How Can I Achieve Happiness? - Sayed Mohammad Baqer Qazwini | MYC

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[0:01][Music] my [Music] [Music] i begin in the name of the almighty

[4:18]god the compassionate the merciful the one who has created everything in

[4:21]utmost perfection and may the peace and blessings of the almighty god

[4:28]be upon his pure and beloved messenger the peak of his creation

[4:34]the symbol of humanity the holy prophet muhammad sallallahu alaihi and his

[4:48]immaculate progeny of the bait peace be upon them especially the leader

[4:54]of our time the awaited savior may allah hasten his reappearance and

[5:03]make us all amongst his sincere and dedicated servants respected brothers and

[5:10]sisters i sincerely welcome you to our program this evening as we

[5:23]discuss something that has become more and more elusive in our times

[5:29]and that is how to find happiness it seems as societies get

[5:37]richer and richer and the more we achieve technological advancements the less

[5:46]happy we are becoming happiness is becoming more and more elusive many

[5:54]scientific studies have shown that our modern generations are struggling to find

[6:03]happiness despite having everything available at their disposal many people historically would

[6:15]struggle to simply bring some food to the table to have access

[6:20]to basic level of education just to have the necessities of life

[6:25]many of us alhamdulillah we don't struggle really in these areas but

[6:32]yet it seems more and more difficult for us to achieve happiness

[6:37]so how can we achieve happiness how can we find happiness in

[6:43]our lives today i would like to share with you several important

[6:48]points about achieving happiness and as the program continues we'll have a

[6:52]discussion with you on this very important topic the most important aspect

[7:01]of receiving happiness is to know where happiness comes from oftentimes our

[7:10]society makes us think that happiness comes externally from outside things external

[7:22]things it's the job that's going to make me happy something that's

[7:25]outside of my own life it's the economy that's going to make

[7:32]us happy it's the political situation that's going to make me happy

[7:38]we are constantly searching for external factors to make us happy and

[7:48]that's why we're not that happy because when you're searching for external

[7:53]factors to achieve happiness you put yourself at the mercy of all

[7:59]these factors in reality we enslave ourselves to these factors i enslave

[8:05]myself to this job i think that this job is going to

[8:11]bring me happiness but sometimes i don't feel it it's the economy

[8:17]that's going to bring me happiness it's the political situation it's the

[8:22]social issue that's going to bring me happiness it's the attention that

[8:27]people give me whether in real life or on social media that's

[8:30]going to give me happiness we're constantly searching for these external factors

[8:35]and we tie our faith in terms of happiness to these factors

[8:41]and oftentimes we get disappointed we should never enslave ourselves to external

[8:53]factors in order to achieve happiness happiness my dear brothers and sisters

[8:57]can truly come from within search internally for happiness not externally these

[9:07]external factors you cannot control there are millions of factors around you

[9:14]you cannot control if i'm trying to search happiness in those factors

[9:19]it's a gamble it's a risk it will exhaust you it will

[9:25]end up killing me because i'm always trying to find happiness in

[9:29]these external factors and they're ever changing there's no stability in them

[9:36]internally you can find happiness search for those internal factors to achieve

[9:47]happiness that's something you can achieve that's something you can control and

[9:52]allah refers to this reality in the holy quran we shall show

[10:02]you our signs outside yes the outside world you can't cancel it

[10:08]out you can see the signs of god out there but then

[10:11]waffy and fusa him but you'll see the signs of god in

[10:19]your own selves internally find those factors if you do that you'll

[10:23]achieve happiness if you do that you'll be able to worship allah

[10:26]subhanahu ta'ala properly so it's very important to shift our mindset where

[10:31]do i find happiness from all these external things going around in

[10:38]society or is it from within people who achieve happiness real happiness

[10:45]they achieve that from within from these internal factors that is one

[10:50]of the greatest aspects of happiness that we should know and if

[10:57]we implement it we will not be disappointed now people who are

[11:02]happy are those who do have a clear purpose in life one

[11:06]reason why some people struggle to achieve happiness is because they're not

[11:09]really sure what their purpose is what's your purpose in life what

[11:17]are you trying to achieve what are you serving in this world

[11:20]people who have a clear sense of purpose they feel like they're

[11:27]contributing to humanity they're making a difference they can find happiness but

