Do you know God’s language?

Have you ever lived with God? How can one see God? Can you see Him by praying and begging? How can one see God better? Can you see Him by obeying His commands? Yes, each of these show God to us in some way. See God in tests!
You will know what He wants. You’ll live with Him. When you have lived with Him, you’ll gradually know Him.
“God, I really didn’t know You are so sensitive about this matter. You immediately put me into this test.”
Have you ever lived with God? With the active God! What does God want from you when you leave here now? If you sit in a taxi, who is sitting next to you? He is talking to you. For example, a music is playing in the taxi. Someone is saying something, which is wrong or right. God is looking at you. Can you understand His language?! Do you say anything? For example, you give some advice. But, God doesn’t let you go.
“What was your intention in saying this?” “God, You said he shouldn’t sin. I told him not to sin. I invited him to do good, not bad.” “What was your intention in doing this?” “I hadn’t thought about my intention very much.” “Look. Why did you say that?” “God! Didn’t you say we should discourage people from doing bad? I got in the car and saw that he is saying something wrong. I discouraged him from doing the wrong thing.” “Look at yourself. Did I only want you to discourage others from doing bad, for them to grow? What about your own growth?” “What about me?! I advised him. Now he is being tested whether he listens or not.”
“No, I still want to ask you. When you argued with him and he accepted, did you see how you were pleased? Your will enjoyed it. Haven’t you grown yet? You wanted to enjoy yourself?” “God! I obeyed Your command.” “You were pleased because My command was done and you loved Me? Or was it enjoyable because you ruined his mood and he was silenced? )the sound of coughing) You even coughed proudly afterwards.”
I understood you (audience) didn’t understand this cough was a part of my performance. That is why I explained it.
“Now, let’s see what you do next time.” He gets out of the car and goes home. His wife happens to say something bad to him. He shouts, “Why did you say that?!” God says, “It’s a test. I wanted to see if you will understand what I am doing to you when I ruin your mood after your big success in the car and becoming so pleased.”
May I be sacrificed for you. Look at yourself as being in a test and the world as a test, you’ll see God. You’ll see His presence. You’ll see His actions. You’ll see His tendencies. You’ll see what He wants from you. You will even know God! You won’t know a person until you live with him! If you live with God, will He be silent? Did you think that He is sitting up there and signed for you, “Rain, snow, and bread. Give them to him. Let’s see what he does.” Then, he is sitting up there without anything to do. Then, I tell you to know God? No! He is living with you in each moment.
Live with God. See Him. He is working with you in each moment. In each moment! “God, I really didn’t know that You are so sensitive about this matter. You immediately put me into this test.” See God in tests.
[From the series of speeches under the topic of “The Most Determining Factor in Human Destiny.”]

Why doesn’t my child pray?
When does he/she usually wake up?!


One question religious people have is, “Why don’t our youth pray? What should I do for my child to pray?” Getting up early morning to pray, standing in front of God, and doing these acts have specific religious laws. But, who will act upon these divine commandments? A person whose lifestyle is in accordance with these commandments will. For praying to become easy for young people and for them to pray well, not necessarily like Ayatollah Bahjat, do you know what you should do? A child should be polite in general. Being polite does not come from divine commandments; it’s a lifestyle. If a person is polite, praying will become easy for him/her. Once you say prayer is obligatory, he prays because it’s easy. He’s not obstinate.
But now, when you tell him that prayer is obligatory, his lifestyle has induced laziness in him and hasn’t taught him politeness. His lifestyle has hurt him in another way too. Whatever he has done was due to immediate rewards or reproof. He asks, “Will they give me a good grade or negative points?” “Nothing.” “Will anyone notice it?” “No one will know if you’ve prayed.” He says, “So, forget it. I am used to getting a grade for all my deeds at school. If an action doesn’t get a grade, it is hard for me to do it.” This lifestyle has made him lazy for a deed like praying. This lifestyle hasn’t taught him politeness for him to enjoy being polite. A flawed lifestyle.
We don’t say a flawed lifestyle is forbidden in religion. We don’t say when students are coming out of class, they should come out in a line. But, this is of a higher priority than going into the class in a line. It has more of a psychological effect on being polite. We don’t usually talk about these or care about lifestyle. We have only stuck to prayer, “Have you prayed?” He’ll become crazy and hate praying.
A parent asks, “What should I do for my child to pray?” “Have you made him disciplined in all parts of his life?” “No.” “So, he/she won’t pray. You can be sure.” Praying is easy for a person who regularly does 20 other deeds in his daily life. They are against his will, but he does them due to his politeness and based on his lifestyle.
“What can I do for my child to pray?” “Does he receive immediate encouragement or reproof for whatever he does at school?” “Yes.” “So, he won’t pray, because prayer doesn’t have immediate encouragement or punishment.” Whether you pray or not, stones won’t fall from the sky. No one will give you a star (like in school.) It’s hard for him. Don’t force him.
“What should I do for my child to pray?” “Do you have a time the children should wake up at home?” “No.” “How much does he/she sleep?” “He sleeps so much that sleep gets tired of him!!” “So, he won’t pray.”
“What can I do for my child to pray?” “Has the mother told the child to always get up in front of his/her father?” [Based on a tradition] “No, we don’t do these things. We’re comfortable at home.” “So, your child won’t pray. Since he hasn’t learned to get up for his father, it’s hard to stand up for God. Just let him lie down!”
“How should I teach my child to be polite?” “You women, are you polite with your husbands and don’t complain? You men too, are you polite with your wives?” “No, we’re comfortable!” “So your child won’t pray.” “Aren’t faith, belief in the Hereafter, and fear of Hell needed for praying?!” “You have ruined his lifestyle and are sticking to one religious law! You have a misplaced expectation my dear!”
One’s lifestyle is the basis for obeying divine laws. Caring religious scholars - before and even more than teaching the religious laws - should gain the necessary knowledge and with families’ cooperation correct people’s lifestyles. What will happen if one’s lifestyle is corrected? Divine laws will be adhered to like a piece of cake. Divine laws are not hard. Everyone believes in this. Lifestyles will become corrected.
For praying to become easy for young people, a child should be polite in general. Praying is easy for a person who regularly does 20 other deeds in his daily life. They are against his will but he does them due to his politeness and based on his lifestyle.

