Muharram [Night 7] - Inter-Gender Values Part I: Purpose | Sayed Mahdi Qazwini

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Muharram [Night 7] - Inter-Gender Values Part I: Purpose | Sayed Mahdi Qazwini at the Ahlul Bayt Center of Toledo

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[0:41][Music] yesterday last night we spent some time talking about our core

[1:29]beliefs and how our core beliefs determine our direction in life some

[1:39]of these beliefs are represented or pulled from our conscious awareness these

[1:48]are the things which the ideas and the concepts which are most

[1:54]apparent to us they are most accessible and then there are those

[2:05]beliefs which are pulled from the subconscious that live beneath the surface

[2:10]and unless we do the work to explore what is beneath the

[2:13]surface we never really have a proper understanding of our subconscious beliefs

[2:21]tonight we'd like to ask the question of what is our role

[2:26]in figuring out our path and our purpose in life many people

[2:35]ask the question rightfully so at one point or another that how

[2:41]much of my life is predestined and how much free will do

[2:51]i have how can i figure out my path do i even

[2:55]have a choice in the first place or has it all been

[2:59]figured out for me and to what extent well when we read

[3:07]the quran we come across a number of verses which describe to

[3:13]us the role that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala plays in our life

[3:16]in terms of both creation and guidance in chapter number 20 verse

[3:24]50 we read and this was a response from the part from

[3:39]the prophet musa alaihissalam to pharaoh for in the verse before verse

[3:46]49 asks the question and some commentators say that here faraon was

[3:58]asking a legitimate question he had a theological a real theological inquiry

[4:04]he was trying to figure out who god was and what god

[4:09]represented and how god operated maybe he was trying to size himself

[4:17]up because faraon in another part of the story says to his

[4:22]people so when he comes face to face with musa and he

[4:29]starts to see some of the signs he is according to some

[4:34]commentators genuinely inquisitive so one of his questions is who is your

[4:46]lord and commentators say that here he is asking the question of

[4:50]kefir howness so how does god operate in another verse he asks

[5:00]a similar question and this is chapter number 26 verse 23 and

[5:08]fraunh asked what essentially is this lord of the universe of the

[5:14]worlds that you are describing so both what and how the response

[5:25]from musa is that the lord we worship is the one that

[5:37]created everything or in in a more literal translation gave everything its

[5:46]creation and then he guided it so there's two parts to the

[5:52]equation one is creation and what is guidance not that you've been

[5:58]created and then you've been forgotten about you've been forsaken allah subhanahu

[6:05]wa ta'ala reminds our prophet muhammad peace be upon him in the

[6:09]quran he says that your lord who created you and guided you

[6:21]and sent you he did not forsake you meaning he did not

[6:26]abandon you he did not forget about you so the role of

[6:31]god in your life is twofold one is creation and the second

[6:34]is guidance continuous guidance perpetual guidance there's a theological school of thought

[6:45]called deism and deists believe that god is the creator he's omniscient

[6:54]he's omnipotent meaning he uh is is able to to create everything

[7:00]and and has mastery over everything in the universe but god does

[7:04]not intervene god does not interfere he has just created it just

[7:10]like how an architect or a contractor his role is to build

[7:17]the building but then his his job isn't to maintain he's not

[7:21]a maintenance person he's only a construction person so deists believe that

[7:27]god is like the construction person and does not intervene if something

[7:32]goes wrong you're on your own there's another category known as miso

[7:39]theists and miso theists are people who believe that a god exists

[7:43]however they they have hatred towards god and they despise god and

[7:50]they do not welcome the interference or god interfering intervening in the

[7:56]world so the reply of musa was that god has created everything

[8:05]and he continues to guide he continues to sustain meaning that his

[8:09]presence in the world today and in every moment is continuously relevant

[8:14]and this is an important theological question because even within the shiri

