Morality Redefined: Practical Steps to enhance Character - Sayed Ahmed Al-Qazwini || 8 Muharram 2017

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[1:32]respected brothers and sisters we mentioned last night that the essence and

[1:42]most important element of islam is developing noble and good character and

[1:51]we mentioned the ahadith that emphasize the importance of akhlaq we said

[1:57]that the holy prophet himself said i was only sent to perfect

[2:04]and complete people's akhlaq and the hadith of imam al baqar that

[2:09]we mentioned said he said that the best of you in the

[2:19]eyes of allah and the ones that have the most iman are

[2:23]the ones that have the best personality the best character the best

[2:27]ikhlaq and then we said that unfortunately muslims today they do not

[2:33]reflect these teachings they do not apply these teachings and that's why

[2:38]you see muslims today have the worst ikhlaq and they give the

[2:43]worst image of islam we spoke about all of that yesterday today

[2:48]i want to speak about tonight about the akhlaq of rasulullah sallallahu

[2:52]alaihi wa sallam so that we may follow in his footsteps because

[2:58]when we analyze the akhlaq of the holy prophet his personality and

[3:02]character we notice that he had an exemplary exceptional akhlaq and we

[3:10]muslims we are asked by allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and we are

[3:14]told in the quran to follow in the footsteps of rasulullah allah

[3:22]says and rasulullah is the best example so follow that example try

[3:26]to emulate it in your life in the other verse allah says

[3:32]that if you love rasulullah if you love allah the holy prophet

[3:38]says if you love allah then follow rasulullah follow the messenger of

[3:43]allah and allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will love you and amongst the

[3:47]most important traits and qualities of rasulallah that we have to learn

[3:51]from and follow is his akhlaq is his noble manners is his

[3:57]virtuous character his beautiful personality which many people many of the sahaba

[4:03]they were attracted to rasulullah's message because of his akhlaq why did

[4:08]many people begin to believe in rasulullah that the holy quran says

[4:11]that you saw groups upon groups they would become muslims they would

[4:22]embrace islam they would come and they would declare that they are

[4:26]now a muslim to rasulullah why what interested them what attracted them

[4:31]the most important element and factor was the akhlaq of rasulullah because

[4:36]he had such a beautiful personality he had such an exemplary character

[4:42]they were attracted to his akhlaq and thus they became muslims you

[4:47]see the holy quran it describes the akhlaq of our prophet in

[4:52]one verse allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says speaks about the akhlaq of

[4:56]rasulullah because of the mercy of allah allah sent a merciful messenger

[5:05]rasulullah was what gentle he was nice he was friendly gentle with

[5:10]the people and then the quran says and if rasulullah was not

[5:18]gentle if he was rough and severe and he was harsh with

[5:22]the sahaba they would have all left him the reason why they

[5:25]stayed with him they loved him they supported him they embraced him

[5:30]was because of his akhlaq in another verse allah says allah has

[5:38]sent a messenger from you from amongst you and then allah describes

[5:42]that rasulullah amongst his qualities was he was an empathetic human being

[5:47]he had empathy he was not a selfish human being he was

[5:51]empathetic allah says this allah says used to love for his people

[6:07]he used to love his people he used to care for them

[6:10]if they were suffering he would be bothered if they had problems

[6:14]he would be bothered he wanted the best for them he was

[6:18]merciful gentle with them he cared about his people he was an

[6:22]empathetic human being and ultimately the greatest verse that allah subhanahu wa

[6:28]ta'ala speaks about the akhlaq of rasulullah he says in surah this

[6:36]is allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he is testifying he is witnessing that

[6:41]rasulullah his messenger has sublime personality has an outstanding character his akhlaq

[6:49]is aaleem it is great and this is allah saying great not

[6:52]me an average person so you can imagine how great the akhlaq

[6:56]of rasulullah was that allah in the quran says your akhlaq is

[7:00]outstanding it's exceptional and this is what drew people to islam this

[7:06]is what attracted them to islam this is from the quran it

[7:09]shows us this was the akhlaq of the holy prophet he was

[7:12]empathetic he was gentle he was merciful when we come to the

[7:16]sunnah likewise we find many beautiful descriptions of the akhlaq of the

[7:20]holy prophet of his personality in one hadith it's narrated that imam

[7:25]al hussain he asked his father amir al mu'mineen one day he

[7:30]told him he asked his father to describe the personality of amir

[7:39]al tell me about rasulullah you were with him the whole time

[7:43]you witnessed him you saw him you spent so much time with

[7:47]him so tell me about rasulullah amir al mu'mineen he gives a

[7:53]khutba he gives a sermon describing the akhlaq of rasulullah unbelievable only

[8:00]after you read this khutbah you understand why allah says in the

[8:03]holy quran that you have such exceptional akhlaq sublime personality the imam

[8:13]alaihis salam i'll read you some excerpts of this khutbah he's told

[8:17]his son imam hussain he told him one of the qualities of

[8:26]rasulullah is that he used to always smile the smile would never

[8:31]leave his face anytime you see him there was a smile on

[8:33]his face he would never be seen frowning anyone that would come

[8:37]to greet him he would greet that person with a smile and

[8:41]then the imam says he was always smiling and then the imam

[8:52]says he was very easygoing rasulullah he was very gentle he was

[8:57]very friendly he was very nice he was very polite rasulullah sallallahu

[9:02]alaihi wa sallam was a very very easygoing person he wasn't a

[9:07]person that always nagged and complained and was harsh with his people

[9:11]in sahaba he wasn't a person that made a big deal out

[9:14]of small petty issues there are some people when you're with them

[9:17]they're very sensitive they're very high maintenance the smallest thing will upset