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If we talk to God sincerely…
God is able to change your heart.
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My friends, if one has a sincere intention, God will not wait for his action. God will not wait to test him. I know this that I’m saying it. Sincerely say, “God, I want You!” He won’t wait to see what you do tomorrow. He’ll start [your growth] if He sees you are sincere.
We were returning from a speech with two people who later became martyrs. Going they were very cheerful, but returning they were quiet. I asked them, “What’s the matter?” They said, “You ruined our mood with your talk. Why aren’t we going to the front this time?” I said, “Ok, so let’s go.” We were on leave. They had come before, but not at this time. They said, “We’re afraid.” It happens. “Tell this to God.” “You’re right.” I said, “Tell God you’d like to come but you’re afraid; your feeling will change tomorrow.” The next day they were both on the train! “You’ve come!?” “Yup!” Happy and laughing! “What happened? You said you’re afraid.” “I don’t know.”
You think God can’t change your heart? Sincerely say, “I’m afraid, but I don’t want to be afraid.” God says, “Be sincere and I will show you My divine strength. I will change you. Be truthful. I will put all that’s good in your heart. Tell me you are incapable, and I will be your strength.” Sincerely say, “God, I want You!” He won’t wait to see what you do tomorrow. He’ll start [your growth] if He sees you are sincere.