[8:22]community you will find that after the event of ashura many years

[8:25]later people began to ask the question that with what took place

[8:31]where was god in all of this where was god in this

[8:33]in this picture how could god allow for something like this to

[8:38]happen and a sheikh sadhuk in his book gives a reply to

[8:47]this and he delineates between the will of god and the desire

[8:51]of god there's a difference he says he says that in order

[8:55]for for things to happen in this universe it has to be

[9:02]by the will meshiah when we say masha allah when we observe

[9:05]something majestic and we say masha allah what essentially we are saying

[9:10]is that this majestic thing could not happen without god's will however

[9:15]he says there is a difference between god's will and god's desire

[9:19]there are certain things that god desires to happen that either do

[9:25]happen or do not happen for instance allah tells us in the

[9:29]quran that god loves the penitent those who repent those who turn

[9:40]to him and he loves those who purify themselves now does that

[9:44]mean that everybody is going to turn to him in toba in

[9:50]repentance absolutely not many people live their lives without heed carelessly does

[9:57]that mean that everybody is going to purify themselves and seek purification

[10:02]not at all so those people who committed that heinous act on

[10:09]the day of ashura they could not have performed it without god's

[10:15]will because everything happens with god's will however it does not mean

[10:21]that it happened according to god's desire and so god can hold

[10:26]them accountable why because they were not robots simply said as human

[10:30]beings we are not robots we are given a certain amount of

[10:36]free choice now exactly how much free choice we have that's the

[10:43]million dollar question this is the question that people spend their entire

[10:48]lives trying to figure out is in my path in my current

[10:55]path in my current trajectory how much of it is a product

[10:58]of my own free will and my own choice and how much

[11:03]of it has been predete predestined and so tonight i'd like to

[11:09]talk a little bit about the concept of purpose having purpose in

[11:14]life specifically as an inter-gender value what does that mean you know

[11:19]we always dedicate a few nights in muharram to speak about inter-gender

[11:25]issues and marriage it's because this is a topic that our muslim

[11:31]community needs continuous guidance on if you look at what took place

[11:37]10 years ago in the middle east what they refer to as

[11:41]the arab spring or the arab uprising and you study the causes

[11:48]of why people began to rebel especially in those first countries not

[11:52]the waves that happened later in the politics that got involved but

[11:58]those first countries in north africa tunisia egypt you find that the

[12:02]very same people who stood up initially in protest were from what

[12:08]segment of society were they the wealthy people in society they were

[12:12]not the wealthiest people they were the people who could not afford

[12:17]to get married and sustain a family because if you study the

[12:22]unemployment rates during that time and who knows if today anything has

[12:29]changed after 10 years it's mind-boggling and so it's it's one of

[12:36]our basic human imperatives to establish a family for ourselves to get

[12:45]married to find joy to find purpose the quran says the believers

[13:01]are those who make the following dua they make the following supplication

[13:06]that oh allah grant from us from our spouses and our offspring

[13:14]in the arabic language this phrase is said on something to be

[13:21]proud of that make us proud and allow us to be leaders

[13:28]role models examples for the pious there's a phrase we use in

[13:39]arabic in in in logic and in philosophy it's called salibin which

[13:44]means that if the thing if if if the thing in itself

[13:48]does not exist then it's irrelevant to address it in the first

[13:56]place so to be proud of our family of our spouses of

[14:02]our children means that we need spouses and children in the first

[14:06]place is it not so we address this topic because it's a

[14:09]topic of concern in the muslim community i can tell you that

[14:16]in my in my own dealings with muslim youth across the united

[14:19]states across different youth groups and different masajid one of the biggest

[14:25]topics of concern especially for young men that i speak to is

[14:28]how do i get married how do i figure out my life

[14:31]what do i have to do in order to secure a wife

[14:35]i want to move forward in my life i want to be

[14:39]happy i want to establish family i want to see children so

[14:41]tonight i'd like to take a few minutes to talk about that

[14:45]the concept of purpose as an intergender value and tonight we also

[14:54]commemorate the memory of abulf and when you talk about purpose embodied

[15:04]purpose when we read the ziyarah we say ash we say that

[15:15]i bear witness that you walked in the footsteps you tread in

[15:20]the footsteps of the people of badr there are similarities between the

[15:24]battle of bedroom and the battle of karbala part of and then

[15:29]fast forward part of that ziara is that what you did was

[15:38]upon basira what is the difference between basar and is our eyesight

[15:43]right yesterday we said that some some people experience cortical blindness where

