Episode five | Sheikh Muhammad Rashid Al-Sadadi | 12 July 2024

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[0:18][Music] say [Music] Imus did not only go with his family tobala

[0:47]but also his companions and most of them are not directly related

[0:53]to but rather those that have seen the prophet sallallahu alaihi Al

[0:59]wasallam as an example like and some of those that didn't but

[1:04]saw and like mus and also some others that only saw IM

[1:10]Hassan and IM Hussein regardless all of them IM Hussein said about

[1:18]them so I have not seen any companions to anyone that are

[1:25]as sincere and as truthful so I think today is very befitting

[1:29]for us to talk about friendships and the linkage between human beings

[1:34]that is established because of that the human being because of his

[1:37]nature he has to have a social construct around him and whether

[1:43]it be dictated by his Lord or whether it be self-made by

[1:46]humans either way all humans all cultures regardless of the amount of

[1:52]knowledge that they have all of them do have social constructs they

[1:58]have certain marriages as I said before maybe decreed by Allah how

[2:01]to do it and what's the exact wording and what are the

[2:06]roles and responsibilities or sometimes self-made such as many sorts of marriage

[2:11]that weren't and aren't going to be accepted by Allah subhanahu wa

[2:14]taala such as uh same gender marriages for instance it's a social

[2:17]construct that was made up by humans and they set their own

[2:23]rules Etc anyway so all in all social constructs is something that

[2:27]is very important for humans as humans and they count for function

[2:30]without them hence why the Quran and Islam were Keen to talk

[2:37]about how Islam fits into social structures because social structures were there

[2:40]since the dawn of time and Islam only recently was revealed by

[2:45]the prophet Muhammad sallam 15 centuries ago so there has to be

[2:51]some sort of compromise there has to be some sort of linkage

[2:57]between both of uh them and Islam indeed revived many Dead social

[3:02]constructs and removed many Li living ones at that time so that

[3:07]the human life would revolve around Allah subhah wa tala instead of

[3:13]being around lusts and selfish wants so now one of the most

[3:17]important social constructs is that of friendship the Quran even referred to

[3:22]it and it said very very clearly that many of those that

[3:29]would be severely let's say regretful and thereafter are those that befriend

[3:35]bad people so that they would be affected by them and hence

[3:38]will lose their chance into going into heaven it says the Quran

[3:44]I wish I didn't take person X which is fulan in Arabic

[3:50]person X is just fan it's a sort of madeup name that

[3:52]is a placeholder and it's very clear that it's a madeup name

[3:58]uh it's just like Laura meum so that is fulan so we

[4:02]always use it in colloquial phrases and in the way we talk

[4:05]we always use we use fulan for example anyways so I wish

[4:10]I didn't take person X as a friend and then it goes

[4:16]on explaining how that the friends in this world will be Fen

[4:19]the thereafter if their friendship is not built upon Solid Ground of

[4:23]belief in Allah subhah wa tala and also in the solid ground

[4:28]of doing good so sometimes you may befriend someone that is not

[4:31]Muslim but both of you befriend each other for the right reasons

[4:33]this will be a good friendship and it may actually Aid that

[4:36]non-believer into going into heaven that is always a possibility Allah subhana

