Can Anger Be A Positive Emotion?! - Sayed Mohammed Baqer Al-Qazwini

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Al-Rasoul Islamic Society
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Anger is a very powerful emotional state that can possibly lead to regretful decisions and detrimental consequences, yet can also be of great benefit and help in certain circumstances. In this lecture, Sayed Mohammed Baqer Al-Qazwini examines various triggers of Anger whilst distinguishing it into two separate mediums, the first being justified/positive anger in instances were rights are being defended and red lines are drawn against immoralities, and the second being unjustified anger which arises from a multitude of factors such as ignorance, jealousy, arrogance in addition to contemporary phenomenons like social media. Verse of The Discussion: “And those who avoid the major sins and immoralities, and when they are angry, they forgive” - Surat Al-Shura, Verse 37 ______________________________________________________________ Al-Rasoul Islamic Society | The Month of Ramadan 1437 - 2016

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[0:06]audhu billahi min as-shaytan ar-rajim bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim I began in the

[0:14]name of the Almighty God the compassionate the merciful the one who

[0:19]has created everything an utmost perfection and may the peace and blessings

[0:25]of the Almighty God be upon his pure and beloved messenger the

[0:32]best of his creation the symbol of humanity the holy prophet muhammad

[0:42]sallallahu alayhe wa ala and may God's peace and blessings be upon

[0:47]the pure household of the al-bayt especially the leader of our time

[0:51]the awaited savior and imam and melody a general out to Allah

[1:00]for Allah may Allah hastened his reappearance and make us all amongst

[1:05]us sincere and dedicated servants Allah subhana WA Ta'ala states in the

[1:10]Holy Quran bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim Y Adama habibu home yell firoun whenever

[1:19]they get angry they are enraged they cover and suppress that anger

[1:26]they forgive sadaqa allahu al aliyyil azim illuminate your hearts and minds

[1:35]with a very loud Salah wat one of the miracles that we

[1:41]find in our lives which no atheist can explain no Darwinian evolution

[1:50]can explain as the emotions that we have they are truly one

[1:55]of the miraculous aspects of our lives now some of those atheists

[1:59]will tell you no we can explain them because emotions are simply

[2:04]chemical reactions in the brain yes when we have emotions when one

[2:11]of our emotions is active it is coupled with chemical reactions in

[2:19]the brain but that's not what an emotion is love is not

[2:25]simply a reaction in the brain The effect of love for example

[2:28]is the reaction that we see in the brain otherwise show me

[2:35]love under the microscope show me it using any device any medical

[2:39]device that you have we can see the effects of love the

[2:42]effects of fear the effects of anger but you cannot see love

[2:50]itself you see the effects of these emotions and truly one of

[2:54]the miracles of our lives are these emotions that we have imagine

[3:00]your life without emotions we would simply be intelligent robots how boring

[3:07]life would be how dull life would be these emotions animate our

[3:12]lives they allow us to taste life all these emotions that we

[3:25]have love hate sadness fear joy embarrassment shame all these emotions actually

[3:30]animate our lives and they deliver energy to our lives now the

[3:40]most powerful of all emotions is the power of anger or as

[3:44]the scholars of ethics call it the power of rage it's an

[3:54]extremely powerful emotion that we have and this emotion creates a lot

[3:59]of drama in our lives you know most people they enjoy seeing

[4:03]other people getting angry seeing clips of people getting ticked off getting