[15:49]they cannot see what is in front of them the eye works

[15:51]but the eyesight does not work so basar refers to the physical

[15:59]eyesight basira refers to vision the eyesight if you will of the

[16:05]heart so we say to abulf obviously he could see physically but

[16:12]also he was able to see with his heart meaning that he

[16:17]was a man of vision and he knew his purpose from day

[16:22]one towards the end we'll mention a little bit of that so

[16:25]that so when it comes to understanding purpose and how to gain

[16:35]purpose and the relevance of purpose i'll start by saying the following

[16:39]that you know when we study intergender values and inter-gender behaviors we

[16:47]cannot ignore the role that evolutionary psychology has or the value that

[16:55]evolutionary psychology has added to our understanding of human behavior what does

[16:58]that mean what is evolutionary psychology so evolutionary psychology is a biologically

[17:04]informed approach to the study of behavior which means that when we

[17:09]when we study human behavior over the past few centuries few hundred

[17:15]years few thousand years and we use that information to inform our

[17:21]understanding of human behavior this is evolutionary psychology so how have human

[17:26]beings evolved over the past few hundred years or few thousand years

[17:30]what has been the role of men primarily in society over time

[17:36]what has been the role of woman primarily in society over time

[17:40]and today we're living in a very interesting time because if you

[17:46]if you study gender roles just over the past 50 to 60

[17:52]years there has been more changes probably in the thousand years that

[17:59]preceded that we're seeing a lot of changes today with all the

[18:02]isms that exist today and with all the confusion that exists today

[18:08]many of our muslim youth now ask the question that what is

[18:11]the role of the man in the household what is the role

[18:14]of the woman in the household how do we how do we

[18:18]figure our way around these issues who is the leader in the

[18:21]household do we believe in equality and what does equality really mean

[18:26]do we believe in egalitarianism whose responsibility is it to lead the

[18:29]household who's whose responsibility is it to nurture the household so these

[18:37]are all important questions so it's safe to say and part of

[18:43]this talk that i'm giving is directed towards the gentleman in the

[18:47]crowd not to leave out women but i've found from my own

[18:53]experience that most of the time when i'm you know mentoring young

[18:55]people it happens to be mostly men that if you're trying to

[18:59]figure out your purpose specifically for the sake of marriage that you

[19:05]need to understand number one that if you're going to find an

[19:08]intelligent woman and hopefully the woman agree with this but if you

[19:13]are going to find an intelligent woman that intelligent woman scrutinize how

[19:17]men move through the world so when you move through the world

[19:23]when you navigate through the world do you do so with a

[19:26]sense of purpose and guidance or are you random what happens to

[19:31]a missile when it is not guided a missile that is not

[19:37]guided it's got a lot of potential it's got all this fuel

[19:38]but what happens when it's unguided it becomes very destructive versus a

[19:45]missile that is guided with precision it strikes its target you know

[19:50]i don't know if anybody is fascinated with with rockets and astrophysics

[19:54]as much as i am but i try to watch as many

[19:59]rocket launches as they are available and broadcasted and how the technology

[20:05]is uh rapidly advancing day after day they're able to tell exactly

[20:09]when the rocket needs to be launched at what speed at what

[20:13]velocity in order to match gravity and in order to you know

[20:16]they they have all these calculations once it passes low earth orbit

[20:21]and it goes into space and the velocity out there and what

[20:23]kind of trajectory it takes in order to reach the international space

[20:28]station or in order for it to go around and slingshot around

[20:31]the earth and move towards mars for instance or any one of

[20:35]the other planets this is purpose this is precision this is the

[20:41]power of guidance so how we move throughout the world as human

[20:44]beings is observed by those that are around us and to add

[20:54]to the importance of having purpose i want to share with you

[20:57]a study there was a study that was done in 1989 and

[21:00]this study took place across 37 cultures around the world and they

[21:05]asked women in these 37 cultures they said what is it that

[21:10]you value the most in men they said the following they said

[21:14]they valued earning capacity ambition and industriousness earning capacity the ability to

[21:24]earn to to bring home the bread ambition being an ambitious person

[21:30]is someone ambitious or they're they're lazy or and industriousness so what