[4:44]T is all merciful and is all Bountiful so there is no

[4:47]limits to Allah's uh cherishment for his creation so anyways now the

[4:54]verses say that the friends would be foes at the thereafter I

[4:59]can't remember the exact wording of the verse so I won't quote

[5:05]it in Arabic but it says that exactly that everything will change

[5:10]into the realistic form it was uh in the world so in

[5:13]the world you may see a good friendship realistically it is a

[5:17]bad one or vice versa so the truth will be exposed at

[5:20]the thereafter so Islam pays huge attention to befriending others and how

[5:26]to and when to and why to and it also Focus is

[5:31]on the intentions not even that also in marriage you may marry

[5:35]for the right reasons you may marry for the wrong reasons regardless

[5:38]if it is the right person or not so sometimes it's the

[5:41]right person but you married for the wrong reason and so the

[5:46]result will never be correct and will never be truly 100% solid

[5:50]hence why many for example divorces happens uh many feuds between friends

[5:55]happen their friendship if that happens or their let's say um marriage

[6:02]is based on something that is not entirely Godly for instance or

[6:09]it may be sometimes it so this is not always 100% of

[6:11]the case but most of the cases it's the way that the

[6:16]world Works in some cases you do everything right but circumstances Subhan

[6:20]Allah the decree of Allah and the destiny that you're written it

[6:25]just uh let's say overrides anything that is um that you have

[6:30]tried it overrides your effort to establish a good friendship or a

[6:38]good marriage so you can't truly ever look at someone and their

[6:42]relationship with another and judge truly whether it was their fault or

[6:47]not unless it is very very clear that the reasons for example

[6:50]are wrong that's the only case so Islam focused on this area

[6:55]when the reasons are wrong to befriend a person or to marry

[6:58]him because friendship is a marriage of sorts and marriage is a

[7:01]friendship of sorts so these social constructs that have been present since

[7:06]the dawn of time Islam came to regulate the relationship between the

[7:12]two parties so that it will be a bountiful friendship leading to

[7:16]something like the companions of IM hus in which he said that

[7:20]there are no companions to any person other than me on this

[7:24]Earth that had such a good group and so you may ask

[7:28]what about the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam didn't he have good

[7:33]companions around him yes of course he had good companions but also

[7:37]had some very very very bad ones and that is very prevalent

[7:41]from the chapter of the Hypocrites and it says there are from

[7:51]the people of Medina that claim to to love you and to

[7:56]be your friends that are very hypocritical we know them and you

[8:00]do not so essentially what what would in comparison let's say Al

[8:07]IM Hussein sifted through his companions very well to the extent and

[8:12]you may not have heard that before but it is something that

[8:15]is very let's say obvious from looking at the narration betweenus and

[8:20]his friends which is that he actually refused most of the people

[8:28]that came to Aid him for several reasons one reason may be

[8:32]that they have uh for example debts to pay and no one

[8:37]else to pay it for them they have some responsibilities that no

[8:41]no other than them could carry on um and some of them

[8:44]were actually ready to give their riches for Al Hussein to help

[8:49]him in war but he said there was actually this guy I'll

[8:51]just say the narration so a guy came to IM Hussein and

[8:55]told him that I can't go with carala to you but my

[9:00]for my horse is equal to a th horses and uh my

[9:04]sword is equal to a th so take them it may Aid

[9:05]you in war so he said if you don't come we don't

[9:08]need your horse nor your sword and so he's looking for people

[9:13]that are sincere because he knew that that person actually did not

[9:16]want to go out of fear only while the issue of fear

[9:21]actually is something that we need to tap into and see the

[9:24]reasons behind because fear the problem with it is that it is

[9:28]a very strong tool to move people around towards things and away

[9:34]from others towards the Dynasty and away from as an example that

[9:38]happened inala so fear-mongering and the the propaganda that uh the umay

[9:44]had done at that time caused many people to sdes you've heard

[9:47]about Muslim just recently and um I mean of course you've heard

[9:53]about him before but within the lectures um in the previous days

[9:57]you've heard about musl and that he had a strong Army of

[10:02]about 4,000 people and when you're talking about 4,000 people at that

[10:05]time it's not like 4,000 people at this time and you see

[10:07]year by year the amount of humans is exponentially increasing and getting

[10:12]more and more enlarged and and inflated uh to an extent that

[10:20]many of the scientists let's say and the researchers and analysts say

[10:24]that the whole system of the world will implode under its own

[10:28]weight the financial system namely and that maybe we may refer to

[10:32]in in other lectures talking about how riba or um taking let's

[10:38]say um um an amount and percentage extra to the debt uh

[10:43]interest essentially caused the the inflation that we have today anyways so