[11:33]oftentimes i see especially in our younger generation many people struggle to

[11:41]find that purpose because we're so bombarded with all this distraction that

[11:48]goes on in society it's hard for us to find purpose and

[11:56]and in my assessment one of the challenges of social media when

[12:01]you go and spend endless hours on tick tock instagram social media

[12:06]it weakens yourself your your sense of purpose because when you see

[12:12]an endless ocean in front of you you get lost what's my

[12:17]role what should i do should i take this path that path

[12:22]that path you see millions of paths in front of you and

[12:26]it confuses you it causes a lot of confusion when you're finding

[12:34]purpose it's important to avoid these distractions find that purpose then you

[12:40]can go and explore what's out there in the world if you

[12:43]don't have a sense of purpose yet and you try to explore

[12:48]what's happening out there in the world many times it will confuse

[12:53]you and it will affect your mental health find a clear purpose

[12:57]in this world my purpose is to serve my creator allah subhanahu

[13:03]wa ta'ala in this particular way list them education my parents my

[13:12]family helping humanity bless them know what your goal is and make

[13:16]sure that your daily activities support that goal support that purpose because

[13:21]sometimes there's a disconnect sometimes i have a purpose on paper but

[13:25]my daily activities don't reflect that my daily activities don't show that

[13:33]i'm working for that purpose finding purpose is really important when it

[13:38]comes to achieving happiness it's not possible to really achieve happiness without

[13:41]a sense of purpose so today ask yourself is your purpose clear

[13:45]in life the clearest thing in your life should be your purpose

[13:51]if it's not clear i have homework to do i need to

[13:55]clarify what my purpose is when i narrow it down i clarify

[14:02]it that allows me to achieve purpose the third point my dear

[14:06]brothers and sisters when we discuss happiness we often think that happiness

[14:11]is something that you find happiness is a skill it's something that

[14:22]you create not something that you find we're searching we're going here

[14:25]in this alley in this path and that path in this you

[14:28]know opportunity that opportunity to find happiness happiness is not something out

[14:36]there waiting to be discovered and waiting to be found happiness is

[14:39]a skill that you yourself create happy successful people are those who've

[14:46]created their happiness not those who just found happiness because oftentimes when

[14:54]we look at happiness that's our outlook that's our perspective i'm gonna

[15:00]find it one day right i'm gonna find it somewhere in some

[15:05]job maybe in this you know spouse potential spouse i've heard this

[15:11]from a lot of youth the day i get married i'll be

[15:16]happy good luck habibi you always think that happiness is somewhere sitting

[15:20]there like a treasure right we're on this quest for treasure hunting

[15:26]find this box somewhere out there in society that's not how you're

[15:32]going to find happiness you have to create happiness using the tools

[15:36]that allah has given you that solid happiness that's happiness that's going

[15:41]to give you this intense energy throughout your life so it's very

[15:48]important for us to know how happiness is even achieved i have

[15:54]to have an active role in creating happiness not something that i'm

[15:58]going to stumble upon come across in my life now when you

[16:06]look at studies about people who have found happiness there is an

[16:11]interesting harvard study that tells us where people find happiness and how

[16:17]they can create that happiness happiness does not come from money and

[16:21]it does not come from fame there is a harvard study that

[16:27]has demonstrated this so then what gives you happiness if it's not

[16:34]money if it's not fame then what is it any guesses can

[16:40]you say that again peace of mind well yes when you have

[16:45]peace of mind and you can create peace of mind you will

[16:50]get happiness but what is it around you that you can find

[16:54]happiness in and create that happiness yes one of the sisters said

[17:00]something can you say that again being content yes we'll get to

[17:07]that this is one of the recommendations self-satisfaction okay which is a

[17:17]type of contentment yes brother exactly quality of relationships this harvard study

[17:25]showed that money wealth fame is not going to bring you happiness

[17:31]people who are truly happy these people have quality relationships you can

[17:39]find happiness in a relationship not in money not in fame that's

[17:44]the key word here relationships relationships give you happiness they give you

[17:50]an opportunity to create that happiness but now what relationship are we

[17:58]talking about here because these days when you say relationships right what

