Sayed Ahmed AlQazwini - "Importance of Parents" Night 4

10 المشاهدات· 16/10/08

Ahlul Bayt Center of Toledo
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Night 4 of Muharram 2016 at the Ahlul Bayt Center of Toledo.

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[0:00][Applause] [Music] s [Music] [Music] Shah [Music] [Music] illuminate your malalis and

[1:11]Enlighten your hearts with a loud salaat for Muhammad and Al Muhammad

[1:19]respected brothers and sisters the most important tenant of our faith is

[1:28]the belief in the Oneness of Allah subh waala that there is

[1:33]no God besides Allah and every messenger that Allah used to send

[1:37]to his tribe and people that messenger's Duty was to convey the

[1:41]most important message his first message and the most important was that

[1:45]of a to invite people to believe in Allah and only Allah

[1:50]to get rid of the idols and that's why when was sent

[1:55]to his people and he began to invite them to Islam Islam

[1:58]was one sentence one message you want to become a Muslim you

[2:04]want to become successful say there is no God but Allah and

[2:07]then gradually the other came so this is the most important tenant

[2:11]of our faith the believing in Allah subhana tala only and disbelieving

[2:16]in the other gods and idols and Allah subhana T says in

[2:23]the Holy Quran Allah says that he has ordained two things two

[2:30]Commandments the two most important Commandments they come together number one the

[2:36]belief in Allah subhanahu wa taala only to be a monotheist and

[2:40]then the Ayah says after that Allah Allah said and to be

[2:47]kind and generous and compassionate and merciful with your parents now Allah

[2:51]could have chosen any other thing Allah could have said Salah he

[2:54]could have said zakat right after but he chose to choose the

[2:58]importance of our parents respect ing our parents and being kind towards

[3:04]them right after which is the most important that we believe in

[3:07]and that's why likewise is the most important belief likewise the greatest

[3:14]sin that we can commit is what sh the Holy Quran says

[3:20]if someone dies and he has committed sins he does not repent

[3:27]Allah says if those sins if amongst those sins was shik I

[3:29]won't forgive you you if you don't repent you just die while

[3:34]you're mush but if there were other sins Allah May forgive you

[3:36]this is without repentance with repentance even sh will be forgiven this

[3:40]is if someone dies without Toba Allah says I will not forgive

[3:43]you if it is sh so with shik Allah subhana wa taala

[3:48]is strict Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala is not lenient with shik if you

[3:53]do shik Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will be strict with me and