[10:48]going back to this issue Imus with his friends he sifted them

[10:56]and sifted through them and chose them very carefully so that he

[11:00]will not have except for those that are very very very sincere

[11:03]to him and this comes to show when Zam came to Al

[11:09]IM Hussein and told her I want you to test your companions

[11:12]would they stand with us if push comes to shove or will

[11:16]they run away and flee so then they came they heard her

[11:21]they came and they promised and pledged Allegiance and said if they

[11:25]were to kill us a thousand times and crucify us and then

[11:28]burn us and then throw our ashes all over the world for

[11:33]and then they would do that a thousand times again we would

[11:37]never leave IM Hussein IM Hussein several times within carala he went

[11:42]to his companions telling them that the night has come and it

[11:51]is a veil for you so go and consider it as your

[11:53]ride away from carala and your ticket to freedom and your ticket

[11:59]to living for many years to come after this day so they

[12:02]refused and they said that in the time of Peace we seek

[12:08]you wherever you are how could we leave you in the time

[12:11]of War so now when we befriend people and when we marry

[12:17]people there has to be conditions to this uh marriage or to

[12:20]this friendship to this relation let's call that first of all it

[12:24]needs to be based on Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so it's not

[12:30]only for seeking benefits it's not only to have a good time

[12:37]and pleasure it's not only for you to be someone that has

[12:40]a large amount of people around him but the centerpiece of your

[12:43]relationship needs to be Allah and his Commandments and this will safe

[12:50]keep you from being pulled towards things that you wouldn't peer pressure

[12:54]is a huge thing and the strongest peer pressure is not from

[12:59]siblings it is actually from friends because we always want to accommodate

[13:04]to them and essentially we think and we'd like to think that

[13:08]we each have one personality and we're all uh always just geared

[13:13]toward keeping pace and being in the same lines of our personality

[13:19]that is entirely not true the reality of this is actually that

[13:23]we have a different personality for each certain person that we meet

[13:27]it is involuntary and you see the effects in which you treat

[13:32]people differently sometimes without any reason at all it's just the way

[13:36]you feel about them and so there are let's say sometimes minute

[13:40]sometimes great differences um in your relationship with those that are around

[13:44]you but it is accommodated by uh let's say the way that

[13:47]you got got to know this person the circumstances around that the

[13:53]reasons for it what you have seen from them what they have

[13:55]seen from you previous experiences um your own upbringing that all comes

[14:00]into a weird mix that is wired and then interacted with interactive

[14:05]with um each other you know each part of what I just

[14:09]said it interacts with the other part and formulates then the personality

[14:12]that you meet them and greet them with and the personality that

[14:21]they meet and greet you so regardless of the many personalities that

[14:25]we have friends will always sway us and so there are actually

[14:29]narration that says that say don't befriend someone except if he is

[14:34]better than you in your eyes so that you would benefit from

[14:38]him and he would uplift you towards better levels whether it be

[14:43]um let's say Financial religious any way shape or form and obeying

[14:50]Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in your relation with the others is the

[14:54]greatest part of what formulates a good relationship sometimes we may know

[14:58]what Allah subhana wa tala is asking for from us but we

[15:00]don't necessarily follow suit so following suit in Allah's plan is Paramount

[15:06]so that we would actually live a life free of stress think

[15:12]about the stressful relationships that you are in whether it be a

[15:16]marriage or whether it be a friendship or otherwise think about it

[15:21]and think about this issue is Allah subhah wa ta'ala and the

[15:26]love of Allah and the love of his religion and the following

[15:29]of his Commandments is that or was that the base for this

[15:34]relationship is that relationship governed by religion or is religion out of

[15:38]the equation it's just two minds just constantly communicating with each other