Seeking the truth: The central point for training a human being
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Imam Baqir (as) and Imam Sadiq (as) said that when Prophet Ibrahim (as) saw a star, he said, “This is my Lord. This is so bright and beautiful. This is my God.” In another verse of the Qur’an, it is said, “But when it disappeared, he said, ‘I do not love those who fade away.’” [Qur’an 6:76]
Let’s see what Imam Sadiq (as) said. He said, “Whoever seeks to reach his Lord will not become an unbeliever.” This means that a person who seeks the truth does not become an unbeliever. “If someone thinks like this, he will be like Prophet Ibrahim.” “That who is my Lord?” Think about who your Lord is. The phenomena in the world will show you.
What should we do to distance ourselves from unbelief? We must be truth seekers. Before we can reach the truth, we must be truth seekers and love the truth. I want to give good news to you. This search for truth shows itself in a person from infancy. What does a baby do? Just feed him and satisfy his basic needs. Then he will start going here and there. He/she touches everything and wants to see what it is.
His curiosity starts. Do not disrupt this in a child for seven years and let his curiosity continue. You can help him by giving direction to his curiosity. Go along with him/her. Don’t suppress his/her enthusiasm. During the time that children are at home and parents want to train them, which adjective should we emphasize more? We should show kindness to our children. Yes, that’s correct.
We should show kindness so that the child will feel secure. But we shouldn’t show kindness just to show kindness. After showing kindness to your child, what’s next? You show kindness for him/her to be curios in a peaceful environment. This curiosity will help him to get accepted in the university and to become a scholar. This curiosity will help him to be wise in life. This one factor, it is a central point in life.
From the age of 7 to 14, why should a child be trained by ordering him/her [according to the traditions]? This period is the period for children to be curious with certain limitations. Before that, they should be left free in their curiosity. But if they continue to be like this (after 7), their thinking will go astray, right? If they continue to be left free in their curiosity with games and entertainments, they will pursue a kind of curiosity that creates a false excitement in them. Then they won’t be able to become a great thinker.
If someone wishes to become a great thinker, he must gradually direct his curiosity. They put scientific subjects in front of him and tell him to start. After the age of fourteen, he should continue being curious in other certain, scientific subjects, but I won’t talk about that now. Psychologists say around the age of fourteen, a person’s curiosity leads him/her to a question. Interesting! Psychologists say this. These are not the words of religion.
Around the age of fourteen, this curiosity leads a person to a philosophical, mystical question. That question is, “Why was I created?” This is a general question that one asks after reaching the age of intellectual maturity. Each student should reach this point where he/she asks deeply, “Why was I created? Why did God create me?” We should cheer and clap, admire him/her, and say, "Well done!” Then we should help him to find the answer himself.
And this is one of the topics that God, the Almighty, raises many times in the Holy Qur’an. Let me give you an example. “Have they not thought that God has not created the heavens and the earth and all that is between them but for a genuine purpose and to exist for an appointed term?” [Qur’an 30:8] Didn't they think within themselves that perhaps God didn’t create this world in vain?!
This is the question of a fourteen-year-old. Almighty God has repeated this many times. What should we do to distance ourselves from unbelief? We must seek the truth. This seeking the truth starts showing itself from childhood and infancy. We must hold onto our tendency to seek the truth.

A trait, which is a part of all of our bad points

One of a human being’s likings and tendencies is being hasty. Being hasty in all of our interests ruins what we do. Haste is involved in all of our bad points. I mean you are usually unable to find a bad liking, which has caused a bad deed, in which there is no haste.
“Don’t be Hasty”
For example, God says, “The human was created of haste.” (Qur’an 21: 37) God wants to say that man was created from dirt. But, He says man was created from haste. What does this mean? It means that a human’s soul has been intertwined with haste very much. In another place, God says, “And man prays for evil as he ought to pray for good.” (Qur’an 17:11) What does he do? He asks for evil with the same tongue that he asks for good. It means that a person thinks he’s apparently asking for something good. But, he’s actually asking for something bad. Why does he make such a mistake that he considers a bad point to be good and asks for it? He goes towards it to gain it. Why?
“And man prays for evil as he ought to pray for good, and man is ever hasty.” (Qur’an 17:11) Since he is hasty, he confuses what is good and what is bad, and doesn’t see correctly. What is to his disadvantage, he says, “This is to my favour. I want it.” He either wants it from God, or he plans to gain it in this world. Or, he asks for it from others. This is totally to your disadvantage. Why don’t you see this correctly? God says, “He doesn’t distinguish correctly due to his haste.”
When some people see the truth, they show their haste in this way that since they don’t want to accept the truth, they say, “Where are its effects? Show me.” They make themselves wretched with haste. What happens in them? He says, “If I see the Hereafter, I will believe in it.” Wait. The Hereafter will come too. “Where is death?” He wants to see death to correct himself. Wait, death will come too. For example, you tell him, “Don’t do this forbidden deed. It’ll hurt you.” He replies, “I did it, and it didn’t hurt me.” “Wait, it will hurt you.” “Do this good deed, and you’ll see its benefits.” “Where? I did it once, but I didn’t see any results.” Wait, you’ll see its good result.
The truth is that Hazrat Adam (‘a) was expelled from Heaven due to the mistake he made in being hasty. Satan made him panic. If Adam replied, “Wait, I’ll think about it and answer later,” he wouldn’t have gone towards it at all. Satan does this. He sometimes makes a person panic. What does “making one panic” mean? He says, “You’ll lose it!” Friends, I tell you. You never lose any enjoyment. Don’t worry. What is intended for you will be given to you. A poem says, “If you don’t take it, they’ll give it to you by force.” Don’t be hasty. These are Satan’s temptations. The cursed Satan said, “You’ll lose it!” He makes us panic. On the other hand, God says, “You won’t lose anything. Don’t worry. I have it. I’ll give you whatever you want.”
For example, it has been said in the traditions that when some people pray, they rush and want to go and do their jobs. So, they skip the recommended supplications afterwards. In a tradition, God says, “Where did My servant go? Why was he in haste? What did he want to gain? Shall I destroy everything he wants to gain?” God dislikes this haste. Don’t be in a haste for this world. Whenever you don’t rush, better than that will be given to you. You’ll never lose any enjoyment. Don’t worry. What is intended for you, will be given to you. “If you don’t take it, they’ll give it to you by force.”