[3:58]that's why this is the greatest sin that someone could commit but

[4:02]however sh with Allah subhana wa tala completely does not accept if

[4:06]the person that is committing the sh is our parents Allah all

[4:11]of a sudden becomes lenient towards my parents Allah says in the

[4:16]Holy Quran about our parents if your parents tell you to do

[4:23]they are mus you're a Muslim and they tell you to do

[4:27]sh they tell you my dear son my dear daughter do sh

[4:31]PRI straight to this idol worship this individual besides Allah now this

[4:34]is what this is basically like Waging War with Allah because we

[4:37]said is the number one crime that the human being can do

[4:42]so if your parents are encouraging you to perform the number one

[4:45]sin which is like Waging War against Allah all of a sudden

[4:49]Allah becomes a little Leni and soft because they are my parents

[4:52]what does Allah say Allah says go and fight them and kill

[4:56]no Allah says number one you can't listen to them if my

[4:59]parents tell me to dis by Allah of course Allah comes before

[5:03]my parents so I can't say since my father and mother telling

[5:05]me do sh I'm going to do shik no my father comes

[5:09]before EV my my Lord comes before any human being even if

[5:11]they're my parents and that's why unfortunately I have heard many stories

[5:15]of certain parents mother father or both their daughter wants to wear

[5:19]hijab but the parents they discourage them don't wear hijab hijab is

[5:25]backwards hijab is this hijab is that do I have the right

[5:27]to follow my parents no I never follow any human being if

[5:32]they are leading me away from Allah this is a rule I

[5:35]never listen to a human being even if they are my parents

[5:38]if they are disbelieving Allah so Allah says do not follow them

[5:45]don't do don't do don't listen to them but however still you

[5:48]have to be respectful with them you have to live with them

[5:55]and treat them with kindness with respect even if they are what

[5:58]even if they are telling you to do sh what does this

[6:02]Ayah show you this Ayah highlights that there is no that there

[6:05]is no person that has been given a prominent position like the

[6:09]father and the mother even if they tell you do sh you

[6:11]have to respect them but don't listen to them and that's why

[6:16]there's a beautiful story that's narrated by alfi a man by the

[6:21]name of zakar IIM he comes to IM one day and he

[6:26]tells him that I used to be a Christian man and I

[6:27]converted to Islam Allah guided me and I went to Hajj and

[6:31]now I have a question the IM tells him what's your question

[6:36]he tells him that my family are still Christians they did not

[6:38]convert my mother his father had apparently died my mother is an

[6:41]old woman and she's a Christian woman and when we get on

[6:45]on the dinner table we want to eat can I eat with

[6:47]them or not the Hadith says said did they eat pork or

[6:52]not now the question of the IM even though he said pork

[6:54]but the IM meant did they eat meats or not the IM

[6:57]the the man he told the Imad no they don't eat pork

[7:01]those meats IM told him that you can eat as long as

[7:02]they are not eating Meats because we cannot eat the meat of

[7:06]non-muslims if I want to eat meat I has to be Halal

[7:10]has to be given to me by a Muslim has to be

[7:10]slaughtered in the Islamic way so he tells him that you can

[7:15]eat with them as long as it's not the meats and then

[7:19]the Imam he tells him I have some Wills for you I

[7:20]have some advice for you after you go back to your city

[7:24]I want you to start treating your mother better than before I

[7:28]want you to give her a special extra treatment treat her with

[7:33]kindness treat her with respect more than when you were a Christian

[7:36]and I want you to take care of all her needs and

[7:39]if she died she's an old woman if she died you will

[7:42]be the one that will take care of her burial and her

[7:44]funeral don't leave her for someone else so the Imam tells him

[7:48]this this man goes back to Al kufa he lived in Al

[7:50]KFA his mother is a Christian he goes back and he the

[7:54]words of IM are in his mind so now he starts treating

[7:58]his mother better than before he he treats her with so so

[8:01]much respect so much kindness he begins to cook for her and

[8:03]feed her and he begins to even change her clothes and do

[8:07]her laundry and treats her like he's he's the father and he's

[8:09]his daughter and she's his daughter so he begins to treats her

[8:15]treat her in in a very beautiful way the mother begins to

[8:18]notice what's going on she tells him my dear son what happened

[8:22]ever since you changed your religion you have been treating me in

[8:25]a much better way what has happened he tells her yes this

[8:27]is the will of my IM my IM told told me to

[8:30]do this so she said is he a prophet he told her

[8:34]no he is the grandson of our Prophet she said no he

[8:38]must be a prophet because such words of wisdom to respect your

[8:40]mother even if she's from another religion and to respect her more

[8:45]than you were a Christian such words only come from a prophet

[8:49]he tells her this man is the grandson of our Prophet if

[8:51]he's this great can you imagine how the prophet is how great

[8:55]the prophet was so she says my dear son I want you

[8:59]to tell me about Islam he tells her about Islam and she's

[9:02]convinced and she eventually Embraces Islam he teaches her Salah he says

[9:05]that day that she became Muslim she prayed Salah after she began

[9:11]to feel sick and Ill she fell ill and that same night

[9:17]she died before she died she told her son once again I

[9:20]want to make sure that my faith is correct she says and

[9:25]then she says the names of all the Imam he says then

[9:33]I went and I buried her with the Muslims and I prayed

[9:37]on her janaza what a beautiful story this is brothers and sisters

[9:41]we learned three lessons from this story number one what do we

[9:44]learn we learn from the story that if someone spends his entire

[9:48]life away from Allah but even the final day of their lives

[9:50]they turn to Allah Allah will still forgive them this woman her

[9:53]entire life she was a Christian the last day of her life

[9:58]she becomes a Muslim and she truly repents to Allah she dies

[10:03]a she dies a person a pure person that Allah subhah wa

[10:06]taala had forgiven that's number one number two the second lesson we

[10:09]learn is what what a beautiful message this Hadith is to non-muslims

[10:13]imagine if we tell non-muslims about this Hadith that our IM his

[10:18]will to his Shia is to what is to respect your mother

[10:20]even if she's a Christian you're a Muslim and to respect her

[10:25]more than when you were a Christian so what does this tell

[10:27]them that once I become a Muslim I have to try respect

[10:31]my parents more than before even if they are from a different

[10:33]religion can you imagine how beautiful this message would be in the

[10:37]eyes of non-muslims Christians this is number two and number three it

[10:43]shows the prominent position of our mothers and fathers but specifically mothers