[21:36]is industriousness industriousness is diligence and hard work they valued earning capacity

[21:43]ambition and industrious in men far more than men cared about these

[21:46]traits in women so they also asked men what is it what

[21:50]kind of traits do you care about in women none of them

[21:52]really said earning capacity because if you look around the world men

[21:57]women aren't really required to share their pot of gold with men

[22:01]correct i mean even from even from an islamic point of view

[22:03]it is the man's responsibility to provide for the family financially and

[22:10]this is why the verse says that god has made men the

[22:24]maintainers of woman because of for this reason because he has given

[22:28]them the responsibility of earning they must earn and they must bring

[22:32]home in a narration when we know that when the prophet peace

[22:39]be upon him married imam ali salam to lady fatima not only

[22:46]did he marry them he gave them admonishment he said and he

[22:51]pointed to the door he said whatever is from the door outwards

[22:55]is your responsibility o fatima whatever is from the door inwards is

[23:02]your responsibility and so lady fatima alayhi salaam she turned to imam

[23:08]she said she said god bless you for going out and taking

[23:13]care of that work so that i as a woman does not

[23:16]do not need to go and mix among the men this was

[23:21]this was the understanding this was the role that the prophet peace

[23:25]be upon him assigned now does that does that mean that a

[23:27]woman cannot work outside the house absolutely not does that mean that

[23:32]a man cannot share with the responsibilities inside the house absolutely not

[23:37]but if you study again evolutionary psychology for thousands of years this

[23:41]was the role of men they were the hunters and gatherers while

[23:46]women were the maintainers and so that natural appreciation for a man's

[23:51]earning capacity and his ambition and his industriousness is still found today

[23:57]among cultures around the world they said that there was only one

[24:01]there was only one exception to that rule they studied the zulu

[24:07]tribe in south africa and they found that in the zulu tribe

[24:09]in south africa men appreciated a woman's earning capacity only because in

[24:15]those societies the men leave their villages and go out to the

[24:19]city in order to work so it's not that the man is

[24:22]sitting at home playing xbox playing fantasy football and he expects his

[24:26]wife to go fetch the water and to go uh you know

[24:30]tend to the cattle and whatnot it's because the man has a

[24:34]different responsibility no offense to fantasy football i i see some eyes

[24:39]go up now so that all lends to a man's sense of

[24:43]purpose having a purpose in life having ambition having industriousness so it's

