Night 2 | Imam Ali & Fatima (as): A Marriage Made In Heaven | Dr Sayed Ammar Nakshawani

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Night 2 | A Marriage Made In Heaven | Dr Sayed Ammar Nakshawani, Fatemiyah 2022

Manchester Fatemiyah Majalis 1444/2022

Guest Speaker: Dr. Sayed Ammar Nakshawani

Venue: Mohebban Al Mahdi Youth Foundation
The Banqueting Hall, Manchester, UK.

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[0:00]foreign foreign [Music] foreign I have written the trust and the pledge

[1:44]has been taken back as for my grief it is forever and

[1:52]as for my night it's a Sleepless until God chooses for me

[2:03]a place in the Abode where you currently reside your daughter will

[2:09]inform you about the conspiracy of this ummah and the way that

[2:16]they repressed her therefore inquire from her and press her to tell

[2:23]you about what's happened and the circumstances that took place surrounding it

[2:28]the first of our allowed us Allah a second even louder a

[2:52]third with your loudness voices in honor of the Imam of our

[2:56]time Imam respected Scholars brothers and sisters a marriage made in heaven

[3:17]is without a doubt the best way to describe the marriage foreign

[3:31]of the greatest marriages in the history of the religion of Islam

[3:37]was the marriage of these true holy personalities there have been many

[3:43]great marriages in the history of the religion but you'd be hard-pressed

[3:47]to find a marriage as ideal and indeed as great as their

[3:52]marriage for indeed every single attribute that you would look for in

[3:59]a married couple could be found in the marriage of Imam when

[4:03]a person has couple goals today without a doubt one of the

[4:09]couple goals that a person should look up to and a person

[4:11]should aspire to reach is the marriage and the couple goals of

[4:16]these true personalities because the reality is that when you examine their

[4:21]marriage you find that every single thing that a person may go

[4:25]through within their marriage they go through in theirs if a person's

[4:31]looking to understand love look at the marriage of Ali and Fatima

[4:34]if a person's looking to understand Mercy look at the marriage of

[4:40]Ali and Fatima if a person is looking for compassion look at

[4:45]the relationship between Ali and Fatima if a person's looking for the

[4:51]understanding of trials and tribulations that may take place in a marriage

[4:55]look at the marriage of Ali and Fatima if a person is

[5:00]looking for spirituality in a marriage look at the marriage of Ali

[5:03]and Fatima if a person is looking for patience in a marriage

[5:06]look at the marriage of Ali and Fatima the reality is that

[5:12]the marriage is a marriage which is relatable to our lives today

[5:20]many times when we examine the muscle mean you'll find that people

[5:24]will always say well I can't relate to them they are masum

[5:30]I'm a normal human being reality is in their marriage which lasted

[5:33]just under 10 years they were also going through things which we

[5:40]would go through in the year 2022 it's not like Imam had

[5:44]a couple of Angels standing outside their house who were making sure

[5:50]that they face no difficulties whatsoever their marriage had difficulties as well

[5:53]their marriage faced Envy as well their marriage faced people who talked

[5:59]about them as well their marriage faced people who conspired against them

[6:03]as well reality is that many times when we've examined the marriage

[6:07]of these two we don't examine it in a way which is

[6:09]relatable to our lives today whereas when a person properly examines their

[6:15]marriage you'll find that every aspect of their marriage is relatable to

[6:21]our lives today because today this particular lecture can affect a number

[6:24]of groups of people those who are looking to get married one

[6:30]day can relate to this lecture can I truly find love in

[6:33]my life is love Just A Dream Is it a myth when

[6:38]you examine their marriage you can relate to it those who are

[6:41]already married maybe there are certain times where you feel that there's

[6:46]no way your marriage can ever develop your marriage you always feel

[6:50]has reached the stand still again if you understand their marriage then

[6:56]it may relate to your life as well then there are those

[6:59]who for example want to be the best husbands and the best

[7:02]wives we know very well marriage can all of a sudden turn

[7:06]toxic all of a sudden from being happily married one issue can

[7:11]turn the marriage toxic how can I look at their difficulties or

[7:15]their trials and their tribulations when I'm facing such things in my

[7:22]life should it be automatically a case that I move from Marriage

[7:25]to divorce or is there a possibility that even those greater than

[7:30]me face difficulties in their marital lives as well because if you

[7:34]ask anyone then Imam Ali and Fatima did they face any difficulties

[7:40]in their marriage or life people will turn around to you and

[7:43]say no chance they had the best marriage best marriage doesn't mean

[7:46]that you don't go through difficulties Sometimes the best marriages are the

[7:52]ones where a person has gone through difficulties but come out stronger

[7:58]in those difficulties therefore on the one hand we find this on

[8:02]the other hand there are a number of other Concepts that emerge

[8:05]in their marriage number one that these are for example cousins should

[8:10]cousins get married to each other or not number two for example

[8:17]the issue of Dowry what was their Dowry and their time and

[8:20]should we still be using the Mahar of Fatima for our doubies

[8:27]was the Mahar of Fatima a great amount at that time and

[8:30]how does that relate to today's time that's another issue a third

[8:35]issue when we come to their marriage for example is understanding the

[8:40]freedom of the female to accept who has proposed for her who

[8:44]is it that makes the decision is it the father of the

[8:48]girl or the girl who makes the decision if a proposal does

[8:51]come in does the father have to tell his daughter or does

[8:56]the father reject because the father doesn't want the person that's another