[10:48]it shows that Islam respects and has a position for our parents

[10:53]like no other religion even if she's a Christian even if they

[10:59]are mus idolators I respect respect them and like I said especially

[11:06]mothers because the Hadith of said that a man the Hadith says

[11:09]the man came tool and he told him Yol Allah who should

[11:13]I be kind to he said your mother he asked then who

[11:14]he said your mother he asked then who he said your mother

[11:18]three times and then the fourth time he said your father Hadith

[11:22]that all Muslims are narrate so your mother comes before your father

[11:27]and the Hadith the other Hadith of the Prophet says what does

[11:33]this mean he says Heaven that we all want to go to

[11:39]inshallah we'll go to heaven one day Heaven is beneath the feet

[11:41]of your mother what does this mean if you want to enter

[11:46]Heaven your mother will be a gate if your mother is pleased

[11:47]with you you will enter if not you will not so you

[11:51]cannot enter Heaven unless your mother is pleased with you the Hadi

[11:53]did not say your father even though my father is important and

[11:57]I have to respect him and he has to be pleased with

[12:01]me but the Hadith emphasizes on our mothers and the question here

[12:07]is why why all this emphasis on our parents what's why this

[12:11]exaggeration you might ask various reasons if I am not a parent

[12:14]maybe I pose this question but if I am a parent I

[12:18]already understand the answer how many sleepless nights do we spend with

[12:21]our children raising them how many nights how many days how many

[12:27]countless hours do we spend with our with our children aming them

[12:30]how many nights our CH children are sick they can't sleep and

[12:34]we have to spend hours even though I may have an exam

[12:38]tomorrow I may have work tomorrow I have toit but yet I

[12:42]have to spend the night with my child and I'm happy when

[12:44]I do that and that's why the Holy Quran says about this

[12:49]and we have what we have advised the human being and we

[12:55]have enjoined him upon what we have enjoined upon him to be

[12:57]kind towards your parents that be kind towards your parents and then

[13:04]the Holy Quran says Allah mentions the mother because the mother we

[13:11]have to be honest the mother is the one that spends most

[13:15]of the time with the children and the Quran says that for

[13:18]those nine months the mother she Bears the child she carries the

[13:23]child trouble after trouble pain after pain can you imagine we fathers

[13:29]We Men We we we don't understand this because we don't experience

[13:31]it the mothers they know this for nine months you has to

[13:33]carry this child and then is it over when the child comes

[13:37]to life no when the child is born the you know it's

[13:42]even gets sometimes more difficult for the Holy Quran says at least

[13:47]two years the mother has to breastfeed she has to take care

[13:51]of the changing the diapers and basically doing everything for the baby

[13:54]and it's the mothers that usually do the most of the most

[13:56]part and then after that the mother has to raise the child

[14:00]the father has to raise the child and then when they become

[14:02]you this this is when the problems begin this is when they

[14:07]begin to develop other beliefs and when they begin to rebel against

[14:09]the parents and so many parents have a hard time with their

[14:11]children so all this trouble all this Agony just so I raise

[14:15]a human being so he can live by himself independently so is

[14:18]Allah subh asking too much no and thus the Hadith of says

[14:23]that one day a man came to and he told him y

[14:26]I am so kind with my mother she's an old woman I

[14:30]carry her on my back I feed her I do everything for

[14:35]her I take care of her in the best way have I

[14:39]repaid my mother because you know how much she did for me

[14:43]have I repaid her he tells her he tells him no you

[14:45]have not and then he says why he says a beautiful Hadith

[14:52]the holy prophet [Music] says he says every part think about about

[14:59]it brothers and sisters a mother and her child every part of

[15:05]her body is at the disposal of the child not just her

[15:08]time even her body is at the disposal of the child the

