Islam's Take on OCD - Sayed Mohammed Baqer Al-Qazwini

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[0:11]all right regime Bismillah I begin in the name of the almighty

[0:26]God the compassionate the merciful the one who has created everything in

[0:29]utmost perfection and May the peace and blessings of the almighty God

[0:35]be upon his pure and beloved messenger the peak of his creation

[0:42]the symbol of humanity the holy prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi Allah and

[0:55]his Immaculate progeny of the peace be upon them especially the leader

[1:01]of our time the awaited savior may Allah haste in his reappearance

[1:12]and make us all amongst his sincere and dedicated servants respected brothers

[1:17]and sisters in the Holy Quran in the Final Chapter of this

[1:29]glorious book is foreign our life comes with many different types of

[2:09]challenges in order for us to achieve success in this world and

[2:14]on the day of judgment we have to navigate these challenges the

[2:19]way our creator has instructed us if I want to be successful

[2:26]in this life and be prepared for the next I need to

[2:31]see what my Lord instructs me how do I deal with different

[2:35]challenges when I am faced with a financial crisis what advice does

[2:39]my Lord have for me when I have a family crisis what

[2:44]is the recommendation that my Lord has given me now there is

[2:50]one very important area that affects our lives and it's very important

[2:55]for us to seek direction from Allah subhanahu to Allah from religious

[3:02]instructions and that area is OCD obsessive compulsive disorder OCD affects many

[3:09]people around the world many people in our lives that we know

[3:13]struggle with OCD and there are different dimensions to OCD one very

[3:20]common Dimension is religious acts of worship such as your prayers and

[3:27]doubting them such as your wulu and purity my grandfather may Allah

[3:32]prolong his life he says many decades ago in the city of

[3:35]karbala he says there was an elderly man who would be performing

[3:41]with who he had OCD there was a small pool in the

[3:46]middle of the courtyard he would come to do will do in

[3:50]it he said he would wash his hands many many times to

[3:53]purify it he says one day I wanted to count and see

[3:58]how many times this poor man is going to wash his hands

[4:00]he says I counted he dipped his hand in the pool in

[4:07]the house 360 times can you imagine how long that takes 360

[4:13]times he's dipping his hand in the pool I think maybe he

[4:19]was washing it for every day that you have in the year

[4:21]but this is a type of OCD that affects millions of people

[4:27]I know I know some people who have Wasa or OCD in

[4:34]tahara and Purity such that their skin becomes starts to crack due

[4:39]to excessive washing and scrubbing the skin starts to crack and they

[4:44]start bleeding serious it affects many people it affects many families one

[4:48]father came to me and told me say it my son and

[4:53]his son was like 20.

[4:52]he's not a child he says my son when he goes into

[4:56]the shower he spends at least three hours at least three hours

[4:59]three hours of his life when he's in the shower because he

[5:04]has OCD he's about to leave no I haven't done my husband

[5:06]properly yet I've not done my will do it yet I'm not

[5:11]pure yet this is one area that affects us another area that

[5:15]OCD affects us or being obsessive affects us is when it comes

[5:20]to being perfect some people are perfectionists everything has to be neat

[5:28]and tidy right if one book on the Shelf is not in

[5:33]a certain position there's an issue if one thing in the kitchen

[5:35]doesn't look like the way I want it it's going to be

[5:37]an issue this is one type of obsession and then you have

[5:44]another dimension of OCD that is called paranoia some people are paranoid

[5:49]they can't trust anyone they think everyone out there is an enemy

[5:56]nobody loves me everyone hates me everyone's trying to bring me down

[6:00]people are plotting against me it's a type of paranoia that affects

[6:05]certain people they have difficulty creating bonds with other people they have

[6:11]difficulty they have trouble trusting anyone because they are paranoid constantly they