[4:10]agitated you see people they find joy in looking at celebrities who

[4:17]are annoyed by those paparazzi's and they see their reactions it's fun

[4:24]for most people it's entertaining or you see that news anchor reacting

[4:27]with anger or you see that politician who when he was faced

[4:34]with a difficult question or an embarrassing question he gets angry and

[4:40]he shows that anger anger creates a lot of drama in our

[4:44]lives so what's the science behind anger what happens when a person

[4:49]gets angry you have the surge of adrenaline in the body every

[4:56]part of the body that starts with the brain this rush of

[5:05]energy in the bra in the body for example one of these

[5:08]signs of anger is that you see the heart starts to beat

[5:14]very fast with energy all of these blood vessels are now filled

[5:19]with blood that's why someone when he or she is angry you

[5:23]can actually see the veins they're about to pop out the eyes

[5:27]redden Subhan Allah the prophet peace be upon him in a beautiful

[5:38]hadith he says and love abou John Martin many beliefs anger rage

[5:42]is a fire from the devil an imam Maharani salam continues this

[5:48]hadith he says tell what I do fear Elvina Adam this fire

[5:54]is lit in the heart of the human being not this physical

[5:58]heart either the figurative heart or the mind because the word heart

[6:04]according to our Islamic literature generally is referring to the mind the

[6:09]Imam says you see this fire which is lit in the heart

[6:16]of the one who's very angry and hence you see the veins

[6:22]full of blood and deficit o daju and you see the eyes

[6:27]becoming red and the Shaitaan has actually entered the body of this

[6:33]human being we see in another hadith in which Imam Ali bin

[6:39]Abi Talib and his salaam actually writes this in letter to harvest

[6:42]and Hamdani one of his companions he tells him o harith and

[6:46]lovable gentl'man judea please beware anger be very cautious because one of

[6:54]the big powerful soldiers of a beliefs is anger it's one of

[7:01]the soldiers that he uses to instigate the human being and to

[7:05]bring him down therefore anger plays a major role in our lives

[7:12]and it's really worth discussing and examining on this evening evening I

[7:17]would like to discuss what is it that triggers our anger what

[7:23]makes us angry why do people get angry and is there good

[7:26]anger or no and what causes unjustified anger tomorrow evening inchaallah will

[7:34]examine the dangers of anger and how to manage one's anger how

[7:38]to control one's anger so what is it that triggers anger scientists

[7:44]tell us that we human beings we have our own way of

[7:51]seeing the world I have my own beliefs my own perspectives I

[7:55]see the world in a certain way now in my way my

[8:04]beliefs my views are challenged that makes me angry because I believe

[8:09]that the natural order of the world has been violated and this

[8:14]actually takes off many people you have certain expectations about this life

[8:20]when these expectations are violated that actually makes you angry anger is

[8:30]a natural emotion that a human being experiences when you find something

[8:35]is not right according to your understanding of how the world is

[8:41]and hence you see this emotion of anger which gives you the

[8:44]energy to try to correct what happened because you believe that your

[8:50]expectations have been violated what's right has been violated you know to

[8:58]just give you a few examples let's say you're playing in a

[9:01]game and the referee sides with the other person with the other

[9:05]side with the other team and you think that's unjust that ticks

[9:11]you off that makes you angry because you have your own beliefs

[9:14]about what justice is and you believe that has been violated or

[9:18]for example if you forget your spouse's birthday you know they say

[9:26]the best way to remember your wife's birthday just forget it once

[9:31]and you'll never forget it again because why why do why she

[9:35]ticked off why is he ticked off because you expect your spouse

[9:39]whom you love whom you're living with not to forget an important

[9:42]date like that or the date of your anniversary when your expectations

[9:50]are violated or not met that makes you angry or sometimes you

[9:53]could be driving on the street on the highway and someone cuts

[9:56]you off you've seen how angry people get because your understanding of

[10:04]how traffic works is that no one should cut you off you

[10:06]know it's stand in line be polite to drive properly when you

[10:10]cut me off that makes me angry and we have so many

[10:16]other examples that we can discuss but the point is I feel

[10:19]my expectations have been violated and that actually makes a lot of

[10:27]people very angry it creates this constant anger in their lives and

[10:32]this emotion which Allah Spinoza Allah has placed in our lives serves

[10:36]purposes we'll discuss why Allah Spanish era has created the power of

[10:40]rage or anger in our lives now you'll find what's interesting is

[10:50]that those events or acts which anger a woman are actually slightly

[10:55]different from what angers a man scientists tell us that usually woman

[11:00]they are angered by the people who are closest to them when

[11:06]they feel that the most people who are closest to them a

[11:12]spouse a family member a very close friend when that person has

[11:16]let you down they're not appreciating what you're doing they're over burdening

[11:22]you with work that actually makes a female very angry whereas when

[11:27]it comes to a male what ticks off a male generally speaking

[11:34]is strangers men they get angry by strangers more than those who

[11:40]are close to them and also objects you know objects they play

[11:43]a major role in ticking us off let me ask you this

[11:46]question which is more likely to happen you're working with that computer

[11:53]it's not working you're working late at night now you're frustrated you're