[9:01]issue that emerges further than that how do I achieve spirituality in

[9:04]a marriage maybe I've ticked off the nine to five books we

[9:07]go to holidays a year three weddings a year but there's no

[9:14]spiritual dimension in that marriage what is the spiritual Dimension that I

[9:17]may learn from their marriage as well therefore when a person comes

[9:21]to examine this great marriage it shouldn't just be looked at that

[9:25]it's great even they highlighted that any great marriage requires a lot

[9:35]of work requires a lot of importance being given from both sides

[9:40]let us tonight examine the full story of the marriage between these

[9:45]two personalities and understand how their marriage can relate to our lives

[9:50]today the first issue that emerges in the marriage of Imam is

[9:57]a point that is to be made and that is that true

[10:01]love can definitely happen in one's life sometimes we watch these Hollywood

[10:08]films and you think to yourself that there's no way that I'll

[10:10]find true love I'll probably have to go through some arranged marriage

[10:14]and hopefully try and find love after we've got married to one

[10:17]another some put forward the statement don't marry the girl you love

[10:24]love the girl that you marry in reality the idea for many

[10:28]is that true love comes after marriage when you come to the

[10:33]story of Imam Ali and Fatima is you see that in reality

[10:38]it could be called a love story I know for some calling

[10:41]their marriage or the marriage of true muscle mean a love story

[10:46]is a bit hard to stomach we'd prefer it to be a

[10:48]bit more formal but the reality is that there is a love

[10:52]story involved here was ready to sacrifice himself for his Lord and

[11:03]for His prophets at every moment if you look from a young

[11:05]age what does part of a witness she sees Imam from a

[11:12]young age being ready to always have a relationship with his Lord

[11:17]and his prophet ultimately that's the most attractive thing to her why

[11:22]because if he fears Allah then he's going to treat me properly

[11:26]but if he has no respect for Allah why would he respect

[11:32]the creation of Allah when she'd look at Imam she'd see that's

[11:39]Imam was ready to lay down his life for her father literally

[11:42]from a young age Fatima would see that Imam Ali would tell

[11:50]her father that I am ready to sleep in your bed as

[11:51]long as you remain alive I don't mind sacrificing my life and

[11:57]that's why the reality of when she falls in love with him

[12:00]happens on that Hijra from Mecca to Medina because you know rasulullah

[12:06]he sets out to where he sets out to Medina he left

[12:12]Imam behind when he left Imam Ali behind he gave Imam a

[12:18]couple of responsibilities the first responsibility that he gave Imam was to

[12:24]return the trusts of those of the quraish who had left it

[12:30]with the prophet these courage were unbelievable we don't believe you are

[12:33]a prophet we actually hate you we don't mind seeing you dead

[12:35]but you mind looking after our gold because you're a trustworthy person

[12:40]Baba if he's trustworthy then why not accept his word if you

[12:44]see a man who's that trustworthy you call him you call him

[12:49]Amin you call him trustworthy and you call him truthful accept his

[12:53]word as a prophet no no no no but we'll deposit some

[12:57]of our goals with you we'll deposit some of our belongings with

[13:00]you these people when rasulullah went out towards the Hijra you found

[13:06]that these people what's happened with them Allah you are able to

[13:14]return the deposits back to the enemies who tried to kill me

[13:18]try and fathom that sentence in your head return the deposits back

[13:24]to their enemies who try to kill me therefore what did he

[13:28]do Imam went he returned the deposits back towards the people the

[13:32]second role Imam Ali had was what was that there was a

[13:38]group of ladies who were known as Zara was not the only

[13:43]Fatima living in her time another of the famous who was living

[13:50]in her time was who was fatama Bin's Assad the mother of

[13:54]Imam and then you had Fatima who was related to Hamza rasulullah

[13:58]said to Imam Ali I want you to make sure that the

[14:05]fawatam the ladies called Fatima are bought from Mecca to Medina safely

[14:18]how old was he Imam was in his early twenties Imam came

[14:24]to his mother father and it always helps if your future wife

[14:29]is close to your mother it bodes well for the Future No

[14:35]Doubt father was Imam Ali's mom because ultimately Assad were really those

[14:44]who raised Fatima alongside her mother hadija so you found that Imam

[14:49]Ali came to his mother father I said he said to your

[14:54]mom I'm gonna carry you from Mecca to Medina safely bring with

[14:59]you daughter of rasulallah remember at that time they're not married and

[15:05]also who's related to my uncle Hamza the son of Abdullah and

[15:08]I need to take you towards Medina when Imam Ali went from

[15:14]Mecca to Medina it's not like today I can book a flight

[15:17]for example or I could get on a fast train and go

[15:23]from Mecca to Medina had to go through a very dangerous path

[15:35]to kill him because if you are able to catch Ali execute

[15:41]Ali and you are able to take Muhammad's daughter then Muhammad which

[15:46]is in your hands you can blackmail him either you give up

[15:52]your message or we execute your daughter took these ladies he went

[15:59]from Mecca he left and he went towards Medina on the way

[16:03]a number of people came to try and kill the emir but

[16:06]who can mess with the Emir at the end of the day

[16:11]the Emir is a personality that's only a coward kills him in

[16:17]his sujud he has to come in his sujood while the Emir

[16:19]is frustrating and kill him mola made sure that he managed to

[16:25]kill anyone who came in his way and who was witnessing this

[16:29]imagine at your young age you see this man of prowess this

[16:36]man of unbelievable built but this man of unbelievable respect as well

[16:44]that he doesn't look at the female as a commodity rather he

[16:47]knows that Nations will be built by these ladies that I carry

[16:51]so he came he took the ladies and he reached Medina and

[17:00]rasool Allah would not enter Medina until Imam reached Madina without mentioning

