Night 7 | Ramadan | Sheikh Ibrahim Yassine

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[0:06]dear brothers and sisters a very important issue here we we should

[0:15]talk about inshallah tonight and later inshallah in maybe in different occasions

[0:24]which is the right of woman in Islam and the right of

[0:33]men if you want to restrict it more we can say the

[0:35]right of the husband and the rights of the of the woman

[0:40]wife now Allah when he made this Sharia the laws he made

[0:51]it suitable for us he made it in a way that this

[0:56]Society will function correctly if the people of this Society abide with

[1:04]these laws and Implement these laws in their life and Allah is

[1:10]the creator he is the absolute he's the Creator who who the

[1:19]all-knowing god and whatever he does is absolutely correct and because he

[1:27]he's the one who created us he knows what is what we

[1:35]are how do we think how do we feel like he is

[1:42]closer to you than your jugular vein whatever you talk to yourself

[1:58]inside huh Allah know it he knows everything then Allah if he

[2:05]wants to put a solution or a path for us in this

[2:12]life to work upon it to make something for us for the

[2:22]hereafter then that Constitution he makes for us or the laws he

[2:25]makes for us must be perfect for sure it's uh it's something

[2:33]the logic says it must be perfect why because he is the

[2:38]absolute knowledgeable being in this in this existence then when we implement