[11:58]stressed out you feel like punching this computer and many people do

[12:00]by the way most people have once in their lifetime either you

[12:03]know slammed that keyboard or you know that computer now I'll have

[12:10]to allow with these new fast smartphones we don't have to do

[12:13]that anymore but like a few years ago a lot of people

[12:17]did that who is more likely to do that a man or

[12:21]a woman a man is more likely to do that or just

[12:22]you know punching the wall or punching something that's how men express

[12:26]their anger they're ticked off by objects or as females objects don't

[12:32]really tick them off as much as men do and that's very

[12:35]interesting when you see the difference but the difference is between one

[12:37]and women now why is it that a large panel Terada created

[12:43]this power of anger is it really a bad emotion or know

[12:46]tomorrow night we'll discuss the dangers of anger and the last panel

[12:52]to honor one reason why he instilled this emotion in the human

[12:55]being is to test the human being no doubt about that but

[12:58]the power of anger actually serves a very important role in our

[13:06]lives number one it is the power of anger that helps you

[13:09]protect yourself let's say you're at home and this thief breaks in

[13:16]to your house without the power of anger you know what you

[13:21]would do you'd smile to that thief and tell him 12:1 and

[13:24]then was sad and come you're most welcome steal whatever you want

[13:29]what is it that gives you the energy to go and fight

[13:34]the anger the rage how dare you break into my house you're

[13:38]violating my private property or if your family is attacked or if

[13:43]your hometown is attacked your country's attacked your religion is attacked it's

[13:49]the power of Rage that actually gives you the motivation to protect

[13:54]yourself hence one of the qualities of believers it's that they are

[14:00]angered for the right reasons if someone experiences no anger whatsoever realize

[14:06]this person's faith is not complete this person's iman is not complete

[14:11]in one hadith Imam Ali bananatar Abadi said I'm says what cotrona

[14:16]who'd allahi maneuver Falacci Laboon you see the laws of God being

[14:22]constantly broken and violated and you don't even feel that anger you

[14:29]don't feel that rage you don't even care one of the qualities

[14:34]of believers is that they show their concern by feeling that anger

[14:38]by feeling that rage they're unsettled they're disturbed by the injustice that

