Muharram [Night 6] - Core Beliefs: How They Direct Us | Sayed Mahdi Qazwini

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Muharram [Night 6] - Core Beliefs: How They Direct Us | Sayed Mahdi Qazwini at the Ahlul Bayt Center of Toledo

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[0:38][Music] a few nights ago we mentioned that the quran describes the

[1:27]human being as being born out of total ignorance emerging from total

[1:35]ignorance and that through the proper utilization of our senses such as

[1:42]our hearing our vision and our fuad which includes both the intellect

[1:50]and our emotions we begin to properly understand the world around us

[1:56]but even then what we know and what we understand compared to

[2:03]the true reality around us is not but a drop in an

[2:10]entire ocean if you study the natural world today scientists tell us

[2:17]that when it comes to our universe everything in the observable universe

[2:23]the planets the solar systems the stars all of that physical matter

[2:31]represents only about three percent of the known universe the rest is

[2:38]made up of dark energy and dark matter and the reason they

[2:42]call them dark is because they're able to measure them by way

[2:49]of process of elimination and subtraction but we can't really detect dark

[2:53]matter and dark energy dark energy is what is responsible for the

[2:58]expansion and the acceleration of our universe three percent after many years

[3:08]if you look at our own earth much of our oceans our

[3:13]vast oceans remain unexplored new ways of thinking new technologies new sciences

[3:20]are developing every single day and this sheds light on the verse

[3:26]in the quran that says that you have not been given knowledge

[3:30]except for a fraction and it is through true struggle and exertion

[3:42]that we begin to comprehend little by little our teacher our dear

[3:50]teacher ayatollah said one day taught us he mentioned the hadith in

[3:57]class he said the hadith says you know you think you spend

[4:09]a few years and all of a sudden you're knowledgeable and you

[4:11]can preach to others and you can tell people what you know

[4:14]and impress people with your knowledge and your expertise the hadith says

[4:21]that knowledge will not give you some of it until you give

[4:25]it all of you if you give knowledge some exertion you'll get

[4:31]nothing you have to give everything in order to get back just

[4:37]a small fraction it's like if you were to go to the

[4:39]vending machine and the drink in the vending machine costs a dollar

[4:44]what happens if you put in 97 cents you don't get 97

[4:48]of the drink you get zero percent of it you have to

[4:51]put in the full dollar to get the full amount this is

[4:57]an analogy for our process of learning so on a personal level

[5:06]we find that people some people live their entire lives in complete

[5:13]oblivion complete ignorance some of that is intentional some is unintentional for

[5:25]those that intentionally live in ignorance they say that ignorance is bliss

[5:31]i'd rather not know because if i knew then i would be

[5:36]held accountable and from an islamic perspective there is a minor truth

[5:41]to this when it comes to our day-to-day behaviors we are commanded

[5:47]to carry on our lives with certain assumptions i'll give you an

[5:54]example if you walked into the home of a muslim then you

[5:56]have no abla if they serve you food you have no obligation

[6:01]to investigate whether this food is halal or not so you have

[6:06]no obligation there this is meant to make our lives easier but

[6:12]in every other aspect we are required to seek knowledge we are

[6:15]required to seek understanding and awareness imam salam says in his famous

[6:23]narration that people fall into three categories one is a scholar and

[6:32]not just any scholar a scholar that shares with others some people

[6:38]they learn something and they keep it for themselves a person who

[6:43]is in the process of growing others the second is the learned

[6:50]person on the path the the learning person the student on the

[6:55]path of salvation and then everybody else falls into the third category

[7:01]which is savages people who they they move in any direction they

[7:06]don't stand for anything so they fall for everything these are the

[7:11]categories of people the prophet peace be upon him when he observed

[7:20]his community or members of his community whether they were muslim or

[7:26]non-muslim when he observed them falling short he would constantly say oh

[7:36]allah excuse pardon forgive my people for they do not know if

[7:41]they knew and if they understood it would be a completely different

[7:46]story and there's a reason why imam hussain al-islam on the day

[7:51]of ashura stood in front of the people and identified himself so

[7:55]that there would be no excuse for those who fought against him

[8:00]that we didn't know who we were fighting against in the beginning

[8:02]some of them thought they were simply fighting against insurgents or rebels