[9:22]them they will get angry at the smallest thing you're always what

[9:25]on on the on your edge you don't know will they like

[9:28]this will they not like this will they be upset by this

[9:31]they are very tough to deal with rasulullah was exactly the opposite

[9:36]he was the easiest person to be with he was so easygoing

[9:40]he didn't make a big deal out of anything he was always

[9:43]what he was always comfortable he wanted you to be comfortable it's

[9:49]narrated that one day an arabi a desert dweller came to the

[9:53]masjid of rasulullah he didn't know the laws and the rules of

[9:58]the masjid he lived in the desert while he was in the

[10:02]masjid he went to a corner and he began to urinate in

[10:05]the corner because this is how his society was because living in

[10:09]the desert he would urinate everywhere anywhere so he went and he

[10:16]did that in the corner the sahab of rasulullah went crazy they

[10:20]wanted to kill the sahabi how dare you come to the masjid

[10:23]of rasulullah and you urinate they wanted to they began to scream

[10:27]at him they began to yell at him they made the biggest

[10:30]deal out of it rasulullah quickly got up he told them according

[10:33]to the hadith calm down he told his asaf calm down what

[10:37]happened he urinated so what so what bring some water and wash

[10:41]it clean it is that the end of the world he told

[10:44]them don't make a big deal so what imam speaks about this

[10:50]quality he was a very easygoing person very easygoing he didn't make

[10:55]a big deal out of small petty issues and then the imam

[10:59]he continues how beautifully he speaks about him he says as the

[11:07]quran says he was not rough nor was he harsh with his

[11:10]people he says the prophet was not sakhab sakhab means he wasn't

[11:16]too loud some people they're too loud when they speak they're obnoxiously

[11:20]loud their tone is too high when they speak in their normal

[11:25]way they're yelling these people are usually annoying to be around because

[11:29]they're always yelling they're always screaming they're always what their tone is

[11:35]always too loud the imam says the tone of rasulullah was always

[11:39]soft he was not a loud person an annoying person no he

[11:44]had the best tone the most comfortable tone and then the imam

[11:49]he says imam amir al mumineen he says about rasulullah he says

[11:53]he would not praise himself and speak good about himself because this

[11:59]is an equality of an arrogant person he was never in his

[12:05]entire life no one heard him say a bad word use profanity

[12:10]use an ugly word his words were always the most beautiful of

[12:15]words and then the imam says when he used to see something

[12:21]that he doesn't like if someone annoyed him if someone did something

[12:25]that he didn't like if someone basically brought something to the masjid

[12:31]that he was not happy with he would what he would make

[12:33]a big deal out of it no he used to ignore it

[12:35]he used to act pretend as if he's not seeing he's not

[12:39]hearing when someone was doing something annoying when someone was for example

[12:44]speaking too loud or he was talking against rasulullah or he was

[12:48]doing anything that the prophet didn't like he used to he used

[12:52]to ignore it he wouldn't make a big deal out of it

[12:55]he wouldn't complain there are certain people in the community all they

[12:59]do is complain about everything you take him out to a restaurant

[13:03]he complains it's too far once he's there he complains at the

[13:06]seating he complains at the food he complains at the waitress he

[13:09]complains at everything there are some people mashaallah experts at complaining all

[13:14]they do is whine and complain whatever he does not like he

[13:17]has he has to say i don't like this rasulullah even if

[13:20]he didn't like something he just stay quiet because this is what

[13:24]this is a part of being polite he had the highest ikhlaq

[13:28]he would never complain at anything then the imam says three things

[13:37]he would never do with people the first thing he would never

[13:46]he would never put anyone down he would never insult anyone he

[13:51]would never even criticize anyone he would never make fun of anyone

[13:57]he was always positive the hadith says the servant the servant of

[14:04]rasulullah was a man by the name of anas ibn malik anas

[14:08]says i served rasulullah for nine years he was the servant of

[14:12]rasulullah he says wa allahi those nine years rasulullah never once did

[14:17]he put me down never once did he criticize me never once

[14:21]did he tell me you did a bad job imagine if you

[14:24]have a servant for nine years from time to time you're gonna

[14:27]not like some some of his work you're gonna tell him you

[14:30]came late what you did yesterday was wrong i want you to

[14:34]change your habit i don't want you to bring the food in

[14:36]this way i don't want you to do that you're gonna tell

[14:38]him i don't want this i don't want that you're gonna criticize

[14:40]him you're gonna sometimes put him down because he may make mistakes

[14:44]he says wallahi nine years rasulullah never criticized me he never told

[14:49]me you made a mistake was anas ama'asoom an infallible person was

[14:53]he perfect no rasulullah was the perfect person anas used to make

[14:58]so many mistakes but rasulullah used to ignore them rasulullah used to

[15:02]forgive him rasulullah wouldn't mention it he would just let it slip

[15:06]he would just let it go this was the personality of rasulullah

[15:10]three things the hadith the imam says in this speech this hadith

[15:14]he would never do number one we said he would never what

[15:17]he would never insult people and put them down number two the

[15:21]imam says after that he says would rasulullah would never search for

[15:31]people's mistakes he would never lurk you know look for people's wrongdoings

[15:38]there are some people in the society all they do mashaallah they're

[15:41]so clever at judging other people at analyzing other people this person

[15:45]did this this person has this bad quality this good quality the

[15:53]hadith says don't look at other people's mistakes look at yourself you'll

[15:57]find yourself you have more mistakes sometimes than others rasulullah even though

[16:01]he was infallible ma'asum no mistakes but he would never judge other

[16:05]people and look at their mistakes he was not interested he did

[16:09]not care that's number two and number three and he would not

[16:18]speak unless there was tawab in the speech for the listener there

[16:23]are some people when they speak to you they waste your time

[16:26]their speech is all nonsense they sit with you and they tell

[16:30]you about their personal life and about their business and about nonsense

[16:34]and did did you benefit for the dunya no did you benefit

[16:37]for the akhirah no it's just a waste of time and some

[16:42]of the you know amongst the people that always face this is

[16:45]you know the speakers and the scholars because many people they ask

[16:49]them questions and sometimes you know they'll have a ten minute introduction