[24:50]important for men to have a sense of purpose and it's important

[24:54]for us to teach our younger generation a sense of purpose why

[24:57]what other benefits does it have in our life there was another

[25:03]study done in 2016 and it showed that for couples married between

[25:09]the years 1968 and this is in the united states 1968 and

[25:15]2013 in couples in which the husband was working full-time there was

[25:20]a 21 lower chance of divorce than couples in which he was

[25:25]unemployed or working part-time so the fact that he was out and

[25:28]about he was going into the world and he was making things

[25:31]happen even if it was part-time affected the survival rate of the

[25:36]marriage because it shows when you have a sense of purpose and

[25:40]industriousness that you are willing to work you are willing to build

[25:43]you're willing to create something rather than not having a sense of

[25:49]purpose so having a sense of purpose from this point of view

[25:55]has many benefits if we want to begin to attract the right

[26:00]people into our life so what does it mean to have a

[26:04]sense of purpose this is just one example you know this could

[26:08]be this could be a really daunting concept for most people so

[26:13]we'll break it up into three specific areas that we'll look at

[26:15]how do we how do we put purpose into bite size bits

[26:20]so number one one of the attributes that is associated or one

[26:25]of the concepts that is associated with purpose or having purpose in

[26:30]life is status now what is status by status i don't mean

[26:35]stature or prestige or seeing yourself above people you know they say

[26:44]status as prestige is an acronym do you know what it stands

[26:46]for status stands for still to arrogant to understand success so when

[26:53]a person has status he's determined by his labels you go to

[26:58]the office and it says mr [Music] john doe and then 10

[27:04]labels after the person's name and this is how they define their

[27:09]life i'm not saying that you cannot you know go go get

[27:12]the degrees go rack on the certificates accomplish but sometimes it gets

[27:16]to our head that that that you know people owe me something

[27:20]because of my title i'm not talking about this type of status

[27:24]the type of status that i'm talking about that's related to our

[27:31]purpose refers to us in the context of knowing our social rank

[27:36]knowing our place in society what's your place in society what's your

[27:42]role in in society are you are you there just to serve

[27:49]yourself or are you there to serve the community around you there's

[27:53]a saying in arabic it says that may god bless the man

[28:01]or the woman but may god bless the man that knows his

[28:06]worth he knows his place in society he knows he understands that

[28:10]the shoes and the role that he has to fill so you

[28:17]know men can part of part of understanding status you know and

[28:20]understanding our place in the in the pecking order is how we

[28:25]interact with one another in terms of our social skills you know

[28:31]there's a joke that you know men don't really know how to

[28:35]get along and they have this competitive nature and this competitive spirit

[28:40]and they try to outdo one another all the time and if

[28:44]you doubt it all you have to do is get a group

[28:48]of kids young men and and challenge them to something challenge them

[28:52]to a push-up contest and see how competitive they become with one

[28:55]another competition competition's not necessarily a bad thing because within competition there's

[29:01]also cooperation and camaraderie around the world and especially here in the

[29:06]united states they spend billions of dollars celebrating competition when we watch

[29:11]the nfl and the nhl and the mba we appreciate watching people

[29:17]compete with one another because within competition there is cooperation and camaraderie

[29:21]you see sometimes some athletes that they're very very talented especially in

[29:26]the beginning of their career i won't mention names but some of

[29:31]them they're very talented when they come straight out of high school

[29:34]or straight out of college and they get a get a spot

[29:39]on the on the mba or or you know a basketball team

[29:41]and they don't the guy doesn't know how to pass the ball

[29:45]he doesn't know how to he doesn't know how to work with

[29:51]others and they never win like that and then after a few

[29:54]seasons of playing they learned that i have to pass the ball

[29:56]the game is not about me as good as i am as

[29:59]an individual it's not about me so learning cooperation learning camaraderie while

[30:07]maintaining our competitive spirits this is one part of purpose and we

[30:14]mentioned yesterday the role that social intelligence plays in this when we

[30:20]study the example of the life of the bait and specifically what

[30:31]took place on the day of ashura imam hussain alaihissalam was a

[30:39]person who would defend his values and would defend his family this

[30:46]is part of the social screening when it comes to screening for

[30:51]status is asking the question is is this person confident or withdrawn

[30:55]are they com are they capable or bumbling will they defend their

[30:58]values will they defend their family this is all part of the

[31:01]subconscious screening that takes place in the minds of women when they

[31:07]are looking at a man who has a sense of purpose will

[31:10]they defend themselves will they defend that which is sacred to them

[31:15]imam hussain alaihi salam and we read this in the maktal that

[31:23]he had the chance to bring water to drink water himself part

[31:31]of the epic on that day is that imam hussain breaks through

[31:34]the ranks of the soldiers and finally he gets a chance to

[31:39]drink some water after seven days after a week of intense thirst

[31:43]but then what happens at that moment the army of um they

[31:48]knew exactly what his weak spot was they went towards the tents

[31:54]they went towards the womenfolk and when imam hussain alayhi salaam saw

[31:57]at that moment that his woman folk were about to be harassed

[32:02]he let go of the water and he went back to defend

[32:07]his family imagine imagine what it's like in ramadan we taste maybe

[32:13]just a few hours of thirst imagine seven days of thirst and

[32:19]finally having the tra finally having the chance to take a sip

[32:23]of water but then your family is being violated your woman folk

[32:30]are about to be violated he gave it all up in order

[32:35]to go back and protect so so this is this is part

[32:41]of purpose this is one part of purpose status the second is

[32:47]responsibility when people take responsibility you know when we show up in

[32:53]a social setting are we just the participants or do we take

[32:57]responsibility do we pitch in and responsibility has many benefits for us

[33:04]it says that there are a number of studies that say the

[33:10]following there was one study done in 2010 and it shows that

[33:16]when it showed that when men took on heavy responsibility that three

[33:20]quarters of them make positive changes to their health and behaviors whether