[6:16]have these negative thoughts another area that we have in OCD is

[6:21]having doubts about the existence of God about religion this is also

[6:29]very common sometimes I'll get a message or a phone call from

[6:32]someone panicking say it I just committed cover I had this negative

[6:38]doubt about Allah and religion what do I do and the person

[6:42]is really panicking and this keeps happening again and again and again

[6:45]so it's very important for us to know the Islamic perspective on

[6:52]waswas or OCD in Arabic we call OCD or swas it's a

[6:55]it's a type of Wasa what's Islam's take on it and how

[7:00]can we help ourselves overcome these different types of OCD in our

[7:08]lives let's begin with the first fear for the with the first

[7:12]domain and that is Obsession when it comes to tahara and najasa

[7:15]when it comes to your prayer when it comes to your acts

[7:19]of worship what recommendation does Islam give us Islam teaches us that

[7:26]OCD that affects your prayers comes from shaytan yes there is a

[7:31]medical explanation for it but from the spiritual aspect it's induced by

[7:37]shaytan it's induced by the devil was asked about a man who

[7:46]struggled with his prayer and with his he was obsessed with his

[7:51]wudu obsessed with his prayer constantly doubting himself repeating them and the

[7:55]Imam Ali salaam was told this man is someone who has the

[8:07]intellect who's rational whose sound in his mentality the Imam Ali salaam

[8:12]said he's describing this person as a person of intellect when he's

[8:17]worshiping the shaytan these excessive doubts in prayer are actually obeying shaytan

[8:24]so the imams very clearly demonstrated to us that having these excessive

[8:31]doubts comes from shaytan you know why shaytan does that some people

[8:36]shaytan knows if he tells them stop praying they won't stop fasting

[8:43]I won't stop purifying yourself I won't he knows that shaytan is

[8:49]much savvier than we think look he's got experience since the days

[8:52]of Adam even before that some people yes he can distract them

[8:58]don't pray go and watch that game go to the movies you're

[9:02]tired right now with some people it works what some people he

[9:05]knows that they were not they're not going to stop praying there's

[9:10]no way I can stop this person from praying he is definitely

[9:12]going to pray so let me mess with his Salah one way

[9:17]that he does that is by messing our mind the minute you

[9:20]pray you're bombarded with all these thoughts and you have difficulty concentrating

[9:25]this is from shaytan but another way he's like let me make

[9:31]him obsessive with his Salah such that instead of enjoying the spirituality

[9:37]of his prayer instead of enjoying the spirituality of his he becomes

[9:42]obsessed with these doubts and it becomes a burden on him people

[9:45]who have OCD they don't enjoy their Sada they don't enjoy their

[9:48]will do why because it becomes an obsession it becomes a burden

[9:54]on them and that's exactly what shaytan wants to do he wants

[9:57]to find any way to make ibada and acts of worship a

[10:02]burden on you any way that he can find he will make

[10:04]it burdensome on you instead of enjoying the spirituality now I have

[10:09]to deal with these doubts with repeating they will do 10 times

[10:14]20 times 30 times repeating my prayer five times this becomes a

[10:17]burden you're not going to enjoy your Salah like that so the

[10:21]Imam Ali salaam States OCD comes from shaytan don't obey the shaytan

[10:26]it's very simple now let's further elaborate this to see how we

[10:32]can help ourselves when we have excessive doubts and how we can

[10:36]help those around us I'm sure you know someone or you know

[10:39]someone who knows someone who has OCD and this advice is very

[10:42]effective I've tried it with people who have was OCD and to

[10:46]an extent it did work alhamdulillah ask the person why are you

[10:51]repeating your why are you repeating your Salah why do you keep

[10:55]washing your hand for religious purposes he says well because I want

[11:01]my Amal to be sahih I want my action to be proper

[11:05]to be correct I want my Salah to be valid I want

[11:12]my to be valid that's why I keep redoing it so in

[11:14]reality he claims that he's doing it for who for Allah I'm

[11:20]repeating this to make sure that my action is proper and I

[11:26]submit it to God ask them why they keep repeating that and

[11:29]then once they tell you it's because they want their prayer to

[11:35]be valid it's for the sake of Allah tell them Allah the

[11:38]one whom you're worshiping and you're dedicating your actions to He commands