[16:54]before they ask the question he wants to ask for example is

[16:57]this halal or haram he'll tell you a story ten minutes long

[17:00]and then is this halal or haram brother sister you could have

[17:03]just asked is this halal or haram you don't have to tell

[17:05]me all that extra knowledge and information that's useless for me and

[17:09]for you rasulullah used to never waste anyone's time with the speech

[17:13]if rasulullah spoke that means you had to write it down that

[17:17]means there was knowledge in it that means he was making you

[17:20]closer to allah he was encouraging you to do something good he

[17:25]was giving you knowledge so he would only take from your time

[17:29]for your own benefits three things that rasulullah would never do when

[17:33]it wastes people's time would never make fun of anyone would never

[17:37]put anyone down and he would never search for people's mistakes and

[17:42]then the imam emir al mumineen he says describing rasulullah's ikhlaq he

[17:47]says after that about the akhlaq rasulullah was humble but how does

[17:51]he say it he says he was with his companions and with

[18:01]his people when he used to sit he used to be so

[18:03]humble when they laugh he would laugh when they are surprised of

[18:07]something he would also act surprised meaning he made them feel like

[18:11]he was one of them he did not make them feel like

[18:14]he's their leader he's on one league and they're in another league

[18:18]no he's with them so humble if they laugh at something then

[18:21]he laughs with them whatever they do he does he lives with

[18:25]them just like an average person was the akhlaq of rasulullah and

[18:31]then he says he was so patient and polite with people even

[18:39]if they were rude with him sometimes remember some of them were

[18:43]arabis desert dwellers they had no akhlaq they had no manners they

[18:47]used to come to rasulullah they used to address him in an

[18:50]inappropriate way they used to come and sit in front of him

[18:54]in an inappropriate way once an arabic came he sat rasulullah was

[18:59]giving a lecture he came and he slept on his stomach and

[19:02]he put his hands on his chin and he just began to

[19:05]listen to rasulullah back then this was insulting if someone does it

[19:08]in our misjudice we'll kick him out rasulullah would never say anything

[19:12]they used to take from his time from his private time from

[19:16]his the time that he needs to relax and rest and he

[19:21]would never say anything the imam says that they used to do

[19:25]it so much that they used to bother him so much and

[19:27]he wouldn't say anything such that the sahaba had to intervene the

[19:36]sahaba had to come and they had to tell that arabi or

[19:39]that person that's taking from the time rasulullah leave rasulullah alone this

[19:43]is his time to sleep this is his time with his family

[19:46]you've been talking for fifty minutes for one hour two hours because

[19:50]rasulullah would never say i'm tired that's enough as long as there

[19:53]were people that wanted to speak with him he would make himself

[19:56]available that's how humble he was and then the imam he beautifully

[20:02]continues he says he would never interrupt anyone because it's rude sometimes

[20:11]when someone's speaking i'm impatient i want to tell a story and

[20:16]i interrupt that person that person will feel what that person will

[20:19]feel insulted right this is rude to interrupt other people rasulullah would

[20:25]never interrupt anyone except only one under one condition he would interrupt

[20:38]unless that person would exceed his limits he would do something haram

[20:43]he would backbite he would lie only then rasulullah would interrupt him

[20:48]he would tell him stop you're not allowed to backbite you're not

[20:56]allowed to speak against other people he would either stop them tell

[21:00]them or he would just get up and leave as long as

[21:03]you do not disobey allah he would listen he had tentative ears

[21:09]so this was the akhlaq of rasulullah and of course the hadith

[21:16]of amir al mumineen it continues but we'll mention this part so

[21:21]basically basically if we want to summarize the sermon of amir al

[21:26]mumineen the akhlaq of rasulullah was such that he was the nicest

[21:31]person to be around if you asked about the nicest person in

[21:37]the society the most polite well mannered person in the society they

[21:42]will tell you rasulullah so comfortable to be with him because he

[21:46]never ever hurts your feelings he never ever puts you down he's

[21:51]always positive he's so respectful to an unbelievable extent and that's why

[21:58]when one of the people would see rasulullah he used to fall

[22:02]in love with him because of his beautiful akhlaq though sahaba why

[22:05]did they love rasulullah because of his beautiful akhlaq they used to

[22:09]fall in love with him they used to follow him and defend

[22:13]and and defend islam and rasulullah with their lives because of how

[22:17]attracted they were to the akhlaq of rasulullah and that's why like

[22:23]i mentioned my friend we as muslims have to follow in the

[22:27]footsteps of rasulullah we have to learn from his akhlaq and in

[22:32]that way if we follow in his footsteps and we try to

[22:35]develop the same personality the same character we will be also doing

[22:42]a service to our religion to islam in the same way that

[22:48]those early muslims we find they loved islam because they were attracted

[22:55]to the akhlaq of rasulullah if right now a muslim has good

[22:59]akhlaq people the non muslims they will love the religion of that

[23:03]muslim when a non muslim sees a muslim with good akhlaq he

[23:08]will say this muslim must have a good religion he will love

[23:11]your religion in the same way that now we see many non

[23:15]muslims they have a negative image towards islam why because of the

[23:19]actions of muslims because they see muslims are so evil they're so

[23:23]violent they're so cruel correct it right away reflects back on islam

[23:27]so when i have bad akhlaq when i have bad behavior it

[23:32]reflects on islam people will say islam is a bad religion they

[23:36]won't say this is a bad muslim they'll say this is islam

[23:40]so in that same way if i have good akhlaq like the

[23:42]akhlaq of rasulullah this will reflect positively towards my religion people will

[23:48]say look at islam it must be a wonderful religion because we

[23:52]see the adherence of islam muslims they have the best akhlaq this

[23:55]is the best way you can do da'wah for your religion that's

[23:58]why the hadith of the imam says what invite people to islam

[24:06]propagate but not through speech be a silent propagator how if i

[24:14]don't speak how can i invite people to islam through your actions

[24:17]through your actions actions speak louder than words when people see that

[24:22]your actions are good when you have high akhlaq good akhlaq you

[24:26]have a sublime personality they will love your religion they will see

[24:31]this person's religion must be a very beautiful religion so we learn

[24:35]from rasulullah that we do tawa silently silently just by showing the

[24:42]best akhlaq it will reflect towards my religion now that we understand

[24:47]all of this there are many of us after we hear these

[24:51]beautiful stories of the akhlaq of rasulullah and how well mannered and

[24:57]respectful he was we're truly inspired when we hear these hadith we're

[25:02]truly inspired and we want to improve our akhlaq we want to

[25:06]enhance our character but the problem that many of us face is

[25:12]that we see there's too much information there's too much to apply

[25:17]there's books written on akhlaq where do i begin i know certain

[25:21]youth they tell me i want to have better akhlaq but there's

[25:24]just too much it's too complicated it's too sophisticated we've been speaking