[33:25]that responsibility stems from fatherhood career or any other important values-driven cause

[33:32]because when you have a world to be responsible to or accountable

[33:36]to people to be responsible for you realize that your life has

[33:44]more value and so they found that three-fourths of those men started

[33:47]to make better choices when it came to food when it came

[33:54]to exercise when it came to not engaging in risky behavior so

[34:00]when we take on responsibility it pushes us to become better versions

[34:07]of ourselves and no man should ever have to apologize for taking

[34:14]responsibility for anything we must accept responsibility whenever it is entrusted to

[34:21]us the more we are entrusted with the more we are given

[34:28]when he was out there in the battlefield there were words of

[34:36]poetry which are ascribed to him and one verse says that i

[34:46]do not fear death if death was to surface if death was

[34:52]to show itself to me i take on this responsibility and he

[34:57]echoed the words of his father al-imam amir al-mu'min in salawat he

[35:14]speaks to his nephs to his soul he says o nephs do

[35:20]not fear death if death comes your way you are only carrying

[35:26]out your responsibility so number one in terms of purpose and status

[35:30]number two is responsibility and number three is effectiveness what does it

[35:35]mean to be effective see there's a difference between being effective and

[35:42]being efficient efficiency high efficiency comes from good management but high effectiveness

[35:48]comes from good leadership there's a difference between management and leadership effectiveness

[35:54]is when you try to get things done and if you can

[36:02]imagine a factory line you want to make sure that that factory

[36:04]line is efficient that you're producing your quota but what happens when

[36:09]accuracy is compromised by speed this means that we are not being

[36:16]effective we can be efficient but we're not necessarily being effective and

[36:21]what it means to be effective for us as human beings is

[36:27]to be in a constant state of development and growth so many

[36:34]people they have what is referred to as arrival syndrome what is

[36:40]arrival syndrome is you set a goal for yourself that i'm going

[36:43]to make this much money i'm going to accomplish this i'm going

[36:47]to accomplish that and then finally you get to it and you

[36:51]realize that this isn't really a big deal and people get bored

[36:53]you know they say they say the the number one uh one

[36:57]one of the top killers of people is when people retire and

[37:01]they don't have a sense of purpose anymore there there's nothing that

[37:04]they're striving towards anymore there's no goal there's there's nothing going on

[37:10]there because the mind unless it is constantly fed becomes stagnant minds

[37:16]which are constantly fed they grow stronger year after year i've witnessed

[37:23]people in their 80s in their 90s and even beyond that with

[37:28]the sharpest of minds because they believe in a continuous process of

[37:34]growth they believe in a continuous process of improvement and unfortunately many

[37:39]people they stop improving their lives after a certain age you got

[37:44]the bachelor's degree you got the master's degree you secured the job

[37:47]and then you never pick up another book and read again or

[37:53]an article this is the story for most people and you cannot

[37:56]be effective unless you are consistently growing yourself you have to grow

[38:01]yourself either through reading either through service through some sort of purpose

[38:09]the quran reminds us that o man your purpose is to be

[38:19]in a constant state of toiling you have to be working before

[38:26]you meet your lord and when we work to improve ourselves when

[38:34]we work to perfect ourselves when we work to become effective and

[38:38]we pass on from this world to the next world that is

[38:42]when we hear the words because if the soul and the spirit

[38:51]is not pushed to its edge then there is really no satisfaction

[38:57]and contentment it's like driving a car you know they say um

[39:01]especially now with these electric cars the generation of electric cars that