[17:06]names because we don't want to get some trouble on YouTube without

[17:13]mentioning names there was a person in Medina next to the prophet

[17:18]he said why are we entering the people are waiting for us

[17:21]why don't we go in one of the imams of elilbaits makes

[17:26]it clear that when the prophet said to him I will not

[17:30]enter until Ali enters the Imam says that that is when hasid

[17:35]entered the heart of that person has it when it entered the

[17:43]heart of that person in terms of his Envy to Imam was

[17:46]that moment that we me and you have also had to make

[17:51]it to Medina why is it that you have to do everything

[17:54]only when Ali comes I'm with you so you found that that

[18:03]Hazard had affected that's where she fell in love with Imam there's

[18:08]nothing wrong with someone saying I fell in love with someone or

[18:11]I'm looking for true love it's perfectly fine if you end up

[18:17]with an arranged marriage your mother or your family member or your

[18:21]community finds you somebody you can get to know them there's no

[18:25]harm if however you meet somebody or you see somebody from far

[18:29]and you want to get to know them there's no harm as

[18:35]well what's the proof that she fell in love with Imam is

[18:38]that every single time a proposal came reaction would not be a

[18:46]reaction of pleasure someone may ask that you're telling me that when

[18:50]fatama was being proposed to how old was she Fatima Zara was

[18:54]nine eight and a half nine remember there are certain aspects of

[19:01]the lives that we cannot necessarily relate to or we cannot follow

[19:06]I'm not gonna come here and sit and say that marrying somebody

[19:09]at that age is applicable in our time at all today not

[19:15]at all but in those days there was no huha that was

[19:18]being caused if you married somebody at nine it would not be

[19:23]an issue that's why today when some people come and say that

[19:25]your Prophet was a Herald you'll see that some of us maybe

[19:30]apologetic some of us may say for example my Prophet would never

[19:36]marry a nine-year-old Mary's a 14 year old 18.

[19:38]reality is Arabia other parts of the world many of them had

[19:44]a certain culture of younger marriages than is acceptable today today of

[19:48]course there is a change in the way the World Views these

[19:53]things but at that time is getting people proposing for her from

[19:57]the age of nine today that is not something when we see

[20:02]Society saying that this is not something acceptable without a doubt the

[20:07]time changes the context changes but every time someone proposed what happened

[20:16]she would reject and these weren't simple personalities these weren't people who