[18:02]comes to the mind of our youngsters especially teenagers right we have

[18:08]a hollywood image of what a relationship is so when we say

[18:14]relationship what are we talking about give me an example of a

[18:19]quality relationship your family can you expand on that those people who

[18:35]are around you you have a close relationship with them your parents

[18:38]your siblings your family could be your spouse your children you love

[18:42]them you want the best for them you care about them they

[18:46]care about you you have a solid relationship yes that is a

[18:52]quality relationship yes brother relationship with yourself in relation to yourself can

[18:59]you expand on that how do you handle your daily life your

[19:11]habits even your physical well-being like your diet your exercise yes how

[19:17]you treat your own self there's a beautiful passage in bellaga in

[19:23]which the imam alayhi salaam basically tells us why most people are

[19:29]miserable and they don't really find happiness the imam alayhi salaam tells

[19:33]us these people they engage in fraud but who's the object of

[19:42]their fraud their self they defraud their own selves think about that

[19:53]how can you defraud yourself i mean we know how to defraud

[20:00]others well i don't really know how to defraud others but some

[20:02]people know how to defraud others it's a skill some people mashallah

[20:07]their masters in that right so we know how someone can defraud

[20:11]another person in terms of a business business transaction partnership you name

[20:19]it but how do you defraud yourself yes sister excellent example one

[20:42]of the greatest ways by which we defraud ourselves is by living

[20:50]a lie and creating a lie around us and many times we

[20:56]start believing that lie that is a very dangerous situation to be

[21:00]in there are some people that are really out of touch from

[21:06]this reality whether it's just the social world religious world spiritual world

[21:12]it doesn't matter they're out of touch they cannot even sustain a

[21:16]quality relationship it's because they're living a lie and social media unfortunately

[21:21]is not really helpful because it's very easy to create that lie

[21:27]some people create this image of themselves on social media they take

[21:32]that as the ideal when it's not really who they are they

[21:39]live this line they defraud others but they're defrauding themselves to one

[21:45]of the qualities of the believers is to be sad to be

[21:50]truthful with your own self don't lie to yourself be honest with

[21:55]your own self because many times we deceive ourselves believe me we

[22:01]team up with our nafs to deceive ourselves some people shaytan doesn't

[22:09]need to deceive them they're already engaging in self-deception they're defrauding themselves

[22:14]so that is an example of self-fraud any other examples of self-fraud

[22:20]that you would like to share yes sister spending time with the

[22:28]wrong people yes whenever you spend time with the wrong people you

[22:33]are actually defrauding your own nafs you're surrounding yourself with negativity happy

[22:41]people are those who surround themselves with good people with people who

[22:46]create joy and they find joy in life when it comes to

[22:51]simple things not complicated things if you spend time with someone and

[22:57]this person has a habit of creating joy out of simple things

[23:01]in life these people are gold be around them you don't need

[23:10]someone to give you happiness from this complex concoction of this world

[23:13]you don't need that happiness comes from simple things like have you

[23:21]seen some old school people right like maybe a grandma from the

[23:27]village and despite a very simple life she just knew how to

[23:31]create happiness she found joy in just small little things believe me

[23:37]these people know more about happiness than we do with all of

[23:42]our complexity and life advancements and technological sophistication simple things can give

[23:48]you a lot of joy if you can see the joy in

[23:53]them surround yourself with people like that surrounding yourself with bad friends

[23:59]friends who don't know how to create joy how to appreciate what

[24:04]allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given them is a very dangerous way

[24:09]of engaging in self-fraud any other examples of self-fraud that you'd like

[24:14]to share yes brother yes always blaming yourself for everything that's an

[24:24]interesting one there are some people who put the blame on everyone

[24:29]else and then there are some people who blame themselves for everything

[24:34]now we know that we need a balance between these two right

[24:39]there are some things you have to take blame for so you

[24:42]can become responsible and learn from your mistakes so some level of

[24:47]self-blame is actually good it's one of the qualities of the believers

[24:51]that's another dimension of an we have dimensions of the sniffs you

[24:58]have enough that commands you to do wrong and evil but then

[25:05]allah subhanahu ta'ala has countered the sniffs by giving you another faculty

[25:09]of the self which is a nafsin lom in arabic means blame

[25:15]right which means you're blaming me you're blaming others there's a nest

[25:22]that allah has given you to wake you up it's like your

[25:29]conscience which is the self-reproaching soul so some level of self-blame is