[14:44]occurs in their society the corruption that occurs in their society the

[14:49]breaking of God's laws that occurs in society that actually enrages them

[14:53]in another hadith I'm Ali bin Abi Talib Ali salon and describing

[14:59]the Holy Prophet peace be upon him he said the Prophet would

[15:02]never get angry for personal reasons we never saw the Prophet getting

[15:07]angry or being disturbed for personal reasons yes when the Haqq the

[15:14]truth would be violated we would see the Prophet enraged we would

[15:20]see the Prophet angered we could detect that he's angry when he

[15:26]sees the truth has been violated and nothing satisfies the Prophet and

[15:31]nothing will calm his until the profit make sure that that truth

[15:36]is triumphant is no longer violated or if there's someone in the

[15:42]community of the Prophet who was oppressed who was harassed the Prophet

[15:47]would get very angry and nothing will calm the anger of the

[15:55]Prophet unless that person gets back his right so the Prophet peace

[15:58]be upon him we see that he used to get become angry

[16:02]for the right cause yes the Prophet had the best of us

[16:04]left no doubt about that but the Prophet peace be upon him

[16:09]would experience anger when he would see the laws of Allah note

[16:11]Allah being broken when he would see all the violence and bloodshed

[16:16]in society all the corruption in society all the acts of injustice

[16:20]in society you know the prophets uncle Hamza and I said I'm

[16:24]saying the Shahada when you look at historical accounts of how he

[16:33]became Muslim how did he become Muslim hamza was about the same

[16:37]age of the Prophet about maybe two years older than the Prophet

[16:40]roughly the same age it was from the same generation of the

[16:47]Prophet history tells us inserts in a hadith that one day the

[16:51]Prophet peace be upon him was in masjid-e-haram praying by the Kaaba

[16:55]the Grand Mosque in Mecca when Abu jahil came and he started

[17:02]cussing at the Prophet and slandering him with the filthiest words using

[17:10]profane language and then they would take the guts of an animal

[17:14]and they would throw it at the Prophet and even one hadith

[17:19]states he placed his feet on the shoulders of a soda nuts

[17:23]Allah Allah you are the Prophet did nothing not a single reaction

[17:28]there was a woman there who witnessed this scene hamza had just

[17:36]come back from hunting he came whenever he used to go out

[17:40]hunting he would come back to Mecca and he would do Tawaf

[17:46]around the Kaaba then he would go home he would come to

[17:49]thank allah subhanaw taala for the sustenance that Allah had given him

[17:54]that day Hamza came back after the hunting session that he had

[18:03]this woman saw him she tells him Oh Abba yah Allah Oh

[18:05]Hamza do you know what happened to your nephew Mohammed today in

[18:13]masjid al-haram he told her no what happened did something happen she's

[18:18]like yes you weren't here to see what abu jahil did you

[18:21]did not see how he slandered at the Holy Prophet peace be

[18:28]upon him how he cussed at the holy prophet salawatullahi Muhammad you

[18:34]did not witness that Oh Hamza and not only did he slander

[18:44]the prophet verbally he even assaulted him physically at this point Hamza

[18:53]becomes extremely furious he becomes angry extremely angry you know what he

[18:58]does he goes into mrs.

[18:58]al Haram he tells him all about Gehenna what is it that

[19:03]she did with my nephew Muhammad today and when he realizes that

[19:05]this actually did happen he takes out a bowl and he strikes

[19:11]about Jen he beats him how dare you do that to Mohammed

[19:16]and then you know what he says he was angry at that

[19:19]point Hamza had not officially become a Muslim yet he hadn't said

[19:25]this Shahada taneous but because he became so angry he told about

[19:29]jihad and everyone in the message' do you know what I also

[19:31]follow Muhammad and the religion of Muhammad I bear witness that there

[19:37]is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of

[19:40]Allah Allah Allah and Imams in the medina Lisl Auman a beautiful

[19:48]hadith he says the anger of jahiliya did not help anyone except

[19:53]Hamza that act of anger actually brought him close to Allah because

[20:00]he became angry for the right reason now Hamza went home according

[20:04]to this hadith and he thought to himself what did I do

[20:07]it was not an easy decision when all of your family all

[20:14]of your tribe all of your city are not believing this man

[20:17]they're not accepting that religion and Hamza was one of the stars

[20:24]of barrage of Benny Hashem he was a warrior he was known

[20:27]for his position in that society he went back to his house

[20:33]as the hadith says he had some regrets what did i do

[20:36]today I said something which I cannot take back I was angry

[20:40]in front of everyone I said I follow the Deen of Muhammad

[20:43]now I'm stuck if I go out and saying you know what

[20:47]I was angry I didn't mean it that doesn't look good for

[20:51]me and it's not good for my nephew either if I stay

[20:52]in this Deen it's problematic so that night he couldn't sleep well

[21:00]the next day he goes to the Prophet peace be upon him

[21:03]he tells him o Muhammad yesterday I got angry and I said

[21:07]that help me please what should I do the Prophet peace be

[21:13]upon him spoke beautiful verses of the Holy Quran as soon as

[21:18]the Prophet mentioned those verses of the Quran Hamza is Salam he

[21:22]felt this inner peace in his heart and he felt the truth

[21:29]penetrating his heart he became so happy and he told him o

[21:32]Muhammad now you have solidified my faith thank you I shall continue

[21:39]on your path and when Hamza became Muslim and he had announced

[21:41]it as Islam this was a turning point in Mecca this encouraged

[21:44]many others to also join the Prophet peace be upon it but

[21:49]it was an act of anger you see it was this emotion

[21:54]that led Hamza to choose the right path and to believe in

[21:56]the oneness of Allah subhanAllah and this same ham says the one

[22:02]who became say the shahada the master of the martyrs during his

[22:05]time as he was killed in the battle of affect so this

[22:11]power of Rage this power of anger actually gives you the motivation

[22:16]to change something in society you know for example when you examine

[22:21]our modern society and the political system and the system of voting

[22:25]what is voting when you think of it voting is an act

[22:31]of public anger it's an expression of public anger that you know

[22:35]what we don't like the way the current government is operating we

[22:40]want someone else we want a change it's a type of expressing

[22:43]your anger your emotions in society and that's why you find people

[22:49]like Trump taking advantage of this emotion how is it that Trump

[22:56]manages to rally all these millions of Americans he creates anger in

[23:01]them he says things which makes them angry these criminals the Mexicans

[23:07]they're destroying your society and every human being has this degree of

[23:13]racism in their heart and someone like Trump he plays on that

[23:17]racism he makes them angry these Muslims they're destroying our country let's

