The Most Important Problem in Families | Ali Reza Panahian

The Most Important Problem in Families

The most important problem in families is solving the issue of management. First, make the issue of management clear. When a family is formed, the feelings of one person become the feelings of two people. The needs of one person become the needs of two people. One person becomes two people. Two people become three people. Three people become four people. What should we do? We should make the issue of management clear.
Some people act like the “Khawarij” with respect to the family. What did the Khawarij say? “A society doesn’t need a ruler!” Imam Ali (‘a) replied, “Even if the ruler in a society is corrupted, he is still needed. It’s impossible!” Even if the ruler is a thief… It’s worse without a manager! In that case, one person is a thief. If there isn’t any manager, everyone will be thieves! Some apparently high-class people clearly state that a family doesn’t need a manager! In seeing them, a person remembers the Khawarij. What is a secular religion? It’s a religion, which has not made management clear, but talks about ethics. If this secular religion enters the topic of “family,” what secularism will it bring into family ethics? Without making management clear, it constantly says, “Behave well. Be kind to each other!”
Family ethics have been talked about a lot. Everyone knows about it. The basis of corruption in the family at the end of time is the way they deface management in the family. They say, “Be kind and flexible.” Positions of management have switched. Men are playing women’s roles, and women are playing men’s roles. Due to the good behaviour that apparently exists between them, they compromise. Then, they raise weak children.
Each house without any arguments is not necessarily good. Living like sheep next to each other and not arguing is not something extraordinary. Some of the arguments, challenges, and talks that strengthen and improve management in the family, are much better than not arguing. This person doesn’t feel like talking to the other and says, “Ok, whatever you say. Just leave me alone!” One compromises due to his or her fear of the poisoned, horrible tongue of the other! The other one fears the awful, scorpion sting of the first one! Who is this?! Don’t go towards him or her. Just smile! Is such a family good? Should everyone just compromise? How will a child be raised in such a house? Confused.
First, make the issue of management clear. The Holy Prophet of God (s) said, “When there are three of you, one should be the head. Then, trust in God and have affection towards each other.” This is a command in ethics. But, he advised to first determine a head or manager when you’re three. Obviously, the manager doesn’t have complete sovereignty. You have chosen a program manager, and you start. If the issue of management in the family isn’t solved, any other ethical recommendations are mostly useless. What is a secular religion? It’s a religion, which has not made the issue of management clear, but it talks about ethics.
They say, “Be kind and flexible.” The positions of management have switched. Men are playing women’s roles and women are playing men’s roles. Due to the good behaviour that apparently exists between them, they compromise. Then, they raise weak children.

[From the series of speeches under the topic of “The Last Preparation before the Reappearance of the Saviour, Correcting Management in Family and Society.”]


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