[15:15]Hadith says what look at her stomach her womb she gave it

[15:18]to you nine months just so you grow in it brothers and

[15:22]sisters no matter how kind I am with another person and hospitable

[15:25]what's the most thing I can do the most thing I can

[15:28]do is I tell him come and sleep in my house correct

[15:31]I give him my house if I want to be more kind

[15:32]I tell him come and sleep in my master bedroom I'll sleep

[15:34]on the couch can you imagine giving your stomach to someone 9

[15:38]months there's no kindness above this as for your food what was

[15:49]your source of food it was her breast the milk that she

[15:51]breasted fed you with so your what Your Home is the stomach

[15:56]and then once you're born your food is from her also and

[15:58]then the holy prophet says and her feet are your ve vehicle

[16:04]babies when they want to go somewhere they just cry the mother

[16:08]has to take it's like a car from and her hands are

[16:14]for your protection anytime when the child is bothered or when the

[16:17]child is it's the mother that uses her hands to protect her

[16:22]child and her lap is a chair for you anytime our children

[16:26]are born they just come and sit at on our on our

[16:31]laps correct so all my body the body of a of a

[16:32]mother is at the disposal and at the service of the daughter

[16:36]and the son those babies and then we ask why and then

[16:39]the holy prophet says and when she did all of that for

[16:46]you her all all her time and bodies for you she wished

[16:52]that you lived a long life you won't see parents usually say

[16:55]with their babies oh when will I get rid of this baby

[16:58]when will he grow and you know I can finally relax No

[17:01]in fact you see parents say I love my I want my

[17:03]child to always stay a child because of how much I enjoy

[17:08]raising my child she wants you to live a long life she

[17:10]doesn't want you to die she doesn't consider this a burden but

[17:18]you when you carry your old mother your old weak mother on

[17:23]your back and you feed her you may not say it but

[17:26]you think with yourself when will my mother finally leave this world

[17:29]and I can relax I've seen certain families when the father he

[17:33]becomes very old Alzheimer's he can't do anything he can't even go

[17:37]to the restroom they have to take him and clean him they

[17:39]have to do he's just like a baby Subhan Allah the other

[17:43]day they sent a picture an old woman and a baby sitting

[17:44]next to each other they're one they're equal they both are in

[17:48]need of other human beings this is how Allah subhana you start

[17:51]weak you become strong and then you go weak so I've seen

[17:54]certain families when the when the father or the mother becomes so

[17:59]ill and sick and they have to take care of them they

[18:00]begin to tell them so when will they finally leave and this

[18:04]burden will be taken off our back they might not say it

[18:06]but they think it correct why number one because it's a burden

[18:11]number two sometimes with the father there's inheritance so what so you

[18:15]want this person to die and leave this world but does the

[18:17]mother ever think that does the mother ever say that so the

[18:21]holy prophet says of course you will never repay your mother of

[18:23]course you will never repay your father and that's why in another

[18:27]Hadith the holy prophet said if you serve your mother if you

[18:33]serve your mother as much as the drops of the ocean and

[18:35]the particles of sand how many drops of the ocean and how

[18:40]many raindrops are there we can't count them trillions upon trillions if

[18:43]that's how many days you serve your mother how many sand particles

[18:47]are there unlimited Allah knows if you serve your mother that many

[18:51]days the holy prophet doesn't say you have not repaid your mother

[18:56]he says you have not repaid one day of pregnancy 9 months

[19:00]time 30 is 270 days correct you have not paid one out

[19:04]of 270 just pregnancy let alone the other years after you're born

[19:07]and you after she's raising you and in another Hadith I saw

[19:09]the holy prophet said you won't even repay one contraction when she

[19:14]was delivering you and then we ask why does Allah subhana T

[19:18]give our parents such a high position mothers fathers they give everything