[8:06]that were standing up against the khalifa but imam hussain alaihi salam

[8:11]on the day of stood in front of the people and he

[8:13]identified himself if you do not know who i am then this

[8:18]is my father this is my mother this is my grandfather this

[8:22]is my uncle this is my brother this is what the prophet

[8:25]said about us that it would be 100 clear with no doubts

[8:31]so the same goes for us getting what we want out of

[8:38]life one of the biggest challenges is that our ignorance our blind

[8:44]spots our ego and sometimes even our unsupervised core values act as

[8:52]a hindrance act as a barrier in our way in our path

[8:58]to getting what we want out of life to happiness to fulfillment

[9:03]to self-actualization to understanding the russian psychologist abraham maslow some of you

[9:13]are familiar with the concept of maslow's hierarchy of needs he said

[9:17]that every human being has certain needs that they want fulfilled throughout

[9:21]their life and beginning at the bottom it starts with the most

[9:25]basic needs of food and shelter and then it goes up to

[9:30]another level to health security and then another level is love and

[9:36]belonging meaning that if you're thinking about food and water and security

[9:43]you don't really have time to think about issues such as love

[9:46]and belonging these are higher level issues and then at the top

[9:49]of the pyramid of the hierarchy of needs is self-actualization and self-actualization

[9:56]basically means that you are striving to reach your potential and to

[10:04]develop your potential so you don't think about striving to develop your

[10:09]potential if you don't have oxygen if you don't have oxygen you're

[10:15]thinking about how do i get oxygen you're not thinking about food

[10:18]and water so what falls what are some of the pitfalls and

[10:22]what are some of the challenges and obstacles that we have when

[10:27]it comes to self-actualization and reaching our potential i'd like to share

[10:32]with you a couple of concepts from a few authors and we'll

[10:39]go from there so there was a book written a while ago

[10:43]by an author ray dalio he wrote a book called principles life

[10:46]and work principles and what he said is that for most people

[10:52]when they try to get what they want out of life there

[10:56]are two barriers that stand in front of them the first barrier

[11:02]is the ego the second barrier are blind spots ego and blind

[11:11]spots and he says that in order to understand how the ego

[11:15]our ego and our blind spots hold us back we have to

[11:21]understand the mechanism the super mechanism that is the brain and how

[11:25]does the brain work so number one is our ego and our

[11:34]ego refers to the subliminal defense mechanism that is instilled in each

[11:40]and every one of us we all have a subliminal defense mechanism

[11:44]think about how countries have borders but then on top of the

[11:49]borders they also have mechanisms that protect invasion or intrusion into those

[11:59]borders such as you know the radar defense systems the missile defense

[12:02]systems so our ego that's within us it serves a purpose you

[12:09]know some people say you have to get rid of your ego

[12:12]or you have to subdue your ego or you have to crush

[12:14]your ego or delete your ego well in reality we can't do

[12:19]that because it's a part of our nephs it's a part of

[12:20]who we are your ego serves the purpose of self-preservation and every

[12:29]human being requires a measure of self-preservation so that we don't do

[12:35]things which are foolish we don't embarrass ourselves in public however sometimes