[25:33]actually healthy but you blame yourself for the mistakes you committed not

[25:38]for the commit mistakes others committed that's the defining line over here

[25:42]i know there are some people they're overwhelmed mentally they're struggling because

[25:47]whatever bad happens around them they blame themselves that's not healthy you

[25:55]have to see why this event happened if you had nothing to

[26:02]do with it don't blame yourself there was one example of a

[26:08]brother who went through a crisis and because of this crisis he

[26:11]couldn't really financially help his parents and that was killing him to

[26:16]the point of severe depression and even contemplating suicide you know i'm

[26:22]in my late 30s early 40s now my dream was to support

[26:28]my parents and it's a noble goal by the way like his

[26:30]goal in life is just to pay his parents back that's a

[26:36]beautiful goal but because he went through this crisis the guilt was

[26:42]killing him my parents are getting older and i can't pay them

[26:46]back i can't do anything and the person kept blaming himself blaming

[26:50]himself for that i shared with him one aspect of the story

[26:56]of prophet yusuf alaihissalam and that's why the holy quran my dear

[27:00]brothers and sisters is the solution to all of our problems read

[27:04]between the lines of the holy quran when you read a story

[27:10]thousands of lessons can be extracted from that story i told them

[27:16]look at prophet yusuf alaihissalam how long was he separated from his

[27:20]father hadith tell us about 40 years his father would cry day

[27:28]and night till he almost lie lost his eyesight the quran says

[27:32]his eyes became white he had trouble with his vision that hurt

[27:38]yusuf alayhi salaam knowing you're separated from your father you can't do

[27:41]anything for your father you can't help him in any way during

[27:47]those 40 years that hurt but yusuf recognized this is a divine

[27:50]trial allah is trying my parents well his mother wasn't alive but

[27:58]his father allah is trying my father why should i stop that

[28:03]divine trial if god is trying people around you yes have sympathy

[28:09]empathy pray for them but don't feel guilty that's the divine trial

[28:15]that allah is giving to your parents for instance or to someone

[28:19]else and allah loves them by giving them these trials don't feel

[28:28]guilty allah created them he is responsible for them sometimes that excessive

[28:33]you know self-blaming can really affect the mental health of of someone

[28:38]so yes that sometimes could lead to self-fraud any other example of

[28:42]self-fraud you'd like to share yes sister your actions are different from

[28:50]your thoughts yes that is one of the greatest examples of self-fraud

[28:57]when you know something but you don't implement it you're defrauding yourself

[29:05]because you know you know the path to success you know what

[29:09]to do but you're not implementing it it's very dangerous my dear

[29:15]brothers and sisters to know something and not implement it you're better

[29:18]off not knowing it than to know it and not practice it

[29:23]that's why the hadith states the one who grows in knowledge but

[29:29]does not implement his knowledge this person will seek a distance from

[29:38]god this person will be pushed away from god through his knowledge

[29:41]his knowledge was the cause because he had knowledge he did not

[29:44]implement it he defrauded himself this person will experience excessive regret for

[29:52]not practicing what he knows so yes this is an example of

[30:00]self-fraud happy people are those who don't engage in self-fraud they're honest

[30:06]with themselves they're true to themselves and they respect themselves when you

[30:13]have self-respect you're a happy person now you could say but who

[30:20]doesn't respect themselves oh look at our behavior people who have self-respect

[30:27]don't violate the rights of others don't violate their lord they don't

[30:32]they try not to sin they don't take sins lightly they have

[30:36]respect for themselves because they want to maintain the purity of themselves

[30:41]so going back to the quality of relationships when you examine the

[30:47]quality of a relationship yes what you've mentioned family that brings you

[30:55]a lot of happiness but my dear brothers and sisters before the

[30:57]family comes your nephew your relationship with yourself and before your nephew

[31:03]comes your relationship with allah subhanahu ta'ala that is the best quality