[20:25]were nobodies these were people who were very well known in society

[20:29]as in Abu Bakr the first Khalifa to propose Salaam the prophet

[20:35]straights away replies to him by saying she's too young normally by

[20:40]the way when a father tells you she's too young that normally

[20:44]is a straight rejection that I don't want you to marry her

[20:47]you know in our time today there's two rejections that normally happen

[20:52]one is when a father says we did Estacada and it came

[20:58]out bad on the seventh attempt because sometimes you'll see that there

[21:03]are some fathers who say that no I'm sorry I took it

[21:07]as tahara he's gone to the mawlana first is good Maulana one

[21:13]more good one more good one more good one more bad I

[21:25]was waiting for that I never wanted him myself one way is

[21:29]that another is when a father may say that I believe that

[21:33]my daughter is too young yes but then you hear the girl

[21:38]got engaged two weeks later and you realize that that was a

[21:42]blatant rejection sometimes you may see this when Abu Bakr the first

[21:46]Khalifa when he came to propose the prophet straights away according to

[21:52]a Hadith straights away the prophet said some traditions mention that the

[22:01]prophets went to Fatima to give us an example as well that

[22:06]your daughter has the right to choose don't take that away from

[22:13]her you may advise as a parent you may say that look

[22:15]I don't know if their family is suitable I don't know if

[22:19]they're the best for us that's one angle but on the other

[22:21]hand the prophet does go to father he says proposed the reply

[22:29]was that Fatima had the face of displeasure and therefore the prophets

[22:36]went to the first Khalifa and he said to him that I'm

[22:39]sorry too young and she does not want to get married then

[22:46]who proposes proposes and again the reply is what again the reply

[22:51]is that she's too young and that there is a certain displeasure

[22:56]on her face look how many people have proposed for Fatima but

[23:02]for Fatima there's only one man she wants to marry she has

[23:06]absolutely no doubt that this is the man she wants to live

[23:12]the rest of her life with Abdullah proposes she doesn't accept until

[23:19]what happens is too shy to go and propose and this is

[23:24]something wonderful there is no problem at all in a man having

[23:30]a certain amount of shyness yes because in Iraq we when we

[23:35]talk of shyness we either have someone yesterday or someone we either

[23:40]have someone who is shy like me or you have somebody who

[23:46]has no shyness whatsoever you may have somebody who's like when I

[23:50]propose everyone should accept me I am God's gift on Earth how

[23:55]could anyone reject me then you have those who are like Wallah

[24:02]whatever is they are the best whatever is may he choose for

[24:11]me somebody who is good for my life Imam had that shyness

[24:15]where he did not want to go to the prophet and necessarily

[24:20]say something even though people were telling him and notice Imam when

[24:26]he marries he's in his early twenties it's an example for us

[24:33]that the younger you get married the more structure and discipline you

[24:37]have in your life there's no harm if a person says that

[24:43]I still have not put myself at a level of discipline and

[24:45]structure but at the end of the day there is no harm

[24:49]as well a person marrying in their twenties you grow together you

[24:52]build together Imam and said that you know what I'm not rich

[24:55]enough here why should I propose for someone like when I don't

[25:01]have much others were telling him they were telling him go and

[25:04]propose for her what are you waiting for Imam Ali would say

[25:10]not now wait not now there'd be times that he would come

[25:12]to the prophet he'd want to say something until rasulullah does something

[25:17]wonderful as a father-in-law he makes life easy for his future son-in-law

[25:23]because father-in-laws can be two types one he gives you the worst

[25:30]interview when you come to propose for his daughter Allah have heard

[25:33]some mad stories in my time to tell you the truth of

[25:36]some father-in-laws I don't know if this is an application for a

[25:40]job at a major bank or to get married the questions that

[25:46]some ask some father-in-laws have their right they want to safeguard their

[25:52]daughter's future there is no problem whatsoever but the reality is that

[25:56]sometimes you have to ask yourself where were you at the age

[26:01]of this boy proposing were you somebody with the same Financial capability

[26:05]at that age as you do have now so is it therefore

[26:10]fair for you to expect that that person is that capable right

[26:14]from the beginning notices that Imam Ali wants to propose he tells

[26:19]him oh Ali what is it that's on your mind mind you

[26:23]when you have an email connection to the heavens it helps when

[26:26]you can tell what's going on so he says to him oh

[26:32]Ali what's on your mind I would love to propose for Fatima

[26:37]and so the prophet turns around to him and says so what

[26:42]are you waiting for proposed for Fatima he says I don't have

[26:46]much what can I offer the holy prophet stands around to him

[26:51]and says do not worry calm down it's okay when Imam Ali

[26:58]Dev was says okay I give my proposal rasulullah has proposed for

[27:12]you in marriage what is your reply what did we say before

[27:17]that in the past there would be signs of displeasure this time

[27:21]silence no displeasure at that moment the holy prophet said her silence

[27:27]means her acceptance and he said to her at that moment I

[27:34]am marrying you off no rather good is the one who has

[27:40]engaged Fatima to Ali understand this why the others were being rejected

[27:46]because Allah was the one who was deciding who she should marry

[27:51]rasulullah said God has engaged farther to Ali what did I say

[27:59]in my imaginess last night Affairs are in the heavens not on

[28:04]the Earth other ladies in Medina their Affairs are on the Earth

[28:13]is a light that shines before Adam was created someone who the

[28:19]Angels communicate with therefore is it's exaggerated for a person to expect

[28:25]that Allah would be the one who says that o Muhammad marry

[28:32]to Ali he said I am marrying you off to the best

[28:38]person in this world and the hereafter there is none better than

[28:45]this world and none better than the hereafter he is the most

[28:53]righteous individual you will ever see in your life from that moment

[28:58]engagement how long was their engagement 10 months an engagement in Islam

[29:03]can be done in two ways one way is temporary marriage as

[29:13]soon as I said that there's a mad silence that happened in

[29:17]the hall it's okay this whole Islamic law one way is temporary

[29:24]marriage another way is for an awkward literal marriage contract to be

[29:30]done someone says hold on hold on hold on hold on let's

[29:33]rewind here said Amar I gets engaged how do I get engaged

[29:39]because you know very well if you propose to someone for marriage

[29:41]and their dad for example says yes you do not want to

[29:47]have coffee with each other but you're not mahram to each other

[29:50]no no no no you don't understand bro say what they said

[29:56]her dad accepted so her dad accepted but that doesn't make it

[30:02]legal so how do we make it legal two options one option

[30:05]is that we agree a temporary period of marriage in English we

[30:11]may call it an engagement period that engagement period what is it

[30:19]the father for example will say that I want you to be

[30:22]engaged to my daughter in a temporary marriage that temporary marriage may

[30:28]be two months that temporary marriage maybe six months but that means

[30:33]that you and my daughter are Halal to each other but I

[30:38]can set conditions as to how Halal to each other I can

[30:44]set a condition someone says no I prefer that they just do

[30:49]nikah for the engagement or they do the accredit for the engagement

[30:52]the problem with contract for the engagement what if the two of

[30:55]them split up after a week your daughter's divorced having not even

[31:03]lived in the house your daughter is divorced she's counted as a

[31:07]divorcee someone says what do you mean divorcee they never even had

[31:11]a wedding yes but you've done a marriage contract for the engagement

[31:14]that means when it's broken she's divorced why is your daughter got

[31:18]the label of divorce or divorcee when she hasn't even done what

[31:22]she hasn't even had a wedding and lived with the person in

[31:26]the Arab culture normally the engagement is done as an academic in

[31:31]other cultures normally a person will do that someone says well why

[31:37]doesn't everyone do them many do not do that much because of

[31:41]the stigma with the word because the word has a stigma many

[31:45]fathers will not entertain it today therefore if your daughter is getting

[31:51]engaged you as a father can turn around and say that what

[31:57]do I want I want that there is a temporary period where

[32:00]you two can be Halal to each other until the day of

[32:05]the wedding how long should an engagement be that varies some engagements

[32:09]could be two and a half years if you're at Uni together

[32:14]you met in the first year you want to get married but

[32:16]you can't afford but you want to be Halal to each other

[32:21]maybe you might do engagement for two years but sometimes a long

[32:25]engagement can also bring about difficulties was engaged for 10 months foreign