[23:23]ban them you know just today or yesterday unfortunately at a trump

[23:28]rally one of those people at the participating at the rally asked

[23:33]Trump this question he told him you know these women who wear

[23:40]the hijab and they pass through the airport the TSA should stop

[23:43]them from wearing the hijab you see this hateful question and remark

[23:47]you know what Trump said he told him yes yes I understand

[23:52]we're looking into that we're looking into that and he's creating all

[23:57]this anger because he realized that anger works when you make people

[24:02]feel angry and you promised them that you're the one who has

[24:06]the solution then yes you will get a lot of support from

[24:11]them you will get a lot of action from them you can

[24:17]get many of their votes it is this power of anger that

[24:20]actually motivates the human being to do something whether that thing is

[24:23]right or wrong but it gives you that motivation as believers one

[24:29]of the benefits of feeling the power of rage and anger is

[24:34]for you to volunteer and help others in society when you see

[24:38]orphans around the world when you see charity projects in your community

[24:42]volunteer help those who are victimized those who are suffering it's actually

[24:50]the power of anger the power of Rage that helps you now

[24:55]when you do this for the sake of allah subhanho to ana

[24:58]the reward is amazing the one who really gets angry not for

[25:03]his personal reasons but for the sake of allah subhana wa ta'ala

[25:06]and one hadith moosa audience and i'm said o allah who is

[25:12]your family which you shall shade on the day of judgment under

[25:16]your throne Tata Valley our Sheikh Allah subhana Allah says those will

[25:23]become angry for my sake I shall shade them on the day

[25:32]of judgment under the shade of my throne hence one of the

[25:35]qualities of the believers is to be angry for the right reason

[25:41]for the right purpose and one of the tools that we have

[25:44]at our disposal is social media you know social media has been

[25:52]studied by many scientists and they tell you that the fastest emotion

[25:57]which spreads on social media is anger you tweet something you post

[26:03]something which really awakens the conscience of people there's an act of

[26:09]injustice that happened for example you write about that you tweet about

[26:13]that this immediately spreads anger amongst people and it elicits their actions

[26:19]and their reactions now people are motivated to do something therefore we

[26:23]need to use these tools to spread angle for the right cause

[26:28]if the rights of Allah are being violated if the poor are

[26:31]being violated the innocent people are being violated we have to talk

[26:39]about these issues using social media and that's a great way to

[26:43]spread awareness and to arouse people's emotions so they can do something

[26:47]so they can come out and use the energy from their power

[26:52]of rage from their power of anger for the right cause one

[26:56]of the other benefits of the power of Rage is that sometimes

[27:04]you could use it to balance other powers that you have because

[27:08]our soul has several powers one of them is the power of

[27:10]rage or anger another one is the power of desire sometimes when

[27:18]the human being is so submerged in his desires living the life

[27:23]of an animal use the power of rage to create that indignation

[27:28]in yourself that shame that embarrassment am i this low feel angry

[27:35]about that and use the power of anger to suppress the power

[27:41]of desire this is very effective a believer when he sees that

[27:45]he's submerged in these desires and committing these sins he should use

[27:50]he should train himself to feel angry about that it's this power

[27:54]of anger that will stop your power of desire it will draw

[28:00]a red line for the power of desire and that's a wonderful

[28:03]way in which we can keep ourselves in check so we see

[28:10]that the power of rage or the power of anger serves a

[28:12]noble purpose for all these reasons Allah subhana WA Ta'ala has created

[28:18]this emotion in us it motivates us it gives us the energy

[28:25]now to the contrary on the other side we have unjustified anger

[28:29]Jai anger that is not justified what is the source of unjustified

[28:34]anger why is it that people get angry for the wrong reasons

[28:39]one hadith beautifully says baa-baa or jihad at sera Ln love up

[28:49]frequently hot the first reason is ignorance Jen when you don't know

[28:53]what's going on many people they think they know exactly what's going

[28:57]on and they can see everyone's perspective they can place themselves in

[29:02]everyone's shoes and then they miscalculate they don't understand what's going on