[11:44]you to ignore your doubt he commands you aren't you doing this

[11:51]for Allah he doesn't want it this way he says yeah but

[11:53]say it my Salah might be missing something what if on the

[11:56]day of judgment I realize it was missing something Allah wants it

[12:00]like that Allah wants your Salat to be missing you mean Allah

[12:04]is okay with my salaam missing something yes Allah wants it that

[12:07]way worship him not shaitaan not these obsessive thoughts that's one way

[12:12]to break this cycle and the Hadith from the prophet salallahu alaihi

[12:17]states that the prophet says don't teach the shaytan and train him

[12:22]to mess with your prayers basically say no to him because that's

[12:28]what he wants when he sees you doubting and repeating you're encouraging

[12:31]him you're telling him come do it again do it again let's

[12:33]have this cycle again and again break that cycle I would do

[12:38]shaytan the prophet says ignore that doubt Allah wants it that way

[12:43]but my will who may be invalid Allah wants an invalid will

[12:48]do from you Allah wants that from you don't you claim that

[12:52]you're worshiping Allah that's how Allah wants it that's why those who

[12:57]have excessive doubts the Shari are the law of sharia the law

[13:00]of Islam is for them to ignore the doubt and consider their

[13:05]action is correct Allah will accept that action if they simply pay

[13:09]attention to that it really helps them if you wash your hand

[13:11]the second time third time Allah doesn't want that anymore you're not

[13:15]worshiping God anymore he does not want that from you so be

[13:20]honest are you trying to worship God or you're just doing something

[13:24]for your own self if it's for Allah he's clearly telling you

[13:27]I do not want it yeah but I want to improve this

[13:32]Amel he doesn't want it improved he wants it as it is

[13:34]this is what he wants it's up to him he's the Lord

[13:36]we worship Allah the way he wants not the way we want

[13:42]this is extremely effective in Breaking that cycle of OCD now subhanallah

[13:50]you'll find in the religion of Islam we have beautiful principles that

[13:57]help us avoid obsessive thoughts for instance there is one fifty principle

[14:04]called what is it's called The Law of completion anytime you offer

[14:11]a deed such as a prayer such as fasting going to Hajj

[14:14]whatever it may be and then you doubt that I do it

[14:18]properly did my prayer miss something this is not for people with

[14:21]OCD just for anyone was my Hajj proper I fasted it did

[14:28]I do it properly this principle tells you that any time you

[14:32]have a doubt in the validity of an action consider it to

[14:37]be correct Allah will accept it from you yeah but what if

[14:40]on the day of judgment my Salah was missing something that's fine

[14:44]Allah will not hold you accountable you did not deliberately mess up

[14:48]your prayer maybe you forgot that's okay Allah will forgive you this

[14:51]is the second principle is which is the law of passing your

[15:03]Salah and you move on to the next action in the Salah

[15:07]and you doubt the previous action let's say you're in sujood and

[15:11]you have a doubt did I recite the fatah properly did I

[15:15]even do the rukul or did I skip the record maybe I'm

[15:19]too hungry I'm fasting and I just skipped out of court maybe

[15:21]I don't know the Imam says ignore the doubt your Institute now

[15:25]forget all doubts that have to do with previous actions this is

[15:31]a 50 legal principle that trains us not to obsess over acts

[15:36]of worship this one's really important the law of Purity the default

[15:45]anywhere you go is that it's pure in the law of Allah

[15:50]some people with OCD it's the exact opposite the default is contamination

[15:55]the default is najasa everywhere is not just unless it's proven to

[15:58]me that it's pure no where are you getting this principle from

[16:01]why invent principles when Allah has given you principles Allah says everything

[16:06]is pure unless you know for a fact uncertainty that it's nudges

[16:12]this law really helps us my dear brothers and sisters assume everything

[16:17]to be pure even the bathroom yes even the bathroom do you

[16:22]have knowledge that it's not just okay if you have certainty and

[16:24]knowledge that's fine but if you don't assume that it's pure yeah

[16:30]but I'm kind of 80 sure it's nudges it's pure 80 does

[16:32]not make something not just for you has to be a hundred

[16:36]percent 99 almost 100 percent this is the law of purity and

[16:41]by the way those people who have OCD with the transfer of

[16:46]najasa something becomes negative potentially everything now in the room becomes an