[25:29]for half an hour just describing the akhlaq of rasulullah if you

[25:32]just want to describe it for an hour then how long will

[25:34]it take for you to apply it so they say there's too

[25:37]much for me to apply i'm overwhelmed so even though they may

[25:43]have a sincere intention but they see as too much all this

[25:47]i can't apply it this is too much i have to be

[25:50]an angel to apply all of these things that you just said

[25:53]so thus some of them they're what some of them they begin

[25:58]to back away they're turned off and they say impossible impossible i

[26:03]can improve my akhlaq because there's too much there's too much to

[26:06]do there's too many things that i have to apply and thus

[26:10]they say you know what i can't now yes yes that's true

[26:16]we can never become like rasulullah if i want to become exactly

[26:20]like rasulullah that's too difficult but that doesn't mean i shouldn't try

[26:25]to become you know a smaller version of rasulullah that doesn't mean

[26:29]that i shouldn't try at least put an effort to follow in

[26:33]the footsteps 10% 20% 30% amir al mu'mineen after he gave a

[26:39]khutbah and he spoke about himself and his iman and taqwa what

[26:42]did he say after that he said don't think that you can

[26:49]become like ali ibn abi talib imam ali was the khalifa of

[26:53]the muslims and he used to sleep he used to sleep on

[26:57]the dust remember we said his name was abu turab he used

[27:01]to eat stale bread he used to wear a very very average

[27:05]piece of clothing he was the king of the muslims he said

[27:08]you can't become like ali but then he said but that doesn't

[27:16]mean you shouldn't try at least try to become 10% like ali

[27:20]20% like ali whatever you can so even though yes there is

[27:24]too much but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try and that's why

[27:27]tonight my dear brothers and sisters i want to make it a

[27:31]little easier for you and for me if you think it's too

[27:34]complicated too sophisticated for me to have good akhlaq like akhlaq of

[27:38]rasulullah there's too many things and i can't do it tonight i

[27:42]want to make it easier for you and i want to simplify

[27:45]i want to simplify enhancing our akhlaq this system this process i

[27:52]want to simplify it for you and i will mention three important

[27:56]steps that you have to do if you do just these three

[28:00]things you will have improved your akhlaq greatly just three things and

[28:06]these three things are taken from a hadith of imam musaddiq alaihis

[28:10]salam try my friends to implement and apply just three things and

[28:15]you will see your akhlaq will change so much for the better

[28:20]people will begin to witness what happened to this people person his

[28:24]akhlaq improved so much his personality character transformed all you have to

[28:30]do is three things i'll simplify it and like i said they're

[28:34]mentioned in the hadith of al imam asadaq before i mentioned them

[28:38]salaam alaikumat the first thing in this hadith al imam al sadiq

[28:48]alaihi salaam he was asked by one of his companions how can

[28:53]i improve my ikhlaq the imam told him three things he told

[28:58]them to achieve that level that you have good akhlaq that allah

[29:04]expects from me do three things number one listen carefully my dear

[29:10]brothers and sisters number one the imam says number one he said

[29:18]be humble with human beings humble with other people in the society

[29:23]you see one of the best and most beautiful qualities of rasulullah

[29:27]was that he was very humble very down to earth in one

[29:31]tradition it's narrated that imam al hassan he describes the tawadh the

[29:39]humility and the humbleness of his grandfather rasulullah what does he say