[32:34]until eventually the holy prophet peace be upon him his family said

[32:38]to him are you ready now for marriage he said to him

[32:43]I am he said to him then lets us agree the Mahar

[32:48]because we know that if there is going to be a contract

[32:50]in Islam one of the main conditions of a Muslim wedding contract

[32:55]be it temporary marriage or permanent marriage is what is that the

[33:02]Dowry has to be agreed what is the Mahar he asked him

[33:03]oh Ali what can you give for your diary please listen to

[33:09]this important point this Dowry is to provide a safeguarding and economic

[33:15]independence to the lady that lady may not necessarily work her husband

[33:21]is the breadwinner there is a certain Dowry that is paid that

[33:28]is safeguarding her future as well when he asked Imam what could

[33:33]you give for the Mahar Imam Ali turned around he said for

[33:35]example I could give my sword I could give my horse I

[33:41]could give my armor my shield the gifts that he was giving

[33:48]for Mahar were not cheap they weren't cheap the Mahar of Fatima

[33:56]today in our marriage contracts is a very basic sum people say

[34:01]I want mahara but that's not the equivalent of what Imam Ali

[34:07]done in other words in reality if you're just doing in exact

[34:12]similarity what's not going to help the female in economic independence tomorrow

[34:17]a divorce happens we know very well in Islam there is no

[34:24]alimony talaq happens you may give alimony for the idah period you

[34:28]may give alimony for the period where she is pregnant in the

[34:31]after talaq but then after that that lady who has sacrificed everything

[34:37]all those years looking after the children bringing up the children looking

[34:41]after your house okay so what's there to provide economic independence for

[34:48]her the Mahar of Fatima Today many of us have underestimated its

[34:55]importance did not say like today's money 500 pounds Imam said whatever

[35:00]I own I'm ready to give to father that's a certain psalm

[35:05]I have a sword I have a horse and I have a

[35:10]shield Allah said to him as for your sword use it keep

[35:16]it for the protection of the religion as for your horse use

[35:20]it to earn an income as for your Shield sell that Shield

[35:24]when he sold that Shield he got 500 dirhams today you go

[35:27]to anikasa Remini and you hear people saying and they agreed Mahar

[35:33]is the maharaphat 700 pounds 500 pounds 800 pounds so you've given

[35:44]now 800 pounds towards someone's daughter what's gonna happen and mind you

[35:51]I've heard some who are so cheap that they'll say I'll only

[35:53]give you a tala if you give me my Maha back relax

[35:57]yeah Allah relax she's been with you as a wife and she's

[36:01]been a bedrock in your life and you still want the Mahaba

[36:08]Muslims when they get married many of them act like humans when

[36:16]they get divorced they act like animals Muslims when they get married

[36:20]you'll see a smile this wide the moment they're about to get

[36:28]divorced that one of the true if not the pair become animals

[36:31]the Quran said either come back with each other peacefully or divorce

[36:36]peacefully we have left the Quran now all we see give me

[36:42]my Mahar that's the only way I'll give you my heart wasn't

[36:45]for you to Blackmail someone Mahar was for you to provide some

[36:52]sort of security whereas for us we've taken the maharas what hey

[36:58]take this some okay one day she gets divorced what's gonna look

[37:02]after this girl who's gonna look after this girl the girl just

[37:07]goes out to work all of a sudden Imam therefore what was

[37:12]he ready to do whatever I'm ready to give I'm not just

[37:18]gonna say can I just give 500 Dirham no no no my

[37:22]shield if you want sell it my sword I'm ready to sell

[37:24]my horse I'm ready to sell I'm ready to give everything at

[37:29]that moment do not worry give the shield that is once that

[37:37]was agreed then they came towards the wedding some of our traditions

[37:41]in weddings some of them are culture some of our traditions in

[37:44]wedding are religion there is no problem having culture in a religious

[37:51]wedding no problem whatsoever I've seen some baffling things in my life

[37:57]when I've done Nikas across the world I I done one wedding

[37:59]I remember they were they were sprinkling something on the poor groom's

[38:02]head throughout the wedding I didn't know what was going on I've

[38:07]had others have to drink milk touch milk people throwing water on

[38:10]someone's face this is not an issue culture within religious weddings there's

[38:16]no problem as long as the culture does not go outside of

[38:21]the boundaries of the religion of Islam because if a person now

[38:25]comes and says that look it's our culture back home to bring

[38:28]a DJ and so that we all dance to it how do

[38:31]we keep that culture back home then you know because it's our

[38:35]culture if we get a belly dancer it's our culture we never

[38:39]said there's a problem with culture unless culture breaks Sharia then there's

[38:44]only one winner and that is what and that is Sharia culture

[38:49]can be there mama you want to bring Biryani in your wedding

[38:53]and you might want to bring cozy in your wedding and you

[38:58]might want we don't mind those cultures someone comes and for example

[39:04]throws flowers what's Haram about throwing flowers on somebody no problem what