[16:51]edges I know some people who will even go to the shrines

[16:55]of no say it even in the tawaf and Masjid I know

[16:58]some people they bleed and that the life you know maybe someone

[17:03]steps on your foot and injures it so this whole place is

[17:06]nudges nudges nudges and they get obsessed with those thought thoughts in

[17:10]Islam according to our fifthly principles it's not that easy for najasa

[17:15]to transfer first of all you have to know that it transferred

[17:20]a hundred percent secondly when it comes to the transfer of najasa

[17:26]at the third motened just it stops let me explain what that

[17:35]means let's say the doorknob is nudges the doorknob you know someone

[17:38]told you look the doorknob is not just we have not purified

[17:42]it we call the doorknob the first motenedges the first contaminant let's

[17:47]say you go and you touch the doorknob with your wet hands

[17:54]then ajasa gets transferred your hand is now which mutana just which

[17:58]medium the second one your hand your right hand is now the

[18:02]second with the ninjas now with your right hand which is moist

[18:07]because najasa only transfers through moisture not through dryness now with your

[18:11]right hand you touch your left hand your left hand is which

[18:17]number much just now the third one your left hand is negis

[18:20]yes it's but it no longer has the capacity to make anything

[18:27]nudges with this left hand even though it's moist go and touch

[18:30]the whole door the whole house it will no longer transfer an

[18:34]adjuster people with OCD fail to realize that they think if you

[18:39]touched one place in the room and it became not just call

[18:40]us your whole life isn't just now that's not how it works

[18:45]it stops it stops at the third mutant edges these 50 principles

[18:49]are extremely important so that's the third fifty principle the fourth one

[18:55]Saha tells you anytime you doubt whether someone else is doing something

[19:01]right or wrong you assume that their action is what correct you

[19:05]go to your friend's house it's like I don't know if my

[19:09]friend really observes najasa correctly ignore the doubt don't investigate assume his

