a hamdulillah we've had the

[4:58]opportunity to get to know ourselves better to know our world better

[5:01]to know our role in this world to understand who our Creator

[5:06]is and how not only to speak to ourselves through our self-talk

[5:10]how to address others and how to address our Lord subhana wa

[5:13]ta'ala we set some goals for ourselves and we understood the importance

[5:20]of self-awareness in determining the whole reality of choice and how choice

[5:26]is something that truly is out of the justice of allah subhanaw

[5:29]taala that he provides us to be able to choose him right

[5:31]to have that choice is an honor an honor that allah subhanaw

[5:37]taala did not have to give us right then yet he does

[5:39]out of his mercy so that we can show our gratitude to

[5:44]him so that we can come closer to him so that our

[5:48]reward can be greater and we said that in this game of

[5:50]life which is similar to when we play Xbox or Playstation right

[5:57]or if we're athletes and we like to win races or win

[6:00]games then we're going to practice until there's progress and until that

[6:07]progress brings us as close to perfection as humanly possible now we

[6:12]realize that there are challenges that come in our way and yesterday

[6:15]we spoke about these struggles and the logical necessity for these circles

[6:20]and why it is and how it is that these struggles really

[6:24]become a way for us to build resilience right and that after

[6:29]each struggle we only become stronger and the next struggle that comes

[6:32]after in the next level of life is only one that's going

[6:37]to make me stronger right more resilient more able to deal with

[6:42]life because it wouldn't make sense any logical sense that if I

[6:45]get to a higher level and surpass a lower level that the

[6:52]challenge will be any easier rather it should be greater because I'm

[6:56]able to handle more right and so what happens to me while

[7:04]I'm on this path is I hit a few snags I fall

[7:09]on my face right I lose my first life on my second

[7:10]life and my third life and then I have to start the

[7:13]game from the beginning because the game is over for me in

[7:15]this trial so I come back again and I try again and

[7:18]again and again I try that level again and again and again

[7:20]right Hassan all right I've become obsessed with that level I am

[7:27]going to get to the next level whether it kills me all

[7:30]right of course it's not gonna kill you is gonna kill your

[7:35]parents they're over your head they're waiting for you to finish playing

[7:40]so that you can come for a flop all right but what

[7:43]happens when I realize you know what I get that feeling that

[7:49]I don't feel like I can ever surpass this challenge and I

[7:53]get down on myself I say you know what you're not good

[7:58]enough you're not good enough to handle this challenge when I feel

[8:01]down logically speaking really what I'm saying is I'm not good enough

[8:06]to handle this challenge I'm not strong enough to handle the set

[8:08]of this challenge I start asking myself why me why this challenge

[8:13]why not them how come their life as easier instead of looking

[8:20]at myself I start looking at others and their challenges but what

[8:24]I don't realize is that's not the wisest thing to do because

[8:29]logically speaking I know that's a loss of Hannah Tyler gave me

[8:33]this challenge which means he chose it for me and if he

[8:36]chose it for me and that means I'm worthy of that challenge

[8:38]and that means that that challenge is tailor-made for me and that

[8:45]I can handle it logically speaking right because it would be unfair

[8:49]for God to give me a challenge that I cannot handle make

[8:52]sense otherwise he would be cruel and we proved Allah is all

[8:57]perfect and unlimited therefore there's no way that he could be cruel

[9:03]right Hansen so based on that then I say all right but

[9:06]why do I still feel down so I may feel down because

[9:12]of the fact that I keep trying and it's not working you

[9:16]know if I keep trying the same thing over and over and

[9:24]over again what's going to happen yes really you'll keep failing exactly

[9:30]unless you change something and what you're doing then guess what I'm

[9:34]gonna keep failing it's insanity to keep doing the same thing over

[9:42]and over and over and expect a different result if you're failing

[9:45]there has to be some tweaking here and there there has to

[9:52]be something that I'm missing that I need to change it's the

[9:58]patience and the wisdom to understand that that's what I need to

[10:03]figure out is where the challenge lies not in hitting yourself steady

[10:12]hitting your head on a brick wall over and over and over

[10:14]again wondering why it hurts right maybe you should move aside and

[10:18]open up the window that way when you move your head forward

[10:22]you won't hit your head anywhere all right just a little tweak

[10:25]right if I have a remote control and I keep hitting change

[10:29]challenge change the channel change the channel and there are no batteries