Don’t rush.
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Have I done something wrong?

What’s the result?

There is a very important question for human beings! It is very stimulating! A person needs an answer to this question. What’s next? What’s the result? This question takes a person to the highest goal, “What’s the result?” I am a person who wants benefits. But, I have a question. I am a person who wants enjoyment. But, I have a question. This question should be answered. What’s the result?
A person needs the highest goal for his life, which will then prioritize all his lower goals. “Why do you buy a house?” “Because, we need a house.” “Why do you marry?” “Because, we have another need too.” “Why do you work?” “We need money too. Besides money, we need social recognition too.” “What’s the relation between social recognition and marriage?” “No relation. They may help each other in some cases.” “You’re brushing your hair?” He replies, “Hair improves my appearance, and I love beauty.” “What’s the relation between beauty and teeth?” “Nothing. This is another goal.” Such a person is the most wretched person in the world. Why? He’s a scattered person, a person who has several goals. Such a person is not in love. Even if such a person has thousands of such goals, and each is more or less important, his being is scattered. He is trying to reach several goals.
If a person has a higher goal, this goal will give direction to all his smaller goals, and all his short and long-term goals. You should find such a goal that will first of all satisfy your search for infinity to the extent that you don’t say anything else afterwards. You say, “Aha! This is the result?! Right!” You should find such a goal that will first of all satisfy your search for infinity to the extent that you don’t say anything else afterwards.
Psychologists say a human being needs such a goal. They say that the only answer that people have found for this goal is God. The psychologists have understood this too. God Himself is the only answer to this question, and no one can deceive himself. No one. As soon as you ask, “What’s the result?” God comes up like the sun, which gradually rises from behind the horizon at dawn. You will see God. He will show Himself to you. You will gain an interest in Him and gradually become fond of Him. Afterwards, a person finds calmness, and then he marries with calmness. Or, he does other things. He manages the world. He studies: math, engineering… But, he’s busy with God. Now, he knows why he is living!
Do you know what this means for our goal to be God? After we meet God on the Day of Judgement, will it be done? No, you will become thirsty to see God again. When you see Him again, it is as if you hadn’t seen God before that. Then, you become thirsty to see Him again, and again. When you see Him the next time, you say, “I didn’t know God until now!” How long will this continue? It will continue forever. And, only God can be like this. Each time he meets God, he doesn’t know how to describe it. During this period, the angels massage him too. They provide his house too. “Come here. Stay here.” But, everything is Him. Heaven is a hotel for those who meet God!

Only God is limitless. What does limitless mean? It means that each time you see Him, a part of Him is manifested to you, and God does not finish. God is the only existence Who never finishes. You’ll have the benefit of meeting Him forever. A human being is a creature with this innate desire. The divine prophets remove the dust from a human being’s innate desire so that he or she can ask one question, “What’s the result?!” A person wants to choose that superior goal so that he will find calmness and not say, “What’s the result?” afterwards. What will happen after choosing that superior goal? Afterwards, a person finds calmness, and then he marries with calmness. He manages the world. Now, he knows why he is living!


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The adverse effects of constant parental censure

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Some parents are constantly questioning their children who are students. Whenever he or she comes home from school or the father enters the house, the parents ask about the child’s studies and immediately tell him/her to study. They immediately blame him/her, “Why didn’t you study? Why aren’t you studying now? Why are you playing now?” They immediately ask about the children’s grades and blame them if their grades are low. They immediately compare them with others.
If parents do these things, it’s because of their compassion. But in doing this, they make their children hate studying. Plus, the children will start hating themselves too.
If immediately after returning home from school every day, or immediately after the father comes home every day, a child is questioned, preached to and punished, this isn’t useful. Why do you do this? It will get worse. A child will become fed up. Why? Because some ideas will become formed in his mind. [He’ll think,] “Father means punishment if you don’t study.” Having this idea about his father is not good, and the child will become distanced from him.
And yet, the reason behind these behaviors is that the parents are worried about their children and love them. They don’t care about other people’s studies and don’t direct others like this. They don’t care if others become wretched or become prosperous. The parents are worried about you, their child. This is the reason for their behavior, but this reason isn’t seen. What is seen? The bitterness of ordering, preaching, blaming, and checking up on them.
Dear parents, even when your child returns home after an exam, exams that are held occasionally, don’t ask them about it immediately. Say, “How was the weather? Did you play after your test?” Wait one or two hours, then ask, “By the way, how was your test?” so that they won’t feel stressed. Why am I saying this? Your child shouldn’t think you are just judging, checking, blaming and punishing him. So when parents want to train their child, they must be careful of the bitter feelings that may be created.
Training needs an introduction, should be occasional and must be done using different ways so as not to create negative feelings. If parents are constantly preaching, checking, blaming and asking about the child’s studies, he will start hating his parents and also hate his studies. He will also think negatively about the home, and the home environment will be irritating for him.