[19:23]that they have for their children so it's obvious that Allah subhana

[19:27]asks you to be kind toward was your parents there was a

[19:32]interesting and a very heartbreaking story that I read about a mother

[19:36]and a son the story says that there was a mother and

[19:41]she had a young son who used to go to Middle School

[19:44]the mother's face was somewhat deformed it was distorted because of an

[19:50]incident that happened in her life and she because of that the

[19:56]son was uncomfortable if his mother was around him so anytime she

[20:03]used to come to pick him up from school if his friend

[20:07]see that this is his mother and she looks so weird they

[20:10]would laugh at him he would look weird so he would tell

[20:13]her all the time that don't pick me up in front of

[20:17]the school I need you to park far and I come there

[20:18]and he would always break her heart and tell her things oh

[20:23]I'm so ashamed I'm so embarrassed when you come and I don't

[20:25]love you and all of that and he would tell her when

[20:27]is the day that I can finally leave this house and go

[20:30]away and live a normal life because I'm always looked down upon

[20:32]you I have a a weird mother and that mother that resembles

[20:35]a monster in all this nonsense so he would always break her

[20:40]heart but she never said anything she would always laugh she would

[20:44]always smile she would always look back at him with love until

[20:48]he finally turned 18 and he said my mother my dear Mother

[20:57]goodbye I will never see you again he he went into those

[21:01]dorms he moved to another city he graduated he got married and

[21:04]he never never spoke to his mother she used to send him

[21:09]letters he would never read them he completely rejected her out of

[21:13]his life until one day finally years after she decided to go

[21:17]visit his son in that town that he had moved to in

[21:21]the city and now he had he was married and he had

[21:24]children so she found the the address she went she knocked the

[21:27]door who comes to open the door the grandson his her son's

[21:32]son he's a young child 5 years old he opens the door

[21:35]he sees this woman and her face is deformed so he begins

[21:38]to R cry out loud monster and he runs away crying the

[21:40]father comes what is this he comes he sees his mother instead

[21:44]of telling his mother come my dear Mother inside I have not

[21:47]seen you for so many years let alone the all the harmful

[21:52]and negative things that he had done to her now after years

[21:54]she has come and she is standing in front of his house

[22:00]what does he tell her how dare you come and follow me

[22:03]you ruined my life and now you want to ruin my children's

[22:05]life why did you come and now you see you scared my

[22:08]children he tells her I never want to see your face again

[22:11]and he closed the door he closes the door on her face

[22:16]she leaves his house but with a broken heart and with her

[22:22]eyes brimming with tears but she never says anything she leaves she

[22:26]goes back to his house once again years pass by and he

[22:30]receives a letter one day telling him that your mother has passed

[22:36]away and the funeral will be on this day when he hears

[22:38]his mother has passed away he said you know after being such

[22:43]an ungrateful son towards my mother let me go and at least

[22:45]participate in her funeral in bual so he goes to his City

[22:51]his town he participates in the funeral after that he says let

[22:54]me go to my mother's house and look around he goes in

[22:57]that house he remembers the old memories and then finally he finds

[23:01]a note he finds a note and on it it says this

[23:09]is to my dear and only son to him my dear son

[23:13]I need you to know something first of all I want you

[23:16]to forgive me all the pain that I caused you she doesn't

[23:20]say all the pain you caused me she tells him all the

[23:22]pain I cause you this is how mothers are their hearts are

[23:25]just so great for all the embarrassment that I caused you but

[23:28]however I wanted you before I die I wanted you I wanted

[23:32]to write the story so that after I die you know the

[23:35]story I want you to know of an incident that happened when

[23:37]you were a child when you were a baby one day when

[23:40]you were sleeping in your room and I was sleeping in my

[23:42]room there was a fire that erupted in the room and that

[23:47]fire got out of control and I went and I risked my

[23:52]life to save your life and Meanwhile my face caught on fire

[23:59]and this is how my face became so distorted because I tried

[24:02]my best to rescue you and save your life and know that

[24:08]even though you never loved me and you never showed me love

[24:13]I never for one day regretted what I did I love you

[24:15]my dear son from your mom when he read that story can

[24:19]you imagine what happened to him all those years he was embarrassed

[24:21]from his mother's looks it was all because of him because she