[10:35]in there then guess what you're gonna have to get up either

[10:38]by batteries or go towards the TV and change the channel yourself

[10:40]there has to be some change you see the problem is when

[10:51]we fall into feeling the state of loss what do we end

[10:53]up doing isolating ourselves what else do we tend to do negative

[11:02]thoughts what else happens brother you feel guilty good what else happens

[11:09]hmm there's plenty of you in the room only two people who

[11:20]are talking what else happens hmm you dwell right dwell on your

[11:25]ability to be successful or dwell on your failure dwell on your

[11:29]failure or we should spoke about that yesterday what else hmm you

[11:38]feel like giving up a scent very good Hodge so we get

[11:41]all of these feelings and none of them can be described as

[11:48]being positive right you feel a sense of powerlessness and we spoke

[11:53]about that a little yesterday about that group who when tested realized

[11:59]because they were so stressed that they couldn't surpass that one question

[12:04]so they ended up falling into this winding feeling of failure like

[12:11]a deep dark abyss that they couldn't get out of right until

[12:17]they just gave up and the time was up how can I

[12:21]get myself to snap out of it hmm make door ha to

[12:30]a good start McDonald realize that when you don't have the answer

[12:35]and you keep researching right that most likely either you're researching in

[12:40]the wrong spot or if you're asking people and you're not getting

[12:44]the answer that you want you're asking the wrong people you see

[12:50]the answer sometimes are really really simple the problem that occurs is

[12:57]when you isolate yourself isolating yourself and expecting to be able to

[13:07]find an answer is just unwise when someone is depressed what do

[13:13]they tend to do lock themselves in their room right sleep a

[13:17]lot right or maybe binge watch Netflix right check now I'm not

[13:26]depressed I just watched you know nine seasons in one night but

[13:31]I'm really not depressed I'm just trying to escape my reality but

[13:38]I'm really not depressed the why do you need to bend you

[13:41]watch so much if you're trying to avoid something I mean if

[13:45]you're if you're trying to avoid something then you're going to binge

[13:48]watch all these nova netflix and spend all your time seeing how

[13:55]everybody else's life is cool on instagram while yours just stinks right

[14:00]why then why not me I say to Allah look at that

[14:06]talk how I talk how I address my lord why then it's

[14:08]an accusatory tone right why then how dare I say that the

[14:18]audacity of how I speak to my lord and accuse him when

[14:22]he can only and will only give me what I can handle

[14:27]and yet I lose sight of that I lose sight of that

[14:33]logical necessity but I fall into depression and when I fall into

[14:38]depression I need to understand why this happens and what are the

[14:45]different effects that occur I understand that isolate myself I understand that

[14:50]I pulled myself out of you know the public realm and into

[14:53]a private realm I understand that I'm not probably acting wisely I

[14:58]understand that I have I engage in a lot of negative self-talk

[15:04]talking to myself even when I talk to my parents I'll say

[15:05]stuff like you know I realize you know what what's the point

[15:10]let me just give up I've tried so much to get to

[15:12]pharmacy school but you know I have applied to a hundred schools

[15:25]nobody wants me right what does modern science tell us about depression

[15:31]I think that it's important to move on to that point modern

[15:35]science is really interesting because it tells us that there are different

[15:39]forms of depression and this is important for us to understand before

[15:43]we go into the Quran to understand what allah subhanaw taala tells

[15:48]us there's a form of depression well according to the Harvard Medical

[15:53]School there is actually six types of depression I believe that they

[15:57]mentioned but I'm going to mention one extra so one is called

[16:05]major depression major depression is the most common type of depression that