[29:08]and that makes them angry the first step towards protecting yourself from

[29:13]unjustified anger as knowledge is awareness know what's going on because when

[29:19]you have no clue what the conditions of your society are what

[29:22]the people are going through then obviously you will get angry for

[29:29]the wrong reasons you know they say one day there was a

[29:33]boss who owned a factory every few months he would go and

[29:37]stop by just to see how the workers were doing now obviously

[29:40]he didn't know everyone working in that Factory you had hundreds of

[29:43]people working there so he goes in the factory and he sees

[29:48]one young man laid-back leaning on the wall just looking not doing

[29:54]any work he becomes extremely angry he goes up to him he

[29:58]tells him young man how much is your salary how much are

[30:02]you getting in this Factory how much is the manager giving you

[30:05]he told him five hundred dollars he takes out five hundred dollars

[30:12]he gives it to him he tells him here leave I don't

[30:13]want to see you again he fired him because he realized that

[30:18]he wasn't doing work the young man without objecting he took the

[30:22]money and just he left quickly then he looked at all the

[30:27]other workers he told them see this is what I will do

[30:29]to you if you don't work everyone should be serious I don't

[30:33]want to see anyone wasting time they told him mister boss do

[30:36]you know who that person was he says yeah woodsey is just

[30:42]a worker they said no that was the pizza delivery boy you

[30:44]just gave him five hundred bucks and he left ignorant sometimes when

[30:50]you don't know what's going on if or you ask before you

[30:56]investigate it will make you angry for the wrong reason then you'll

[30:59]be regretful so number one stop the ignorance it's the best way

[31:04]to protect you from unwarranted anger and hence we have studies that

[31:11]reveal the more educated a person becomes the more they are able

[31:15]to suppress their anger and be angry for the right reasons it's

[31:19]the uneducated people who usually become angry very quickly that's number one

[31:25]number two we have a beautiful hadith from prophet ISA he is

[31:32]Sarah as he was once asked what is it that triggers anger

[31:35]unjustified anger what causes it Prophet Esaias said I've said arrogance and

[31:42]belittling other people you'll find that arrogant people usually react very quickly

[31:48]they get angry very quickly if I'm a person who's struggling with

[31:56]anger problems ask yourself what are the underlying causes of this anger

[32:00]is it because I'm arrogant is it because I have a big

[32:04]ego is it because I'm belittling other people treat that and you'll

[32:08]treat your anger but if you're trying to manage your anger and

[32:14]suppress your anger and control your anger but you're not controlling your

[32:18]arrogance that will not help that will not work arrogance people have

[32:23]high expectations I'm a king and everyone has to meet my expectations

[32:27]and then when others don't fulfill your expectations you automatically become angry

[32:33]on a daily basis you become angry because you accept everyone to

[32:38]worship you I am like four ounces Amidala unfortunately many arrogant people