[24:24]wanted to rescue him but never did she one day tell him

[24:29]that you're making fun of me I got this look because of

[24:33]you you would have been dead if I wouldn't have come in

[24:35]the room and saved you he collapsed and he began to cry

[24:40]and cry but what's the point his mother is dead now she's

[24:44]six feet under this is maybe a story that we hear but

[24:47]we can all we can all attest to this that our mother's

[24:55]heart are so vast and so great and our mothers they sacrific

[24:57]so much for us is it too much that Allah subhah wa

[25:02]ta'ala he says he asks us to show them kindness to show

[25:04]them respect and that's why says no matter what you do you

[25:10]will not pay repay for one day of the pregnancy you will

[25:12]not even repay one contraction that she had when she delivered you

[25:18]there's no exaggeration in this and that's why brothers and sisters there

[25:23]are a few points that we have to keep in mind when

[25:26]it comes to our parents and and I will mention six points

[25:29]and this is not just when we say when we speak about

[25:33]these topics what what do we usually think I'm speaking to the

[25:35]children no this is for all of us to me to you

[25:39]even if you're 60 70 years old these points some of them

[25:44]they also apply to us we all have parents none of us

[25:47]don't have parents so some of these points will definitely apply to

[25:51]us six points I will quickly mention when it comes to dealing

[25:53]with our parents Point number One never ever disrespect your parents if

[26:00]your parents your father or mother made a mistake one day they

[26:03]were wrong never ever hurt their feelings never rebuke them never scold

[26:08]them never yell at them never hurt their feelings if they promised

[26:12]to take you somewhere if they promised to do something for you

[26:18]but they couldn't or they didn't never ever yelled at them and

[26:21]hurt their feelings do you know what the Quran says the Holy

[26:23]Quran says do not even say of to them of the of

[26:29]means what he says in the Arabic language the least way in

[26:35]which you express dissatisfaction is through of if you're dissatisfied with someone

[26:39]you're angry sometimes you can go and pick a fight sometimes you

[26:42]can swear you can curse sometimes you can object other times you'll

[26:45]just say your mother says do the laundry do some chores your

[26:49]father says you're grounded whatever the least thing you can do is

[26:54]say of correct the Holy Quran says do not do this this

[26:55]is Haram this is a sin the small smallest sign of dissatisfaction

[27:01]is Haram so Allah is telling us it's completely unacceptable to show

[27:06]any disrespect to your parents this is point number one point number

[27:09]two that we learned from the story I mentioned never repel your

[27:12]parents and push them back especially if they want to show you

[27:17]love and affection now what's unfortunate about this country is that once

[27:20]our children begin to grow what are they taught in this Society

[27:23]your parents are not cool can you imagine if the mother kisses

[27:26]her 15-year-old children in front of her in front of his or

[27:31]her uh friends this is so uncool this is embarrassing and so

[27:34]many children I see they push their parents back when they show

[27:39]them love never do this Wallah you'll regret it one day when

[27:41]you become a father and mother you will see what an ungrateful

[27:43]and ungrateful daughter you were toward your parents never push that in

[27:48]fact you should be the one that initiates these affectionate and loving

[27:52]actions with your parents you started not them they they want to

[27:55]show you love and you push them back doesn't matter what my

[27:59]friends think let them think I'm not cool the point is I

[28:02]please my parents this is point number two point number three that

[28:06]we have to keep in mind show them utmost respect meaning what

[28:10]unfortunately in this country this isn't this isn't taught in the schools

[28:13]and this this doesn't exist in in the families number one every

[28:18]time you greet your father and mother kiss their hands kiss their

[28:23]forehead yes there's nothing wrong with that show them that respect every

[28:29]time if it's not every time do it at least once a

[28:30]week at least once a month kiss their hands in that in

[28:35]their forehead show them that love number two never walk in front

[28:37]of your parents this is something I see many times the son

[28:41]the daughter they're walking in he's 17 18 20 25 his father

[28:44]Walks Behind do not do this even this you might see it's

[28:48]small it's trivial but even to this extent I respect my parents

[28:50]do not walk in front of them walk behind them if they

[28:54]are carrying something don't just walk you take what they I see

[28:56]sometimes the mother is carrying or the Father the load and the

[28:59]son is just walking no you take the load from them and

[29:02]number three anytime they enter wherever you're sitting stand up don't just