[2:47]our laws the Islamic laws then we are in good shape we

[2:54]will be in good shape now there are laws between men and

[2:59]women husband and wife all right when somebody make up a marriage

[3:07]marry somebody then immediately after she says or he says yes I

[3:13]accept you know that commitment immediately these laws are worship for him

[3:22]and her he has to implement them and she has to implement

[3:27]them there is some kind of relationship as soon as you say

[3:34]I accept that commitment so what are the rights of women and

[3:42]what are the rights of the men the rights of the woman

[3:44]becomes like the worship on the men if I have right okay

[3:52]the other partner becomes worship for the other partners to implement this

[3:58]right and to give it to me check first the first one

[4:05]is the alimony and nafaka we call it an Arabic another spending

[4:13]from the assets as they say the husband is responsible to spend

[4:21]money and to pay the expenses and to provide money from his

[4:28]assets whatever from his work whatever the money comes from in the

[4:32]Halal way for sure for the house he has to provide the

[4:38]food the drink the clothes and the house with an in a

[4:46]situation that suitable to the social position of the woman yanim for

[4:51]instance you can't you can't marry a woman that has social you

[5:00]know like social class high class and then you go and you

[5:04]you you rent a a little room and somewhere uh without electricity

[5:09]or something like that no a shadow says no you can't do

[5:16]that it's worship upon you it's incumbent upon you to provide a

[5:19]good house for her I'm not saying you know that it must

[5:26]have anyway in our Shara to me to to build a good

[5:28]house or to rent a good house a best house a big

[5:33]one it's mustahab is to have the wife live in a dig

[5:45]in in dignity and doesn't need anything else for sure she has

[5:52]the right to go and work if she wants more but for

[5:57]the husband it's worship on him and incumbent upon him to provide

[6:01]the money it's his duty even if she is rich even if

[6:07]she is a millionaire she says I don't want to spend any

[6:12]Penny from my money it's your responsibility to provide the expenses for

[6:18]the house I need so and so and so all right yeah

[6:20]this is the first one now the husband must provide that if

[6:29]he doesn't do that then she can go to the merger and

[6:37]make a petition against the husband to ask him to spend money

[6:43]on her to be responsible or to divorce her if he refuses

[6:53]then if if he refuses to divorce her or to provide the

[6:57]alimony then gives him some time and then if he refuses if

[7:02]he continues then divorces her and this divorce becomes he can come

[7:07]back to her except with the new Act okay that's that's there

[7:15]are children then child support the husband is responsible for decades too

[7:21]he can't say their mother is working their mother their mother is

[7:29]providing money and I I shouldn't pay I I see many examples

[7:31]like that it becomes stingy he doesn't want to pay money because

[7:38]their mother is a doctor or engineer or she works makes money

[7:40]he pays 200 a month or three hundred dollars a month and

[7:46]he goes to the court he said well I I'm not working

[7:51]and he's working and under the table it's your responsibility you can't

[7:58]say you can run away from that Allah knows it's Haram not

[8:02]to spend money on your children and your wife okay that's one

[8:09]the second one for the wife is to allow the husband all

[8:16]right whenever he wants to have his special and you know like

[8:25]the private relationship with her unless she is sick unless she is

[8:33]in in some psychological you know situation um or any in any

[8:39]crucial or critical situation you name it I don't know what if

[8:45]this way it's it's not permissible for him to oblige her to

[8:53]do that otherwise she has to give him the the the space

[8:57]whenever he wants they say is the same thing for the woman

[9:03]too because now and uh the Practical laws of Islam for the

[9:10]Maharaja they say she has the right of one time only every

[9:17]four months every four months maybe some women are different every I

[9:23]don't want to go you know deeper in this but some alims

[9:28]they say no like him if she won't if he wants any

[9:31]time she wants any time then well it depends on the situation

[9:35]and the circumstances and really that makes um there are many consequences

[9:45]and dangerous consequences because of this if a woman just for her

[9:51]mood or something she doesn't like that in a regular situation then

[9:55]that makes a bad impact on the psychological you know situation of

[10:00]the man and maybe that pushes him to go outside and to

[10:04]follow you know to go after woman or something like that or

[10:10]if not he will his reaction for any small problems will become

[10:14]like a mountain out of Mall hell and that's that's a problem

[10:26]and and the marital life can be this way many many people

[10:32]they they they have problem because of this and since they can

[10:36]talk to each other they don't know what's going on she thinks

[10:40]that that's normal and because he's accepting that but some people know

[10:45]they ask for it and it leads sometimes to like um um

[10:52]by force and it happened many times and many of them they

[10:59]told us what what what was going on you know because just

[11:01]he he wants his to fulfill his needs as soon as she

[11:08]refused he continues and in a way as if he is like

[11:14]uh a criminal comes coming from outside to do that and and

[11:18]the problem escalates gradually you know it goes to divorce sometimes that's

[11:24]that's uh that's a very important task for the woman um and

[11:33]one Hadith says and who is foreign [Music] and he said I

[11:52]I want it now she has to obey him why because that

[11:58]makes a strong pause between the men and the woman you know

[12:03]in terms of the social relationship and marital relationship that's the um

[12:11]the the two rights for the that's not it for the husband

[12:22]actually the right for the woman is to for the nafaka to

[12:25]you know and the second one is to consult with her and

[12:32]kindness to live or dwell with her in Tranquility as the Ayah

[12:41]says one of his signs that he created mates from among yourself

[12:52]so you dwell in Tranquility with them and he made between you

[12:57]and compassion ate in these are signs for people who reflect one

[13:12]of his companion came and asked him he said Allah I wanna

[13:17]marry my daughter to somebody he said yes person if he loves

[13:29]her he will be generous to her if he hates her for

[13:35]some reason it's not in his hand for instance he won't be

[13:40]oppressing her is there are limits if if you don't like your

[13:49]wife for some reason some people do that for after 15 20

[13:57]30 years but you don't have the right to oppress her you

[14:00]have to give her all her right respect said he can't just

[14:08]talk to her in a way to bring to a humiliate her

[14:13]in front of people disrespect her or to give her some money

[14:17]not like before to be stingy on her or to just um

[14:27]be careless about her some people like that he doesn't he doesn't

[14:34]want to do anything you know in in his private relationship for

[14:38]two months three months six months why because he doesn't like her

[14:42]that's Haram so that um or divorce you can do that you

[14:55]can't divorce then you have to be kind to her there is

[15:00]a family here there are children and she is she is a

[15:03]human being here she's your wife she committed her life to you

[15:08]and to your children and to herself than to be to be

[15:10]one family and then you you deal with her like she's a

[15:14]slave or a servant you know so that's that's all right to

[15:19]be kind to her things of Hadith how to be kind to

[15:29]your wife and we did talk last time about the five languages

[15:32]of love that goes into that that subject it it's consistent with

[15:40]that subject how to bring mercy and drama and compassion and love

[15:46]so the relationship will continue with that warmth huh and the the

[15:53]kids will be nourished from that and then when you say something

[15:58]to the kids they obey you they love the house they love

[16:04]their father and their mother you know and then you can produce

[16:07]good element to the society movement kids now what are the husband

[16:15]what are the husband's rights is to be obedient to him to

[16:19]listen to him except in the Messiah of Allah now some they

[16:29]say and she can't go out of her house without his permission

[16:33]some alims they say no unless he wants her all right for

[16:39]that reason then she can't go if he said I don't forgive

[16:46]you if you go now I want you now and she can't

[16:50]say nothing she has to right listen to him otherwise she can

[16:56]go outside she can work he can't ask her not to work

[17:03]and for for some Scholars they met fatwa in this they say

[17:08]absolutely she can go anytime but in one time when she when

[17:14]he wants her for that reason okay that's his right to be

[17:21]obedient to him now if he agrees with her that's good if

[17:26]he doesn't agree then what can she do because life must be

[17:32]in you know in in harmony between husband and wife we can't

[17:37]deal with with each other like we are a roommate you know

[17:44]roommates like we are at the University you don't like him you

[17:49]go and find another roommate it's easy or if you don't like

[17:52]anybody then you live by yourself but here no it's a commitment

[17:57]something you can't live without it huh so then you have to

[18:05]be abide you have to to abide with that with the Shara

[18:09]laws with the Sharia you have to listen to Allah and that

[18:16]makes everything easy well uh I think it's it will ask Allah

[18:20]to fulfill our needs inshallah and one more one more thing maybe

[18:27]I say it faster than um it's uh why the husband his

[18:35]decision is the decision is is the ultimate one if he has

[18:38]some like conflict with his wife about something and then Charan from

[18:42]Islamic point of view if he says something at the end we

[18:49]have to listen to him he has to do whatever he wants

[18:51]because there can be they can be two leaders in the house

[18:56]and at the same time the husband is responsible for you know

[19:01]the all the expenses of the house and Islam came to tell

[19:08]the people how to be just for them establishing Justice not equality

[19:16]now women in America they want to be like men and you

[19:20]see the consequences and she has to work sometimes on the highway

[19:24]when the the temperature is like 40 degree or 35 degree or

[19:31]some other places or in the factories because they have to the

[19:35]societies 50 50.

[19:38]no um Justice is to give everybody what he is created for

[19:45]and maybe we can talk in details about it later as Allah

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