[39:09]if someone someone came to me and said part of our culture

[39:10]and the weddings that we walk in we have to walk you

[39:13]with our right foot before the left foot happy be walking with

[39:15]any footage a month and well some of these cultures there is

[39:20]no issue was there a culture to rasulullah when he came for

[39:24]imman yes he sprinkled water on her face and then he sprinkled

[39:33]some water on her hands and then on her back and then

[39:36]some of the remaining water he said to her drink this water

[39:42]he'd done the same for Imam and then he said to Imam

[39:47]Ali drink this water this was part of a culture what else

[39:50]was culture many of us have a dinner so that the wedding

[39:57]guests are happy by the time they leave reality is that 99

[40:00]of us when we go to a wedding are looking forward to

[40:05]the Munch true about the guy who's getting married I want to

[40:09]know is it good food or not good food I want to

[40:12]make sure by the time I leave I'm full there are certain

[40:16]people I've met they starve themselves the whole day until the wedding

[40:20]say Habibi you're really not going to eat the whole day nah

[40:24]bro why bro there's a wedding tonight okay this wedding tonight but

[40:28]what are you expected to do it's only when you see the

[40:32]mountain called Everest on his plate that you realize that this person

[40:40]cares a lot about that food Allah he said go and get

[40:46]some sheep go and get some Bali Bilal make so everybody eats

[40:52]at the wedding of father therefore likewise for us when we come

[40:57]to our weddings there is no harm your culture puts it in

[41:03]your wedding puts it in your wedding recital of Quran puts it

[41:06]in your wedding all of these therefore took up the wedding but

[41:11]it's the wedding that's which makes the marriage no there are many

[41:15]who have glorious weddings but it doesn't make a marriage what therefore

[41:19]makes the marriage what makes the marriage with one another is when

[41:23]you have patience with one another in difficult times when you go

[41:27]through trials and tribulations and difficult times go through trials in his

[41:34]life in his marriage yes he did someone says Imam Ali goes

[41:38]through trials he was a water carrier he would go and carry

[41:48]heavy amounts of water at the same time used to grind corn

[41:54]Fatima would grind corn to help her husband and the family make

[42:01]ends meet she could have easily turn around and said you know

[42:03]whose daughter I am I'm the daughter of the Prophet what do

[42:07]you mean you're making me work because there are some who will

[42:09]say these things that what do you mean you are telling me

[42:10]to do this you're right ladies Muslim ladies in a marriage are

[42:16]not obliged to clean they are not obliged to cook they are

[42:22]not obliged to do a lot of things which husbands think they

[42:26]are obliged to no these things where a husband says why are

[42:30]you not cooking or cleaning a Muslim lady can charge for cooking

[42:34]and cleaning by the way don't get any ideas on this otherwise

[42:36]you'll make all these guys bankrupt but uh when it comes to

[42:44]working maybe maybe the ends for them to meet a mortgage has

[42:47]to be paid a person finds an economic climate which is difficult

[42:51]found it hard to make ends meet and Imam Ali found it

[42:56]hard to go and tell the prophet that things were difficult so

[43:00]what did Imam Ali used to do used to carry water used

[43:04]to grind the corn but they loved the combination of supporting each

[43:12]other there's no harm I see my husband sweating and he's coming

[43:17]home with a lawful earning that's enough for me until one day

[43:21]he looked at her hand he saw there were blisters all over

[43:26]her hand he said so what are these blisters she said the

[43:30]grinding of the Corn is hurting me he said to her that

[43:36]your father has certain captives to have come from some battles he

[43:40]said to her then go towards your father ask him that one

[43:45]of these captives from war why don't we get them to be

[43:47]one of the servants in our house she would go towards her

[43:53]father she'd sit next to him she'd think about asking she wouldn't

[43:55]ask she'd come the next day she wouldn't ask third time she

[43:58]wouldn't ask Imam said what's wrong she said you know what I

[44:04]find it difficult to ask my father knowing through or knowing the

[44:07]pressures that my father is going under at the moment in Medina

[44:10]at that moment Imam when he told the holy prophet peace be

[44:15]upon his family that we're facing difficulties in our marriage life my

[44:19]dear brothers and sisters it's fine economically not every marriage has to

[44:23]be keeping up with the Joneses one year you may not go

[44:29]the same holidays that you want to go the honeymoon that your

[44:32]friend has put on Facebook or Instagram sometimes the grass is green

[44:36]on the other side I know it all looks Rosy and they

[44:40]look like they're having the best Maldives honeymoon that anyone could ever

[44:46]have sometimes they could afford it you may not don't compare your

[44:49]marriage to theirs there are times where you need at that moment

[44:53]to support one another even Imam turned around what did he say

[45:03]he could have easily said okay you know what you're my daughter

[45:07]you're my son-in-law I'm gonna favor you you know what he turned

[45:10]around and said so far was alleged an area where the poor

[45:17]would sleep in Medina he said they are more in need than

[45:23]you and Fatima so I cannot give you two when there are

[45:26]some who need much more at that moment Imam Ali and father

[45:31]turned around they said we are pleased with whatever you are pleased

[45:37]with and that's where he came to father I will give you

[45:43]something better than a servant and she said what is it foreign

[45:51]will be more helpful to you and your health than any new

[45:57]servant what is it 33 times subhanallah 33 times alhamdulillah 34 times

[46:04]Allahu Akbar what do we call it today that says that if

[46:17]a person recites that has to be on my grandmother as soon

[46:23]as they finish Salah the fire of Hell will never touch that

[46:29]person why the fire of hell isn't that a bit too much

[46:31]of a reward because most of us when we finish Salah we

[46:33]want to jump up and watch the game true as soon as

[46:36]I finish Salah I want to go jump I want to go

[46:40]and do something it's very difficult to spend the extra couple of

[46:42]minutes when it comes to Salah and I'll discuss this when I

[46:46]come to discussing viewpoint on the power of Salah in the forthcoming

[46:50]lectures so you found therefore look at the difficulty economically economic difficulties