[29:43]he says he would never close the doors shun people away he

[30:10]says one of the most things that people loved about rasulullah was

[30:14]what that he was down to earth he was humble there was

[30:17]no guards in front of his house and he was a messenger

[30:21]he became a king he ruled the entire arabian peninsula but yet

[30:25]he had no guards in front of his house there was no

[30:27]gates no security whoever wanted to see rasulullah he just went knock

[30:31]on his door and enter he says rasulullah there was no servants

[30:37]bringing food treating him like a king no he lived the average

[30:41]life very average life he was very accessible whoever wanted to reach

[30:47]rasulullah he could reach him and then he says rasulullah used to

[30:55]sit on the naked earth there was no carpet there was no

[30:58]sheets there was no mattress he used to sit on the dust

[31:02]while he was the king of the muslims you go he has

[31:06]no throne he has no huge sofa or chair he used to

[31:10]sit on the dust on the turab in the same way that

[31:15]we said amir al mumineen used to sleep on the dust on

[31:19]the turab and that's why he was called abu turab rasulullah likewise

[31:23]he was down to earth he used to sit on the earth

[31:26]and he used to eat on the what on the earth on

[31:32]the ground not on a table he would never eat on the

[31:36]table he was very very what humble and that's why his sahaba

[31:40]loved him so much he would sit with the sahaba and eat

[31:43]even while he was the king of the arabian peninsula and then

[31:47]the imam says he used to wear rough clothing meaning cheap clothing

[31:56]rasulullah would not go and buy the best of clothing even though

[31:59]he had he had the wealth but he did not because he

[32:02]was humble and then he says and he used to ride a

[32:09]donkey now unless you understand the arabian society you won't get how

[32:14]this is a sign of humbleness you see in the arabian society

[32:18]only a poor peasant someone that's from you know from the the

[32:23]low class would wear it would ride a donkey if you are

[32:27]wealthy if you're a noble person you would never wear you would

[32:31]never i'm sorry ride a donkey it was a iib it was

[32:34]embarrassing to ride a donkey you would ride what you would ride

[32:38]a camel or preferably a horse rasulullah even when he was according

[32:43]to ibn al asad even when he was what the king of

[32:46]the muslims he would still what ride the donkey they used to

[32:49]tell him you rasulullah this is aib this is below your stature

[32:54]this is below your position he would say no i will even

[32:58]ride the donkey and even the imams of ahlul bayt he would

[33:02]still ride the donkey imagine right now if there is for example

[33:05]in the united nations if one of the presidents of one country

[33:09]you know how they all come in those mercedes the s 500

[33:11]imagine if one of them he comes riding a 20 year old

[33:15]toyota corolla what will people say about this person none of them

[33:18]will do that will they because this is a cheap car cheap

[33:22]old car i'm not gonna ride this i'm a president rasulullah used

[33:26]to do that he was humble used to ride the donkey so

[33:29]that's why they loved rasulullah and likewise amir al mu'minin he was

[33:35]he had that same level of humility and humbleness while he was

[33:39]the khalifa of the muslimeen the khalifa the king the ruler imam

[33:44]ali like we said he used to eat still bread he used

[33:46]to sleep on the dust imam ali alaihi salam used to walk

[33:50]in the streets you can't tell he's the khalifa if you don't

[33:52]know him because he's wearing average clothes and he doesn't have an

[33:57]entourage with him he doesn't have 10 guards this way and this

[33:59]way no he's walking all by himself and he's the khalifa of

[34:03]the muslims he used to go to the houses of the widows

[34:07]and the orphans and help them while he's the khalifa that's how

[34:11]down to earth he was and that's why we have to learn

[34:15]and follow in their footsteps so the imam says the first thing

[34:18]is be humble with others humble with other people the hadith of

[34:23]rasulullah says he says the ones of you that i love the

[34:36]most and the ones that will be closest to me on the

[34:40]day of judgment he said the ones that have the best and

[34:47]the ones that are the most humble the more you are humble

[34:53]with other people the more you are closer to rasulullah the more

[34:57]rasulullah loves you so be humble with other human beings how for

[35:01]example just as a few examples number one when we speak to

[35:05]others we shouldn't speak in a condescending way unfortunately sometimes we unintentionally

[35:12]speak in an arrogant way we unintentionally engage in arrogant behavior there

[35:18]are some people in some societies who are arrogant people they say

[35:24]behind that guy or that girl's back that lady's back that man's

[35:27]back this is an arrogant person but when you go to that

[35:30]person he says i'm not arrogant he doesn't realize that he's arrogant

[35:34]why because he engages in arrogant behavior unintentionally he doesn't think he

[35:41]doesn't think before he speaks before he acts sometimes we unintentionally brothers

[35:46]and sisters we disrespect others and we don't even know it we

[35:51]have to be careful the imam says be humble so sometimes we

[35:56]speak in a condescending way as if i'm better this is a

[35:59]problem that many of you many of us have when we engage

[36:03]in a dialogue in a discussion we're sitting we're having dinner or

[36:08]we are here in the husseiniyah and we're just chatting and then

[36:12]there is a debate a political debate about this country about this

[36:16]country's politics or about weather about anything it could be a silly

[36:20]topic but then you see each person he tries to enforce and

[36:27]impose his view on the other and the other guy's view is

[36:31]so silly in his eyes it's so stupid why are you serious

[36:34]what are you saying this doesn't make sense sometimes we unintentionally do

[36:38]this we belittle other people's opinions and we think we're always right

[36:43]this is an and a quality of an arrogant person that i'm

[36:48]always right and everybody else is wrong when there is a discussion

[36:51]we should be humble even if i think that that opinion is

[36:54]silly and it doesn't make sense don't show it don't express it

[36:58]say yeah you know what i think that your opinion also may

[37:02]be correct so when i speak with others i should be humble

[37:07]and this is one of the qualities of rasulullah the quran speaks

[37:11]about it when rasulullah used to have a dialogue with the mushrikin

[37:14]who were his enemies he did not speak with a know in

[37:19]a condescending tone with them that i'm right and you're wrong and

[37:22]you're all going to hell no this is an arrogant way of

[37:24]speaking the holy quran says rasulullah used to speak to them in

[37:29]this way used to tell them let's come and talk and have

[37:37]dialogue and maybe you're right maybe i'm right we'll learn later even

[37:42]though rasulullah knew he was right a 100% and they were wrong

[37:44]100% but yet he had that high level of akhlaq where he

[37:48]was humble maybe i'm wrong maybe i'm wrong maybe you're right so

[37:52]we shouldn't always think that my view is right everybody else's view

[37:56]is wrong and we try to impose our views on other and

[37:59]we belittle other people's views this is one part of being humble

[38:04]another example when we speak with other individuals we have to try

[38:10]our best to always address them by their title there are some

[38:14]people who are sensitive for example he's a doctor when you call

[38:17]him especially in a public area he wants you to call him

[38:20]doctor fulan doctor muhammad doctor ali do that be humble don't disrespect