[16:09]one feels this is the type of depression that we would feel

[16:11]for example if we were going through challenges in life right and

[16:16]we weren't able to deal with them and what happens is we

[16:19]end up feeling this sense of loss and and and it can

[16:26]you know it can last for a bit of time but once

[16:30]I snap out of it right life changes and I'm no longer

[16:34]depressed right this is the most common type of depression and this

[16:38]type of that depression is actually resolved easily usually with psychotherapy meaning

[16:43]you go see a counselor okay the counselor will listen to you

[16:50]the counselor is a psychologist they'll say to you well how do

[16:54]you feel what do you think and then you come up with

[16:58]this thing where I realize that when I was a child that

[17:00]my mother did this and this is why I'm responding this way

[17:06]and this has affected my pattern of behavior and this might be

[17:10]why I'm self-deprecating because I saw my mom you know being self-deprecating

[17:13]and this is a pattern that I have to break so you

[17:18]find the reason and then what ends up happening is you try

[17:21]to negotiate and try to find a solution okay but it's about

[17:27]what it's about thinking through it honey from cinema tonight so about

[17:31]thinking through it working your way through it okay now if that

[17:35]isn't resolved then what ends up happening is the person is prescribed

[17:41]a medication and this is very common today right a lot of

[17:45]people for example may be using a medication like Zoloft for example

[17:49]that's supposed to take care of those feelings of depression and negativity

[17:55]and all that sort of thing but most people that take these

[17:58]medications later they say that when they take them they don't feel

[18:05]like themselves you know they feel like they're in a shell of

[18:07]a body and they want to do things but they really don't

[18:09]feel that motivated to do it I remember one brother said to

[18:14]me you know I took the medication to help me resolve this

[18:16]issue but I found myself I found that it slowed me down

[18:20]more than it helped me and then he said after a while

[18:25]he said he got off of it and then he got he

[18:29]went to another psychologist and that psychologist sent him to a psychiatrist

[18:32]and the psychiatrist actually fixed the medication the dosage until it was

[18:37]at a point that really helped him as opposed to hurt him

[18:41]okay and he really needed it some people for example are on

[18:47]meds for a good chunk of their lives because they have some

[18:50]sort of chemical imbalance that needs fixing so that's one of the

[18:53]reasons there's another type of depression called persistent depressive disorder also known

[19:02]as this this sorana Mohammed or item Hamid while I pronounce this

[19:09]this fee Mia there it is okay now this is basically a

[19:19]form of depression where the depression comes and goes there it's like

[19:25]it's more like moods but what's interesting here is that the person

[19:30]doesn't feel any joy in life okay they feel like they're just

[19:34]they're like nothing brings them happy this usually is a result of

[19:47]low self-esteem it's a result of maybe not enough sleep according to

[19:53]to the studies it's a result of perhaps an imbalance hormonal imbalance

[19:58]in the body also the third type of depression is called bipolar

[20:03]disorder otherwise known as manic depressive disorder and this is this can

[20:11]be an inherited disorder meaning that if you know your parents had

[20:16]it or your grandparents had it that it is it could be

[20:21]likely that some sort of stressful situation can cause you to have

[20:26]it also okay now this type of disorder has two phases one

[20:31]phase which is called the manic phase and one phase which is

[20:35]called the normal phase and the manic phase people actually feel really

[20:39]energized and happy and joyous right and then after that they fall

[20:44]into depression what's interesting here though is you have other people who

[20:49]are normal and then in their manic phase they also become highly

[20:53]depressed so this type of person needs to be medicated okay another

[21:02]type of depression is a seasonal depression it's called seasonal affective disorder

[21:07]and this is a result of a lack of exposure to UV

[21:13]rays so people who aren't who are in areas that don't get

[21:19]a lot of Sun they suffer from this type of disorder this

[21:22]is why people in Scandinavia the highest rate of depression and suicide

[21:27]is actually in the Scandinavian countries because they have a very low

[21:32]amount of sunlight for a good chunk of the year at least

[21:37]six months out of the year there's also a type of depression

[21:43]that actually is associated with puberty when the hormonal changes occur people