[15:43]and making up plans and enjoying their time so IM Hussein and

[15:51]you you may find this very splendorous and it is he actually

[15:55]seek out some people that didn't know him as well and befriended

[16:01]them and took them for martyrdom to give them the greatest gift

[16:05]of all because being a martyr of the Hussein is something that

[16:09]you couldn't buy with all the money in the world you could

[16:11]only buy it with or with good let's say uh Fortune from

[16:17]Allah subhah wa tala I can't call it luck because luck is

[16:19]based on pure coincidence and we as Muslims we believe in destiny

[16:25]not coincidence even let's say you walking out and then having a

[16:29]good or a bad thing good thing like meeting a friend bad

[16:33]thing like having an incident to your car God forbid that is

[16:38]all from what what Allah subhah wa T has written upon you

[16:41]in Fai so Al IM Hussein for instance went to wahab which

[16:48]was a Christian at time and wahab was living actually in the

[16:52]deserts with his mother and with his wife so when im Hussein

[16:55]went to him when he actually went went to call him into

[17:01]the ranks of the martyrs of carala the greatest Martyrs of all

[17:04]time he went and he didn't see him but he saw his

[17:11]mother so he told her if your son returns back tell him

[17:16]that the son of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaih wasallam called Hussein

[17:18]came for him and we will be in such and such place

[17:22]so he left and when Imam Hussein went there was a miracle

[17:28]which was that the ground turned from B desert into Lush greens

[17:32]and that was something that they were all astonished from so because

[17:36]of that when wahab returned he actually didn't know where his house

[17:41]was there were even Springs of water to Spring out of the

[17:44]earth just because of the coming of the of Al IM Hussein

[17:49]so when he went to his mom she said oh son there

[17:50]was a person that carries the hugest resemblance to Isa Jesus and

[17:56]when he came the ground FL flourished under him and the water

[18:02]sprung and he said that he wants you with him and he's

[18:07]in such such place so he said Subhan Allah I need to

[18:12]go right now and I will go with him and get martyred

[18:16]with him he knew just basic knowledge regarding Hussein this may be

[18:20]the first meet between them two but he knew what im Hussein

[18:22]stands up for and not only did he go but he took

[18:27]his mother and he took his wife and they went with the

[18:32]Caravan um from the place that they were in until close to

[18:35]kufa then to carala then to the 11th and then back to

[18:40]al- Medina and Al IM Hussein several times would talk to his

[18:43]mother or his wife or or talk to wahab himself and telling

[18:48]them about the great Bounty that Allah subhana tala has hid for

[18:52]them and they of course became Muslim they reverted and after that

[18:56]he was martyred in carala and his mother was actually very happy

[19:00]that that had happened this is the caliber that IM Hussein was

[19:05]looking for in those that are going to be his companions and

[19:10]so choosing a companion choosing a spouse choosing someone that is close

[19:17]to you shouldn't be taken lightly if it is going to be

[19:19]taken lightly then the result of that is that we will be

[19:21]forever restless and as I said think of the bad relationships that

[19:27]you have the toxic relationships that you have and you'd see that

[19:30]Allah subhana T does not accept them especially toxic relationships uh Imam

[19:35]Ali peace be upon him has said that love whoever you want

[19:42]and you will be his slave this is a metaphor because slaves

[19:45]do exactly what their masters want except uh and if they don't

[19:51]do that then they will be severely punished um and that is

[19:55]a general thing that slaves were subjugated to in Arabia and also

[19:59]around the world before Islam read Arabia and read uh the Muslims

[20:05]from slavery so he says this so if you love someone you

[20:10]are handing him the keys to your heart they could either help

[20:16]it FL flourish or poison it until it dies so my advice

[20:20]my true advice if someone is passing through something like that whether

[20:24]it be with his child I mean there is no let's say

[20:31]connection and true um let's say kin between a son and his

[20:34]mother or father they have to deal with this as soon as

[20:38]possible even by going to Specialists like um a relationship for example

[20:43]C uh counselers or you know things like that but any way

[20:47]and shape and form of a solution would be plausible and acceptable

[20:52]as long as it abides by the rings of Allah subhah wa

[20:54]ta'ala so one must Tred as much as possible especially if the

[21:00]problem between him and the other person is a a blood relation

[21:03]and and there is a problem even though that then this needs

[21:06]to be fixed but if it is not a blood relation then

[21:10]there are many friendships that we're really much better off cutting out

[21:14]and there are many spouses that will never ever come to terms

[21:21]I mean going to marriage counseling is excellent and them trying to

[21:25]resolve it between themselves is excellent however there are some marri that