[19:13]house to be pure you're praying in Jamaica I don't know if

[19:16]these people next to me in Jamal are praying correctly maybe my

[19:20]whole jamaas is incorrect there's no connection no assume people to be

[19:25]offering correct actions this is a 50 principle in Islamic law the

[19:32]fourth one or the fifth principle that we have over here is

[19:40]the hand of a Muslim when it comes to Halal or Haram

[19:43]food someone invites you someone brings you food and they're a Muslim

[19:46]do you have to investigate whether this food is halal or not

[19:52]no you don't have to investigate consider it to be you don't

[19:55]need to ask yeah but I'm not sure where exactly he got

[19:58]the food from that's fine Allah wants you to live at peace

[20:02]in Harmony in society I know some people they will not accept

[20:05]any invitation anywhere honestly that's not the laws of sharia you want

[20:12]to stay in your house say I enjoy staying in my house

[20:13]and not going don't blame Islam don't blame Islam don't say I'm

[20:18]trying to be religious here and I'm trying to be cautious no

[20:20]no the image did not teach you to be cautious like that

[20:23]a man comes to Adam he tells them I know some of

[20:30]these stores that make cheese I know some of them is negis

[20:32]cheese I know I've seen some of these shops says go and

[20:39]eat now the guy was a little bit smart he basically told

[20:42]the Imam but would you eat it yourself the Imam says yes

[20:47]I'll eat it myself here I'll show you The imams Wanted Life

[20:51]not to be miserable for us don't make something burdensome on you

[20:55]that's how you fight OCD those who struggle with OCD stand up

[21:02]for Salah and speak to shaytan yes now maybe don't do it

[21:05]in front of other people they'll think you're crazy you can do

[21:09]it when you're on your own speak to shaytan say to the

[21:12]shaitaan I'm going to pray right now and I will enjoy my

[21:16]ibadan and it's not a burden on me and I'll pray once

[21:18]whether you like it or not inshallah I prayed five like us

[21:21]or 50 like as or one or ten it doesn't matter Allah

[21:25]wants me to pray like that and I'll enjoy it speak to

[21:27]the shaytan like that speak to your psychology like that it's extremely

[21:30]helpful so this is one area of OCD another area is having

[21:38]doubts about religion about the existence of Allah one day a man

[21:45]comes to the prophet salallahu alaihi he tells him I'm destroyed I'm

[21:51]perished I'm gone I'm doomed why what did you do he said

[21:56]I'm having some doubts and I'd rather fall from the sky fall

[22:00]from the star then speak what that doubt is yeah doubts about

[22:06]the existence of God he says I'm really concerned the prophet basically

[22:10]told him the fact that you're concerned this much shows that you

[22:18]have solid Iman listen listen to the response of the prophet who's

[22:22]a person who really is doubting and who has no faith the

[22:27]one who doesn't care I don't care Allah exists doesn't exist who

[22:32]cares that attitude indicates lack of faith the prophet was teaching them

[22:36]the fact that you care and you're so concerned indicates you have

[22:41]Iman so don't let the shaytan mess with your mind and tell

[22:45]you that you're having doubts this is extremely effective in dealing with

[22:49]doubts tell yourself no I'm a movement I have a belief and

[22:52]another Hadith a man comes to the prophet salallahu alaihi again he

[22:57]tells him I'm doomed I'm struggling with doubts the prophet told him

[23:02]the khabib the evil shaytan meaning he told you who created you

[23:07]and you told him God Allah and then he asked you a

[23:12]follow-up question who created Allah and that's the source of your doubt

[23:15]right he said yes that's exactly the doubt that crossed my mind

[23:20]so the prophet assured him that he was a Believer sometimes you

[23:23]do have these doubts yeah who created God by the way for

[23:27]those who are interested in a simple response to this question see

[23:33]something that has limitations it's made up of matter electrons protons and

[23:40]it has motion because every atom inside your body has Motion in

[23:45]it every electron is moving very fast you don't feel it but

[23:49]it's moving every cell in your body is moving every neuron in

[23:52]your brain is moving there's motion around us in the entire universe

[23:56]when something has motion you can ask where did it start from

[24:04]who said it in motion who made it who gave it this

[24:11]physical capacity who created these neutrons who created these protons but when

[24:16]something is not made up of matter when something is above space

[24:22]and time it's above time it doesn't have a beginning for you

[24:29]to ask who made it because when something has time it has

[24:33]a beginning when something is above time it has no beginning if

[24:35]it has no beginning it's there it's always there it has no

[24:38]beginning it doesn't need a beginning for someone to make it that's

[24:43]one way to address this doubt I know it's complex and we

[24:46]have difficulty grasping that because Allah is beyond our mental capacity he's

[24:51]infinite don't think you can ever grasp Infinity because we're finites we're