[12:41]this ego cannot tell the difference between a real threat and what

[12:46]is not a real threat imagine sometimes they you know they say

[12:53]that these radar these advanced radar systems that are in place to

[12:59]detect uh you know foreign flying objects sometimes they can't tell the

[13:04]difference between an actual flying object and a flock of birds that's

[13:08]why they have to verify and there have been instances in history

[13:12]where they've fired a missile or fired a projectile at something that

[13:18]was not a threat because of improper verification so the ego works

[13:26]the same way it's it's a certain defense mechanism that we have

[13:29]the challenge is that the ego doesn't always detect threats properly so

[13:36]what does that mean so part of our ego is again going

[13:43]back to the concept of the brain if you look at the

[13:48]brain as the lower brain and the higher brain so we're not

[13:51]talking about various parts for the sake of just for for this

[13:55]actual um uh you know specification here the lower brain is where

[14:02]our emotions emerge from at the center of that is the amygdala

[14:08]and the amygdala is that part of the brain where you will

[14:14]find our most raw emotions versus the upper part of the brain

[14:21]which is the neocortex and the neocortex is where you find logic

[14:24]reasoning and language being able to process language in human beings the

[14:33]neocortex is larger than any other species this is why our ability

[14:37]to reason use reason and rationale and language is more developed than

[14:44]any other species however when it comes to that lower part of

[14:47]the brain which controls fear which controls the need for security the

[14:54]need for belonging it's a very primitive and animalistic part of our

[15:01]brain so when you study the desires of man when you when

[15:04]you see the most primitive desires of man come out that's because

[15:08]the amygdala is taking over the cortex the neocortex so together when

[15:17]we have both the ego and our blind spots it makes it

[15:23]very difficult to objectively see what is going on in front of

[15:28]us some of those who stood in battle against the prophet or

[15:32]imam al-al-salam or against imam hussain the quran describes those who rejected

[15:42]the message of the prophet as wajahadu bihar was even that they

[15:50]knew even though they knew from a logical perspective what was being

[15:53]said was correct and was true however their impulses that resided within

[15:59]the nefs was driving them their ego and their animalistic desire was

[16:05]what was driving them so we have the higher level neocortex the

[16:10]lower level amygdala so these two parts of the brain sometimes conflict

[16:18]with one another and you can sense that conflict sometimes if you've

[16:24]ever if you've ever indulged in something that you are not supposed

[16:28]to indulge in and then a few moments later you start to

[16:30]feel bad about it this is a representation a manifestation of the

[16:35]conflict between the higher brain and the lower brain you know you

[16:40]come back home you grab some fast food some taco bell whatever

[16:43]on the way home you you bring back too much because your

[16:47]your eyes are hungrier than your stomach you sit down in front

[16:51]of the tv you kick your feet up you consume all of

[16:55]it and within five minutes you know you your gut starts hurting

[17:00]you and then you start to question why did i just do

[17:03]what i did this is because your amygdala was um looking looking

[17:11]for something your your your hunger and your fear was driving you

[17:16]in that moment and you weren't thinking clearly now that your body

[17:22]secured the food you turned to the upper part of your brain

[17:25]and you started to think the challenge is that many people are

[17:29]unaware of what's driving them in the first place is it this

[17:34]lower desire or is it my higher thinking and then the problem

[17:41]becomes more complex when you're dealing with another person because each each

[17:46]person has the lower part of the brain and the upper part

[17:50]of the brain and so you can see how there's like a

[17:52]multiplicative effect so when you're arguing with someone for instance in a

[17:58]heated argument who are you arguing with are you arguing with dr

[18:00]jekyll or mr hyde and when you're arguing who is coming out

[18:05]is it dr jekyll or mr hyde if you understand the analogy

[18:10]so this acts as a challenge when it comes to understanding others

[18:17]around us and this is why you see sometimes that even the

[18:22]most intelligent of people the highest iq people they get in some

[18:27]of the most petty debates and petty arguments because they're not using

[18:32]their higher brain they're not using their rationale in their neural cortex

[18:36]it's it's their amygdala their their need for belonging their need to

[18:40]be right their need for safety their them their need to be

[18:45]secure that is pushing them towards those behaviors so within ourselves we