[39:06]are coming out i think it's the is it the tesla roadster

[39:11]that does 0 to 60 in 1.9 seconds something like this right

[39:15]which people are waiting for it coming out you you can never

[39:21]really appreciate it unless you put the pedal to the metal you

[39:24]can read about the stats this is the engine displacement this is

[39:27]how much it weighs but you won't really get that sense of

[39:31]satisfaction from that vehicle unless you push it to its limit the

[39:37]human soul is the same way we have to push the human

[39:39]soul to its limit we cannot be stagnant this is how people

[39:43]die this is how people find themselves at the end of their

[39:48]life with regrets so when they don't really work on themselves when

[39:52]they don't push themselves and obviously each and every one of us

[39:56]has a different journey your journey may not be the same as

[39:59]everyone else and today there's a lot of riff raff especially on

[40:01]social media and a lot of young people see this that this

[40:04]entrepreneur is doing this and this entrepreneur is doing that you don't

[40:06]have to copy everyone out there you can chart your own path

[40:10]you can chart your own course but figure out what your purpose

[40:13]is in life if you want true falafe if you want true

[40:20]success and contentment you have to figure out what your purpose is

[40:24]in life and this is why you find that the salaam during

[40:32]the last moments of their life never did we hear a word

[40:37]or a phrase of regret or remorse in fact there was a

[40:45]sense of anticipation there was a sense of jubilation and excitement when

[40:52]it came to returning to their lord and here i want to

[41:01]take a few minutes to talk about the master that we commemorate

[41:04]tonight abil father may peace be upon him the one who knew

[41:14]his purpose he knew the purpose of his existence because it was

[41:21]relayed to him it was explained to him that when lady fatima

[41:26]alaihissalam passed away that amir al-mu'min sought to find a partner who

[41:35]would produce for him children that would serve a particular cause and

[41:40]that is the support of the sons of lady fatima and so

[41:47]he turned to his brother aphil who was an expert in genealogy

[41:52]he knew the families he knew the tribes he knew which family

[41:56]was what the inherent qualities that they had so they can they

[42:00]can pass down some of these qualities and so he picked specifically

[42:05]on the command of his brother a woman who came from a

[42:12]family known for their bravery and their courage and so he found

[42:16]for him omul benin whose name was also fatima but he did

[42:22]not refer to her by the name fatima because it would bring

[42:26]back the memories of lady fatima the daughter of the prophet peace

[42:29]be upon him and so soon after he granted her the name

[42:32]umul benim the mother of the boys which boys the boys that

[42:38]would stand by on the day of karbala to protect his own

[42:41]sons was produced from that union the standard bearer the wise man

[42:52]that on the day of ashura witnessed the family one after another

[42:59]the companions one after another his own brothers before him one after

[43:03]another go out into the battlefield to fight against the enemy and

[43:09]al-abbas did not dive straight into the battlefield he was not a

[43:16]man of he was not a reckless person he was not a

[43:20]man that was driven by anger that you had you had vision

[43:28]and you had wisdom when it came to your mission so the

[43:31]first time he went out into the battlefield it was to address

[43:34]the enemy to request from them some water so he turned to

[43:41]them he requested from them some water from the army of um

[43:44]they said no you will not taste water he said then let

[43:48]us go do not trap us here like animals let us go

[43:51]abdur-razzaq al-mukarram let us go we will go to rome we will

[44:00]go to india just let us go one of them replied to

[44:08]him and said that if the entire world was made out of

[44:10]water and it was under our control you would not receive one

[44:13]drop from us go wherever you want and this is where abu

[44:19]father turned to imam hussain allow me to go out into the

[44:26]battlefield allow me to face these hypocrites in battle to show them

[44:30]what i can do to show them what would happen to them

[44:35]imam hussain turned to abil abbas he said my dear brother and

[44:40]you are my standard bearer he says the fact that you stand

[44:48]there with the flag it brings a sense of security to the

[44:52]woman it lets the enemy know that we have protection that we

[44:55]have a solid backbone if i was to let you go out

[44:59]and the the flag would fall who would hold up the flag

[45:02]after you but alas the children were thirsty i i cannot stand

[45:10]to hear the thirst the children crying out that we are thirsty

[45:13]we are thirsty please give me permission and with that with a

[45:19]very heavy heart imam hussain allowed his brother to go out into

[45:23]the battlefield narrators say that when abu fadl abbas went out into