[32:42]are like that they may not necessarily say this but in their

[32:45]hearts they struggle with this they see themselves better than others and

[32:51]others are servants for them others should just say yes and listen

[32:55]and no one can challenge me and they take every question every

[33:00]other perspective as a personal challenge and that makes them angry then

[33:06]they begin to live belittle other people and when you belittle others

[33:10]you are more likely to insult them and that creates a vicious

[33:13]cycle of anger so one way to treat anger is to treat

[33:19]the underlying causes and the first one as explained by this hadith

[33:24]is arrogance and another beautiful hadith that we find prophet yeah yeah

[33:31]are they you salam telling Prophet ISA ISA he tells him oh

[33:38]Jesus in addition to anger to arrogance and feeling so proud of

[33:43]yourself there are some other factors which cause anger in your life

[33:47]number one he mentions mocking other people and making fun of them

[34:00]oftentimes you see people getting angry and angers is sparked because of

[34:04]his small act I thought it was funny I marked so-and-so person

[34:08]and it made that person very angry and then that person said

[34:13]something to me I now become angry this is not acceptable brothers

[34:19]and sisters make sure that you never mark anyone even if you're

[34:23]just laughing have a good time because that person may be laughing

[34:26]with you but deep in their heart they're injured they just simply

[34:31]don't want to embarrass themselves by looking upset so they laugh with

[34:35]you they're not really laughing with you their heart is wounded and

[34:39]injured so we see prophet Jia Jia to Stelling prophet Jesus arias

[34:45]and I'm that one of the causes of unjustified anger as when

[34:48]you mark someone and subhanAllah those people who have a habit of

[34:53]mocking others you know dare you if you mock them the world

[35:01]goes upside down they're mocking people left and right and for them

[35:04]it's something normal no I was just having just some fun it's

[35:07]okay I didn't mean it seriously but when you see someone marking

[35:13]them or criticizing them a bit they can't help it they can't

[35:17]accept that they can't handle it they can't bear it well if

[35:21]you can't bear it and you find it difficult and it hurts

[35:26]you and injures your heart it's the same with other people so

[35:30]that's one number two and Lozado betrayal when someone who's close to

[35:37]you lets you down especially family members make sure that no spouse

[35:41]lets down his or her spouse no parents lets down their children

[35:49]no children let down their parents this creates a lot of frustration

[35:53]and anger if you see one of your family members who is

[35:56]chronically angry who's agitated go and investigate it could be the case

[36:00]that one other family member has betrayed him or her has let

[36:07]him down and they are constantly frustrated when a fly feels that

[36:11]her husband is letting her down constantly he's not holding her back

[36:15]in life he's not really supporting to his life that really creates

[36:20]a lot of frustration and anger when a husband realizes that his

[36:25]wife is not helping him through his problems of life all she

[36:28]cares is only her problems but my problems whether they're at work

[36:32]somewhere else she doesn't even want to hear it she has her

[36:36]own world when he feels let down a lot of frustration is

[36:39]created in his heart a lot of anger is experienced in his

[36:44]heart so the second one is a little betrayal letting someone down

[36:49]another cause that prophet alayhi Salam discusses with prophet Jesus peace be

[36:58]upon him in creating a lot of frustration in creating a lot

[37:06]of anger is the love of this world when you're not satisfied

[37:11]with the material world because the material world simply creates more and

[37:19]more desire in the hearts of the human being you can never

[37:22]be fully satisfied the more you get the more you keep wanting

[37:30]and that actually frustrates you I know some people in life you

[37:33]know they had many dreams my dream is to have this amount

[37:36]of cash this kind of car this kind of house that's all

[37:42]they're concerned about life it's a goal for them once they achieve

[37:45]that goal and they realize okay now I have the house I

[37:47]have the car I have the cash I have the wonderful clothes

[37:50]I can go on vacation or a dead one then what you

[37:57]feel you're not satisfied this lack of satisfaction actually creates anger in

[38:02]your life you'll see this person is angry he's frustrated and he

[38:06]doesn't know why he's frustrated but that's the underlying problem another point

[38:12]which he discusses with prophet ISA in Salam is argumentation arguing with

[38:19]someone even if you're right the Prophet says the one who believes

[38:23]in me and in Islam and on the day of judgment and

[38:29]in Allah subhana wa ta'ala will not argue even if he's right

[38:32]don't argue if you're having a healthy discussion you're benefiting the other

[38:37]person is benefitting yes discuss but the minute you realize that now

[38:44]you're getting into arguments he is trying to prove his point you're

[38:48]trying to prove your point stop put an end to that simply

[38:51]stop you know if you have a rope that's being pulled by

[38:56]two sides this side is pulling this side is pulling this rope

[39:00]will get pulled if one side let's go that's it it stops

[39:06]if one of you let goes it ends even if you're right

[39:09]because most people they'll tell you but I am right my perspective

[39:13]I'm he's wrong I'm trying to prove him wrong if you believe

[39:16]in Allah don't do that yes try to convince that person but

[39:22]if you realize that this healthy discussion has now transformed into an

[39:28]unhealthy argument you have to stop because these unhealthy arguments separate between