[24:56]Limited but that's one way to address it so if you have

[25:01]these doubts always assure yourself no I'm a moment I'm a believer

[25:04]I'm fine I'm okay sometimes someone will call me as I said

[25:07]and he's panicking say it I committed what do I do and

[25:12]then someone was panicking I think I may have doubted Allah I'm

[25:16]not sure if what I said or what I did constituted kufur

[25:22]the best way to address that is by saying to yourself no

[25:26]I'm a motman I'm a Believer and I would never doubt I

[25:31]would never lose my faith speak to yourself like that and ignore

[25:34]such doubts because they will truly burden you that was the beautiful

[25:39]method of the prophet sallallahu alaihi he tells him he tells him

[25:43]you have Solid Faith the fact that you're concerned the fact that

[25:48]you care many people many people have doubts about doubting God about

[25:54]losing their faith always tell yourself tell shaytan I have Solid Faith

[25:58]don't think you could mess with me yes maybe I had some

[26:00]thoughts here and there but I'm a Mormon and don't obsess over

[26:05]the past obsessing over the past as destructive now for those who

[26:09]are struggling with OCD in terms of your ibada in terms of

[26:13]your acts of worship in terms of just negative thoughts bombarding you

[26:15]sometimes you just have negative thoughts once a brother told me say

[26:21]it I always have evil thoughts in my mind I can't help

[26:23]it I'm trying to sleep and my mind just gives me these

[26:28]evil thoughts about people about life how can I overcome that do

[26:33]we have anything effective yes I will share with you some recommendations

[26:36]from the bait peace be upon them in dealing with such doubts

[26:40]for instance in one Hadith teaches us to say the following and

[26:49]it's very effective when you say this take a deep breath be

[26:52]in a relaxed State and say it Allah say this it's extremely

[27:05]effective in fighting OCD in removing these negative doubts from your mind

[27:10]I have shared these recommendations with my friends who have struggled with

[27:14]these thoughts and they have found them to be extremely effective because

[27:18]they're from the imams of el debate and another Hadith the Prophet

[27:24]Muhammad he says say the following Allah will protect you I seek

[27:44]refuge in Allah from the Devils who might be present in Allah

[27:52]this is the second statement the third one from Imam he gives

[27:57]it to kumain he tells him if you feel the shaytan is

[28:06]whispering in your heart say the following foreign memorize this this will

[28:30]be recorded you can later refer to the recording and read these

[28:34]duas where you seek refuge in Allah these words are extremely powerful

[28:42]o Allah I seek refuge in you to protect me from these

[28:44]thoughts to protect me from the shaytan say it take a deep

[28:49]breath and say it it's extremely effective another recommendation from the bait

[28:54]is to watch your diet you know your diet affects your OCD

[28:57]and there are some foods that are highly recommended to help with

[29:01]OCD one of them is Roman pomegranate the Hadith States eat pomegranate

[29:08]first thing while you're fasting let's say the month of Ramadan is

[29:11]over and first thing in the morning before you have any breakfast

[29:14]eat a full pomegranate full the Hadith states don't leave a Single

[29:19]Seed a single grain eat all of it Allah has put the

[29:23]power of healing in the pomegranate this helps you with negative thoughts

[29:28]with OCD another thing that helps you with OCD and this is

[29:35]extremely effective I've shared it with some brothers the Hadith States wash

[29:40]your head with cedar water you know that comes from the loc

[29:48]tree basically they make it into a powder and it's one of

[29:52]the three Washings that the deceased has to be washed with so

[29:54]you can approach any Masjid that they do the Texas they wash

[29:59]the dead you can ask them for some powder of that siddle

[30:03]the Hadith States if you wash your head with cedar water Allah

[30:07]will help you overcome OCD and negative thoughts try it these are

[30:12]extremely extremely effective my dear brothers and sisters so these are two

[30:16]areas that have to do with our religion but then we've got

[30:20]two other areas that are important they affect our daily life people

[30:26]who are perfectionists everything has to be perfect right it's a classic

[30:31]example that you have between a husband and a wife for instance

[30:34]the wife is so neat everything has to be perfectly arranged and

[30:40]the husband may not be at the same level he's on a

[30:44]different wavelength and you have them constantly fighting I know I know

[30:50]people who have divorced because of this issue because the wife couldn't

[30:56]stand it the husband is not that organized and years and years

[31:00]they couldn't come to some agreement or understanding about this finally they