[31:10]relationship to have do i feel safe with my lord do i

[31:17]trust allah let me ask you this question has it ever happened

[31:21]to you that you've passed a day a week and you truly

[31:28]truly kept away from sin as best as you can you truly

[31:31]genuinely were good were those with those around you you cared about

[31:34]your salah right you did what a believer should do let's say

[31:40]you did that for a week have you experienced that during those

[31:43]days when you sleep at night you sleep with a sense of

[31:51]peace such that if you're told tomorrow the day of judgment will

[31:55]happen armageddon will happen world war iii will happen doesn't matter it

[32:00]does not matter i'm not moved by that tomorrow the economy is

[32:05]going to crash doesn't affect me because i have my relationship with

[32:12]my lord and i sleep at night knowing i satisfied allah subhanahu

[32:15]wa it doesn't matter what happens externally have you ever experienced that

[32:20]i'm sure you've all experienced that it could be that week of

[32:23]it could be a moment in your life that you really learned

[32:26]something you sleep with peace you don't worry about tomorrow because you've

[32:33]tasted what it means to be good to allah and his laws

[32:37]and how to trust allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that is the best

[32:42]quality relationship you can have that brings you happiness and an extension

[32:47]of that is your relationship with the messenger of god and the

[32:55]albeit how is your relationship with the bait peace be upon them

[32:59]that is an amazing source of happiness i've seen people who have

[33:03]a quality relationship with the bait they feel the presence of bait

[33:09]in every step that they take they talk to the bait they

[33:16]have conversations with the adult bait my grandfather may allah prolong his

[33:19]life and karbara is one of my inspirations i've seen him when

[33:25]he's stuck when something's really causing him stress i've seen him how

[33:30]he goes and speaks to imam hussain the way he speaks to

[33:34]imam hussain i can't pull it off i've seen him going to

[33:39]the shrine he speaks to the imam as if the imam is

[33:41]right next to him he literally feels the presence of the imam

[33:48]he speaks to the imam as if he's just there next to

[33:54]him that's a quality relationship when you have that connection with the

[33:59]imam of your time with abba hussain that gives you immense happiness

[34:04]one of the companions of imam al-hussein was zuhair abner according to

[34:10]many reports zohair abner wasn't on the right path for most of

[34:18]his life even some reports indicate he was manilha you know he

[34:21]was probably one of the supporters of uthman he was not that

[34:23]friendly with the debate when imam hussain salam was on his way

[34:29]to karbala he stopped at a village called zarud imam hussain al-islam

[34:38]was on his way to iraq zuhair abner had just finished the

[34:41]hajj and he was also on his way back going home according

[34:50]to reports he realized that imam hussain was also going to iraq

[34:55]he wanted to avoid imam hussain i don't want to see his

[35:03]caravan because he didn't particularly like imam hussain and he did not

[35:07]want to be involved with his movement whatsoever so for instance if

[35:11]he'd hear that imam hussain is like in a nearby village he's

[35:13]like let's wait a day let him go further and then we'll

[35:19]move to that extent well what happened is in the village of

[35:26]zarud he couldn't avoid camping close to the caravan of imam hussain

[35:30]logistically he couldn't stay behind and he couldn't outpace the imam so

[35:36]on one side you have the tents of zuhair kane he was

[35:42]a leader in his tribe amongst his people on the other side

[35:46]al-imam al-hussein arrives and he camps there imam hussain asks his companions

[35:54]he sees the tents nearby he tells his companions whose tense are

[36:00]these they tell him imam hussain sends a messenger to zuhair go

[36:06]and call him call him to see me the messenger goes into

[36:12]the tent of zuhair nice hussein is calling on you zuhir was

[36:21]eating he was not interested historians say that his face became gloomy

[36:26]oh if i have to go and see him subhanallah he declined

[36:33]he told the messenger i'm busy now his wife heard what happened

[36:41]she was there in the tent she told him zuhair shame on

[36:45]you the grandson of the messenger of god is calling on you

[36:48]at least go see what he wants shame on you this is

[36:52]not how you respond to imam al-hussein that moved him he felt

[36:59]the shame when his wife reminded him of what he was doing

[37:03]my dear brothers and sisters one of the greatest gifts allah can

[37:06]give you in this dunya is a spouse who reminds you of

[37:12]allah a spouse who invites you to goodness i know sometimes some

[37:18]people they're disturbed if their spouse tells them don't cheat your business

[37:22]partner pray on time do this wallahi this is a name that

[37:27]allah has sent you why are you bothered your spouse the closest

[37:30]person to you in your house is teaching you goodness and that

[37:34]bothers you you get defensive why this is a gift see it

[37:39]as a gift from allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that really moved zuhair