[38:27]that person by calling him just muhammad give him his title for

[38:31]example he's a sayyid call him sayyid fulan for example he's a

[38:35]hajj call him hajj fulan maybe he doesn't like it when you

[38:38]don't call him some people know no doctor no sayyid no hajj

[38:42]no nothing right away they just go to the name this even

[38:46]though i don't mean any harm even though i don't mean any

[38:50]disrespect sometimes the person may feel insulted and he will consider me

[38:54]as an arrogant person because he doesn't call me by my what

[38:57]by my title this is on my end the person who addresses

[39:01]on the other person's end who's being addressed he should also be

[39:04]humble if he was not addressed by his title he shouldn't make

[39:08]a big deal out of it there are certain people if you

[39:10]don't call him hajj it's as if you've committed the biggest crime

[39:14]he's hajj mohammed you call him mohammed accidentally yes i should try

[39:19]my best to always use the titles because if he wants the

[39:23]title give him the title but if i forgot he shouldn't make

[39:26]a big deal so on my end i give him the title

[39:28]but if i don't on his end he should be humble if

[39:33]he didn't call me sayyid if he didn't call me doctor if

[39:36]she didn't call me hajiya i shouldn't make a big deal out

[39:39]of it who cares they're just titles i should be humble down

[39:42]to earth titles don't matter titles don't matter what matters is your

[39:46]akhlaq what matters is your nafs your inner heart this is what

[39:51]allah looks for not just the title so we have to be

[39:55]humble my friends in all of these ways and the more the

[40:00]hadith of the prophet says the more you are humble the more

[40:04]allah will elevate you and raise you don't think that by being

[40:08]humble some people even though they are you know important people in

[40:12]the society respectful people in the society they come inside a majlis

[40:17]they don't find a spot on the chair on the side he

[40:19]will sit in the middle if i do that i'm not belittling

[40:22]myself allah says the more you are humble the more i will

[40:28]raise you look at rasulullah didn't we say he was so humble

[40:30]but look at how allah raised him allah the greatest person in

[40:38]our eyes now is rasulullah he was so humble did that mean

[40:41]he was belittling himself no the more you are humble the more

[40:46]allah raises you in the eyes of people so this is number

[40:50]one that when we engage with other people let us be more

[40:54]humble my friends and we will be loved because people don't love

[40:58]an arrogant person they hate arrogant people who always want to impose

[41:02]their way and their opinion and their so this is number one

[41:08]he says be humble number two the second step the imam says

[41:14]in order to improve our akhlaq make your words both positive and

[41:21]nice always make sure that your words are positive and nice with

[41:26]others you see my friends our words they carry enormous weight enormous

[41:31]weight sometimes more than we think don't think that is just two

[41:36]three words and that's it no sometimes these two or three words

[41:40]they will end they will leave an impact for decades for decades

[41:46]sometimes we say something that's insulting and that insult it will leave

[41:52]a scar on that person for decades yes how many stories you

[41:56]know i know that a person when he was young he was

[41:58]insulted by someone by one of the elderly in the society in

[42:02]the community and he never forgot about it twenty years after he

[42:06]was still heartbroken that scar was there for twenty thirty forty years

[42:10]even though it was just two three words so we have to

[42:13]think twice it's just two three words but the damage could last

[42:16]for thirty forty years once i went to a place in the

[42:21]us i was lecturing so one day a man came he said

[42:24]sayidna i have not for fifteen years i have not been to

[42:31]any masjid and only recently i'm coming to the masajid to the

[42:36]husayniyah but for fifteen years i stopped coming to the husayniyah or

[42:40]masjid i asked him why he said because when i was younger

[42:43]i was a youth was a teenager one day it was during

[42:46]summer it was hot so i was wearing shorts i didn't wear

[42:52]pants didn't change i came with my shorts to the masjid to

[42:55]the lecture he says one of the elderly people in this community

[42:59]in the husseiniyah he saw me wearing shorts and he began to

[43:03]yell at me this is aib why are you wearing shorts in

[43:06]front of everybody he disrespected me he just said two three words

[43:10]this is aib don't come with shorts he says i felt so

[43:13]embarrassed so embarrassed he says i left and i said wallahi i

[43:17]will never go back to that masjid or any other masjid he

[43:21]said towards the old guy but you see the damage that he

[43:23]left this young man never came to the masjid he started hating

[43:28]the masjid even though that old guy he meant no harm i'm

[43:32]sure his intention was good he had a good niyah he wanted

[43:36]that he wanted to preserve the appropriate environment and atmosphere in a

[43:40]masjid but he did it the wrong way all of this highlights

[43:44]this fact our words my friends they carry enormous weight sometimes two

[43:48]three words they cause so much damage so that's why we have

[43:51]to watch out if you want to say something word it in

[43:55]the right way because the way in which you word something has

[43:58]a big effect you want to give someone advice he's doing something

[44:02]wrong don't embarrass him in front of everyone take him to the

[44:05]side privately take that girl to the side if she's not wearing

[44:09]the right hijab for example in the masjid in the hosseini don't

[44:13]embarrass her in front of everyone take her to the side and

[44:16]privately nicely gently softly tell her you can sometimes even do it

[44:21]indirectly you don't have to directly tell them and that's why we

[44:25]have the arabic language the expression that says sometimes you don't have

[44:31]to directly tell someone but what you indirectly relay the message and

[44:37]there's a beautiful story that illustrates this it's narrated that one day

[44:41]imam al hassan al hussein they saw an old guy he was

[44:46]doing wudu and they were young boys he was doing wudu the

[44:50]wrong way now they wanted to tell him but it's awkward for

[44:54]two young boys to tell an old guy your wudu is battered

[44:58]he's gonna feel disrespected because he's old and they're young so they

[45:03]wanted to tell him in the most beautiful and nicest way what

[45:06]did they do subhanallah look at the ikhlaq of imam hassan and

[45:09]hussein even when they're children so they came up with an idea

[45:13]they went and they started doing wudu and then they pretended as

[45:18]if they are in an argument imam hassan told hussain that my

[45:23]wudu is right and yours is wrong hussain told him no my

[45:25]wudu is right yours is wrong so they began arguing then they

[45:28]said let's go to the old guy and he'll be the judge

[45:31]they asked him oh shaykh we have an argument me and my

[45:35]brother each one is claiming that he's doing the wudu the right

[45:39]way so we want you to judge he said okay let me

[45:41]see they went they did the wudu so they wanted to teach

[45:44]him he saw they are doing the wudu and he saw that

[45:48]both of their wudu is right and then it clicked him that

[45:51]his wudu was wrong he told them you know what hassan hussain

[45:55]both of you are right i'm the wrong one i'm the one

[45:57]who's been doing all these years my wudu in the wrong way

[46:00]do you see how beautifully they relayed this message without disrespecting him

[46:06]without insulting him so sometimes indirectly if you tell someone something it