[46:58]emotional difficulties is it easy to know that your husband's gone for

[47:02]war foreign ask an afghan ask those who have seen their husbands

[47:12]on the battlefield you never know if he's coming back or not

[47:18]imagine your husband better as the easy knowing your husband's gone to

[47:24]war emotionally for some it's difficult to see their husband even travel

[47:29]Fatima's husband didn't just travel fataba's husband went to the middle of

[47:34]arrows in a battlefield he only had to face pretty normal guys

[47:42]you know not the brave is in the world didn't turn around

[47:46]and say why are you going to these battles she actually said

[47:48]to him I'll accompany you and support you in the battles she

[47:53]came to the Battle of which by the way was her honeymoon

[48:00]when someone wants to look for the nicest Resort no problem always

[48:04]remember that the lady you're honoring tonight her honeymoon resort was odd

[48:12]had injuries all over his body everywhere on his board Imam Ali

[48:19]had injuries she would come to each injury and look after it

[48:23]because she knew that she wanted to be a pillar for a

[48:27]source of strength for him when we get married our wives are

[48:34]alibas for us and we are really bus for them what does

[48:43]clothing do clothing beautifies me so I beautify my wife my wife

[48:52]beautifies me clothing protects me I am the one who therefore protects

[48:54]my wife and my wife is the one who protects me Imam

[48:59]sees in the middle of the battle on the corner of his

[49:03]eyes his wife sitting there looking at his every move being with

[49:08]him in his every moment the moment he was injured who was

[49:10]the first to run to his body he had injuries because everyone

[49:20]left the prophet he stood there with a few people that's uhud

[49:24]at the end of that battle is the one who came to

[49:31]him my darling Abel Hassan she came to him and she already

[49:35]at that time by the time of the battle of ahud she

[49:40]is the mother Imam al-hasan and then Imam al-hussein she had no

[49:45]problem whatsoever being a mother supporting her husband and also bringing up

[49:50]the children of that house and not just bringing up the children

[49:55]of the house the beauty about Imam in tandem with one another

[50:01]their example this is vital when they spiritually grew they grew with

[50:05]each other not you go Hajj you go ziara I'll stay why

[50:11]why don't you go ziara together as a husband wife how many

[50:14]times I've seen married couples one of them goes mosque the other

[50:19]staying at home why what will the children think the children will

[50:24]see the both of you there's no connection mom's always going to

[50:29]match Alice dads at home dad goes Sierra mom's at home and

[50:32]not because if it's Financial that you can't afford no problem but

[50:38]going to imagine this is not Financial If the child sees that

[50:41]the mum is committed but the dad isn't then the Charles the

[50:44]golden if Dad doesn't do it why should I do it mom's

[50:47]the one who's doing all these things everything they did in tandem

[50:54]with one another that incident when they were making the fast because

[50:59]had fallen ill that incident highlighted how connected the two of them

[51:07]were to each other why because they had said that we'll fast

[51:10]if Hussein recover when they recovered you all know the story when

[51:14]they recovered they're about to break their fast a door is knocked

[51:20]and when that door is knocked what happens in the house they're

[51:26]about to break their fast both of them set an example in

[51:29]the house not one of them today in some marriages the father

[51:35]has no interest in Spiritual Development and the mothers running around teaching

[51:40]Quran the mother's the one running around carrying people to magalies if

[51:44]that happens then we've not answered the marriage of Ali and Fatima

[51:48]of Khadijah and Muhammad those marriages the two were spiritually growing another

[51:54]point when you spiritually grow you be patient with the one who

[51:59]isn't growing as fast as you when you two got married you

[52:04]are on the same level one of you may have become more

[52:07]religious at that moment it's not the time to leave the marriage

[52:10]it's the time to be patient with the other to develop sometimes

[52:14]today you have some who reach a level of spirituality but they

[52:20]don't help the other come up they start being judgmental on the

[52:25]other on the contrary a person when they spiritually grow with one

[52:29]another there has to be supper as well if your wife is

[52:31]not as religious as you don't start to make fun of her

[52:35]and judge her slowly bring her closer with someone with patience Imam

[52:39]Ali and Fatima mobile together incident of giving to the poor together

[52:44]incidents of Hadith to get every incident you find that the two

[52:52]of them are in tandem with one another spiritually they grow together

[52:54]emotionally they grow together and he was very expressive he expressed himself

[53:02]he didn't say I'm a man I don't say such things today

[53:07]a simple text message I love you simple even that has become

[53:15]difficult technology has helped us now we can just send an image

[53:17]and not even talk in the past you had to write now

[53:23]you could just show a yellow someone who's well I don't know

[53:27]why the color is yellow of the person of the image he's

[53:29]smiling that's it just a smile that's only to be sent I'm

[53:36]thinking about you I love you I adore you Imam Ali would

[53:39]write poems about Fatima while she's alive look at the words I

[53:48]said at the beginning of this lecture when she died look at

[53:52]his expression of love look at what he says he says Allah

[53:58]I have returned the Amana he doesn't say I returned Fatima I

[54:11]have returned the Amana I marry someone's daughter she's an Amana now

[54:22]and Amana the sign of men is that they look after their

[54:27]amanas they don't beat them if you beat your wife then you've

[54:36]not understood the lady you've honored tonight because you've become like the