[21:50]who are prepubescent entering into the realm of puberty right because of

[21:54]the hormonal imbalances they have they tend to be erratic in their

[21:59]behavior sometimes they tend to have mood swings also and that is

[22:03]also because of the adjustments that are occurring within their bodies naturally

[22:09]hormonal II and there's also a type two types of depression that

[22:14]are associated only with women only women get these one which is

[22:18]perinatal depression which occurs either during pregnancy or after postpartum during or

[22:26]after postpartum and that could last for anywhere from 12 months to

[22:30]two years and sometimes longer and then there's a type of depression

[22:37]called PMDD this is related to a woman's menstrual cycle this can

[22:41]occur right before her menstrual cycle or during her menstrual cycle so

[22:45]she gets Moody for example a lot of the guys they say

[22:49]yeah my wife is moody or you know so-and-so is moody and

[22:51]the reason why is because she might be either approaching her cycle

[22:55]or she might be on her cycle not all women get this

[23:01]by the way okay so these are the different types of depressive

[23:05]disorders that there are medically speaking according to Harvard okay now what's

[23:13]important to note here is there are certain hormones that are important

[23:18]for us not to feel a sense of loss and depression one

[23:23]is the happy hormone which is dopamine the most commonly known one

[23:27]that we've mentioned a lot right another hormone that's important for us

[23:30]not to have in low levels is serotonin because serotonin has been

[23:36]written directly according to the studies related to depression and people who

[23:40]have very low dopamine and serotonin levels have actually been found to

[23:50]be suicidal in many cases and in some cases very low levels

[23:55]levels of dopamine have actually caused psychosis alright so now we understand

[24:01]as an overview what are the different form depression Wow all that

[24:07]forms all those forms of depression you want me to be okay

[24:10]alright and you know everybody's sitting here and saying hmm you know

[24:17]I have mood swings alright maybe I have that one right and

[24:20]the young boys are saying yeah you know my sister she's moody

[24:23]I'm sure she has that one right and the parents are like

[24:29]yeah my son is prepubescent and man such a tough time dealing

[24:32]with this little boy right you don't know is he a man

[24:36]is he a boy he's confused you know of course is because

[24:38]of his hormones so how do I deal with all of this

[24:46]now remember we showed before that there is truly a connection between

[24:52]the physical and the metaphysical right where the physical can affect the

[24:58]metaphysical and the metaphysical can affect the physical right and we said

[25:03]that we're more metaphysical than we are physical right we have a

[25:07]physical body but we have an intellect which is metaphysical we have

[25:11]a soul which is metaphysical we have what else Neffs which is

[25:19]metaphysical what else emotions of course are metaphysical yes what else so

[25:25]desire and anger those are emotions metaphysical what else we have a

[25:29]pallet the metaphysical pulp the heart where the decisions are made right

[25:34]so we are more metaphysical than we are physical we know that

[25:38]when metaphysically were affected by something if we're if we feel sad

[25:41]because somebody for example passed away in our family what happens to

[25:47]us is our body automatically responds to our metaphysical sense of sadness

[25:55]and it releases certain hormones right when that happens I fall into

[26:02]a state of sadness they say that people who have major depression

[26:06]for example after the loss of a loved one what what is

[26:12]very specific to this type of depression is that they have kind

[26:16]of waves of sadness that hit them waves of feeling loss that

[26:19]hit them for example for example recently I had a loss in

[26:26]my family so for example when I'm in the house and I

[26:29]imagine for example my father-in-law sitting at the dinner table with us

[26:38]and his chair is empty what happens I get that wave of

[26:42]sadness right and we all know what it feels like it really

[26:45]strikes you sometimes you can even be driving it on all of

[26:49]a sudden you have to pull over because you just got hit

[26:51]with a wave of sadness right now the good news is that

[26:59]this type of depression isn't the worst of the bunch okay that

[27:03]you can snap out of it now of course the other types

[27:09]of depression that we mentioned and those who are quite far gone

[27:13]in the major depression category they might need to be medicated right

[27:17]it does become a medical condition so I don't want you to

[27:22]think that what we're going we are about to talk about now

[27:24]is the be-all end-all of everything like if somebody has bipolar disorder

[27:29]right what we're going to talk about now about the metaphysical and

[27:35]how to deal with ourselves is not necessarily going to be the

[27:39]full-on solution that you need you may also need medication the best

[27:42]thing to do is to go and consult a professional in this

[27:49]case okay that's my disclaimer right soul Allah Muhammad or any moment

[27:59]now how much could you get me some water please Habibi thank

[28:06]you Salim Mohammed Ali Mohammed again now in order to understand depression