[31:05]got divorced sometimes it could lead to divorce it could lead to

[31:08]frustration it could lead to anxiety sometimes we become obsessed with it

[31:13]it's good to be in need it's good to be organized in

[31:17]your life but don't let it become an obsession it's okay it's

[31:23]fine which is more important that object on the table or your

[31:28]husband your wife your parent which is more important to you a

[31:31]woman has to be flexible okay I know I'd like my living

[31:34]room in this way that's fine but if others are not necessarily

[31:39]complying don't make an issue out of it every single day and

[31:44]every single time is it worth it or no it's costing you

[31:48]so much energy to fight with all these people around you sometimes

[31:52]we have to be flexible and you know I think in our

[31:57]modern times we do have an obsession with what even cleanliness means

[32:00]for instance the turab the sand outside or the dirt of the

[32:06]ground do you consider that dirty or no if there is some

[32:12]sand on your let's say pants there is Torah there is dust

[32:15]there's soil on your clothes do you consider that dirty yes we

[32:21]consider that very dirty like we can't stand a grain of it

[32:26]but According to Islamic law and even according to science that is

[32:32]not dirty are dirty the Earth is not dirty Habibi you're created

[32:39]from the earth whom you come to commemorate he used to sleep

[32:42]on the Dust this dust purifies your life for you the water

[32:47]that you drink you know what filters it it's the ground that

[32:51]filters it the water goes through the dust through the Earth through

[32:54]the Torah it filters it for you and that's why we do

[32:55]on the turab why and we do sujood but no no we

[33:01]live in a society today where a little bit of turab gets

[33:04]on me I have OCD and I think I'm dirty that's not

[33:07]considered dirty but it's the way that we live in fact it's

[33:10]healthy sometimes to go barefoot and walk on the Torah there's science

[33:14]behind that it's called the science of grounding there's positive energy in

[33:20]the ground positive electrons that help you even with healing such that

[33:24]some doctors say if you have inflammation in your body just walking

[33:27]walking on the bare ground helps you with that so let's not

[33:34]obsess too much about these issues it's okay and then we have

[33:41]another dimension that's paranoia people who are paranoid everyone out there is

[33:45]plotting against me everyone out there is to bring me down everyone

[33:49]is jealous of me we sometimes go through these stages of paranoia

[33:54]one effective way to treat paranoia is to find two three friends

[34:01]I mean there's got to be two three people on Earth who

[34:05]are sound and rational and they don't hate you find three people

[34:09]that you don't think they hate you and tell them evaluate me

[34:13]sometimes you need feedback my dear brothers and sisters tell them look

[34:19]I feel like everyone's against me in my family am I being

[34:23]realistic show them the evidence write the evidence people who are paranoid

[34:27]you write it go and get a diary and say why this

[34:29]person hates me why this person wants to bring me down and

[34:33]write the evidence here's the evidence many times you will not be

[34:36]able to find evidence for that it's just an illusion it's paranoia

[34:41]you met you need to make sure that there is evidence that

[34:45]something is wrong people are there after you and always have feedback

[34:50]ask people to give you feedback people whom you trust tell them

[34:55]am I being reasonable with my concerns or am I taking it

[34:58]too much if enough people tell you you're taking it too far

[35:02]then you need to step back and realize this is not normal

[35:05]you're ruining your life and ruining the life of those around you

[35:07]this is extremely important the second treatment when it comes to paranoia

[35:13]people who are scared constantly people who are scared of the unknown

[35:20]Embrace what you do not know embrace your fear even psychologists they

[35:27]give this advice States if you fear something fall in it for

[35:34]instance you have an obsession let's say with something that's going to

[35:40]be contaminated you have an obsession with your hand you're paranoid about

[35:43]something go an embrace me embrace it tell yourself what's going to

[35:48]happen what's going to happen if I don't wash my hands 10

[35:52]10 times 20 times before sleeping what's going to happen challenge yourself

[35:56]I'll wash it one time tonight let's see tomorrow am I going

[35:58]to get sick or not challenge yourself if I don't put 10

[36:03]locks on the door what's going to happen you have to challenge

[36:06]yourself sometimes when you have these unfounded fears and the third one

[36:11]if anyone's paranoid people are people are there out in society to

[36:17]bring me down my cousins my friends and you don't feel safe

[36:21]remember you have Allah as your protector every single day say hola

[36:26]maybe there are people out there trying to bring me down but

[36:29]I have you you're my wakil Allah as great as he is

[36:36]he calls himself you know what joaquil means an agent who does

[36:40]things on your behalf you have a company you have agents working

[36:43]for you Allah says I'm your agent I'll take care of you

[36:49]imagine having Allah as your agent he's not going to protect you

[36:52]he's not going to take care of you every day remind yourself

[36:57]okay fine I have enemies in society but I have Allah I

[37:00]have Elevate on my side this allows you to be more realistic

[37:05]and more positive it has been reported that there was a farmer

[37:09]it's the story of the Rari and the kavi it's a very

[37:16]interesting story this farmer this Shepherd had a beautiful reputation in his