[39:34]our hearts they keep our hearts far away they say there was

[39:38]a wise man who was once out in public with his students

[39:42]when they saw a group of people getting angry and yelling at

[39:47]each other he asked students why are you why they yelling at

[39:49]each other what's the reason one of the students said you know

[39:57]because they're not calm inside they're angry and that's why they're yelling

[40:01]he says no I want a better response he asked a few

[40:05]of his students each one gave a response he told them let

[40:09]me give you the correct response why are they yelling at each

[40:12]other ones they're right next to each other you know they could

[40:17]hear each other the person is not deaf why is it that

[40:18]when you're face to face with someone you're yelling that person can

[40:23]hear you and he beautifully explained it he says because anger causes

[40:30]the heart to move so far apart you feel as if that

[40:36]person is so far away you have to yell physically you're next

[40:39]to him but the heart is so far away see what anger

[40:45]does to the contrary see what love does have you seen people

[40:47]in love with each other they whisper to each other because the

[40:50]hearts are so close in fact sometimes you don't even need to

[40:58]talk a gesture just a gesture communicates that love why because the

[41:04]hearts are now closed and this is what anger does it actually

[41:09]creates that space between the people so he is telling Prophet ISA

[41:17]alehissalaam that one of the causes of anger and rage as one

[41:20]is when human beings get into arguments another cause of anger is

[41:26]jealousy when you're jealous about the blessings that other people have instead

[41:31]of allowing this jealousy to create anger use this emotion that you

[41:39]have this feeling of jealousy this feeling of anger because it gives

[41:41]you a lot of energy I know some people they're willing so

[41:44]to go so far to bring someone down they'll think for days

[41:51]and months and years and they'll use all the resources they can

[41:54]to ruin someone's life use that energy to be successful believe me

[42:00]if you use that and to better yourself and to become successful

[42:04]you can become more successful than that person and finally one of

[42:10]the major causes of anger in our lives especially the youth is

[42:19]social media when we get addicted to social media Instagram snapchat Twitter

[42:24]Facebook you name it because first of all you're constantly getting this

[42:32]you know information this flow of information which sticks you off number

[42:36]one number two when you become obsessed with the social media and

[42:43]what other people are saying and what they're commenting on your pose

[42:49]on your tweets on your images that you post on Instagram and

[42:54]snapchat that makes you frustrated because you post something and unfortunately most

[42:58]of our you if they post irrelevant things or things which they

[43:02]should not remember that when you post an image online brothers and

[43:06]sisters there is a digital imprint for that photo that will never

[43:13]be deleted even if you delete it it's stored somewhere there's a

[43:16]copy of it maybe someone else made a copy of it and

[43:21]so many people have regretted and little lives have been ruined because

[43:25]they posted something inappropriate later on when they matured that photo went

[43:30]back to haunt them have mercy on yourself this will create a

[43:34]lot of frustration and anger in your life but when you keep

[43:36]posting all these irrelevant things and then every 10 minutes you go

[43:41]to you go online to check how many likes did I did

[43:43]how many replies are people interested in when I post it or

[43:50]not why is it that my image got only 20 likes so-and-so

[43:52]image got 200 likes and this creates a lot of anger and

[44:00]frustration so use social media wisely and who cares other people liked

[44:04]it or not if you did your job and you posted the

[44:09]right thing for Allah subhana WA Ta'ala who cares whether people read

[44:13]it they don't read it they like it they don't like it

[44:17]that should not create frustration in your life Allah Spano - Allah

[44:22]has given you a dear life don't allow petty issues to ruin

[44:28]the beauty of the life that Allah spano to Allah has given

[44:32]you so these are some things would trigger our anger and shallow

[44:39]tomorrow we shall discuss the dangers of anger and how to control

[44:43]anger we ask Allah Spano to Allah to open our hearts especially

[44:45]in the holy month of Ramadan to give us the patience and

[44:51]the maturity and the willpower to suppress any unwanted anger and we

[44:56]ask Allah subhana WA Ta'ala to allow the power of rage and

[44:59]the power of anger to motivate us to do the right thing

[45:07]allahu ala muhammadin wa ala nabina Tajin

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