[37:46]he said okay i'll go and i'll see abba his companions don't

[37:51]know what happened he comes back and he had erected the tent

[37:57]he basically brings down the tent and he says companions you can

[38:02]go and do whatever you want my wife you can go to

[38:06]your family i am joining what happened to you what happened to

[38:19]you zuhail just moments ago you didn't want to hear the voice

[38:23]of the imam you did not want to fulfill his invitation what

[38:27]happened to you allahu akbar what is this what is saying one

[38:32]meeting with this man who was not friendly with the bait and

[38:36]he changes him that's the noor of hussain one historical report gives

[38:43]us a glimpse of what imam hussain told him imam hussain told

[38:47]him zuhair remember years ago decades ago when you were with salman

[38:57]al-muhammadi and you were in the north caucuses basically there was an

[39:00]area called belenjar today it's close to crimea where there's a lot

[39:06]of action going on there now close to crimea right close to

[39:11]that area zohair along with other muslims they were with salman when

[39:15]they achieved victory over their enemy and they got some good spoils

[39:19]of war they were ecstatic happy you know how a lot of

[39:25]people when they achieve something materialistic they become really happy salman al-muhammadi

[39:31]told them are you happy today they said we are ecstatic we're

[39:36]very happy he told them be happier on a day when you

[39:42]have the opportunity to join the shabbab of al-muhammad when you have

[39:52]the opportunity to join the youth of al-muhammad on a mission be

[39:54]happier imam hussain islam reminded him of that incident he came his

[40:01]face was glowing he found his happiness with imam al-hussein your relationship

[40:07]with the bait is an immense source of joy and happiness in

[40:14]your life so quality relationships my dear brothers and sisters is key

[40:19]to achieving that happiness examine your life do you have those quality

[40:22]relationships people who care about you people who listen to you sometimes

[40:29]we just want someone understanding to listen to us having that is

[40:34]a treasure in your life surround yourself with such people and you

[40:39]also be a good friend to these people that will bring you

[40:44]immense joy in this life so the challenge that we have is

[40:49]we're constantly looking outside for external things to bring us happening or

[40:54]for to bring us happiness or for long-term goals many times you

[40:58]think about your future inshallah one day when i become that doctor

[41:04]that surgeon that engineer that professor that businessman in town who has

[41:10]the best halal restaurant on the block when that happens i'll find

[41:16]joy people who are happy they find joy in their daily activities

[41:22]learn to find joy in your daily activities don't think about ten

[41:27]years from now who cares about tens or ten years from now

[41:30]today you went to school you learned something find joy in that

[41:34]you had a cup of coffee in the morning with your mom

[41:38]before you left find joy in that you got up for salah

[41:42]you spoke to your lord find joy in that find joy in

[41:47]what you do every single day don't think of next week and

[41:52]next month and inshallah in six months i'll be happy a believer

[41:56]never thinks that way and next in eight months i'll be happy

[42:00]when when x happens find joy every single day in simple things

[42:05]around you show gratitude and appreciate what allah has given you that

[42:13]gives you immense joy now as we you know transition towards the

[42:22]end of our program i would like to share with you some

[42:24]words of wisdom from the bait about happiness reading the words of

[42:32]al-bait is nur it brings noor and light to our spiritual heart

[42:37]in this hadith from the imam alaihi salam he states keep company

[42:48]with people who have knowledge are people who know they know how

[42:54]life works they know the dangers of this life they know the

[42:59]tactics of shaytaan they know how to protect yourself from defrauding yourself

[43:06]these are the imam says spend time with them you will find

[43:13]happiness because they'll teach you how to create happiness those people around

[43:18]you examine them do you really learn from them about life if

[43:23]you do keep that friendship but if in those saharas five hours

[43:28]are wasted and i didn't really learn anything that will be a

[43:33]source of regret on the day of judgment so this is one

[43:39]beautiful recommendation from the ahlil bait imam says you shall not really

[43:55]taste happiness the sweetness of happiness unless you taste the bitterness of