[18:53]need to understand what drives us and this is very close to

[18:59]the islamic concept of a nafsul and a nafsul ammar in a

[19:07]way we can relate the lower self that drives our needs to

[19:13]an af and we can relate the higher self the logical self

[19:23]to so this is number one we've got our ego that we've

[19:34]got to deal with the second is our blind spots what our

[19:42]blind spots refers to is the areas of our rational thinking which

[19:47]is flawed because just because you're able to exercise rational thinking over

[19:53]emotional thinking it doesn't necessarily mean that your rational thinking is correct

[19:58]your rational thinking is still subject to blind spots that's why they

[20:04]teach us in driving school that when you're driving a vehicle you

[20:09]use your blinker you look in the rearview mirror you look in

[20:13]the side mirrors but the final step of turning and merging from

[20:17]one lane to another is what you have to turn your head

[20:22]over and when you're turning your head over what are you looking

[20:26]at you're looking at your blind spots in today's vehicles you know

[20:32]they have this they have advanced technology which either a light turns

[20:35]on or it begins to beep to make it easier for you

[20:40]to detect your blind spots but the blind spots will always be

[20:44]there so even if we get to our rational way of thinking

[20:46]we still have to combat our blind spots so we need to

[20:54]begin with with this understanding that we all have these two barriers

[20:57]that exist within us our ego and our blind spots a hadith

[21:03]attributed to the prophet muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam he would say o

[21:15]allah show me things reveal to me things matters issues as they

[21:22]are meaning do not allow my judgments to be clouded by anything

[21:28]show me the thing in its reality this is a beautiful dua

[21:33]so being able to see things accurately so when it comes to

[21:41]understanding our self and making a proper assessment of ourself where do

[21:49]we begin in the 1950s there was a technique developed by two

[21:57]psychologists this technique is called the jahari window and that name jihari

[22:02]is an amalgamation it's a combination of the two names of the

[22:06]psychologists and basically if you can think of a window pane with

[22:12]four quadrants it's an exercise meant to practice self-awareness and to show

[22:17]us our own blind spots it's a group exercise that's conducted in

[22:23]some places and if you can if you can imagine four quadrants

[22:27]on one side you know you have the x-axis and the y-axis

[22:31]there are things which are known to others and not known to

[22:36]others and then on the other axis there are things which are

[22:38]known to yourself and not known to yourself so you have four

[22:41]quadrants in one quadrant are the things which are known to yourself

[22:47]and known to others right these are the things which are obvious

[22:52]and they call this quadrant the arena quadrant if something is out

[22:56]in the arena you're able to see it and others are able

[23:00]to see it so they're all parts of our personality parts of

[23:04]who we are that we know is true about ourselves and other

[23:06]people also know is true about us like our basic physical characteristics

[23:12]your name what school you went to if it's known amongst the

[23:20]people some of your hobbies right then there is the quadrant which

[23:25]is known to yourself but it is not known to other people

[23:30]this is called the facade because when we're out and about there

[23:36]are things that we know about ourselves that other people do not

[23:40]know about us and so in order to cover those things we

[23:42]put up a facade and we all have areas that we know

[23:52]about ourselves that nobody else knows about us of course except for

[23:58]allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala we can put up a facade against for for

[24:00]all of society except against allah wa'ta'ala then there are things which

[24:07]are not known to the self and not known to others this

[24:14]remains unknown and this is to be uncovered but the most important

[24:21]part is the area the most productive and the most revealing part

[24:25]is the area which is known to others but it is not

[24:31]known to ourselves this this this quadrant is dangerous and this is

[24:38]what is referred to as the blind spot when people know something

[24:43]about us and it's apparent but we don't know about it ourselves

[24:48]if i have food stuck in my teeth and i don't know

[24:54]about it others know about it this is a personal blind spot

[24:58]or if my my buttons are not matching mismatching this is something

[25:05]that people know about me but i don't know about myself the

[25:08]challenge is when it comes to personality traits that people recognize within

[25:16]us and we do not recognize within ourselves and furthermore we are

[25:20]not willing to explore it and we're not willing to take advice

[25:24]this becomes very dangerous so brothers and sisters we need to learn

[25:30]to become open and audit ourselves and surround ourselves with people that