[54:40]man who beat her someone who slaps their wife cannot be someone

[54:50]who has a problem with the killer of Fatima when they are

[54:55]someone who has engaged in a similar Act Imam said I have

[55:01]returned the Amana o prophets of Allah you gave me an Amana

[55:08]and I've returned to the trust and the pledge has been taken

[55:17]back now listen to this line my grief is forever my grief

[55:25]is forever not enough look how great om will Benin is not

[55:36]enough is how great not enough jaffar not enough my grief is

[55:49]forever you know someone saw him years afterwards and they see him

[55:57]shed tears said how many years have gone since she's died still

[56:02]he said how could you recover from losing Fatima when do you

[56:10]see a man's expression that beautiful my grief this is him talking

[56:17]after she's died he's talking to rasulullah his grave my grief is

[56:23]forever and my night is Sleepless I can't sleep how can I

[56:38]sleep and I saw her between a wall and the door nobody

[56:43]was as affected by this incident like the emir because rasul had

[56:49]said to him you have to remain patient ah this is now

[56:53]I want you to remain patient with what you're about to see

[56:57]he said my grief is forever and my night is Sleepless until

[57:07]Allah chooses for me in the Abode a place where you are

[57:14]residing then he says he is the first to recite the mosiba

[57:19]of Fatima who was the first to recite the Messiah Imam Ali

[57:30]what did he say your daughter will now tell you about the

[57:36]conspiracy of this ummah pure tabara just in case someone thinks Imam

[57:44]Ali had no tabara against what happened your daughter will now tell

[57:50]you about the conspiracy of this ummah and the way they repressed

[57:54]her therefore ya rasulallah asked her what happened and let her tell

[58:04]you about the circumstances surrounding her death nothing broke his heart more

[58:13]than that day in Medina because he wasn't in the house when

[58:21]he wasn't in the house when filtha found out that Fatima had

[58:26]now died she said I'm gonna go and perform my ritual ablution

[58:37]and then I'm gonna go towards praying and reading the Quran come

[58:43]and ask for me if I reply to you that means I'm

[58:49]alive but if I don't that means I have passed away Hassan

[58:54]and Hussein when they come home have their food ready for them

[59:04]have their food ready for them she went she got ready baby

[59:13]left her until a few moments later father came and said oh

[59:22]daughter of rasulullah answer me no reply daughter of the man who

[59:31]ascended to the heavens no reply she knew at that moment that

[59:37]the time had come she entered the room and she's so fat

[59:39]am I laying there on the bed she called out tonight verily

[59:52]to Allah we belong and verily to Allah we shall return and

[59:58]that moment when she called out there were two imams in that

[60:06]house yes they came she said I prepare your food for you

[60:09]they said to her off when have you known us to eat

[60:15]our food without our mother father they both run towards the body

[60:23]of their mother Fatima with Hassan sitting one way and Hussain the

[60:29]other the news eventually reached where rich Medina how powerful and brave

[60:35]a man he is the moment he heard the news he fainted

[60:40]he fainted you know what happens to you you remember the beginning

[60:45]of your story with your wife you remember the Knights of Israel

[60:48]you remember how she was a backbone to you you remember how

[60:53]she treated your wounds and you think I couldn't treat your wounds

[60:56]he came towards her he took the body that night when they

[61:04]done the narration comes to us from you know what she says

[61:08]she says he was washing the body I was with him all

[61:12]of a sudden he left the body he went and sat in

[61:17]the corner of the rule I saw maula in a way I

[61:22]never thought I'd see him his head between his knees just picture

[61:26]that scene his head between his knees he was crying and crying

[61:35]I said to him what's wrong why'd you cry in this way

[61:39]you are the man who lifted but I see you broken he

[61:46]said oh I smart don't blame me I just was washing the

[61:54]body and my hand came across the broken River foreign all of

[62:15]you know where I'm heading if one River stopped them I broke

[62:21]your heart what would you ever done when you saw Jose's ribs

[62:27]in the carnival oh if one rep broke your heart then what

[62:41]did those horses do to the ribs of your son of the

[62:46]place what would have happened to your heart had you seen your

[62:54]son lay there we lost water remember Medina but how many ribs

[63:04]went in Carabella when he came near the grave of his wife

[63:13]he called out I have returned the trust and the pledge has

[63:22]come back my grief is forever and my night is Sleepless until

[63:33]Allah chooses for me in the Abode a place where you reside

[63:37]when he began to recite those lines he slept near her grave

[63:42]he loved her so much he never wanted to leave her grave

[63:47]that night in his dream he saw her talk to him what

[63:53]did she say to him returned to the house there are orphans

[63:59]alone in that house when he returned back to the house he

[64:08]saw Hassan and Hussein is sleeping but where was [Music] uh-huh he

[64:17]looks around the house he saw sane upon the prayer match she

[64:23]looked at him and said father tonight not saying that that night

[64:31]she felt lonely she broke the heart of Emir and what many

[64:34]in there he started to cry when he saw her alone near

[64:40]the premature if that made you cry then how about zainab on

[64:44]Shabbos foreign [Music] louder please [Music] [Music] [Music] the loudest of yourself

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