[44:00]difficulties many times when we go through a difficulty we lose hope

[44:10]we get angry next time you're faced with a difficulty be happy

[44:16]knowing that when allah lifts the difficulty you'll taste a sweetness you

[44:20]can't get anywhere else a very simple example when it's hot and

[44:29]let's say you've exercised then you're really thirsty just picture that moment

[44:35]you're really really thirsty and then you quench your thirst with that

[44:42]cold cup of water how does that feel how much are you

[44:47]willing to pay just to get that feeling it's amazing isn't it

[44:50]but you could only achieve it through what through thirst or if

[44:56]you really want to enjoy food you have to be hungry one

[44:59]reason why today we don't enjoy our food my dear brothers and

[45:02]sisters is because we're not really hungry right how many times do

[45:07]we eat when you're not really hungry yet because you we we

[45:11]overeat we have so many things to eat believe me your great

[45:15]grandma eating that piece of bread maybe with some yogurt and salt

[45:21]she found more joy in it than all these different foods that

[45:25]you have today because they'd eat when they would be hungry when

[45:29]you're hungry and you eat you you just enjoy it in it

[45:34]at a different level so the imam says it's okay to go

[45:38]through through these difficulties these difficulties give you an opportunity to taste

[45:43]joy to taste happiness it's okay you pulled all-nighters to pass that

[45:49]exam but when you did you feel that happiness you feel that

[45:56]joy difficulty does really generate joy for you don't be sad do

[46:00]not be sad and another beautiful hadith the imam al-isram states if

[46:06]you observe these three you will find happiness number one when a

[46:17]blessing is given to you when you find a new blessing in

[46:22]your life really thank allah from the bottom of your heart thanking

[46:27]allah for blessings brings you joy in your life the second one

[46:35]if financially you're struggling things are not going as planned financially engage

[46:42]in ask allah to forgive you that will give you spiritual joy

[46:46]guarantee try it every single day seventy times a hundred times with

[46:52]a deep breath say esther allah and let your entire body say

[47:01]it your entire body interact with what you say that will bring

[47:05]you a lot of joy and then the imam states and when

[47:11]you go through a difficulty repeat this statement knowingly what it means

[47:20]there's no mind there's no power nothing happens in this universe except

[47:25]by the power of god remember the power of allah he's in

[47:28]charge it's okay i know my life is in shambles right now

[47:32]i don't know what's going on i'm confused i'm lost nothing seems

[47:38]to work it's okay allah sees what you don't see submit your

[47:45]file to him your case to him he'll take care of you

[47:48]that gives you immense joy and happiness we mentioned relationships right in

[47:58]this beautiful hadith he states at that time sometimes people had to

[48:07]take long business trips the imam says finding happiness is when you

[48:12]can do business in your own town in your own area establish

[48:17]relationships in your own community that brings you happiness the second one

[48:24]your friends are righteous people that gives you happiness and to have

[48:33]a helpful child that brings you a great source of happiness children

[48:38]who are helpful towards their parents they bring a lot of joy

[48:44]to their parents let's give that to our parents be as helpful

[48:47]as you can to them lift their burden normally we just increase

[48:52]their burden reduce their burden allah will make you happy and he'll

[48:58]make them happy some of you mentioned contentment this hadith true true

[49:07]happiness is contentment when you're content i'm not constantly trying to pursue

[49:13]something be content with what you have allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will

[49:20]deliver that happiness to you now i'd like to you to briefly

[49:24]in the next few minutes share with me some steps you've taken

[49:28]to achieve happiness how have you found happiness in your life what

[49:32]is something that really gives you joy yes accept accept what happens

[49:41]you know there is one interesting passage the imam thanks god for

[49:52]even the past despite what has happened in the past do you

[49:57]ever think to yourself if i had some sort of superpowers and

[50:02]i can ba travel back in time i'd go and change a

[50:06]lot of things would you like atrocities bad things bad events would

[50:11]you try to go and change them of course like we want

[50:15]to change them right imam ali alayhi salam teaches us no i

[50:18]don't wish to change anything that happened with god's will i don't

[50:25]want to change anything in god's system it's the best system yes

[50:29]i'm saddened for all the atrocities that have happened to humanity but

[50:33]i don't wish to travel back in time and change god's system

[50:37]except the past accept the presence the present right now do good

[50:45]and allah will give you a good future just accept that gives

[50:51]you a lot of happiness brothers anything you'd like to share you

[50:55]know a way that you found happiness yes learning to like how

[51:02]how you look okay so train yourself to accept your looks that's

[51:10]a very important one according to scientific studies who when they have

[51:15]studied the life of teenagers and their mental health and what they're

[51:19]struggling with one of the biggest sources of depression and anxiety and

[51:24]even suicidal thoughts for teenagers is that they're unhappy with their looks