[25:38]can tell us the truth the hadith your sadiq your friend is

[25:58]the one that tells you the truth not the one that believes

[26:02]everything you say most of us we would rather surround ourselves with

[26:17]yes people yes boss no boss yes dad no no dad yes

[26:23]husband no we would rather surround ourselves with people that will just

[26:28]nod their heads because it's uncomfortable and it's embarrassing if someone points

[26:33]out that your buttons are mismatched or you have bad breath or

[26:38]you're a terrible leader it's uncomfortable for us to face these truths

[26:44]why remember the ego kicks in the self-defense mechanism because the ego

[26:52]cannot tell the difference between constructive rational criticism and a personal attack

[26:58]the the the initial response on on the radar that's in our

[27:05]minds is that this is a personal attack you need to respond

[27:07]as soon as possible this is how it is for most of

[27:15]us the quran reminds us he pricks you he pokes you like

[27:31]that fast take a few moments in a narration a man comes

[27:39]to al-imam al-hasan al-mustaba alai salaam and i've seen this narration attributed

[27:42]to both al-imam al-hassan or al-imam al-hussein both of them are of

[27:49]the same purified light but it says that a man comes to

[27:51]medina to ali and he's looking for the imam he comes from

[27:58]asham syria where you know the the hornet's nest where muawiyah and

[28:03]yazid had worked for people for many years ma'awiya specifically he finds

[28:08]the imam and what does he do when he finds the imam

[28:10]he begins to curse at him he begins to swear at him

[28:14]that you are like this and your father was like this and

[28:17]your mother was like this and all of them were lies and

[28:22]propaganda that muawiyah had taught the people such as the lie that

[28:26]he had taught people that does not even pray this was the

[28:34]type of propaganda that was instilled in the mind of people so

[28:38]the imam is patient with him he takes it all in then

[28:43]he says to him he says he says you look like a

[28:50]traveler is that correct the man says yes i have come from

[28:56]asham specifically to see you and curse the imam says to him

[28:58]he says do you have a place to stay before we talk

[29:02]about this before we discuss this do you have a place to

[29:05]stay if you don't have a place to stay come to my

[29:07]home there's place in my home do you have food to eat

[29:10]if you don't have food to eat come to my home at

[29:17]that moment the man has a change of heart and he says

[29:21]that i wished at that moment that the earth would open up

[29:24]and swallow me whole because of how embarrassed i was he said

[29:29]i went from the imam being the most viled person the most

[29:34]despised person to the most beloved person in my eyes because of

[29:40]this treatment because he didn't react right away some psychologists have also

[29:54]delved one step further into why people consistently behave the way that

[29:59]they do sometimes we make mistakes and we correct it but sometimes

[30:03]we consistently make mistakes one after another and we find ourselves in

[30:08]one situation after another when it comes to for instance failed relationships

[30:12]people go from one failed relationship to another failed relationship and some

[30:18]psychologists have said that this is because of people's core values and

[30:26]tonight's lecture topic is core value so i want to spend a

[30:28]few minutes talking about core values and the definition of core values

[30:36]is this it is our most basic thoughts about ourselves and other

[30:41]people so if you examine and you audit what thoughts you have

[30:44]about yourself and about other people for instance if you grew up

[30:49]and by the way core values will go on to explain that

[30:53]a lot of the times your core values and the way they

[30:56]drive you is not from a conscious manner it's from a subconscious

[30:59]matter meaning that it drives you without you even knowing that it

[31:02]drives you most of the time unless you explore it so beliefs

[31:09]core values or core beliefs that core beliefs rather not core values

[31:16]that we may have about ourselves and others for instance if you

[31:19]grew up with the idea that everybody is guilty until proven innocent

[31:23]this is different from the core belief that everybody is innocent until

[31:28]proven guilty these are at the opposite ends of the spectrum and

[31:31]we see today with the way people behave is that i'm not

[31:36]going to trust this person they have to prove first i think

[31:41]in certain parts of the world people are notorious for this type

[31:44]of approach so this is a core belief another core belief that

[31:51]one may hold about themselves or other or others is entitlement if

[31:57]a person grew up in a household where their parents gave them

[32:03]everything without them having to work hard without them even having to

[32:06]ask for it some parents are like this they want to give

[32:10]their parents everything without that they want to give their kids everything