[28:12]there are a few verses that are worth looking at but what

[28:16]I want to do today because our goal in this month was

[28:20]to learn how it is that we should purify our hearing and

[28:23]our eyesight right I would really like us to delve a little

[28:31]deeper into the Holy Quran so that we can say that in

[28:33]this first week not only did we recite some verses but we

[28:38]actually finished an entire chapter how does that sound to you no

[28:43]doesn't sound exciting yeah exciting not just to read it but to

[28:48]understand it okay as it relates to this topic of depression also

[28:54]I'd like to start first and foremost with the chapter of alas

[28:58]and you've heard this before this isn't the chapter that I was

[29:01]promising you that we would finish I promise you we'll do a

[29:04]longer one okay the longer one is the chapter of a ballad

[29:07]thank you so what does Allah say in the chapter of an

[29:20]awesome chapter 103 he says well awesome he swears by time he

[29:22]says look time is important it's so important that I the unlimited

[29:28]I'm going to swear by it so how important is time then

[29:31]to us how important should time be to me how I spend

[29:36]my time important so when someone says to you well do you

[29:39]have some time to kill what are you gonna say no I

[29:44]don't have time to kill because you see if you say I

[29:45]have time to kill then guess what you've been killed by time

[29:52]hate to break it to you never say I have time to

[29:58]kill why because time is of the essence we are in a

[30:02]limited world which means our time is limited right so we have

[30:07]to use our time wisely that's not to say you shouldn't relax

[30:10]if you say for example shaking now want to take this much

[30:14]time out of my day to relax and in my relaxation time

[30:16]I'm going to contemplate I'm Hamid o Allah gives us forced contemplation

[30:27]time right five prayers forced contemplation of course we're not forced to

[30:34]do it we have to make the choice but Allah has decreed

[30:38]that it is during these times of the day right so that

[30:41]he makes sure that in these times of the day at least

[30:45]five times what you're doing is you're keeping yourself in check you're

[30:50]being positive you're having that positive self-talk you're remembering Allah Almighty right

[30:55]by doing so what you're doing is you're monitoring yourself throughout the

[31:00]day right this is important why because Allah swears by time he

[31:03]says well I see so Allah isn't going to tell you listen

[31:06]I'm gonna swear by time and by the way go ahead and

[31:10]do whatever you want to do alright I a sub will in

[31:14]San Jose Yutaka Sudha Allah says in the chapter of p.m.

[31:16]does mankind think that we will bring into this world and then

[31:25]just liam and that's it yes sister inshallah I'll give it to

[31:31]you after I can't remember right now but it's sort of Guyana

[31:34]okay oh yeah Sabu in San Jose Utica Sudha we of course

[31:41]proved that of course Allah does everything for a purpose so there

[31:45]is no way that Allah would bring me here without a purpose

[31:47]which means that I have to have goals right which means that

[31:53]there's no way that Allah would leave me say here here's your

[31:57]world go ahead Allah Mac it's not gonna do it okay he's

[32:02]going to give you goals he's going to tell you what to

[32:04]do right he's going to break down your day he says in

[32:09]no salata cannot I let me Nikita bond no Goethe says look

[32:12]prayer was a written book has been made a written book on

[32:17]those who believe they decide that their life revolves around their prayer

[32:23]their relationship with Allah right so now what am I going to

[32:27]do to say okay Allah says well athletes where's my time I'm

[32:30]in I'm going to take advantage of time Allah says look well

[32:34]awesome NL in San elephants surely man is in a state of

[32:41]loss now what do you mean I'm in a state of loss

[32:47]I'm losing time I'm losing opportunity I'm losing health I'm losing wealth