Becoming familiar with some of the sweet concepts of the Sha’baniya Supplication / Session 3


In the name of God, the Beneficent, the Merciful. In talking about the Sh’abaniya Supplication, we are still talking about the first phrase. There is a very lofty concept in the first phrase, which should be discussed separately. This concept is “Tadarru” (beseeching). The Commander of the Faithful, Ali (‘a), explicitly calls to the God of the universe, “I am standing between Your hands. I am poor before You and beseeching You.” I am standing in front of You like one who is very small and poor in front of one who is completely rich and great, “…and beseeching You.”
Beseeching is a term, which has been used seven times in the Holy Qur’an with the same meaning. Of course, it’s more than seven times. But, only in seven cases has it been used with exactly the same meaning of a person praying to God pleadingly. The fundamental meaning of beseeching is not crying. Crying is one of its results. It is the height of pleading, entreating, and being humble in front of the Almighty God. If we want to say the meaning, a person who beseeches is one who pleads a lot. A person who beseeches is one who doesn’t have any pride or assets. He’s extremely humble.
It has been said in the Holy Qur’an, “Already We have seized them with punishment, but they neither humbled themselves to their Lord, nor did they beseech Him.” [Qur’an 23:76] After feeling distress and destitution, they didn’t beseech God! In this supplication, it is as if by saying, “I am poor before You and beseeching You,” the Imam is answering this verse from the Chapter “The Believers.” The Qur’an says, “We have seized them with punishment, but they neither humbled themselves to their Lord...” Imam Ali replies here, “I am poor before You.” And the Qur’an says, “…nor did they beseech Him.” Imam Ali says in this supplication, “…and beseeching You.”
Beseeching has been mentioned in the Qur’an in different situations. Beseeching is a kind of pleading, which isn’t hidden anymore and is apparent. This broken heart shows itself, “Pray to your Lord beseechingly and in secret.” [Qur’an 7:55] This means to call God beseechingly, meaning openly, or hidden within yourself. There are other verses, which refer to this too.
The verse of the Chapter “The Cattle” is suitable for these days. “Why did they not entreat when Our punishment overtook them! But their hearts had hardened, and Satan had made to seem decorous to them what they had been doing.” [Qur’an 6:43] Why didn’t they beseech Us when our punishment overtook them? The Almighty God tells what He expects explicitly. When a divine tribulation comes, the servants should beseech Him. God is waiting to bring His servants under His shelter. In this verse, God asks why they didn’t beseech Him. The reason they didn’t beseech Him was that their hearts had become so hardened that they didn’t even go to God in tribulations, “Satan had made to seem decorous to them what they had been doing.”
In the verse before this verse, God the Almighty says that He has sent this scourge for people to beseech Him, “We have certainly sent (apostles) to nations before you, then We seized them with stress and distress so that they might entreat (Us).” [Qur’an 6:42] For us common people, this kind of beseeching God is elicited in tribulations. For those who don’t beseech God, even in tribulations, their hearts have truly become hardened as the Qur’an says. But, for people with understanding and the Friends of God, beseeching God is the result of their deep understanding, extreme interest and intense ardor for the high position of being close to God. We should resolve this riddle in our minds once and forever, that is this extent of crying needed when talking to God that the Commander of the Faithful moaned to God like this? What did he really want? What punishment did he fear?!
We should accept that there is a spiritual maturity, which many don’t achieve at all. This spiritual maturity is more than fearing punishment, more than the intensity of suffering that a person will tolerate in Hell, and more than the fear of a sinful person or a criminal of retribution. Some good people feel such a severe need for being close to God that if they see they are far from this intense need, even a bit, they cry to God beseechingly. Was the Commander of the Faithful a weak person for someone to see his crying, broken heart? All his existence was solidity. If the entire universe had turned upside down, he would have stood firmly and wouldn’t have even flinched! He had nothing to be afraid of or to lose.
So, why did he moan to God like this? He had reached a spiritual maturity. He felt a severe need for those high spiritual positions. When he felt a bit far from that desirable point, and that peak became more novel and substantial for him every moment, he would cry pleadingly.

This miracle is for all generations.