[32:13]without them even asking for it instead of being a leader they

[32:15]become a groupie or a doormat excuse my language but this is

[32:21]the reality of it the child grows up with a core belief

[32:25]of a sense of entitlement what happens to a person who has

[32:27]a sense of entitlement and walks into a relationship and they don't

[32:32]get what they want or they walk into the workplace or a

[32:34]school and they don't get what they want it's a tough reality

[32:38]that they have to face this is a core belief another core

[32:44]belief which is more of a personality disorder is narcissism when a

[32:51]person believes that the entire world revolves around them and that people

[32:56]are there to please them and serve them this is one of

[33:02]the biggest disorders behavioral disorders and challenges because there's almost nothing that

[33:09]you can say to a narcissist that is correct i was speaking

[33:12]to a therapist one time and a muslim therapist i said you

[33:15]know what happens you know you come across many different types of

[33:19]personalities and behaviors and mental illnesses and all of that i said

[33:22]what happens when you come across a narcissist she said narcissists don't

[33:26]walk into my office and if they do they'll walk out of

[33:31]the office and they'll say can you believe that dumb doctor that

[33:34]therapist what what what they're telling me about myself and there's no

[33:40]cure for it based on what i've understood there's no cure for

[33:42]narcissism you can curb them they can develop a sense of self-awareness

[33:48]but for the most part a narcissist remains a narcissist this is

[33:52]a part of core beliefs so our core beliefs we are not

[33:59]always the author of our core belief sometimes it's the way that

[34:02]society has treated us but just because it's not our fault that

[34:06]we grew up believing a certain way does not mean it's not

[34:09]our responsibility there's a difference brothers and sisters between fault and responsibility

[34:13]if somebody knocked at your door and you opened up your door

[34:17]and you found a baby in a crib the baby in the

[34:20]crib is not your fault that the baby is there but it's

[34:24]now your responsibility to take care of it so whatever you grew

[34:27]up with and we have a tendency of blaming our parents our

[34:29]grandparents my they did this for me they didn't do this for

[34:34]me they did this too much they did this too little and

[34:38]even if it was their fault and even if they were abusive

[34:42]they had no right to become abusive but it is now your

[34:44]responsibility to own your life from now forward now that you realize

[34:49]what's happened and this is a very tough pill for people to

[34:55]swallow but this is the height of responsibility was it imam hussain

[34:59]alaihissalam's fault that what happened at kerbal happened wasn't his fault not

[35:03]in the least not in not in the least he avoided it

[35:08]with every decision that he made with every step that he took

[35:11]but that doesn't mean that he failed to be responsible he could

[35:15]have said okay it's not my fault and it's not my responsibility

[35:17]and went the other direction we need to take responsibility for our

[35:22]lives so a lot of what drives us is subconscious not conscious

[35:29]if you can to describe subconscious and conscious if you can if

[35:34]you can imagine an iceberg right and maybe you've seen the picture

[35:37]of how twenty percent resides on top of the surface and eighty

[35:41]percent resides on the bottom our conscious thoughts meaning the thoughts that

[35:45]we are aware of in the moment are that 20 that resides

[35:47]on the top the rest of the bottom is the 80 percent

[35:53]which experts either refer to as subconscious or super conscious or unconscious

[35:57]it all refers to the same thing sigmund freud spoke about our

[36:03]conscious thought and it's this this model is referred to as the

[36:07]mental iceberg so at the top of this iceberg is the conscious

[36:14]level which includes our thoughts and perceptions if i was to walk

[36:16]up to you and show you something and say what are your

[36:18]thoughts on this you can immediately talk about your thoughts or your

[36:23]perceptions if you go one level below the surface you're at the

[36:27]pre-conscious level this includes our memories and our stored knowledge you might