[37:21]village everyone knew him he was very kind he was extremely generous

[37:23]now the kavi the judge who worked for the king he was

[37:29]extremely jealous of him this Shepherd he doesn't have the political status

[37:36]that I have and people respect him more than me it's impossible

[37:42]I cannot accept that some people are jealous they cannot stand the

[37:46]success of other people so this judge he put in all of

[37:53]his effort to ruin the life of the shepherd he comes up

[37:57]he concocts a story a plot to accuse him of a crime

[38:04]falsely they go to the king they tell him look this farmer

[38:06]this right this Shepherd has committed this crime and he needs to

[38:11]be punished the king said fine let's have him executed now he's

[38:16]in jail waiting for his execution but he's innocent he's never done

[38:20]anything wrong in his life before his execution his mother comes to

[38:25]the king she tells him oh King you're a generous man ask

[38:30]anyone in society about my son they will tell you that he's

[38:35]innocent he's a good son he would never harm anyone please pardon

[38:40]the king feels bad he says okay I have a suggestion here

[38:45]this is his only way out we'll bring him and we'll have

[38:51]two pieces of paper and He will draw one of them in

[38:54]one of those two pieces of paper we will write execute him

[38:59]and the second piece of paper we'll write do not execute him

[39:04]and we'll have him draw one of them it's him and his

[39:06]luck if he chooses do not execute we'll save him I'll pardon

[39:13]him if he chooses execute he's gone she says okay at least

[39:19]she found one hope she went to her son she told him

[39:25]my dear son they are giving you a final chance let's go

[39:29]he submits his heart to Allah and he says oh Allah I

[39:35]Turn to You with Muhammad and Al Muhammad and I ask you

[39:41]to save me Allah don't ever underestimate the power of your Dua

[39:44]even if you're stuck you have a lord who's there don't worry

[39:48]they bring him to the trial now who is given the task

[39:54]of writing those two pieces of paper the judge the khabib judge

[39:58]the evil judge and you know what he did he's like I

[40:03]need to eliminate this guy no chance we need to get him

[40:06]executed so both of the papers what did you write execute so

[40:10]anyone that he's going to choose is going to get executed so

[40:14]they put the two pieces of paper in front of him in

[40:19]that moment Allah inspires him he just feels a calling in his

[40:22]heart he takes one of the pieces of paper instead of opening

[40:27]it he eats it yes he swallows it they tell him what

[40:30]are you doing the people are watching it's a whole trial what

[40:33]did you do he said I ate my fate I ate my

[40:38]decree fine what are you going to do about it when he

[40:42]saw that the judge is like okay case dismissed we cannot continue

[40:47]like that the king said no no let's continue he ate that

[40:51]piece of paper whatever he ate is what he drew so let's

[40:55]stick to the trial The Godly the judge says but how do

[41:00]we know what he ate he swallowed it the king said it's

[41:03]very simple let's look at the other piece of paper if the

[41:06]other people piece of paper says execute that means which one did

[41:11]he eat don't execute so we'll free him and if the other

[41:17]piece of paper says don't execute we know that he ate the

[41:20]other paper which says execute very simple here the judge knew Allah

[41:24]foiled his plot now he wrote both of them execute so when

[41:29]they opened that paper execute the king said he must have eaten

[41:34]which one do not execute and the judge of course is not

[41:38]going to admit that he made this plot and that's how Allah

[41:44]saved you always have Allah on your side my dear brothers and

[41:47]sisters regardless of any situation that you go through if you feel

[41:50]paranoid with your life say Allah I submit my case to you

[41:54]and Allah will never fail you [Music] foreign foreign [Music] foreign [Music]

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