[46:12]is much better he will accept it and he won't feel bad

[46:15]he won't feel that you put him down so we have to

[46:18]be extra careful and one bad habit my friends that we have

[46:22]to stop in our communities is when we insult each other through

[46:25]jokes with the pretext of i'm joking we sit together and i

[46:30]joke against this person and against that person i make fun of

[46:32]everybody but when i'm told that you know that you you might

[46:36]hurt you may hurt this person's feelings i say i was joking

[46:40]it doesn't matter if you're joking you hurt that person's feelings we

[46:45]always try to to you know to justify our insults by it

[46:50]was just a just a simple joke no you hurt that guy's

[46:53]feelings even though he was smiling laughing but in his heart he

[46:57]may be crying because he doesn't wanna seem like a like a

[47:00]baby where he you know he makes a big deal out of

[47:02]a joke but in his heart he feels insulted so even in

[47:07]our jokes my friends let's make our jokes positive we shouldn't insult

[47:11]each other even if it's through a joke and many of us

[47:14]we do this unfortunately many of us we sit together and we

[47:18]make fun of each other we insult each other but what we

[47:21]do it in a laughing way as if it's okay it's not

[47:24]okay if i have if i don't have something good to say

[47:27]i should just stay quiet either say something nice if you don't

[47:31]have anything nice to say just be quiet sometimes being quiet staying

[47:35]quiet is the best thing we can do because when we talk

[47:39]all we do is we insult other people disrespect them put them

[47:42]down hurt their feelings so this is what this is with a

[47:46]a negative word and all the damage it can do and likewise

[47:51]one positive word one nice word it can create so much good

[47:56]for years and years let me give you an example tariq damishq

[48:02]this book that our sunni brothers have it mentions the story of

[48:10]a man by the name of islam ibn al mustalak he was

[48:13]an alsabi he used to hate ahlul bayt he lived in sham

[48:16]he narrates the story in tarikh dimeshq he says i came one

[48:20]day to medina he says i saw imam hussein i saw hussein

[48:24]walking and i used to hate hussein and i used to hate

[48:28]his father because when you're in sham you're brainwashed by the bani

[48:31]umayyah that ahlul bayt are all what khawarij and they're bad and

[48:34]evil so he says i looked at hussein with envy and hatred

[48:38]and then i asked him i stopped him in the street i

[48:41]asked him and tabuno abi turab you are the son of the

[48:44]father of turab remember they used to make fun of this title

[48:48]of imam ali he said yes it is me he says then

[48:51]i began to swear at imam hussein and i began to insult

[48:54]him i did not leave any word but i used it against

[48:58]him all the bad words all the profanity words i used it

[49:01]against imam hussain he said the imam he smiled and looked back

[49:06]at me with mercy and he asked me he told me he

[49:17]said said look do you need help do you want me to

[49:26]help you do you need any food do you need any shelter

[49:29]in this city i'm here to help you he says when he

[49:32]did that all of the hatred i had in my heart towards

[49:35]hussein it all went away he says i had so much regret

[49:40]why did i speak to him in such a negative way when

[49:42]he has such high akhlaq and then the imam he asked me

[49:45]are you from sham i said yes the imam told him he

[49:51]used an arabic expression that means of course if you're from sham

[49:55]of course you will be in this way you will hate me

[49:57]because in sham they brainwash you and then the imam told him

[50:00]anything you want i will give you here in medina he says

[50:03]i wish the earth would have swallowed me because of how the

[50:07]imam embarrassed me with his ikhlaq i swear at him but he

[50:10]speaks to me in such a nice polite way he says after

[50:14]this story i transformed from hating hussein to loving him what happened

[50:21]in the story just the imam used three nice words four nice

[50:24]words do you see how he transformed someone do you see how

[50:28]simple words they can change a human being our words carry enormous

[50:33]weight so the imam says always be positive and nice with human

[50:38]beings other people around you and number three my friends the imam

[50:42]said the third point third way simple way in which you can

[50:46]enhance and improve your akhlaq he said he said number three is

[50:54]to always smile remember we said rasulullah used to always smile always

[50:58]smile rasulullah told his family one day you can never make people

[51:09]love you through money because there's too many people and you don't

[51:12]have enough money but you can one way make everyone love you

[51:22]how by your akhlaa by always smiling subhanallah how there are some

[51:26]people in the community they're always smiling the nicest akhlaaq they have

[51:30]they always have a smile on their face everybody loves them why

[51:34]because people usually they like a person that's that smiles just try

[51:39]it smile for a few days it will draw people to you

[51:42]it will make people attracted to you it will make people like

[51:45]you people like someone that's always smiling so the imam says something

[51:50]so simple just smile all the time all the time people will

[51:53]begin to love you they will say this person has the best

[51:55]akhla and it's proven through studies that if you smile it improves

[52:00]your mood it can help improve your mood and it can release

[52:04]tension and it can reduce stress just smile even they say even

[52:09]if it's a fake smile you're not really smiling you're pretending you're

[52:13]acting even if it's a fake smile it will help you it

[52:16]releases the stress so these three words my friends they're so easy

[52:21]number one be humble with others number two be positive and nice

[52:26]with others your words and number three always smile this is something

[52:32]very simple but it will drastically improve and enhance our character in

[52:39]that way we can start following in the footsteps of imam hussain

[52:42]and ahlul bayt alaihi musalam we can become like the companions of

[52:46]hussein we can become like al qasim ibn al hasan this great

[52:53]wonderful boy of imam al hasan it was the nights of ashura

[52:59]we mentioned imam hussein he gathered his companions he gathered his companions