[29:08]say Salam stand up and sometimes unfortunately we're sitting I see some

[29:11]some youth they're sitting like a couch potato watching TV the father

[29:14]com Salam Salam Baba that's not how you say Salam to your

[29:17]father and mother you stand up and give them a standing ovation

[29:20]yes if your father and mother don't deserve that who do my

[29:24]friends that so these are some things that we have to make

[29:27]a habit when your father and mother around show them respect and

[29:30]that's why you see that I've seen many many you know faithful

[29:36]families I see the child he's brought up in a way in

[29:41]which he treats his father and mother as if he's a he's

[29:43]a servant and they are the Masters there's never too much with

[29:49]our parents the more I show them respect the more Allah will

[29:52]give me success this is number three number four the fourth point

[29:55]with our parents is what is try this this is difficult I

[30:01]know but try your best to never refuse any request that they

[30:04]make our parents sometimes do this do that come with me do

[30:09]this go over there and sometimes what sometimes we don't want to

[30:12]do it try your best to never ever reject and refuse a

[30:18]request of your parents Allah will give you the success in this

[30:21]world and in the everything they tell you try your best to

[30:25]do it even if it's difficult some people unfortunately when their parents

[30:28]ask something from them they see it as a burden oh my

[30:32]father wants me to go and bring something for him my mom

[30:34]wants me to do the chores they want me to take out

[30:37]the garbage don't look at it in that way see it's as

[30:41]an honor that I'm serving my mother and father and from time

[30:45]to time go and help them offer them tell them my dear

[30:50]father my dear my dear mother or father today I have 1

[30:51]hour free time can I help you in any way can I

[30:53]help you my dear Mother in the kitchen in the house can

[30:57]I do anything ask the father if you drive tell the father

[30:59]can I go pick up the children today I have free time

[31:02]do you want me to go buy something from the market whatever

[31:04]way you can offer always offer your services to your parents Allah

[31:08]will give you the most success in this way wah so many

[31:12]stories I have seen with my eyes those individuals that served their

[31:16]parents Allah subhana gave them so much in this world before the

[31:20]gave them success so this is number four number five be loyal

[31:24]to your parents and this is for the older generation when what

[31:28]do I mean when you're child when you when I was a

[31:31]child and I needed my parents when I was a child I

[31:38]needed my parents they were there for me correct when our parents

[31:43]grow old they once again become weak and they need us do

[31:46]not abandon them and neglect them and forget them when they are

[31:51]in need of you what's unfortunate about this country is that many

[31:54]many many sons and daughters when their parents grow old where did

[31:58]they send them nursing homes senior homes correct when you were young

[32:05]they raised you in their in their bedroom and now you send

[32:08]them to a to a senior house this is how you betray

[32:11]them this is how disloyal you are to them now sometimes yes

[32:14]sometimes maybe they can't they don't have the room they don't have

[32:19]the financial capability but that's only exceptions most of the times you

[32:22]see so many people in this country they completely forget about their

[32:25]children and their parents and they are completely capable of taking care

[32:30]of them this is what this is a form of betrayal be

[32:31]loyal to them when you were in need to them they were

[32:35]there for you now be there for them do not send them

[32:36]to the nurser to the nursing homes to the to the senior

[32:41]homes this is a form of a a way in which I

[32:46]become an ungrateful son an ungrateful daughter and Wallah if I do

[32:49]that my sons and daughters will do the same thing to me

[32:51]what goes around comes around they say famous you know as they

[32:55]say it as a joke that one day a daughter asked her

[32:59]mother my dear Mother I see a gray hair on your on

[33:00]your head gray hair there's one why is that so the mother

[33:05]tells her it's because of how much trouble you give me this

[33:08]gray hair is grown so the daughter she thinks H now I

[33:12]know why grandma has so much gray hair cuz you are her

[33:14]daughter however I treat my mother my children will treat me in

[33:20]the same way however I treat my father my children will treat

[33:22]me in if I want to end my life in the nursing

[33:25]home send your parents to the nursing homes this is one number

[33:28]two so take care of them with your time number two be

[33:31]generous if you're financially capable if they are in need be generous

[33:35]with them help them give them gifts these are your parents they

[33:38]gave you everything when you were a child and I personally know

[33:43]a family I know a son he's alhamdulillah financially capable W I

[33:49]have not seen such of this son all the expenses of the