[45:28]the battlefield nobody had the strength and the courage to come to

[45:30]him face to face and so he began to break through the

[45:34]ranks of the soldiers thousands of them until finally he reached the

[45:42]riverbank and he dismounted his horse and he sat there he came

[45:45]close to the water and he placed his hands into the water

[45:48]he felt the coolness imagine after seven days he feels the coolness

[45:54]of the water hussain he remembered the thirst of his brother says

[46:08]he says the heart of my uncle al-abbas was like a burning

[46:13]piece of charcoal at that moment he remembered his brother so he

[46:17]took some of the water he placed it into the water skin

[46:20]the canteen he tied it and he mounted his horse with the

[46:24]mission of going back to the camp of imam hussain to bring

[46:29]some water for him and for the children at that moment um

[46:32]turned to the soldiers he said to them do you know what

[46:38]will happen if the camp of hussein drink this water and they

[46:40]regain their strength stop him from going out at that moment as

[46:47]abu fateh turned back to the camp of imam hussain two of

[46:51]the enemy soldiers were hiding behind the palm trees one came out

[46:55]from surprise and struck him on his right arm cutting off his

[47:00]right arm at that moment he held the canteen in his left

[47:07]hand he began to recite to allah [Music] that if you cut

[47:19]off my right arm i will continue to defend the cause of

[47:23]the prophet as he began to inch closer to the camp of

[47:26]imam hussain another one came out from behind a palm tree and

[47:28]struck him on his left arm severing it at that moment he

[47:35]grabbed the canteen with his teeth and he began to charge on

[47:40]foot towards the camp of imam hussain that is when the arrows

[47:43]began to rain down upon him one striking him in his chest

[47:50]another one striking him in his eye ability fell down but he

[47:53]was still determined to deliver the water to the camp he began

[47:56]to inch towards it he began to inch towards the canteen finally

[48:01]he saw an arrow fall into the canteen the water began to

[48:05]disperse at that moment he realized all hope was lost and he

[48:11]stayed in his place at that moment the enemy soldiers they surrounded

[48:14]him from every direction one of them struck him on his head

[48:17]with a pole striking his down striking him down and at that

[48:23]moment he called out to his brother abdullah come to the rescue

[48:26]of your brother imam hussain ran out into the battlefield as he

[48:32]ran the enemy soldiers began to disperse he started to say to

[48:38]them where are you going now that you have broken my back

[48:48]where are you going now that you have killed my brother alas

[48:51]imam hussain arrives he finds him with an arrow in his eye

[48:56]one in his chest he is bleeding out these are the final

[49:02]moments he places the the head of al-abbas on his lap in

[49:06]order to nurture him in order to take care of him al-abbas

[49:09]removes his head from the lab places it on the ground he

[49:11]does it again al-abbas removes his head after a third time he

[49:16]says to him my dear brother it is me hussain i am

[49:21]here to take care of you i am here to nurse your

[49:25]wounds he said to him the reply was you are taking care

[49:29]of me right now and you are being generous to me and

[49:33]you are tending to my wounds but who will tend to your

[49:35]wounds in a few moments when you are left alone he had

[49:39]no energy to go back there was there was no life in

[49:43]him left to go back imam hussain was pleading with him my

[49:46]dear brother abu father please let me let me help you and

[49:49]let me take you back to the camp said no i cannot

[49:54]go back to the camp i cannot go back empty-handed my nieces

[49:59]my nephews the children i have promised them that i would bring

[50:01]them back water and i cannot go back to them empty-handed imam

[50:05]hussain alaihissalam was seen going back to the camp alone he was

[50:13]complaining of what had taken place to him my brother now my

[50:24]back has indeed broken now my enemies are rejoicing at my misfortune

[50:33][Music] bismillah brothers and sisters these are the nights that we remember

[51:00]those who are in misfortune there are places around the world where

[51:04]people are suffering especially tonight and in these days we remember the

[51:09]people our brothers and sisters in afghanistan truly the news that is

[51:13]coming out there is gut wrenching it is tearing our hearts it

[51:16]is very tragic and unfortunate what is taking place there the only

[51:19]weapon that we have as believers is our dua this is the

[51:24]this is the greatest weapon that that we have not the only

[51:26]but the greatest weapon that we have so let us remember them

[51:30]in our duas during these nights we ask allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

[51:34]to remove the distress from them to come to the rescue to

[51:39]protect them to protect every single one of them insha allah says

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