[36:31]have learned something in the sixth grade or the seventh grade and

[36:34]you completely forgot about it the other day my four-year-old daughter said

[36:39]the word parallelogram and it reminded me of i don't know fifth

[36:42]grade or fourth grade we learn things that we will never use

[36:47]in our education system so this is something that is pre-conscious it's

[36:51]not at the top of my mind what a parallelogram is but

[36:55]i have some sort of idea because of what i learned in

[36:58]school and then there's the subconscious this is what drives most of

[37:03]our behaviors fears irrational wishes immoral urges shameful experiences selfish needs these

[37:12]all live deep within and are the driving force behind many of

[37:17]our decisions which we do not see because like the iceberg you're

[37:23]only seeing the tip of it 20 on top and you don't

[37:24]realize the 80 percent that lives below the surface you know speaking

[37:31]speaking of icebergs in when the titanic crashed in april of 1912

[37:35]there were a number of survivors among those survivors were the two

[37:40]sailors that were in the crow's nest that were supposed to be

[37:44]looking out for icebergs and apparently when the titanic first left from

[37:49]if i'm not mistaken ireland it first headed to southampton there were

[37:55]a pair of binoculars up there but when it departed from southampton

[37:58]across the atlantic ocean to come to the eastern seaboard of the

[38:03]united states the binoculars were nowhere to be found so they questioned

[38:10]them the two sailors they survived four days later there was a

[38:13]senate hearing in new york where they questioned them i said well

[38:15]what about the binoculars weren't you seeing they said there were no

[38:17]binoculars there and we didn't ask for them so the senate committee

[38:23]asked them they said well what if you did have the binoculars

[38:25]would you have seen it they said yes we would have seen

[38:30]it enough to divert the titanic most of us we are missing

[38:35]our binoculars in life and we don't want to go looking for

[38:37]our binoculars there's in medical terms there's a there's a condition referred

[38:44]to as cortical blindness now i know i'm preaching to the choir

[38:47]and it's it's a temporary type of blindness where the eyes work

[38:52]the eye itself works but there's no vision and the reason there's

[38:54]no vision is because the visual cortex which is located at the

[38:59]back of the brain is damaged however there are other structures in

[39:02]the brain that are still working so a person experiencing cortical blindness

[39:07]even though they can't see they can maneuver around certain objects there's

[39:13]another structure in the brain referred to as the superior colliculus and

[39:19]this sends information to the parts of the brain that guide our

[39:24]movements so when we're walking around with our subconscious thoughts guiding us

[39:31]in the wrong direction it's like us experiencing cortical blindness you can

[39:37]maneuver to a certain extent but you can't fully see what's going

[39:41]on in front of you so what our what are our core

[39:49]beliefs and how do we understand our core beliefs number one is

[39:52]that if you find yourself in a cycle where you have the

[39:58]same repetitive behaviors and in the same situation year after year month

[40:02]after month decade after decade that means that you have to do

[40:04]some exploration of your core beliefs what are what are some of

[40:10]your motives you have to look beneath the surface sometimes we need

[40:13]to speak to a therapist sometimes we need to speak to a

[40:18]trusted friend or a mentor and we need to practice radical open-mindedness

[40:21]and be completely open the more you are open the more you

[40:27]are transparent the more you are open-minded the more success and clarity

[40:30]you will begin to gain in your life brothers and sisters something

[40:34]that most people walk around without a prime example of that was

[40:40]the enemies of imam hussain alaihissalam they had experienced a type of

[40:45]blindness because their egos took over their blind spots were not clear

[40:49]for them their subconscious motives and their drivers had taken over those