[21:31]are doomed and the only thing that is standing between the breakage

[21:34]of the bond is the actual acceptance of the two parties that

[21:40]we can't ever make this work so Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala not

[21:44]only tells us that we must maintain a good relation with others

[21:47]but also a good relation with self so we can't always be

[21:52]the ones to be the down uh let's say the the the

[21:54]the lower part of the relationship and the part that is always

[21:59]noten listen to the part that always doesn't get a word in

[22:02]or doesn't get um his wants supplied and actually the worst sort

[22:10]of relationship ever is the relationship in which you are always giving

[22:14]and never receiving always giving love giving attention giving peace giving but

[22:19]you're receiving problems um the other way this could never be salvaged

[22:25]and almost 99.99% of these sorts of relationship are doomed look for

[22:32]example at soad had a choice to join yazid or not and

[22:39]he actually was reluctant believe it or not to go because he

[22:42]knows who Al Hussein is he's a good guy why would I

[22:43]fight him even bad guys you know people as pure as husse

[22:48]they wouldn't want to fight them so he said um he's was

[22:55]contemplating between himself um let me remember it so promised him that

[23:12]he will give him government ship of R which is an area

[23:14]between Iraq and current Day Iran and that was enough for him

[23:22]to contemplate actually fighting hus but then he went you know like

[23:28]head first into the fight and and you know was very terrible

[23:30]at treating Al Hussein so he's not a good guy at all

[23:35]he's a really bad guy so he befriended yazid and yazid befriended

[23:38]him only to kill Al Hussein and he befriended Hussein sorry and

[23:42]he befriended yazid only to get the government ship of Ray and

[23:47]the result that after he killed Hussein yazid did not give him

[23:50]Ray and he fell badly away from yazid and and their friendship

[23:56]and their relation broke entirely so if you look at carala it

[24:00]gives you a good example of both parties I imagine in these

[24:04]nights that the companions of Al IM Hussein would come to him

[24:11]consoling him and telling him oh Hussein we will forever be with

[24:18]you for you are the daughter for you are the son of

[24:21]the daughter of our savior Muhammed and when went to her brother

[24:35]telling him oh Hussein please ask your companions if they would stand

[24:41]with us or leave us when they attack us so then El

[24:47]Hussein called upon those that are aiding him from his companions and

[24:55]he told them and so they said oh Hussein we will forever

[25:06]be with you so take us as a sword you take to

[25:09]battle and indeed those companions went and they attacked the enemies until

[25:21]no one was left from them so imagine Al Hussein calling upon

[25:31]them and telling them oh Lions of the battle oh Spears of

[25:41]my fight why do I call upon you and you don't reply

[25:44]did Death stop between me and you if that's the case then

[25:57]imag with no companion around him and only his family members remain

[26:12]remembering Habib z b and all those that aided [Music] alusin and

[26:27]in one situation when John the slave was martyred or about to

[26:39]be martyred and Hussein came to him and told [Applause] him and

[26:46]so he said [Music] so he said oh Hussein have intercedes between

[27:10]me and Allah so he so Hussein cried and bent over him

[27:20]looking at him as a body that is slashed from head to

[27:23]toe with wounds gushing all around and he put his cheek upon

[27:32]his cheek and said oh Allah have mercy on your slave that

[27:37]has aided me in my battle Grant him J and so John

[27:43]passed [Applause] away for

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