[32:52]I could be losing sustenance remember all the things that we mentioned

[33:00]yesterday in that verse remember the verse who remembers it well in

[33:05]a blue one that can be che in Manette and surely we

[33:10]will try you with a little bit of fear Manila Kofi right

[33:13]well jewelry why not swim minute I'm wali well Anthony what's a

[33:22]mirage yeah you're you're going to be at a loss you're going

[33:27]to lose health wealth sustenance strength you name it you're in a

[33:37]state of loss right okay if I stop there everybody's gonna get

[33:42]depressed right so Allah doesn't stop there he uses an exceptional statement

[33:48]he says look he says Allah Allah which means except in lovina

[33:55]except for those who believe except for those who so the first

[34:04]step is to do what is to believe what do you have

[34:05]to believe in have to believe in Allah first that he's unlimited

[34:08]if you believe that he's unlimited then you believe this is an

[34:12]opportunity then you believe that you know what I just have to

[34:14]change my my self-talk I have to think positively have to look

[34:19]for other solutions right have to ask a lot into heart first

[34:21]and foremost to put people in my way that will help me

[34:28]right in lovina homina that's it call us we're done no Allah

[34:34]gives us tasks he says what Allah so what ela so what

[34:37]a la Sol plural form you know what does he say he

[34:47]says and they willingly remind each other been happy of the truth

[34:53]what he'll also again he says it again in the Arabic language

[35:00]when you repeat a word twice that's a tool of emphasis what

[35:04]tell also and again they remind each other this sovereign to be

[35:10]patient and what is the outcome for those who are patient that

[35:18]we mentioned yesterday yes Allah praises them just like he praises the

[35:23]Prophet and then Allah labels them after bestowing his mercy upon them

[35:26]he labels them as what as those who are righteously guided and

[35:28]what they do so that's an awesome right I got my formulas

[35:35]from an ass now you say but shaking them but what about

[35:41]that feeling of giving up that I feel Allah also responds he

[35:44]says look when you feel like you're going to give up be

[35:51]mindful this is a sin he says pouria a body alladhina astrov

[35:54]o Allah I'm pushing him not not on metal Mattila in the

[36:01]law you know but you mean another for over him says look

[36:06]my worshippers who have fallen into sin and lived in excess do

[36:17]not despair from the mercy of Allah for surely Allah subhana WA

[36:22]Ta'ala is the one who forgives all sins for he is the

[36:35]all-forgiving the all-merciful so right off the bat I say listen unless

[36:39]giving me a standard here there's tooth two things at last telling

[36:42]me in this in this verse he's saying look Allah says I

[36:48]know that you sent and you know that you sent one of

[36:55]the greatest sins is a yes Miraj Allah is feeling as though

[36:59]God has given up on you even gods are giving up on

[37:05]me look you won't give me anything just give me something give

[37:09]me a sign I hope me no not getting anything but sometimes

[37:17]I can't see the signs let me give you an example there's

[37:19]an exercise I do I want you to take your right index

[37:26]finger do this with me everybody raise your right index finger up

[37:29]everybody should raise the right index finger up now what I want

[37:32]you to do is point it straight at yourself and now what

[37:35]I want you to do is look at the tip of that

[37:39]index finger don't look anywhere else just look at the tip if

[37:41]you're not doing it I'm gonna come right to you and make

[37:45]sure you're doing it come on don't be shy this is a

[37:46]good exercise everybody else is doing it okay so now look at

[37:50]the tip of your finger don't look around move that tip of

[37:54]the finger dry left and keep following it with your eyes up

[37:58]and down and then centrally as you're looking at it I ask

[38:02]you without looking at what's around and just focusing at the tip

[38:04]of that finger everything around you is it blurry or is it

[38:11]clear blurry you know why because you're just focusing on one thing

[38:15]and sometimes the answer isn't with you and that one thing that

[38:18]you're focusing on Allah gave us an entire world put that finger

[38:24]in front of your face again look at that tip look at

[38:26]it look at it come on yo I'm waiting I'm waiting now

[38:33]what I want you to do is snap out of it look

[38:35]around with the fingers still there you're still there but look at

[38:41]how beautiful the world is the answers in the world it's not