[40:55]who had clarity found themselves in the camp of imam hussain and

[41:01]tonight within these final few minutes we honor the companions of said

[41:07]those people who found themselves in a difficult situation but they were

[41:16]not confused they had clarity and because they had clarity it excited

[41:21]them to be on the side of imam hussain al-islam they were

[41:25]they were exuberant not necessarily happy but joyous and exuberant because they

[41:30]knew that they were on the side of the truth they knew

[41:34]that they were on the side on the path of the prophet

[41:38]muhammad peace be upon him among those companions was the noble companion

[41:43]joan mola abivar al-rifari a man who lived with abu dharr rifari

[41:48]the righteous companion and when he passed away he found himself in

[41:53]the home of the ahlul bayt in the home of imam amir

[41:58]al-mu'min then in the home of ali hassan al-mustaba then in the

[42:01]home of imam hussain and of course he was a free man

[42:06]you know we we tend to think that he was a slave

[42:07]no he was a free man but he decided to stick around

[42:10]with the and so on that day on the day of ashura

[42:16]imam hussain alayhi salaam turned and he said is there anyone to

[42:29]come to our rescue is there anybody who will come to our

[42:31]aid is there anyone who will protect the woman folk of the

[42:37]family of the prophet and the companions began to stand one by

[42:39]one among them joan maula by this time he was an elderly

[42:48]man he was an elderly gentleman imam hussain turned to him he

[42:52]said o joan he said you have spent your entire life with

[42:57]us serving us being with us he said he said to him

[43:03]you came to us in good will and now you are free

[43:09]you no longer have any responsibilities you can go you can go

[43:15]your way live the rest of your life as you want joan

[43:17]turned to him he said he said during times of prosperity i

[43:30]was honored to eat from your leftovers and now that we're experiencing

[43:33]a time of hardship you think i am going to abandon you

[43:36]now allah no by god this will not happen i will stand

[43:40]by you until my blood mixes with your blood even though i'm

[43:44]not from the purest lineage even though i do not smell the

[43:49]best however i it is my wish that my blood mixes with

[43:51]your pure blood and he went out into the battlefield fighting like

[43:56]a brave warrior until finally he struck he was struck down when

[44:00]he was struck down imam hussain alaihissalam rushed to him and he

[44:04]did something that he did not do with anybody else except his

[44:09]son ali in akbar he placed his cheek on the cheek of

[44:14]joan this was a sign of endearment as he said goodbye to

[44:16]him another companion was a young man a young man by the

[44:22]name of amrub no junadal ansari his father junadal ansari had gone

[44:26]out into the battlefield he had fought for imam hussain he had

[44:29]lost his life all of a sudden this young boy who was

[44:32]maybe around 11 or 12 years old wanted to go out into

[44:37]the battlefield he came asking permission from imam hussain imam hussain turned

[44:42]him he says imam hussain said i cannot allow a woman the

[44:46]mother to be bereaved of two people in one day i will

[44:50]not allow her to lose her husband and her son in one

[44:53]day so the young man went back he went back to his

[44:57]mother informing her that imam had not given him permission all of

[45:01]a sudden the mother comes back with the child the mother comes

[45:04]back with the young man to the imam she says i'm asking

[45:08]you permission for him to go out into the battlefield he tells

[45:12]her that i cannot have you lose your your husband and son

[45:15]in one day in one sitting she said to him she said

[45:19]to him is it fair um is it fair that your mother

[45:26]bereaves her son but it is is it fair that she believes

[45:31]her son and i cannot believe my son at that moment she

[45:34]imam hussain alaihissalam gave the blessing to the young man and he

[45:40]went out into the battlefield some narrators say that he was reciting

[45:43]poetry he was saying he began to recite poetry in praise of

[45:48]imam hussein allah my master is hussein and the best of masters

[46:04]do you know anyone else who is the son of fatima and

[46:09]ali finally he went back into the he went out into the

[46:11]battlefield and was struck down at in those moments he was brought

[46:18]back and laid to rest among the rest of the companions [Music]

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