[53:07]and he told them all of them all of you will be

[53:09]killed tomorrow so whoever doesn't want to die let them leave now

[53:14]amongst the companions that heard the words of hussein was al qasim

[53:19]ibn al hassan the 13 14 year old son of imam hassan

[53:26]was an orphan so after the imam finished came to his uncle

[53:31]imam hussein and he told him my dear uncle you said we

[53:34]will all be killed tomorrow will i also be killed now can

[53:39]you imagine what should imam hussein tell him imagine if you have

[53:42]may god forbid a young teenage nephew who the doctor the doctors

[53:48]have told you that he only has a few days and he

[53:50]will die imagine if he asked you will i die do you

[53:53]have the heart to tell him you will be killed imam hussein

[53:56]knew that even al qasim would be killed because those enemies spared

[53:59]no one even the six month old baby of imam hussein was

[54:03]killed so how can hussein tell him yes he didn't want to

[54:06]tell him yes so he wanted to test his faith his iman

[54:09]he wanted to test his heart he told he asked him a

[54:12]question he told him how do you see death are you afraid

[54:19]of death look at the answer of al qasim what a beautiful

[54:23]answer my friend spend millions on your kids you can never plant

[54:27]this much wisdom this much knowledge this much iman in them you

[54:31]can only do that by the teachings of ahlul bayt look at

[54:34]the answer of al qasim when he's asked by his uncle how

[54:37]do you perceive death he told them my dear uncle if i

[54:46]die protecting you then death is sweeter than honey if it's dying

[54:52]for you hussain then it is sweeter than honey allahu akbar the

[54:57]imam hugs him and they begin to cry it's the day of

[54:59]ashura all of the companions are killed some of the relatives of

[55:04]hussein they are likewise killed ali yun al akbar he's killed only

[55:08]a few remain al qasim sees that now it's his time to

[55:12]go and fight and make his uncle proud make his father proud

[55:17]make his grandmother fatima proud he goes to his uncle imam hussein

[55:22]he tells him my dear uncle hussein please give me permission to

[55:25]go and fight the enemies the imam tells him my dear nephew

[55:30]you're the only remnants left for my brother hassan and when before

[55:36]my brother hassan died he entrusted me with protecting you with protecting

[55:41]you as an orphan how can i let you go and die

[55:44]and get killed i'm sorry i can't let you you're too young

[55:48]al qasim the son of hassan was so disappointed he went to

[55:52]a corner he began to cry he really wanted to go and

[55:55]get killed for imam hussein to kill the enemies so all of

[55:58]a sudden while he was so upset and sad and disappointed he

[56:02]remembered that his father had left him a letter and on that

[56:06]letter it had said my dear son qasim if a day came

[56:10]in which you thought it's the worst day of your life open

[56:13]this letter he opened it he remembered that he had such a

[56:16]letter he brought it he opened it he saw it's a letter

[56:19]from imam hassan to his brother hussein he was very happy he

[56:22]quickly took it to imam hussein the imam opened the letter he

[56:25]saw it's a letter from his brother he remembered the handwriting of

[56:29]his brother hussein he began to cry because he remembered imam hassan

[56:33]he saw it's a letter in it his brother says my dear

[56:36]brother hussein on the day of ajura i will not be there

[56:39]to fight with you but please accept my young son qasim as

[56:43]my sacrifice on my behalf if he asks you for permission please

[56:48]give him the permission let him go and sacrifice his life for

[56:52]you allahu akbar the imam has no option now no choice he

[56:56]goes to al qasim he tells him i give you permission but

[56:59]my dear son he calls him my son because he was an

[57:02]orphan and the imam was like his father he tells him i

[57:05]permit you but i am embarrassed from your mother how can i

[57:09]permit you in front of her to go and die for me

[57:13]he tells her al qasim tells his uncle hussain my dear uncle

[57:16]hussain don't worry about my mother my mother is the one that

[57:23]put on my armor she's encouraging me she's telling me go and

[57:28]die for hussein don't worry about her allahu akbar al qasim he

[57:32]farewelled all the woman he farewelled his mother all his relatives and

[57:36]then he farewelled his uncle aba abdullah he put on his armor

[57:40]he took his sword he's only a 13 14 year old boy

[57:44]and he went and mounted his horse his uncle hussein helped him

[57:47]because he was a young boy he could not mount the horse

[57:50]by himself he took his sword and he came out to the

[57:53]enemies hamid ibn muslim one of the narrators he says that we

[57:58]saw all of a sudden a young boy it was all men

[58:00]coming out all of a sudden we saw a young boy 13

[58:04]14 year old boy who was like a shining moon his face

[58:08]was so beautiful he came out with full valor and courage holding

[58:12]his sword and he began to recite these words he came out

[58:45]saying if you do not know me then i am the son

[58:51]of imam hassan i am the grandson of rasulallah and i have

[58:58]come to fight you enemies for what you are doing to my

[59:02]uncle hussein the narrator say that he went to the battlefield he

[59:06]fought so courageously he killed some of the enemies all of a

[59:10]sudden one of the enemies came from behind him the sandal of

[59:13]al qasim strapped he bent down to fix it the enemy came

[59:18]and he hits al qasim on his hayat all the of the

[59:25]companions of imam hussein when they used to fall on the ground

[59:29]they used to cry out farewell hussein except al qasim because he

[59:35]was so young he was so innocent he cried out my dear

[59:43]uncle come and save me they have killed me imam hussein quickly

[59:51]came to the site of al qasim he killed the killer of

[59:55]al qasim after the dust settled imam hussein was seen sitting by

[60:02]the body of al qasim he had put the head of al

[60:05]qasim on his lap and he told him he told them forgive

[60:19]me my nephew you called me you wanted my help but i

[60:23]was not able to come to your rescue i was not able

[60:28]to help you on the day of judgment their enemies will be

[60:43]your father hassan and your grandfather rasulullah and then imam hussein took

[60:52]the body of al qasim back to the tent the enemy said

[60:56]that now we could see the legs of al qasim the feet

[61:00]they were being dragged across the dust across the sand meaning the

[61:04]bank of hussein was burnt the imam had no energy to carry

[61:09]the body of al qasim he brought the body of al qasim

[61:14]he placed it next to the body the mother of al qasim

[61:49]she came and she saw her beautiful boy your 13 14 year

[61:54]old boy qasim he is covered with blood and he is dead

[61:59]she threw herself on the body of al qasim she took from

[62:04]the body from the blood of al qasim and she began to

[62:08]dye her hair with everyone together mother remember me when you see

[64:03]a deprived of a wedding my sacred blood is my die candle

[64:21]of my youth when they turn it off my blood is my

[64:32]die the sand is my only shroud

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Morality Redefined: Practical Steps to enhance Character - Sayed Ahmed Al-Qazwini || 8 Muharram 2017

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Morality Redefined: Practical Steps to enhance Character - Sayed Ahmed Al-Qazwini || 8 Muharram 2017

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