[38:48]here always me I can't expect the answers always me right all

[38:52]of this comes from there from Allah sometimes the people who love

[39:01]us who are around us are telling us to snap out of

[39:03]it but what do we do say oh they don't have the

[39:07]answer why because we don't see them we don't see them mothers

[39:12]come to me they say to me shake him and my son

[39:13]is depressed I don't know what to do I keep telling them

[39:18]Allah Allah is merciful whatever it happened things will be better but

[39:25]they he just doesn't see yes he doesn't see remember that verse

[39:29]we recited chapter of baqara verse 6nl Edenic a furusawa Anala him

[39:36]and left an eminent under whom naomi no Chatham Allah Allah will

[39:40]be him wada-san Nahum why the absurd him fish lol Hamad Abhinav

[39:43]EE what happened these disbelievers Allah says he says look at these

[39:49]disbelievers we're not saying we're disbelievers not some hollow if we get

[39:53]depressed but I'm saying let's take this as an example Allah says

[39:57]look at the disbelievers right no matter how much you warn them

[40:00]yeah I believe things are gonna be fine yeah Abney don't do

[40:02]this right you're going to falter and then when you falter say

[40:07]I'm not gonna tell my mom or my dad because they're just

[40:08]gonna tell me I told you so right and they hate it

[40:11]when they're right and you know your parents mothers most of the

[40:15]time ninety nine point nine nine nine times out of 100 all

[40:21]right I should hate it why did Allah give me these parents

[40:24]who are always right to guide me that's so unfair right of

[40:30]course not that's the fairest thing Allah could do it's the best

[40:34]thing but see I don't see them and I make the choice

[40:39]not to see them why because my heart has been darkened by

[40:42]my decisions and that's what Allah says for at first he says

[40:48]look khatam Allahu Allah columbium they made the decision in their hearts

[40:53]that they would not listen to their intellects so what happened those

[40:57]two channels the hearing and the eyesight shut down completely there's a

[41:02]few shower you know Turkish Allah is it's basically a blurry cover

[41:09]exactly like when we're pointing at ourselves and we couldn't see around

[41:13]us everything was blurry that's what a his shower is it's a

[41:16]blurry cover so for me if I am a believer I'm going

[41:21]to be opposite to that disbeliever and a believer sees with what

[41:28]with the truth with what with patience right now what does Allah

[41:34]tell us in surah tell ballad and there's a reason why I

[41:39]chose so little ballad I remember a time when I was feeling

[41:42]down and out you know and I was trying my best and

[41:46]my the reason for my falling into you know feeling depressed was

[41:50]because I felt like I really wanted to go study in the

[41:54]house and I just couldn't do it you know and everybody was

[41:56]discouraging me and I didn't know how to go and I you

[42:01]know whenever I would try there would be some obstacle and and

[42:04]I just asked a lie just made the door I said oh

[42:08]Allah just guide me and one day I remember one of my

[42:09]mentors he was giving a class and he said to me also

[42:14]I want you to give it the class today it was a

[42:18]tough serious said you I'm not qualified to give this class and

[42:25]stuff he said no no you can do it he said to

[42:25]me just pick a surah I said okay so I was researching

[42:32]and researching and then I asked allah subhanaw taala to just guide

[42:35]me and I opened up the Quran and there it was right

[42:38]in front of me the chapter of repellant so I started reading

[42:42]it and researching the tough season and what I found that allah

[42:45]subhanaw taala he says something really beautiful in this chapter and that's

[42:51]why i want to share it with you it really changed my

[42:55]life and I hope that it changes yours Allah says first of

[42:59]all bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim of course he says la auction will be

[43:03]her they'll be late I do not swear by this land much

[43:07]blah speaking to the Prophet I do not swear by this land

[43:11]my that you are in now you have to understand when Allah

[43:13]says I do not swear it's exactly like me saying you know

[43:15]what I'm not gonna tell you how important this is but you

[43:21]should understand how important it is you get it so I'm not

[43:25]gonna swear by my mom's grave okay but you get my point

[43:28]Allah is using the way we think kind of a reverse psychology

[43:34]right he says la Austin will be heard about it he uses

[43:39]it he uses the same method in certain p.m.