[33:55]parents are on this son and their the parents they spend they

[33:57]spend every year they travel they go to Haj they go to

[34:01]they go to MH I don't know where they he bought them

[34:05]a house he gives them a salary every month anything they want

[34:08]he buys to them and he's financially capable and he in front

[34:11]of his father I seen him he's like 50 years old his

[34:14]father is 70 75 in front of his father he's like a

[34:17]Ser never does he rub it in does he oh my father

[34:21]I gave you so much W when I see this young this

[34:21]man's face I see a face of a person that will enter

[34:25]Jenna right away I don't care how many sins he has done

[34:29]his will be his intercession his such love towards his parents and

[34:35]some of us we don't have time for our parents when they

[34:39]ask us for something so small we cannot this is number five

[34:42]and finally number six is what always do Dua for your parents

[34:46]always do Dua for them in in Salah after Salah in any

[34:51]time you ask Allah for something begin with your parents read the

[34:55]duas of the Quran Allah I ask you to forgive my parents

[35:07]to show them Mercy in the same way that they were merciful

[35:09]with me and especially if they are dead do good deeds for

[35:13]them for example hold a magj for IM Hussein in their name

[35:17]bring food give to the in their name they will benefit from

[35:20]it read read Quran for them donate give to your local Islamic

[35:26]Center and intend it for the soul gift it to the soul

[35:28]of your mother and father so don't think that just because they

[35:32]died if their grave is in in in your city always visit

[35:34]them once a month at least only in that way I could

[35:39]be a grateful son and a grateful daughter our mothers our fathers

[35:41]they do so much for us but like I said especially the

[35:43]mothers and that's why when we speak about as andala you find

[35:50]so many beautiful examples of mothers that gave everything they had for

[35:54]IM Hussein for Allah for Islam amongst them was whom a say

[35:58]Z she gave her two children and Muhammad and she never even

[36:04]mentioned it she never even mention she sacrificed everything this was amongst

[36:08]them another one was aab she gave her little six-month old baby

[36:12]for the sake of Allah for IM Hussein another one was Lea

[36:17]the mother of ALB she gave her son another one was RA

[36:20]the mother of Al another one was the mother of the wife

[36:28]of and that's why it's narrated that when im Hussein wanted to

[36:34]go toala she was there she did not go with them she

[36:36]had to stay in Al Medina and when she when they wanted

[36:42]to leave she came to farewell them but before they left she

[36:45]called her son Abbas she called my dear son Abbas I need

[36:50]to tell you a few things what is it Abbas comes to

[36:53]and she tells him I have only one wish from you one

[36:55]will I raised you with my own hands I did everything for

[36:58]for you now I have only one wish for you to repay

[37:02]me what is that he she tells him I want you to

[37:04]take care of abdah Hussein sacrifice your life for ab abdah Hussein

[37:10]that's all I want from you Abbas take care of ab Abdullah

[37:12]and that's why the Hadith says the days went the days came

[37:17]back after the tragedy of carala when the woman were coming back

[37:21]to Medina a man by the name of he was leading them

[37:25]he entered Medina and he began to tell the people of Medina

[37:27]of how IM Hussein was killed he came to the city of

[37:32]Medina telling [Music] [Music] them he tells the people of Alina I

[37:46]bring you the sad news thatd was killed in now she's in

[37:52]Medina she hears that there is chaos commotion she comes out she

[37:55]sees Bish what do you say what do you have for us

[37:58]he tells her I bring news from carala so what does she

[38:03]tell him she tells him tell me about my son Hussein and

[38:05]she calls him my son that's all she cared about she doesn't

[38:09]ask about her biological Sons Abbas and the other ones she asked

[38:13]about AB abdah she tells him tell me about my son he

[38:18]tells her he tells her I console you because your three sons

[38:31]they are killed in she tells him tell me about Hussein he

[38:35]tells her for his hands were SED in when she hears that

[38:46]she cries out she tells him you have broken my heart I

[38:53]wish you would have never told me about Abbas but I want

[38:55]you to tell me about my son Hussein he tells her if

[39:00]you ask me [Music] [Applause] [Music] about if you ask me about

[39:17]Hussein I will tell you that his body is in but his

[39:19]head is on the spear and it is being moved from City

[39:24]to city and from country to Country [Music] [Music] brothers and sisters

[39:47]raise our hands together and let us ask Allah subhanahu waala With

[39:50]the blessings of IM Hussein and these tears that we have shed

[39:55]for ab abdah Hussein that he may forgive us and he may

[39:57]give us the the that we can be grateful Sons and Daughters

[40:02]to our parents Allah Allah [Music] [Music] [Music] salaat [Applause] [Music]

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