[51:29]and unhappy with their body that removes the joy put them in

[51:37]a palace they're not happy give them a million dollars they're not

[51:39]happy give them the best parents they can't find happiness give them

[51:43]let them go to an ivy league school they can't find happiness

[51:46]because they're not happy with how they look with their looks with

[51:50]their body learn to love the body allah has given you just

[51:58]by remembering that he gave that body to you it's his gift

[52:07]out of billions of bodies allah gave you this body and we

[52:13]claim we love him right and he's the best of planners he

[52:18]gave you this gift if i'm unhappy with my body and i

[52:23]don't train myself to accept it effectively that means i've rejected god's

[52:29]gift but society puts a lot of pressure on us social media

[52:35]puts a lot of pressure on us if you're unhappy with your

[52:41]body the first step you need to take delete all your social

[52:45]media accounts you need a break from tick tock from facebook from

[52:49]instagram believe me you'll do yourself a huge favor just cut it

[52:53]out from your life does no good in fact even people who

[52:59]are satisfied with their looks and their bodies just when they spend

[53:02]two hours on tick tock two hours on instagram they're no longer

[53:04]happy that's one of the destructive aspect of social media allah gave

[53:12]you this gift cherish it doesn't matter what people think about it

[53:18]allah subhana allah gave me this gift and allah doesn't give you

[53:22]a bad gift allah doesn't give you a low quality gift it's

[53:28]your society that's fooling you to think it's low quality but that

[53:34]is one source of unhappiness in the world when you don't accept

[53:38]your body your looks your image your physical image accept it appreciate

[53:44]it allah has given to me it's okay it's a divine gift

[53:47]the king of the universe decided to give it to me so

[53:50]what what this person says what society says what hollywood says i

[53:54]don't care about those people they didn't give me my body god

[53:58]did training to accept it will make you happy any other ways

[54:03]that you've found in your life that gives you happiness yes sister

[54:07]yes when you've achieved a really good deed that gives you a

[54:25]lot of happiness yes see it's good deeds happiness is something you

[54:29]create and yes sister you wanted to share something accepting that there

[54:38]is a hekma there is wisdom behind everything that happens out there

[54:44]everything millions of factors work together in this universe to allow life

[54:49]to continue we don't see what those factors are but allah says

[54:55]them so that goes back to trusting allah there is a hikmah

[54:59]behind these things if allah put you in this family he assigned

[55:01]you to these parents he gave you this level of intelligence there's

[55:06]a heck behind it seeing that wisdom and accepting that wisdom that

[55:10]gives you a lot of happiness my dear brothers and sisters it

[55:14]was an honor to have this discussion with you tonight inshallah we

[55:18]can take some of these steps find happiness in our lives believe

[55:22]me happiness is not hard to achieve it really is not hard

[55:28]to achieve appreciate what allah has given you go back to your

[55:32]family tonight people who've stood by your side people who care about

[55:36]you embrace them love them your parents your children your siblings find

[55:42]that quality relationship in your life that will generate massive amounts of

[55:49]happiness and finally no my dear brothers and sisters a hundred hundred

[55:52]percent happiness is not to be found in this dunya that's for

[55:57]the achara don't always try to chase happiness do what allah wants

[56:03]he'll make you satisfied he'll give you spiritual happiness and then the

[56:06]happiness is there people are always trying to be super super happy

[56:11]in this dunya we were not created in this dunya to be

[56:15]happy super happy the happiness comes when the trial is over the

[56:21]true happiness we're still in the examination hall when you're taking that

[56:27]12-hour tough exam you're happy that you're prepared but you know you're

[56:32]waiting to finish the exam and once you get your results you'll

[56:37]find that true happiness true happiness inshallah will come on the day

[56:42]of judgment for those who pass their exam for those who love

[56:46]god and trust god love allah trust allah he will deliver that

[56:49]happiness to your hearts may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless you was

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