[43:39]la auction will be a milk ami do not swear by the

[43:43]Day of Judgment right that's how important it is you should know

[43:46]by now right so Allah says no sin will be harder but

[43:48]I don't swear by this land of Mecca that you're in then

[43:53]he says will enter hell rhombohedral Bennett and you have full rein

[43:57]in this land of Mecca and then Allah swears by something else

[44:06]he says well he didn't wanna well it he swears by the

[44:08]parent who gives birth to a child and he whom he gave

[44:16]birth to why does Allah swear by the father or the mother

[44:20]and the child that they bear why think about it he's swearing

[44:30]literally by childbirth do you know how hard childbirth is not just

[44:35]on the husband on the wife of course nine months she's carrying

[44:43]us in her womb nine months she's feeling the hardship of this

[44:49]world nine months she's not only carrying the burden of her life

[44:52]but the burden of our lives as we are carried in her

[44:57]womb she feeds us from her blood nobody else does that but

[45:07]a mother we breathe from her air nobody else does that for

[45:11]you nine months and finally when we come out into this world

[45:15]we're squeezed out of a tight canal and we might die and

[45:21]when we come out word blue and purple and we need to

[45:26]be slapped on the behind so that we can start breathing almost

[45:30]as a reminder from the outside you're here wake up breathe when

[45:35]we go through difficulties we have to learn to remember to breathe

[45:41]and sometimes we have to be slapped by someone to do it

[45:51]and it's usually the doctor not the mom or dad right sometimes

[45:57]it's someone outside that sometimes gives you that push that drive and

[46:02]when you wake up what do you do you cry as though

[46:10]you're saying and hamdulillah that I'm in this world you can't see

[46:15]you came out of all of this difficulty you can't see everything

[46:26]is blurry it takes time to take in the air to realize

[46:31]the blessings it takes time then what does Allah say after that

[46:39]he says look at the hell up and I'll insert a fee

[46:42]Kevin we have created man into hardship we've brought him a torch

[46:48]so what are you complaining about life is supposed to be hard

[46:54]quit the whining is what Allah saying saying life is supposed to

[47:00]be hard because this is a life of challenges just like your

[47:04]xbox just like your PlayStation the games gonna be hard but that's

[47:08]what makes it good that's what makes it worth the time because

[47:15]the reward at the end is going to be greater than anything

[47:19]you've ever seen tasted touched or heard and that's just a logical

[47:26]necessity that we came to then what does he say he says

[47:36]Allah Allah does he think that he's like once he gets strong

[47:40]in this world that he's done all he can and he thinks

[47:44]that he's high and mighty and there's no one other than him

[47:47]because he has become heedless and has forgotten Allah he says yeah

[47:52]pool elect to my land nobody he says I gave from my

[48:03]wealth towards Allah Almighty Allah says hey do you think that no

[48:09]one saw you when you did this why are you saying this

[48:13]what are you holding a favour over Allah said that you did

[48:16]some good things in your life it's not over you got to

[48:22]keep doing more Allah says what more do I need to do

[48:24]and why is that important for me to snap out of the

[48:29]depression that I'm in we'll talk about that tomorrow so make sure

[48:32]you come hamdulillah here a blond amino Sulli arabela see now Hamid

[48:39]I waited I mean Aparri well fatiha are walking home in Moscow

[48:46]cotton member salla allah mohammed mohammed or thank you all for coming

[49:06]Thank You chef how's everybody there's going to be a bonfire tonight

[49:09]outside in the parking lot if we could have some brothers please

[49:13]volunteer to bring some chairs outside with them we'd really appreciate that

[49:17]I hope to see you all there salon Mohammed Ali Mohammed

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